In a recent edition of Moments girl talk, media personality Toke Makinwa, her co-hosts Bolanle and Tallula and guests, singers Toni Tones and Peeshuan, deliberated on a very interesting topic, Why Men Cheat. During the discussion, Toke said in her opinion, she feels that all men cheat and that in Africa, cheating is celebrated instead of it to be rebuked.
The media personality who got separated from her estranged husband, Maje Ayida, after he got his side chic, Anita Solomon pregnant in 2015, said men who are not even cheating have been pressured to have flings outside their committed relationships.
Speaking further, Toke opined that women are the cause of cheating because you find mothers who know that their sons have five girlfriends welcoming all of them without cautioning them.
“Some women are the problem. Your son has four, five girlfriends. You know them, you smile in their faces.We live in a society and the culture that we have unfortunately believes that cheating is….you can’t sue a man for cheating in this country.
“If the man is selling and we are not buying, he would stop. We, women, are the problem. You find a man cheat on his wife cheat on his wife and you find reasons to make excuses for why he cheated. Maybe she wasn’t sleeping with him, Maybe she wasn’t unhappy, maybe she is a witch. I have had that been said to me. I have been cheated on publicly and I never saw women come out to say you know what, what this man did was wrong. You find them say is she the only one? What’s the big deal? Guess what, your child would go through it”
She also stated that cheating would be reduced if women shame their friends who date married men.
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*Hmmmmmm......i hope if she really said this that she has shamed any friend she has dating a married man..charity begins at home...
i concur, there is no smoke without fire.
ReplyDeleteI totally agree with her,It would sure go a long way.
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ReplyDeleteToke Baibay! You never sabi say some women no get shame. This might not won't work o! But of course wil go a long way.
Good job for trying!
Errrrr how far with ur circle Sweetie?
They all good yea?
But didn't maje mother gave her hint upon hints didn't she continue with the relationship? Abeg make she pack well
DeleteAnd this comment is coming from a Saint? Saint Toke that has nevet dated a married man? The same overdabi that couldnt hold her ex- husband down. #Hypocrite
DeleteOnly If she had never dated a. Married man before.
ReplyDeletePow!
DeleteWho is shaming you toke, be careful don't put words in our mouth o. Oshisco
ReplyDeleteToke Toke Toke... We have heard. Charity begins at home. Kettle...
ReplyDeleteGbam!
Delete1. Tokstarr, not all men cheat. Because majority does, doesn't mean you should conclude that all do. Stop generalizing.
ReplyDelete2."men who are not even cheating have been pressured to have flings outside their committed relationships."
I agree. Some godly men rebuke and rebuff such temptation, other weaker men fall for it.
3. "Your son has four, five girlfriends. You know them, you smile in their face"
Yes naau, it's the dating/sampling stage. That is why the girls should be wise enough not to give the cookie way too soon. BUT! A mother who condones her son having other women when her son has engaged a particular last is a bad mother.
4 Women shaming their friends dating married men? I agree to an extent but in truth nobody holy pass.
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Delete@bloggie please leave Toke joor. She obviously smoked soemthing this week. Should we list? Her friend Freda nko? That we like her better now doesnt mean she should smoke-screen us
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DeleteLmaooo Chiki,
DeleteTokstarr didn't think this one through before voicing out obviously.
Very obvious her emotions are still all over the place.
Maje see what you've caused now???😈
She didn't think it through at alllll. Toke and I were in Unilag same time. Make I no even talk for here abeg. Some of us no get amnesia oh
DeleteI should start by shaming the man.
ReplyDeleteThis Toks self she is just everywhere
*Coughs* Rights words from the WRONG person.
ReplyDeleteLet he who is without sin cast the first stone.
Leave d messenger and focus on the message. Sister judgina!
DeleteHmmm. I think she's right to an extent.
ReplyDeleteKnew of a girl who once went to fight her sister's hubby's side Chic.
Says the chic was insulting her sis(the wife).
And even insulted her in-law (the hubby) of not respecting his wife.
You know the funny thing is that, she herself dated and was dating a married man.
So you see all these girls shouting "face your husband"!, they can't even take half of what most wives are tolerating if table were to be turned.
Do unto others what you'll want others do to you.
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DeleteWetin Maje give this girl chop? Honey, polygamy is legal in Nigeria. You may want to start by changing the law. Women openly shaming each other is not the answer. I actually know a guy who married a side chic because she was openly shamed and humiliated. Pick and choose your battles wisely.
ReplyDeleteIts not about legality my dear. Its about vows. If u do only trad pls go ahead and marry many wives but once you marry in church ESP catholic church you shall take no other till death do u part. Not to mention the understanding you and your wife have before entering. If u wanted to marry two wives marry them at once or with consent of ur spouse. Not chasing girls outside and coming home to beg. Do like oyimbo if you a are tired pack and leave d house u are free to remarry. No this click and bulk story up and down.
DeleteShe doesn't know what she's talking about. How many friends will agree they are dating married men? Again when a determined friend of yours sets her paws on a married man no amount of shaming will talk her out of it. There are other ways to do that.
ReplyDeleteBtw its obvious with her 'on becoming' book she has still not moved on and very pained. The way she sounds if maje wants her back she'd readily go back into the 'cheating' man's arms.
If you shame a friend who is dating a married man, people especially women will say you are jealous, you should mind your business etc.
ReplyDeleteThe most important thing here is personal discipline.
How do you really shame a friend who is dating a married man, when that same friend will get married early to a rich husband who will pamper and may not even cheat on her, give birth early to healthy children in short everything in her life will be going smoothly while the good girl is broke, jobless, single and sometimes married to a cheat, a wife batterer etc.
Its really not easy being a good girl.
My dear trust me on this, "it pays to be a good girl", hand everything over to God and watch Him do His magic.That bad girl may marry a rich dude, look deep, she isn't happy. Adesua Etomi is a living example of a good girl, marrying a good and wealthy guy.
DeletePeople will just be saying what they don't know... who told you Adesua is a good girl? She's told the world the good side of her life; church and all. Don't say what you don't know abeg. It's good to be good but abeg
DeleteBanky is a good guy? Lol,ok.
DeleteIf she hasn't dated a married man before.
ReplyDeleteI agree 100%. I just made a similar comment on the last post. Women, learn to say No. Stop giving credit to some foolish girls. You are a woman too.
ReplyDeleteIf you can't hold your dog, don't blame the side chicks because they are always on their own when your dogs comes to them. If a man cheat, shame the man and not the side chick. And women please learn to say no to all these married men because one day you will be the wife and side chicks will still be there to bring karma to you.
ReplyDeleteRemember what the always say "all men cheat", they are ready for it.
DeletePolygamy is legal in Nigeria and tomorrow you will carry people and go to church. Men that can't feed their family will say polygamy is legal. There is a big difference BTW having 10 sidechicks and marrying 10 wives.
ReplyDelete...BUT I hope she never dated any married man too o. make he no be say na now when the thing reach her side she know say e nor good.
ReplyDeleteOkay oooo! Chike stop fucking Paul! Sighted you guys at Vegas!
DeleteIf you can't hold your dog, don't blame the side chicks because they are always on their own when your dogs comes to them. If a man cheat, shame the man and not the side chicks. And ladies always say no to these Married men because believe me one day you will become the wife and the side chicks will always be there to bring karma to you. What goes around always comes around. Lastly Toke, all men don't cheat stop generalizing things because of one failed relationship.
ReplyDeleteI totally agree with Toke on all except that all men cheat. Toke, shall we start with you?
ReplyDeleteNot all men cheat. Cheating is a choice .
ReplyDeleteCan Toke swear that she has never dated a married man b4??? People will soon strt opening her nyash here now... Like Stella said Charity Begins At Home
ReplyDeleteHmmmmm,well,I wish my sister can be ashamed for planning to break another womam's home,she is hoping they divorce soon while she is busy calling him her husband... I don't know where she learnt that akunakuna attitude from...
ReplyDeleteChai!
DeleteToke, who has shamed you?
ReplyDeleteThing is, most of us can't endure what these women are enduring that's why when I see a mama ranting, I just support her or keep mute.
Toke toke toke!!!!!how many times did I call you.so u can open your mouth and spew nonsense ,what of all the married men you are following?who bought you the Range Rover you are driving?you better shut up.anyway sipping champagne and waiting for that your flat Yansh to open.
ReplyDeletePlease people should stop making cheating an african thing the white cheat on their wives too.we are in a society where it is believe it's a men's world even if you condemn cheating some men will still cheat.My advice to we ladies is to love yourself,be independent,stop bothering about cheating husband/spouse,Do things that will give you 100% joy because we only need these men to bore babies and take care of some of our responsibilities and if you think you need love,your children should be the love of your life.For those who want sex,dildo is available nationwide or better still get a sweet,young guy that will always clean your ponyor for you.
ReplyDeleteYour comment is epic!!! True talk
DeleteAunty Toke we haff heard you that didn't date a married man shioor.NEEEEEEXT
ReplyDeleteThere shouldn't be any excuse for a man to cheat.
ReplyDeleteMe support Toke on this? My parents wen you bring one babe or guy home dem nor born you well make you bring another person come house. If parents put their feetdown most of dis cheating go reduce? You go see mama wen go say dem nor circumcise their pikin for one woman?
ReplyDeleteMe support Toke on this? My parents wen you bring one babe or guy home dem nor born you well make you bring another person come house. If parents put their feetdown most of dis cheating go reduce? You go see mama wen go say dem nor circumcise their pikin for one woman?
ReplyDeleteMay God bless your folks! 🙏🏽
DeleteYou know some parents esp mother's are in the game too. They wee just be doing you "my wife" upandan meanwhile they have the same title for some other 10 girls or even more.
Is Rotimi Ameachi not a married man?
ReplyDeleteNo woman should knowingly get involved with a married man, it's wrong and it places a curse on their daughters. Now, there are instances where a woman got involved with a married man and did not know this, the man lied and painted himself single, disowned his wife and children, such a woman cannot be blamed, she did not know.
ReplyDeleteToo many men lie about having a wife, or even lie on the wives and paint a very bad picture of them just to get outside sex. I could never tolerate a man who denied me and his children. Wives think single women are the enemy, the man you sleep next to is the real enemy. He is the one denying your existence, telling tales of how wicked you are, how he is tired of you and just waiting for the kids to get older so he can leave you, that is the real enemy. Blaming and hating the outside woman will not make him stop. If you were to die tomorrow he would have a new woman in six months flat, most men will not even give you a year of mourning, that's who you sleep next to at nights. If you get maimed or disfigured, or paralyzed most men will leave you. You have the nerve to go to war with another woman over a man who will replace you in the blink of an eye. The real enemy is the one you sleep next to at night. Love yourself, love God, but don't be dumb enough to make a man the center of your world. Some of you are idolaters in this marriage business, worshipping men as though they are the source of your life, then he cheats and you think single attractive women is the problem. I've never gotten involved with a married man, I've sent them all home to their wives. You married birds should be thanking women like me, of whom there are many, who sent you back your useless husband to go pretend happily ever after with.
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DeleteNot all men cheat, I don't know why some people believe this statement to be a fact. Yes, in your circle, all the married men might be cheating but there are other circles as well. Life cannot be defined by those you roll with.
ReplyDeleteMy younger brother has a girlfriend who we all know. The day he wanted to do the sidechick nonsense, the rest of us put our foot down.
Toke, who will shame you for the one you're gbenshing with Rotimi Amaechi now. Hypocrite!! Make we hear word for you joooor!
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DeleteThis comment is so on point. She thinks she is deceiving the world. We all know who funds your lifestyle and she has the audacity to preach this
DeleteSide chics keep saying that married men chase them, even if you are chased, must you fall? A man toasts you once and you call him shamelessly every day. Pls who is chasing who ? Home breakers!
ReplyDeleteKarma is a bitch
ReplyDeleteToke. It's not my place to judge anyone God knows but all this hypocritical talk while touting Jesus and Christianity turns people away from God.
ReplyDeleteIt is a well known fact that a certain minister is sponsoring your life at the moment and they're no unmarried ministers so what's the comment for?
You closest friends according to social media are all known for sleeping with married men even the one who is holding on to her married name even though her marriage has been over for years to cover her tracks to your other very married and very single sister friends who augment their income by being part time wives and full time mistresses. So why not start with yourself Toke then you close circle of sisters and sister friends?
God bless you for this poster
DeleteToke I will not judge you but you are actively dating married men. It's not in your place to say this. Aren't you dating amaechi and using government funds to fund your designer apparels and 'book tours'. Please take several seats toke and take you log out your eye before advising others.
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