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BETWEEN THE WIFE AND THE SIDE CHICK




Hi Stells.
I was so infuriated by the last chronicle of FRIDAY that I decided to send my story in...this will be a long one. Please hide my email. 


So I'd known him for a very long time(7 years this year) and he's my confidant. I was 16 and inexperienced at the time and he was head over heels, lol, and almost 10years my senior. He had just left school and was awaiting service. Because I happen to be one of those intuitive individuals, I point blank told him I was too young for a relationship. Also, he was the ladies man kind of guy and always had all these girls around him. 



Wetin I know that time kwanu? I'd just finished secondary school and was heading to uni(you know that middle class type that has attended private school her entire life and has to fight her mum to attend a Federal University). We remained friends and he'd always sing about how he would marry me once it's time, lol. His entire family and friends knew about me, but I kept him at arm's length... They still poke fun at him concerning me. 


Over the years, we were in touch on and off, but one thing that didn't change was our confidence in each other.. We still weren't dating, even though he kept trying. He lost his mum in 2013 and left the country around same period... Through this period, we were not in contact. Eventually in 2014,some foreign number called... Voila! Well we caught up on old times and continued with the 'modus operandi' lol. 



Toward the end of my service last year(September), he called to tell me he had just arrived Naija and wanted to see me, but I'd just left our base and couldn't travel back.. We didn't see, he left and returned about two months later, he'd always say, 'baby I hope you're not engaged cos I wouldn't want to waste my time' and I replied NO... I was home and he came visiting.I was returning to my base the following day for a brief visit, and he offered to drive me back-a 2hour trip. I accepted. A two day trip turned into a weekend because his car spoilt. Even though we didn't bang, I won't say he didn't try. 


But we bonded, caught up on happenings and all. He, however failed to mention that he'd come home that September for his introduction. After that trip, we hit it off,and I must say it was the most beautiful experience. Not until February this year when he finally told me he had a girl, and he'd engaged her... Still missed out the introduction part until much later. I was shattered, but asked him to tell me about the girl. From his description, she was good and I asked him what then we were doing. He responded, saying that he still hadn't been able to get me off his mind, and that they'd been having issues. I tried to break off, but he refused to let go. Our history made it even more difficult. 



He said he was trying to break off and asked me to give him time, and I obliged him.He then told me he saw her watching a video of me on SM. When I checked I found out that she'd been stalking me for over a month and had even sent me a request on FB. I asked for his phone and he handed it over... 



So many messages, too many messages to count from her. I felt really bad for her, but I love him and what's more? He loves me right back. You see, even the house he moved into, I made..helped him build a home. We were extremely happy, but I was still troubled. When I went visiting in March, he suggested I get pregnant to end the triangle. What he didn't know was that I already was, but was skeptical to tell him because my mum made same mistake of marrying cos of a bump and it'd been 24years of misery, despite all our affluence. 



Although I told him my period was late, lol. The baby even died. If he wanted to be with me it had to be cos he really did want it, I told him. he told me the other girl was pregnant. WOW. Turns out they had a pillow talk in February. I was furious... He eventually told me he had lied to see my reaction. Guess what? 3days after I left, while chatting I told him I'd seen my period. He was glad and proceeded to tell me that he hadn't lied about the other girl and proceeded to apologize.



 He equally shared chats of her threatening get my life and threatening one of those SM dramas. He apologized about how things turned out, blah blah about how she was in control of most of his money and his hands were tied. So na now you know?The following day, babe landed at his crib and went ahead to make sure I was aware of it on SM lol. My aunt told me to hold him down with my baby(I was four weeks then). I refused, but sha told him about the pregnancy.In my pain, chick refused to let me be o, giving me he'll on all platforms. But I've never been the type to fight like that(upbringing) so I ignored her. 



One day I saw AN FB message of her apologizing and I responded, wishing her well. Girl responded with several abuses and crowned her rant with telling me that just because I ducked her man blah blah, then reminded me that he'd chosen her over me, and that she was ready to fight for him. That conversation told me that she must have planned her pregnancy(she's a midwife, duh) and we're we friends I'd have told her that you don't fight over a man that's yours. I've never felt so much pain in my life, especially cos he was my best friend and what we share is real. He's the only one who knew of my rape. I terminated.. First time in my life, I was inexperienced about men.


 He still refused to stay away after all this. They were married on April 17(he was still with me on his wedding eve. No sex though).it was unbearable. Two days after his wedding, he came right back and broke his vows with me. I was vulnerable and even though I felt bad, I won't deny it felt good(sykes).. Fast forward to May, I was in his town for a seminar. Yes, we met up and hung out together but that was all. Somehow, turns out his wife is still stalking me(he doesn't stop calling, even when I block). In June she sends me a stinker reminding me that she got the ring, lol.


 I was so pained and furious, I prayed a violent prayer. Right now, they're separated and she's staying with her mum in same town I'm in while he's in Lagos. He came home in August and my place was his first point of call, luggage and all. He calls his marriage a mistake and keeps begging me for a second chance, even wants to ship her of to Australia so we can sort things out but God forbid that I be a party to that. His friends keep asking me if I jazzed him. I didn't. She keeps posting(yes me too dey stalk now). I still am head over heels despite all that happened, and he is even more. But once bitten, twice shy. I trusted him completely, still do(crazy, right?). 


She's due in a month or two and I wish her well in all, even though she wishes the woman her husband loves dead. She's 4years my senior and considering that I've never been sexually Immoral, I never thought that my prayer for true love would lead here. This is the story of my life, and poster(previous) you just set yourself up by abusing that girl and marrying him. Goodluck!



for the few years they dated, she knew about me. Now while this matters not to me, It still marvels me how a lady would abuse and fight another lady she's never met, regardless. I can't deal. I blamed him, she blamed me!


PS. It's such a relief finally telling my story.