An older man marrying a younger woman and a younger woman marrying an older man...what is your take on this?
People say age is nothing but a number but we would like to hear from those who married older people.......people old enough to be their ancestors or just old enough for the difference to be noticed.
Does this age difference cause quarrels? Are you reminded all the time of how young or old you are?Can you make Jokes and these spouses laugh over them or say they have been insulted?
As you read this or contribute in the comment section,There are people having double thoughts about how much their lives would change negatively if they say YES...your response might help them make a choice even though everybody's story doesn't end the same.
Just how old is too old?
I have a friend who is married to her ancestor but OMG,the love and understanding between them is outta this world and he is so open to her that you would think marrying an older man should be IT for every woman but someones story might be different from hers.
Is there a difference between marrying an older man and marrying an older rich man?.............
If we are being real here then permit me to say that even though marrying an older rich man looks like the real deal,it might not guarantee what you are served later.
Would you marry an older rich man if you see him as a means to an end or wait for love?
I had always wanted to end up with an older spouse but then on second thoughts maybe my not caring bout numbers might have been a problem...like saying ''good morning sir'' '' welcome sir''...COUNT ME OUT ABEG...lol
This should be interesting!
Yes I can marry someone who's 15yrs older than I am. But marrying someone I'm older than, not sure it can work
ReplyDelete*Larry was here*
Ask Sade Okoya. She might have a better answer
DeleteTbh, I like older women. I have this presumption that they know what they really want, so there's no need to put up with drama from the younger ones... But age is nothing but a number, maturity is a thing of the mind. There are actually young ladies (like E) who know what they want, cos they dwell in reality rather than fantasies...
DeleteI can marry and older man, but once it passes 10 yrs count me out. I heard they are better lover though. But what's with the sir, I don't think they want it, the essence of them marrying a younger babe is to feel young too. They rather you call them by name than the sir, except social gathering.
ReplyDeleteUN observer mission(ary). That's who I am on this one.
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ReplyDeleteAge is nothing but a number but not when he is 10 Years Older than me...kolewerk Rara !!!
I fit consider <=20yrs if he is Dangote himself and all the Riches and assets has been signed and sealed under my name...😀😀😀
Lmaoooo @ your last paragraph. See ya mouth.😉😜😛
DeleteWell if only wishes were horses cos I have always had in mind to settle with a guy that is at least 10 years older than me but mind changed after dating one of such jare. He turned out to be sooo childish... We werent just connecting, Prolly I wasnt lucky sha so it made me have a change of mind immediately. Currently dating someone that just gave me shinkili years and mehn d difference is clear.
I hope and pray God perfects it for us cos I wouldnt want to miss him for anyother person as it is.
Sandy ehn na.,as consolation prize for when it will set 😀
DeleteAmen !!! @ Your last paragraph God will perfect it for you guys.... I cover Your testimony with the Blood of Jesus Christ
*mmmhmm.... A na ekwu si kwa nu gi ni ..adi go mu nkwadobe
Amen..God will perfect it for you guys
DeleteLmao
ReplyDeleteI keep praying everyday for a hubby as young as I am.
I can't fit to shout .
We go age together mbok
I will read comments!
ReplyDeleteCrosses legs with my stout and groundnut beside me.
8 years older? I can still deal. 5-8 years older. Nothing more, nothing less. Any other thing is too young and too old.
ReplyDeleteI can't be caught with a man 10 or more years older than I am . I just can't
we respect our elders where I come from so it won't work.
I can't realy say until i'm in that situation tho.
ReplyDeleteAge is an issue of mind over matter.if you don't mind it ,it doesn't matter. I'm not an expert in relationships by any means, ultimately, leave all judgment behind when you find someone truly special. No two people are the same, just like no two romances are the same. Take each person as he or she comes. But please 10 - 15 years difference is just enough.
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DeleteI am a year and one month older than my boyfriend. He is the best guy I have dated. We are talking marriage by next year but I don't know how I will continue to keep this loving relationship without age matter crawling in. I need advice o. If their is anyone married to younger husband. Thanks
DeleteStella your first paragraph is saying the same thing and I think this conversation is mainly base on the men alone. What about young boys who are married to their great grandma especially the oyibos. As for the youth it is very difficult for a lady to accept to date a guy she is older than even if is just a year difference. I think such mentality amongst our youth should stop because this has made some guys lied about their real age so they don't lose the woman they love.
ReplyDeleteI'm a year older than my fiancé. He knows from the first time we met a long time ago and he doesn't mind. He is even happy I'm with him. He said I'm his dream come true🙈🙈🙈🙈
ReplyDeleteAge is nothing but a number... Comfort of the afflicted; okwu nkasiobi
ReplyDeleteI'm married to my ancestor and I'm loving it. He's d best man ever, there's nothing like age factor. Infact I enjoy the attention I get from people when we go out. His friends are jealous(in a good and funny way), this man makes me feel like I'm a great prize he won. I can't even imagine my life without him. People may say shit but he makes me happy and he loves me 100%.
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DeleteBeing happy is the primary goal, some got married within their age bracket and are still as miserable as f**k. For me i don't think age should matter, if it makes you happy, go for it but not with a minor oh
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DeleteI will like to hear you say this in twenty years time
DeleteWeed chic even if I don't get to 20 years with him, I can beat my chest and say I've enjoyed true happiness. Who 20years Epp? Let me go and cook egusi soup for my ancestor jare.
DeleteYou try oh even though happiness is the ultimate. I'm sure he's rich👍
DeleteI used to say I wouldn't marry any man that's more than 4 years older.
ReplyDeleteBut my man is 5 years older...
I guess 1 year ain't much to add up..**smiles**
But I can't do a decade older or more, that's just somehow..
age is everything to me.
ReplyDeletedon't expect respect from me if i happen to be older than u in a relationship. an ahw difference of 3 to 8 yrs is d real deal for me. asides that lemme kuku be 🚶🚶🚶🚶🚶🚶
Hmmm.. Stella,indeed your blog is like God's indirect message to me. I was just wondering about this age issue when i opened this post. I met a guy on the last snm and even though we haven't met, i have this special feeling that it gonna work. But then, the age issue came up and i was wondering how i was gonna cope with a guy 12yrs older. I was even wondering how i was going to address him when we finally meet. You know the yoruba "eh" for an older person or "oh" as a partner. lol..,let me read comments.
ReplyDeleteP.S I am 23yrs old
Stella, God bless your soul, spirit and body for bringing up this topic.To me, well age ain't nothing but a number as long as there's the understanding between both parties. I for one,have always wanted at least 10 years difference between my man and I.nothing to it, I just love it that way and fortunately for me, my sweetheart is 11 years older. Believe me when I say, of all the (younger)guys I've dated,there's none like him. Different strokes for different folks though.I'm happy where I am
ReplyDeleteI love mixing up with older people with sense..u gain lots of things from them...but they like respect and demand it.
ReplyDeleteI like intelligent men. Men who open their mouth and a lot of sense pours forth.
DeleteRegardless of your age, I can spend hours just listening to you.
Same here, Bipolar..
DeleteUhmmm. So I once fell in love with an older woman. I was 22 and she was like 44. Funny thing was that, I never saw it as a Sugar Mummy/Boy toy, as many would put it. I loved her simplicity, her kindness and her ability to understand me. I NEVER asked her for monetary assistance nor favors. We both worked on her Thesis papers and I'd help her with office work. The heartbreaking part is that she went back to her husband in the States. Oh and her husband unknowingly claimed my child
ReplyDeleteJesus!
DeleteFunke?
Will you keep quiet?
Continue!
Jesu!
What to do now? Will you get your child back or what?
... Jesus is my worth!
Shameless supra wearing lazy boy you. spits
DeletePls tell me ur joking,go and look for ur kid,I'm sure the lady was looking out for sperm donor ,women can do anything for a child
DeleteUnknowingly Claimed your child 😵😵😵 are you for real?
DeleteSo have you been able to see your child? Gosh am just curious😲
I actually know a woman who likes younger men. She says she loves having a man who looks up to her, she likes the act of "mothering" them.
DeleteUnknowingly claimed what?odiegwu ooh
DeleteI know of one like that, I don't know if the boy was faking it but the woman was so smitten and they will be shamelessly locking lips in full glare. She will jokingly say the baba that did the jazz finished and threw it in the river that there is no going back. Sadly the guy died in a motor accident and she faced her marriage
DeleteAre you for real👂
DeleteSome girls marry older men who are broke, I wonder why.
ReplyDeleteNa that one dey pain pass.
Anyway, I still prefer a hot chris hemsworth looking stud to a gray haired crotch with flabby erection enhanced by viagra.
Hahahahaha a broke older man is just the worst you can do.
DeleteAnd they will be very insecure. Watching your movement bcos they know you are young and hot and guys will be after you.
That one na curse
DeleteAs for me, i've always wanted my men older! I can't deal with boys who are my younger brothers age group or even guys who were in my age group.
ReplyDeleteSome will be quick to say; age is not maturity which I don't really agree with. You see some young boys making sense until a serious issue that will demand a matured and experienced input will sprout up, then, their immaturity and inexperienced will start showing.
So, I like my men older, matured and well experienced. I can't deal with immature minds, they will make you argue about little things.
As for women who go after younger men, it's their choice. I only pity some young guys who decide to settle for their mother age mate.
Adam was older than Eve for a reason.
Lmao😂😂😂 @ your 2nd to d last.
DeleteReal pity ma dear.
Mrs R, you echoed my thoughts but I'm on same boat with Sandy yo. My dream didn't come through. I'm with a guy noy as old as I like it.
DeleteHmmm..... well I've never really been into my age mates. If I try dating someone close to my age i usually always get irritated too soon. I never had any Uni boyfriend while girls were dying for bandana and face cap boys, I was more attracted to the working class guys in nice suits. And somehow we always found ourselves.
ReplyDeleteI also guess it was cos I matured abit for my age and had started seeing life from different perspectives, so when I tried to mingle with my mates it never worked. They might say I take life too seriously. However, as I get older the maturity gap is declining cos these younger guys are now growing into some of the mindsets I had- even though I can still be like 😏😏 sometimes.
Then, marrying an older broke guy doesn't make sense to me. This is because, when there's conflict of interest, it's his money that you can use as compensation treat. I'm not even talking sex, maybe like you wanna go out on Friday night and he can't match your energy he can at least get you and your friends a couple bottles of champagne so you don't miss him too much. Lol. he would most likely retire earlier,so if he has money you can sort yourself out pending his retirement so you guys can balance or financially with the bills, holdidays, school fees, family commitments, etc. if he's broke and now retires you will carry most of the financial burden while the children you bore him are settling in life. Does that even make sense??
A relationship with an older guy needs mutual understanding. You have to also realize that he has more experience than you and let him know that you're not disputing that when making decisions. Also, the guy has to let the lady be young when she wants to be young. Be a boyfriend not an assistant dad. What I find most interesting is the insecurity. He would want to protect his territory knowing that there are younger guys out there possibly eyeIng his wife who's their age mate and busy using his money to slay.
My mum friend married a man 15 years older, they're an enviable couple and she's lived DA LIFE! Her only daughter did exactly same and still living DA LIFEST! Infact the man waited 6 years for the girl to accept to marry him. These are my own experiences so far so I don't see the problem with it.
So nice,he waited 6 years for her to accept.hard to find such these days!
DeleteAge difference matters a whole lot in marriage, there are situations that springs up in a marriage and u see the age ish coming out, it is good that the husband is older than the wife
ReplyDeleteYes but I can't date a guy I'm older than, never! Different strokes for different folks!
ReplyDelete... Jesus is my worth!
Asin eh..
DeleteCan't even imagine😕
I have been with both young & older guys. I have had nice relationship with both,both I still prefer the older guys bcos they are more understanding,independent & caring,more like they handle me with so much care & pampering which I value so much,& d age diff doesn't stop us from joking although there are some areas where my man will make a statement insinuating that I am not experienced in certain things & so I cannot give an intelligent advice on such matter, I don't take it to heart & start acting annoyed as long as he didn't say it in a derogatory manner. I'm just cool like that cos when I weigh the pros & cons I see more of the advantages. So there ain't no need for crisis. we both know each others place in each others life,we don't overstep ,we respect each other,nobody is perfect, we try to balance everything. He's 51,I'm 30,I believe the 21yrs diff isn't a prob. we on preparation to do our traditional marriage.
ReplyDeleteThis is my dilemma right now. I've not been lucky in relationships due to genotype and other issues. The only person that seem to love me endlessly and our blood group match is someone I'm older than with 4yrs. I'm 29 and he's 25. He's gainfully employed, supportive, intelligent(grad with a fist class mech eng), infact he's all shades of right. He's aware of the age difference but says it doesn't matter. Although we are dating already and it's been wonderful but I can't help but get worried atimes what people will say. He said we will get married next year but I'm worried. We went to see a Man of God for counselling and he encouraged us But.......
ReplyDeleteCall off that relationship now, it's dead on arrival. He will only use and dump ur ass.
DeleteDey there dey But... Till u convince him with inactions to change his mind.
DeleteEhya..
DeleteLet luv reign
Erase that thought from your mind that it won't work. There are so many examples around us of women who are much older than their men that their marriage worked and is still working.
DeleteWhat matters most is if there is love and mutual respect. Also the determination by both of you that it most work. Goodluck girl.
If it's not broken, don't fix it. Dude loves you, he is not using you. Enjoy your relationship.
DeleteKING XOXO MYSTERY
Hmmmmmm, If I were you, wont even give it a trial cos rena(see finish) must come in from ya side. No how, no how! His own side nko?😷Wish you guys luck sha.
DeleteMy boyfrnd is 22years older than me💃💃💃💃💃💃💃i like older men
ReplyDeleteMy chest...
Delete22 years. Don't call him BOYfriend please....
Boy??? Biko...respect small na
Ancestor friend..
DeleteLmao
Put a respect on That madam.
DeleteYou mean ancestor friend????
22 big sha? That one nah Manfriend ...lol.
Delete10 is fine for me 👌🏽
And my 19yrs old cousin accepted engagement ring frm her 42yrs old man frnd. I wish them
Delete22 years older than you isn't boyfriend again please. Give it another name
DeleteChikito is so on point.
ReplyDeleteI can marry someone older than me,even if its 20yrs difference.
Stella what's with the sir again na, they love to feel young so u call him by he's name,do sweet 16 stuffs, fuck him real good,enjoy each other together
With older men the TLC is on a high point & I love that so much cos I'm not the kinda lady that cares about so much pounding/thrusting.
I can't marry someone I'm older than,I can marry my mate only if he's matured & extra good on bed,like if he's super good, actually dating younger guys sometimes seem like a joke to me more especially when he's not having the pepper.
The interesting part is when they try to dress down to meet your age group standards 😂 Like wear skinny jeans and shit. Buhahahha. And when you meet the fit fam ones you will just trip finally!! I once had a single 42 year old on my case. Mixed race, IJGB, pooooosh, built and very funny, sleek hair etc. But I was just 21 then so I kept dodging the subject. He now went and married one 25 year old chic - hot babe sha 6ft tall. But the marriage didn't last. 6 years later, she filed for a divorce with two houses to her name and bore the heir to his inheritance. Then he sent me an fb message to say I was the cause. And I'm like HOW??! 😂 I just excused him cos he was grieving
DeleteMy fiance is 19 years older than. He worships the ground I walk on. Yes at first I was scared of the age difference. But this guy is everything a woman asks for in a man. I decided to let him. He puts me first in all the does. Younger guys are more interested in hanging out and all.. but if you don't have the mind, don't try it, it might not work for you.
ReplyDeleteMy DH is 18yrs older. I'd choose him over and over again. For us age is just a number as our respect for each other is very mutual. He doesn't take any major decision without consulting me and my opinion matters alot. I love the way he treats me like a jewel. He's so romantic and still super sexy. Eats well and exercises too. I love his six packs😍... what more can I ask for...
ReplyDeleteAwwwwwww...
Delete18 years...
Oho! @ 6 packs. I never even talk finish 😂 Enjoy!
DeleteYimu. The way you people hype yourselves on this blog ehhh. I'm Sure if we see that your super sexy old hubby now, he go just keep waist like sexy daddy
DeleteHmmmm. ..good for you
DeleteAwwww I like
DeleteI've dated someone 16yrs older but for some reasons we could not marry.
My best relationship till I met boo
I like older men,but if I was single my cut off age would be a yuppie 50yr old the type like femi otedola,Rmd and Donald duke. Older men that still know wassup. But ideally 10yrs older is okay for me. They just kinda make you feel like a baby.
ReplyDeleteI can never ever marry nor date a younger man. I hardly dated my mate,talk more younger.
To me 15/17/20 years older is still okay. Man older than woman that is.
If it starts getting over 20 yrs older it's a bit much. But some women are coping well with it.
For a lady you marrying a guy 1,2,3 years is okay. But anything after 5yrs is somehow.
But for me personally a guy even 1yr younger will be a bit funny for me. But I can still atleast manage 1yr. My problem is me not being sure I can respect the person.
My soon to be hubby is 11yrs older than me, and I love it that way.
ReplyDeleteMy hubby is 10yrs older than me
ReplyDeleteWe good
Thats why I get away with alot of things I do
I'm a big baby. Hahaha
I can worry.
Let me go and even look for trouble.
I'm having lunch with a friend, guess who came by my table?? Oh lord 🙆😲
To me,its no big deal! My hibby is older than me with 18years and the lpve is so so sweet!
ReplyDelete#Sometimes the wrong choices bring us to the right places*
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Deletedate and marry well, if the man is older and acts with wisdom and maturity then the marriage will flourish. Age is not wisdom.
ReplyDeleteI so agree with you on this that age is not wisdom.👍👍👍
DeleteI dated a Norweigan man who was 20 years older than me. I can say he is the kindness person I ever met in life. My financial strength and my family support to my extended family. Today am a multi millionaire. He respects me and worship h me like a diamond. Best man ever unfortunately I lost him.....,,,,, another story
ReplyDeleteMulti millionaire 🙌🙌🙌
DeleteMy ex-boyfriend was 17years old than me.Oh my worst relationship ever,besides been 52 and broke he was very lazy and loves to nag.I broke up with him now he is dating an 18 years old girl.He loves small girls.Very childish man.
ReplyDeleteAge is nothing but a number.
ReplyDeleteI DON'T MIND AT ALL, 7-15 YEARS DIFFERENCE IS JUST FINE BY ME.
ReplyDeleteI COULD DO 20 YEARS IF AND ONLY IF HE DOESN'T LOOK IT & EGO DI INVOLVED
This just sums up my present situation. I'm 30, while my fiance is 5 years older, but dude nags like there is no tomorrow. He cheats and flaunts it in my face on social media. He acts and talks so freaking childish that one wonders if he is truly 35yrs old. Funny thing is that marriage plans are in full gear for December but i am a bit skeptic about going ahead with it. Somewhere along the line, i met this charming young chap who is 5yrs younger, dude loves and adores me. He practically worships the ground i walk. But i am so scared of what the society and my family would say if i tell them i called off my engagement because of one young chap.
ReplyDeleteThis life na wa oohhhhh.......
Nafin is wa in dia. Do u live for society? Ha!! Ur happiness matters.. Dude cheats and flaunts it on your face?? Ewwww....
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