STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
FOLLOWING A PASSION
Hi Stella, thanks for creating this amazing platform.I have been a blog visitor for so long a time.I still comment as anonymous though.
Now to Everyone,I need your input to make a decision now.I am a medical student who has never for one day imagined herself as a practising.
My parents are highly placed and established in the medical field,so I know out of good intentions to get me a brighter future,they pushed me in here without knowing it.My brother never liked sciences and they pushed him in there hoping he will study medicine and all hopes were dashed when he blatantly refused,they tried everything to get him to study it with severe rough handling but he refused and they sort of black listed him and shifted the attention to me.
After the episodes,i didn't need to soothsayer to tell me what they wanted from me already.My parents are strict,its their way or nothing but I wasn't complaining,i was young and bright in class and it's the normal Nigerian way that you will do sciences and so I did.
I got into school, and started getting involved in somethings I loved doing.I started so the medicine won't bore me throughout my stay in school and hopefully acquire enough skills to get in full time after medical school and so through recommendations and recommendations someone approached me with an offer.
My problem right now is, after the incident with my brother,my parents have their eyes on me.For that single reason,i have decided to get that mbbs degree for them, but even without being told,i know am required to just promote the channel, it's not something I can do hiding, especially with the way they want the channel,my parents are not the type you can sit with and have a decent conversation.They will never understand and I am sure they will see everything as a distraction and ask me to quit.
On other side, the producer is calling for my reply,so we can get a stance on one or two things and begin productions next week.Everyone thinks i have been studying the course with joy in my heart.I don't know if this is supposed to be an opportunity for me overlook and finish school first,or pick it as a blessing.I am 300level by the way and with the grace of God,i have been doing very very well in school till date.
Hi Stella, thanks for creating this amazing platform.I have been a blog visitor for so long a time.I still comment as anonymous though.
Now to Everyone,I need your input to make a decision now.I am a medical student who has never for one day imagined herself as a practising.
Nothing about it fascinates me at all,i am not so sure how much I can stand blood and all of that.Surprised?That's the story of my life.
My parents are highly placed and established in the medical field,so I know out of good intentions to get me a brighter future,they pushed me in here without knowing it.My brother never liked sciences and they pushed him in there hoping he will study medicine and all hopes were dashed when he blatantly refused,they tried everything to get him to study it with severe rough handling but he refused and they sort of black listed him and shifted the attention to me.
After the episodes,i didn't need to soothsayer to tell me what they wanted from me already.My parents are strict,its their way or nothing but I wasn't complaining,i was young and bright in class and it's the normal Nigerian way that you will do sciences and so I did.
Along the line,I started getting interested in mass communication(i just loved anything that will make me address a crowd, inspire people with speech,television presenting) but out of fear I held it back, completed secondary school and immediately got admission to study medicine.But this exactly where my problem lies.
I got into school, and started getting involved in somethings I loved doing.I started so the medicine won't bore me throughout my stay in school and hopefully acquire enough skills to get in full time after medical school and so through recommendations and recommendations someone approached me with an offer.
He is working with a group of people to create a YouTube channel and according to him, they are not a low budget because he wants something that will meet up with the likes of the best online TV and already have headline sponsors on it,so they want me to take up a segment.
At first I was excited about the offer because it will give me an opportunity to improve,it is really not about what they will pay to me now,and I checked what they wanted and it doesn't take me out of the state my school is within, once a week, about three hours of my time for a each production.
My problem right now is, after the incident with my brother,my parents have their eyes on me.For that single reason,i have decided to get that mbbs degree for them, but even without being told,i know am required to just promote the channel, it's not something I can do hiding, especially with the way they want the channel,my parents are not the type you can sit with and have a decent conversation.They will never understand and I am sure they will see everything as a distraction and ask me to quit.
I am really scared about how they will see the development,i just feel like many of them including other relations are looking out for me because of my parents.Just imagine,my uncle even told my dad to tell me to go off social media because I don't need distractions as a medical student
.Everyone is just on my matter,you know when they say the whole world is waiting for the manifestation of the sons of God.They are indeed waiting for me and so am just having mixed feelings about how people will react.
On other side, the producer is calling for my reply,so we can get a stance on one or two things and begin productions next week.Everyone thinks i have been studying the course with joy in my heart.I don't know if this is supposed to be an opportunity for me overlook and finish school first,or pick it as a blessing.I am 300level by the way and with the grace of God,i have been doing very very well in school till date.
I am sure we have people that have been trapped in between profession and passion on this blog,please I need your input, Stella your red pen will be useful too.Thank you.
*My dear forget the distraction now and face your studies..you can do all that later....Take inspiration from Actresses and media personalities who have now dumped their medical degrees for the Arts.
Finish your degree first and all other things will fall into place......
I am a parent and this is the same advice i would want anyone giving my kids.
Stella gave said it all.
ReplyDeleteFace ya studies
Well, I think you should follow your passion. From what u explained, it's not to take too much from you such that u don't balance up in school, as per u are bright.
DeleteNow understand u would have to put in more time into ur studies really. And hope they know u are a med student.
As for ur parents, truely, shift them oneside first, because we are first ourselves, before we are children. At the end of life, or when u look retrospectively, u'd understand dat nothing beats fulfilling ur own purpose, and having inner satisfaction.
I also hope, u can pull out when d need arises.
All d best dear. 2nd MB is calling you
Stella's advice is the best dear. Finish first with good grades,once you're independent you can delve into something else. In this case,your passion.
DeleteI am a medical doctor and I wish I did other things whilst in medical school, in fact I wish I could say I studied this for my parents so I can rasily start doing other things, 3hours a week is not too much time to do your production and still bag your mbbs. By the time you graduate you ll discover mbbs na for mouth, doctors are diversifying some doing taloring, catering to make ends meet. In fact specialising in courses they never had interest in just yo keep moving. For me I say pursue your passion along side your degree.
DeleteFollow your passion girl.. 3 times a week will not make you fail. Promote it as much as you want
DeleteWhen you.parents find out, tell them you love doing it and that it won't affect yoir studies.
I have seen young medical doctors in Ghana hosting a talk show. They demystify myths about medicine, they talk about issues bothering viewers and they educate viewers on sex education and other illnesses..
They make it such a lively and interactive show. You can tell they have a passion for TV.
Follow yoir passion but don't drop.out of school.
May my kids be able to talk to me about anything.
Finish school please. I dont like Law, i studied it. Aced it. Did a masters. Aced it. And now i work at the best place you can imagine (government-wise). Now i have the time, resources and freedom to do every other thing i want. Im starting my Phd in january...and yes, in Law. Its opening doors i didnt think possible. So darling, finish school. Greatness has no time limit. If its really your passion you will acheive it...even in 5, 6 or 10 years.
DeleteThere's time for everything... finish school first please and you'll have all d time in d world to do what u love. Some things are not certain, what if d channel doesn't turn out to be how u expect and doesn't take u far like you thing. I'm d entertainment industry, you'll get a lot of distractions. Be focused, don't bring enemity between you and your parents oo
DeleteToo long! 😖
ReplyDeletesee life ba, I did typically everything to get to med school but I couldn't, wrote JAMB for 5 times but no way. see someone who got it on a platter of gold. how I wish we can switch. not that I don't pass jamb, I do but I just don't know what's wrong, the least I have gotten in jamb is 265. life can be so funny. Ebe onye nno ebe o na anoghi a na-agu ya.
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ReplyDeleteIts been a wile shaaaa
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Better face your study. You can still end up as medical Journalist like that CNN's medical journalist that presents the health segment of the news and still practice medicine. Better face your studies. Useless mass communication. Still regretting why I studied that.
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DeleteJust take this anon 17:40 advice already.💟👍
DeleteDoctor Sanje Gupta. CNN medical corespondent. You are making so much sense. Follow this poster.
DeletePursue ur career
ReplyDeletePursue ur dream afterwards
I am a medical doctor. Poster, do both. Do not be all those boring doctors that faced only book throughout their 6 years medical school. They were actually not all the best in exams in med sch and some are having difficulties in the outside world. This doesn't sound like it will take much time, in fact it sounds like a hobby you will get back paid for. Pls grab it. If you notice your results deteriorate, then you rest. And y r u telling your parents? This is a hobby, it doesn't have to come up at all. The best doctors with distinctions in my set played ball representing d school, modelled far and wide. While some will read oooooo and barely cross d finish lines
DeleteOpportunity comes once. Parents don't know the future. When you succeed now they'll be happy. Find out how much the show will pay. Take the money and keep well. It better be enough for rent because the worst ur parents will do is say they won't pay for school or rent if you don't do their wishes . Do the pyoutbe thing. It's only once a week. Make sure you keep your grades up.
ReplyDeletePick passion, degree no dey pay like before again o
ReplyDeleteI am a medical doctor but left practice about a decade ago to pursue my passion and develop my talent.
ReplyDeleteYou can be anything but girl, my candid advice is to cool down, give up that youtube stuff and face the demands of MBBS. get your degree and take it up from there.
Perhaps, you'd find an nice man to marry and be off your parents "hook". Get to like a year diploma in journalism training and get your career in journalism kicked off.
Personally, I never enjoyed practice for the period I did and I was just being suffocated by the things budding inside me. I thank God that I read medicine, he works all things for the good of they that love him. I am good where I am.
It's only a nice man that can help her realize her dreams or what?
DeleteHope you've discarded your mbbs certificate
DeleteNope a nice man will marry her and help her realize her dreams. Away from her parents. My dear my advice is finish your medical degree okay. After all kiki omili dumped her degree and followed her passion afterwards. You never might know it, that med degree might even give you the breakthrough you need. Good luck
DeleteTake stella's advice
ReplyDeleteNne just respect yourself and face your anatomy, physio and BCH. Second MB no be moi moi, get your degree first. My colleague in the clinic is successfully practising fashion and combining it well with health care practice.
DeleteWhen someone wanna use her hand and limit herself, will promoting a youtube video make u comfortable in life? Looks like ur village pple wanna punish u. Later you'll hear stuff like 'she's a trained med. Doctor but she's broke'.
ReplyDeleteYet youtube bloggers are cashing in.
DeleteYou don't want her to have backup in case d producer decides to make her use her ponyor attract sponsor? Make she dump school and become youtube presenter? Lol.
DeleteShey u know Dr. Sanjay is also a journo with Cnn, babe go get ya degree o! No let ur village pple get you.
DeleteGet your degree first and all things will fall into place.
ReplyDeleteBe careful with marriage.
Make sure a man isn't coming to marry "a doctor" else you are set up for more "wahalas" to come.
With a degree in medicine and little training in broadcasting, you can get a job as a medical correspondent for a news company like Sanjay Gupta is in CNN. It can be a news company in another African country just be ready to explore.
If you make a mistake in marriage, you would have opened two war fronts; parents and husband and there will be no place to hide.
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DeletePoster I will urge you to finish your degree first practice for a while,by then you have made them think you are with them then After a while, you can pursue your dreams.Age is still on your side, don't rush it please.Wishing you best of luck.
ReplyDeleteI even thought you were done with school and talking about your passion.
ReplyDeleteHaving being close to medical students and knowing how tense and crazy their curriculum is I'll advice you graduate first then pursue your passion.
Aunt Landa is a surgeon ,a motivational speaker/radio host,has an Ngo,a chef ,a fashionista and there are other people like her out there too.
I also know a medical doctor that after his house job went straight for business,I always tease him not to dare prescribe even Vit C for anyone cos I'm sure he doesn't remember anything.Just like you he was forced to study medicine ,the only thing he did to compensate his people was to marry a doctor.
My dear you still have a long way to go,so keep your dream alive but for now study study study!!!
Your parents are still paying your fees and won't listen to you.when you start making your cash they won't stop you from pursuing your dreams.
All the best dear.
Poster finish your studies and then face your passion later. It's that simple. Not every opportunity is an opportunity, some tae just there to put us into more problems. It might not require a lot from you at the state, but as they grow, it will require much from you and your studies will suffer. I already know how your course is, very stressful something and you want to add this? Please stop and face your books. After that you can decide to be whoever you want. I know people who read me decide but do more than 3 other things.
DeletePoster, face your studies and finish your degree first. What you're about to get yourself into might seem easy for now; but it's a big distraction for you.
ReplyDeleteYou have a parents that want the best for you even though they pushed you to study a course you didn't like but you're doing very well (according to you ) so far, try and finish your studies then you can now go into entertainment or whatever else you wish to do.
In your line of field, you can still be on tv and addressed a lot of people. You can work on tv, i've seen a lot of doctors who only find a tv work that suits their profession. Some even diverse into other fields but, they still work on tv.
My dear, don't give in to cheap distraction.
This was me in medical school in Nigeria. I read medicine part time. 50% of my time was devoted to missionary work and that is where I eventually settled. I am fulfilled.
ReplyDeleteIt is a wrong thing parents do in Nigeria; thinking that medicine is a way to escape poverty and have a secured future. A lot of people miss/bury great talents.
Please since you've started medical school, carry on and play along with your parents for they pay the bills. Afterwards, while you work, you can use some spare time to do some journalism courses even online etc. Then veer off and find your niche. It may involve taking a dive to the "unknown". You may earn less. But there is nothing like a peace of mind and fulfillment; just knowing that your are where God has blessed you with talent is soothing.
Get the certificate first but if you are truly sure that the project won't interfere with your studies, then do both. Passion is good but don't allow it to kill your career since you are already studying to become a medical doctor.
ReplyDeleteNice one stella.
ReplyDeletePoster, finish your school first for now, your passion will not die. Thankfully you are doing well in your academics. When you get your mbb, it will be an added portfolio, as you pursue your dream.
Poster,trust me on this,Stella is absolutely right.i am sure u have heard about Dr Sid,Falz etc.Finish up and then follow ur passion...
ReplyDeleteIt's good to have a passion, although I see so much pressure from your parents. If you been on the channel won't push you to fail or get distracted, do it in SECRET. If your parents find out, tell them you are doing it and not failing, convince them that if by mistake you fail, you will drop the channel distraction and face your studies. Till then, beg them to give you a chance...that's when they FIND OUT o!
ReplyDeleteI find this refreshing at least it's not husband or boyfriend issue. Poster if taking up the segment will be your safe haven from medicine,please do!! . You need that break to do something that makes you happy. Use your 'good grades 'as leverage against your parents. You need to breathe mehnn ,make sure it doesn't disrupt your academics .you can even talk to the producer and turn the segment to a health issue program ,that way you are doing something related to your course.I don't like to talk about my personal life here but when I was in school ,I once left school to another country to shoot a Comercial ,only my brother knew, my parents got to find out 6 months later when they saw it at the airport ,my excuse was I needed the money to buy books since the one they sent wasn't enough. Not telling you to rebel against your parents but there are certain decisions and actions ,risks you need to take now that will prepare you for adulthood and assuming responsibilities alone.
ReplyDeleteSo refreshing...
DeletePoster, get your degree and give it to them.
ReplyDeleteThat's what I did. My parents forced me to study medicine yet I wanted to do law. I studied medicine,graduated top of my class and gave them the degree. It wasn't easy. Plus I did it out of anger.
Immediately after I started my law degree. I did not speak to my parents for 7yrs. It was a very tough period in my life, but I told them that they wanted the medical degree yet I wanted Law.
Now I am practising my law and we have kind of reconciled. My parents use me as a point of advice for their friends that force their children to study a certain course.
Wow! You are strong willed.
DeleteIn my case,I fell in love with my course eventually.
Even though sometimes I wonder how I could have done as a.... Errmmmm maybe not a Lawyer anymore.. Maybe just something entirely different.
I had so much promise... None was science inclined.
Oh well... There is life.
Poster you said it yourself that you are doing well in your study please concentrate on your study, you can still meet up with your passion.
ReplyDeleteHmmmm
ReplyDeleteI feel ur plight my dear
The thing is
I would have said go ahead
But in a country like nigeria
Inefficient transport system,and all that
U just said 3hrs work hour
The truth is u most times u would find urself working for more than 3hrs
Esp now that it's a startup
I would advice u get done with ur first degree
Just settle ur parents ok
You don't have to leave Medical school,because once you go on with that YouTube production,it may be harder to get back towards Med.
ReplyDeleteYou have to do what is right and complete your studies,then see a career coach,cos if you are miserable as a doctor everyone around you will suffer including your patients.
Pls get your MBBS. Trust me there will be time to delve into other passions.
ReplyDeleteAt least you'll have a back up , something to fall back on ... if your passion doesn't pave way for you in the future.
You are not even struggling with the course ... so heads up and chin up.
It will be a win- win situation if you do so above.
All the best ...
Looky here, Looky here..... Where you been??
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ReplyDeleteWell I will tell you to face your studies now. You wont be the first doctor who isn't willing to practice. I have come across quite a number of them and really it fascinates me how you can dump 7 whole years mehn. But the heart wants what it wants yea? Just face your studies. Four more years and you're done. Even if You want to switch to mass comm it will still be the same 4 years you will need. You wanna do entertainment? There will always be opportunities. It won't end at this youtube channel thingy. Shebi that kiki omeili of Lekki wives too is a trained doctor turned actress. You can explain to them after you have the certificate in your hand and then go on to follow your passion.
I also hope you will still feel this way when you graduate. Trust me maturity can make you grow into some things you couldnt take when you were younger. You might even change yoir mind to practice. Who knows?
Why me?? 😢 😔
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DeleteMake that 8 yrs in some schools. As a Dr would advise yoh to try your best to finish the programme you've started alongside following your passion, just try and manage your time, trust me you can do both. Get the MBbss, its a degree, u may choose to go into social medicine, public health or health advocacy and journalism. It is doable love. All the best. Cheers.
DeleteMake that 8 yrs in some schools. As a Dr would advise you to try your best to finish the programme you've started alongside following your passion, just try and manage your time, trust me you can do both. Get the MBBS its a degree, u may choose to go into social medicine, public health or health advocacy and journalism. It is doable love. All the best. Cheers.
DeleteI understand what you're going through but I will advice you finish your studies as a medical student and focus on your dreams afterwards. I wish you well.
ReplyDeleteOk . Lemme go anon.
ReplyDeleteI'm done studying physics. Next year, I'll write jamb and waec for law.
Lmao better get your cert like me and then pursue your passion.
DeleteDear poster, I know several people like you. Their parents forced them to study medicine, some couldn't cope and failed out while some successfully completed the course and abandoned it to pursue their passion.
ReplyDeleteMy advice is, leave the YouTube stuff for now and focus on your academics. There'll be enough time for that when you graduate. Remember the higher you go the tougher it becomes so don't let these early years in medical school fool you.
As a compromise I suggest you continue with the other stuff you've been doing so far so that you won't get completely bored, but don't take on any serious media commitments for now. All the best.
My dear, finish school first..... This whole YouTube thing might distract you and make your grades drop.... Nothing like having a degree,no matter what anyone says!!!
ReplyDeleteThen you can do other things!!!
Just focus on your studies first, get your degree and later follow your passion
ReplyDeleteThis used to be very common in Nigerian homes,I'm surprised they are still doing it.
ReplyDeleteThey target the kids that are versatile.. Scoring 90-100% in both science and Arts subjects. They automatically conclude you can do well in sciences and categorize/share siblings.
Since you are already in school,focus and finish up.
Then if you still can't find passion for what you studied... Let your parents swallow the bitter pill.
You obviously cannot practice feeling this way...
PS: There are Radio/Tv shows focused on medical doctors and their practice. There are also very attractive IG accounts been run by Young,beautiful doctors talking about Health,Fashion,The Environment and Lifestyle. Look into that and expand on Youtube.
You can combine your practice with Tv appearances too.
There is a lot you can do these days young lady. 24hours is no longer enough to pursue ones different passions and dreams.
Just get an education first.
Kwakakaka..say no more! How do you think I landed in science class? 😂😂 i didn't even know what I was doing in physics until I wrote waec. I begged to go to arts, for Where??!! My dad wont hear of it. Okay. They can go find their doctor in chikito now 😂
DeleteThere's also that show 'The doctors'. I love Lisa Masterson. She's a hot doctor who presents well.
I didn't even beg.I trusted their judgement,which at the time I felt was good. I went ahead to write jamb. Looking back,I was so good in Arts too. Damn good!
DeleteWhatever happened to that show.
Hot,Doctor Lisa. Doctor Travis is also Hot!
The vibe I get off these 'producers' too👌
ReplyDeletemy dear @300 level u r just starting to get into d deep waters in medicine, by the time u start clinical rotations,u will see how precious ur time is...... u can be doing campus stuffs but leave that production for now, try and concentrate on your studies for now, who knows u may even fall in love with the profession later on...... or do both after u hv graduated ie presenting a health promoting talk show
ReplyDeleteFollow your passions but follow wisely, as a medical student I was a makeup artist, nail technician and even started learning tailoring on the side, but when it was time for exams I learnt to drop the distractions, my parents knew this and weren't worried at all, in the future you'll learn to see your medical degree as not a burden but a plus to whatever you want to do, even now when I finished housejob, the beauty of it is that I was able to use my housejob money to plug back into my makeup business, bit the expensive products and gadgets I could not afford and not have to chase PP up and down medicine is not even a restricted course there are so many things you can do with it, so many places you can work or practice, don't limit yourself, to me I can't even imagine not practicing after all I suffered to get my degree. It's your job that will provide the finances for what you want to do, it will support you when things are not moving the way you think they should.
ReplyDelete"It's your job that will provide the finances for what you want to do, it will support you when things are not moving the way you think they should"
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Poster......I would say I don't like the way you concluded that your parents won't understand you situation. Start by discussing this offer with your mum ,tell her it won't clash with your school work, you don't know she may agree for you to take the offer.
ReplyDeleteBut in the event she didn't agree for you to take up the offer, then concentrate on finishing medical school and then facing your passion.
Stay happy, you will be fine
Tell the producer that you can't work for them now.
ReplyDeleteFocus graduate, become a doctor then go for service and start your media career.
Falz is a lawyer, Kiki omeili is a doctor, i have a musician friend that is a doctor too.
There is swag in it trust me and it's not runing, that media career ain't going nowhere so focus and get that medical degree. You will have a happy parent and you will be proud and even use that fact to enlighten others in the future.
It also shows you are not dull which is attractive.
My dear better get the certificate first. I don't like my first degree but that is what is helping me now, been working with it and will soon start pursing my second degree which is my dream course by God's grace. So think wisely OK.
ReplyDeleteMy husband is a medical doctor and he is always telling me he wished he did other things while in school,some of his colleagues learnt photography,tailoring et el and they are doing very very well now(practicing & business)So if that's your passion,go for it.Since they wanted you to study medicine,you should have insisted on going overseas to get a foreign degree,that would have been easier cos u will finish quick.
ReplyDeleteLol. Finish quick indeed. Medicine is d same worldwide.
DeleteDo you baby, or you will regret it.
ReplyDeleteTiming and seizing opportunities is EVERYTHING. If Bill gates and Zuckerberg had chosen to finish school, they wouldn't be who they are today. If you can manage to do them both, do them both.
ReplyDeleteI graduated from UNN mbbs in 2011 and today I'm not even close to a hospital. I've always loved computers and thank God for the man I married he's been supportive to see I get a degree in computer science.
ReplyDeleteYou you can actually do both, Jemima is a medical student and a budding talented actress. But what year are you now? Do you sincerely think you can balance the 2 ? If you think so then give it a shot
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