STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
ADVICE NEEDED URGENTLY
Good day madam Stella.
Here is my story: Last year November l wrote a chronicle to you stating that we are the next batch( Batch B) to go for service and that my BF of 5yrs wants me to serve in his state(Enugu) for easier communication. We also decided that l'm going to live in his house during my service year which after a second thought it wasn't a good decision for me and l wrote to you.
From the comment section l observed that Bvs are against cohabitation with good reasons attached. Now, l'm currently serving in his residence(Enugu) and l got myself a self-contained apartment not too far from his house though. I visit him almost every weekend. Up till now he's still bittered that we are living apart and that he can't imagine his GF serving in his residence and not living in his house.
I have been explaining to him that its not a good idea to cohabit. Recently,l overheard his conversation with a girl( it happened that he called me unknowingly),he was telling the girl the type of foodstuff she will buy and the money that will be enough for her(from their discussion the girl has been buying and cooking for him) They talked for over 17mins l was just recording everything.
When l got to his house that weekend,l confronted him with my evidence. Stella,can you believe that this guy wasn't remorseful,he just told me who the girl was and that they are just friends and he has not slept with her and all that.
When he was dropping me off to my place,the same girl started calling him but he refused to pick. However, this is the 3rd time he is cheating on me. The 1st time was years ago when l read his romantic chat with his ex-gf. The 2nd time was when i watched his sex video with a girl.( which he doesn't know that his video was on and all that) he apologised SINCERELY and l forgave him.
And this 3rd time l told myself that am out!.l know he will still come begging. l'm thinking of telling his family( which he's totally against it). How will l start a new life now?? I really want to call it off but our families and friends are looking up on us because we are planning to get married towards the end of this year.
l REGRET having only him! I REGRET serving in his residence! My life is full of REGRETS NOW!!! Is it true that all guys cheat?
Please Stella and Bvs do u advice l move on with him or not???( cos l know he will still come begging). He's also a Bvs. Sorry for the long epistle. Thanks.
Sometimes I think we pretty much waste time typing long messages because you people still go ahead to what you want anyway. Don't even beat yourself up that maybe if you had moved in with him, things would have been different. It is who he is, a cheat and a liar. I don't understand what you mean by your friends and family are looking up to you both? So what? Are you getting married for them or for you? The way most of you carry men on your heads, I wonder if there are no other things to focus on than men and relationships. He'd beg you and your accept, you've given him too much power over you.
ReplyDeleteDo what you think it's best, you're the one wearing the shoes.
He is even a pornstar in the making, oriegwu.
Thanks Dopple . . . some girls just have a skull full of rotten potatoes.
DeleteThis is the man you are talking marriage with; a consciousless philanderer?
And you have been having sex with such a man and talking about his "cheating on you?"
You are cheating yourself; I mean, robbing yourself. And soon you will still go ahead and marry him.
Sure you read that woman that was killed on the day she was to give birth; the one that had had four babies beaten out of her womb?
That is the track you are following because, by the time he enters another hoe and make porn from it in marriage, you might lose it and he will pound you to pulp.
That inadvertent phone tap was divine mercy in your case.
Eayaaa... pele my dear,but Enugu have fresh guys nw,wonder why you are wasting your time with this nigga,hia,oya drop ur contact let me give u better link up,btw,smireoff party is seriously loading by month end,come and have fun jare
DeleteChei Doppel, you are just dope!
DeletePls Poster, what are your deal breakers? Do you have standards? What is he bringing to the table that makes him indispensable? Ehn! What is wrong with you? Ah ah! You watched YOUR MAN have sex with ANOTHER woman! You saw it koro koro and your are still there? Chai! That one dey scatter my dada! His equipment must be kryptonite cuz I don't get it...
You cannot be his lapdog abeg! Wake up! And you plan to marry him? You think he will change? He cheated once, twice, you forgave??? He will NEVER change! Haven't you been reading stories here? Pardon me but, You are DAFT! He knows he has your mumu button and he's taking full advantage of it and my dear, you will still gawk when he comes begging...
My advice...create some distance. Go and find yourself because you are obviously lost! You've become predictable. Focus on your life I beg you. Focus on You. Read Joyce Meyer's battle field of the mind...
What am I even talking...you will still do what you want, no need to waste spit! it is well with you o!
Fua!
Pls go get a life focus on urself ,learn to love urself leave man alone especially this ones that cheat here and dere he all continue cheating until u decide to ve sense some men are not worth it trust me
DeleteWhat do u really want for yourself?
DeleteIf you are able to answer sincerely, then there is hope for you.
And to answer your question, not all men cheat.
Her mumu button is the I will marry you button. Mtcheew
DeleteGive yourself brain my sister and move on,unless you have the strength to battle infidelity your entire marriage.it is obvious the guy does not respect you and he is a serial cheat.
ReplyDeleteIf you still want him, better knack better pigeon for his head.
ReplyDeleteThat man is not loyal at all. Even with your visiting him every weekend to chop you, he still dey talk to another girl.
Na wa. You too go and get plan b. Get another man for your side. You never finish serving? put ya eyes on guys over there and enjoy ya life jare
Move on with your life. What if he was involved in an accident and died won't you move on? Besides he's not yet husband. People that even divorce are moving on.This guy is going to still break your heart
ReplyDelete.....and the next guy won't cheat? How sure are u? Well, there are some men dt do not cheat tho
ReplyDeleteNot all men cheat!
Delete@anon17:36 we are together....not all men cheat. YES!
DeleteNot all men cheat my dear, we still have faithful men on this planet oo, dnt follow the myths that all men cheat,
DeleteI am a living witness, just like in the case of this poster, my ex was a big time cheat, family looking forward as well,but you know what dear, i gave myself brain oo, 7years of relationship, i didn't care, i walked away,only for me to get to know that another lady has given birth for him,just few months after i walked away, (less than 6months oo, i walked away ),mind you, in the midst of this troubles oo, his family and himself were still asking us to reconcile us, but because i know my worthy, i didn't bulge in, and I'm glad i didn't because i would have been stucked with the issues of baby mama, and as God will have it for me, i met my fiance, very cool headed guy, and walking down the aisle soonest,
My advise to you poster is put the regrets behind you, a cheat will always be a cheat oo,
if i were you, i will save myself the emotional stress and walk away,not once, but thrice with evidence
I wish you all the best dear
Poster even if we tell you to move on, you won't. So weelu aka di gi nma tinye na isi.
ReplyDeleteMy darling....You dont have a problem and deep inside you know what you want ..Abeg Economy is hard jare....
ReplyDeleteYou see, it didn't matter whether you cohabited or not, nor did it stop him from cheating despite d fact that u served in his state to be close to him.
ReplyDeleteHe has given that girl doggy without condom, don't be deceived.
I know u will still forgive him.
Since he ain't putting his sperms in one basket, I suggest u sow ur oats if u have the liver.
Thank you
DeleteI remember reading this same poster's chronicle back then oo.
DeleteThou shalt not put your trust in man because it can fail anytime.
Poster if you still choose to continue with that affair, then say no more when shit hits the fan.
Lmaooo @ Is it true all men cheat. Lips sealed atm to that queshion but I feel you should go ahead and marry him. Even if you catch dem red handed, they d'd still LIE. No perfect guy out there. Tooor
ReplyDeleteHahahahahahqhqh so una don begin to see wetin i been dey talk since abi. ALL MEN CHEAT and any woman wey refuse to accept that now will accept in the nearest future with a shock plastered all over her face. If he is good and respect you while at it nne carry go, this akuya in this case has no respect for her from what i read, so its best she finds another man who will respect her even when he is cheating.
DeleteKawa yayane, yaya aiki da iyali?
Marry who?
DeleteKaiiii
Hahahahahaha! Magana gaskiya ne kam @pastors daughter amma ba sua yarda. Toor, ya za ayi.
DeleteKomai lafiya kalau ma dear. Nagode kwo!
Marry him na @IBK😉😛
Queen n boss will advise u.
ReplyDeleteNot all men cheat pls
ReplyDeleteWhat your man feels for you is love but definitely not true love...there's a big difference.
A man can love you and still cheat on you but a man who loves you truly will never jeopardize your happiness for another woman .
You better don't look at what family will say and look for another man kia kia.
He will soon start fucking that his cook that is if he has not started .
You live close to him yet he's still not satisfied
Wish you read that story posted on our WhatsApp group ...your eyes go open
Ibuks, he's fucking her o, steadily and rhythmically,skin to skin.
DeletePost the story here now..
DeleteAll this things u are saying is passing thru d other ear cos this girl is in love...she will probably learn from her own mistakes
DeleteJust imagine!! What else does the man want? So despite the fact that you go to his house every weekend, he still has time to bring in a chic Bah.
DeleteLesson learnt: never place your life on hold because of any man/woman.
If you know you can cope, go ahead and marry him.
DeleteBut let it be on record that you saw the signs, don't come wailing and lamenting when you get married and dude becomes worse.
Have it at the back of your mind that he will never change.
My little sis is regretting her life now, her husband sleeps with anything and everything. Sometimes he doesn't come home to sleep. She is living like a spinster.
Meanwhile just like you she saw all the signs and people warned. She said they were jealous, hmm.
So what I am saying?? The decision is yours to make. If you think the guy is the best thing that ever happened to you and you can cope, go ahead.
Please leave that unrepentant cheat and save yourself heartache in marriage.
ReplyDeletePoster listen to me.That guy did not love you.He is just keeping you because of your ponyo.If you eventually marry him he will continue to cheat on you!
ReplyDeleteTell him you want to be alone for now.Give your self time and focus on getting a job,skills or professional certificate for your self after your service year than jumping into another relationship!
Wishing you the best.
God bless you
DeleteSex video? My dear the handwritings are on the wall. If you marry him, I will be here to read your chronicles.
ReplyDeleteGood day to you!
As in ehn
DeleteNo be Arabic dem take write am o...very clear something
Once a cheat, always a cheat. Best to walk now; a broken engagement is better than a broken marriage.
ReplyDeleteYou regret having only him ke? Why let someone's horrible actions bring out the worst in you?
ReplyDeleteI'm also surprised you're asking us if you should move on or go with him! Don't you have a mind of your own?
This is why, it is very unfair to yourself to lose yourself to a man whilst you're in a relationship. Ladies need to learn to be their own self and keep working on being a better version of themselves for their own sake.
Now, my advise is, ask yourself if you can manage him the way he is, as a serial cheat since you confirmed this is the third time. If cheating is a deal breaker for you, please break the deal now. It would hurt and would be a bit hard but you won't die.
Your family and friends are not the one who'll suffer the heartaches and consequences of his immoral ways in the future so choose wisely dear.
It is well with you
ReplyDeleteIt is well with you
ReplyDeleteHe will still come begging? Anyway its you who wears the shoes that knows where it pinches you. If you can condone years of cheating and treating infections, then accept him back when he begs. But if you can't, then move on because you deserves better.
ReplyDeleteHe is also a BVs
ReplyDeleteHahahaha...
DeleteNa wa!
Babe your mumu Don do please move on and you shouldn't have written this knowing he would see it Enugu guys cheat a lot so next time get a friend outside this blog to ask advice for he might think you are desperate
ReplyDeleteNa wa!
ReplyDeleteThis your boo seems to be an unrepentant play boy. This is the kind of man that will cheat after marriage.
There is nothing wrong with what you did by getting your own apartment, He's just a stupid man without good morals.
Poster it is in your hands now to choose what you want.
Two options here
1. If you are desperate to marry & you can bear him cheating on you after you both are married then continue & speed up the marriage plans.
2. If you cannot deal with a cheating husband,anyhow husband with no good morals,
& ultimately if you can deal with having to wait for a prince charming which might/might not take a lot of time to achieve,then ditch this man & move on with your life.
You're a foolish girl. Residence. Home. Olodo. Don't go and look for a job.
ReplyDeleteLol why so harsh? Correct with love,you know 'engrish' is hard.
DeleteIt's not bad that u are faithful to one guy but the good thing is you realized your mistake residing in the same state.
ReplyDeleteThank God u are seeing all the "no no signs " now, so when u marry him u won't say u never saw d signs. So ask yourself,"is this d kind of man i want to spend my life with? Is this d kind of husband i would want for my daughter? You know his cheating will continue when u marry him right? Your family won't join u in d pain and suffering o..last last,its ur decision to make.
ReplyDeleteYou aren't serving in his residence, You are serving in his state of residence.
ReplyDeleteThat being said what you can't tolerate now, better don't think it will change later in marriage. It will only get worse and in fact be amplified. If you want to leave him cry, wail and move on. Life happens. Dont regret being in the relationship, just see it as a lesson learned.
All the best in your future endeavors.
Whats is 5yrs compared to d unspent years u hv wt him if u eventually marry him
ReplyDeleteDont look back
🏃🏃🏃🏃🏃🏃🏃🏃🏃🏃 Else u wud be a chronicles customer.
Girl don't be so dramatic. Apply reason here, if you leave him you will be fine. You are in NYSE the best time to meet new people. You are in a lively location. Make friends and move on with your life.
ReplyDeleteNew York Stock Exchange (NYSE) right
DeleteChoi...This post is hilarious. Gbagauns everywhere u go.
DeleteAnon 17:30
DeleteSomeone cannot play with you again .... chai 😂😂😂😂
I can't deal 😂😂
She must have been very emotional writing this, you guys should gv her a break, but babe, how will you just build your life around a man like this, 5 years + sex video??? You try o, what responsible guy makes a sex video biko nu???
DeleteI have one question when he starts cheating even in marriage will he be cheating on you or your friends and family?
ReplyDeleteWhy do you care for the expectations of your friends and fam...you are the one that will be in the marriage and last i checked you are the one in a relationship with a cheating idiot that shows no remorse.
Goodluck with that!
Pls take a long walk and move on
ReplyDeleteI moved on from reading young adult novels a long time ago.I refuse to go back.
ReplyDeleteRIP to the unfortunate brain cells that would commit suicide after reading this.
Lmao
DeleteWait nah
Let's read and advise them together biko
Mtcheweew rubbish
ReplyDeleteAgreeing to serve in his state of residence wast the first mistake you made.....now see the crap you're facing!!!
ReplyDeleteIf you think you can continue with him, go on with the situationship but if you know that you can't cope with his cheating and sneaky attitude, Biko leave him for your own peace of mind. Do not because of what your family and friends will say continue with him if you don't want to.
Thelma it wasn't a mistake. It was God trying to reveal things to her. Now she knows the man she wants to marry, let her not come and cry wolf tomorrow.
DeleteNne, don't settle for less, I know it's been 5years, but it's better you leave now than in the future. Your guy has no remorse for cheating so why should you care.
ReplyDeleteYou are an adult and shouldn't regret your actions, rather you should learn from them.
3 time cheat will NEVER change.
3 times too much seff
DeleteNwanyi this platform isn't for you alone.. Every year one story .. Please dump him if you want to abeg. Oginidi
ReplyDeleteLmao😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Delete😃😃😃😃
DeleteLolllllll
DeleteLmao
DeleteRotflmao!
DeleteMy dear dont be too sure he would come begging..since he isnt remorseful about the new girl..this might just be his way of telling you Babe i no do again
ReplyDeleteI tell you. She is there, waiting for a robust apology. Lol...
DeleteBelieving "all guys cheat" makes ladies settle for less than they deserve. I don't even know if you love yourself first of all since you're considering going back cause of family and friends. Will they stay in the same house with you guys? You want to push your happiness aside cause of what people will say? You're a corper,go out there and make friends. Don't regret anything. At least now you know the kind of man he is. It's a pity you'll still carry your head and go back to him after everything though.
ReplyDeleteYou dey mind them?
DeleteAll men cheat ko,all men cheater nii
Sadly!
DeleteWelcome back my dear we like to see gehs like you that listen to sound advice. Thank God now you see it would have been a bad idea ti stay in his house. Imagine if u were there and pregnant now. My dear my advice is pls continue ur service. Keep your eye out for other suitors. When you finish go home. And shine your eye next time. Except you want ti marry a clear cheater. HW will continue cheating after marriage and may have kids outside.
ReplyDeleteYou should learn to be selfish when it comes to relationship, never lower your standards and never do something just because your bf says so. You are young, energetic and I'm sure very intelligent. I'm sure you feel bad because you guys probably had sex more, well you know the good thing about it, you more experienced when it comes to bedmatics.
ReplyDeleteYou have to be brave and look for ways to make best use of the little time you have in Enugu, register for a catering class or any other handwork, get busy and make money. Dress good, look pretty and hold your head high. You never know your Mr Right might just be around the corner.
Dont be scared to love again, and yes make friends with the opposite sex, don't limit yourself to one person. Be sure to be on the Mermaid mood.
Cry if you have to. You'll be fine.
*** Anonymous Chielo***
Dear Poster: Forgive him but move on..Have you not tried with all the disrespect he has shown you..If he wanted you to stay in his house, why hasnt he man up do at least introduction and trad wedding..he is using that excuse of you not wanting to stay to cheat on you..Just let him go and Please dont tell his parents anything that transpired, its between you and him infact let them ask him what happened..Just use wisdom in handling this thing..And please pray as well
ReplyDeleteIs it by staying in his house that he won't cheat? How about married men that cheat? Are their wife(ves) not @home?
DeletePoster's bf is a cheat simple!
Please, move on. No remorse whatsoever? no no. Meanwhile, do you want to be happy or you want to make your family and friends happy? Are you willing to condone the cheating after marriage and forever be silent cos you want to make them happy? Talk to yourself and move on or endure pain for the rest of your life.
ReplyDeleteMove on with your life baby girl true love will find you.
ReplyDeleteDo not go into a marriage you will regret.A broken relationship is better than a broken marriage. The Nigga is a goat doesn't deserve you.
Work on your self, keep your self busy and hang out with people that makes you happy with time you will forget him. Cheers!!
Hmmn! Look at the life of the so called boyfriend you wan die on top!
ReplyDeleteBiko just give yourself brain abeg!
Girls of nowadays are just too daft! Kai.
ReplyDeleteHahahahahahahaj i am glad you asked that question. Yes ALL MEN CHEAT. A man can love you with his life and still cheat on you honey but your useless boyfriend cheats on you "always" bcoz he has no tiny respect for.
ReplyDeletei have seen men who cheat on their girlfriends with utmost respect.
Dump his ass like a use rag NOW
You came to ma mind immediately I saw that queshion and you didnt disappoint. Lmao😂😂😂
DeleteHahahahahahahahahah my dear girls no dey hear word. I laugh when ever i hear ladies scream my man is cheating on me. Like why the fuck are you surprised?
DeleteCan you make a dog behave like a sheep? Mbanu na
You this girl ehn😂
DeleteThere's no correlation between cheating and respect. None whatsoever.
DeleteThank you Shantelle
DeleteMy dear, know yourself enough to know what you want and value yourself enough not to trade whatever you want for the satisfaction of someone else and denying yourself. Why are you still with someone that keeps cheating on You? Well if you don't mind having a cheating husband, you can go ahead but if you do then you know what to do. He is even bitter you are not living with him? Yes he will because he knows you don't know yourself enough to know what you want hence you must go with his flow. Put some value on yourself girl and stop hurting over a boyfriend.
ReplyDeleteMy dear, know yourself enough to know what you want and value yourself enough not to trade whatever you want for the satisfaction of someone else and denying yourself. Why are you still with someone that keeps cheating on You? Well if you don't mind having a cheating husband, you can go ahead but if you do then you know what to do. He is even bitter you are not living with him? Yes he will because he knows you don't know yourself enough to know what you want hence you must go with his flow. Put some value on yourself girl and stop hurting over a boyfriend.
ReplyDeleteMy dear..its a blessing that you actually went there coz it enabled you discover the things you did...Like how would you have known he's cheating with a new girl? My dear you have a serial cheat as a bf and he wont hange after marriage...nobody does.
ReplyDeleteIt's better you start over than live a life of lies and the possibility of STDs and the rest. My dear move on with your life and let God give you a great man that'll love you and remain faithful to you. He will always beg you and go back to sleeping with another woman be sure of that. Its even a good thing you know this now than finding out when you'd have been married.
Move on...His family..your family..your friends wont be there when you suffer through your future STDs or hearache and sorrow....
You and you alone counts in this..and it's your decision...wether to be happy or to live in regret after marrying him for the rest of your life.
It is good you found out now. And as you said, it is a trend for him. He has been cheating and hasn't stopped. For him to even go as far as makung a sex video shows how root deep he is into his activities. If you can condone the cheating, you can go ahead with him. But if you can't and you need peace of mind and a good marriage, pls take a walk. Think about yourself abd what us good for you. Be selfish. Forget family expectations.
DeleteAnd no dear...not all men cheat. Never believe that rubbish. It is only peddled by guys who lack self control and ladies who keep dating the same kind of men that cant hold body.
There are faithful men out there
Walk and don't look back. And while you are @ it, sing yourself some Beyonce 's 'run the world'. We've got so much in us and we really don't need no man to shine. I always walked from toxic relationships immediately I smell it. Please no second chance!. Forever is too long a word to mess with. Walk away while you can n love yourself more. No one can love u as much as you love yourself!. Cant stand meandering Blokos biko😒😒.E hugs hun💋💋💋
ReplyDeleteYou did well by not cohabiting...if he is eager to have u under his roof he shd do d needful - pay ur bride price, shikena!
ReplyDeleteHe probably let u in on d conversation purposely, to make u feel insecure and then try to secure ur territory by moving in with him. Keep ur house o, u can go to his place and stay a whole day but sleep in ur house mbok!
To say that all men cheat is not true, but the percentage of faithful men is so small, very tiny. Like out of 100 men only 3 are 100% faithful...like my friend would say "it is easier for a camel to pass thru the eye of a needle than for u to find a man who falls in the 3%". Very hard. You could keep searching for that 3% an entire lifetime and not find...it is an extreme kind of luck to catch a faithful man.
Torture him a bit before u forgive him. Tell him in strong terms that u won't condone cheating,now or in marriage. Tell him cheating is a no- no and a deal breaker for u and that u'd be giving him d very last chance. Forgive him and move on, if he is good in other areas.
Forgive ke. Pls don't speak the English u don't know the meaning. If cheating is a deal breaker for her then while still talk about forgiveness
DeleteOga since you will be reading, you are an asshole
ReplyDeleteSecond it's easy for us to chant do away with him but we won't provide another boo for you...for all we know he could be playing with the other girls destiny..lol
But since you are used to sending chronicles on his behalf...please get ready to write more and send in if you eventually move on with him...
A broken relationship is far beta dan a broken marriage.
ReplyDelete6ix months before getting married I advise both m&f to stay with each other for At least 3months! Most especially wen both of u are in a distant relationship because spending some time with each other will help u know more about yourselves.
ReplyDeleteI can't do that oh
DeleteBut I can try a month sha
Where have you been mammie😩
I missed you and your bestie queen and boss😂
IBK-Barbie I miss u too jawe 😍 welcome back. I am also in search of QUEEN😅😅😅 maybe she's on holiday with the kids (major distraction 😂😂😂😂
Delete"How will l start a new life now?? I really want to call it off but our families and friends are looking up on us because we are planning to get married towards the end of this year". With that quote up there you wonder if BVs ever make any sense of the good advice they read from this blog.
ReplyDeleteOya na, go on. Marry and endure the pains that will be meted out to you because of your family and what society would say.
#yaran zamani
Nne your mumu don do. Let me leave the first one but the second one that even has Sex tape you stayed and was asking if you could cohabit with him? Haaaa!! Well at least you have decided to leave.
ReplyDeleteBut how could you stay with such a selfish, morals lacking and wicked soul. He is so blinded by his selfish desires that he has guts to be embittered when you got a place of your own?? Is he the one paying? Even if he is. You didn't put a gun to his head and you're not his wife.
Pls note that he wanted you to hear everything. It's left for you to leave him cos he takes you for a fool. Just try your best to forget what everyone will say.
Ada.
Please also note that he knew about the video and stop playing defender of life,you are obviously still in love with the guy.
DeleteMove on girl, a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage girl!
ReplyDelete... Jesus is my worth!
It is good you found out now. And as you said, it is a trend for him. He has been cheating and hasn't stopped. For him to even go as far as makung a sex video shows how root deep he is into his activities. If you can condone the cheating, you can go ahead with him. But if you can't and you need peace of mind and a good marriage, pls take a walk. Think about yourself abd what us good for you. Be selfish. Forget family expectations.
ReplyDeleteAnd no dear...not all men cheat. Never believe that rubbish. It is only peddled by guys who lack self control and ladies who keep dating the same kind of men that cant hold body.
There are faithful men out there
Gbam👌
DeleteGood u know the kind of man he's, the choice is left for u to decide on. U already know he's a cheat AND incase u end up marrying this guy PLEASE don't even try to change him because u already know and accepted him like that!
ReplyDeleteIt's really pathetic you have an unrepentant boyfriend but i can't understand you saying he called you unknowingly and spoke to another person for 17 mins with you recording it.. (you self mean ooo.. burning his airtime without you saying a word).
ReplyDeleteWell, these are part of the gains of trying to please a boyfriend by all means even when you know you can't cope. You served in his town and booked a house close to his which means you practically is the wife next door and you expect him not to cheat with you close by and not rendering the service of your supposed role which you planted in your head...
Well, speak to him and get yourselves to an understanding of all there is to talk about.. It's true he might not change easily or otherwise depending on how you tame your man...
But ma dear, for you to be around your boyfriend and he calls another babe to get foodstuffs and come cook simply points to a RED FLAG about yourself as not really one of those who like the kitchen duties but come spend the weekend on the bed and go back home...
#JustPasserBy
And someone somewhere used her NYSC year to follow man to Enugu. And that same person is crying because the man doesn't value her 'sacrifice' (news flash??!). I am tired of writing epistle for you people. Someone will write and write and write, and even dig up every forgotten gist; yet you don't learn. You finish school and rather than make yourself useful to your generation, you are using youth to put up with a cheating boyfriend who will rather have you as a live-in lover when he hasn't paid your bride price. Just forgive him so you can be on the high-way to an unhappy ever-after life. Next thing would be a girl sending you your husband's sex tape. 'Left the video on by mistake' my right foot! Look on the bright side... Nigga is a budding porn-star and can make money for the family.
ReplyDeleteTomorrow now, you go and marry and start seeing side-chics in every good-looking girls' face. But when those ones were using their time to build dreams you were there tying yourself to a joker that doesn't even have values. *loud hiss* Your current 'state of heart' is the consequence of all your decisions. As an adult continue to take the ones that satisfy you most.
Chikito no vex nah😂😂😂😂😂
DeleteThe heavy signs are there but yet you still want to go ahead, why can't we ladies learn and change? A man is cheating on you, both of you are in the same state yet he is cheating what makea you think he will not cheat on you after marriage? You better borrow yourself sense and move on, he is not the only sweet, big prick around
ReplyDeleteWhy did you even agree to serve where he resides in D first place, he has cheated on you 3trice and u are still wanting to hold on.Those your friends that are looking up to you guys will not stay in D marriage with you neither will they share in your pain u better move on from him biko.
ReplyDelete'how will i start a new life?'
ReplyDeleteYou are lucky you are not my younger sister. I will definitely have given you a dirty slap after this narrative. Say man don finish??! Nonsense and ingredient.
Haba.. Chikito Farabale nah.. Lol.. Nonsense+ingredients= ??? Biko tell us oo
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The thing is God never gives us sisters like this oh
DeleteNa from teenager she go don sabi ,she will never make any mistake I made walai
So sorry dear ...i had a similar case when with my ex well i served in his state of residence but we still have to travel to see each other, different local govt, we preferred it like that , yes we later parted ways mutually,there was no money to start settling down, and i was having plenty suitors and my family wasn't smiling ..well he begged me to move on and after dragging my feet for about another year , i moved on, yes am married now but i really do miss him and we both regret it till date, he told me he got his girl pregnant and just paid the bride price and things are getting better now, he still updates me even if i am not in Nigeria,so poster whether you lived with him or not, a cheater is a cheater and that wont stop him,if it was meant to be even if you like serve in zamfara he will be faithful to you, move on dear there is always a very bright light at the end of the tunnel its not your family and friends that will be in the marriage its you,the choice is yours to make, is he worth all the troubles. good luck.
ReplyDeleteONE F**KING YEAR! Should I list the things i achieved in my NYSC year for you? Let me not even mention other corpers. You go and attach yourself to one joker. What does he even have?? Only you give pussy, only you turn detective, only you send chronicle, only you can't move on. You use 5 freaking years of your young life to put up with an unrepentant cheat. I don't pity you ONE BIT. *ntooin*
ReplyDeleteMy dear I don't wanna know how old you are, but pls forget about that small boy.
ReplyDeleteAll he's interested is for you guys to cohabit, you become his sex mechine morning and night, probably you will be the one feeding him all through your stay with him in disguised for marriage, then when he's tired of you, he dumps you for the next girl.
But can't you on your own see the writing on the wall? Which one is how do I start a new life?
My God!
Why re girls like this for heavens sake?
Poster are you sure you actually know who your man is?? You had an opportunity to know the real man your dating for past years and your complaining trash. You need to know your man before you get in to marriage so you don't run out. Mind you distance relationship is never easy at all to both parties, I wonder how you were able to record his call for 17mins when you said he called you thinking it was the other girl. I believe something is missing here.. People will always advise you move on move on move on, as if they can easily do same. Now for him to decide you should serve in same town where he is is to tell you that he wants it to work out for both of you. Well not moving in with him is your own choice and in a way it could have helped you guys know yourself better since he has always been out of town.. Anyways check your heart for what you want and make it work my two cent.. Wish you all the best.
ReplyDeleteThat's the line we use for them. Stay with me shows I am ready to be committed...lol...whereas we know we are just looking for constant sex partner, cleaner,.cook, housekeeper
DeleteI will open my daughters eyes to all these tricks. Y'all can't trick a trickster's babygirl
Pls move on unless you are ready to be treating infections upon infections, that guy is an unrepentant gigolo & play boy as in ashawo nwoke
ReplyDeletePoster just move on, that's all
ReplyDeleteA broken relationship is a successful relationship. It is marriages that shouldnt break. Even at that, some marriages are better broken than you dying in it.
ReplyDeleteUr matured and u only can tell urself the truth, so be wise now that you still have chance to be.
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Haba! My sister this ur story be like my own oo! just that fear no go gree me write my own chronincle may bvs for here no go send me go my early grave😅😅😅 to ginger chikito anger the more i have been dating my boyfriend for the past 8 years this is the 9th year and he never still proposed ooo though he dey serve papa land sha! May after he round up this this year he nor propose then i go write una but till then i reserve the sweet jist for another day.
ReplyDelete9yrs !!!😨
DeleteI pray you have your happy ending with him if not the good Lord is your strength.
I raise Beyoncé hands for u
DeleteI started dating my husband in march 2013, and got married in August 2015.
ReplyDeleteSaw a chat with his friend when he was asked if he is a cheating hubby, and his reply was ' no, not yet though'.
I am getting my gears on, as I have decided to become a cheating wife before him. Who saint epp
And for ur mind, you are gonna be a better person by cheating on him. That's if you have not even started yet... Well ma.simple advice would be for you to.keep doing what has kept him faithful till now and ensure you build a happy home.. Because, if you start, you will come and write who cheating epp for here and u won't like your own tales .... Cheers
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And for ur mind, you are gonna be a better person by cheating on him. That's if you have not even started yet... Well ma.simple advice would be for you to.keep doing what has kept him faithful till now and ensure you build a happy home.. Because, if you start, you will come and write who cheating epp for here and u won't like your own tales .... Cheers
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Just tell me why that man should marry you?
ReplyDeleteIs it vagina he hasn't browsed?
Is it brains that you've got?
After all that you have seen and heard directly from him, you are writing chronicles and telling us about "families?"
Will both families be around when he will cheat and beat you if you complain?
#deepsigh.... wait!!! You mean you wasted your 5years with that cheat?? I am nat judging u, of course I know how hard it is to let go, especially when you love the person in question bur gal, he's a cheat and yeah, you can start a new life, live better, and even achieve something great without him. Start from somewhere already, dump his ass and Move On.. you can do it..
ReplyDeletePoster I don't mean to insult you but what exactly is your problem. Is this the kind of man you want to spend the rest of your life with? Are you handicapped? Is he the only man on earth that you can't just do away with him? You're concerned about what your families will say. Yimu* tell them you're not interested in the rshp anymore and that he's a cheat which will never end anyways. Have some self respect for yourself. And the wicked man wanted you two to cohabit. He obviously has no regards for you or your opinions else he'd have shut his dirty mouth even after you convinced him. You have spent 5 years with him. That's your mistake and we learn from mistakes. Now move on with dignity.work on yourself. Have some self respect for yourself. Go and read books on rshp like 'why men love bitches" and "why men marry bitches". Don't settle for less. If you go back to him, then be ready to endure and tolerate for the rest of your life. He has seen you finish. There's nothing more for him to look towards with you.
ReplyDeleteI don't understand your friends and family are looking up to you as if na professional exam you dey write....hmmmmmm my dear think o is ds the kind of man you want to spend the rest of your life with?u have really watsted 5 years of your sweet life with him sef
ReplyDeleteMy dear,it is better u move on with ur life now to avoid stories dt touch in marriage
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