Should men only marry women who have day Jobs or earn a living?
Saturday, July 22, 2017
What Take Home Pay Qualifies A Woman To Be Wifed....
Yesterday we discussed Men and their take home pay as it affects getting Married....Now we are turning the question....
Should men only marry women who have day Jobs or earn a living?
Should men only marry women who have day Jobs or earn a living?
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I don't want to know about a woman's take home. Have a damn job and be able to support your family where necessary.
ReplyDeleteMy concern now is dt I'm hungry....so this pple dnt knw it's time to serve examiners lunch?😥😥😥 Haven't tested anything since morning(just water) not dt I'm fasting
DeleteEvery woman should have a source of income, no matter how little. She should atleast be able to take care of certain tins without her husband's input!
DeleteI went through comments and I was pained in my heart see how low our women think and see how low their sense of self-worth!! This proves deep down women themselves are their problems and still see themselves as second fiddle to men, if a man can get a good job, own a car and a nice apartment before marriage can't women do the same? That is GENDER EQUALITY!! From comments so far you women have agreed with president Buhari that a woman's place is in the kitchen and the other room and it's such a shame!!!!
DeleteI think 5k I mean five thousand naira
ReplyDeleteA man should be able to marry a woman that earns 15k...
Abi, no be Dem be head of the family again?
@Anonymous Orubebe
U Don forget equality now now😂😂😂
Delete😄😄😄
DeleteDoes it matter?
ReplyDeleteWhat a woman earns does not matter. As long as she can take care of her personal needs its fine and should not be idle. The man should be the provider so his matters and he must have a car too. Jumping bus up and down with ur husband is a no no. When my father married my mom he had a car at 27 and was working at CBN. If u come with leg to my house my dad will ask u questions.
DeleteAbsolutely YEZ!
DeletePls when has having a car become a requirement to getting married?
DeleteMy husband already had a car before marriage but making it mandatory dt a guy MUST HV A CAR BEFORE MARRIAGE IS WRONG ABEG
They can be managing first before d car comes.
Some pple prefer having their own building first before buying a car
Some see it as a luxury(maintaining a car isn't easy)
Some feel they can't be parking their cars in a rented apartment(hv a colleague lk dt) so prefers building first
If u are opportune to own a car before marriage,fine if not,no biggie abt it.... It all depends on the individual
Anon13:03,it doesnt my dear. A woman's money is her money. Why will a man be seriously wanting to know her take home pay before marrying her? That one will just turn you to the head. Well,if you are earning 400k you can lie it's 80k sha...
DeleteTrinity i like your zaddy!
Ehis, that car is important oh. How person go dey jump bus with pregnancy or kids?
DeleteWhat if God forbid he had a car but somewhere along the line lost it or got involved in an accident and beyond repair?
DeleteWon't they come? Or they won't go out bcx of that?car no really be priority o if u ask me
Car is a necessity not a luxury.
DeleteEhis..U are a very wise woman..God bless u.
Delete***Chy Ozo ***
Haaaaaaaaa as far as the lady is working to compliment what you have to offer, you're both good to go. I just know I can't marry without doing anything tangible for myself
ReplyDelete*Larry was here*
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DeleteOK now let me talk like them in this blog...A woman should be on 6 figures with a nice car and a a duplex over her roof before looking for who to say I do to! ndi uwa.......mtewwww.
ReplyDeleteAnd she should also own a country and a continent! 😂😂
Delete😂😂😂😂😂😂
DeleteNina imela agi?
DeleteArinm'nma Dede. Udo!
DeleteEnough to buy her personal stuff.
ReplyDeleteFor doing your man a favor ten thousand naira is kk
ReplyDeleteNdi ngbu
Gerroutahere
A woman's earnings shouldn't matter as such. Even 10k is fine! 🤗
ReplyDeleteNa the girl do herself? The thing is as long as money is coming from both sides.
ReplyDeleteNever marry a jobless woman else you go pay bill run mad.
Even if it is 2K she is earning it will count and lessen suffer.
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DeleteWord. At least she should earn enough to take care of her immediate needs and then supplement in the payment of little little bills in the house. Except a husband asks his wife not to work, she's prone to insults if she's idle. A friend of mine who wasn't doing anything at the moment, though a graduate depended on her husband for as little as pad. When they had issues, oga cut her off financial assistance from him. No child yet. He would travel and leave nothing for feeding and maintenance. Thank God her parents lived in the same city. Whenever his madness starts, she'll just pack her load and stay at her parent's till he returns. The insult and humiliation became too much that she couldn't even afford her own toiletries without the husband's input. At the end, na she go find work by herself after so much ginger from me and her mum.
DeleteBut according to my tradition women don't need take home pay before they marry them
ReplyDeleteMen are seen as slaves in my village
There are consequences for not taking care of your woman
We do sacrifice such lazy men to our ancestors
We do that by squeezing their balls then stoning them to death
My village is hidden somewhere in Nigeria
We don't joke with tradition
*spreads mat* 😂
ReplyDeleteMe too 😂😂😂😂😂
DeleteWhy na? I was looking forward to your comment...lol
DeleteThis person was being sarcastic obviously. Women have been posting sarcastic ideas about cheating in a marriage recently. I guess this is his payback.
Jesus!!! This Ichoptas you have got to be kidding us here.
DeleteSqueeze their balls and stoning them to death ke? That what happened nahhh, no be by force abeg ohhh! Looooool
Nice legs Chiki
DeleteThanks @anon 16:12
Delete@princess sche..... Ehen? So that someone will tell me that salary still hasn't made my Chike put a ring on it? Mbanu! I spread mat 😂
Hmmmmm.so money is now the qualifying point?
ReplyDeleteStella leave that thing,this is why marriages don't last this days fuck boys everywhere. which takes care of you and the children?
ReplyDeletepeople twisting things to suit them.A woman responsibility is to take care of the home and work diligently to give the home a benefitting looks like training the kids,cooking,mending and its likes.
men should shut up when they're treated like shit nah by these heavyweight ladies.
nonsense. make unah dey wait for ready made wife nah.
Drop this mentality of yours already, if ur husband don't want u to work or contribute for the upkeep of the home no pro, but don't come here to say women responsibility is to take care of the home and kids. If so why have a nanny? Who pay for the nanny? Women should be independent to a fault!
DeleteMadam except your husband is cool with you being a housewife, if he's not, get off your lazy ass and get a job or do business. Stop being a liability. This economy is not family friendly. Do you want your husband to die of high blood pressure? Only him feeding, school fees, groceries, utilities, rent, clothing and miscellaneous including your toiletries and hair and clothing. Nawa. Nobody said you should do more but support financially too. This is not the time to be a liability. Bring something to the table and earn your respect.
Delete*befitting
Deletelook at him and tell me if he looks responsible. king my biggg ass.
ReplyDeletesitting on their asses all day,waiting for hard working women to answer them toes and nails.
nonsense
Nomso😁😁😀😁😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
ReplyDeleteYes oh, you are a king. You didn't come to suffer. Isn't that what ladies said yesterday 😀😁😂😂
I have been laughing since I saw this
I don't know how much a lady should have though but I know a lady shouldn't be idle and waiting on the husband for every single penny. It's fine if your husband doesn't want you to work but that doesn't mean you can do business. A woman who can hold down her own any day, anytime issa baby girl 👧 for life
You can't do business from home.
DeleteWell said fab Mum. Women should endeavour to make a living too.
DeleteFab mum i totally agree
DeleteDepends on the man, if he wants working class or an entrepreneur.
ReplyDeleteCos I've seen top babes in NAPIMS who are very single n searching, and jobless ones too who are S n S as well. You can get married even if u don't have shingbai as a woman and vice versa.
Do we have NAPIMS in PH too?
DeleteNope, NAPIMS is not a one man organisation.
DeleteNAPIMS is an NNPC sub, I know.
Delete@Blackberry nne Na only NAPIMS you see? They are everywhere. Hot rich babes still single in their 30s. Then one fresh-eyed 21 year old corper who doesn't know left from right will come and marry correct boys who don't even care that they don't earn shishi.
DeleteAs a lady if u dnt have enough income to take care of ur personal needs, home front and ur immediate family (father,brother,sisiter) then you shouldn't think of getting married. At least be able to take yourself because no man wants a woman who doesn't bring anything to the table 😆😆😆
ReplyDeleteThey are coming for u😂😂😂😂😂 #bittertruth
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DeleteLEP I agree with you there. I just wish you wold change this your Blog name. Kikikikikikikikiki
DeleteLEP always makes sense but the moniker no be am.
DeleteU people should leave myour Blog ID for me...I like what I like and the ladies appreciate myour skills😃😃
DeleteAsa( Sandra) l am still waiting
ReplyDeleteLemme sit and learn
ReplyDeleteLemme sit and learn
ReplyDeleteatleast 5ok up is ok. let her just be doing something, it will help her appreciate the little her husband is giving her. when u earn salary, you will know what it means to make money. if ur hubby or someone else dash u money, u will appreciate it.
ReplyDeleteTrue!
DeleteEarnings shouldn't be the criteria for marriage. Character and spiritual/mental/emotional maturity should. If a spouse earns a million but is hot tempered or lies or cheats or all, should you marry him/her?
ReplyDeleteMy husband and I weren't working or earning when we got married. Our wedding was "low keyed" but today, after years and many kids our love life is "high keyed". If you love her and she has a good character, that's what matters. I began owning things together with my fiance back then before we got married. We have a joint account today and never discuss who owns or earns what. That is the essence of the two being one.
So you're encouraging marrying and bringing kids into the world to suffer? Earnings matter. I'm glad yours ended on a good note but many others dont. Those kids end up as house helpa and hawking on the road. Earnings matter pls
DeleteHmmmmmm
Delete@XXXTrinityXXX
DeleteMy neighbor who was earning well got married and the recession hit, he lost his job.
Having spent a lot on a society wedding, they were helplessly spending the little left in job hunting; both him and the wife. I have been lending a helping hand since then; just for them to eat. So what happens? If you were the lady that married based on earnings you divorce him? Think objectively.
When a girl is in her early 20's and you tell her "someone wants to marry you", she will say "who is the man?"
DeleteLate 20's you tell her she will say, "what is the man?"
By late 30's you tell her, she will say "where is the man?"
By late 40's you tell her, she will say "please where is the man, I will pay him to marry me money is not the problem"
Na you get head for here 13:47. Nigerians have become severely materialistic. I can't blame them though, the economy is terrible. Still, life is more than money.
DeleteAll I can say is she shouldn't be idle. Joblessness sickens!
ReplyDeleteAnd asking ur husband for money for every little thing brings insult so she ahould be able to take care of her needs
DeleteI really love this topic 😂 kudos Stella your blog bn balling for days! Keep it up! Make I read comments.
ReplyDeleteI doo too😄😄
Delete😂😂😂😂😂 men will have multiple 'cum' over this post today. You people should go and seat down jor! Whats your business with your woman's money? Should you even make plans based on your wife's cash or earning? Like I said yesterday, men should hustle right 1st b4 thinking of woman. As for women get busy, do something to make your own money no matter how small, not so you give your husband's money but so that you can proudly beat your chest and say you can survive with or without your hubby. There's that satisfaction you get when you know you can stand up fall without a man. It's terrible that a woman will wait on her man to give her money to buy pad, make hair, recharge your phone etc. It's really disgusting. Make your own money women. There's no guarantee in this life oh, the only guarantee you have to an extent is the one that has your name solely on it. As for that OGABOSS from yesterday's post that said men treat me like trash cos I said the hard truth, Nnegi! Your mother! If you're a pauper don't blame me. I'm not your chi.
ReplyDeleteNonso,you are not a king. You is a broke ass...looking for who to mooch off. Afi take care of you na...oya tata kuku come and suckle.
ReplyDeleteKings don't wait on women. They make their money and take care of their family.they be kinging and earn respect in their home.
Well,i just want to blv this one is being sarcastic. Boy bye#
A woman should not be idle. If oga doesn't want you to work for someone, start a business.
ReplyDeleteHe tweeted this as a joke in response to women stating a take home pay for men. A woman should have a job and not depend entirely on a man even if he is her husband. Marriage isn't a meal ticket and a husband isn't an ATM, same way a woman isn't a cook.
ReplyDeleteA girl of marriage able age should at least have a skill that can fetch them money or know how to make money. Truth is if you marry a woman who doesn't know how hard it is to make money, she'd most definitely waste your money and not know how to manage a home.
The man can die one day and because she has never worked a day in her life, she might end up mismanaging whatever wealth she inherits from the man. I used to be so reckless with spending while in school. I never cared, every phone that comes out I must get it,laptop, bag etc. When I started working, o boy I don't even know when a new phone comes out. I don't go shopping every month unless for basic stuff.
Working or doing business, helps you even while making personal, official and family decisions. My uncle married a woman who never worked a day or went to school. Even with his little education he could not cope with her and left her after 3kids. She couldn't take care of the home, he married another woman who started selling kolanuts and not too long she starting a thriving business selling provisions. Now that same woman has houses in Lagos. Meanwhile his first wife, still waits on her kids to feed. Even if I'm marrying a billionaire tomorrow, I'd start a business If he says he doesn't want me to work for anyone.
No woman should tell a man what she earns. And dont ever make the mistake of revealing your savings to them. Always keep your mouth 'chut'!
ReplyDeleteWomen please have something doing that brings in cash o. The way our Nigerian men's head touches, nobody knows if he'll kick you out tomorrow. Do it for your future and that of your kids. Laziness no dey pay. What if something happens to your husband tomorrow and he's no more? Will your kids suffer? Hmmmm.....a word is enough for the wise. Women work and make money. *drops🎤*
ReplyDeleteAt least the woman should not be idle, she should have something doing
ReplyDeleteA woman shouldn't be idle she should be able to bring something to the table, even if it's not money, she can bring up ideas.
ReplyDeleteAll in all, the Bible said that man is a source n sustainer of a home that's why he is called the head.
The most important thing as a woman is been a good home n money manager.
But Pls don't kill yourself brain, there is nothing wrong in been richer than your man.
Story of my life..This is why I use my babys pampers as my sanitary towel.
ReplyDeleteI trained as a Registered Nurse Midwife o.Am sitting like a fool,idly at home not because I choose to but I have a disabled child who is very demanding and an attention seeker.
Dear Lord,u see why I keep telling u that I cannot do this anymore????Lift this burden from off my shoulders,amen.
U can still start buying and selling,no matter how small,even if it is in front of your house or online. Many online shops nowadays have the goods in their houses n contract despatch riders to deliver purchases. So sometimes u just have to think out of the box.
DeleteSee the way you called your baby an attention seeker.
DeleteIt's well with you.
I am responding to the last "Anonymous". That is the stay home nurse. I have worked your shoes for a very long time . I stayed home for years because of a disabled child. Even when the child went into a residential facility, I immediately could not start working becos there were already a lot of gaps in my employment history . So please,as difficult as your circumstances are at the moment ,believe in God to change things for you. Pray for permanent relief from God. It could come by way of your child improving,or you getting more help with the child ,or being able to start work even on a part time basis. When God wants to move,we may not know how or when but believe He will do it because He is faithful .My experience has shown me that He remembers His promises and forgives our sins. So I just want to encourage you. All these people talking out of God knows where,you need to know that 99% of women would rather work in some capacity and earn their pay, but sometimes due to circumstances,it may not quite turn out like that. So please stop calling women out and saying they are idle . Nobody enjoys beggy beggy. Thank you and God bless us all.
ReplyDeleteRead this a tell me lady where you belong now:
ReplyDeleteWhen a girl is in her early 20's and you tell her "someone wants to marry you", she will say "who is the man?"
Late 20's you tell her she will say, "what is the man?"
By late 30's you tell her, she will say "where is the man?"
By late 40's you tell her, she will say "please where is the man, I will pay him to marry me money is not the problem"
Whatever a woman earns is not supposed to be a man's problem if truly he is man and he works hard. A responsible man who knows that his responsibility is to cater for his family always strive hard to provide for his family whether the wife is working or not,which is the reason why I love my Igbo brothers mostly Anambrarians😘😘
ReplyDeleteThey wouldn't want their wife to insult them because she's bringing in feeding money for the family,do they hustle hard for the money.
The bible even said that a man that can't provide for his family is worse than an infidel...
But that does not mean that as a wife I won't contribute my own quota...of course in my own way I would be adding to my home in such a way that when ma hubby sees it he would be praising me...
Loving my Ela like no other😘😘😘😘😘😘
Lols.. Babe the only thing I need from you every weekend is goat meat or catfish pepper soup, to wash it down with my cold beers... put every other bills on me. 😂
Delete#DontQuoteMe
Boo I won't just prepare d pepper soup,I will even feed you from ma mouth😘😘😘😘
DeleteHehehehe, and pwessy
DeleteAnon 14:58 I join you say Amen. May God perfect your child Amen
ReplyDelete#Each obstacle is an opportunity to stay calm and learn something*
ReplyDeleteFor someone like me that loves treat.I try to earn something before man go Carry me do yeye.I can comfortably take care of I and my son if my husband misbehaves.I support him when I have to.
ReplyDelete