''Never allow your husband to be too close to your friend?''...Hmmmm but why?
1). Never raise your voice for any reason to your husband. Its a sign of disrespect.
2). Don't expose your husband's weaknesses to your family and friends. It will bounce back at you. You are each other's keeper.
3). Never use attitudes and moods to communicate to your husband, you never know how your husband will interpret
them. Defensive women don't have a happy home.
4). Never compare your husband to other men, you've no idea what their life is all about. If you attack his Ego, his Love for you will diminish.
5). Never ill treat your husband's friends because you don't like them, the person who's supposed to get rid of them is your husband.
6). Never forget that your husband married you, not your maid or anyone else. Do your duties.
7). Never assign anyone to give attention to your husband, people may do everything else but your husband is your own responsibility.
8). Never blame your husband if he comes back home empty handed. Rather encourage him.
9). Never be a wasteful wife, your husband's sweat is too precious to be wasted.
10). Never pretend to be sick for the purpose of denying your husband's right. You must give it to him how he wants it. It's very important to Men, if you keep denying him, it is a matter of time before another woman takes over that duty. No man can withstand on starvation for too long *(not even the anointed ones that speaks in tongues everyday)*
11). Never compare your husband to your one time Ex-lover. Your home may Never recover from it if you do.
12). Never answer for your husband in public opinion polls, let him handle what is directed to him although he may answer for you in public opinion polls.
13). Never shout or challenge your husband in front of children. Wise Women don't do that.
14). Don't forget to check the smartness of your husband before he checks out.
15). Never allow your friends to be too close to your husband.
16). Never be in a hurry in the bathroom and on the dressing table. Out there your husband is always surrounded by women who took their time on their looks.
17). Your parents or family or friends do not have the final say in your marriage. Don't waste your time looking up to them for a final word. You must Leave if you want to Cleave.
18). Never base your love on monetary things. Will you still submit to him even if you earn more money than him?
19). Don't forget that husbands want attention and good listeners, never be too busy for him. Good communication is the bed rock of every happy home.
20). If your idea worked better than his, never compare yourself to him. Its always team work.
21). Don't be too judgmental to your husband. No man wants a Nagging wife.
22). A lazy wife is a careless wife. She doesn't even know that her body needs a bath.
23). Does your husband like a kind of cooked food? Try to change your cooking. No man jokes with food.
24). Never be too demanding to your husband, enjoy every moment, resource as it comes.
25). Make a glass of water the very first welcome to your husband and everyone entering your home. Sweetness of attitude is true beauty.
26). Don't associate with women who have a wrong mental attitude about marriage.
27). Your marriage is as valuable to you as the value that you give it. Recklessness is unacceptable.
28) A confrontational wife, can never keep a good husband and her home, she will be grooming irresponsible daughters without manners.
29) A woman who cannot manage her children, home and husband is a complete failure in life no matter her achievements.
30) A wise woman honors her husband, and respect him, in turn the husband will cherish her and love her dearly - it will be natural. Husband is a beautiful gift from God, no woman can stay without a husband. No good man on earth can tolerate a confrontational and argumentative wife except they have lost their value and become less of a real man.
31). Fruit of the womb is a blessing from the Lord, love your children and teach them well.
32). You are never too old to influence your home. Never reduce your care for your family for any reason.
33). A prayerful wife is very wise and intelligent and she is a better equipped wife, pray always for your husband and family. Conquer all your challenges and problems with prayers, only Christ can solve our problems - not parent, not pastors, not anybody but, only you and Christ.
From Mrs Joyce Meyer
USA TV Evangelist
USA TV Evangelist
Thanks for sharing
ReplyDeleteWhat is this?
DeleteJoyce Meyer didn't write this!
Thank you oh,.Pipi
DeleteWhich Joyce Meyer? On her website? FB page? Sermon? Other.public speech?
This msg that has been circulating for more than a year now obviously written by a chauvinistic man, they now put the poor woman's name there to up its integrity as if to make it all okay...mchetwwww
Was shocked when I saw Joyce Meyer; she DEFINITELY didn't write this.
DeleteI thought as much. She couldn't have written it
DeleteBeth that is why u can't be married Mumu.. challenger!
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Delete10/10, but when are you bringing for "for men only."
Hanti Joyce kisses fall on you 💋💋💋💋💋💋💋
ReplyDeleteI stop reading @no.4 this should be both way thing! Referring it to ladies alone is disrespectful. .... men do these things too.......
ReplyDeleteAttitudes and moods is my pin code 😊 he understands it more better.
Thank you. I didn't bother to read it also. Every time women, women, women... making it look like men are trophies.
DeleteHaha! Glad someone shares my sentiments.
DeleteGood one
DeleteAs in!!!The woman will do all these things and the man will still treat her like trash.Abegi
DeleteHonestly it is always about the women all the time.🙍🙍🙍
DeleteCheck out 30! Its d worst of den all!
DeleteI forbid this for strong women! Mtchw!
Lolll, I pity any woman who doesn't use her common sense and prayers to build her own home.
DeleteStop following list created by humans on how they deal with their spouses, you don't know what goes under their own roof.
Some of these points honestly made me cringe.
You are sooo dumb..
DeleteWhen we find out now, Ur husband is cheating on u and it is bcoz of ur attitude!!
If u nor get sense atleast borrow some from Beyonce..
See how she is stilling managing her home and also see how d man respects his wife... Dis is a woman dat does not know God oooo
Mumu like u all earning peanut will want to be forming u have arrived.
Odè
They should kuku tell us to mould the man and worship him everyday.
DeleteHahhahaha swag u no go kill me with laugh, una get time for nonsense iwu Moses impose on women.
DeleteAbi o. Submissive to bad. Wetin self! Women this women that. When I think of the Lagos traffic I won't wait time. Just make sure to shower at night before going to bed
Deletestory story story!!!!
ReplyDeleteIf you like download this advice as an app & install it in their heads... at the end of the day, their upbringing & personality will trump & be the other of the day.
order*
DeleteGbam!
Delete*order of the day.
You are very right, that is why we should raise our kids better
DeleteTruth Atheist.There is no formula or handout for marriage.
DeleteSame! Women this women that
DeleteBrain & beauty ur head dy dia.
Deletei do not believe joyce meyer wrote this....na one egoistical african man sidon write am...i know joyce has a good marriage and a christian but all these points lays the burden of keeping the marriage on only the woman
ReplyDeleteI also don't believe Joyce Meyer wrote this.
DeleteSounds like something all those primitive primordial Bush Nigerian men could write.
Ok we hear
ReplyDelete#joycemeyer
ReplyDeleteNoted. I pray God gives us the wisdom knowledge and understanding to be able to apply it.
ReplyDelete*yinmu...
ReplyDeleteDo all these to some men and they will still slack!...
I have my own way and style that has been working for me!...
I got no time for all these!...
Pray,do share Queenie.
DeleteHahahaha hahahaha 😁 @ I have my own way and style
DeleteYeah.Its an individual thing.
DeleteSandy baby,queen is a juju master.re u game?
DeleteÓdé.
DeleteIf Ur Husband devots his time to u with all d love and care in d world, u got still carry dat ur smelling toto go outside.
U attract Ur kind.
Don't think all men are like ur husband.
And frankly u made him who he is!!!
Nice write up
ReplyDeleteI picked a few points to add in my life and adjust where necessary
Stella,thanks for bringing it here
I hope they write for the men too
Hey sweetie, how I doing???
DeleteI'm fine dear @ EHIS
DeleteThank you so much, wife is the only one that can do and should do everything, men is to behave anyhow.
ReplyDeleteIf any marriage fails is the wife, women has suffered.
They keep writing trash everyday telling women dis women dt without writing for men that's why we have alot of irresponsible men out there cos the society blames the women even Wen the man messed up
DeleteI think some of it is not only applicable to women alone, but to men also.
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No 30 "Husband is a beautiful gift from God,No woman can stay without a husband"...Ermm so is this writer trying to say that any woman who has no husband is not valued before God because she hasn't received a beautiful gift or she is not considered a woman at all because she has no husband.
ReplyDeleteNote: Not all women are meant to have husbands,God made it so
Plus saying words like no woman can stay without a huband is the reason why some woman would rather die in abusive and unhappy homes because they feel they won't be happy or complete outside a husband.
Every woman can stay without a husband.God made it so,all he cares about is your commitment to him and not if you are married or not
Sharraapp your pussy eating mouth! So you didn't read the part in the bible that says go and Multiply? You berra go marry and respect your husband. Lesbian!
DeleteTomorrow when a girl is desperate to get married because of what the society make marriage seem, they will still come and say women shouldn't be desperate to marry. Double standard people. Smh
DeleteEzigbote Anu@Pussyeater,be there consoling your self and making your evil act seem right.HE gave that command to go increase and multiply even before the 10 commandments!.don't bring God into these please.The only people excluded from these. Command I think are the religious and the physically challenged. Lesbianism or homosexuality is a great sin that provokes christ a lot please let's stop it
DeleteNever,Never and more Never.... it's okay
ReplyDelete😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 too many never jare
DeleteHow I doing ma'am
Joyce Meyer my mentor. Wise woman.
ReplyDeleteAs I read through from one line to another, I was curious to get to the botttom line and behold this wasn't written by a Nigerian woman, not even a black woman but, a Caucasian that many Nigerians low self esteem women worship their way of life even though they are ignorant of how they run their home and they(Caucasians) only show to the world what they want the world to see.
ReplyDeleteI'm of the opinion and belief that wives should be submissive to their husband but, I do not agree with many of the lines from this writeup.
Never do this, never do that, who made you (Joyce Meyer) the head councillor of marriage?
Married women should learn to manage their homes the way that suits their partner, not the way that Mrs. A manages hers. What work for me might not work for you.
Thank u jare.... What rocks my boat might not rock another's
DeleteMrs R thank you.
DeleteShould i be honest? I think we need be sure that Pastor Joyce wrote it. I'd like a reference.
DeleteI don't believe Joyce wrote that.
DeleteNo let them use your head.
DeleteNa one Nigerian man write am, con knack Joyce Meyer name for bottom.
If I hear say Joyce Meyer can write this kind of tripe.
Every time women do this, women do that. After all the doings, things still go bad.
ReplyDeleteAbeg let God decide on women's case
Waoh,really nice
ReplyDeleteI doubt Joyce Meyer wrote this tho
ReplyDeleteToo many Dos and don't for women.
ReplyDeleteWetin?????
Some good points there though..
Madam councellor
ReplyDeleteNa all these useless write up na dey break home...marriage will be very simple and sweet if couples live as friends not being scared of each other
Abeg abegi
Fuck you too! Ode
DeleteLovely but i will adjust
ReplyDelete*Yawns* I read all but was yawning half way...never do this, never do that...what should the men never do too? Marriage takes two people to work, not one person. Work in partnership to bring up well rounded and adjusted 'children' not 'girls only' and everyone will be better for it.
ReplyDeleteEvery marriage is unique, look at yours, know what you guys need and go for it. As long as your foundation is right, you will both come out fine no matter the storms that will come up. All these to-do lists are for people that do not know why they got married in the first place.
All these "never, never" rules do not help
ReplyDeleteRead your bible for that is the manual for this life!
Never say never .
ReplyDelete*yawns.
ReplyDeleteStopped reading at no. 3
So what should the men never do? Shei the man is not supposed to make the marriage work too?
I just tire!
DeleteIt's well wit us women o.
Hmmm
I don't think Joyce Meyer wrote this.
ReplyDeletePls am a new wife . My husband wants me to be on top during sex that he enjoys it more. Pls experienced ladies biko wat exactly shld i be doing or how to move my waist. Coz am completely lost
ReplyDelete@anon 14.13 My dear new wife pls go and watch how to ride your husband on youtube. Iru ki ni gbogbo eleyi gan.
DeleteAbeg go watch porn. How do you expect us to describe the scenario to you?
DeleteLmao
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LMAO
I beg make you no kii person with laff for this blog.
The pesin wey say make you mount am, no tell you, na me wey you no know you wan con show you?
How?
You don't know how to use Google?
You don't know where to buy books on sex education?
You don't have trusted friends?
You no dey watch movies?
Gosh.
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Lol guys oshoronga,iru kini gbogbo eleyi gan,wetin person no good read for SDK, that's what makes it fun to read sha,Pele iyawo olele,you go dey alright last last,go n watch iyanya wine wait then apply it.😂😂😂😂
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DeleteJust sit on it and twerk Ur waist.... dats a start,with time u go sabi.
Gudluck
Never do these, never do that. Treating marriage like an army training camp. Marriage should be a friendship between two people. Real Friendship, not a master-slave relationship where someone can't be free. Just see rules and regulations, no wonder many people feel trapped and head out. What happened to marrying ur best friend who u can be yourself and relax with, be goofy with, funny with, crack jokes, gossip, cry with, talk about anything with, fight and make-up,etc etc?
ReplyDeleteStop making marriage look so rigid and intense abeg! That's why many of u are so unhappy, geeeez! Africans though!
And I know in my chest, Joyce Meyer didn't write this! Whoever sent this is a liar!! If not, show proof and name the article, link or book. See the English sef. Nope, definitely not Joyce. Anyone who reads her books can attest to it. She would never say something as retarded as "no woman can stay without a husband"
I've said it before and will keep saying it. The best rule in the world is LOVE YOUR NEIGHBOUR AS YOU LOVE YOURSELF. This covers everything and doesn't put the burden on one sex. I read all and disagreed with most. A failed marriage is the woman's fault because she's married to herself? What if she's done all this and the man still misbehaves? She must stay so as not to be a failure? #wehdone. The one about a woman not being able to stay without a husband just about made me turn off my phone. Let's use an example everyone can relate with, nuns. Those who take their vows and keep them don't make heaven or are unfulfilled? Stella, please tell us your views about what has been listed above.
ReplyDeleteJoyce Meyer can't does not write like this. Excuse us
ReplyDeleteI'm beginning to understand when you're with someone you truly Love, you'd do everything up there with ease. Heck, you wouldn't even need anyone to tell you first.
ReplyDeleteMISS Jacobs.
Noted
ReplyDeleteJoyce Meyer would never write something like this.
ReplyDeleteIf you are familiar with her works, not just her name you would know.
Just another Nigerian man looking for how to turn his wife into a well neutered slave.
Lmfao at some of these points.
I read and listen to Mama Joyce a lot, as in, a whole lot. I don't believe she wrote that, haba. Anyone who knows her style would say the same.
ReplyDeleteKai Naigerians! You guys still found a way to call Joyce Meyer "Mama". All your pastor's wives are being called "Mama" or "Mummy" cus you Idolize them and hold them in high esteem. Una still carry am enter oyinbo body? Na wa!
DeleteI doubt if Joyce Meyer wrote this
ReplyDelete@anon 14.31 must you multiply by marriage only ?!! So if you don't marry you shouldn't multiply ??! *come closer * come closer* gives it a dirty knock and runs away* ode !!!
ReplyDeleteLol @ 29. Life has not happened to some of you judgmental people
ReplyDeleteHi Stella, I am so hurt and heartbroken, My trusted friend has almost killed me oooooooo, cos before she does, i will. she has gone to run her mouth for my man friend, now the guy doesn't even want to see me or even take my calls. i don call am tire, if i text sometimes, he will reply, sometimes he go lock up. if i call him with hidden number, he will pick, once he hears my voice, he will drop. I need vengeance asap. i wish i could call her out... Girls!!! why una be like this sef??????? Na my fault say God love me like dis? Make una drop jealousy....
ReplyDeleteThis is why i like myself. I never trust anyone. Some people call me paranoid i don't care. I can never tell you enough about me for you to use against me. Btw having males as friends work better than female friendship
DeleteStory for the god's! Mschew!
ReplyDeleteHaba!men,women everyone get wahala.make una go study the book of life the holy bible if you be Christian, go study Koran if you be Muslim,if you be nor of the above you are on your own.
ReplyDeleteEverytime its all about women worshipping their husbands,it is that husbands doesn't have roles to play too?why must everything be about women pleasing and pleasing them.
ReplyDeleteThese men are the causes of most marital problems and no one is even addressing their issues.mtchew....
I don't even have close friends let alone getting closer to my husband,I don't keep friends at all so I gat no problem with that.
ReplyDeleteMarriage should be friendship between two people who loves each other dearly .
ReplyDelete...no woman can stay without a husband...
ReplyDeleteBiggest lie!
Why don't women just remove their brain, it is a much better option (being sarcastic).
ReplyDeleteWomen, women, women all the time as if we we are on earth to be slaves.
Women shey una don hear!
The man that will stay will stay because he was trained well from home. Some women do these and even more and yet their homes are nothing to write home about.
ReplyDeleteWe pray God for wisdom each day to be able to be better individuals and better spouse.
GOD bless you for sharing this...
ReplyDeleteThis will really help me
As i will pick out all the areas i have defaulted and work on them.
Thank you aunty stella
Thats why its good to marry a man who loves u more than you love him....thats my case and im happier for it. My hubby cares for me and treats me like i'm his baby...its a 70/30 thing and i'm ok so far. I Have tasted the slave and master kinda relationship and was nearly undone...nearly lost it...the worst experience i've ever had relationship-wise. Lord, even if i havent said it before...i'm saying it now...Thank You for dashing me a man like Chii...
ReplyDeleteAnon 11.37 you are right. My hubby told me he loves me more than he loves himself. Gosh. I was shocked. There is nothing he cannot do for me. Its better for the man to love you more cos that way the woman will just cross her legs and be sipping champagne. 22yrs together and its bn more ups than downs and i cannot thank Eledumare enough because i have a very good marraige.
DeleteMay God help us
ReplyDeleteTrue Joyce Meyer didn't write this. Buh if u are a serious minded Christian lady, then u would know you can really really learn from this. If you're seriously interested in making ur marriage work, you have to play ur part( which is actually bigger) which explains why it seems to some ppl that it's only women that get tutored all the time_ this article would really truly help. Pls note I'm talking to serious minded Christians not feminists who choose to confuse and are themselves confused and challenge every sane thing written for women. Did you know that it's the lady that is always at the receiving end of failed relationships and marriages, if u disagree, count the no of ladies that have sent in chronicles complaining of heartbreak, divorce saga etc.
ReplyDeleteIf only those asking for such write ups for men would take their time to read all the articles they came across, they would discover that there are actually write ups on how to be a great hubby. Buh no, I think ppl talk more thatn they read, think or learn.its truly a crippled generation this is.
ReplyDeleteThis is bull shit right here.
ReplyDeleteWhat do people take women for? Wth? This is disappointing. All this never do this and that is crazy for goodness sake. To start with no one is perfect man/woman. With all this rules put out and followed if a marriage is not gone work out it's not. Write ups like this are what makes some men not all think they did a woman a favor by being her husband for real. Being African first of all as a woman already is a beginning of chaos for you because of African society standards and beliefs or whatever inculcated into us. When things go wrong in a marriage it's not left for a woman to fix alone people. It's two pple in the business yo. If you don't see anything wrong with this whole write up I don't know what's wrong with you but something is definitely wrong, might be generation gap dealing with u. In as much as I wanted to address a handful of "NEVERS" up there I will address a few that are really outta line. "Never forget your husband married you" is that a joke? That's the line the promotes superiority in marriages. As far as am concerned the both of you married each other. That "your husband married you" promotes a lot of bad stuff e.g domestic violence, emotional and verbal abuse which can lead to a whole lot of uglier things I'm telling y'all. That's why a bunch of crazy ass men tell their wives they don't have no right cos they the ones who married them. No 2. A woman who cannot manage her husband is a failure? This gotta be a joke right? How can you be a manager to someone with so many NEVERS like that? Smh only one woman never do all that, to her husband and yet she's to manage him? It's alright lol. If a wife is to live with all that NEVERS she's already a slave she can't have a say in what her man does cos she not allowed to do that obviously. Point of correction she's not a failure idc how u see it. No3. Never speak for your husband in public opinion polls? Hmmm that one is kinda but I'm my husband is not too smart/outspoken I wouldn't want him to disgrace himself in public I would gladly help him cos I know if I'm in such possible he would help me too. That one is more about understanding. E.g if mercy and her husband was to be in public and her hubby is thrown on the hot seat is she supposed to let him flop knowing her hubbys weakness? To me husband and wife are supposed to be partners, helpers and soulmates. Not some damn subordinate kinda thing please. This whole write up demonstrates a wife as a tool, object, equipment n what not. If as a man that's what u want just go ahead and be married with a damn robot ijs. This kinda mentality/write up promotes domestic violence and all sorts of abuse.
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