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ADVICE NEEDED ASAP

Hello Stella. You have been doing a great job here. Please, I need advice from you and bvs.
Chinwe is my best of friends, we have been close since primary school days and we are both in our "mid-twenties" although I am few months older than her.


Chinwe and I are close that we pass the night at each other's place, we gist about everything; education, religion, choice of career, family, choice of family we both want and desire, boyfriends, men issue, domestic violence, movies and life in general. Although we left secondary school together,I gained admission two years before her but that was not a barrier to our friendship.

She had a guy six to seven years ago and she told me everything about the relationship ( of which we do even till present). They later broke up and she told me although not in details and we advised each other about moving on. I could remember that she told me then that the guy is a shy type. I am not always eager to see anyone she's dating just to avoid stories like the one disturbing me of recent.


Two years ago, a guy started chatting with me on WhatsApp and it was this my friend ex of seven years ago, ( Nmor). He did the introduction and his name clicked. I asked on how he got my phone digits and he said he saw it on his phone saved by my name. He later said my friend used to call me on his phone back then.I did not argue because we do that a lot if we want to inform each other about our whereabout. This guy started asking me out and I turned him down.


I made him understand that I can't break sisters' code because he was my friend's ex. He claimed to know me well when I told him that I have not even set my eyes on him.He calmed down and we stopped talking. I also noticed that he is not a "pushy" type just like the way my friend described him. I informed my friend about everything and she even saw the chat. She shrugged it off and said that Nmor isn't serious.


The funny thing is that my friend's younger sister and Nmor's younger brother (Chinedu) are also in a relationship and they are waxing strong; they may wed next year. They got to know each other through their elder siblings and started seeing after Chinwe and Nmor broke up. This affected me because I knew it won't be easy for my friend but on her part, she told me that it's nothing to her. Chinedu has been treating my friend's younger sister well and the two families approved their relationship.


Two nights ago, chinedu messaged me on Facebook. He said he wanted to see me concerning his elder brother(my friend ex) who had been disturbing me for a relationship. He told me that I was too harsh on his elder brother and that he wants me to give his brother a trial. We dragged the issue for hours and I was bent on not breaking the sister's code. He said that living a life of side attractions won't make one live a good life. He further said that his brother likes me and that I am free to discuss the issue with my friend but he wants me to just listen to his brother.


Chinedu promised to call Nmor to tell him to travel down this weekend so as to see me.Few minutes later, Nmor contacted me and I pretended I had no chat with his younger brother. We talked and he said he would travelled down to see me this weekend. I have not promised to see him but I told him I will inform my friend about it and he said I am free. I told the two brothers that I am in relationship and they said that being in a relationship is different from being a married woman.


I have informed my friend about it and she was just laughing on the phone. I would have gone to her place to see her but my health is not on the good side due to malaria. She apologized on their behalf and she said that she's confused. She promised to see me today to check on my health. She later made a confusing statement. She told me to play along and see the guy. Left to me, I will never meet with the guy but she insisted on me seeing him just to hear him out.

I have noticed that I am always on the good side with guys. Guys tend to treat me better than her and she knows that. What if I meet with this guy and he starts treating me well unlike how he treated my friend? What if the guy becomes serious and starts acting lovey dovey? Should I listen to her and see him or should I maintain my stand?


Stella, please advice a sister. I am confused.