According to the actor, ‘fortunately or unfortunately, when women have a lot of money, they tend to be somehow disrespectful.’
Dumelo revealed this on GTV program dubbed ‘What Men Like’, and the conversation was centered on whether men like dating ladies who are financially well off.
The actor also went ahead to explain the kind of woman he would love to settle for.
“I just want a woman who is OK but the potential is there to be rich, for us to be rich together. She’s ambitious, she’s a go getter, she’s entrepreneurial. We can get the money together.”
He added that if he had to date a woman like that, he would just have to make sure not to depend on her financially.
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Dumelo revealed this on GTV program dubbed ‘What Men Like’, and the conversation was centered on whether men like dating ladies who are financially well off.
The actor also went ahead to explain the kind of woman he would love to settle for.
“I just want a woman who is OK but the potential is there to be rich, for us to be rich together. She’s ambitious, she’s a go getter, she’s entrepreneurial. We can get the money together.”
He added that if he had to date a woman like that, he would just have to make sure not to depend on her financially.
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Story for the gods.
ReplyDeleteSome men are now gold diggers digging so deep for the gold while some run away from responsibilities.
Women, never marry a man that can't cater for himself not to talk of a family.
Tell them, the worst thing that can happen to a woman is to end up with a jobless lazy fool.
DeleteI kinda agree with him. Money has power. Once a woman runs the home financially, she tends to act in control. Note: not every woman but it takes extra grace. Also, theres a fiufilment men feel when they are in charge of the home financially. Of cos, i dont like idleness or a woman who is completely dependent on her husbnds finance, like you have to request for every tiny thing. Understandably, everyone has downtimes and the women may have to cover up for a husbands downtimes but trust me, there is a major difference between a woman covering up and being in charge. Doesnt mean women who have attained great heights don deserve marriage but at least the man should have something tangible and be able to run a home without depending too much on her (contentment). See her as a support. But bottom line, to each his own
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DeleteYou have gone off the track!!
Most of you don't know the principles of money and hence all this talk. Years ago before I made money I came across a very rich man who was a good friend of my brother in-law who is loaded etc. I was introduced to this man as he is born again etc and I was the only one in my family who was and so they thought it'll be great if he met me. Visited his office to get funds off him one day as instructed by my sis and we had s convo that changed me. Asked him why he was different from the rest of the rich folks, why he doesn't cheat,.why he's nice etc and how come he's different from my in-law in attitude even though they both started off from nothing an is rich? Also told him how I heard money changes people and there and then he cut me off. He said young man listen carefully to me on this one, money hasn't changed anyone on earth, it is am amplifier or magnifier, it simply makes big what's in you. If you have issues you haven't sorted out in life, when you get rich those issues would be magnified. If you like women, when the money comes you'll have all the funds to make your dreams come true. If you are caring, you'll help those all around you etc etc. If your lady turns mean when she makes funds then she had issues all.along which money magnified. His theory is wrong on all levels. You can marry a woman who turns into an Oprah Winfrey tomorrow and does that mean you have to leave her?
DeleteI'm sorry bro fide
DeleteChange your perception about women, not all women are arrogant and rich, from his sayings one can easily denotes that John is intimidated by successful women.
ReplyDelete80% does. Money sure has some kind of power that rules.
DeleteBitter truth!!!
ReplyDeleteMost of you don't know the principles of money and hence all this talk. Years ago before I made money I came across a very rich man who was a good friend of my brother in-law who is loaded etc. I was introduced to this man as he is born again etc and I was the only one in my family who was saved and so they thought it'll be great if he met me. Visited his office to get funds off him one day as instructed by my sis and we had a convo that changed me. Asked him why he was different from the rest of the rich folks, why he doesn't cheat, why he's nice etc and how come he's different from my in-law in attitude even though they both started off from nothing and are now rich? Also told him how I heard money changes people and there and then he cut me off. He said young man listen carefully to me on this one, money hasn't changed anyone on earth, it is am amplifier or magnifier, it simply makes big what's in you. If you have issues you haven't sorted out in life, when you get rich those issues would be magnified. If you like women, when the money comes you'll have all the funds to make your dreams come true. If you are caring, you'll help all around you etc etc. If your lady turns mean when she makes funds then she had issues all along and those issues were magnified by money. His i.e. John's theory is wrong on all levels. You can marry a woman who turns into an Oprah Winfrey tomorrow and does that mean you have to leave her? Let's say I marry a woman who isn't worth much and then years after turns into JK Rowling who write the Harry Potter series, does John's theory then stand? You can't just prop up theories that can't withstand scrutiny. Simply put John got it wrong on this one
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ReplyDeleteI'm a woman and a very successful one. I 100% agree with him but for different reasons. It's not always the case that the woman becomes disrespectful because she's got more, it's often because it's really really difficult to respect a man who has no capacity to take care of you, especially if the man starts to develop a complex, which is what often happens. My husband and I married just after I completed a masters degree and had only just secured a job. We were both starting our lives. He subsequently decided he didn't want to remain in the corporate world and started a business. The business has been a disaster in nearly 10 years of marriage and because I've had a stable income and a career that's moved up rapidly, for most of the marriage I've been the breadwinner for most of the marriage.
ReplyDeleteThen he started to develop a complex and attributes any criticism of him to the fact that it's because I've got money! How do you cope with that? So from a woman's perspective, whilst the focus should never be the man's bank account size, marry a man with potential. My husband had no potential and I failed to see that. I should have known his decision to pursue a non viable business was a recipe for disaster.
If you're single and searching, don't make the mistake of marrying a man that has less than you or has the potential to have less than you. No one knows the future I know, but often the signs are there. Don't ignore the signs.
Truth
DeleteGbam
DeleteMami thank you. Noted.
DeleteI hate broke ass
most men who ended up with rich women some of these men are so envious full of low self esteem, inferiority complex, nd they will always suspect your every move, one i know even accused the wife of cheating and when you try to explain your self, na another wahala..
DeleteNo woman should end up with a man with insecurity issues cos u will regret it,
Better marry a man full of potentials, a man ready to work even if he is not earning big, atleast he should be able to take care of his family..
Sounds like my life story. While you are busy trying to find a way to respect them under the situation, they become unnecessarily touchy and bitter. The way you walk, talk, eat, every thing you do is an act of disrespect. Until he turns to domestic violence. Then one day, you just turn. I can't do this anymore. Fuck you. Fuck society. Fuck the church even......
DeleteSo true , no strength to type would have backed you with some other experience. Ladies stop marrying men with no potentials too much plan with little or no action
DeleteSpot on!. But how do you handle the complex?
DeleteAnony 10.50 - I cope with the complex by pretending to be "stupid". I'm one of the directors in my company and I manage a large and complex team with sub teams. But I'm a very different woman at home. In order for peace to reign I assume a non dominant role at home and defer to him in matters that I perceive to be unimportant. The reality is that I've become extremely wise. I do not let him know the true extent of my wealth. I've also learnt to pick my battles and apply the "silence is golden" rule.
DeleteWith kids still young stability is absolutely important to me. It's not easy, because I often have to contend with cravings for a man who's more dominant. I also find that being wealthier than your husband impacts on intimacy and destroys attraction. It's been said that wealth and power are aphrodisiacs, and women find men who can provide more sexually attractive.
Young ladies - be wise in your choices.
@anonymous 12:08- 1000 likes for this comment.
DeleteHmmmmn.
ReplyDeleteThe thing is, if you are from a rich background, maintain your standard. People from a poor background can never get you. Don't marry someone from a poor background if you are from a rich background and vice versa. Don't settle for less because it's that less that will finish you. I'm a living testimony
ReplyDeleteOne man living for my area that married a lady from a rich
DeleteBackground, everyday they are fighting each other, the man hits the woman like tomorrow no dey and can cheat for africa and these people are extremely rich. I think the thing there is to marry a good man / a good woman full of potentials, some one who is ready to work hard and bring something to the table. Some people are poor not because they are not working hard but they are not opportuned like most rich people who a single phone call will settle everything for them..
Just look at the situation of things in nigeria, for you to get a good job, you must be connected at least know someone that knows someone, how do u expect them to be rich?
If you marry a good woman whether from poor or rich background you will enjoy your marriage.. Sometimes it has nothing to do with the back ground but the persons character.
My Opinion thou.
Sexiest mother,u are too much jare!
Delete@anon 9:54, the emphasis should be marry a person with potential. Someone from a rich background who has no potential is POOR in my opinion. Money can finish, it is what you have in you that can sustain the money.
DeleteI married a guy from a poor background and I have never regretted it. I saw he has got potential and my God! He is a HUSTLER! I would have been the biggest fool on earth if I let him go because of his background. I know the benefits I have enjoyed. Thank God I did not settle for the other guy wHo seemed to be from a rich background. The last I heard of him was that his parents usually pay his children's school fees. What a lazy spoilt man.
#There may be people that have more talent than you, but there's no excuse for anyone to work harder than you do*
ReplyDeleteThe truth is most men become really comfortable and lazy towards their responsibilities when the woman is more well to do. Nothing as disgusting as a man who has become comfortable with mediocrity and has a complex on top.
ReplyDeleteCase study :
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@Temi Otedola
But @John what if the man is that lazy or his star does not make him rich but the wife is rich
Case study
@Alakija and husband
So, @John that your theory I no support am
It's only a man that is insecure that would be threaten if his wife is richer than him
@Anonymous Orubebe
Gbam!!!!
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ReplyDeleteI concur john..apart from that,let a woman become d president of this nation and see silima..check out d attitude of some female lecturers in universities...hmmm ee dey enter woman head abeg if she's on top..may not b all but majority..not to tlk of her marryin a man that has a lower income n he xpects her 2 respect him with d power n connection she's got..odiegwu o.i av nothing against women on top but itz d bitter truth men!
ReplyDelete@Trish, it is only normal. Women are humans. Have you observed how very rich men behave? They are very proud and their ego is out of this world. Free women a beg! A man that does not know how to handle a woman richer than him should go and look for a poor woman.
DeleteWell said Anon14:38,u av good point though!
DeleteMy candy crush. I am in rove with you. But this ur mentality is wrong tho not all rich women are disrespectful. I still rove u sha.muah!
ReplyDelete@just Bella.
Let this one go and sit down in one place,never knew he had a shallow reasoning.
ReplyDeleteExtremely poor and lazy people are the problems of Africa. ..They are fetish, beat their spouse...have way too many children.etc..A man should not be intimidated by a successful woman though..Continue your duties as a man..and u guys will be good..Don't stay home 4 a woman to take care of u and the family. .That's a big Naaaa
ReplyDeleteExactly! If two becomes one after marriage what does it matter who brought in more money. The money is there, it's just a tool, a powerful tool, but just a tool nonetheless. A mature woman is not going to use it against her husband unless he has some dangerous habit that threatens their financial stability.
DeleteI concur with him. 90% of women won't respect a man they're richer than....
ReplyDeleteAnd do men respect women they are richer than? Oshisco
DeleteMutual respect and perfect love would drive out all fears and reservation.......
ReplyDeleteWtf does John know about marriage to be advising anybody? John has never been married, he has never even engaged anyone and now he sees fit to dole out advice. John, please stay in your damn lane!
ReplyDeleteU can't marry but u can date baa. Lazy drone men! Egoistic smtin
ReplyDeleteJohn dumelo kwasia
ReplyDeleteYet you take money from women richer than you. The cars you are driving didn't ex president John Mahama wife Lordina Mahama who has stolen Ghanaian money give you all those cars including V8. Nigerians you may not know this but JD us a disgraced actor here in Ghana after all was reveal in 2016/2017. He's an opportunistic thief who no one respect anymore here in Ghana. Useless lazy opportunistic idiot