I read a positive writeup where one man shares the reasons he is actively involved in home chores where he lives and how his friend says he does not help his wife failed to thank him when he did....
Sometimes I wonder if some men have their medulla oblangata intact...lol
I know there are some men reading this who do not even know what their kitchen looks like because they feel a man should not enter the Kitchen...like seriously?
Does it say anywhere in the Bible that men should not enter the Kitchen to cook or do the Laundry and clean up the house?
Or is it a man thing where you have formed an opinion in your head that real men dont step into the Kitchen or do home chores?
If you are a man tell us how actively involved in home chores and why you do it....If you are not,please explain why you refuse to be involved...
Yes, they should help in chores
ReplyDelete*Larry was here*
Men should not just help it's part of their duty. A man that takes part in house chores is leading his home by example.
DeleteTrust me it helps young couple in bonding, it relieves stress and it's a partnership that will only bring success.
I have been married for almost two decades. My wife will accuse me of spoiling her. The only time I pretend not to do house chores is when my mother in law is around cause she feels am encouraging her to be lazy. My mum taught me a lot ..cooking, cleaning and it has been of great help. We stopped having a househelp when our last child turned 4. How can you call yourself a CEO of an organization and you don't know what operates in a department - the kitchen. The truth is we make house chores fun and cooking exciting. Everyone cooks and clean in my house. And before you say maybe we can't afford it let me tell you I can afford to have 5 househelps and won't know I have dropped a dime at the end of the month and you be shocked how much am worth. And my house is big but if you clean along as you litter a place then you discover you always have less to do. So it's a team that has to work. My children are all boys so we tend to spoil the lady of the house. The only no go area for me is the market cause I will end up spending ten times the amount. I cant face query so her Excellency handles that department. Atimes CEO's need to delegate too. But trust me I blame the women who don't give their male child proper home training in carrying out house chores. Men who do house chores are close to their wives,romantic, they communicate better, they bound well and co operate in bringing up children who are completely comfortable at home especially in the kitchen. We are both professionals and we have been able to achieve more as a couple.
Anon16:27, I would have asked you to chorus but it won't make a difference so let me be brief with you because you are unidentifiable.
DeleteFirst and foremost, your advice is unsolicited, if in doubt read Stella's portion again. Secondly, if you were nearly half as wise as you claim to be, you will also know and unfailingly state that every marriage is unique and what works for A might backfire for B.
Instead of you to buy Washing machine for your family, you are busy domesticating male kids and running mouth here like olofofo parrot - I PUT IT TO YOUR FACE THAT YOU NO GET SHISHI
Bless you anon 16:27.
DeleteMy hubby is like you, he does everything I can do at home. He paid people to do the chores when we lived in nja, I had a maid for the 5years I lived in another country because my hubby wants us to flex all the time then. Now that we are in a new country, no maid as I don't need help for the kids anymore.
My hubby recently started doing all the cooking for Saturday and Sundays and he works Monday to Friday. Pays the bills while we save my money. We use my money for things that are not regular. Like pay off, dash off or some little luxury. We both cook when his folks or mine visits, I do the weekday cooking which is mostly dinner. My mom gladly does our cooking through out her visit. He's my momma's best friend, God bless your existence my crown.
To think I almost settled for one ijesha that was going to turn me into an executive maid still baffles me Ahahah.
MrsBee
@Miyake am anonymous cause I hardly contribute and won't want some uncultured brat disrespect me. I enjoy SDK as a form of relaxation and it's informative and entertainment on the go. Won't descend so low to join issues with you. if you consider what I wrote up there as bragging then I wonder what you think a man who has been married for almost two decades should have achieved. Let me just ask you in Stella's words....... How far can your bank balance take you. I think that's your problem.
DeleteShebi that was how I dated one like that and in the course if gusting he said he can never help me out in thrckirchen that it is not done in bende abia where he comes from. I said even if I am multitasking and you food is ready, you can't pick your already served food in the kitchen, he said God forbid that I have to serve him, except I am sick and in the hospital, but if I am home no matter what I have to. This is a guy that was married for 4years and the wife said she is tired of the marriage "so he said". I quickly borrowed myself brain, sense and instinct.
ReplyDeleteNo. We are not all dumb. I can detect lies and manipulation from a thousand yards away. It was the dude who dumped you. Females like you who are after the good life should also learn to work the work. Your attitude towards men is probably the reason why you are still a Miss at your age!
DeleteMiyake, may God punish you 10 times over for judging someone you don't know her story. It is fools like you that God humbles.
DeleteI don't really understand what did miyakesshegoat problem is, u kip antagonising everybody are you dat bitter about ur fucked life? U betta take a chill pill before u get bp for anoda's comment, miyakeidlehand don't forget some people hustle dey pay unlike u oshofreeloosepussy... If u as much as run ur mouth on dis comment original thunder go fire u, d little joy in ur life go get washed away by rain before SUNDAY.
DeleteYes; a man/professional writing:
ReplyDeleteMy wife and I are professionals. I do shopping, laundry, cooking (when my wife can't). I have kids and the boy is learning to cook as well as the girls.
It is foolish not to teach the boy child how to cook. When he becomes a man, a small village girl can seduce him through meals . . . such attempts had been made on me. You have to be spiritually alert in Christ to detect that.
Let me ask fellow men;
HOw can you a man be in the house and your wife goes to purchase a bag of rice, beans or some yams and struggle to even put them in the car? What a shame. Did you not read in Act six that men were appointed to buy and distribute food to women; check it.
How can you and your wife come back from work and she is the one to go through the market/mall to buy food and go home to cook and serve you and you expect everything intact in the bedroom; every concentration and strength?
And when it perhaps does not happen, the "brain' between your thighs will elongate at the sight of a little skirt?
See, if you take off some stress on your wife, she will look young. My wife is more beautiful than when I married her years ago.
i already love you anon. can we be friends?
Deletei love men that are good husbands to their wives. please dont take this south i have no intention of hanging my legs on ya shoulders. lol
*hangs leg on the wall*
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DeleteGod bless you sir
DeleteWell said!Men you are not a guest in your own house so u should be hands on
DeleteMe I need a job
DeleteWell said, I can deal with men that can't assist
DeleteSteffy @pastors daughter
DeleteDon't you have shame ?
What kinda friendship are you looking for with a married man?
I'm completely disgusted by you
Any man whose wife shop for big food items like bag of rice etc. is a foolish man. What do you do with all the muscles; beat her?
ReplyDeleteYou bought her a car and so? She should lift a bag of rice and put inside that car and come home and cook it and you eat?
I once dated a guy who believed when we go grocery shopping, I should be the one to carry the basket, and when we're done @ d supermarket, I should carry all the bags to the car, no matter how many. Omo, on 1 occassion, I carried 2 nylons, went to the car and sat, he was still waiting in the supermarket. Told him i'm not his slave.
DeleteDear future hubby
ReplyDeleteWe ll cook together
Signed
Rich princess aka real life princess😝
Stamped by Beloved
DeleteSealed by Pipi Lee
DeleteCo signed by dainty t
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DeleteWhat are home (domestic chores)?
ReplyDeleteA man sorts out minor electrical, mechanical and plumbing chores at home.
He does the heavy lifting.
He opens the gate.
He puts on the gen.
He is th defacto security man and family body guard.
He goes to buys fuel for the gen. He turns the fuel into the gen.
He calls and supervises the mechanics that work on the car and gen.
Sorts out nepa issues when there's a compound meeting for wire reconnection n things.
So, are all these chores done at home, if yes, are they home chores? Definitely!
It's clear that women's brains are warped. That's why they can't keep a man. These gwegs do not understand labour divisions.
Fine, the man can wash plates and peel egusi if you'll do his part of the home chores too.
And to all those feminists that say they will make their sons work in the kitchen due to equality, hope they'll also make their daughters wash the cars, start the gen, change over, and run errands at nights for the same reason.
Yes she can wash car, on gen and even be able to change tyre on the car. A woman should be string too. What's there is carrying the bag of rice upstairs. Especially if you wife works too.
DeleteYes, I am a female who washed cars, ironed complete agabada sets, put on the gen even manually when it didn't start with key so please shut the f@*k up and calm the f*@k down. Myopic ignoramus.
DeleteNo point here, when a girl is of age, she can do all those things you listed in you last paragraph. What the hell is start the gen, change over, run errands at night, wash the car(i started this one since primary school sef)? Are these even chores? Seriously? These are chores to you?
DeleteSorts out NEPA issues an supervises the mechanic, kai!! Eleyi gidi gan ooooooooo.
DeleteI washed my dad's car from age 17-till I left the house.
DeleteAt home,I put on the gen too..not only hubby
Pipi (pussy pussy): What's so chory* about doing the dishes and cooking? Are these even chores to you?
DeleteBy the way, if you come home with your husband and kids (who dash you?)and you have to send your kid to open the gate, will you send ur son or daughter?
Bro hello ? I know ladies that do all these your man-tagged domestic chores
DeleteLol
True talk... My father is a one helluva great man.. He does all those 'men things' you mentioned above.. Keeps everything in check, even gets rid of pests as quickly as possible(i hate rats and geckos)..When he's around, you have this peace, this feeling that everything's going to be OK.. He doesn't cook, sweep or do dishes (for why?) Whenever he isn't around,we all feel it.. Funny enough,my male siblings are not a quarter of what my father is..and that's because my mom spoilt them.. They hardly ever do anything..their presence at home is like a burden on the females.
DeleteThey can't (or won't) wash their own clothes, they'd rather die of hunger than scoop (not even cook) their own food from the pot when a lady is around(even if so tired that she can't move a muscle )the list goes on and on. We, the younger siblings wait on them (even to pick remote control (by just a mere stretching of the arm..they'll call for assistance)...they feel they are kings because they are men..They can't even kill chicken or rat.
Personally, I don't think it's a man's job to cook, do the dishes, clean and all.. They have their jobs too you know..
I just feel they should know when to offer assistance at home, not everytime, but in times when the woman has a lot on her hands and is stressed out...
No-one's saying it's their job but they should assist when they need to.
I for one don't want a man that cannot perform his manly duties...
Yes uncle, my female children will learn to do all the above listed, and none of my children (whether male or female) will be sent on errands at night. Kapish??
DeleteU talk as if going into marriage is going for war, haha. My husband helps with all these things o and even help with d so called women house chores(washing plates,sweeping, laundry, put d baby to sleep) and I sometimes wash d car, turn on d gen. We don't see any wrong in all of these. Its OUR home and its OUR duty to make it work.
DeleteHe is a military man btw.
When u relief ur wife of stress during d day, watch her turn to ur naughty girl at night. Jez saying.
I'm still here laughing at Uncle Prick Prick's list of chores😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂, he even added another one (open the gate), which shouldn't even be gender specific. It is Well bro prick.
DeleteWhat's the rubbish you just spewed bro? Shows how myopic you are and i pity your wife. If robbers come knocking I am sure Mr security and body guard will go into hiding. I wash my car, switch on the gen and buy fuel for the gen, my 10 year old son can also switch on the gen so kini big deal
DeleteWhen e reach war, they expect women and children to be safe first, when we see snake, scorpion or hardship, they expect men to step forward, when e reach common mediocre chores, they expect us to wash their pants and lick their nyansh holes. Una wehdone. Ignoramuses.
DeleteEven if we exchange duties completely, they still wouldn't be satisfied. Riffraffs.
Uncle anonymous,I do all those listed things in my father's house. Even now that am married, I still do them Cos my husband is hardly around. My hubby told me that I shouldn't wait for him to do all those things Co's he has a lot of things to do in his workplacey. So for my own comfort and that of my childrens', I do them without asking for help.
DeleteMy car battery died and I jump started it myself. I put on my gen every day myself cause hubby won't get home early and even when he's home and tired I go out in the middle of the night to put off the gen. My dad made sure I can change car oil and wash cars, I even freaking repair my pumping machine so who is more man than me?
DeleteAnd yes I am a slay mama on Instagram with two beautiful kids. Thank God my husband can cook and clean especially on weekends he cleans and mops everywhere and cooks. I bless the day I met you Obim. I will marry you again and again.
You women should fear God....well it's simple if my wife can't do the cooking and some chores, then she has the option of hiring a pretty maid to help out cos me o can't be working to takia of the family and get home to do chores....the only time dat will be allowed is when she pregnant, sick, travel or after a good Friday nite sex.
ReplyDeleteU cook/do the chores or I hire a pretty maid.....u just AV to pick one.
Transgender cow..your wife will work too abi?
DeletePetty Seyi, o wa Lara e, which one is 'pretty' maid again? O n ba yin lo, ee mo ni
DeleteShebi that's why you're still single.
DeleteSo u are saying ur wife won't be working to contribute her own quota to take care of the family too? Hehehehehe
DeleteSo both of u will go to work, come back at d same time. U will sit and cross ur legs in d parlour watching soccer or the news and ur wife will change d kids clothes, help with their home work, cook, clean,serve u ur food, do the laundry, iron ur shirt, kids uniform, her clothes while u are still sitting and prolly thru with dinner waiting for her to come and pack the plates and wash. Hardly remembering to have her own dinner. And then in d bedroom u will still expect her to do, b.j,cow girl, reverse cow girl and co and co and maybe ask her to massage u after.
I pity whoever will be unfortunate to marry ur type.
Make a crown and a scepter while u are at it.
You men and ur stupid ego!!!!
Husband material....not enough material to sew a g-string.
DeleteHow do people even read the bible? Men bought food and distributed to women in the New Testament:
ReplyDeleteIn those days when the number of disciples was increasing, the Hellenistic Jews[a] among them complained against the Hebraic Jews because their widows were being overlooked in the daily distribution of food. 2 So the Twelve gathered all the disciples together and said, “It would not be right for us to neglect the ministry of the word of God in order to wait on tables. 3 Brothers and sisters, choose seven men from among you who are known to be full of the Spirit and wisdom. We will turn this responsibility over to them . . .” Acts 6
Stella some men have this misconception and a massive amount of unhealthy ego perched on their shoulders all steaming mostly from the type of upbringing they had. When their parents treat them like mini gods when they were growing up and the female children like househelps afterall she has to know her onions when she finally gets married that is exactly what you get.
ReplyDeleteYes I get that but there should be a balance. 👏👏👏 to my mama who made sure her sons can hold their own in the kitchen and sees partaking in making sure the house is clean and tidy a normal thing. My elder brother ensured that I learnt how to make soups when I was a teenager; he was my taste master and taught me his own tips and now show me the woman that can brag beside him?
My hubby can cook, infact loves to...his efo is still making news in my family 😆 and he chips in whenever there's house chores to do with a little incentive 😉. I hardly saw the inside of a restaurant during our courtship because when I get to his place there's a mini buffet of tasty dishes proudly cooked by him waiting for me so wetin I wan chop outside again?
As far as am concerned, real men help their wives out because nobody can do it all. Gone are the days when the men go out and make the money and the women are house wives...nowadays women hold it down too career wise and unless you want her to breakdown help that woman out.
So many women out here looking like their husbands mothers or elderly aunts simply because they are bone tired from working even more than their husbands in the office, taking care of the kids and household chores. Make una give us a break abeg...even superwoman will burn out.
Discretion is all that is needed. Helping out once in a while is prudent but expecting it is a sacrilege.
DeleteSome men are just too nice sha, how many women pay house rent or children school fees in their homes?
Stella these your blog bitches don't want gender equality, they are after gender supremacy.
No REAL man should do house chores!!..
ReplyDeleteYour main priority as a man is how to make money and take proper care of your family!...
I have said it before here that I can't imagine my man doing house chores at home when he is not my house help!,.
My husband don't know where salt is kept in our kitchen!!..
I dish out his food,serve him and rub his back while he eat like a king!!...
I can't allow him to even lift up a mop talkless of cleaning or even washing his cloths!...
Any of my children doing house chores for a woman will be disowned!!...
I keep telling them this!,..
Yes,Stella I have that mentality too!...
Any man doing house chores is either jobless,broke ass,woman wrapper and a Mugu!....
So much to learn about this queen and boss everyday. Everyday new new things just dey unfold like plenty material wey dey tie put for bag. See mentality. See woman. See human being Chai. God help us in this Nigeria sha.
DeleteU re a fool.keep worshiping ur horseband
DeleteMay God help you, keep spoiling them
DeleteSmh! No comment
DeleteLoool @ rub his back while he eats like a king...E na enye nsogbu this woman
DeleteLooool! Bitter truth sha..
DeleteShe is very right.. no busy man will have time for chores Abi you won tell me say dangote dey cook, wash and clean? .mthewww.. make una just say una dey look for broke guy because rich men are always busy. After working 9hours everyday to take
DeleteFucking hypocrites. Angry girls calling themselves feminists. They all know the truth but run away from it. This mad woman up here just told them the truth. They read it and passed. They passed because of the person that wrote it. If someone else had written this bitter truth, they would have come down on them. Nice one from you nwannem Onye Ara. Never knew I'd ever be on same page as you. And for you Sandy, ka Chukwu gozie gi for also affirming the truth. Queen I won't give you the benefit of my ID though. We have never agreed.
DeleteAnon16:33, hahahaha you dey cray I swear down hahahaha. “This mad woman" indeed .... Hahahaha
DeleteActually, when I first saw the post before Stella released comments I wanted to say something perfectly similar to what “this mad woman" said, but on a second thought, I didn't have the chance then as it might have been time consuming. I just assumed that someone(a reasonable man) would still say it anyways, I never imagined she(this tout) admit or to this very harsh truth.
PS: A real man would rather go hustle, watch football or reason with himself and a bottle of beer and then go on to eat roasted corn or drink garri for dinner than spend time lighting matches to put on cooker because he wan chop! Gone are those single hood days mehn; if wifee no gree wash or cook or judiciously donate, dry cleaners and side hen full corner to carry me elope sef.
This is supposed to be an enlightenment post for them to keep shut and learn but instead they are spewing trash by the hundreds littering the comment section upandan.
😂😂😂😂😂
DeleteLE! Kai.
May my daughters never marry your sons because them go hear am.
In fact we must continue to love ourselves from a distance😂😂
I do not have a son who wouldn't be domesticated.
In my opinion, a man should be able to assist in the home when he is around.
You can be a Chairman at work but at home, you help out where possible.
Love doesnt sit in authority and ego. It throws pride, status and ego to a corner.
My husband is a better cook than myself, he cleans well too. I applaud his late mother for raising him well.
It all boils down to courtship; what do you/did you discuss?
ReplyDeleteWas it all sex, f*ck?
If you discussed from scriptures etc. you would have known the responsibility for each person to make the home a happy living place.
Courtships have been bastardized with sex and social media and that has given rise to stupid behaviors in marriage. The woman is put under undue stress and she finds out that it is not like it seemed.
Sometimes the men pretend during courtship. After marriage comes the true character. My husband use to say i love kids all the time. Okay after marriage to carry his child for 3mins was like a big chore for him. He has never washed the bathroom, i beg him to clean his own car. I dont even want to go on with his laziness. Sometimes i wonder how he copes at work.
DeleteNgwanu umu nwoke oya ooo
ReplyDeleteI pray God blesses me with a man who is domesticated (I don't mean a man who goes to the market o) someone who can help take care of the home,cleans, do laundry and help out with small things in the kitchen.
ReplyDeleteHe should not bother to learn how to cook very well,I will be the one doing most of the cooking😛😜😝
From what I deduce, what you are asking for is a romantic man. God will bless you with one.
DeleteOn a lighter note, this reminded me of a lady who asked God for a man that handles money and open doors. God sent her the perfect bus conductor. Hehehe, not your portion though, just kidding.
Who taught Jacob to cook the lentil stew that Esau so craved after coming from the hunting expedition?
ReplyDeleteWho cooked the lamb that Isaac ate before blessing him?
So such a man of God like Jacob knew how to cook and you are doing what?
You wife is the one pounding yam and all you use your muscles to do is to pound her?
Look at the mirror and name that thing you see there "fool".
The last part though😆😆😆
DeleteHahahahhahahha
Delete📣📣📣📣📣it
DeleteYour last sentence though..😂😂😂😂mean!
Oya to the men over to you
ReplyDeleteUnderstanding is of the utmost importance.
DeleteMy parents gave us mortar and pestle as wedding gift, same as my in-laws, but I didn't even take them home, my wife asked for them once and I bought her a pounding machine.
Every marriage should be an isolated case to find out what works best for both parties and not a case study.
Any form of assistance is welcome and should be appreciated and reciprocated but not forcefully demanded.
would help if I am free
ReplyDelete#GOAT
4Prepare me the kind of tasty food I like and bring it to me to eat, so that I may give you my blessing before I die.” Gen. 27
ReplyDeleteWas Isaac talking to a woman to cook some "tasty meals" for him?
Do you actually think they read this part of the scriptures? 😂😂😂 the only one they see is the women and submission verse in Ephesians 5:22 😩 and they can quote it verbatim so go figure.
DeleteHigh five 🤚 @Ralu M.
DeleteThe only part your Ralu-Ram head sees in the Bible is the part that says:- A “man" who doesn't provide for his family is an infidel, unknown to you that the Bible clearly states:- “Anyone" not “a man" - abi widows no join.
DeleteWhat y'all bitter slots are good at is castigating men, instead of doing just that, why not die single and leave pipo wey ready to submit to marry?
I miss my man because I'm never alone in the kitchen. He does everything you think a woman can do.
ReplyDeleteI'm a lazy ass when it comes to washing clothes especially whites, so whenever I decide to spend weekend, I take my whites along and he does justice to his alongside his.
All we need in any form of union is Understanding. No biggie doing home chores.
Lest I forget, I hate doing the dishes, so after clean up I'll pretend to be in a hurry so that he can do the dishes when alone.
LOVE is sweet after all
Is he that one that you said cheated on you @ideato
DeleteYeah. Same.
DeleteLol! Now I know why
DeleteA man should ONLY be obligated to help out in the kitchen if he shares the responsibility of paying the bills with his wife. If I pay the bills alone, don't expect me near that kitchen except you're Ill. If women want equality, let it be implemented to the fullest. Today's Nigerian woman thinks she can manipulate her way through everything by throwing insults on social media and making men feel less of themselves. She tells you "the bible says a man that cannot take care of his home is worse than an infidel", and still goes ahead to tell you men and women are equal. Forgetting what that her bible says in the book of James that a woman should be submissive to her man. When you're submissive to someone, you ain't equal. So for me, my African culture plus my religion tell me to pay the bills 100%. But, any woman that wants to drag equality with me, and tell me to enter the kitchen, she should be ready to plead Equality too when it's time to pay the bills. The world is yet to get a creature, more self-centered than the average Nigerian female.
ReplyDeleteBut any woman working is expected to foot some bills now. How will you be working and meeting your husband money for grocery, money for clothes, money for hair and upkeep, money for errand at home. All that is the woman's part to pay. So equally if I wash clothes and hang what's b there if you help me pack? If bin is full what there if you wheel it to the gate? If I'm making food what's there if you set table? If i do english homework with amak whats there if youbare doing maths homework with emeka? After all we are one. What's really there? After all we both go to work and bring back money abi?
DeleteLike women don't assist in paying bills...yimu😏
DeleteBlunt blunt blunt!!!! Weldone sir, my take is that when there is genuine love between a husband and a wife, everything will have a natural flow at the home front.
DeleteBoth of u will do things for each other without even thinking twice about it.
When there is true love, I mean the God kind of love, the wife will submit without thinking of it and the husband will love and show it without calculating weather his wife "drags equality" with him or not.
You need to know the ONE who is love and who also created the marriage institution before ur marriage can work.
The same Bible that says a woman should submit to her husband also commands a man to love his wife.
DeleteWe humans like to complicate things.
When a man truly loves his wife, he loves her even when she doesn't submit.
When a woman truly submits to her husband, she submits even when he doesn't show love to her.
Mr Blunt, excess ego can never make a marriage work.
If madam is a full time house wife no wahala BUT when she's a career woman leaving the house 4.30 am and coming back in the night AND contributing financially to the running of the home oga fear God.
DeleteChai, Mr Blunt you nailed it. Ain't adding jack.
DeleteIf not for women though, this world would have been fantastically boring as hell with negligible foolishness, backwardness and stupidity and competitiveness!
Thank God for creating them bitches to balance our world.
Your mother included
DeleteMiyake, I take it your wife is a bitch too right??
Delete29 Once when Jacob was cooking some stew, Esau came in from the open country, famished. 30He said to Jacob, “Quick, let me have some of that red stew! I’m famished!” Genesis 25
ReplyDeleteWas it a woman/wife that was cooking this stew?
29 Once when Jacob was cooking some stew, Esau came in from the open country, famished. 30He said to Jacob, “Quick, let me have some of that red stew! I’m famished!” Genesis 25
ReplyDeleteWas it a woman/wife that was cooking this stew? Yes wives should cook for their husbands but it is not exclusive. there is nothing wrong in a man cooking; it does not remove any manliness from him.
I think this is a very nice forum to discuss this.
ReplyDeleteStella I have been married for some years now,and doing house chores is not a big deal for me.
I help my wife sometimes in the kitchen.I also babysit my son when she is tired and busy.helping your wife in the kitchen does not limit any thing from you as a man.
Wise men help their wife,while the foolish shy away from it.
#husbandsalwayshelpyourwifessothatyourdayswithbelong#
Oya, men should get in here
ReplyDeleteMy husband becomes VERY regular in d kitchen when I'm sick or a new mum reason bn dt.......
But his delicacies are always sumptuous those few times dt I form sick most times(then i actually reason fall sick) So I ask, should I form sick always? If I complain he says "get a help"
Most men don't know where things are kept in the kitchen, my dad inclusive. He probably just knows where the cutlery set is and where the plates are and that's because it's very visible in the kitchen. My dad also prepared us for school anytime we didn't have a house help around with us.
ReplyDeleteI remember the first time I saw a man washing clothes, this was like ten years ago and I thought the wife maltreats the man.. Lol
For me, my husband must be able to do simple things around at least, before the kids grow up. I can't be making money with him and be doing the whole house chores.
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ReplyDeleteI do house chores sometimes. It sounds somehow, but I love doing the dishes. Cleaning and Washing are not my thing. I don't see helping out in the home as anything strange.
The angel of the LORD came and sat down under the oak in Ophrah that belonged to Joash the Abiezrite, where his son Gideon was threshing wheat in a winepress to keep it from the Midianites. Judges 6:11
ReplyDeleteGideon, such a mighty man of valor did not only know how to farm and produce wheat, he could thresh it; just like removing the chaff from beans.
In this part of the world, a lot of people have this African mentality that women are subordinate and should 'take care' of them. Uncle, are you a Baby? I respect men who do house chores. At least, support the woman. You don't know she might be loosing her mind trying to keep your home intact!
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My hubby dsnt even do anything at all nd he said I cnt get a maid so I wash cook bath d kid take dem to sch go to d market wash his socks nd boxers o I av confronted him many times he will say is it me dat will go to work by 6am get back late dat will do chores to fuck sef na 1min man I clean every where expect his own bathroom it's been dirty for 2mnths now e neva wash am I cnt kill myself coz am married to a dirty man biko.
ReplyDeleteMy hubby and yours must be related. The guy can dress very well but to cleanup around for were. He can dump his clothes, socks and boxers anywhere and everywhere. Very dirty and scattered somebody. He cant even pick a spoon from the floor he will just walk pass it. I have accepted my fate. Cos i dont want to be a nagging wife.
DeleteLol at very scattered somebody,shebi ur own hubby dey dress my own ehn before he leaves d ous I will run nd check his dressing o coz na jagajaga person before dem go say see person wey get wife as he leave ous,my dear meself don accept my fate o it's so annoying ehn he dsnt take d kids on lessons dsnt check dia results.he wil throw his dirty boxers on d floor,even his suits na frm parlour I go begin pick am.am jst making sure my son dsnt end like his dad d boy has started washing plates nd mopping at 5 atleast dats how my mom trained her boys nd dia wives are enjoying.yourba women pls try ur boys una no dey train una children well
DeleteEya kpele, I can relate with these two anonymouses. Unfortunately/fortunately, na some wives dirty pass shit in some homes.
DeleteApart from helping my kids with their weekend home work,which is usually much,I don't get involved in household chores when I am home(I work in a neighbouring country and only come back home most weekends).There is a washing machine,there is a live-in househelp and a vacuum cleaner.Clothes I wear when I go out are taken by the dry cleaner and only house clothes are dumped in the washing machine and hung on the clothesline outside.The few times i go into the kitchen(I know the kitchen well well because na there freezer dey and things dey always dey there) during the day to say "babe,wetin u dey cook?" ,I am always greeted with "Oga,wetin u dey do here?comot from my kitchen".Na that same kitchen I go come go dey wash plates or clean ground?(the househelp goes house 2 weekends a month).Besides,I do all my cooking and cleaning where I am so I don't feel any qualms about not doing any at home.Nigeria go better,by God's grace
ReplyDeleteI don't have a problem with chores when I have the time ,sometimes I feel no one can do it better , maybe it's a flaw.
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ReplyDeleteAll depends on upbringing, some mothers don't give their boys house chores so when they grow up and get married they see no reason why they should do it.That thing can be so annoying.
ReplyDeleteYou are right.
DeleteLove house chores and cooking but wify would not allow me. Especially cooking, she would not agree but I do cook when she is away from home.
ReplyDeletehahahahahaha this Queen you will kill me one day on this blog. Chai. They will come for you. Queen i hope people no dey follow this ya talk, because you go break plenty homes with it.
ReplyDeleteHahahaha abeg carry go jare. Nothing do you
I do house chores because I am yet to secure another job. Really, only broke guys do this nonsense. I am talking from experience. I am with queen on this
ReplyDeleteIts the ladies that will no if there guys actually do house chores...
ReplyDeleteFor me its a yes yes, I do more than doing in the house and I no my Babe cannot say am lying.
I do all... and never get tired self.
The only thing I cant do is enter market and be pricing and pricing, those market women sometimes der mouth no be here.
Let Babe go to market, I will do the cooking...
Na so E suppose Be!!
Things will go smoothly in the HOME.
my dad does the chores sometimes., even branch at the supermarket to pick needed household items. I team up wt my brothers to wash his cars too. he knows where everything is in the house, even rearranges the kitchen attimes. doesn't stop him from being a man.
ReplyDeletedear future hubby, you've gotta do this & more..
kisses*
If a man truly loves and appreciates you, he'll do anything and everything for/with you; but let me give you an expo/hint, it all depends on how he perceives your attitude towards him.
DeleteSome men will actually do for A what they won't naturally do for D.
Boils down to so many variants though.
The only house chores my hubby does is to cook special meals when he feels like. But to clean or wash he doesn't. He says he did that when he was single he can't continue since he is married. But once in a while he would just clean some certain places in the house.
ReplyDeleteAppreciate him cos he dey try. Mine doesnt do nufin only to drop money and buy groceries. To vacuum sef na wahala. Make i no go faint one day for unending cleaning.
DeleteIf I open mouth tell all of una wetin I dey personally do as contribution to maintaining our home, una go open mouth and raise Beyonce nyansh for me. But all in all, it should be team work and showing gratitude. If I buy small kulikuli for my wife, she will appreciate it like it's a very big deal. The thing dey burst my brain to do more always.
DeleteNobody is perfect.
So in your mind you are a husband still yet you are trolling people with curses and abuse up and down. Your wife is in help, Asshole. Jobless mofo
DeleteTheres really no big deal in husbands helping their wives. So long the wives dont abuse the advantage. It takes two to tango. If u leave abroad and you have kids uou will know whats up. No house girl for here. So we help eachother. No big deal. God bless our marriages
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DeleteNa so e b o my sister. Abroad own better. Our local mgbeke Nigerian breed go wan milk us dry body and soul...... taking maximum advantage of every yard given.
Deletehouse chores will not be a problem in a home once there is understanding btw the couple. men helping out in the house is also part of taking care of the family. May God help husbands and wives to understand themselves.
ReplyDeleteThis is a very interesting topic..when we were courting,I noticed when I visit,my husband then fiance would not lift a finger to help me in household chores,he will will just sit in the sitting room and be watching TV or reading..I will clean,wash and cook.I had to have a sit down with him about it because in my house my brothers don't act that way,they are actively involved in house chores..he told me his father used to beat them if he comes bk home to find them sweeping or helping their mum in the kitchen,that house chores are a no no unless there is no lady around..I told him it wasn't so in my house,my mum and dad will be in the kitchen gisting while he helped out in whatever way he can,they won't even notice that we the children are in our room when we should be in the kitchen..We agreed to take the positive things we saw in our parents' marriage into our own.He agreed to 'change'.Now we are married,when I was pregnant and couldn't clean our bathroom every 3 days as before..my husband will use at least 3 bathrooms in the house before the weekend..he will just keep moving from one spare room to the other,and by weekend I will have to clean 3 bathrooms instead of 1..I told him to seriously stop creating work for me and why can't he just clean the bathroom floor before bathing,will it kill him?..The days following I noticed the bathrooms were always dry and not used,he leaves much earlier than me for work so sometimes I m sleeping when he wakes up..When I asked him why everywhere is always dry now..he told me he now wakes up much earlier and bathes outside to avoid creating work for me as I told him to stop..It took Gods grace not to laugh..I told him to continue after all na only us dey the compound..But the bottom line of this epistle is that women need to train their sons very well..most men just feel everything about the kitchen,sweeping,laundry etc is a woman's job,and you have to work too.At offices these days,a woman's job description is the same as the man's,so why does the man come home tired feeling like he's had a long day and deserves rest but the woman will come bk from same job and cook,clean,take care of children etc,and one man somewhere will open his mouth and say we are 'weaker creatures'and they are superior.If you deserve rest after a long day..I do too so we can sleep hungry,likewise the kids and turn the house to a pigs sty.Since the men have pushed the women out to work and bring in money which wasn't the way in the days of old,they should also compromise by helping out in the chores too..The men can't have it all,a 'corporate' wife,a Cook,a house keeper,a Nanny,all rolled into one while they sit on their behind and do nothing..The woman is termed a 'super woman'meanwhile our backs are breaking from the enormous responsibility on our shoulders..Since 'housewife' is no longer fashionable,the men have to help to fill in the gaps created by the women going out to work for there to be a balance in the society we have now created for ourselves.
ReplyDeleteFair enough. You marry good man too so you fit get mouth. Lol.
DeleteMy husband is a very busy man, but some weekends he shows interest in helping me with the chores. I rather not. He helping me means creating extra work for me. He wants to help do laundry ,he ends up flooding the bathroom and using up all the detergent. He wants to cook he messes the kitchen so much, using all pots and pans just to make noodles. By the time I finish cleaning that up no appetite to eat the food sef. So it's a no for me. Don't know if he does all of these deliberately so I don't ask him again. But I love him like that. So whenever he is home I just give the kids to him, that he is good at and concentrate on my job. And he also takes me to the market and help when I have to buy in bulk.
ReplyDeleteI intend to teach my son, helping in the house don't make u less of a man, it rather makes you the man among men.
Excellent. Clap clap clap clap clap clap clap clap clap.
DeleteI love Happy homes and healthy marriages, not all those confused gwegwelinas
Supermom,
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Your last paragraph is everything 👍
We all have to remember that house Helo mentality in the country has also change the dynamics if things. How?
ReplyDeleteIn d days of forfathers men went to farm women did everything at home chores etc. This is our true culture.
Now men Go to work women go to work too. They are bit he going out to struggle. So how is it fair for all the home chores ti be on the woman? That's where house helps come in.
BUT these days house helps cannot be trusted we hear so many stories everyday. So something has got to give.
Woman if you work you should contribute towards the house. Men if your wife is contributing then you should also contribute in the house shikena..
A woman that has a well paid jib and still collects everything from her husband is a and selfish woman. She does not deserve any help form him at home!
If only they know that we fall in love more with them when they do help out occasionally....
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DeleteThats how whenever i go to visit my fiance (we stay in different states), he will just leave the house for me to take care of, cooking meals and cleaning the kitchen, cleaning the house, washing his clothes and so on.. All he just wants to do is wake up, eat and do his personal things. I wouldn't have mind taking full control of the cooking but this man has refused to buy a gas cooker. he prefers to use this local electric stove that shocks and when light goes off, he will switch to kerosene stove. This is someone who can comfortably afford a cooker. So i just kukuma left him to do the cooking till he decides to buy a gas cooker.
ReplyDeleteVery good aphrodisiac when the man just takes off the load of house chores and is spontaneous about it without being begged, cajoled or manipulated etc. "Good women" can testify to that. :D
ReplyDeleteWhat do they know? 😀...Spanish fly can't beat that 😉
Delete#Sometimes the smarter a woman is, the more difficult it is to find a great man*
ReplyDeleteYeah. Over smartness no epp anybody. Applies both ways especially in marriage. Someone has to give in.
DeleteKikikik.....my husband is the most domestically(forgive the English)lazy man EVER,he has never boiled water since we got married(5yrs).i clear the whole freezer when I'm traveling cos even to microwave food....MBA.the first thing his mom told me was thier men are EXTREMLY HARDWORKING in the office and the opposite at home.im used to it o,I never complain though I get him to do a bit here and there with jokes but not the basic chores o.he won't even get up on weekends to wash the cars,he stays with me in the kitchen sometimes and I get him to touch the pots with style,I'm like would you recognize my pots if you see them outside?he said why would they be outside so toh,I don give up since cos he's a TRUE gentleman,very quiet,if u hear voices when we fighting na my own(lol)highly considerate and never demanding,i won't trade the arrangements with anything o cos nothing can be as important as PEACE in a home and God has blessed me with that.
ReplyDeleteAdvice to ladies is to run away from any man with the qualities they know they can't cope with,nobody is perfect so make sure you can live with the flaws u see!!!
God bless you. Everything just makes sense. Nobody is perfect.
DeleteJust few days ago..my sister's father inlaw was still tellin her the job of her husband is only to go work, play football...every other thing should be done by the wife! Just imagine
ReplyDeleteOdinma!😯 just watch and see her age quickly
DeleteTerrible mentality
DeleteSee ehn, nobody is saying men should sit in the kitchen from morning till night or do all the house chores, No! We don't even want you to. All we are asking for is for you to be a bit considerate, like when your wife is visibly exhausted, what stops you from pitching in? I personally don't want a 'chef' but at least know how to make basic meals and give basic care so if push comes to shove, we won't all be totally stranded. If I get to marry a man even half as domesticated as my aunt's husband ehn, na to dey thank God for am all day everyday.
ReplyDeleteYou don't know their challenges in the marriage and trust me, you wouldn't want to trade theirs with yours if the opportunity arises.
DeleteLolzz I laugh at some men and women here..If you dont help your woman around the house, how do you expect her to make love to you..Some men just have this unhealthy ego..
ReplyDeleteUnderstanding and respecting each others boundary. That's it for me.
ReplyDeleteMy husband can cook anything in the kitchen but won't step into the market to buy a dime.
He can wash everything and anything including my undies, children's clothes so I don't bother about that.
I do not know when we are out of beverages and toiletries or any other thing that can be bought from the supermarket because he does that well.
Ironing nko, I can't recall the last time I touched Iron.
So you see, the things he doesn't do I don't nag about it cos he compliments with others.
This blog needs more of your type oo. Hmn. I don talk my own finish.
DeleteIt all boils down to true love and understanding.
ReplyDeleteI don't believe you love ur wife for example when u see her tired or going up and down from the kitchen to the laundry to the kids room to ur room, bathroom and everywhere cooking, cleaning, washing, scrubbing,ironing e.t.c and u can't offer to help her do at least one thing out of everything. At the end of the day she is exhausted.
Helping with chores helps to strengthen the bond between u two. She is in d kitchen cooking and u pop in once in a while even if its to gist with her.
She is handling the cooking and cleaning, u are handling the kid's homework or ironing their uniform and co
It endears u more to her.
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DeleteIf I'm ill or a new mom, instead of my husband to enter kitchen, he will order for food from eateries, even if it's for a week, d security guy washes d cars, d maid cleans,does laundry,buy groceried n go then resume in d morning to clean up a messed up house/kitchen, the only thing I've ever done since I got married is to cook
ReplyDeleteThis is why it is important for a women to listen very carefully what a man is saying when you are dating. Some men are seeking a replacement mother who will do all for them and that they can have sex with. Some have been unemployed for years and expect the working wife to go work, battle traffic and still come home and do ALL the house chores. Some sit in the village square all day playing games and having longwinded conversations with other men and expect their wife that just gave birth to have the strength to do everything while he amuses himself. If you don't watch and listen when it was that time then the ring shall surely burn your finger. Marriage is not slavery, it is better to be alone than to be enslaved. If two are employed they have to share the chores, if only the husband is employed but the have many young children he will have to help, if only the husband is employed and they don't have any children he doesn't have to do anything, if only the wife is employed he should ensure that he cooks the dinner so she has a hot meal when she gets home and do chores!
ReplyDeleteMy hubby does the chores at home but everything is understanding between the two of u.
ReplyDeleteMy husband help me in the house
ReplyDeleteHe is the one in charge of cleaning the cars and toilet every weekend since we got married over 8yrs ago
Occasionally when he is busy during the weekend and he is unable to clean I nor dey bother to clean oo bcos I have more than enough on my hand
He is very understanding
Tiwa
I feel is lazy men that don't involve themselves in kitchen work, my both brothers can assist for Africa, some men their up bringing was too bad.
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