FIN was founded in 2015 by Omolola, a movement of women focused on building compassion and providing support for one another, with the goal of having up to 1000 members in the group.
However, the group exceeded its target as it recently hit one million members.
According to Zuckerberg’s Facebook page on Tuesday, he will be meeting with Lola and a few hundred of other top Facebook group admins in Chicago later in the month for the first ever Facebook Communities Summit.
“Over the past few weeks, I’ve been meeting group admins across the country that are building meaningful communities on Facebook and will be at the summit.
“Two years ago, she founded a secret Facebook group called Female IN, or FIN,’’ Zuckerberg said.
Zuckerberg said FIN is “a no-judgment space where more than a million women come to talk about everything from marriage and sex to health issues and work problems’’
“It is helping to end the culture of silence that exists for women in some parts of the world.’’
He said for the past decade, Facebook had been focused on making the world more open and connected.
The Facebook founder expressed the willingness of the platform to continue to connect persons, adding that there was the need to do much more by bringing people closer together and build common understanding.
“One of the best ways to do that is by helping people build community, both in the physical world and online.
“I have written and talked about these themes throughout this year, especially in my community letter in February and at Harvard Commencement in May.
“The Chicago summit will be the next chapter and we’ll discuss more of what we’re building to empower community leaders to bring the world closer.
“I’m looking forward to meeting more admins like Lola and talking about how we can help them do even more to build community.
“I’ll share more info on the summit as we get closer, and I’ll stream the event live from my profile later this month.’’
-NAN
*Sorry I have to ask since we have lots of blog visitors who are FIN Members......Since you people refused to add me(wonder what they are scared of)....I want to know how you people are helping each other with this group..I dont understand it and all the secrecy...what goes there?what goes on when you people meet physically?
So many questions....
I'm listening...
ReplyDeleteStella don't worry I would add you up. A lot happens when a follow finster meet her sis. There is a greeting to identify one.
DeleteStella I try adding u but it says u left the group.
DeleteMe I just read the post there. Infact I don't even know u add me sef.
I was added few months ago but I haven't been following their post. I don't know much about it yet
DeleteI was added few months ago but I haven't been following their post. I don't know much about it yet
DeleteI don't know why i refuse to join that group, like 20 people don put me o deh commit. I don't know why.
ReplyDeleteStella they refused to add you because u are a blogger.You can say anything regardless of how it hurts the person or family.u are not a fair person in some cases and justifiably so because in your profession you have to speak without fear or favour. Unfortunately in FIN secrecy is key,womeb are encouraged to share with no repercussion because they have the luxury of easing their aching hearts without being exposed. Pls don't come to FIN,u are too mouthed for most women there who are broken and recovering from heart rending situations.lettgem heal in peacetime can keep helping the ones u can here as u do nothing spoil. Don't come abeg. Thank you
DeleteStella they refused to add you because u are a blogger.You can say anything regardless of how it hurts the person or family.u are not a fair person in some cases and justifiably so because in your profession you have to speak without fear or favour. Unfortunately in FIN secrecy is key,women are encouraged to share with no repercussion because they have the luxury of easing their aching hearts without being exposed. Pls don't come to FIN,u are too mouthed for most women there who are broken and recovering from heart rending situations.let them heal in peace.u can keep helping the ones u can here as u do nothing spoil. Don't come abeg. Thank you
DeleteProudly Finstar.women supporting women with no repercussion.
DeleteI see you sis
DeleteI see you sis
DeleteProudly FIN. Ride on Lola, you slay. The World will soon recognise you. Long live FIN.
ReplyDeleteI see u sis
DeleteI see you sis
DeleteI see u sis.. #finhugs
DeleteFin hugs my fin sisters
DeleteI see you sis.
Delete@Stella, like Mark said, its all about love and care. It is secret as we cannot and don't want to go anonymous, neither do we want sisters getting into trouble because they sought help. Also to encourage sisters to share freely while ensuring their secret is safe. Proudly a FINstar
I hear u sis.
DeleteI see you sis
DeleteI see you sis proudly fin
DeleteFIN hugs. I hear u Sis.
DeleteHmmm, sure say Stella no dey sef, com dey para.winks.
I see you sis.
DeletePls how do I join, I tried facebook but saw so many groups, which is the real group? Tankio!
DeleteI see you sis
DeleteI see u sis.....
DeleteFin rocks!
DeleteI see you sis. Fin hug
DeleteFin rocks
DeleteAnon 12:00, u must be added by somebody.
DeleteI see you sis!
DeleteFin Rocks!
DeleteFin cares
DeleteI see you, sis
DeleteDem don remove me for this fin club ooo. Let me ask my friend to add me again.
ReplyDeleteNa dem sabi. Na to talk about husbands, kids, chuku chuku etc
The way they encourage divorce there eh.
DeleteCommon gerrat... why not bring up a meaningful story if ur not comfy wit the stories or Waka pass
DeleteThey are the real feminist, it is a group that does not agree to anything a man says or do.
ReplyDeleteTaaaaaa! Anonymous linus! Like it's been said up there, they're basically a support group. Feminist ke. Women who've survived DV giving support to others who don't know what to do in DV situation is now feminism? How about those who have medical conditions and come there to ask how to go about solving them or people who've survived sharing their testimonies so others can learn. That's feminism too? Idiot! If you don't know jack about something, just STFU and move along
DeleteI SEE YOU SIS #FINSTER
ReplyDeleteMe my SIL is a member, mistake I did, I used my main profile to post stuff I'm experiencing in the home, this babe just screen shot and send to her brother, being doing family meetings till today begging for forgiveness, I'm still here by Godss grace.
ReplyDeleteKindly send her name,she hv to be permanently banned from the group
DeleteNothing goes in there,its a support group we lift each other and help when d need arises.no blame games there cos we believe that anybody that is strong enough to share their life issues needs nothing but support and encouragement.that said FINCARES!i see you all my sisters
DeleteWow, sorry o your sister in-law is not good and violated the rules.
DeleteI see you sis. #finhugs#dontletthembreakyou.
DeleteEmail her name shaparly to the admins. Wuked Sis in law. She's the problem.
DeleteAhhh, that's wickedness and against the rules of FIN. U shld report her and let then take her out. I no be FIN by spirit and mind oo, i no dey even comment sef. But wat she did is all shades of wickedness. And shey na lie u talk? Y r u begging for forgiveness if it's d truth?
DeleteSIL from hell!
DeleteStella, why should we add up an Amebo like you?No offence intended, but it's your profession. #Proundmember, my married sis invited me. Besides, it's called Female In Nigeria, not Female in planet Earth na. U dey Naija?
ReplyDeleteYou don't even know your group very well. 40% of members in that group are Nigerians who don't reside here.
DeleteNot female in Nigeria my dear,its female in fin!female all over d world although initially it was limited to just female in Naija
DeleteGroup mame has been Chang to Female IN,any female can join. Lola won't add Stella tho,the fear of blog mama is d beginning of wisdom.
DeleteThere are FIN members who are not based in Nigeria, even foreigners dey the group. So, it's not a question of if Stella dey Naija.
DeleteI see you sis.
DeleteAm a member of fin and I don't stay in Nigeria
DeleteHahahahaha,Stella
ReplyDeleteI see you sis....FIN love
ReplyDeleteI hear you sis.
DeleteFIN going places!!! well done Lola
ReplyDeleteUna Weldon
DeleteI see you sis.
DeleteI joined and I see that people share what's most painful, get lots of advice and also let off steam and just grateful at times
ReplyDeleteHonestly I don't see any food thing in the group, ppl come there to divulge their secret to thousands of ppl is that one.secret? Assuming my sis in law writes something about her hubby will I keep mute. Anyway I be member sha but na siddon look I dey do.
ReplyDeleteI agree. I deleted myself from the group and disabled the ability to be added back. Only a dumb person would think that their post is secret in that group. Besides, a good number of the stories shared are not edifying. I cannot condone stupidity in the name of being supportive or nonjudgmental.
DeleteRubbish group, I'm a guy n my go show me all their post, adults talking trash, always sex sexex, one even says she masturbates thinking of sid of King of heart, married woman fa
ReplyDeleteI dey there but e no make any sense to me sha, I see u ko I hear u ni
ReplyDeleteStella.dem.dey fear u ni, open a fake on page n ask a friend to add u
ReplyDeleteStella you're just jealous that you were not recognized. Nyorrrr
ReplyDeleteMumu wetin you dey yarn
DeleteAnonymous 11:05, your sense Don freeze in your skull. See as you reason upside down. Stella of SDK BLOGU is so..ooo most recognized, acclaimed, admired, respected that they shy away from accepting her membership attempt.
DeleteDo you 'gerrit' now?
Who go add me again ooo. I love reading their stories. Man matter
ReplyDeleteI removed myself from the group. I only heard about it when sandy mentioned. After that someone i knew added me. I was happy i was finally there so i can see what the whole fuss was about but nahh. All they do is share miserable stroies. I always felt miserable reafing the posts. Always something sad. I can't be part of such a group abeg. I need things to make me happy not sadden me. I dont want to be added back
DeleteWaiting to read.
ReplyDeleteI see you sis. Fin cares.
ReplyDeleteI am not hundred percent in support of some stories but I just ignore such post. Stella can you do that.if you are added, you will be removed same day,cos you no fit waka pass.
I have also learnt a lot. It's a very good initiative.
FINONEMILLION
Hahahaha, Stella let me add you now. We haven't added you cos they will probably kick your ass out within a week. Some of the stories are so annoying that to waka pass is hard. I have learnt to waka pass sha, especially after they banned me sometime last year 😁😁😁😁😁. All the same I think the general idea behind the group is a really good one. My sister carries the group on her head like gala seller, but JM very indifferent. I learn from stroeies worth learning from, and hurriedly walk past some others 😂😂😂😂.
ReplyDeleteI see you sisters😘😘😘😘
🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂🤣😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Delete@ anon 10:48,That is wicked of her. I hope you contacted Lola or any of the admins and your SIL has been removed from the group.
ReplyDeleteGod will help you to overcome.
Fin cares, I see you sis.
Stella,it is a feminist group!,,
ReplyDeleteIf you criticize their stories like the way we do on chronicles,they will remove you!...
You must agree with every story you read there whether the writer is a Mumu or not!..
You must agree!...
Rubbish group!...
I'm not on face book but a friend send some of the juicy stories for me to read and I get angry reading...
Most women are fish brain!..
Abegi. They said they don't want people to criticize others. Is that too much to ask? Must you criticize?they don't want their platform turning into something you can use to victimize people like you did Oluyomi before she passed away. You lot are full of raw bile. Dark, thick and very unpleasant
DeleteThank you Queen
DeleteNo mind them
It's been a while on this blog. Please which Oluyomi??? Jeez!! I hope its not who I think o. Jeez!!!
DeleteI left FIN because they've got this hangup about asking questions. People ask questions for clarification and you'll find members jumping on the person that asked as if the person is attacking the "poster". They say "no judgment" but they're the most judgmental lot I've ever come across. Eg someone posts stuff about having fibroid at the age of say 24 and complications that came of it etc. And how she was able to overcome through prayers and seeking medical help. You innocently,(for emphasis) with your church mind ask how possible it is to have fibroids at that tender age, just cos you may happen to fall in that age bracket. Your aim was to know how to avoid being a victim but the unjudging judginas will jump on your case like you've attacked the testifier. I couldn't deal, so I clicked the unlike button fast. Stella, you're missing but not really missing that much. I think the fear about adding you is that you might be tempted to codedly mention something about someone shared in the group. What do I know sef. Abeg, na only my mind I fit talk
ReplyDeleteIt is not the question but how it was asked, sisters sensitivity is put above you inquisition. You would be surprised that someone else would get the information you sought on that same page. Truth is, if you don't get it, you just don't. FIN is not for all women, there are women who only the the men, sex and family experiences, while there are some of us who see the package. It is a group of over 1 million women, we do not expect everyone to be in tune with every post. So you are always advised to waka pass if you can't deal with a particular post. I love being a FINstar, It is women helping women have a voice. Not everyone have to agree. Just those with the FIN spirit.
Delete👏👏👏👏👏👏
Delete@Broomstick, when someone shares their experience, it is not for you to decide if it is true or false. There are kids that have been found to have lump in their breast, even breast cancer. So I see no reason why you should question a 24 years old saying she had fibroid. It's her story if you don't believe, ignore. If she knew how not to be a victim in the first place she won't have it. Its her story, she can decide the part she wants to share.So if you can't encourage her, waka pass. If judginas are allowed. People will feel worse off, which is not the aim of the group. And we don't believe in watching war-room abi na cold room. I see you sis.
DeleteGo to Google and learn about fibroids and hormones then u will c age 24 ain't d problem. Waka pass is allowed in Fin. I see u
DeleteSee the "I'm not judging but let me judge" attitude I'm talking about? Before you condemn, understand. Women like you are the reason those who would actually have benefited from the group leave the group. Must I Google everything? "Is there something one can do to avoid getting fibroid at such an early age?". That was the question a friend asked and she was booted out! Wish I could post the screenshot! How the heck is that being judgmental? Please enjoy your FIN and stop judging people with real concerns
DeleteFeminist everywhere
ReplyDeleteFIN is another arm created by the devil to break some homes. Some of the advice they give there is satanic and devilish. Some post are absolutely void of morality.
ReplyDeleteYour last sentence, so true
DeleteThat group is seriously not the way forward for troubled women.. but they don't know yet. That's how Deepdeal Cha Cha the Hammer was kidnapped last year after sharing the travails of her marriage and the group did nothing to help and till present she's no where to be found.. She's gone. Creating an avenue for sharing problems is good but there's no security for members all they have is Fin hugs and kisses. Well to each their own. I go there when internet is boring
DeleteProudly FIN 💃
ReplyDeleteSDK, women actually get help in the group. It isn't easy accommodating a huge number of women but sis Lola and co are really trying. However, the fear of SDK - the blog mama is the beginning of wisdom 😂😂
Somebody should please add me ooo
DeleteI see you sis!
ReplyDeleteI hear you sisters.
ReplyDeleteFin is a great group that has helped lots of women.
It opens our eyes to so many ills of the society e.g your GIRL CHILD(REN) must be looked after with the watchful eyes of an eagle
* Whatever you are going through women all over the world irrespective of age, nationality, religion etc have been thru it and come out victorious.
* don't ever deceive yourself that u can change any man.
* move out and move on from any abusive relationship bcos pple that have gone thru it will tell u from experience that it's either u get killed, disfigured or die untimely.
I can tell you that being a FIN member is great experience because u learn, u laughed, u cried etc bcos u realized that so many pple have walked in your shoes so u are not alone with whatever u are going thru.
Women go thru a lot.
Fin hug to all finsters. Stella, fin does not have any physical hangout or meeting point. Everything is on SM.
ReplyDeleteFincares.
Haba lie with finesse na. They hang out from time to time in different cities.
DeleteStella you won't last in the group. Lol
ReplyDeleteThere are some things that are outright wrong but if you say anything outside supporting the poster, you will be called a judge and removed.
A lady wore a dress which was visibly revealing and said her pastor called her out. Everyone focused on insulting the pastor and applauding her response forgetting that the dress was too damn revealing. The people who managed to say the truth were warned it's a no judging group. I was weak.
Another time a lady writes a dialogue which showed she was indeed rude to her husband. And she was applauded for being able to stand up for herself.
The group has its good side (I love they preach to stand up against DV and education on sex which people shy away from) but also it's not so good side. Go there and tell them how you woke up feeling like you want to be a lesbian and no one dares give you it's wrong or a religious reply. They will say if it's what you want, ride on sis.
If one is not strong they will be brainwashed into accepting everything said on that group is right, practise it at home and end up breaking their marriage.
Thank you for telling the truth ojare not those forming rubbish
DeleteWhy are the post old? No June 2017 post?
ReplyDeleteYou guz saying u removed yourself should stop lying abeg, u were excused probably from insensitive remarks or liking comments that are insensitive.
ReplyDeleteMost people that were removed begged me to re-add them so how come u are flexing that u removed yourself.
Sometimes I might not comment or like post for months or I might not read sef. But still go back.
Nigerians should learn to be non judgemental which is one of the rules of Female IN.
I posted something on chronicles last year, someone was calling me olosho, one even said I was defending myself by trolling people people's comments which of course I didn't do.
Please try and be sensitive bcos a careless comments might pushed someone to the brink and the death of that person will be on you.
I hear and see you sisters.....
I removed myself, come and beat me.
DeleteBhiojay- Leave group is not hidden. Any and everybody can click on it like I did and not necessarily be banned from the group. "Receive Sense".
DeleteAunty, I removed myself. I can't deal with not being able to express myself freely even when I'm not trying to judge the person. Like I wrote above, I left after a friend was removed for asking a straightforward, I wanna learn question. Is FIN putting food on my table that I'll desperately want to be re-added? Y'all end up making money for the admin with all your donations and purchases. I recently saw a lady in Calabar wearing the T-shirt and I walked up to her and said hi just so I could check out the quality of the T-shirt and figure out why the heck it cost so damn much. Omo, I no see nada! Don't get me started abeg
DeleteI removed myself like 1 second after being added because I hate being added to groups without my permission or request.
DeleteBunch of razz people. Their oversabi too much. Like trinity said. Why would i be part of a stupid sad group with no uplifting experiences. I took my self out ni o. Lola herself is in a happy marriage making money off her mumu disciples . Fin koor scales ni
ReplyDeleteUsed to be in that group o, but I was removed because I told a lady His is not proud of her actions.
ReplyDeleteA group that don't acknowledge the existence of God,bans you from saying anything relating to God.
Encourages divorce, don't preach forgiveness. Making women goat head in their homes. Forgetting that what works In Mrs A home won't work in Mrs B home.
I won't deny that they don't have their good, but the bad outweighs the good.
It teaches against domestic violence, buy also tells you to confront your husband. Hain!
They have a different idea of submissiveness to your husband.
They want you to support every post even when it's plainly wrong.
Support homosexuality,the funny thing is that those who even supports it are mere hypocrites.
Finally a gathering of people that refuse to talk about God, knowing he is concerned about the tiniest details of our life is total rubbish.
#i speak the truth.
You nailed It. Same reasons I left.
Delete#youspeaklies #whyyoulying? I understand that you were removed from the group but lying about it?
DeleteAll the testimonies about what God has done for the testifier is what? All the acknowledgement of God awesomeness is what?
It does not encourage divorce but encourages women not to stay put and die in violent and abusive marriages and relationships; separate from the man and get your life back rather than stay put because of world people and what they will say is not a sin.
Homosexuality? Believe it or not it carries the same judgement as telling a negligible lie and who pounds that telling of lie into you all the time or hold it over your head like the sword of damocles? Whether you like it or not Someone somewhere thinks your lifestyle is a big sin but in your eyes is it? Focus on making heaven and spreading the gospel with love and not hate which is what majority of people do when the same sex issue comes up.
Yes FIN has a rule of not forcing your religion or belief down another person's throat and that is fine. A million members and counting and you think everyone there is a Christian or even if the same faith? Even in Christianity we have Anglicans, catholics, protestants, letter day saints, JWs so what are we saying when you add Muslims etc to it? Pure undiluted chaos is what you get. Fin had never flaunted itself as a religious group; there are thousands of that on fb...find them and join them if that is what tickles your fancy. The rules are there and because they don't start and end the day with fasting and praying posts does not give you the right to rubbish the good it actually does. The giving, solidarity, understanding, support that so many women get there (which is what the group stands for) is amazing.
So many judginas and pull down syndrome is what is killing people...the deed has been done so why use your mouth to kill off the person?
I can go on and on but free Lola and her group alone. She's doing an awesome job, why don't you find one and do? And if you already have one, do it so much so that it brings you international recognition.
*God is not proud of her actions.
DeleteThat's it SuperMom. Hmmmn, I can't shout. I saw some Pastors wives an highly spiricoco people in the group that I know I they were seeing all what, mbok I advised myself, "Salvation is personal" I left.
DeleteGod bless you, Ralu M. Oh ye Christian how will you make heaven when you keep judging everyone except yourself. The least you can do is to pray for the "sinner" abi prayer doesn't work again? Proud finster.
DeleteStella de no go like u for de group oooo. I left the group voluntarily when I noticed that it was not adding to my life positively. Lesbianism, revolution and "runs arrangement" are not my thing. But some good people de dia sha.
ReplyDeleteI left the group too after I was warned about asking a question. I challenged the stupid administrator too, before she could respond in her usual high and mighty way, I clicked "leave group" Some of us are just allergic to bullshit. Something will happen that will shake that group to its core very soon. Na Fbi go request for it to be shut down. Yeye lesbians?!!
DeleteI see you sis, fin hugs
ReplyDeleteThose of u saying they talk about sex..u want to tell me u have never discussed about sex with ur friends? Wherever adults are gathered both male and female...the topics about sex are bound to come up. Personally, I have learnt a lot from that group. No human is perfect, therefore no group or association of humans will be perfect.
ReplyDeleteIt's true what most of the anons on here have said. If you dare to disagree with any post on there you will be bullied and shunned or even banned out of the group. I remember a post where the ladies were abusing a housegirl and calling her all sorts of names. I dared to say we should not abuse the housegirl and next thing I know i was blocked. Within my first day of being on the group!
ReplyDeleteMost of the stories are cooked up lies, fragments of the posters imagination. A grown woman of 24 went to hospital with a headache and the male doctor who attended to her told her to lie down for an internal examination, before she could say Jack, he was fingering her with no gloves on. I dared to ask her, how come?? What is the connection BTW the head and the privates. I was attacked for that and I promptly left their group of brainwashed fools.
DeleteSDK i will only encourage you to join the group and read whatever nonsense they post their whenever you are bored.thats what i do,i only read their post the days am bored, i don't Like neither do i comment. The group has an advantage it teaches some few good things but the disadvantages are more, the only thing they are good at is encouraging broken homes and divorce.
ReplyDeleteFin ko, scales ni. I can never join such. Egbe eiye l'eiye wo to. All the women there must be birds of the same feather.
ReplyDeleteAm a silent finister but I feel it's a Cult. Period
ReplyDeleteThis midget Lola with her owl eyes feel she'd achieved something remarkable but i pity her soul. Creating a develish group that causes more problems. A friend divorced her husband few months after joining that group. Any post about God is not allowed. I pity those sharing their secrets in that group. Doom day is coming for u lots.
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