I mean women should be eager to prove their FAITHFULNESS if they have nothing to hide.
This is my opinion,I am not calling out anyone or saying I am better than anyone else but I am intrigued...
why are women getting angry because men want to be sure those kids are theirs?It is a viral topic and I honestly want to know what you think about this!
Woman what are you scared of?...Lol
Ngwa married Women come and confess
ReplyDeleteNo need 4 dna as all of dem Carry their papa face ..its even visible to d blind
DeleteHmmmmm. Stella this your topic get as him be ooo. Abeg make them no con dey disturb you ooo. Abi u no see Wetin them do that guy for facebook
DeleteI know a married woman that says two of her children doesn't belong to her husband but the husband doesn't know.wickedness
DeleteIf u have a school boyfriend😂😂 hold ur ears and listen- there is probability that ur 1st child isn't for ur hubby😂😂
DeleteWhat if na their papa brother.......
DeleteDNA isn't needed in my home bcx even d blind can see my hubby's face in my kids and d deaf can literally hear their daddy's voice n d way he speaks wen my kids speak.
DeleteBut when a man is impotent they will beg the woman to cover up....... what a world
DeleteStella how will she be happy? It is an indirect way to say you have cheated. Any good wife will take severe offense. I know I will what nonsense. I would be so hurt.
DeleteLol @anon 14:41. Yes o. My kids just carry their father's face. So no need for DNA.
DeleteWhat about the kids, how will they feel ? Knowing their father thinks he may not be their biological father.
DeleteEager to prove gini?
ReplyDeleteSo is there a medical test to prove a man's faithfulness?
Until there is one, don't tell me nth!
My dear the difference is that if man plays away match and he give girl belle, the child is his. But for and your fellow cheats you force another man's child on your husband and you are constantly praying, living in fear and having unnecessary anxieties. The Apha
DeleteAny woman that gives a man another man's child can kill. With the way this DNA matter is going,I think the men should take this serious and go for a DNA for all his "supposed" kids
DeleteMen please stooopeet!
DeleteWhy do u want to do DNA?
U want to scatter ur home?
Ignorance is bliss atimes
Most first born child in nigeria isn't for the husband especially if the wife had a previous boyfriend
According to statistics it's quite true tho. Many 1st born aren't owned by the father.🤗this has caused lots of problems in tge hospital when the child falls sick and blood test are conducted on the parents..see arguments eeh! Women are the most coded cheats
DeleteThe thing tire me. Some women are like people shouldn't call for DNA testing for married couples with children that it would break homes. Anyways if I was the man I will take some responsibility of the children that are none but the woman leaves.
ReplyDeleteMany women have boyfriends outside the home and trust naija ladies..they hate condom!
DeleteI'm bisexual so I may likely cheat with a woman after marriage. If anything ever makes me cheat with a man prolly for some fantasy reasons, I can never get to the level of getting pregnant n having d child. Why mess with kids that way? Why bring up such child to cause complications later? I don't even think it's reasonable to cheat without protection with a man.
DeleteStella you want to spoil some people's market abi? Na fuck fuck women full everywhere.
ReplyDeleteSome men cannot do the do, so women dey help themselves outside.
Dont get caught that is my own. Do it codely and even carry am go grave too
I heard its very very costly...not everybody can afford it seff
DeleteMost men who insisting pregnancy before wedding fall victim
DeleteI am not married... So I am gonna read comments cos it is going to be lit 🔥🔥....
ReplyDeleteGrab popcorn and zobo...who wanna join
Abeg "shift" o. I'm coming with cupcakes and chapman.
DeleteCandy I go join you o
DeleteMe too
DeleteAny man that wants to do that knows that there is no smoke without fire...
ReplyDeleteAny woman that says no has a skeleton in her cupboard...
Not necessarily that all women that says no have skeleton in their cupboard. Some just feels their man should trust them well enough not to carry out such test
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DeleteAs a matter of fact, all men should take their kids for DNA testing. The woman should agree with love if she has no skeletons in her cupboard.
ReplyDeletehonestly i will personally feel bad that he doubts my fidelity. i know how to tame my dog. he can go ahead and do it codedly but he wouldnt dare flaunt it on my face.
ReplyDelete*hangs leg on the wall*
It's a good thing. When when its done. Do not expect an atom of trust from me ever again
ReplyDeleteExactly, that cord of trust is broken even though I'm innocent.
DeleteI'm surprised Stella is saying the woman should be excited. Excited that your husband does not trust you and is shoving it in your face or what? Take them for DNA and hope the results will favour you because if it dies not.. Na that time I go fuck well a...and yes I am wicked like that!
Delete*does
DeleteMy point too.i know his kids are his but ill feel distraught and broken if my husband walks up to me and request dna without me giving him a reason to doubt me..common stella put urself in dat position.it will hurt big time.
DeleteExactly. Why will my man ever think I am capable of such evil? If I have given you no reason to think there is a possibility somewhere, then you shouldn't dare. If you want paternity test, do it behind me please. Get everyone ready to beg me if I ever find out you did.
DeleteMrsBee
Uncivilized Nigerians. This is done with husbands and their wives in agreement in developed countries.
DeleteI suggested it to my husband for our son,he just looked at me and smiled and said,"he is my son and I trust you".No big deal joor,if he wants it,cool.i've got nothing to hide.
DeleteMen impregnate women outside everyday and their wives don't cry wolf except for some. Heck, some men have and keep more than one family without the women's knowledge. If my husband for whatever reason does a DNA without my knowledge and I find out even 20 years after, the marriage is over. I'd take my kids and go find a better man.
ReplyDeleteWhy are you even married to someone who you don't trust? Let's even start from there.
Shior
U dnt get it doppelganger, men who impregnates chicks outside knw d kids are his and d wife probably knw they r her hubby's
DeleteBut for married women,the man won't knw d kids aren't his n by so doing,taking responsibility of kids dt aren't his.
Out of 4/5 kids a man finds out only 1 or non are his kids after investigating on them,come on. That ain't fair
Also,for a man to dd for DNA, something might hv prompted it
You'd take your grown kids and go find another man?
DeleteYou talk like a KID sometimes
World People, you're very silly for your statement. Since you're an adult why not drop your own statement and keep walking. What I do with my kids when I do have one is my business.
DeleteThe comment section isn't closed, get off my dick. Imagine an adult capitalising every word just to make a point.
Silly adult.
@Victoria Ehis, please my point is if women can accept kids their husbands have outside their matrimonial homes, why can't men accept same from their wives? I mean, everyday married women find out about their husbands love child usually by accident because most men hide it and they still stay in their marriages.
DeleteI cannot stay married to a man who goes behind my back to run a DNA test without first accusing me. When and if I do find out he did that even after confirming the kids are his, the marriage is over.
If a man isn't sure he should first accuse the woman and get her permission to do the test not sneak around. That's fair enough!
DNA test is not like running a malaria test, it is expensive.
Good point dopple ganger. But however if you suspect ur man has a Chikd outside will you accuse him before carrying out the investigation? Bearing in mind you may nit have whatbyou need for a dna. Won't you investigate and confirm before asking tour husband about this supposed child?
DeleteMarry first na. You think marriage is like the novels you read.
DeleteNonsense
If you like take this SILLY advise from this child. That's your own wahala
Doppelganger how will the man know that the kids are not his for him to accept them if not by DNA test that you so much detest?
DeleteMen think they play??????????
ReplyDeleteWomen are the true player.
DNA???? Some homes will be wrecked irretrievably.
Most men are the greatest fools ever liveth.
DeleteIf you are a cheat and you discover that you have been fathering another man's kids, ntogi to you, serves you right. Continue in your misery or take sniper.
Even if you kick the woman out, you will be starting all over again which serves your cheating ass right.
It is a simple case of cheat jam cheat.
If you are not faithful, why should you expect your partner to be faithful? Both of you (2 cheats) should kiss and make up and forgive una cheating selves.
Oh how I hate cheats!!!
I see nothing wrong with that. Only unfaithful women will take offence
ReplyDeleteI know a girl that was married to a pilot, busy man trying to please his IG slay queen. Aunty was busying sexing another man and eventually had a baby for the outside man, till the baby girl was almost 1 before husband knew his daughter wasn't his. In such a situation now what is wrong with a dna test? Some women have absolutely no conscience, and are just shameless. Ops y r u still daisy, is 2dy the 28th? Hmmm.
DeleteOpe's gist has reached here, God!
DeleteThe men should start by testing themselves and their fathers because they may not even be their father's biological son
ReplyDeletePLOT TWIST
DeleteI like that!
Lol.... Women be taking this matter seriously. Anyways what do I know, am not married yet
ReplyDeleteStella I am surprised you are ok with DNA testing for someone who claims to be against snooping. I sure many would say its not the same but I am talking from the point of trust. If you trust your wife then I don't think there is any need for DNA testing. Same goes for no snooping. I personally don't mind doing a DNA test to prove they are my husband's children but what message does that send to me? I may not say it out but in my heart of heart, I believe trust is gone and so begins the game of DOUBT.
ReplyDeleteAnon.14:47, 10,000,000,0000 likes for your comment.👍👍👍👍👍
DeleteGbam.its not about skeletons in cupboard..it hurts when ive not given u a reason to doubt me
DeleteTake 25 ✋✋✋✋✋✋ jare!
Delete✋✋✋✋✋ make it 50!
DeleteMrsBee
Me will carry out DNA test for all my kids...
DeleteBut it is going to be coded just the way u ladies goes about snooping and cheating codedly..
😁😁😁😁😁😁😁😁😁
My wife is pregnant again and dis pregnancy no be like my own. I don dey save money for d test😎😎😎😎
She had been forming good wife and prayer warrior since she got pregnant. I just dey laff in Ibibio
U may or may not trust ur husband but he cheats on u,u found out but you stay glued to him,now he doesn't trust u too and decides to do a DNA for d kids you have for him,u dey vex.Did he force you to stick to him and even fought to keep him after he cheated?
DeleteLol
Delete@ laughing in Ibibio
Nothing is bad about it once there's trust I will agree.
ReplyDeleteHow about those that "spray semen and run away?"
ReplyDeleteWhat should the women do?
That's why I advise some married women to start cheating when they must have finished giving birth to avoid stories that touch!...
ReplyDeleteI can't caught my self fucking only one dick for the rest of my life all in the name of marriage!...
It's boring mehn...
The chief herself
Delete*eyes hugs*
Any body wet follow your mouth don loss
DeleteGbagaun! Afi 'caught' 😆😆 Nne NA wa o!
DeleteKelvin Dat Edo Boi (Stellz Cousin)
Who buy your comments? Why always seeking for attention when you have it already. OYO to anyone who follows your comments.
DeleteSo you cheat too?
DeleteUr English ehnnn.
DeleteI just dey imagine d kind of boys wey dey fuck u self. Dirty looking guys I suppose...
U remind me of one ulgy woman wey dey PH. She can form strong woman fucking boys wey she dey pay.
Wasting her husband money on boys and moving around with single girls and widows.
Now wey her husband don give girl belle outside and have told her to move out. She don turn born again Christian.
She has bcum laffing stock in her area.
Dey form say u get jazz until ur eye go clear.
D woman on have 1 child for d husband bcoz d guy no gree do again .
Anon 20 50 I guess you lumped single girls and widows together as trash to be avoided since they don't have a husband
DeleteMy eldest sister insisted l do DNA for my 5 kids because of the stories she heard from some her friends. She is the mother hen in the family, my best friend and confidant. After much wahala and the enlisting of my mother, l did the test and it all came out good. She gifted my wife 10 million naira for her faithfulness. We are all at peace. My younger brothers are testing their kids as they come.The Alpha
ReplyDeleteGood one from your sister. Her gift is re-assuring
DeleteClap for yaself.10 million ko,10 kobo ni
DeleteWait o....that means you guys didn't trust your wives
DeleteI wonder oh. Which one is testing kids as they come what kind of life are we living now? The wife really took d 10 million. Wtf. Wtf. Wtf. That's like saying you have a bf every time he comes home you want to smell his dick to know if he had sex outside. My Lord. While you people are testing the children also teat for HIV nonsense.
DeleteBeloved,trust God your creator alone.Trust no man
DeleteIs there a Yariba man that does not have a concubine and kids somewhere?
ReplyDeleteHeaven punish you
DeleteHihihihihhihihi
DeleteIf you have nothing to hide why are you scared ladies?
ReplyDeleteI am not scared but it means he thinks I am unfaithful abi ashawo.I will of course let him do DNA,after the test of they are his..boy bye..no trust rship ain't leading me no where.
ReplyDeleteSorry but no Stella I won't be happy one bit. My husband suggesting DNA test for our children means he somehow doesn't completely trust me and once that impression has been made, its going to be very hard for me to get over it.
ReplyDeleteIf you are a married woman that gave birth to a child that is not from your husband...
ReplyDeleteYou better start knacking pigeon on his head!...
Na serious gbege you dey if he find out!...
I don't see the big deal there. Afterall when they tell people to do DNA when they win American lottery they don't complain.
ReplyDeleteIv watched a true life where a DNA test was conducted on a child because he has an hereditary disease and the mother doesn't carry the gene.
The father at first thought his wife had cheated on him as DNA proved it wasn't his son.
They now did DNA test on the woman too and the child wasn't biologically hers too.
It was discovered there was a switch of babies done mistakenly at the hospital they delivered.
Long story short both families kept their kids and didn't exchange them
As they already loved each kid as their son for 9yrs.
If as a woman you have been faithful.
Why fear
More than 25% of all first born do not belong to their fathers. Issues of trust is just an excuse by wayward women. When your kids are registered in some private schools, you are asked to go for blood test, why do that. You are taking your kids abroad and you are asked to go for DNA test for those applying for immigrant visas, why not tell the embassy to fuck themselves. Your child is sick ( degenerative disease) and you are asked to go for DNA test , why not take your child home. The Alpha
DeleteThank you Beds and Roses,I don't see a big deal in this DNA thing,women are making it so alarming that they cheat on their husbands.I would do a DNA on my kids if I were a man coz the way women have been shouting no to DNA is suspicious.I feel most men are raising kids for their friends,colleagues, neighbors,landlords,etc.some women are evil!
DeleteLolzzz @dope mum
DeleteHmmmm.... why should my husband doubt my fidelity to him? What happened to trust? but if he must do it, let it be in secret coz I wont have anything to hide but once he asks me- There will be problems lol
ReplyDeleteThe Bible said trust no-one, that's what happens to the trust.
DeleteSmall Children with less than 3 decades of experience ranting immaturity up and down.I sincerely pity some younger people who take or apply these blog comments to there real lives.Regardless,you'd be shocked alot of them do!
ReplyDeleteMentusela (hope I got dt spelling) so it's by far one gets knowledge?
DeleteI hv spent more than dt ur 3 decades rating n I still learn frm here daily especially frm d young ones self
. U might not understand but these so called young ones (according to u) might hv d answer to dt question u've bn asking urself for long.
It's Methuselah 😉..thank me later
DeleteDoes DNA testing prove faithfulness? Certainly not! A woman can bear her Hubby's children legit yet be kondo-ing outside without getting pregnant & vice versa. Personally, I don't think DNA testing should be recommended except suspicions arise as to paternity. And no, no sane woman will be happy to hear that her husband wants to conduct DNA on their kids except her faithfulness (in this case, the child/children's paternity) was called into question & she wants to prove a point.
ReplyDeleteExactly! For no reason you'll just wakeup and tell me DNA. Thunder fire you there.
DeleteDo one if you feel there is any need for it and know for certain before you end up 40 years later with the info that your beloved son or daughter is not yours. Reminds me of that video where that elderly man was crying and asking the tv host..."you mean he's not mine?" 😢very sad scenario.
ReplyDeleteHowever I'll always say it that women always get the short end of the stick in this society; is it not this same men that go outside to impregnate another man's wife? Make married women respect themselves biko, you will end up with the disgrace and backlash and the men sympathetic back pats and commiserations from people.
Stella, a man asking for DNA test to ascertain if his kids are his takes trust away from that relationship.
ReplyDeleteGoing by the argument, some ladies are saying what is good for the goose is also good for the gander.
In my own opinion, I'll say a clear conscience fears no accusation.
Asking for DNA is not and should not be an issue. It is the silent accusation that goes with the request that is the issue and any reaction the man gets after that is his cup of tea. I also hope as he is asking, he is also coming to the table with clean hands.
Men with more than one wife can do it, it's their cross to carry. But then a man can do it codedly without madame knowledge to avoid problems, then if any of d kids aint his, he should take it as his karma, no be only them get monopoly to cheat.
ReplyDeleteThe guilty are afraid...
ReplyDeleteIf your hands are clean then there is no course for objection
ReplyDeleteTruth is,the moment you tell a woman that you are taking the kids for a DNA test,or she gets to know,it is tantamount to saying "I suspect you have been unfaithful,you have been sleeping around".That spells 'I DON'T TRUST YOU' more than any other action/decision a man can take/make in his home.Trust,they say,is a mirror that when broken,can NEVER be pieced back.
ReplyDeleteWomen can keep secrets better than men.The wife is going to be deeply hurt,especially if she has been faithful to/in that marriage since inception and she can hide that hurt and actually start planning on how to hurt the marriage,man or both.Try reverse the question like this:What if you find out your wife is trying to get a child's hair or blood for a DNA test,just because you are too close to the child and the mother?If you have done nothing wrong,no qualms but then you get to know that she even thinks that you are unfaithful to her,to the point of impregnating this woman?
This is like snooping but the consequences are far worse because it is irreversible and,believe me,there is no remedy for a situation where the wife knows you don't trust her.
Men out there,if you don't trust your wife-'PLEASE DON'T LET HER KNOW'(I pray my wife doesn't get to read this).If you want to go about this DNA stuff,let this period that the thing is trending go,then take EVERYBODY(including your househelp and relatives living with you) for a general check up.,do that again every six months so that it becomes like a tradition.Then quietly slip it to either the doctor or the medical lab scientist that you want the DNA test done too on the kids.Ensure that you don't use a hospital where your wife is overly familiar with their staff.Pick another hospital for these 'general check-up' sessions.
Another thing is when you find out the truth,wetin you go do?Stella I beg ask that question on men's roundtable since the DNA issue is the rave of the moment: WHAT WOULD YOU DO IF YOU FOUND OUT THAT YOUR FOUR KIDS,BETWEEN 13 AND 8 YEARS,ARE NOT YOURS? Think,there are 6 lives involved here,6 lives that are going to be changed FOREVER,depending on your reaction.
Nigeria go better,by God's grace
What's the need for the DNA?? For a man to even suggest that is a slap to his wife
ReplyDeleteShe some of them here talking about trust bla, bla, bla, but when they are talking about snooping they forget the trust thing, right? Women! y'all will always say what suits you.
ReplyDeleteBut if you as a lady suspects your brother's/son's children are not his, you will insist that your brother/son do a DNA test, right? Women!
Same women who will object to their brothers/sons marrying a woman they believe has a fishy past, but if they are the ones involved or when it is far from their home they will start preaching "everyone has a past." Women! Una try sha.
Anonymous you see the point. If we suspect we will demand for it. You must suspect first. If you think your wife is cheating pls kindly Go ahead. But if you have no reason to suspect what kind of insult is that????????
DeleteMen think they are the smartest especially with their cheating ways. This dna thing will show men that women are extremely deceptive. How many men know that their wives are witches, doing meetings up and down. We women are smarter than men. We are the masters of THE GAME.
ReplyDeleteUr comment and ur blog I.d. lwtmb
DeleteHow can a man ask for dna test openly and not expect the marriage to change? It can never be the same after that. Let him get his testing secretly, better yet, every man should be in the know of their woman's menstrual cycle, that way he can calculate her ovulation period and know without doubt if a child is his. What is stopping a man from being aware of his wife's cycle? Men want it all, let a wife ask a cheating husband to wear simple condom with her and you see drama, yet they want to come ask for dna. Don't ask me about any DNA cause cheating ain't in me, kindly do it behind my back and fulfill your curiosity without my knowledge.
ReplyDeleteI see no reason why I should be scared when there is a need for DNA test on my kids. Except it's done secretly and I get to find out
ReplyDeleteI don't think is wrong for DNA to be don in a family, If you both trust yourself what's the big deal
ReplyDeleteBut why on earth would a woman get so carried away to conceive and bear another man's child for her husband especially when it was a mutual consent **fertility issues**?
ReplyDeleteIf a man doesn't suspect fowl play he won't request for dna testing in d first place...
ReplyDeleteSo let's cut the chase people and leave trust out of it. We all know that no sane man will just say he wants to do genetic testing on his child except if the child has a trait that is entirely different from that of other members of the family. So if you as a woman have nothing to hide, you should not be scared if ur husband request for dna testing.
Turkey play hehe!
DeleteSome ladies are too secretive, if u dnt have any skeleton u wont be scared of a DNA
ReplyDeleteLet me just share my perspective to this topic because it happened to me. I met my husband and married him. not because he was rich but I felt he had all the acceptable indicators for a husband and I liked him as friend but I did not love him per say .But I felt that was fair enough and that should suffice to sail me through the marriage . Unfortunately I got married and shortly into the marriage I discovered that the so called pass indicators I gave him that warranted me to enter the marriage was false. he lied about everything or told half truths about very critical information if you know what I mean. I discovered he has a terrible temperament. A domestic abuser .A narcissist. Not a likeable person at all. Not even a provider. so rather than the love grow it diminished.
ReplyDeleteFor peace to reign I withdrew to a point were he didn't need a soothsayer to tell him that I will leave at the earliest convenience. I was only waiting for such a time that my kids will not be affected by the trauma cos I knew the divorce will be bloody. He would do everything to keep the kids even if it involved abducting them .So I hung on for a few more years till the last entered boarding school.
You see, I was that typical good girl next door. Not overflogged before marriage, middle class ajebee. I had good Middle class parents with high values... very high values if you know what I mean. so when my husband started always accusing me of infidelity I found it terribly strange, painful and annoying. But he will insinuate it at every given opportunity. The only places I was allowed to go without suspicion was work and church.it was stifling cos I am somewhat an outgoing person. So when he insisted I give my consent to a DNA I willingly did. But I felt so insulted. I felt I was no longer married but just a carcass living in the house.
of course I had no fears. the result came in after 3 weeks and all 3 kids were his. But that was the end. I had met my lawyers to draft the divorce paper but I needed my fathers approval and he wouldn't give it. No body wants to say I told you to divorce your hubby.
I hung in there and was facing my life. Married but single. I tried to find joy in other things .He most likely had been cheating but I couldn't care less. It is only a man that you love or need his money that bothers you when another person takes his attention. I just didn't care. But after a while he starts begging me to reconsider a relationship with him. Begging me to take him back and all. Take him back emotionally I mean because he was locked out emotionally. You see I am good catch for any man even is I say so myself. So he must have evaluated his options and seen it was more advantageous to be with me. the problem is that the love is gone...or will I say the like is gone!!!
I felt hurt that he turned out to be the person he turned out to be. All the abuse, the trauma and distrust is what I never imagined I will experience in marriage. He is begging and promising to be a changed man.
I am giving God a chance to clean the dirty slate and help me to forgive . I will give the process chance and see where that takes me....But for now I am not so sure.
May God heal your broken heart poster. It is not easy to deal with betrayal especially from a spouse.
DeleteIf he is truly remorseful and changed man, give him the opportunity to do things right. But please , you need to talk deeply since you will be starting afresh, no more hurts!!! All the best sis.
DeleteMy kids are my husband's carbon copy, except for one of my triplets. The one that is like small puppy lol, she's my mini me. So if my husband wants to do DNA for that one, no wahala lol. Women who have issues with DNA are pure cheats.
ReplyDeleteNina Chico mile that's what you will say. If your husband just wakes up and say he wants DNA will you not be upset? Especially since the children look like him. Me I'm not a cheat. I am happily married but if my husband should ask for DNA ah that means he is saying that Child can be for someone else. Who? He must bring that person oh. He must tell me the date and time we had sex. He must tell me all the positions we did. Since he is now God that sees all.
DeleteStella it depends on the situation.you cant just come up to me because its the norm and say u want o do dna for the fun of it..
ReplyDeleteHow do u expect the woman who has been faithful to feel at the receiving end.u should only request dna if there has been a reason at all to doubt my loyalty..thats different
But u wake up one morning and decide u feel like doing it..fine u can go ahead i wont even stop u..but trust me thats the end of the marriage..it has killed the love automatically
Our society is full of double standards especially when it comes to women. You do HIV test, genotype test and all sort of test before marriage. They would easily do DNA for entry visa rather than for their husbands to find out their cheating nature. Truth is cheating is not gender related. If you women say all men cheat, please who are the men cheating with, same women. So therefore all gender are cheats, in fact women are the most coded cheats on earth. Only God can help men expose a cheating woman. Am out.
ReplyDeleteA lot of married women will be mad if their husbands request for DNA not basically because they are cheating and/or the kids are not for their husbands; but because it is a direct slap on their faces as such request screams "I DONT TRUST YOU.
ReplyDeleteOk so as a husband. You request for a DNA test; she agrees,DNA is done,
All kids are confirmed to be the husband's.
You think that wound would ever heal?
Animosity will dwell on that marriage forever.
A good husband should know what
his wife is capable of.
Where a man has very strong suspicion about the affairs of his wife and has 90% confirmed his suspicions to be true, he can go ahead to request for such rather than father another man's child all his life.
Even if his wife feels bad that he is requesting for such, somewhere in her heart, she knows it's because her ways are not pure hence....
People should stop looking for trouble where there's none. Ignorance is bliss, I tell you....
DeleteThere's really no big deal with a dna test, the man need not even ask the woman because that will bring problems. All you need for a dna test nowadays is just a swab of the persons mouth, you carry swab to lab and they test it against your sample. So you as a man can secretly have your kids tested if you are suspicious of your wife and find out if your suspicions are valid. If the kid (s) are yours you just keep quiet and go on with life, if they aren't you can now raise hell if you so wish.
ReplyDeleteHandling DNA test is very sensitive. You have to be very careful while handling the swabs.
DeleteMoreover you don't conclude on one DNA test. You have to go to other labs too for confirmation.
KING XOXO MYSTERY
Why will you ask your wife for a DNA test? Do I go around asking you if the sperm you poured into your side chick materialized into a child?
ReplyDeleteIt's not fair on a woman. It's unfair. Once you conduct DNA test, the trust is gone.
By the way, what if it is somebody else's kid? Would you tell the kid who has called you father the rest of his life that you can't father him cos he is not yours. Does sperm make you a father?
If it's not broken, don't fix it except you are looking for trouble and want heart attack. Women bodies are not like men. Every child your wife gives birth to while married is your child both legally and morally.
It seems these young generation of men are looking for how to die early . Ask your father how many DNA test they did for you. Are you so sure you are even your fathers child?
When you finish DNA test on your children, better conduct one on yourself too to prove you are your fathers child.
And let no commoner say I am unfaithful because I think differently. Sex is not food.
KING XOXO MYSTERY
Why will it get to this point in any marriage when there is love, understanding and faithfulness, what of men, how many of them are loyal?
ReplyDeleteAunty sellz ,The issue is the lack of trust, I should not have to prove my faithfulness. I won't be scared or anything but I would be disappointed cos t there is no trust
ReplyDeleteStellz, look at it from another perspective. A woman might get offended because she may perceive the DNA request as an affront to her womanhood. The suggestion that a DNA analysis be carried out, presupposes that she has been unfaithful. It's presumed that a lady who has nothing to hide or fear should be forthright and even jump at the opportunity to "prove" her fidelity. But have you considered how a lady who has had to endure the cold sting of infidelity from her hubby for years, still being asked to prove to him that he actually sired their kids? The ridiculous irony is, some of the men clamouring for the test may have kids by other women unbeknown to their wives. Lol!
ReplyDeleteI think, to a large extent, it depends on each individual and the family dynamics of each home. True, a lady who knows the paternity of one of, some of or all of her kids, is questionable will definitely protest and do all she can to avoid the test being carried out. However, that's not a rule of thumb. An innocent woman may also react that way. Just because the saying goes "when you hear hoofbeats, don't think zebras" doesn't mean the hoofbeats aren't actually those of a zebra as against the more obvious choice, a horse. Just because the shoe fits is not an absolute proof of ownership.
Personally, I wouldn't appreciate being asked to run a DNA test on my angels to verify paternity, because that would be questioning the very foundation of my marriage, which include love, trust and mutual respect for each other. It will be too emotionally traumatic for me to deal with. It will certainly put a strain on our intimacy. But that's just me.
Ohhhhh Hmmmm I know of a man who's fathering another man's child and he's ignorant of it. and the woman in question will say he never loved the man in first place which made to sleep with her ex. what melts my heart is how passionate and caring the man has been towards the Baby girl. such is life. Ladies and Gentlemen marry for love!!!
ReplyDeleteOh shut up Anon 22:47. You are a damn liar, DNA tests are only done when there is a custody battle going on or the child has some rare illness and they are looking for a genetic match. It is not the norm for a husband to ask for a DNA test in developed countries. Stop insulting Nigerians and telling lies as well. A DNA test cost around $500 here in the developed country I live in, most men are not interested in paying it, and if there is a custody dispute the court make them pay out of pocket for it. Imagine now if they have three children, they will need to come to with $1500, most men are not even interested in it here, only if they have deep hunch will they do it, and a regular husband isn't going up to his wife asking for it. Stop telling lies, your lying fingers are an abomination
ReplyDeleteDon't mind the fool that is living from hand to mouth abroad and coming here to type rubbish!
DeleteStella y not ask the men how they will feel if the wife suddenly tells him she wants to take their children for dna test. I hope the man will feel cool with her after the test even if it says na him b papa. Abegi
DeleteOh shut up Anon 22:47. You are a damn liar, DNA tests are only done when there is a custody battle going on or the child has some rare illness and they are looking for a genetic match. It is not the norm for a husband to ask for a DNA test in developed countries. Stop insulting Nigerians and telling lies as well. A DNA test cost around $500 here in the developed country I live in, most men are not interested in paying it, and if there is a custody dispute the court make them pay out of pocket for it. Imagine now if they have three children, they will need to come to with $1500, most men are not even interested in it here, only if they have deep hunch will they do it, and a regular husband isn't going up to his wife asking for it. Stop telling lies, your lying fingers are an abomination
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