Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative....

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  NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE

MOVING ON AND LOVING AGAIN AFTER A HEART BREAK

Hi Stella

 your platform has really been a source of inspiration and motivation to me and i want to say God bless you for this great platform that you have built to help young minds like me. My story is quite long and i would need matured advice from BVs as a sister right here is not really feeling herself. 

 I had a broken engagement in the 3rd month of 2017 and it really hit me greatly it affected me a whole lot because the reasons we broke up were very glaring to my ex and i it really hit me because the break up came some months to our supposed wedding but i thank God for the grace to Let go and let God.

 After the break up i decided i wouldn't want to date anytime soon but my parents and friends spoke to and advised i shouldn't shut my mind to anyone that comes basically just have an opened mind towards men.

 In the month of April roughly 2weeks after my breakup it was as if these men were waiting for me to have a breakup and in that month i had about 4men asking me out as time went on i decided to cut them down to two because i realised the other two wanted to use my vulnerability against me but my reason of sending this chronicle is centred around Mr A because i think i need a factory setting and Stellz red pen or which ever pen applies to me. 

  I met Mr A on IG and he kinda slid into my dm last year and we never really spoke because i was with my ex fiance then so i stopped replying his msgs on IG and even deleted him only fr him to send me a msg about 2 weeks after the breakup and i had to narrate every thing that happened to me to him he was very nice and caring was ready to listen to me and made me laugh ,always made sure i was happy only for him to start asking me out on a very serious level.

 he does and still doing tins i like in men on a normal day as if God was looking at my heart when he sent Mr A along he does what my ex doesn't do always ready to go the extra mile for me and he says he doesn't want sex from me and all he needs is my heart .

I have not even accepted to be in a relationship when i got to spoke to all his brothers home and abroad at least out of 6 brothers i have spoken to 3 including his uncles and they refer to me as Wife but in all of this i don't understand my feelings for Mr A .

I don't know if i am still hurt from my past relationship that's why my feelings fr him is not what i would have felt on a normal day but i notice one thing about guys i have been with that the feeling is always there from the beginning and still its hasn't worked out i am still not married .

so last week i decided to talk to my self that its has gone beyond what i want in a man it is now what i need in a man so i became much more open to him than before. Last week my self and my dad were alone in the car and we had the talk my dad feels its not to early to start a relationship since what happened between my ex and i was inevitable but in my own tots its just 2 months and i am like why would i want to be in a relationship now i need time.

 my mum thinks the same as my dad and even my aunt she says i should be happy. But i want to ask the Bvs some questions

 1) How long should i take before i can accept date anyone even the Mr A because sometimes i still think of my ex and i feel unhappy. My dad says i shouldn't let Mr A slip away cos he wont be waiting forever. Mr A is a nice man and i know we would have a nice relationship and even marriage if God permit. 

 2) On a scale of 1-10 i like Mr A on a scale of 5, enough to date i don't love him yet but i am certain he has loved up already. What do you Bvs think i can do to make me like him more than a 5 he has some issues like his dressing which is one of my major turn on for a guy. 

 3) I still feel very somehow as far as another relationship is involved because i am soo afraid of another heart break but Mr A kips assuring of him not doing what other guys have done, i am just scared basically and i don't know what to do i feel even if i take 2years off dating i would still feel the same way i just want bvs to tell me what i can do to stop me from being scared.

 

 Please bvs i really need matured advice i have spoken to 1 or 2 people about all this and they keep saying the same.

 SDK is like my last resort please help me out of this misery as it wrecks my soul when i think of this issues sometimes.
  Thank you all and God bless.

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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AND THREAT

Stella please post my chronicle, it's important but hide my name and mail.


My husband threatens to hit me at any slight provocation and he has done it twice, so I started speaking up. Now the issue is that he has involved his people and his brothers wives (2 of them)also confesses to me that their husband beats them which I think they got that from their father.


As I speak to you now, the case is on, he said I should go to my parents house that he is coming with his people tomorrow but none of them informed my dad they are coming. He also said that the bone of contention is that I talk back at him which I do anytime he threatens to hit me cos I can't keep quiet and die of domestic violence. 

So I'm asking, what should I do? Go to my parents? Though my dad said no one has told him anything.

I also have a daughter for him(we are not upto 2months) which he also gave me 3months to recover from child birth so that he'll beat the living day light out of me: