STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
WHEN HE REFUSES TO WALK DOWN THE AISLE
Dear Stella, pls i need your advise and that of bv's.
I'm married with a 16 weeks old baby. I did my traditional marriage since November 2015 but we are yet to do our church wedding.
I wont say is money that is holding my husband from taking me to the alter because i know he has the money for wedding if he really wants to wed me.
My husband is very hot tempered, one cannot discuss or argue with him without it resulting to a fight. He is a he goat, he has dated a girl that was living in the same compound with us, he toasts my friends as well...
The one he did that nearly made me leave the marriage was when he tried sleeping with my 9 yr old sister that came to help me baby sit my baby last month, a girl that is still sucking her finger..God!
My sister told me but i pretended my sis did not tell me anything for peace to reign. I dare not touch his phone. I just found out that he's having or trying to have an affair with our house helps sister. I over head them talking on the phone, i politely asked him and he started insulting me as usual telling me he will never WED me, this is not his first time of threatening me with such word.
H e said he has gotten what he wants from me which i guess should be a child. I'm in tears as i type this. I came from a broken home, i dont want my child to experience such.
He also beats me. We live more like flatmates. We dont play or attend events together except his village burial. He doesnt even display my picture or that of his son on his social media, he has refused to accept my request on face book. I think i'm married to my self.
He doesnt give me money for upkeep, our sex life is so boring! No cuddling , he just goes straight to the point. I'm so confused because of my child. I dont know what to do.
Madam you dont have a husband oh,you are married to yourself..
Madam you dont have a husband oh,you are married to yourself..
So with all what you profiled there you are still crying that this man has not wedded you?you should be celebrating,abi you need some slaps to reset your brain?
It is better to be single than to be married to the kind of man you described up there.....
And if your child is a girl then sleep with your two eyes open and dont let him go near her without supervision.
You still make love with him?*pukes*
I hope in Heavens name that you have a plan B?
How did you enter this one chance. You better tell your parents to return your bride price back to him and his family, this marriage won't work.
ReplyDeleteSimple!!!! Return bride price your own man will come,doesn't matter weda u have a child or not
DeleteIf all u say about him is true, then ask your parents to return the bride price and initiate the process of your "recall"
DeleteSince he hasn't wed you in court and/or Church, you don't have to go thru so much pain.
Get a lawyer, file for custody and upkeep for the baby and finally, GET A LIFE.
Sorry for what u r going thru
It definitely won't work
DeleteIs there anything I won't read on this blog? Did you people not do courtship? Didn't you notice this? You still want wedding? 9 years old girl? How did you meet him? As a runs girl? The foundation is just wrong. He obviously doesn't live you. What sin brought you this punishment aka union?
DeleteHold! Poster pls hold.
DeleteHe dated a lady in your neighbourhood,
Asked your friend out,
Almost raped your 9year old sister. 9? As in 9 year old?
Beats you at the slightest,
Having affairs with your househelp sister....
And you are still thinking of formalizing your relationship with such a man???
A rapist, a paedophile, a man got no iota of respect for you whatsoever just because a child is involved???
Sweetheart, you need to search for your self esteem and pick it up wherever it fell.
Committing to this man will only confine you to a life of endless misery.
And ohhh...that child that is your excuse to staying with this man, you will end up raising with a warped mentality as to how a good home should be..cos trust me..the environment will be way too toxic.
Where is your family BTW?
What about his family?
Do they know 'bout all of these happenings?
Get away from that man!
Marriage is to be enjoyed not endured. It shouldn't be a marit life of misery but of bliss and peace of mind. Not that marriages do not have hiccups at one point or the other but yours? Tsk tsk! D.O.A
No need.
SMH. Lord have mercy.
ReplyDeleteBoth of you are sick. You especially need mental evaluation Poster.
DeleteMsssssssssssscccccccccccccccchhhhhhhheeèeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeewww!!! ❗❗❗❗❗❗
ReplyDeleteStella uve said it all
DeleteIt's so sad u r still thinking about wedding instead of an exit plan
U know he is a hegoat and u still open leg 4him
Continue
Kp staying there oooo
And be forming married woman
I canonly pray 4 U
Hahhahahahahahhahahahaa.chiki dis one taya u?
DeleteAs in eh....
DeletePoster u need better slap to reset ur brain true true
Chaii.....some woman sha can take rubbish...mehm
You sidon there, they say u don't kwn what to do... My dear u better leave that house, after all is only one baby u have for him...
White wedding kee you der...😣
DeleteYou sound superficial... Of all the things...😒
Hian. You still wan marry the beast? You don't need a slap. What you need is koboko. And some Jesus.
DeleteSomeone abuses you emotionally, verbally and physically yet you're confused and worried because of your child.
ReplyDeleteTrust your child will be better off growing up in a loving home with his mother by his side not in a home where his mother is a slave to his father.
Take that child away from that toxic environment. Think of yourself dammit, how can you take all that and still live with that monster.
Admit it that even the boring sex is still one of the reasons why you've stayed. You are worried about what people will say but let me tell you that no matter what you do or how you live people will still poke their nose and tell you what they think you should do, so why bother.
Only people with no purpose are not spoken off, get over those thoughts and leave now so you can be alive to see your child grow.
Stop giving silly excues because you put yourself in it and you're the only one who can free yourself. You're your own problem, go to your people if need be and have them return whatever bride price he paid traditionally. Take your child and live.
I'm having the time of my life biko.
@poster....
DeleteYour kid sister is not 18...she is not even 16...
She is nine! Like 9 years old. Like most 9 year olds are still in primary school.
Are you sure you are okay?
To add to the above comments. Why did you ignore your NINE year old sister??? Leave him and have a talk with your sister. Apologize to her and make things right. That girl may never talk to anyone about any form of abuse again because you rubbished her claim.
DeleteFIX this problem now. Don't let your sister lose her bright and joyous future because of your choices.
Hian!...
ReplyDeleteThis is not marriage oh!...
Poster,I hate divorce and I don't advise people to trade that part but this your story is crazy!!...
What are you still doing in that house?...can't you leave??...
He beats you up for crying out loud!!...
Do you want him to kill you one of these days?...
I would have advised you to chain him if he is only a womanizer but Nne,I fear for your life with the beatings!!,,,
Leave!!!!...
And make sure you settle your marine husband before jumping into another relationship!...
They haven't wedded so no be divorce sef.. Make she carry her bag go
DeleteLmao na really advice you to chain him,.. as the dog that he is na
DeleteShes truly married to herself. Waaaaaat!!! Scum of a man.
DeleteEveryday someone will sit down and write epistle inside chronicle yet una go dey mumu dey go......
ReplyDeleteWhen u turn anike again lol
DeleteHahahahahaha...
DeleteAbi?...
@Jeni_zee after tontohGATE. I'm tired
Delete@Queen I'm just weak honestly.
Nollywood story
ReplyDeletePoster,you said,you came from a broken home and does not want such for your child. It is possible if you wish to save your home,there will be a lot of tolerance on your part but the battle will be taken over by God.
DeleteEveryone now mentions divorce like it is a normal thing,it is not normal to divorce and also not normal to go through this persecutions with hands folded.
We see divorce as an escape route but it is an escape route for the weak.
Invite Jesus into your home totally today,and let Him humble your man.
Even he(hubby) will appreciate you tomorrow for being a channel of deliverance for him. No one is perfect,he is just a weak man without God and strong character but of course Adam was not better and that is why God gave him Eve.
Do you wish to be his missing rib,to be his support,to help him when he cannot help himself and make him a better person or do you wish to do as everyone else here advised?
If you wish to truly be his wife,please help him in prayers but you have to allow God to change you first before you can be used to change him.
I pray you make the right decision.
The road to destruction is easy while the road to happiness is rough.
Some people had it easy while some rough. All fingers are not same.
Good luck honey.
Poster, people like this will lead you to an early grave. Our God is not a God of sufferhead and marriage is not the key to heaven. Divorce will not send you to hell. You want to stay and help a rapist right meanwhile your sister is there watching you not defend her and you think God will bless you or that dog? Allow these marriage obsessed people to set you on a true path to destruction. You had better run for the sake of your child and your dignity.
DeleteShediot poster. You will soon die there.
ReplyDeletePoster you are a foolish woman, your hubby knows it that's why he will never marry you properly. Haba your self esteem is zero, abeg get out someone tried to rape your 9year old sister and did not call the police, you are wicked, so if your hubby tries it with your baby you will still sit there and be looking for white wedding
DeleteHe tried to sleep with who?
ReplyDeleteYour 9YEAR old sister? Abi I no see well?
Jehova ooooo
My blood just boiled...
Madam hope ur baby is male?
For the safety of all the females in your house please madam leave that paedophile, he will bang ur entire household if dey give him chance, no woman is safe ooo!
Chaaaaaai!
Evil
Evillllllll
Mbaaa!
Who born that thing?
Were u hypnotised when u married him!
Jesus!
Looool Nne d tin reach to shout o
DeleteThe guy would leave her very soon , she is deceiving herself, one day he would pack and follow another woman
DeleteMadam if your only problem is "waling down the isles" then you don't have any problem.
ReplyDeleteYou are a Christian and our reference book/law is the Bible; sure?
Where in the Bible; old and new testament did a wedding take place in synagogue or church?
Jesus and disciples attended a typical "(traditional) wedding" ceremony in Cana of Galilee was he the minister or chairman?
Once your dad or representative receives the bride price, you are married; you want proof?
Marriage is a mystery like Christ and the church; see Eph 5 and the question is when did Christ marry the church?
Was it not when he paid with his blood?
Once you are given in marriage to a man who has paid your bride price; you are married.
Is your dad offended that you are with a child. Assuming he did not receive the bride price and you have a child; will he be?
You are properly married woman; do not tear you home with your own hand.
Your church may be preaching "walking down the isle" but know that not everything churches preach are biblical or taught by Christ.
Pls read d whole thing or keep shut
Deletehey come here
DeleteYes you anonymous 15:12
Don't be shy
Say after me
Anywhere they have used my brain to wrap fufu.
I unwrapped myself in Jesus name Amen
Now you can go
It is well with you idiot
I hardly comment on this blog but I can't hold this back.. are you kidding me? She should not tear her home with her own hands..she is married traditionally to a Paedophile! What is there to save in this farce of a marriage. My dear poster if you can borrow extra legs and run with your son from that man o..
DeleteMost stupid comment award goes to you.....malu brain
DeletePlease poster a foolish woman tears down her home. You should stay with this pedophile and save the rest of us from him. When he has been locked up you can then go and pray and dry fast for years. Then once that is done, he will come out and maybe infect you with HIV. But don't worry, your home will be standing strong, your child will be mentally messed up and your life...a waste.
DeleteYou are married to yourself and to a paedophile and you are still fighting to make him wed you. Do you think church wedding will change him? Just pray that he doesnt transfer something greater than you into your life. Did you not date him before you married him? Didn't u notice any issue of concern then regarding his behaviour?
ReplyDeleteIf i were you, while thinking with my head, i will be thinking with my feet as well. May God help you.
Hot temper, womaniser, paedophile, anger issue, wife beater eeeeeeeek
She doesn't know that some wives have died as a result of hiv given to them by their randy husband and she is bothered about walking down the aisle..na better aisle?
DeleteAre you a masochist?? the clear picture i have after reading ur chronicle is you stretching to reach for a noose hanging from the ceiling, & u didnt even put it there... pls u shld be lookn for the exit and not entrance, youre worried about ur kid growing up in a broken home, that dungeon u think of as home will definately hv a negative effect on that kid, environment plays a major role in shapening infants mindset, a broken home isnt a bermuda triangle here.
ReplyDeletetheres no given prizes to who stays married longer, hell, even if theyre giving out prizes, ud still not be adviced to stay.
This is situationship not marriage. You better gather little self esteem you are left with and leave that hell you call marriage. Church wedding ko, Mosque wedding ni.
DeleteHi. How are u ? You are blessed. God loves you ❤
DeleteYou know the problem in this marriage? It is this line
ReplyDelete"He doesn't give me money for upkeep . . ."
Once the money stops flowing, girls begin to see a "he goat"
Did you not see all these litany of faults before you married him?
Or like fakebook girls you did not date him but only fucked him during courtship?
He suddenly became a he-goat after marriage
Madam look inwards and find out what is wrong with you in this marriage
And know that you are talking about "divorce" here because he has paid your bride price and that means that he married you properly.
Ur brain mak sence pass,
DeleteBastard so even being a peadophile is her fault abi? Thunder fire you there
Delete*Whipes faze wit towell #
ReplyDelete#Eye arm north hondastandin...
Awa eldas olwaze say' a pelzin whu has neva had enitin harpun to his Troat, doss north no dart salaiva is food...
Yhu Dun sim to ke abuot yhua laif.. bet whu eye be north to whish yhu lung laif??, so derefor, Lung laif isol eye whish yhu.
Why are girls worried about facebook and social media displays.
ReplyDeleteI am not in any social media and I am happily married
That aspect does not bother us at all
It is vain to think that if he displays your pictures and that of your son he will not have sex outside
Do prostitutes need or care about what he displays as long as he pays?
omo mehn
ReplyDeleteWait, what?! And you still open your mouth to call him your husband? If with all these events,all you want is to be wedded in church, then I'm sorry to say this but you're a lost cause. Someone that attempted to defile your 9 year old kid sis, brought untold ridicule to you in your home and neighbourhood, and all you want is a freaking white wedding?! Who did this to Nigerian women? There's no need advising you, cos like I said, you're a lost cause.
ReplyDeleteGod bless you. I have no words for her.
DeleteYou can't tell me you didn't notice all this while dating. Or did you tie him down with pregnancy or knack pigeon on his head for him to marry you? There's everything wrong with both of you.
ReplyDeleteOne question- sis r u study him even if it's for a while to know the kind of idiot he is? Don't bother your head about white wedding o be bothered about other things. You were not created because of him, think of yourself nd your kids be for ethnolinguistics of white wedding.. in ukwa's voice- " this your husband is a he goat
ReplyDeleteDidn't you*
DeletePoster instead of you to thank your God in heaven that you are not legally bound to that man you call 'husband' you're here wailing at his refusal to walk down the aisle with you, who does that??? At least now that its just traditional marriage, your family members can just return the bride priced paid and you won't go through the long and agonizing process of divorce. Abi ayam not understanding you again o. Is this your chronicle about seeking for reconciliation with him or what? You better carry yourself n baby and zoom at that sham of a union. How can you in all honesty think of even staying with a paedophile?? In fact make I just stop here as I no sabi type epistle.
ReplyDeleteStella I follow you open mouth. This is DESPERATION at its peak mehn.
ReplyDeleteOoo my God . Am getting married soon n i don't want to be hearing about al this bad marriages . Huh. Do people actually go tro this ? Is so sad. Better don't get pregnant again . GOD pls protect my future home . May I never call my husband a He goat . Amen .
ReplyDeleteYou know you have to walk away, you'll be better for it!
ReplyDeleteStella has said it all! You deserve a brain resetting slap.
ReplyDeleteStella has said it all! You deserve a brain resetting slap.
ReplyDeleteWhat is it about white wedding and nigerian women? So for ur mind you never marry? Oya good for you. They wait make oyinbo wedding happen. Only in nigeria a man marries 3 wives but has one to show for it.africa will always be backword cos they are soso confuse. Them no dey here and them no dey there.sorry about the wicked husband u picked, but yhe truth remain that the choice of a bad man as a husband lies on you. Cos im beey sure nobody picked him for you, you said i will marry you with your own mouth, so you most have seen all this or you wan lie? Some of you guys pressuer a man/woman for marriage damn what ever happens in the future. Una rush in just to make the single fill jealous and depress.
ReplyDeleteAnd you are still in that house,I am going to beat you.
ReplyDeleteTufiakwa! I rather die single than marry such a guy!
ReplyDeleteIts obvious u are a despirado
ReplyDeleteU saw d signs nd still went ahead to marry nd even ve a child for him
Read dat Tonto's. Promise to herself nd promise yourself same
This woman is still concerned about wedding instead of focusing on how to get her sanity back......SMH for you
ReplyDeleteVery foolish woman wallahi
DeleteThis one na One Chance marriage...
ReplyDeleteI was expecting a quote that rhymes with this situation from you. Lol
DeleteAll for the title 'Mrs'...zero self worth!
DeleteDidn't you see the sign before you marry him or you hold him down with Baby?
ReplyDeleteThere is something you are not telling us.
God will fix your home
This is the reason I always advice people to marry for love .
ReplyDeleteWed you how? He has married you already madam. I think people need to understand that the moment your bride price is paid to your family, you're married, it's not until you wear white gown and stand in front of a priest or pastor.
ReplyDeleteSecondly, walking you down the aisle of a church building shouldn't be your worries now, your concern should be how not to get infected with diseases and the safety of your girl child and female relations around you. Think about it.
Stella this one does not even have common sense, you are asking of Plan B? Lolllll
ReplyDeleteAbeg next!!!!
I can never stay for a second where I'm disrespected.
Society can go to HELL with their expectations.
I said NEXT!!!!!!
Thank you, this is the height of disrespect.
DeleteExactly . Truth be told , as soon as a man starts misbehaving , take a walk
DeleteNa wah!!! since he doesn't even take care of you & baby in anyway what are u still doing in his house? I assume u are capable of taking care of yourself & baby financially,quietly leave his house & return his bride price.
ReplyDeleteThe fact that some ladies want to be called Mrs by any means is baffling!with all these death sentence u r living in u still caring abt church wedding?u really need a brain reset
Poster see ur mouth like 'my husband is very hot tempered',didn't you date him before getting married? All these one sided chronicles sef
ReplyDelete#galore'scrush
The caption of this chronicle should be "How do I return my brideprice"
ReplyDeleteYou have way too many issues to reevaluate on,and a white wedding isn't on the list.
Your Kid Sister told you someone is trying to molest her and you kept quiet for peace to reign? WTH!!!
Did you atleast get her out of that house???
Ma'am, as much as I love happy endings... I don't think you should raise a child under these conditions unless there is a drastic change.
Start thinking of a plan B if you haven't thought of any.
What people will say is their Business! They always talk anyway...
Just imagine that @your 2nd paragragh! Mscheeew
DeleteMy dear poster, the problem you stated is not the problem o. Your problem is right there inside your story and am surprised that at this point your problem is that he is yet to Wed you. Nne you are not married o at allllll so just thank your God buy Azonto shoes for divorce, because this is not marriage my own no reach your own self and I have packed my load proudly calling myself a divorcee. Nne you are in hell fire come out and stop shouting Church wedding it's not the solution to your problem and won't make him value you or change. Your husband is bad news.
ReplyDeleteMadam borrow Brian and advice your self na. Or you don't know what you want in life?
ReplyDeleteBrain
DeleteMadam, what juju did u do to marry this man? His eyes don clear! So u are married to a he goat? What does that make u? A she goat!
ReplyDeletePlease do not marry this man
ReplyDeleteShe already married him nah. But that's not the problem cos he is a horse band walahi
DeleteMtchewwww
ReplyDeleteAfter una go come dey blame man/men
I swear, na woman MUMU pass. ...they know what is right, they don't do it
You are married to yourself and you know it
@Galore
A man that wants to sleep with a 9yr old n you r still crying for her to wed you. U need a dirty slap so that u can go on automatic brain reset. Better leave that man n move on.
ReplyDeleteAnd you believe the 9yr old part... That's how a lady lied that her husband is a cross dresser and a paedo just to Regularize her stay (paper)
DeleteYou already made him know what you really want is a church wedding so he seems to be using it against you.
DeleteDon't let him perceive you are weak.
He needs help before you contracts STD in the name of marriage.
You van still turn out better IG u leave him.go better yourself, get a job and take care of your son. If he really loves and values you he will come begging then u give him your terms.
I hope to God you have a plan B like Stella said. That marriage is DoA nothing to salvage. Wed on what grounds? He is a he-goat the worst part is he is a pedophile and you pretended your sister didn't tell you. Start planning your exit. The man has told you how it is. Your son can still turn out well broken home or not. I hope he doesn't give you something awful before you leave.
ReplyDeleteMy sister it is not by force u hear, when he tried to rape that little girl that should have been ur deal breaker, pls leave that situation, takecare of ur child,there is a God of second chance, the God that fetches water wit basket to disgrace the bucket. Your happiness matters alot
ReplyDeleteMadam with all these complaints you still want to walk down the aisle with him just because you have a child?
ReplyDeletePlease run now o!
Eye ope yhu are teckin yhua thyme to stody yhua blog fiansee....
DeleteIf eye ear enitin went wrung, eats eida eye wheel kee mysef or eye'll komit suside.
Awwwwww..that's why ma love for you is still strong😘😘😘😘😘😘
DeleteDon't worry,I will bring him to you for assessment..
Nwanyi, listen to what madam stella said ooooo, u r simply a single lady dat is squatting wit a man n has a child for him. U r married to a pedophile n ur baby gal is at risk. He almost slept wit ur blood sis, do u think he wont try it on his own child? ? U r crying he hasn't wedded u. U better borrow brian from planton in spongebob squarepants n run for ur dear lyf.
ReplyDeleteNwanyi, listen to what madam stella said ooooo, u r simply a single lady dat is squatting wit a man n has a child for him. U r married to a pedophile n ur baby gal is at risk. He almost slept wit ur blood sis, do u think he wont try it on his own child? ? U r crying he hasn't wedded u. U better borrow brian from planton in spongebob squarepants n run for ur dear lyf.
ReplyDeleteYou sound like a nagging wife.. Im sorry for you, Why would you be checking his phone? Being married doesn't equal prison.. If he send you packing now, where will you start from? My advice for you is to start loving him, when you see his spec, call his attention to it jokinly, say honey look at that sexy girl.. Instead of moaning like a baby😯😯😯
ReplyDeleteBig fool alert
DeleteYou are even crazier than she is. Please crawl back to the shit hole you came out from jeeez. What happened to your brain.
DeleteU are an idiot, she is married to a paedophile nd u are more concerned about her checking his phone. Are you trying to be dunny or your brain is filled with noodles naturally?
DeleteFunny
DeleteBrain filled with noodles 😩😩😩 Anon 16:57 u are mean!
DeleteLeave! Leave! Leave! What rubbish
ReplyDeleteI think shes stuck cos she doesnt have a job/business. I dont see why you should still be in a house with someone that is abusive and worst still almost slept with your 9yrs old sister. Godforbid evil.
DeleteBettet start planning your exit. A broken home is not the end of the 🌎.
White wedding is traditional marriage for white people btw, u don't need two traditional marriages. Ummm why are u still with him? U want him to abuse ur kids? Someone that tried to mess with a 9yrs old? But all you are worried about is white wedding. Ur head is not correct better protect ur kids o, male n female before he rape them. Since u cannot waka away..
ReplyDeleteHe refused to accept my fb request, lolzzzz
ReplyDeleteClaiming u don't want to raise ur child the way u were raised in a broken home is a stupid excuse. You should be glad he has not wedded you and leave that union. Ahan! What is wrong with we women and the quest to be Mrs someborri! Is it until he rapes ur mother or his own daughter that ur brain will reset?
ReplyDeleteMy only concern in this post is that he tried to have SEX with your 9year old baby sister and you pretended she didn't tell you anything 😲, poster you better protect that sister of yours with your life! If she's still living with you send her back, if she isn't don't ever ask her over to your house again. Please and please keep her away from that goat, becos if he rapes her (God forbid), you'll still pretend it didn't happen. As for you and the thing you call a horseband, take whatever decision you like. For you to even want to walk down the isle with a man like that shows that you don't love yourself. I wonder where some ladies meet men like this.
ReplyDeleteThe little girl is my concern.. Poster can stay there and die since she no get sense
DeletePoster you are married to yourself, is best you both remain like that without wedding. Wedding or no wedding that cannot change your husband, is best you let him be, maybe you can use getting pregnant the second time to threaten him as per wedding.
ReplyDeleteYou are legally married, simple wjd short. Stop waiting be wed in a church, if that's what you are waiting for. I think you are nagging your husband just to have a white wedding but he won't do that just because he know how much that mean to you. You are married o, stop complaining and build your home.
ReplyDeleteBut you married a stupid man sha,like you guys didn't had no courtship before now, are you just getting to know him now? I think you overlooked all his fault just to be called Mrs somebody.
I really pity this woman. God help her. She's married to a dog in human skin. A pervert, pedophile and an unapologetic excuse for a man. You are not ready to leave so may God give you the grace to endure.
ReplyDeleteIt's chronicles like this that deserves the "this is why I bomb people" meme.
ReplyDeleteYou are still married to a pedophile cos you want "piss" to reign and part of your worries are not being able to touch his phone and not displaying you and your son's pics on SM. The truth is not everyone is supposed to get married at least till they have enough self respect to know some things can't be condoned and are indeed matured. Are you waiting till you have a girl so you can know the meaning of cardiac arrest when he tries to sleep with your daughter. And please let me spell it out for you it's not just your husband that has a problem, you also have a problem and I hope you get help fast via counselling and anything that will help you with finding yourself.
Ada.
I swear she is worse than that man for remaining in that marriage after all the rubbish he keeps doing to her. Your 9 year old little sister? And u r still moaning about white wedding? Jesus, please when is your 2nd coming?
DeleteIts either you were born mad or simply plain stupid.
ReplyDeleteLet me come and go before i cuss you.
You just succeeded in making me mad right now.
Poster......what you describe up there is one chance like this APC government. Habaaaa!!! Didn't you people date like have a real courtship, were you two matchmake or something.
ReplyDeleteBecause if you date, you would have been on each other Facebook all this while. And the man you described up there is wicked. A man that's not given a breastfeeding mum upkeep money is heartless. Have you report him to his family members and what's their response.
My sister don't let him starve you to death. Go back to your parents, let him come and tell them why he's treating you that way. Please, don't sell yourself so cheap.....let him know you have where you can go if he doesn't want you..........Go back to your parents and see his reaction, his reaction will help you know what to do next.
It's been a while I commented but this one I think I need to..madam wed gini?? You should be thinking of how to return his bride price to him so you can move on with your life. As I see your husband may one day rape that your 9yr old sister. You don't want your child in a broken home but you want your child to grow up with this kind of father..what will he learn from him?
ReplyDeletePoster after everything u narrated,u are still thinking of him wedding u baa abeg receive sense.
ReplyDeleteHmmmm.. Things happen oh.. Nne talk to your mum.. And just leave the man in peace Biko.. Your son will be happy if you take care of him well.. God help you
ReplyDeleteI'm worried that this lady is actually clamouring for a white wedding when the marriage is dead on arrival.I pray for God to heal your very sick marriage in Jesus name.
ReplyDeleteI bet the signs where there while dating him but you didn't have the courage to leave him, I wonder if you have the courage to leave now.
ReplyDeleteI don't have any salvaging situation advice for you because if to say na me I for Don Waka tay.I am for make it work but where does one start from with this kind of guy.
He is so not into you and has no respect for you.I pray God changes him for good or gives you the strength to move on.
Better leave that man now dat u still have some dignity left.
ReplyDeleteBut wait madam are u saying dat doz of us dat are traditionally married are still single?sha dats nt d issue
ReplyDeleteThis is serious oh, madam you better leave that marriage, get something doing and pls protect that 9year old in your care, better still, return her back, marriage is not by force oh, pls oh.
ReplyDeleteI really don't want to believe this story. My reason being that he tried sleeping with your 9yr old sister and you couldn't say a word about it. You've made him bully you to the extent that you cannot even speak.
ReplyDeleteAnd you're still with the guy?!
Thank your stars you're not married to him, you're not in a marriage my dear.
Now pack your valuables because it's time to move on, don't let him threaten you with anything, don't drop your child as well.
Don't listen to his apologies else it would get worse. DON'T LOOK BACK!!!!!
Wedding my foot!!!!U should be talking of how to get out alive plsssss.
ReplyDeleteTo whom brain is given, sence is required! Na wa.
ReplyDeleteOmagwa!! My hands on my head ,some women sha are so obsessed with this wedding thing they forget their values. Stella this one sure needs resetting slap
ReplyDeleteSome of you people sending chronicles will just be provoking me and making me get angry,thats why i don't open it.who send me message?WTH?and you are waiting for white wedding?You are not alright at all.mcheeeeeeeeeews
ReplyDeleteThe day you were told about your cousins rape is when you should have left but you stayed cos of being a Mrs.bed n roses said divorce isn't an option for her so make una die there
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