Just beside them was a bulky looking man on a weighing scale trying to check his weight. The young lad in his curiosity, peeped to see what the man weighed.
To the boy's amazement, the man weighed way below expectation, judging from his bulky look! Asking his mum what she thought about his observation, the woman responded; weight is not determined by the outward appearance, but by the bones and other inner contents.
A while ago, I overheard young unmarried girls discuss among themselves, they say "let the guy be rich first, every other thing that follows, we'll manage!"
In the 21st century, our maidens tend to picture a real man to be one broad shouldered, tall, 'athletic looking', dark skin, rich oil boy. but they sure need to chang their perspective. Because truth be told, the Uniqueness of a Man is hidden in his values and not in his outward appearance. The quality of a man's decision and his disciplinary level all lie underneath his value system.
The truth is, the development of every man is shaped by his childhood experiences. MANHOOD IS ROOTED IN CHILDHOOD!
While courting him, don't get too carried away by his financial abundance that you focus on eating Chinese and forget to discuss your values. Baby girl, trust me, MONEY CAN NOT FIX EVERYTHING! Money can buy you material possessions, but not peace of mind!
Don't get me wrong, looking good is good business any day any time, and money is also very important! But that can't be all there is to a man!
Do you know his habits? Are theystuff you can cope with? How does he manage money? Is he miserly or extravagant? Any one of both isn't fine! Does he have self control over women? These traits are oftentimes not seen in the outward appearance, they are hidden in the inner man. There are too many "Little children living in big bodies!"
Jesus, the most powerful man that ever lived was the Lion and the Lamb! His lamb nature was used to strengthen and encourage the weak, while His Lion nature was used to put the enemy and his cohorts on the run! A real man is a protector and not a destroyer. Jesus' strength was not revealed on weak people.
Ladies, any man that desires too much authority over you that his authority deprives you of being you, that's too much power for any man to get!
There is a difference between Loyalty and Slavery!
Very well said and analysed
ReplyDeleteSeems like something my simi would have also shared with us! Apt
DeleteWho's the writer? I owe you a bottle of champagne. Any single lady or about to marry needs to read this to avoid stories that touches the heart.
ReplyDeleteGreat piece Brother Amos. 👍👍👍
ReplyDelete#truetalk
ReplyDelete#lethethathasearshear
#moneycantbuyyouhappiness
#withprayersgraceanddeligenceanyonecanbecomerich
#mightbecommentingwithhashtagallthroughtoday
#makeiknowasunadeydoam
Ermm true though.. But I still look at the outward appearance.
ReplyDeleteIf you are fat as a man, don't approach me (I'm fat enough for the two of us😩)
If you don't have money, please don't approach me. I'm not the kind of person to ask guys for money, but I don't can't deal with a guy that have no money either
If you are short, don't come near me (I'm short enough for two of us)
If you are light skinned, stay away.
The unbiased truth is just as men are moved by what they see and have physical requirements for ladies, ladies too do the same thing.
Na wahhh.... rocky only you for the two of us.
DeleteLooking good is good business any day any time! Amos said it there!
DeletePreach Please, who 6 packs help???
ReplyDeleteEnter your comment...hnmmmmm
ReplyDeleteVery interesting, thanks Stella for sharing.
ReplyDeleteGod Bless Everyone.
I don't need you to be all designer wearing...
ReplyDeleteI just need to see that you are intelligent, hard-working and driven.
As at when we started dating, my man was hustling to get his Ph.D sponsored, he was so hard-working about it that I kept telling God not to dash his hopes. He won a grant and he is now in a country where the exchange rate of their currency is more than half a thousand naira.
Last month he sent me almost my salary as "upkeep".
I have dated fine boys, rich boys...those ones are just for flaunting (boyfriend material).
Husband material goes way beyond the physical.
My parents are 34 years in blissful marriage, and i have learnt it's not about the money or physical looks. Those things dwindle and fall after years.
Hnmnmm deep
ReplyDeleteThis write-up isn't for the type of ladies that populate this blog. Eat your "values", "Disciplinary level", "quality" and "decision". All they need is money, money and more money. Preach "quality" and "values" to them, and they will tell you only "broke ass" niggaz do that. It tells you their values though.
ReplyDeleteAwon generalizer.
Delete"It's not for the type of ladies that populate this blog".
Speak for yourself.
Hnmnmm deep
ReplyDeleteIji okwu Amos.
ReplyDeleteThe signing out meme/post summarises it all
This article though....
ReplyDeleteThe topic, the beginning, the ending seems unrelated.
But we get your point sha...
What makes a Nigerian man a man is his penis.Every other thing,so far as they are concerned is secondary.With a dick comes expectations of automatic respect,automatic bowing and scraping,free food,,greetings,automatic excellent driving skills e.t.c
ReplyDeleteAmos you are too much
ReplyDeleteKizess
Yesterday chronicle poster, get in here.
ReplyDeleteLet this part👇👇 sink into your brain
...... any man that desires too much authority over you that his authority deprives you of being you, that's too much power for any man to get!
There is a difference between Loyalty and Slavery!
Fucking tired of reading all these recommendations for women! Do men care about good character? Hell no! They want a beauty queen with figure 8,a whore in the bedroom, and a chef in the kitchen! Mschew.
ReplyDeleteGbam! GBAM!! What does the average Nigerian man have to offer apart from sperm?
DeleteIf you know what so many woman are going through in marriages ehn?
If they're not fighting sidechick today, their treating gonorrhea and HPV and syphilis the next.
In between beating, verbal and emotional abuse etc. Please God, help single people.
wait oo...am I d only lady dat like dark guys?
ReplyDeleteI don't have a tin for fair and thin guys at all.
I love dark skinned, not very talk, well built, handsome guys...oh myy..so crushing on one right now, but alas! he's d wrong person (sobs)
Babe (at least I hope you are female) you're not the only one oh.
DeleteLove em dark,very clean, with a good build.
NO potbelly.
NO fat. (Never dated a fat guy) How una dey cope? Nyama. Tueh.
Don't really care if he has 6 packs or not, s'long as he's healthy.
Why should men care if women want 6 pack or not?
Is it not the same men who are always demanding big breasts and ass?
In your life,have you ever heard a man say 'Ah, I really don't care how a woman looks, as long as she's kind,meek and is happy?'
Na lie! Na so so fine face, big nyash, big breasts they want. All of them.
When you say you want a fine sexy man, they will start whining that you are not serious, that that is not the important thing. Na so, so make I con marry person wey be like water dispenser abi?
Enough of women lowering their standards, abeg go for what pleases your eyes. If you like go and date one fat potbellyd man with knocking knees and scaly scaly skin because you want to appear virtuous. Na you sabi. But if you like that kind of package do you jor.
Sweet anonymous, I perch with you... who fair boys help, like rocky said "I am too yellow for the both of us😄, please come dark👦"and rich 😜
DeleteThe first step we must take in becoming the man we are meant to be, is to realize exactly who we are, what our strengths and weaknesses are, and what we can offer the world. Nobody is perfect.
ReplyDeleteA man doesn’t stand still while the world passes him by, he continually pushes himself.
A man treats women with respect.If you don’t respect women,well.....
Any way what do I know.
You know you don't know anything abi? Then why are you commenting?
DeleteEze are you single please.....😉
DeleteThat's too harsh anon 11:39.
DeleteHmmn nice
ReplyDeleteNice one!
ReplyDeleteThank You So Much..Amos Dede cool stuff..
ReplyDeleteI concur! #BitterTruth
DeleteEhen! Direct d post to d men too.
ReplyDeleteAs for d ladies, there's no perfect human, we all have flaws.
*I hope 4GLTE don't gulp data.
It actually swallows it, the more speed, the more Internet data consumed.
DeleteWord! Matt 11:15.
ReplyDeletePlease who has the link to the wedding party movie?kindly share with me. Thanks
ReplyDeleteNice write up
ReplyDeleteAmos Dede, God will bless you more and more. We love you here. #FullOfWisdom
ReplyDeleteThank you Amos. I really love this one.
ReplyDeleteNicely put...ive got 2 girls and God knows ive vowed to raise them to appreciate themselves and their body. And to break any silly boys head who tries to mess around with them!! For security cameras which you can monitor, talk and hear from on your mobile phone..buzz us ..@naijabuys
ReplyDeleteNow you addressing the foundation of DV and divorce rate increasing these days ...people (Majority)no longer getting married for the good reasons but the wrong ones....
ReplyDeleteI concur! #BitterTruth
DeleteAwesome.
ReplyDeleteI know some broke ass guys will love this piece.
ReplyDeleteLet the chick be loyal,they find another excuse.
But of course, nice one Writer.
Amos as always, this is nice.
ReplyDeleteLadies, any man that desires too much authority over you that his authority deprives you of being you, that's too much power for any man to get!
DeleteI am a man, and YES, I agree with you on that one. #WiseWords
What makes you a woman?
ReplyDeleteHe has treated that before.
DeleteI'm sure he's done that topic
DeleteWow. Beautiful piece.
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