NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
GIRLY SON
Greetings Stella, I'm an addictive reader of your blog and I comment sometimes but I have to go anonymous on this.
I have a fourteen years old son, he was very girly as a child but we didn't think much of it because we thought he would grow out of it. Fast forward to fourteen years later, and his case is worst. I often come home to see that someone has tampered with my make ups and outfits and each time I ask him, he says he is not the one.
I and his father decided to buy him a phone during the Easter holiday as he will enter the university this November, I notice he talks till the dead of the night with a certain caller, I snooped into his phone (lord help me) one day I sent him on an errand and all his contacts are men.
I have tried asking him again and again if he is gay but he keeps saying he is not.
I will love my son no matter what but I need to know if he is gay to know how to handle this situation. Asides from this gay suspicion, he is an amazing person, he helps me with all the house chores and he is extremely brilliant, infact he scored 300+ in the recently released jamb result. I just hope the devil is not trying to ruin his future.
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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
Good day Stella and Bvees .I'm sending this chronicle on behalf of my bestie ..pls Bvees give advice and not only insults..
My bestie is in a relationship with this wealthy dude, dude is a single father of one but he's a very hardworking, focused and rich young man in he's early 40's, he does not womanise .While my friend is 30yrs, my friend is also a good catch ,beautiful,intelligent (wife material)with a good paying job.
OK my friend and her boo are so into each other ,they are in love,sex is great, beautiful chemistry between them. all jugdinas beware...lol
Now it happened that my friends boss has a friend who has been on her case and boss has been asking for my friend to go out with he's friend once just to discuss, finally my friend accepts to hangout just to make things clear.
Now boo is giving her the silent treatment, since she left,they have not talked for two weeks since the quarrel started, she's really hurting, she finally called boo and boo asked if she's done hanging out with the other dude if not she shouldn't come looking for him and he's still forming anger, so the question now is should she just swallow her pride and go to boo's house to settle with him or wait till boo comes around ? thanks
Greetings Stella, I'm an addictive reader of your blog and I comment sometimes but I have to go anonymous on this.
I have a fourteen years old son, he was very girly as a child but we didn't think much of it because we thought he would grow out of it. Fast forward to fourteen years later, and his case is worst. I often come home to see that someone has tampered with my make ups and outfits and each time I ask him, he says he is not the one.
I've never seen him show interest in girls, instead he hangs out with some teenage boys in the street, he says he goes there to watch TV and I'm pretty confused as I don't know if it is just TV they are watching there.
I and his father decided to buy him a phone during the Easter holiday as he will enter the university this November, I notice he talks till the dead of the night with a certain caller, I snooped into his phone (lord help me) one day I sent him on an errand and all his contacts are men.
I have tried asking him again and again if he is gay but he keeps saying he is not.
I will love my son no matter what but I need to know if he is gay to know how to handle this situation. Asides from this gay suspicion, he is an amazing person, he helps me with all the house chores and he is extremely brilliant, infact he scored 300+ in the recently released jamb result. I just hope the devil is not trying to ruin his future.
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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
CAUGHT ON A DATE
Good day Stella and Bvees .I'm sending this chronicle on behalf of my bestie ..pls Bvees give advice and not only insults..
My bestie is in a relationship with this wealthy dude, dude is a single father of one but he's a very hardworking, focused and rich young man in he's early 40's, he does not womanise .While my friend is 30yrs, my friend is also a good catch ,beautiful,intelligent (wife material)with a good paying job.
OK my friend and her boo are so into each other ,they are in love,sex is great, beautiful chemistry between them. all jugdinas beware...lol
Now it happened that my friends boss has a friend who has been on her case and boss has been asking for my friend to go out with he's friend once just to discuss, finally my friend accepts to hangout just to make things clear.
She didn't tell boo what's happening ,unfortunately boo sees her with the other man in a restaurant , on getting home,boo being a very jealous type gets into a quarrel with her, rants about her not being faithful,she had to tell him everything, but he won't believe her, he claims she didn't sound convincing enough in turning the other man down and didn't make them(boss and he's friend) believe she's in a serious relationship and besides they actually behaved liked lovers on a date when he saw them.
They argued and said lots of things, my bestie said boo said she can go about f*****g guys as sex is one thing she knows how to do very well,and this really hurt her,she left boo's house in anger and stopped apologising.
Now boo is giving her the silent treatment, since she left,they have not talked for two weeks since the quarrel started, she's really hurting, she finally called boo and boo asked if she's done hanging out with the other dude if not she shouldn't come looking for him and he's still forming anger, so the question now is should she just swallow her pride and go to boo's house to settle with him or wait till boo comes around ? thanks
@Poster1, God will help you and your son, gay bawo?
ReplyDelete@Poster2, let that man be for sometime, but if she's not tired of begging, let her continue to beg until he forgives her
*Larry was here*
Poster 1... Most gay guys are very intelligent and smart. With everything I read up their, your son is gay. Poster 2... Most Women don't know what they want
DeletePoster 1: please get closer to your son and let and external person talk to him and counsel him. Then delay is university admission for a year since he is still young and employ a godly counsellor to help him. Get him involved in things that should be manly and closely work with him telling him the ills of being gay. For now help your child immediately.
DeletePeople are not comprehending, poster 1 said she'd love her son no matter what orientation the boy is. Why are you all cabashing on her behalf? What they want is how to get the boy to open up to them.
DeleteMrsBee
Pos2 why where they behaving like lovers ur friend no pure rara rara
DeletePoster 2. That girl might not be honest with you. She might have been dating the two men
DeleteCounsellor indeed. Busy bodies everywhere. If he is gay, counselling CANNOT change him. Am happy you would love him no matter what.
DeleteGIVE HIM TIME to figure himself out and always remind him you will love and accept him no matter what.
DO NOT delay his university admission, it can get him depressed and frustrated.
POSTER 1- Your son can be effeminate, doesn't mean he is gay. At 14, his friends should be boys and not girls. The fact that he is about entering university doesn't mean he is an adult. Let him grow, when the time is right, he will befriend girls. Stop putting ideas in his head with the constant suspicions and sneaking on his phone.
DeleteIf you are troubled, pray. Sow a seed that God should right any wrong in your son's life.
But I feel you should just let him be. No one is born gay. But some can be born effeminate (I am not sure about the spelling biko) look it up on google.
Happy heart, you are very very right.
DeleteWhile effeminate does not necessarily mean gay, associations can easily turn him into a gaybottom...
Even if not, the Bible does say effeminate will not inherit God's kingdom ( that's if you are a Christian)
Point of correction: Yes there are people born gay!! It's clear in this case
DeleteNobi's mum, is nobi gay?
DeleteYou can tell, Nobi na guy. Her mama ma closet lesbian.. Not hard to figure.
DeleteIf Poster 2's main nigga was my brother,i would advice him not to have anything to do with her.He should look for a serious and disciplined lady.How can a 30 year old not know what she wants.If you really respect and love your man,you would tell your boss you have a serious relationship.Thank God the man caught you,just continue with your boss's friend,because the trust is dead.He will keep accusing you even in marriage.Na your type dey quick off pants.I am sure if your man didn't interfere,it would have been more than a date.And the annoying part is that he will dump your ass and look for a younger lady to be serious with(if he's not even married).
DeletePoster 1: he might not be gay, and he might due to your suspicious. But mehnnn being gay is one topic that scares me as a Christian. I want to say pray for him but I can't. I don't know why?
DeletePoster 2: your own is hmmmmm let me reread again
Poster 1: take your son to SCOAN, he has a spirit of a man,God must deliver him,.once he's delivered you will see him changing,.i once saw a gay guy being delivered,I happen to know the guy,he's now completely free
DeletePoster one.. Your son needs prayers. He might nat be gay bur Satan is already on his case..
DeletePoster 2.. like seriously? Your friend went out on a date wid his boss's friend without telling her boo?? If she was in his shoes I wonder wah her reaction would have looked like.. boo told her hurtful words cause he was hurt and angry. If she was sorry, she wouldn't have waited dah long before calling to apologize. Freaking 2 whole weeks.. hmm
Stella post comments oooh.
ReplyDeletePoster 1, I feel for you though.😢😢😢😢😢
i'm sure she has been insultung gay people upandown, till u got blessed with one.
Deletemadam I can advise u it is his choice as of now u can still turn him like soup inside pot it is not late don't allow ur home 2 burn becos of this gay issshhh the day I saww a pic of a young man burnt in ashes 4 this gayism i wept a lot a rich politician he was gay with they caught both of them but till tomorrow no one hears about the him again he quiet the case with money
DeleteTypical runz girl, your boss and you ought to be professional, I'm sure your boss friend is a married man, God gave u a good thing and u ruined it as miss hotpants that you is,this happened to you poster,not an imaginary friend.
ReplyDeleteHighly possible, at ur old age u don't knw how to turn a man down, u must go on a date abi? Weldon... U must hv listened to "don't put all eggs in one basket" see how u must hb lost the entire crate to concrete.
DeleteShe said her bosses friend.
Delete😂😂😂😂@ "don't put all eggs in one basket"
DeleteBoo, boo, boo..later they will say it is the men that are cheating. Your friend abi na you was caught pants down, period! Stop telling us crap. When I see cheating is a human thing, all them feminists come smoking. Women are even taking the lead in cheating right now. It's just that they're more discreet about it. And men don't snoop like them.
ReplyDeletePoster 1, pls let him be. He needs to figure himself out by himself. Don't force anyth on or out of him. Glad u r not a homophobe. Pray for him but let him be.
DeleteJust negodu 'boo'
ReplyDeleteFlaring up and saying hurtful things.
If he's this jealous in a relationship, I wonder what he'd do when married.
By the way, why is he a single father?
Very blunt
DeletePoster 1, your son is gay. Firstly your parenting skill is close to zero. His friends at very younger age influenced him. In as much as you've noticed some characters in him, did you know 90% of his friends when he was as little as 5 years till date?
DeleteAt 6-7 my kid sister was already getting advances from baby lesbians in our estate. Thank God for my very close relationship with her, I told her what to do,how to challenge them individually when they come back. She had already started challenging them, the first time they approached her differently.
My dear! You better suspend the thought of university now, now you can still control him to an extent. Take him to prayer houses and conduct deliverance on him.
You won't know that boy by his 3rd year in school
Madam blogbrity, do you have a child? A teenager to be specific? How are you so sure her "parenting skill is close to zero".
DeleteWhat ISBTJIS one talking about? Baby lesbians at 6 and 7? Some people don't deserve to have data smh
DeletePoster 1 all you can do is pray for your son. If he is indeed gay, i donr think much can be done right now. It is a really hard one but God will see you through.
ReplyDeletePoster2. Is the boo the wealthy dude? All i could see was boo boo boo this boo that. Let your friend not get desperate. As long as she is innocent, she should chill. She should tell him clearly that she has nothing with the other guy. But did her man see her in a compromising position with the guy? As long as they truly love each other, i think the boo and boo will be fine with time
Hmmmmmm. Poster 1, u berer enter prayer ooo but ur pick asshole bcum like highway. Prayer is the key..
ReplyDeleteLie lie poster 2. Nor go beg ooo dey form for dia. Until one of ur friends go collect d man from ya hand
2nd poster how did you know the sex was great ooo, 😂
ReplyDeleteDon't mind doing her doing Boo Boo at 30plus when you her mate are done with child bearing... .. Valerie 😯
DeleteGod bless you.
DeletePoster one:
ReplyDeleteNobody, no parent pray for gay children but since it has happened, you can only support your son. Homosexuals especially in this part of the world are one of the most castigated group of people. People refer to them as faggots, weaklings and this drive them into depression, suicide etc. I'm happy about the level of your expose on a person being gay, you can help your son appreciate your sexuality
Poster 2:
I don't even understand.. If she is wrong, let her apologize to the guy. Nobody ever died from saying "I'm sorry"
Poster one may want to consider sending the boy abroad when he graduates, he will have a better life there. Nigerians are yet to adjust to LGBTs.
DeleteI take it back, nobi's mum is gay!
DeleteI said it.
DeleteIf there is any trait of homosexuality in him the Lord will destroy it in Jesus name, amen. N2, such complicated isshh
ReplyDeleteGo and sit down. Like the boy has leprosy.
Delete@1, your son is a full blown gay from birth, just manage him that way, don't let anybody convince u to pray cos prayer won't solve this.
ReplyDelete@2, let her be forming, another girl will soon take over her boo boo.
Poster one he's getting into uni soon and he's 14?? Hmm wow. Anyways he has been gay sinceee! There's nothing you can do. Just make him open up to you and know that you will love him no matter what
DeleteGoogle Effeminacy, he might not be gay.
DeletePoster please pray, there's nothing prayer cannot do
DeleteWatch him closely, let him find interest in girls, teach him the Bible, tell him about Sodom, let him know that a man will have to get marry someday and procreate
Angelray. I love all your advice.No pretense. You say it as it is!
DeletePoster 1,
ReplyDeleteNa so e dey start...
Your son is gay!!...
How was his growing up like?...did a nigga molest him as a child?..
I'm sure you don't know cos you were busy chasing money ignoring your duties as a mother...
Did he went to an all boys boarding school?...
Or to any boarding school??...
None of my children will go to a boarding school abeg...
My two children goes to high school from home!...
I drop and pick them up after school!!..as big as they are...
There is nothing you can do about it again...
Most gays are succesful!...
They are everywhere including our pastors and rev fathers etc...
Poster 2,
The last time I checked,your friend's boo has not paid her bride price...
She is still single to do anything she likes!...
He should marry her since he is so much in love with her...
If I were her,I won't beg!...
There are so many fishes in the water...
She is 30 and not getting young!..tell her to stop putting all her eggs in one basket...
Even if she begs boo from now till next year,their relationship will never be the same!...
The boo will never trust her...so let her shine her eyes now and give other men a chance!...
The queen as spoken🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌
DeleteEngRish you're in trouble here oo
DeleteNobody hits the nail on the head like my queen o. Choi!
DeleteI knew this would be Queen and Boss, you can tell from the right up, what I did was to scroll up to confirm and I was right.
DeleteRachy, it's WRITE-UP.. Ah ha, you guys should take it easy with your blunders
DeleteRIP English.
Delete@Rachy, you scrolled up to confirm because you read the post from bottom up or what? SMH
DeletePosters take dis advice but Pls talk to ur boo just one more time if he still upset then FREE HIM.
DeleteP1. Eye tink yhua iknoranse cussed eat jos laik Awa eldas alwaze say; "If one neglegs a smoll pot, it boiles ova an extinwishis the faya....
ReplyDeleteMaybi D devu wanstu mess wit his daystini. He nids serios counsling. Alzo, teck him for deliferanse inkess somtin 'sordormi' had tecken plase.
True talk... Something must have happened while he was growing up and believe you me, there's a demon attached to homosexuality .. I remember vividly, my aunt pulling her pants down,spreading my legs and asking me to rub against her.. My female cousin took over when she left..i started lesbianism with neighbors too, I even did it (God forgive me)to one of my Lil cousins(i never really liked it, I was just doing it..did I even know what I was doing? ) till I got into Junior Secondary School at age 10. That was when I knew what lesbianism really meant. My friends were talking about putting their fingers into their private parts.. I just didn't get it (no one ever did that to me.. We'd just rub, lick pussies and suck breasts). It had "wrong" written all over it.
DeleteI stopped those dirty habits immediately , I questioned myself, tried to find out if I was straight or not.. I'm not gay not even bisexual..I never lust after a girl..I thank God,He helped me find a way out. I pray the others involved have the grace to shake lose of homosexuality be it by nature or by incidence. You can't trust anyone with your kids not even your relatives.. I get scared when I think of how to protect my kids.. The world is truly crazy.
To the Demonic Part:
Between 10 to 11 years after I got a brain reset,i used to see myself with one of my then neighbours doing the same thing we always did..I'd wake up and cry
One day, I waged war spiritually and vehemently made it clear that I was not and never going to be a lesbian.. told the demon to park well cuz it got the wrong girl.. I'm in my late twenties now and once in a while,it comes in the form of that same neighbour and tries to romance me... I resist..Thank God for Jesus
With Prayer and willingness to stop, the boy can actually become straight.
I think your ignorance caused it. Just like our elders always say "If one neglects a small pot, it boils over and extinguishes the fire....
DeleteMaybe the devil wants to mess with his destiny. He needs serious counseling. Also take him for deliverance incase something 'sodormy' had taken place
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Please REASON like we are in 2017!!!!!!!!! What is this about demons and the devil. This us why the so called men of... Keep ripping people off
DeleteNobi mama, Christian or not, God hates homosexuality, its black and white in the bible. He destroyed a whole city because of it. He clearly lists it among the things that those who practice won't inherit God's kingdom in 1corinthians 6:9.
DeletePlease let's not deceive ourselves, its wrong and a horrible sin in the midst of other sins. Sodom n Gomorrah is a case in point.
Poster2: waiting period is critical any thing can happen in between. Boo may get someone else. Let her go meet him in person, tell him he hurt her with those words and settle.
ReplyDeletePoster 1: don't know what to say
Girly son u beta live dat guy alone,wot I think u Shld do as a mother is make him see reason and also av close discoussions with him make him ur paddy as in take him out Mother and son get away den be observant ,am sure ur son will come around ,cos if u go push am and e enter woman mata u na u go tire cos if d poor boi go loose focus eh,na d rate e de take read book e go also u de Chase woman ,n Madam na granson u go c next
ReplyDelete2caught on d date
If ur friend really loves d guy in question please advice her to do Customers r always right make she go beg ,later dem go trash d Mata ,now secure ur property be4 anoda gal hook am wey Sabi nack pass ur friend,n trust me d guy in question go think say na payback, n ur friend go later suffer @break on something dat is not true.
No mind my pinenglish
Poster 1 dont really kw wat 2 say only 2 ask God 2 tk control. Poster 2, tell ur friend 2 let her boo be, she should stop apologising n she shouldn't go 2 his house. I v come 2 understand 1 tin in lyf, its not how much u begged, but how much d oda person is willing 2 4get n let go. U said d date was a harmless 1 from her side (went dia 2 hear d oda guy out n tell him off), she shouldn't b scared of anything. She pleaded 4 being accused of wat she didnt do (being accused of funking around), yet no acceptance. She shouldst kill herself ova dat guy cos "if" he is 4 her, he will b d 1 2 come bk 2 her.
ReplyDeleteVery true. She has explained, apologized and gave him time to cool off, yet he is still being sarcastic. That means he doesn't trust her. I can't stay with a man that can't trust me. She was wrong in going on that date, true. But he didn't catch them in a compromising position. Has she given him reasons to doubt her before now? If no, I think he is taking the anger too far. She should send him a message giving detail explanation again, she should apologize and let him know she never meant to hurt him. After this, she should step back and let him decide if he wants to come back or not. Stop forcing it. A relationship without trust is not worth it.
DeleteI guess you don't know how it feels to be faithful to someone, give that person your attention,your everything only for you to realize that you are just not enough.
DeleteThe "date" harmless as it may sound showed that she had a budding interest in that other guy...
I don't blame her boo for His initial gragra...He's got to know if what they share is some form of amusement to her while he's killing himself over the love. He needs to know if she still has her eyes outside so He can jejely give her the space she needs and save himself a whole lot of stress...
Hmmmm 1st poster that was how Jamal of empire started with heels ooo.You and your hubby needs a heart to heart talk with him.communication is key.
ReplyDeleteHe may just love makeup and may even end up been a makeup pro.
2nd poster keep waiting for oga to come around you hear.loyalty is important and you don't seem to have it.
"loyalty is important and you don't seem to have it" I love dis ur saying
DeleteThis doesn't have anything to do with loyalty. I dated a guy who took me to mama, the mama connived with her only daughter and painted me black to the guy just becos am igbo and she wants to be the one to find a wife for the son, I begged for more than a month for what I didnt do, what later happened, the mom found someone for him and they got married barely 8months we ended the r/ship. My dear poster, I will say it again, its not how much u begged, but how much the other person is willing to let go. If you lyk beg from now till Jesus comes, if the guy doesnt want to come bk, he wont and will never come back. Stop begging him cos you have begged enough and explained enough. But I hope your hands are clean, you v never cheated on him, cos goods guys are hard to find.
DeletePoster 1. What is this world turning to? Your 14 year old teenager has boys only on his contact list and you have started suspecting homosexuality? So, you already expect him to be keeping girls? You better don't mislead him by repeatedly asking him of this gay thing. From what you said above, nothing points to him being a gay. Just pray for him and guide him.
Delete2. Your friend is guilty and should d everything possible to reconcile with the guy. This may not mean the relationship will continue, depending on this guy but your friend should learn to be faithful.
Its possible he's not gay, you don't need to go further & inspect the size of his anus if a cucumber can fit in. Effeminacy is the manifestation of traits in a boy or man that are more often associated with feminine nature, behavior, mannerism, style, or gender roles rather. It is a term frequently applied to womanly behavior, demeanor, style, clothing & appearance displayed by a boy or man, that xplains ur eyeliner & pancake, lol.... Ofcourse he'd lie to protect his masculine nature, rather than feel "weak", no offence to the ladies here. Speaking of ladies, the "Tomboy" loves to dress like a guy & walk like one, that dsnt mean they're all Lesbians, although they attract alot of attention & atttact the "Original" gay.... So make ur son believe ure comfy with who he is, and u'd b amazed how mch he'd open up to you, such ppl are highly suicidal cus they feel they're alone & no one will understand.
ReplyDeletePoster2: wait around??? She's alrrady wasted 2weeks, is she aware that her ovarian clock is ticking with an alarm? Ill advised to wait on a man that has a kid already & can get more at 50..... Drop that ego & go give him proof that ure a loyal lady, 2weeks was unecessary if u ask me when i'm in a good mood..... If u ask wen i'm in a bad mood, id say uve displayed ur stubborn side & how long u can keep malice.
i'm starting to love you oh, good IQ level, but i believe in God
DeleteAtheist... I just fell in love with you. This is the same analogy someone made me understand now. Poster one: Your son MAY NOT be gay o
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DeletePoster 1, this!
DeleteYour son is not gay, probably a transgender in the making. Talk to him about your fears and reassure him about your love for him.
ReplyDeletePoster two, why don't you mediate between them? Set up a meeting for both of them in a neutral place to discuss. Your friend didn't act right by agreeing to see the other guy, coz if things were so perfect with her boo, she'd have politely but firmly turn the guy down without going on a date.
Poster one your son is gay!! He won't tell you that he's gay so just forget it. But if you know that you cannot accept having a gay child, take him to SCOAN Lagos,for deliverance. Do that before he enters the university, cos once he's in the uni, he's going to become a full fledged gay dude. He'll have all the freedom he needs to travel round the world to meet wealthy men.
ReplyDeleteDumbest comment ever
DeleteSee comment. Take him to SCOAN... Nigeria is a joke.
DeletePoster 2. This here is exactly why d first wife left him. Whatever she tolerates or does next, she'll keep doing till she is feed up and files for ddivorce just like wife 1. If she gets back with him, he should warm up for psychological and emotional abuse. #peace. Poster 1, find somene to set him up.
ReplyDeleteYour head dey there...
DeleteTell her to give boo some time if he truly love and care about her he will come around....talking from experience though
ReplyDeletePoster one I think your son is been messed with long ago before now and you just noticed. I think your son is a full blown gay for a very long time but you didn't know. They are poking his ass already.
ReplyDeleteHe's a girl.
This is blunt.
DeleteP2. Tale yhua frend 2go an beg or meck she dey dia meck kapar dey wear am... Or meck she go nack pijon for the man haed as una dey tolk, so e go cum beg am for gating angree in the face plase...
ReplyDeletePoster two your friend was caught pant down, no two story about it. Its either she apologize or forget about the relationship.
ReplyDeleteIf I'm the guy, don't expect me to come around again unless you apologize and be remorseful about it. Simple.
Gbammest comment ooooO
DeleteSame here. My children can never ho to a boarding school.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 your friend should just say sorry thats all. The guy will come round
Wetin do boarding school?
DeletePoster 1, I think before your son got to 14 you didn't have a great relationship with him. Before now he was an innocent child who doesn't know anything about keeping secrets, all kids are programmed that way until they get chastised for some things and start hiding or when they come to the knowledge of the world around them. At 14 I don't want to believe it's late, wake him up at dead night and only ask him 3 questions. Does he know you love him? Why does he believe you love him? Why does he behave like a girl? In conclusion, let him know you are indifferent about his orientation but you have no secrets from him and he should return the gesture.
ReplyDeleteAll the best
PS I have a 12 and he can't stand a joke about him being a girl, but he messes with my make up occasionally, my wig and scarves when we get into play mode around the house.
Poster 2 your friend should let go of pride and go see her boo before he gets tangled with another babe. Men are the most jealous ones, if you love him and see a future with him then you have to carry him along with such outing. You never know when or where he'd show up like this one. Go to him, beg him all over, when that is sorted then you tell him about the horrible things he said to you. You both should be fine. I will like an update on how things play out eventually. All the best
MrsBee
Hmmm most gays always do all the house chores. Be prayerful madam ooo
ReplyDeleteUniversity at 15??????
ReplyDeleteNah at 14 not 15
DeletePoster 1: All signs show that your son is gay.This is a hard and bitter truth to face, no parent wants their child or children to end up this way.There is nothing God cannot do, put him in prayers for God to restore him to the original gender he created him to be.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: She should put herself in the guy's shoes.If she had seen the guy at a restaurant with another lady how would she have reacted? The mistake she made was not telling the guy about from the onset and most importantly not informing him about the coerced date arranged by her boss.She should go to his house and apologize, it's not good to drag such issues too long.
poster 1 -your son is not gay ,trying fixing him up with your friends girls.
ReplyDeleteposter 2 -dont come here and say your friend ,say is you nobody will flog you
1. I reject it for your son in Jesus name. Watch him closely, advice and keep praying for him. It is well.
ReplyDelete2. Why do you keep using his as he's? They ain't the same. Tell your friend to give him some time to clear his head and if he refuse to forgive and take her back, she should let him be. Seems he doesn't trust her anymore.
Poster 1, I fear for you. Talk to your son or trick him (someone said set him up) to telling you the truth. You need to enter fasting and deliverance prayers for this one. Children learn a whole lot of rubbish from a very tender age. We parents must ALWAYS be on the alert. My 10 month old son had red nappy rash all over his bum and I was almost hysterical because a girl (hubby's relative) stays with us. I kept suspecting foul play until the Holy Spirit calmed me down. I no fit shout. The world is EVIL! Start planning deliverance for him. I suspect he's gay. My 15 year old sister knows everything about sex and boyfriend. Where do they learn these things from bikonu?
ReplyDeletePoster 2- let your friend put away pride and go and apologise sincerely. If he doesn't forgive, please make up your mind to move on. He could be a hardhearted unforgiving man. Someone asked why he has a baby and is without the mother. Who knows???
Let her have a plan b to move on. Some men are wicked. He might never forgive her for this and will always use it to insult her if they come back together!
Hilary Clinton look atew no just look atew. If it was ur sister staying with you, would you be having those thought?
Delete@Poster 1, I understand your concerns and fears but you need to be calm. Your son is not gay, Most Teenagers within that age bracket usually don't socialise/mingle much with girls. They make friends with people of same sex, however, with time they will begin to make friends with the opposite sex.
ReplyDeleteYou just need to give the boy a break and also try to interact with him to know if he is shy when it comes to girls. Let him know it is alright to make friends with both sexes.
Never let that child know you suspect he is gay. Never!!!!!!!!!!!
Just act as his friend and try to understand him.
There is nothing peculiar about your son's case after all we have tomboys, why can't we have Tomgirls.
I love you for this comment, why are you anon biko?
DeleteIs following girls at his age right too? @poster and co
Your son is not gay, he might be effeminate, he might outgrow it, he might not. Hopefully some sick maloo won't spot n twist his thinking into something else.
ReplyDelete@blackberry effeminate guys usually always eventually turn gay. Because gay guys dont let them be and women want manly men not feminish women. So, they are stuck in that dilemma of not having what they want or not wanting who wants them. In the end, the other party usually wins because us humans naturally draw closer to the love pointer.
DeletePoster 1. I sincerely feel for you but my prayer is that God will show you mercy and deliver your son from the hands of the devil. Poster 2. I am of the opinion that your friend should go to boo's house,explain things to him again. If he is still unforgiving,let her give him space to come around but if he insists on seperation,let her go on with her life. After all,she did not sleep with her boss's friend(according to you o)
ReplyDeletePoster 1: Please continue in prayers and your private investigation, God will come through for you. With your son, be "as wise as a serpent and as gentle as a dove".
ReplyDeletePoster 2: Your GF erred frankly speaking. If she had informed her BF about the guy 'chiking' her this situation would have been averted. But in any case, she has done so much trying to reconcile with him after their fight. If he's still adamant, she should just allow him space and let time heal them and if it doesn't, she should wipe her mouth and console herself with the much she's 'wacked' already.
Na so e be.
Your son might not be guy, erase such negative thoughts from your mind about your son being gay! Don't stay to far from him most times. Poster 2 you should have to beg your boo since he caught you with some guys!
ReplyDelete#Love is like Wi-Fi, you can't see it, but you know when you've lost it*
ReplyDeleteDear poster 2 in beg to disagree with some of the posts on this issue. c being caught cheating in any form is a serious offence o whether about to or already in the act. From the way you talk about this man your friend seems to love him and he sounds like a good catch if she had played her cards right now take it, your friend has just set off the bells of suspicion and mistrust in her relationship plus this her man seems to be an obiakpor type seeing that he has held on for 2 weeks without reaching out or forgiving. The man seems hard if he takes her back if she is lucky she should pray he does not use it as an excuse to cheat back or even dump her and not marry her. If she really loves him rather than forming James Bond on top of her fuck up she should better pray for God to touch his heart cause him to forgive and forget as well as miss her enough to reach out because this kind man looks hard are you sure he has no one else on the side and your friend just shot herself on the foot by giving him a reason to leave her if no, my dear your friend don fuck up and she should beg the hell on as the longer he stays without her the chances of him moving to the next good thing, show she is really sorry and look for ways to restore the broken trust and pray 2 if not your friend will look back with regrets seeing she lost her man to some stupid dates na that one dey pain pass o. she go cry wella.
ReplyDeleteFirst poster:
ReplyDeletePlease check if you or your spouse experimented with gay sex and confess/repent of such.
Second poster: That is the reward of premarital sex; no trust ever exist again in such a relationship. Once trust is murdered, the relationship dies a natural death!
Why did the second poster move in with a man that has not paid his bride price?
ReplyDeleteThe second poster; in spite of everything you learn from this blog, you never advised your friend not to move in with a man that hasn't paid her bride price?
ReplyDeletePoster 2- I understand the situation because I usually get into such mixes. And the dilemma is telling your bf and him not understanding, or telling him and he saying you shouldn't go and she having to disobey her boss. So, I totally get it.
ReplyDeleteHowever, let her apologize. She is wrong. She needs to apologize but be clear about her stance of not sleeping with the guy. Her boo is thinking all sorts cos he's a man and that's how men are. If the reverse were the case, she would suspect him of the same thing won't she? Ehen... so no forming here. Let her apologize and get his head clear. I just hope the relationship can bounce back from this. Errr... give it 6 months of intense policing and several quarrels and it should get back to where it used to be. What I do when I'm with a man is paint scenarios of certain occurrences and ask him what his thoughts are. Based on his reaction, I'd know the lines to cross and the ones not to in the course of the relationship. This keeps me guided as helps me align my other activities in way that reduce conflict. Okay? Let her apologize and do it wholeheartedly.
That is how men are but if she saw him doing same she would do the same too. Double speak, you haven't used your meds today darling.
DeleteAnon 21:47 its the one who gave birth to you that i pity. Who gives phones to mentally deranged people like you? Only goats! 😊
DeletePoster 2- Please use that result to get him admission, but defer for at least one year. I finished secondary school at 14 and I stayed 2 years before getting into Uni at 16. Those two years were long and hard but when I look back I'm thankful for it. However, in all my sabinus I made some mistakes. ESPECIALLY if he's going to a federal university. Please, hold on with that. He would be easily spotted and Ben dragged in to perversion that he might regret along the line. If he's gay at least let him be a classy gay 'in love' not a 'runs gay'.
ReplyDeleteTell the admission board anything and everything to make them defer for one year. Keep him busy with a-levels and stuff. However, watch him closely and try to keep assuring him you love and do those mummy hugs and kisses when he least expects. Let him feel the love from you and then keep indulging him in conversations
It's two things:
1. Your son might never tell you because of the disappointment he feels on your behalf. Especially if he most likely can't help the way he feels.
2. He will open up and not give you details of things he has done. He's most likely sexually active at this age.
Also, try and find out if he was abused or introduced to it by anyone. Or if he is just naturally who he is. I used to avoid gay people until my childhood friend started showing tendencies that are now too obvious to avoid. He's my friend, he's a darling and I love him sooo much cos we got history. Our mums are like sisters. But my buddy is gay. I can't hate him for one second cos he's such a sweet soul and hosts me everytime I visit his country. We can tell he doesn't want to come out open to say so but we 'silently' know and we love him, regardless.
Lastly, keep praying for your son. *tight squeeze hug* It's well.
Do not love what God hates. God doesn't hate sinners, He hates their sins. However, if they do not repent its destruction. So He begs us to repent and live! If we love people who have bad conducts that God condemns, we need to tell them its wrong and help them stop, not embrace the bad conduct!
DeleteAnon 21:50 don't worry. When it comes to someone very close you can tell me how you handled it. You think its that easy? 😂 I'm sure this poster's mum thought same until now that its under her roof. Just pray life doesnt surprise you because when it does most of the advice we dish out we wont be able to take. I kid you not.
DeleteNO SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE
ReplyDeletePoster one you need to keep a close watch on your son to be sure he us not gay, prayers is the master key, talk to God about it and watch him transform your son.
ReplyDeletePoster two if your friend want to be with her boo but decide to allow pride to take away what makes her happy, tell her to sit down and allow other girls who know what they want to grab her boo, let her not go and beg him, she should be feeling like the fine girl till boo marries another sweet babe. Babes with so much pride, she messed up by hanging out with another man without telling her boo. Goodluck
ReplyDeletePoster 2, the one you've begged is enough Biko. What is it? Haven't you explained and said sorry? And even called after two weeks. I don do abeg. If he comes around fine, if he doesn't move the hell on with your life. Don't allow anybody emotionally drain you. That's how the feeling of entitlement starts o. A man that has not paid your bride price? Get ready to apologize too when he really cheats on you this time.
ReplyDeleteThis is how you gonna play this;
Write him a long email explaining yourself once again and saying you are sorry.
Put a notification to make sure he read your mail.
And leave it at that.
A man that is for you won't leave you cos of a date that you apologized for.
Woman know thyself!!!
Poster 1. Your son is not gay oh. He is only 14 that's ss1. I remeber in school up to ss3 there we're guys to shy to talk to girls. Many are happily married now they came out if thier shells. So pls. Some guys are also girly in nature. S stop asking him if he is gay. Observe him closely. Let him be a child. Ensure he is not being molested.by anyone. That's all.
ReplyDeletePoster I put it to you that your friend is cheap. This is exactly what cheap girls do. This is what happens when a girl says NO with half breath and encouraging the toaster in another breath...
ReplyDeleteI have experienced this enough to know.
Your friend should realize that her actions is not justified in any way. You are serious with a man and you're busy going on dates with other people with love interest.
Your friend should better humble herself and genuinely apologize or better still get his friend to talk to him.
If she's tired of the relationship or too proud to do so, she should leave the way for other beautiful women with potentials as well. After all dem full everywhere.