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Stella of life, good job you are doing here with providing an avenue for BVs to seek solutions to issues of life. As a regular and committed visitor to your blog, i have the permission of my friend to share his story and seek advise from Bvs. Apologies for the long story .

My friend lets call him Peter met his wife Susan abroad . Their courtship was brief and they got married real quick. Susan left her job and had to relocate to the city where Peter lived after marriage and she got pregnant almost immediately. 

They both decided for Susan to be a full stay at home mum while Peter works. Peter has a good job in the telecommunication sector and was actually a VP in the company he works for by age 30. To the core of the story, the family depended on Peters salary which was more than enough for the family for the last 10 years. 

They kept a single joint bank account and the two of them had access to the account without hinderances. After 10 years and 2 children, Susan decided to go back to work . Being a nurse, it was easy for her to get a job. The problem now is that she has decided to keep her money for herself and refuse to contribute to anything in the house.

 She said since Peter makes a lot of money, he can continue to take care of the house while she uses her own money for herself. She is enjoying shopping and even buying things she does not need. She has refused to buy anything for the family but herself alone. She wants to sponsor her brother abroad for his masters degree and wants to build a house for her father in he village. She also wants to establish her aunt in a business in Lagos.

 She still withdraws money from the joint account to run the house and will not contribute a dime to the joint account. Recently she paid the children's school fees and was quick to withdraw the money back from Peters account. Even if she buys fuel in to her own car she will withdraw the money from Peters account( joint account with only peters income) . She will never buy anything for the family with her own money despite that as a nurse she also makes good money.

 Susan feels Peters money is the family money but her money is her money and she is not going to contribute anything to it for the family. Peter has tried to discuss the issue with Susan but with no success, he does not even know the bank where Susan keeps her money and she has refused to even tell him how much she makes. Before Susan went back to work they have always discussed what they gave their parents and how they run their family finances . 

Susan still wants to continue that practice but with only Peters income. Susan jokingly said if she starts helping out financially and Peter has extra money, he might start thinking of girl friends. BVs is this right ?? any advise for Peter ??