STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
WHEN THE PARENTS SAY NO;WHO CAN SAY YES?
Hello Stella,
Nice work you doing here, pls I need advice... I'm a 27yrs old lady currently running her masters in a Nigerian University...
I've been in a relationship for 2yrs+ now.... Few weeks ago, bf told me that members of his family went to pray about our relationship and the answer was no... He's begging that I shouldn't leave him immediately he told me, he's saying I shouldn't give up yet until my mom gives her reply because he also told me to tell my mom to pray about the relationship too but she hasn't given a reply. ..
Last year too, he said his father said he can't marry from my village because his father's brother married someone from my village and the woman gave the man hell on earth.... If I were your sister or friend, what would you advise??
He's been job hunting for 2yrs now....and I have been as supportive as I can... Although he says once he gets a job, he would settle down......
I don't want to lose him as I don't even know how I'm going to love another person.... Even if we disagree and fight sometimes, he's been great and chemistry and connection is perfect....
One more thing, there was a time I read his chat and I saw that he flirts with some of his female friends, his excuse was that he does it when he is bored and with people he won't meet up with in a very long time..
*If his whole Family doesnt want you to marry him,who will attend the wedding or represent him properly at the traditional?
If they dont want you already,why go in?Remember that when you marry a man,you marry his family.
Why is he asking you to hold on and still flirting and testing waters with other babes?My dear,this is easy,take a walk or you hang on and take whatever comes your way.IT IS YOUR CHOICE BABE
Leave that guy and start looking for someone better
ReplyDelete*Larry was here*
Stella has said it all. I am sure queen of the bus will educate you more.
DeleteMy dear,do not leave him yet but just have it at the back of your mind that you might not end up marrying him.
DeleteGET A PLAN B!!!
Poster na wa for you ooo
DeleteSomeone told you his family said you guys are not compatible and told you never to let go don't you know he is letting you go already,but just playing smart.he will keep on trying to give you reasons to leave him. You saw a sigh already you caught him flirting.swthrt take a walk
What kind of prayers do these families go to pray and who gives the answer? Are the answers usually influenced by what the family wants? I dont believe in sending people to go and pray. It just sounds so wrong.
DeletePls do not leave him. Waste all ur energy and love on him. At least when he leaves u later u will have all the wonderful memories. I'm surprised u didn't feel silly writing about what is so glaring
DeleteWhich kind prayer dem go pray wey two of una NoR fit pray by yourself? Abi dem get different different God ni?
DeleteWhy by one die for Derek? Person wey NIR get job??
Babe, let go and move on! Don't know why you still asking when you know the ans?
DeleteAny babe on this blog giving her boyfriend money, receive sense in Jesus name.
DeleteHis family don't want you but he is saying you shouldn't leave him yet because he is getting money from you.
Let's bet....once he gets a job, he will dump you and start telling you reasons why he can't marry you.
Another case of "broke guy being as romantic as heck and turning full circle and breaking a heart once he starts making money" loading.......
DeleteMove on abeg...his family doesn't like you, don't force it abeg, love shouldn't be this hard. MOVE ON!!!
ReplyDeleteShe no go kuku listen
DeleteLeave her... Her name is @RUTH
@Galore
Don't mind them dem go hook there as if dem take the man umbilical cord tie dem join am long hiss gals without self esteem
DeletePlease poster listen to stella advance ooo
ReplyDeleteYou people are advising a girl that says 'she doesn't want to loose her man' to leave him and take a walk? Hahahahahaha ok na. U people Kontinu to waste.
DeleteBroke men can love for Africa. This is even showing you signs of infidelity and family drama, and you still want to die there? Run my dear because the road isn't clear.
ReplyDeleteAs in broke men can love, dey carry award sef for love, dey r d president for love association, poster abeg move on if u had a spare Tyre nw it won't be difficult to move on but no u pple will put all ur eggs in one basket and not even correct basket sef it's d poor one basket u packed all ur eggs to
DeletePoster,are you sure you are a BV??..
ReplyDeleteSo with all the stories you read here,you have not learnt that broke ass niggas sabi love?..
You are seeing signs yet you don't want to give your self brain!...
See your mouth like you can't love someone else!...
Mumu girl that won't move on with her life!...
Continue waiting for a brokeass with no job that would dump you for a fresher babe when he make small change!...
Explosive 💣💣💣😂😂😂😂😂
DeleteOne cold small stout for u.. your head is there!
DeleteAbeg give her isi Ewu and chilled odeku jor. U too much
DeleteWith fresh fish pepersoup for Queen
DeleteAnon 15:41, pls take money and make it two for the Queen.
DeleteLol. I didn't see your comment before. I for save myself the breath.
DeleteYou never disappoint.
Poster, the chief Queen has spoken, just follow her advice.
DeleteAnon 15:41, pls add ugba and abacha for the Queen joor.
DeleteQueen make I go bring AbachA from udi in Enugu state for u I dey come
DeleteThis lady is knocking on d door of decades of suffering for herself and her children. This has happened to me before, all I did was to cut off the relationship and in fact I didn't let him know, I relocated from where I was living cos I don't want to see him. How can an African family tell u they don't want u and u wan enter. Sorry na ur surname.when the guy becomes comfortable he will misbehave and no body will stand in for u cos they don't like u
DeleteThe guy is even BROKEASS hisss.... some family are like this sha...
ReplyDeleteBrokeass and dem still dey select wife for am,on top which money wey he get?
DeletePoster all these love wey u de do, we don do am before.. u better be wise, he won't marry u, he is already preparing you for heartbreak but u are blinded by love, he is still with u because he wants to be sleeping with you nd collecting small small change from u cos most girls now don smart and won't date a broke nigga, so he is stilll with u to use I nd when he is ready to move on . He will give this same excuse that his parents said no. Why not save yourself this heartbreak and move on? Love yourself before u love a broke ass boy
DeleteLet me read comments
ReplyDeleteHow about you channelling your energy into the programme you are doing. You never can tell, meeting the right one on campus.
DeleteForget the prayers, I believe his dad said the truth as so why he won't support the union. Besides he's flirting and you think he respects you??
ReplyDeleteI'm tired of people saying they can't imagine life without xyz, like!!!
You know the truth but you're looking for supporters which you'll get but in the end, we won't sail the ship with you so be wise madam!
*as to
Delete@poster you are are good girl with a good heart, just follow your heart, work more into your courtship and pray too.
ReplyDeleteI know the agents of devil will advise you to leave his broke ass, you alone know what you what. #goforit
If na play make u stop am abeg
DeleteSo bcos they are advising her to leave,they have turned to angents of devil...
Mmmmmmmttttthhhheeeewwww
But the guy is already browsing for other babes na, so u want her to remain there abii
DeleteMstchew!!! Look at the person you want to hold on too, his family don't like you, he flirts around, and he's broke too. Chai only him...you stupid gan o. Someone you should be rejecting...chai!!! You need a reset button slap!!!
ReplyDelete'I can't afford to lose him' 'I can't love another', since you ate his placenta abi?
ReplyDeleteWomen.....
The earlier ye think like a man, the better.
help me ask her ,iam sure she ate the placenta .
DeleteLady wise up. The handwriting is already on the wall. Run as fast.
ReplyDeleteLet others advice you bcos if I do ,I will shout ,and I don't want to
ReplyDeleteThat 👆👆 already sounded like shouting to me. Lol
DeleteNa slap I go give her if she stand in front of me to tell this useless story.
DeleteMhizVee 😂😂😂😂
DeleteYour man just want to use u, u will keep him company till he get a good job then dump u like a piece of cake!
ReplyDeleteIf u can fight his family then continue if not better move on now.
Mine was worst it even result to police pro but at the end God had the final say...
Abeg madam Masters degree programme, ,don't waste your time.... He already said his parents said no... So wetin you still dey tanda do? ...Dont let him keep you waiting for nothing.. Before you, time don go and he will still not wife you
ReplyDeleteNa my own
@Galore
All these men and flirting on social media, my dear gather thyself and take a walk
ReplyDeleteLet low self esteem not kill you! You'll Lear to love another the way you learnt to love him 2 years ago
Don't mind dis poster, u know how many people we love before we marry? As a lover girl that you is na
Deletehmmmmmmmmnnn
ReplyDeleteSmfh...This guy obviously wants out..but being nice about it...How did God tell them No though?...I really want to know..Your mom will probably tell u how..when she gets her answer after praying about it...What if God says yes to your mom though? Girl...take a walk...He loves u now, cos he is job hunting, and u are supportive. ..See him even flirting in his "job hunting" state ooo..smH. .Girl..move the F on....Forgive my French. ..
ReplyDeleteMina
Finally, I can post a comment.
ReplyDeletePoster, you need to take a walk. Reason being, it's the best choice for you. The family doesn't want you and your guy is already showing subtle signs that he wants out by flirting with his female friends. You are going to be hurt, yes! But remember, a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage.
Lmao...
ReplyDeleteHe is broke
He is job hunting
And he's flirting with people
His family already prayed and said he can't marry you
You are supportive meaning you give him money
You are 27yrs old
His people don't like your village
This is funny
You lot never learn..
I'll advice you to take a walk because this relationship is dead on arrival but then we both know you wouldn't.
I totally agree with you.its BID
DeleteLmao. Fab Mum. Your advice is funny. Mbok cut the guy some slack. Lol.
DeletePoster, the writings on the wall are clear. Make hay while the sun shines to avoid 'had I known'. I'm sure you already knew what advice you would get
ReplyDeleteSoft Walk...
ReplyDeletePlease take a walk, u'r wasting ur time..
ReplyDeleteBabe leave that guy and move on... He has someone else he wants to marry.. Be wise
ReplyDeletePoster, the better you start finding your way out of that family the better for you.If you insisted and marry that guy, It will be hell on earth for u.His family will not allow you to drink water and drop cup.Take my advice.
ReplyDeleteTrust me once he gets a job he will dump you. You are being used to keep body and soul together because he will definitely listen to his parents at the end of the day. Forget the aspect of him saying your mom should pray because even if she says yes, he will still run.
ReplyDeleteNo be only chemistry na biology. Who that one EPP.
Pls, start saving your little change rather than spending it on a futile future.
Is he d only man in d world?
ReplyDeleteMy sista ur umbilical cord isn't tied to his, MOVE ON!
Move on with your life, yes you can live without him and you will be fine.
ReplyDeleteNo use evostic gum to join yourself to the guy.u want us to tel u 2 leave d guy.Dont borrow sense and run.u hear!
ReplyDeleteDude is stylishly telling you that it can't work and you have seen it too. What else do you want?
ReplyDeleteAt the end of the day, when he is ready to leave u, he will say he told u before that his parents said no, so stop this blind nd foolish love cos he is just fucking u for free nd collecting money from u.. bet it🙌 He won't marry u
Delete#Just a reminder that you're whole without someone else. You are not a fraction. You're a complete masterpiece all by yourself*
ReplyDeleteThank you sir
DeleteWhy must a pastor tell you whom to marry; did you injure God?
ReplyDeleteWhy must parents go to "pastors" to pray for them to know their kid's spouses?
Did not Jesus say in John 10 that his sheep hear his voice and he knows them?
If you can't hear him; then are you his sheep?
You must be living in disobedience like having fornication/abortions; so you don't have the confidence to approach him so you go to intermediaries who will lie to you.
You are right!
DeleteJust take a walk. He has given you indications and reasons why he can't marry you. He could be hanging on just because he is broke.
ReplyDeleteHe's broke and flirts with other girls? And his family is saying no and you've been supportive financially abi? Better leave that nigga and move on
ReplyDeleteJust leave him. It's not worth it, trust me
ReplyDeleteIf the trouble is with his mother alone NOT all his family members, go ahead otherwise, retreat. But it seems he's already casting his eggs in several other baskets while you're being loyal to him. If that's what it is, use your head not your heart, ok.
ReplyDeleteAfters: please be frugal with the use of '....' in your sentences. Whatever that means to you ni ban sani ba.
They've said it all. With all the things we learn everyday on this blog, someone will still send this kind of chronicle. As blackberry said, aunty, did u eat his placenta??? Hian!!!
ReplyDeleteThey've said it all. With all the things we learn everyday on this blog, someone will still send this kind of chronicle. As blackberry said, aunty, did u eat his placenta??? Hian!!!
ReplyDeletePoster receive sense, what is this, broke, family doesn't dig u, no job, he flirts? Are u okay? Smally
ReplyDeleteDo NOT marry into a home where you're not accepted.
ReplyDeleteRelationship with too many DON'T is a noooooo for me.
ReplyDeletePls leave this man as soon as possible,he's just going to waste your time if you linger, its obvious he's family don't approve of you....save your energy for a better relationship ahead.
ReplyDeletePoster it is so Crystal clear, Biko please talk a walk, with all this he's a cheat
ReplyDeleteWhy do you girl act like you have brain problem when you can see clearly that the relationship is not gonna get anywhere.
ReplyDeleteWhat do you want people here to tell you exactly? Are you out of your senses?
better leave the broke ass right now ,you are 27 ,if you really need a man of your choice start now ,if na marriage you want .That guy just using you to pass his brokeass life .
ReplyDeletePoster use your brain abeg, waka forget the guy
ReplyDeleteHe is broke,flirts and his parents are choosing wife for him.poster hold your ears and listen to me.you can not know a loyal man until he has money.broke men r always loyal.Dey will apologize if u offend dem sef,den wen he gets money u will see his true self.he is broke and still has d guts to flirt.imagine what will happen wen he has d money to impress d ladies.and he has already used his parents as a soft landing wen he dumps u.
ReplyDelete@Poster, few days ago the chronicles was on the changing personae of a husband who was like your boyfriend
ReplyDeleteSame lady helped him until when he don hammer and he wanted out. The signs and wonders are there. Believe anyone to tells you about parents not accepting the partner is all cooked up in most cases. You are lucky to have him confess.... Pls flee fast... These are warning signs... Nkmama
Most of dis guys frame stories of my parents said no because his brother married a bad wife from ur village blabla because they know they won't marry the girl nd prefer that excuse
Deletewomen,abeg open your eyes and know when a man wants to give you honorable discharge.poster,this man wants to discharge you honorably,biko do eyes front.and yesterday's poster 2,that man has been looking for a way to discharge you and you made it easy for him.you said his rich,single with a child and loves you so why hasn't he proposed or married you?at 30 you're still doing boyfriend girlfriend,common sense is far from you people.my advise to you is "eyes front"or you realize your mistakes at 50
ReplyDeleteThis isn't even a case of brokass sabi love.Bv the guy has discharged you since long time, it is safe to say you are dating yourself if you decide to continue,watch it Even if your mum says yes to your relationship he will bring up another excuse.
ReplyDeleteSo his family's prayer only saw that you are not his wife. So that is their problem. So they cannot pray for their jobless son to get a job...you better run from such useless family.
ReplyDeleteVery useless and wicked family
DeleteHe is askng you to hold on so that you can be feeding him until he secures a job. He does not want to marry you. Smell the coffee and move on
ReplyDeleteMove on with your life, if the family refuse do not force it cos in future you will be the one to suffer it, now that he is even broke ass and his family are speaking for him, poster what of he now becomes rich do you think his family will not rubbish you? Wake up to reality.
ReplyDeletePoster he will use you till he can use you no more, then he will dump you. Do you want to continue as his sex toy and personal ATM? Kwantinu
ReplyDeleteDo not believe that lie abt his parents not wanting you. Dude is stylishly trying to sly you! I pity u poster hahaha
ReplyDeleteEven if his parents really said that, he shouldn't be telling you such if he's serious about you. He will defend you and fight for you. He doesn't sound mature or ready for marriage. If you're still confused after reading all the wise comments here, ask God to give you a clear sign about this guy but be ready for whatever answer you get.
ReplyDeleteBabe, the guy is saying you shouldn't end it yet because he's still enjoying your support now that he's jobless.The speed at which he'll dump you when he gets a job will shock you.it's not advisable to marry a man when his family says no.The war nor be here o
ReplyDeleteAt 27 you dey mumu like this. Time is going ooo.gwegwegwegwegwe is knocking on your door. Better flee from that flea.
ReplyDelete