If Only those Ladies had realised how fragile she was even though.............
RIP....I wonder why people think killing themselves is the easy way out.....
If you are in that state of thinking about ending it all,please do not read this and be encouraged to do it....
There is a demon behind this. It is not ordinary. It is well
ReplyDeleteImmediately I read this, I suspect this girl is framed up. How can she steal those stuff and scatter it in 3 bags. It is not consistent. Most people won't steal and spread it, they will rather leave it in one place. Most of the cases of frame up are done like this just in case they didn't search everywhere. Someone definitely took those things and spread it round her bags so that atleast it will make more waves. I hope you are ok with your life now.
DeleteI know this because someone did it to me in the hostel in uniport. Exactly this way. Every corner of my room was a piece of stollen belongings. How can I steal something and spread it out so that anywhere you look you will see. Thank God for my strong personality. Some people still think I am a thief. I had my revenge and it was a very sweet one. The idiot never graduated after spending 6 years in school. Me die for someone? How will you now prove your innocence? It is in their presence that God will prepare your table.
BTW, why do people give someone palm oil after taking poisonous substance. Please STOP IT! the mother decided to act medical/native doctor . I emergency, every second counts. You cannot be doing trial and error. You will end up with a corpse. Who told you that palm oil is an antidote? Please let us try and be informed, mind the kind of information you let into your head because in the case of emergency ,your brain will only process and push you to do that thing that wrong dangerous thing you have watched in home video and heard from iya ibeji and those native doctors in moving buses. IT NEVER WORKS. STOP WASTING TIME HEN SOMEONE IS CLINGING ON THAT SECOND THAT CLICK AWAY. you don't know it, go straight to the hospital. This girl could gave been saved.
DeleteThe rate @ which people commit suicide now is something else.
DeleteRIP to dead. And I hope those room mates are now satisfied as their aim has been fulfilled.
But my people suicide is never the and oh, and its your 1st class ticket yo hell. You don't own your life, so you don't have the right to take.
No hun,
DeleteIt's not a demon.
It's the fragile nature of these people. People who cannot beat hurt, humiliation.
People who cannot bear difficult situations. Those who are already hopeless and do not believe light will overcome the darkness they find themselves ATM.
Those are the suicidal lots.
And then because it's a dog eat dog world, a world where man is inconsiderate and insensitive to his fellow man;
with their words and attitude to such people, they make it easy for them to believe their thoughts on suicide is justified.
Kind words,
room for benefit of a doubt when someone is accused and the need to stop, think before pulling the plug on someone is much needed in our society.
Honestly, I don't know what to say about this
DeleteThey say speak no ill of the dead but this girl was actually caught stealing and she was disgraced. Disgracing a thief in hostels is no news; if you steal and you are caught, you and everything you stand for will be disgraced.
In year one, I joined in disgracing a thief and I felt good about it because the stealing was becoming something else, we all looked at ourselves like thieves and thats a terrible thing for people living together. So, you can imagine our joy when we finally caught the thief, we disgraced her and sent her out of the room (she was a squatter)
I think the only thing that's different here is that she committed suicide and I'm of the opinion that people should stop putting the blame on her roommates but on her, she stole and couldn't take the heat when she was caught!
Someone set the poor girl up.If you have never been accused wrongly and disgraced especially of theft you won't understand.I was in JSS1 10years old in the boarding house.This senior in ss3 was my own sister from my village they almost flogged me to death.Na long story.I thank God my mum saw that I almost died from their bullying and changed me to a better school.
Delete....but if she was wrongfully accused, then it's a shame and it's just a matter of time before the real culprit is caught and that person's disgrace would even be more epic
DeleteBloglord, there is a spirit behind suicide. You don't know what you are talking about. Be thankful for what you can see without eyes.
DeleteOur society is very harsh... Anyway, our religious institutions, have a responsible to dissuade people from this act and activate hope in them, I believe this is part of the the reason they are in existence, not just to collect money and praise sing... Ayam out...
DeleteAnon 13:02, thanks very much.
DeleteStella, I'm glad you brought up the question that you wondered why people commit suicide. Let me answer you
DeleteUnless you are in someone shoes, you wouldn't know why they did what they do. Everyone is very busy in life and I wish we can all take a second away from our busy time and ask someone how they are doing. That simple gesture goes a long way to someone that is depressed. People are very quick to judge someone that committed suicide by calling them a coward whereas they weren't there when that person needed them.
I have it all and said this with all humility. Successful career, rich and kind husband, well behaved kids, and can buy anything no matter how expensive without feeling guilty but still sad inside me. Part of my sadness has to do with losing my mother when I didn't have much to take care of her and now I have a lot and using the money to take care of other people's mother. Not that I'm sad helping other people, oh no, I do help from my heart but just wish my mother is here to enjoy the fruit of her labors. My mother suffered for me to go to private school and get a good education and she died because I made it big time on every levels.Many times, I have thought of giving up but couldn't do it because of the effect it will have on my kids. But not everyone will have that willpower to hold on. I have a lot of people around me but based on many experiences with 99%, of them, it seems they were around me for their own financial enrichment. It used to bother me but not any more and that makes it very hard to trust people even more with my depression . Being sad/depressed is a mental health and has nothing to do with your financial status. Recently Prince William and Harry talked about their mental frame of mind when they lost their mother but no one knows they were both going through such sadness by looking at them in public. They were both now putting public awareness on mental health and Lady Gaga joined them on the PSA. My last note on this topic which is very close to my ❤️ is for us to
1). Pay close attention to someone that we know going through a situation either personally, financially, emotionally or mentally by showing a genuine love towards them by picking up your phone and say hello to them and tell them that you love them
2). Pay a close attention to them If the person withdraws from their social activities
4). The person lost a lot of weight without working on their weight by exercising/dieting
5). If the person put on too much fat without eating too much/drinking beer
6). If the person is not cheerful like they used to do or stop picking your call without having any disagreement with them
7). Last and the most important is to please don't judge someone just because they are sad or taunt them but please talk to them and genuinely show them that you care.
GOD BLESS YOU ALL
Stella, I'm glad you brought up the question that you wondered why people commit suicide. Let me answer you
DeleteUnless you are in someone shoes, you wouldn't know why they did what they do. Everyone is very busy in life and I wish we can all take a second away from our busy time and ask someone how they are doing. That simple gesture goes a long way to someone that is depressed. People are very quick to judge someone that committed suicide by calling them a coward whereas they weren't there when that person needed them.
I have it all and said this with all humility. Successful career, rich and kind husband, well behaved kids, and can buy anything no matter how expensive without feeling guilty but still sad inside me. Part of my sadness has to do with losing my mother when I didn't have much to take care of her and now I have a lot and using the money to take care of other people's mother. Not that I'm sad helping other people, oh no, I do help from my heart but just wish my mother is here to enjoy the fruit of her labors. My mother suffered for me to go to private school and get a good education and she died because I made it big time on every levels.Many times, I have thought of giving up but couldn't do it because of the effect it will have on my kids. But not everyone will have that willpower to hold on. I have a lot of people around me but based on many experiences with 99%, of them, it seems they were around me for their own financial enrichment. It used to bother me but not any more and that makes it very hard to trust people even more with my depression . Being sad/depressed is a mental health and has nothing to do with your financial status. Recently Prince William and Harry talked about their mental frame of mind when they lost their mother but no one knows they were both going through such sadness by looking at them in public. They were both now putting public awareness on mental health and Lady Gaga joined them on the PSA. My last note on this topic which is very close to my ❤️ is for us to
1). Pay close attention to someone that we know going through a situation either personally, financially, emotionally or mentally by showing a genuine love towards them by picking up your phone and say hello to them and tell them that you love them
2). Pay a close attention to them If the person withdraws from their social activities
4). The person lost a lot of weight without working on their weight by exercising/dieting
5). If the person put on too much fat without eating too much/drinking beer
6). If the person is not cheerful like they used to do or stop picking your call without having any disagreement with them
7). Last and the most important is to please don't judge someone just because they are sad or taunt them but please talk to them and genuinely show them that you care.
GOD BLESS YOU ALL
You've said it all... Godbless you anonymous!!! Pls I need a little financial assistance as am almost running mad from too much thinking!!!
DeleteWell said first anonymous.
DeleteI have a similar story to yours, many years after my mother's death I still miss her sorely and wish that she was alive so that I can give her the life of her dreams now that I can afford to. That woman suffered many things for us and now that we are all well set she's nowhere around to enjoy even a little of it.
I also feel used by people but never have I let any of these draw me to emptiness or depression. My mother's death almost did but I resisted it with all that was in me.
And to get over the feeling of being used I tell myself that I should be grateful that people think I'm a solution provider after all it could have been worse and I might have been the one needing the help. It helps that way.
13.02 palm oil neutralises some poisonous substance in the body if taken instantly.... B informed.....Google is ur friend
DeleteAnon 12:53, u r right. That girl was framed abeg
DeleteOmg what a sad story. I'm sure she imagined the embarrassment that'd follow the theft allegation in that uni. It's not easy to face such a disgrace. She should have changed school instead of ending her life.
DeleteJudge @rocky, did you read the story properly? was it written that she was caught stealing?
DeleteNext time Read properly, then understand a story before you write your judgement.
RIP to the dead though.
Suicide isn't an option.
This is so sad.
ReplyDeleteHello SDK
Irene !!!! For real
DeleteToo sad.
ReplyDeleteDid she really steal the said things, or someone put them in her bags.
Rip Ayomide.
So sad. Who knows?
DeleteEven if she did, it's obvious she's not happy about stealing. Looks like a spiritual remote control to destroy her... The devil is wicked!!!
DeleteShe did not cos if she did she will never think of killing herself
DeleteConspiracy thing.
DeleteIts definitely a frame up. Even if she steal it, she won't keep them in a place they would easily find.
DeleteSucide is never an option.it's just plain cowardice.
ReplyDeleteGbam!!!🔊🔊🔊🚶
DeleteHappy sunday to you sandy!
DeleteSame to you dear!
DeleteVery true,u just spoke my mind!
DeleteI don't believe it's cowardice. You never know what people are passing through thag they find it so hard to bear.
DeleteEg,if u never gone through depression, you will never know what depression is. Talkmore that I have attempted once to do it but God saved me.
If you are strong in face of difficulties, be grateful to God for that strenght alone.
So, what is it if not cowardice
DeleteSomething tells me this girl did not steal dos things,girls in that Mauna hostels can do anything to bring there friends down....but ayomide u went too far....How do u want ur parents and boy friend to feel.......RIP
ReplyDeleteU can say that again, I believe she was innocent
DeleteThe worst for her might be if her mother doesn't believed she was innocent and joined in bullying her. Typical of a Nigeria mother
Delete*Unilag student.
ReplyDeleteMay her soul rest in peace, I can only imagine the disgrace she suffered that led her to take her life. Not everyone is strong to withstand shame and abuse especially when they are not guilty since in this case anyone could have planted those things in her bag.
But only God knows and see all.
I hope those students who went ahead to call her names can sleep better now. 2k make up or 200k, there are better ways to handle situations like this. Sigh
U can say that again. I don't the pleasure some pple derive in making others feel less than themselves. Not everybody can withstand the pressure. Life is short. This is sad.
DeleteYeah,it's sad so sad,RIP Ayomide
DeleteStella depression is real o, but the devil is a liar.... When I read stories like this, I begin to wonder when Nigerians started committing suicide? Where did we learn it from... It's well
ReplyDeleteHhhmmmmm
ReplyDeleteShe didn't herself cos of theft,she killed herself cos of shame.
Me wey hate false accusations like mad
That's why whenever I visit a friend and she's like let me keep this money ,I will just jejely walk out of the room or turn my back towards her befr they will say I was the only one who saw where they kept the money.
I remember one certain time armed robbers came to my friend's house and took away one new motorcycle, police arrested her bro just bcos they said he was friends with an igbo guy whose brother sells motorcycle spare parts .They insinuated they both took it and sold to the older Igbo guy,they locked my friend's bro and his Igbo friend up for days befr they later released them .
My friend took refuge in our home cos fingers pointed whenever they passed by and called them the thief siblings,even the bro couldn't live there anymore cos of the shame.
The bike was later found and it was revealed by the thieves that it was the person who sold the bike that asked them to go and steal it back,na the work wey dem dey do...sell a product,monitor the buyer's movement then steal!
My friend starved herself then,her then stupid bf broke up with her then seff on top the matter.
Ibk ur epistle too much,go chop ur bread and beans abeg
Na WA!
DeleteEnter your comment...my own is did she admit she stole those stuff? They could have been planted there to make her look guilty. How do you defend yourself then.
ReplyDeleteRip
ReplyDeleteStella I am sure the theft incident (which I believe she was set up for) was not the only reason. She must have been bullied severally by these people and this was just the tipping point for her. People should realise that their behaviour and utterances hurt others. And those who have been hurt should understand that the best way to make evil people sad and frustrated is by living your life as of they don't exist. You can cry in the comfort of your house but when you're around them flip your hair and b the happiest you can b even if you're faking it. That's the ultimate f**k you to spiteful bullies.
ReplyDeleteRIP smallie. May God give your family the fortitude to bear the loss.
Gbam
DeleteSo people believe you're not up to their standard
I'm feeling the room mates feels d girl is too low to be their roommate ie social wise
You are correct miss kenefo. They must have been bullying her before then.
DeleteJust #2000 worth of make up. Must have been only lipstick or lip gloss.
Dear Lily the day I decided that these hateful people won't get to me was when I was in ss3. That day they never expected it. They were stunned. Even though I cried all the way home with my mum so worried and the driver continuously looking back till my mum had to scream at him to keep his eyes on the road. But Lily, I had the last laugh. They never bothered me and would only make side comments when I passed but my confident and carefree composure always put them in check.
DeleteBullies are horrible oh. That time I used to think about ending my life but I didn't have liver lol. Ordinary needles used to make me cry not to talk of a knife. I also realised that why should they win? Why should they have the last laugh? That was the turning point for me. Since then even if you're bill gates himself you can't try to bring me down and see me down. Never ever again.
I was once accused of something I didn't do oo. #theft. I know the shame I went through but cos of Gods strength I came out of it victoriously o. D people that lied, they're still where they are o.
DeleteI've been victimised on many occasions for no good reason. Sometimes I have cried, but God has always been my strength. It is easy to blame those who are weak to commit suicide, but never blame someone when you are not in their shoes. Instead when you find people in need, or the weak being bullied or preyed upon, help them, don't turn your face and walk away. Many people blaming the roommates now, if they had been there, they would have joined them to bully and abuse the girl without evidence (even with evidence no one has the right to jungle justice). I also think the spirit of suicide is an evil spirit. We need to make sure we are not just physically healthy, but spiritually healthy. That is why I am grateful for God in my life, because in life we will always have challenges but being planted on the solid rock, we will always come out victorious.
DeleteI may sound very insensitive but from what I read and how the mum handled it, I believe strongly that the young lady had been going this. She didn't try to end it because she was hurt or guilty but probably cos she was fed up with not being able to control it or accept further distract.
ReplyDeleteSHE!!!
*disgrace
ReplyDeleteMay her soul Rip
ReplyDeleteI had same thought days back, just because help wasn't coming forth, even family members Dont care, all they think about is their selves and immediate family. So sad I lost my dad when I needed him the most. He was the kindest man I know.
ReplyDeleteI cry nd hit myself most nights, I felt all alone in this world and looked at my ceiling fan and I rebuked the spirit of suicide immediately, I looked at my vein and felt, lemme just end this and not worry my head over anything, lemme just sleep forever.
A lot of us are going through tough times o.
But I know the God I serve is bigger and mightier than my needs.
THIS SOON SHALL PASS.
May her soul rest in peace, sad story.
Depression is soo real, you just see yourself going into it unknowingly.
Dear, i keep fighting it and you know what? Am not giving up
DeleteThere is light at the end of the tunnel.
DeleteDon't ever think of ending it all.
For what? Hardship? People?
Be a fighter! You can do it.
You will excel.
This too shall pass💕💕💕💕
Wow Goons mi,
DeleteI see some of your comments here 'and I always assumed you are a toughie'
Really, so many people are going through some of life's battles.
Please whenever you find yourself drowning in your worries, always believe you are bigger than them and will surely overcome all. You know why? Because you are wonderfully made and God never fails those who believe in him
Warm hugs to you
2000more hugs borrowed from my TGBaibayyyyyyy's loads.ðŸ‘ðŸ‘💑💑
Thanks Yoruba chic, iphie dearie and bloglord.
DeleteGod dey o.
I hope the ladies feel better now! What people do not realise is, we are all different and my attitude towards words spoken against me would differ from the next person.
ReplyDeleteEven the bible talks about the power of words!
Matthew 12:36-27 “I tell you, on the day of judgment people will give account for every careless word they speak, for by your words you will be justified, and by your words you will be condemned.”
Thank you👌
DeleteMy dear Tet, you are very correct bet suicide should never be an option o! Suicide is a major sin too you know. Dunno why people see it as a normal thingy and its becoming rampant. Toooh!
DeleteWell said hun.
DeleteI believe the girl was set up and being someone who probably cannot defend herself, can not bear humiliation and stigmatization going forward, she decided to end it.
Some people are very fragile. Extremely very fragile. Words break them completely. Though suicide shouldn't be considered but then when they get to that point when a counsellor isn't close by almost after such incidence ...this is the end result.
Poor girl.
A lot of people do not realize it's not until u but a gun to someone's head and shoot or till u stab to death before u can commit murder,the words of our mouth can also kills.
DeleteThe bullies are muderers that's what they don't realize.
So sad.Whoever covers the secret of another God will cover his own secret.Not everybody can take public mob justice.they shd hav quietly takn her to d security office and d matter will be settld there espescially if it is her first time
ReplyDeleteChai...not everyone has the heart to endure allegations,bullies and hurts! Bvs,make Una learn frm this story.May your soul rip Amina but you shouldn't have taken the life u never created.
ReplyDeleteSo sad. Why have we allowed the devil to conquer us? Dear Jesus, please heal the depressed.
ReplyDeletePpl need to develop thick crocodile skin with the heart of a lion... Evn if ure put to the test like Job in your bible, suicide thoughts wldnt come close.
ReplyDeleteHonestly Atheist. One needs that thick skin to survive in this jungle called Nigeria.
DeleteIt's just so sad that she ended it all. Rip angel. It is well.
Atheist now you know Job? Hehehehehe
DeleteThis is so so sad. For all we know, she may be suffering from kleptomania.....an uncontrollable desire to steal. I can just picture the shouts of 'olee' all over the hostel.our youths need to acquire compassion for others
ReplyDeleteSpoilt brat and thief.
ReplyDeleteSo instead of proving to them that u can be a better person u decide to end it.
I have never commented on any blog before now. However, this comment got to me maybe because I imagine being in her mother's shoes.
DeleteSir/Madame anonymous... Not every accusation is true. I have seen over 5 decades, and in that short time, I have seen how wrong accusations could be.
Someone once accused my driver of stealing. Upon investigation we discovered it was my husband's driver that set him up.
Life is not strictly black or white. PLEASE LET US LEARN TO BE SENSITIVE. Her family might read these comments in future.
Suicide is not a good decision to make but we don't know what she has dealt with over the years, the little we read on Social Media is not enough to pass aspersions on others.
May God grant her family the fortitude to bear the great loss.
This is unfair. Were you there?
DeleteSpoilt brat and thief? Really? Where you there? It's people like you that run to bring tire to burn innocent people simply because you heard "ole".
Delete"Whoever purposely throws himself from a mountain and kills himself or whoever commits suicide, will be in the (Hell) Fire falling down into it and abiding therein perpetually forever".
ReplyDeleteNow this is what my Holy Book tells me about suicide. It doesn't matter if na small clothes like this u steal abi na boyfriend issues.
I hope HE has mercy on her soul.
I'm outtie
Seems she was a kleptomaniac and the mum knew.
ReplyDeleteSucide is not an option mbok. Please don't kill yourself.
Stellz, it is for some,and to say you were wrongly accused and disgraced is enough. I'm sure she was set up. May she rest in peace. Pls pple, lets be nice to one another,there is nothing we bring to this world and definately nothing to take back. Bitin laye!
ReplyDeleteWow so sad. We don't kno if she was actually guilty of the theft or not. I wonder how d roommates feel now
ReplyDeleteIrrespective, the way they handled the situation was not good. If they felt she was guilty and it was so important they should have reported her. But some Unilag girls hmmmm, I can imagine what they did to her. She must have been dreading ever setting foot back in that school. Parents please when anything major happens in your kid's life, if you can, take some time out and be there with and for your kid. This is not the time for "it is your son" or "it is your daughter" things.Take him or her for counseling and prayers. Talk to them, chastise them in love, encourage them. Let them know that no matter what you will always be there for them and want the best for them. Check up on them and sometimes be their friend so they can open up to you. Also try to know what kind of friends they keep. Hear their gist, to know what is happening in their lives. Sometimes you may even have to change their school. As a toddler I was being bullied in a particular school, thank God for my sensitive mom who noticed my adverse reaction to going to school at that tender age, when she changed my school I became upbeat, back to normal and loved school. Above all from infancy, bring them up in the ways of God and pray for them.
DeleteI hope those girls are happy now???
ReplyDeleteI wonder how they'd sleep!
Because of ordinary make up worth 2k... I pray God forgives them!
Rip dear
This is so sad. Wish someone would have listened to her. It s so obvious someone set her up because of the way the stolen items were kept in all her bags. RIP dear...suicide is never the answer
ReplyDeleteI'm so sad to hear Oluyomi is dead����. A loving soul with kind words always to even her cursers. I remember all her struggles in life, looking for a job, her mum's health, her own health but she always found peace on this blog. May your gentle and ever loving soul rest in peace dear.
New blog outlook looks nice....well done SDK. I have missed this family
Please Cocoz come back please. Please I am begging you. I will pay you myself. Send Stella mail with your phone number so I can call you. I like seeing your comments.
DeleteOluyomi is dead?!!!!😲ðŸ˜ðŸ˜ðŸ˜ðŸ˜say it's not true please! I thought she was getting better? Jesus!
DeleteStellz, your footnote should have appeared at the top of the post not at the end.
ReplyDeleteThat said, i don't understand how people can just voluntarily harm themselves, ordinary to shook hand inside hot oil and remove plantain I can't do it.
People who commit suicide are sooooo selfish, only thinking of themselves and not about the hurt their friends and family will go through following their demise. Such people don't deserve the word 'RIP'.
But wait.... what if she's actually a kleptomaniac? Maybe she's tired of the embarassment and just decided to end it but still nothing justifies suicide.
Or wait!! What If it was all a set-up by someone who wants her to take the fall.
So many what ifs without an answer. The matter just let my body weak like dodo.
How will you put your hand inside hot oil to remove plantain???
DeleteYou find have cutlery piece in your house?
Why not just pour the hot oil down your throat so you can eat the plantain?
Kikikikikikiki, Chameleon I lack words...
DeleteThe poor girl was set up. Chai,may her soul find peace with they Lord.
ReplyDeleteAyo,you shouldn't have killed yourself trust me its doesn't worth killing oneself for. I've been in your shoes before,I was heaped accusations I knew nothing about. I cried and called on God and he answered me. That my senior that lied on my head never graduated from nursing school. She was shamefully expelled after her 3rd attempt in nursing council. She wasted five years of her life without graduating. I heard she tried other schools of nursing too but was withdrawn like a criminal. Her abroad husband who wanted a nurse by fire by force had no choice than to divorce her failed sorry ass and fetched himself a qualified nurse to marry. The last time I saw her at a motor park she was looking miserable.
She saw me and she was speechless, its took her ten minutes to utter a word. She said princess am sorry pls,forgive me. Before she could finished her statement i told her madam ive forgiven you ten years ago,don't even think am responsible for your predicament its just there are some sins that one must pay dearly for and accusing someone wrongly is one of them.
RIP young lady
ReplyDeleteDepression is real.....when you don't have money to take care of yourself and you also have issues with your health.I sent you different mails but you ignored.it's not fair
ReplyDeleteWell shit happens
ReplyDeleteI rem dli days, 2012/2013, one skinny dark Girl was caught stealing, makama was on fire den, she later took a year Off and came back lay Lowed, later we all found dat She was set Up, dat She keeps fighting Wit girls even in school and At her area @ Home, so dey had To teach her a lesson.
They had to teach her a lesson by setting her up? Tufia
DeleteRIP dear! You shouldn't have done that though.
ReplyDeleteThe way some people cuss out people ehn!!! Lord have mercy. You don't know the kind of battle the person you are cussing out is fighting. We all take things differently; some can't handle it. And then they resort to doing unimaginable things to themselves. How would you feel knowing that you had a hand in whatever the person ended up doing to him/herself.
Love is not what you say, love is what you do!
I understand that nobody cheers on a thief or gives them a hug when they are found out, I think the public disgrace and taunting made her kill herself.
ReplyDeleteBut what if she didn't steal those things? What If someone played a nasty prank? Who steals and leaves them in bags in the same room? Or she was a kleptomaniac?
I know how teenagers and young adults can be cruel for days, especially when they want to shame or bully their peer.
Its just unfortunate.
Nigerians are no longer the happiest people... We are no longer the most resilient. We are fragile too.
Parents,Guidance,bosses,mentors,husbands,wives,colleagues,friends,acquaintances,ME...must put this into consideration in our dealings with one another.
#SayNoToSuicide
#BeSympathetic
#DropAKindWord
#ChangeStartsWithMe
I have been falsely accused of taking money before. I actually went for an event with my aunty. I sat on the next table along with another family known to my aunt. They are family friends.
ReplyDeleteI was about 25 but already working in oil and gas and well paid, I also sat close to anther girl of like my age.
That is how party ended and we left. Next thing my aunty received a call that there was 150k in the girl beside me bag. money for the caterer.
That my aunt should press me well. I took it from the girls bag.
My aunt said if there is one thing about me she knows I am not a thief or a liar. She even trust me more than her only son and she and her husband keep money alot with me with 1kobo never missing.
That is how the daft mother and child came to the house. Asking me stupid questions. We first of all kept quiet they now started with their stories. Only me sat next to the girl.
This foolish girl put 150k in a bag that doesn't have zip just a clip.
You shld have seen the way my family walked them out. I started raining curses on them. Everyone came to my defence and said i can be accused of anything but never stealing or lieing. While growing up I would rather enter trouble than lie.
Lord knows how money was taken from that girls bag but cos I had a squicky clean character;no be say I be saint. But stealing never.
Because of this incident both families don't talk again. Even when I see the women she hides her face in shame. She couldn't believe a young girl could finish her with curses.
Only God knows this girls case. But I had alot of people ready to defend me.
The Yariba's are too emotional.
ReplyDeleteOponu, alaye baje.
DeleteMust people behave like this.
ReplyDeleteI can remember while in school I came back from home and just put my bag under my bed because I was rushing for class. Didn't put it in locker and lock it.
I came back and some of my clothes were gone. I had a feeling who took them. There was a girl in my room that wasn't even a student she was squatting trying to gain admission. So was always left alone when everyone went to class and I also left her in the room.
That girl was always begging. She can even beg to wear your pant.
I just came back anounced my clothes were missing and cursed the person.
In my mind I saw her face and knew she was the culprit. This is not the first time she has been indirectly accused. I knew she wld have hidden it well and not wear it in school.
I just let it go and I blamed myself for not locking my stuff up. But from that day I stopped associating with the girl and she never came to my corner again.
I honestly don't have the energy to accuse I just let it go. And I started locking even my pin you can't see to steal .
I'm not encouraging stealing but I don't have the mind for jungle justice they will inflict on that girl. Over 2tops and 1skirt that she stole.
I saw this post on fb yesterday, but something keeps telling me that what led this young lady to this act might not really be the bully she received from that devil incarnate of a roommate. But rather the hurtful words the mother used on her back home.
ReplyDeleteConsoling words, good friends and loved ones being around could have averted this tragedy. May her soul rest in peace. And may those girls remain restless for life
Stella, girls in this school are wicked. That was how one brought her friends to beat her room mate in my own hostel, as in beating with stick and brooms. I'm in unilag and I can tell you that those girls won't rest until they tell the while school that she stole and she would have become a theft celebrity overnight. They were even shouting oleeeee when her mum came to pick her in the hostel. Girls in this school are wicked, heartless and it's as if they've sold their soul to devil, not all though. I'm a student here and I know what I'm saying. She was set actually set up. Rest in peace A.y
ReplyDeleteShut up there !!! I just graduated from unilag spent 5 years there ... I'm not justifying what they did ... U guys are shying away from the issue "she stole " it's a normal reaction from Nigerians not that it's a good thing... But whateva y steal when u don't have the mind to handle what comes after u get caught... Cuz my believe is if everyone is against u and u didn't do it u can't "I repeat" end your life no matter the embarrassment for what u didn't do...so u guys should sit down and think..
DeleteAunty don't judge em cuz when I was in the hostel a girl stole my iPhone charger in the reading room I saw her but pretended like I was asleep and when she was about leaving I was like hello please my charger I didn't make a scene she gave it to me and that was it... The only thing I saw wrong was how they handled it... the mum already paid for the stuff
Miss Tiana God heal you but stop that your self entitlement feeling. Go talk to God. I dont think she whole you anything.
ReplyDeleteMay God have mercy on her soul......RIP
ReplyDeleteI can imagine d guilt those roomies would be feeling now. Hope they are happy?
ReplyDeleteBcx this might just be a set up
Even if it isn't,its always good for us not to over do things. We shouldn't always take things to d extremely when pple offend us
Infact I don't know what to say but I will blame the mother small for negligence, the mother should have spoken some really encouraging words to her and make sure she did everything to keep her happy but trust Nigeria mother's to abuse and hit their daughter even more, telling the daughter how she has brought disgrace, shame and disappointment to her.
ReplyDeleteSo sad. You nor even pity ur mama, hehn? And this theft thing could have been a set up.
ReplyDeleteGod please forgive and rest her soul.
It is not easy, she must have been bullied a lot in school and in her hostel , this type of girls have few friends and are always timid. They just don't like her and decided to set her up and with the kinda hate they have on her and they screaming of ole...and those wicked ones might have even slapped her sef. And I know definitely that her mumsy also talk her own join. And it will hurt her that nobody likes her and now she is called a thief and even her mum doesn't want to believe her. Depression is real. Lot of pple have been killing themselves long time ago for issues like this, the Internet is now making it so glaring and pronounced now.
ReplyDeleteIf in this faceless blog, you exchange words and curses to those who talk to you anyhow, then imagine having to face pple hate yoou
ReplyDeleteShe took her life because of wrong allegation...hmmm. She shouldn't have taken her life. Just nawa! People just dey commit suicide anyhow for naija. Lord have mercy.
ReplyDeleteRest in peace young lady..
ReplyDeleteRest in peace @ Oluyomi..
This thing can pain especially when you are innocent. I am a victim and in my nakedness which God created me, I cursed my room mates with Psalm 109. Some are dead now and some are totally useless but I eventually forgave them. It can hurt.
ReplyDeleteIf she was truly set up then I pity the person behind it, because curses upon curses is upon the person besides the innocent blood shedded..
ReplyDeleteWell she either stole it (kleptomaniac) or she was framed. We dont know her own side of the story cos she is dead. But if she was framed, ahh I pity whoever did that cos the curse on her head will never be removed.
ReplyDeleteNa so my iphone 5s miss. I no even fit shout much cos people came to work in my place or maybe I misplaced with my left hand (lol). I just jejely respect myself. I dont like calling anyone thief so long as I no catch you red-handed.
False accusation can lead to so many things! A man was beaten mercilessly in my area recently for stealing, stripped naked and brought to the police post close to my house...after sm weeks it was reported that he wasn't the one who stole whatever they said he stole, it takes only a strong person to live with such humiliation, I still see him walking around! Although he has bin vindicated but I still feel pity for him, what if he was killed? Cos they also threatened to burn him dat day, everyday things like this happen... i am a victim of this and I know how it hurts....but suicide is not the way out, cos u'll just end up in hell...if u can't face man is it God's judgement that u'll be able to face? rip young one. ...let's watch how we use our words....it can be hurtful esp when we accuse pple wrongly.
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