You are going to love this topic....So,please take Several seats as there is enough for everyone!
Say.. "baby, take this and buy yourself something or this is your pocket money for this month." This pocket money is not the same thing as soup money or money to buy things at home. I mean money strictly for her and her alone. Understand?
Now, i am not saying all our wives are in need. I am not relegating women to the background, what Yoruba people call Alabodo (feed them for sex). I know that in this age and time, most women work and some of them earn well enough to take care of their basic needs ... and their children, if not even earn better than their husbands and in good position to shoulder the loads of the family. But God forbid that men will wait on their wives!.
But my take here is: is anything wrong in saying "baby, take this as your pocket money for this month" ? I guess there is nothing wrong in that even if she earns better than you the husband. I guess its an act that God will be glad we men still play, not minding how much you give or if your wife needs it or not.
Now ask the woman next to you: if your husband gives you pocket money regularly, monthly, often or seldomly not minding if its N5k or N10k, or N100k, will you take it or not? Will you appreciate it or not?
You know women naaaaw, na bring bring bring, be their philosophy. They will take it. I guess if we men cultivate that act, it will go a long way to make our wives believe their husbands love them. And watch what such women will do in response.
Let me tell you a story. One day, a client paid me a big sum and i just felt like tripping baby. I put her in the Toyota Camry car i was using then and off i drove to Shoprite on VI. I did not even tell her we were going to Shoprite. When we got there, she exploded
"Do you have money? What are we doing here?
I said "just follow me and pick anything you want."
Right inside Shoprite, I picked cart and wheeled it behind her. "Pick anything you want baby."
See women o! Na so she dey pick, pick, pick. The cart was full. Then she picked her own cart too, and in minutes, her cart was full too. I picked the bill, almost N86,000. As we were going out of the mall, something struck her ...
Now, i am not saying all our wives are in need. I am not relegating women to the background, what Yoruba people call Alabodo (feed them for sex). I know that in this age and time, most women work and some of them earn well enough to take care of their basic needs ... and their children, if not even earn better than their husbands and in good position to shoulder the loads of the family. But God forbid that men will wait on their wives!.
But my take here is: is anything wrong in saying "baby, take this as your pocket money for this month" ? I guess there is nothing wrong in that even if she earns better than you the husband. I guess its an act that God will be glad we men still play, not minding how much you give or if your wife needs it or not.
Now ask the woman next to you: if your husband gives you pocket money regularly, monthly, often or seldomly not minding if its N5k or N10k, or N100k, will you take it or not? Will you appreciate it or not?
You know women naaaaw, na bring bring bring, be their philosophy. They will take it. I guess if we men cultivate that act, it will go a long way to make our wives believe their husbands love them. And watch what such women will do in response.
Let me tell you a story. One day, a client paid me a big sum and i just felt like tripping baby. I put her in the Toyota Camry car i was using then and off i drove to Shoprite on VI. I did not even tell her we were going to Shoprite. When we got there, she exploded
"Do you have money? What are we doing here?
I said "just follow me and pick anything you want."
Right inside Shoprite, I picked cart and wheeled it behind her. "Pick anything you want baby."
See women o! Na so she dey pick, pick, pick. The cart was full. Then she picked her own cart too, and in minutes, her cart was full too. I picked the bill, almost N86,000. As we were going out of the mall, something struck her ...
"Felloow (she calls me Felloow B, after the order of Supremost Comradium of the World headquarter. Daysis Oblanjahorr)
"You did not buy yourself anything! she wondered
"Ah, i have no cash left. Let us go home ..."
"No, i have some money. Lets go back and pick what you want.
So we went back. My wife picked a bill of N42k for me alone.
Now, you know i never knew my wife had money on her? But she brought it out and spent on me because i had impressed her. My man, Impress your wife, she will spin surprises on you.
Now look at this again: when i scrutinised all we bought with my N86k, hardly was there anything strictly for her. Almost everything we bought were things we used at home and for the children. But when it was her turn to buy for me, i bought things for MYSELF! Shaving cream, boxers, stockings, slippers, DVDs, singlets, my kind of wine, (understand?) etc. Things me alone use!
It taught me a great lesson: most women are good. Most women are not greedy. All they want is show them you love them, you will catch them for life!
Men, give your wives pocket money today. Cultivate the habit. Don’t say sebi she is working.
And women, don’t say how much are you giving me gan sef? Appreciate it and say thank you.
#copied#
Men come and read.
ReplyDeleteWhoever wrote this is indeed a man!
DeleteI have copied and sent to my husband! All he knows how to do is drop feeding money which is never enough
DeleteOnly a good man can/will do the above.
DeleteGod bless u poster
DeleteHmmmm. It's well. What can I say?
ReplyDeleteI will keep on keeping on.
Hmmm it is well, my hubby doesn't, and it does not make him a less man,or that he's isn't in love with me,its just that we have limited resources. Pls woman if ur man can't afford this don't nag him for it o, me I believe someday we go get there
DeleteLiar, he doesn't have the resources doesn't mean he can't afford 1k every month. Don't worry when he finally have it, he won't give you. I use to think the same for my husband until one day, An issue came up and i found out he doesn't have the mind set of giving a woman he calls his wife money. I am speaking from experience. Abeg, borrow brain
DeleteNice piece!...
ReplyDeleteI think I have seen it before!...
Some men are very wicked,stingy to their wives at home..
They would rather spend on their girlfriends,hotel bills and even friends than to spend on their family!...
If you are a woman married to such men,biko go and do serious spiritual work on his head!...
You will see some men shinning while their wives looks like a maid!...
Kai,this is pure wickedness!...
But Chief I hope you know that some women have small wahala too. They will be forming Miss/Mrs Independent and their men will just 'hands off'.
DeleteTrue Nnechi spicy!...
DeleteGbam! @nnechi spicy
DeleteNnechi so true. Once u form like that most men will hands off. Me I am a housewife. Have a driver, washerman, 2 helps, a cook and Gardner. And yes I receive pocket money apart from housekeep money. I have a masters and still doing more courses but I beg I no be any independent. I actually love my life now. Used to work b4 till I noticed hubby was not doing much with all the money he got. He was spending it on babes. Used belle to form resignation and have been receiving even more than I ever earned.
DeleteVery good piece. I hope they hear
ReplyDeleteMe and hubby had a huge fight over this issue. He doesn't know how to give unless you ask. Me on the other hand,hate asking for money from him. Most times he leaves small change on the table when he's leaving for work. I recently stopped working,so getting my stuff became challenge and to ask him for something as small as a powder or cream,was very difficult for me. Until last week,I flared him. So you mean to tell me you don't know I need personal stuff?" He replied,I'm I a magician that will know what you need per time? It was a serious argument that didn't end well sef. The next day,he was leaving for work,he left 5k with a note that says,"for your personal stuff". And another 1k with a note that says,"in case the kids need icecream". I called him and jokingly told him,"for your mind now,you dey give me pocket money o. The guy just tire for me.
DeleteHusbands,most wives find it hard to ask,make Una use Una church mind dey give small small.
Anon 13:55,
DeleteYou better start asking oh!,..
Dey there dey dull...
I don't find it difficult to ask my husband for money, I ask for as small as sanitary pad.... I no fit dey form miss independent and maybe one woman go dey somewhere dey task him. I will task u so tey u no go penny to give anybody.
DeleteAnony,you head dey dia
DeleteMy hubby is a businessman, when never business boom, he gives me huge share as I am out of Jon to take care of his son. He hates when you ask him for basic money to take care of yourself.
DeleteHe feels embarrassed when you ask him for 1k, he will just give you 20k, saying have you finish spending your pocket money knowing fully well have saved it but needed more money.
He's the best man and a spender too. God continue to bless and provide for him.
Amen
DeleteAmen
DeleteI concur!
ReplyDeleteFuture husby make sure you read this
DeleteAwwwwwwww
ReplyDeleteWord! 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
ReplyDeleteI love you 💏💑💓💓💓💓
Cute shawtyyy, one of my favourite people here 😍😍😍. How are you doing my luv, hang in there, not long now 💕💕.
DeleteI just realize that story is the truth....
ReplyDeleteOnly clothes, shoes,creams
That all, the rest is for our children,some times we don't mind not buying anything for ourselves
Women rock😊😊😊😊😊
Stella, of all days why did you post this today? this resonates so much with me today because though i am working, my family(siblings and mum) take a larger chunck of the procees, i barely have anything for me. Hubby has never and does not give me anything instead he spends on women outside. asides from house money whey no dey reach sef, nothing o. i had to cut my hair not cos i love low cut but cos i cant even maintain my hair. it make me so sad, if i werent married shebi my boyfriend would say he wont give me anything? i can tell you that Nigerian men do take their wives for granted. many women are sad in their marriages. i dont think if i knew what i knew today i would have married the same man. oh well
ReplyDeleteBut why are you spending all your money on your siblings. Don't you think that fact alone might be pissing ur husband off?
DeleteIs it me that wrote this. About to cut my hair too and he's telling me once u cut ur hair, ur gone. Am I dead that u will now cut ut hair. Yeye man whose hands are as tight as aradite
DeleteAre you married to your siblings ?
DeleteRemember to build your home too
Chaii see me dat is task master for hubby,though he has limited resources but d little he has na me n my children dey finish am lol.he evn begs me to b making my hair often his only prob is his waka waka n smoking mtewwwww.
DeleteSee as una line up.... eyaahh
DeleteLol @chikito
DeleteGood read.. but miyake, peacemaker will definitely not like this. *strolling out*🙃🙃🙃
ReplyDeleteIt's debates like this in Africa that stagnates the black woman and makes her unconsciously subordinate to her man. I have a daughter, while I want the best for her, I wouldn't want her growing up with this kind of entitlement mentality.
DeleteIf we all genuinely seek gender equality , then we have to do away with this scourge reasoning.
Husbands and wives are obliged to assist/complement each other whenever there is a deficit.
The world/country we are living in today doesn't discriminate women from making their own money so what's holding you back?
Most of you here are young hence you see this blog as a means of manipulating the minds of your future husbands. lol. Don't worry, in only a few years time, reality will dawn on you that life is per head.(That's deep)!
You want to be on par with men, then don't strive to be a parasite!
As a family man and as an original African, I am the head and I am responsible for my home, my wife and I are not in competition with one another.
........am tayad mehn - 2 b continued
You don't know what your talking about Miyake
DeleteVery Interesting!
ReplyDeleteI just love this..
Brother please preach to them.. They need to learn!
All these stingy men wey full Naija 😂
I have read this here before
ReplyDeleteApart from pocket money,i know of a woman whose husband never remembers her birthday
How possible is it for a husband who loves his wife to always forgets her birthday?
Men is the head of the family but they dont like giving their wives but can dash to side chickens.
ReplyDeleteWomen learn to press their mumu buttons and show them who you are made of.
Owute gives pocket money
Princess I love that part you said "press their mumu button"
DeleteBelieve me that's where some married women miss it.
Some of us tend to get too too comfortable once we answer Mrs. Like assuming oh if he loves me he should and must always remember my birthday or our anniversary, forgetting that men differ and responsibilities/expenses akin-kom. If he forgets or forms to forget, remind him.
Some ladies need to halt on wasting their energy to shame and cuss the side chic and sincerely ask and learn from them what they're doing so you can amplify those tips and woo your man. You might not get some men off the jezebel but you can atleast get what you want and be happy in your own little way rather than silk and dry up like bonga fish.
Learn to stroke his ego and get what you want.
As he dey waka pass, gently grab his junior and tell him junior kinda looks hungry and wants a BJ.
A wife knows (should know) her husband better than the side native 🐔
Learn the act and stop wasting emotions.
This is just meeeeee.But am not married yet......God of heaven send me my own husband, one of your trusted Sons. Amen
ReplyDeleteMy husband gives me sometimes and I even spend it for us.
ReplyDeleteThere are good husbands and there are husbands. There are good wives and there are bad wives. The good are in the minority while the bad are plentifully abundant. Its a matter of choice.
ReplyDeleteChop knuckles. Very precise and concise.
DeleteChop knuckles. Very precise and concise.
DeleteNa hear you go hear woman voice. Bring up gender equality now you'll still hear their voice. Choose one
ReplyDeleteNigerian men are wicked to a fault.
ReplyDeleteVery true talk,
ReplyDeleteVery interesting piece,
Very well said.
Treat your wives good and they will make your life heavenly.
I keep saying it that men who show love to their wives,
Appreciate their efforts,
Compliment their dressing,
Respect their emotions,
are generous with finances (regardless of whether she is working or not)
Give quality time to family and downplay the egocentric nature...
Will have nothing but bliss and happiness in his marital life as that wife will always 'KING' him.
Respect she will give him on a 100
The home she will make warm and welcoming.
Love she will have in abundance for him.
Sex will be on a 100 any time T dude is wanting even if he is not wanting sef lol.
Marriage is a walk in the park if both parties make it an enjoyable and easy path
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Delete....this is why I love you bloggie, matured mind x
DeleteI love you more Tet baby.
DeleteBTW,eyebrow on fleek now yea?
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Loud it baby!!!
DeleteWell said!
That and God in your Home and everything is as smooth as silk😍
#TeamPamperedWife❤️
Correct!!!...
DeleteSo so true
DeleteThis is wrong; why should the man be giving the wife money as if she is a liability? Are they not "equal shareholders? in the marriage enterprise? Shouldn't they have a "common purse" and spend from it together; are not the two one again? Even as "complex" as the twelve that followed Jesus were, they still had a common purse and "a thief" was the custodian; wasn't he?This story above may sound nice but the truth is that if this man had died, the wife did not have any access to any kobo he owned; did she?
ReplyDeleteA couple we know lived financially apart. The man is reasonably well to do but the wife dared not ask or "take his money". He gave her "handout" of money from time to time; monthly allowances etc. All his businesses were solely in his name. He took ill and his doctor gave him a damning health verdict and he had a surgery fixed. He knew that he may not come out of the theater alive. He quickly summoned his wife and took her to all his accounts and made it Joint and she could sign. Made his kids 'next of kin" in all the accounts and re-registered all his businesses with the wife's name inclusive. Even the financial aspect of the surgery and bills, the wife was in charge. He told her, "If I do not come out of the theater alive, sell all the exotic cars and keep just two" etc. IT WAS NO LONGER AN ISSUE OF THE WIFE TAKING "HIS MONEY"; THE WOMAN WAS IN CHARGE. He confessed certain misdeeds to the lady and they prayed together and he got into the theater. AFTER 9 HOURS OF SURGERY, the news came . . . he survived it! It was this singular experience that changed his attitude towards family finances as concerns his wife. She knew about every penny that dropped or left the "family business" as it became.
Then he said to them, "Watch out! Be on your guard against all kinds of greed; life does not consist in an abundance of possessions." (Luke twelve vs. fifteen)
This made me cry 😥😥😥😥
ReplyDeleteOh lord bless me with a husband that will impress me and show me he loves me with whatever he has .
ReplyDeleteAmen and me too🙏
Delete@ Queen of the coast of this blog:
ReplyDeleteAren't you confused? are you not the same one that persuade girls to get "side bobo" to be pounding their vagina when the man is "poor" in your own weird view? And you boast about your "sugar sons"? So whey are you complaining about men spending on their girlfriends? In as much as it is wrong; as in adultery in every ramification is punishable by God, you are confused, biased, jaundiced, egocentric, warped and myopic in your views about! issues of life. You only pander to your pay mistresses in the sea; who have stuffed you to lead men and humanity astray!
Delete,,,😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅
I suffered in marriage God knows.
ReplyDeleteAn interesting piece.I must confess
ReplyDeleteIs this even something to discuss, even my oldman still drops steady for my oldwoman, we even use her to con him sometimes.
ReplyDeleteAbeg o. Let me call my husband to come and see. 'I don't have money' has become a song to my ears. Sometimes it is really frustrating to stay with someone that complains anytime you ask him for money to buy necessary things for the kids yet embarks on big big projects and expects your full support with all your salary. Some men are stingy and my husband is one of them. I have learnt to live with him without asking for money cos that singular request dey cause wahala for my home.
ReplyDeleteThere are ways to squeeze out money from stingy men!...
DeleteAdd money on the kids school fees and forge a receipt for him...
Correct!!...
DeleteQueen Iji ya that's what my girl friend do to her stingy rich husband.
DeleteNice topiv , I pray they hear
ReplyDeleteNice one
ReplyDeletewhere are all those stingy boos? COME AND READ O
ReplyDeleteSOmeone posted this sometimes ago.
ReplyDeleteNice one, but some men are stingy personified.
*coughs*
ReplyDeleteMy husband works outside lagos..but he spends the same amount both off work and home.he works 4weeks off work and 4 weeks at home.he gives me 120k monthly for home expenses. Now I dont know if I should still ask for pocket money and toiletries.
ReplyDeleteJesus!!! Madam do not be greedy. Take 20k from there for your pocket money. Make your budget around 80k and save 80k. Some families do not have 120k as total income. Please be grateful.
DeleteMine gives me 80k f cooking a month, and pocket allowance of 100k a month, I don't work, when we were dating, he doesn't give me at all, I blindly entered, fast n told God to bless him and make him generous towards me, I can't ask for more.
DeleteSave 20k
DeleteJeez 120waat? Where were all these men wen i was gettn married lol.God abeg bless my hubby na abeg.17k n askd me to mnge for 2 weeks house n for food while over dere where hes alone he spends more than that a week issorite.
DeleteYes,still ask for pocket money cos when you don't ask,he will feel you are okay!...
DeleteYou can aswell remove some money from the 120k for your self...
Make una no dey pity these men!...
My dear that 120k might not be enough oh, it might not be for only food, in my house it's 200k oga drops yet some months we use more than that, dstv, security money, lawma money etc food, miscellaneous, any repairs that comes up is from that money, so I can understand where she's coming from, kids diapers food, snacks cos we buy things in bulk, at the end of the day, I can't pinch out of the money
Delete250k is what he drops for the past 3 years but it is not enough anymore. Aswear things are outrageously expensive!! I have been hinting him kindly about increasing it cos of the high cost of stuff, I mean, the man loves us to maintain a certain standard. Freezer always stocked, kids looking fresh, eating chicken and fresh fish and veggies and all that. It shoes though but the money finishes by the 3rd week of the month. I've even been spending out of my salary too for the past 6 months as much as I try to cut it down. I pray he responds positively soon....
DeleteMy husband earns about 1 million monthly, gives me 20k for all my needs and sometimes for running the house when he travels. I feel cheated . I am not the type that asks. Don't know how to tell him without causing problem cos he loves his money like mad.
Delete100 likes to the writer. 👏👏👏
ReplyDeleteYes women deserve pocket money from their husbands no matter how little it is, I shake my head sometimes because most men don't know the tricks they can use for their wives.
ReplyDeleteGive your woman something every month and see her perform wonder in the house either she has a job or not and no matter how small it is she will surely appreciate.
OK.. We have heard... Noted... Thank you.
ReplyDeletePraise God very good piece God bless whoever wrote this happiness will not depart from your home. Amen
ReplyDeleteLOL
DeleteMy husband does not give pocket money
ReplyDeleteInfact, my husband doesn't know how to give money unless you ask for it. This has been so through out dating
If you ask, he will give you sharp sharp. If you don't ask, then nothing for you. So I always go "anything from the girls this week"?? AndAnd he Will ask what I need and I'll tell him how much. If you need 100k please ask for 100k. If you Ask for 80k thinking he will magically give you extra, oyo for you. Ask what you want and you shall be giving is my husband's policy..
This days I ask less. Thank God for my business and how much I have grown in it but I still ask. It's my birth right ��
Good girl. Thank God you have uderstoood your husband.
DeleteAnon 13:55 if you dont ask, he wont give. Afterall God has already said it in Matthew. Ask it shall be given.
ReplyDeleteI dont waste time to ask even when i get money. He is the head, so he has to carry his kaya which is me
Exactly!,..
DeleteBoo come and read o! Chop money is different from pocket money.
ReplyDeletePls how can I copy and send to my husband.
ReplyDeleteEven the little I earn I still spend it on for the house and yet he doesn't see it. I don't have any allowance for myself for anything.
On top of it he says what do i use my money for sef.
I gave him a list of all that I spent on the house luckily I have receipts for fuel amounting to over 10k which he didn't believe was possible. Kai. It is well.
Birthday doesn't give, anniversary nothing.
I take care of myself. My dressing has been shabby of late.
Mumu!...
DeleteBe there claiming a loyal and good wife!...
Do you know how much he gives his side chick?...
How can I stay with a man that doesn't give me money then the whatever we r doing will be dead on arrival case ooo,
DeleteMe dt love money esp from my boo, I make good money but he still gives me up-to my cream & hair do money. Huh Odiegwu. I don't joke with collecting money my man calls me police.
Let me come and go and marry
ReplyDeleteSo i can be collecting pocket money
My husband gives me 5k once in a year. And i am nt joking. He still lives wit his parents and we feed from them. U can crucify us is allowed.
ReplyDeleteHahahahahhahaha...
DeleteGo and get a rich side bobo nah...
God forbid bad thing, 5 gini Ewo nwanyi ibem u re married to ur self.
DeleteI wish men can understand the deference nice one Stella
ReplyDeleteThere are good men, like my fiance, he gives me all I ask for, he says we are engage you are my responsibility now, I ask for 20k for aso ebi, he calculate shoe and handbag join, give me 50k and I use style dey talk business, he do as if he no understand, a week later he make calculation with additional 100k making 400k for my biz. Na so my thank you no finish, me wey no get shingbai wan start biz and he told me first, then he later. So there are good men.
ReplyDeleteI definitely agree with you. There are GOOD men, my husband being one of them. Ever since we married, even though I have a very good job, I've never had to ask my husband for pocket money. Na so I just dey get huge weekly alert from my husband. He really does spoil me silly.
DeleteMy husband does not give me monthly allowance. If we need anything for the house...infact he will go shopping with me so that he will pay for the stuff becos he does not want to give me cash. If i ask sef na story. I need a Job so i don't lose my mind
ReplyDeleteLeave the cooking & all the house job for him since he want to go to market let him come & cook the food ooo. Wicked stingy man
DeleteReading all these comments, it's clear women (no matter their age or education) will forever be juvenile!
ReplyDeleteNo right-thinking man will hold women to adult standards. They are babies.
All these ladies that want pocket monies (like teenagers), if you have daughters, what reason will you give your daughters to go to school?
Will it be;
Go to school and study hard so you can't get good grades and a good job so you can't take care of yourself and be an independent adult thus attracting respect from fellow adults and society at large?
Or
Go to school so you can marry a man that will feed you, clothe you, house you, give you pocket money etc for the rest of your life as the independent woman pikin you Is. Since men prefer graduates, my daughter make sure you graduate, even if it's 3:2 or 5:2 or Dino in a course called Egusi Economics, Just graduate my pikin!
Women are so immature it's disgusting. Sure there are adult females out there but it's less than 5%.
Hahahahahahahahahaha...
DeleteI find this comment very funny!...
Correction. 4th paragraph - both Can'ts are - *Cans*
DeleteQueen, laugh well o. This anon is still living in the bush
DeleteYou're a b!tch....FOH bum!!
DeleteI'm wondering why 90% of the ladies commenting are all married and jobless....(broke ass women)....u don't hear of a well to do woman whining abt pocket money (wen ure not a high sch std) woman be a boss, marry a boss and consolidate to form a conglomerate. Y'all saying "I don't work upandan"
ReplyDeleteStory story
DeleteMy husband is so stingy too,this is someone that I practically spent all my last dime on to succeed,come and see promises upon promises,money Don come now na so so carry face he dey do,me wey fast and pray so God go open door,this man will give me 1k and on his mind he Don do,he go even dey tell me say zebi he dey drop food money,can you imagine?i no know which hair dem dey make for 5k this era,and d 5k which is the most he has ever given sef he go talk like say tomorrow no dey,oga never take me for shopping before,each time I gogto the Mart I see married men pushing trolleys,this guy no dey buy groceries,he won't even drop money for groceries,ordinary once a week treat sed make person no die for kitchen,mba o,
ReplyDelete.I haven't seen such a stingy person like that before.it has really affected my sex life sef.this is someone that has millions in his account.I guess he just Like feeling like a millionaire each time he sees his account balance.He used my money to start business claiming its our business,but now he Don turn "my business".every time I complain he'll say I Don dey chook eye for his money,God dey sha,he Don turn his money now.person wey promise me heaven and earth bfr money come,ill but you ccar,you will never suffer.I will never forget you in my life,I swear with my mother's grave,but story Don change now.abeg single ladies Don't marry poor man o,na so so mouth most of them get,follow the one wey go dey do even if he have little.a stingy man will always complain ,a person that is stingy with little will always be stingy with much.
Ayam not understanding. I thought we already agreed on equality? Which one come be giving pocket money to wives again? Equality means wives giving pocket money to husbands too na. No be so? But ayam not reading that here. People like to deceive themselves Sha. When it comes to hard work like lifting big big things,manual labor, pocket money matter and giving generally, una go suddenly forget equality. Confused bunch. I never see. The only thing that will seem to pls women is if the man come DIE put. My thesis is:If u want equality pls make it all way round. Ayam out of here jare.
ReplyDeleteHahahahahahahahahaha...
DeleteIf u r not a broke man, u'll know that providing for your family is your responsibility. Pocket money, light bill, security? Provide for your family
DeleteI have been married for over 6 years and I can count and all through the marriage and court ship, my husband has only bought me one cloth which was because his sister even forced him to buy for me. Even when he was travelling out of the country, I gave him money to buy me clothes yet he shared the money and bought clothes for me and all his side chics. I seized the one I could.
ReplyDeleteEven our wedding ring, I bought it. It's quite annoying that every pay day, my husband expects me to give him money yet this is someone who earns three times more than I do.
The last time I asked him for money to make my hair, the answer was are you not working. I have learnt not to even ask him any longer because of his epic responses.
Even money to take care of the home, I just have to squeeze from my small pay to keep the home running. Yet he goes about running mouth that he takes care of me just because he pays house rent and sch fees which is not even half of his yearly take home.
He doesn't give me money for myself nor the house so I have gotten used to my predicament. All he knows is Sex. He prefers to give his gifriends, I leave him to God and I pray he finds his soft landing cos one day, he would not find it where I am.
To the originator of this...there's no "I" in marriage, it is "WE/OUR" money, so the issue of giving "pocket money" to wives don't arise. Take care of your family, sacrifice for their welfare & buy her things (it's the thought that matters).
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