Dear Stella, I have a question for BVs...
For the ladies:
Your boyfriend moved out of the old flat you
used to share and only told you he was getting a new place.
You tried to get involved as per normal but he refused to share
any concrete details with you.
The communication between the both of you had been limited for a period of time and he seemed distant. Several weeks later with no signs of improvement, you decide to pay him a visit but he constantly postpones your visit without tangible reasons. You
get frustrated and call things off with him.
After several weeks he tries to patch things up with you, until you find out that the new house had been paid for by another woman top to bottom.
You guys have been dating for more than 6 years and you don't see yourself marrying any other person but him. What do you do?
Stay?
Leave?
Ask him to refund the lady?
Find a new place?
Guys;
What are the possible explanations that can excuse this mister from this behaviour?
PS: Boyfriend has cheated a number of times.
Move on like a car on speed, period
ReplyDelete🙌🙌🙌🙌 @miss Ess
DeleteMove on like a car on speed, period
ReplyDeleteIs your destiny tied to his? Besides its only a broke and that ll live in an apartment paid for by a woman. Pls drop the dude like its hawt🔥
DeleteSee Mumu question!...
ReplyDeleteThe guy is just a fuckboy and a gold digger!...
Which sane man stays in a house paid by a woman?,..
Well except a riff raff and a gold digger!...
Hian..
This is an abomination where I come from!...
Poster,is your existence tied to this useless man?...
If you marry someone like this,your name is sorry!...
You will suffer and suffer in the marriage untill you give yourself brain and RUN!...
You better start thanking God for delivering you from a useless fuck boy!...
Move on!!...
Linda queen of devils, I pity all the people that think what u portray here is just a blog personality and that you are sweet in reality. I pity them cos they are not smart. There is no way u can be consistent with bull shit if you are not a bad person. You do all the things you say and more. I dare one of you to try and make Linda your friend outside this blog, then come back and tell us she is indeed nice.you are a witch an destroyer. If you believe otherwise, oyo is ur case.
DeleteGod bless you Queen and Boss aka CHIEF.
DeleteDon't mind that mumu poster,make she continue dey follow a man wey no fit pay his bill.
Poster your mumu is like peak milk. It's in you.
You have no atom of self esteem.
Poster, you and that your lazy man are definitely not Igbo.
Nwa afo Biafra can never be that lazy. I trust my tribe.
Alu... Abomination
No need saying more you nailed it.
DeleteOoooooshe! This comment bn giving me life😍😍😍😍
DeleteAnon I am not sure Linda has said anything bad but the truth. The poster is truly on a long thing.
DeleteThe man is not responsible atall..
She Should better take a walk out of that relationship.
Thank you chief, that's why I like you u say it as it is no sugar coating
DeleteI think queen is the opposite of what she portrays her anonymous.
DeleteHate to admit it but you're right
DeleteYou dis chike Teflon, where do you belong from LIB to SDK like Ashawo kobo kobo.
DeleteWell said!!
DeleteI like the way this queen ignores those that come to masturbate under her comments all the time. Hahahahahaha na waoh ooo!
DeleteHe has cheated a number of times and still collect money from another woman to pay for another apartment and you're asking us if you should stay? Is your destiny tied to his? Have you been told that you won't find another man to marry you? Please forget his sorry ads, for him to collect apartment rent from a woman shows he's not man enough
ReplyDelete*Larry was here*
Starry Larry
DeleteThe poster is definitely using the guy's destiny that's she can't let go.
*why*
DeleteLoud it📣📣📣
DeleteThrow a big party with your girls and thank God that you did not end up with a baggage for a husband. Invite the new girlfriend to the party as well so her eyes will be opened too.
ReplyDeleteGbam
DeleteI will leave, why must you stay? Is he the only prick on this surface of earth? You better borrow yourself sense and move ahead, no need to waste more time. If after six years that is how he will treat you, then you need to move ahead.
ReplyDeleteAlternative two is to knock pigeon on his head.
Leave his ass dear.... Free yourself from future heartaches dear... It won't be easy to let go or move on but in the end it will be worth it and you will be glad.... Dude is for sale and obviously met the highest bidder
ReplyDeleteThis days time means nothing to people in a relationship dunno why
Isaacson my man, save your advice.
DeleteBelieve me, she is going nowhere from what she wrote up there. Any reasonable lady can never write that nonsense.
Thank you mumu gal
DeleteAny reasonable man will never showcase his foolishness out@Chike. Like you do
DeleteThank you 😂
DeleteSister, u are not in a relationship. It is called situationship. Pls walk away find another man.
ReplyDeleteHow can you date a cheating guy for 6years?
ReplyDeleteWhy will you live with a guy who you're not married to.
Everything was wrong with the relationship.
Start seeing yourself marrying someone else no matter your age.
I know it will be hard for you but you have to LEAVE.
Simple!💅
DeleteMake up with him and join him to chop the woman's money while getting another side guy to mend my heart. When I don chop enough, I will port to the new guy.
ReplyDeleteBia this poster, give yourself brain. Pay for which new house? Can't he work? Doesn't he have hands to work or do anything than depend on a woman? God just saved you from a lifetime of sadness and poverty and heartbreak and you wanna go back. Oya go now, nonsense. That guy isn't worth anything so find anyway to 'unlove' him and move on. He's bad news.
Leave and ask God to give you your own true husband. Cuz if you stay you will regret it. You will grow to love someone else. True life is not mills and boom.
ReplyDeleteStella pose help beg Lagos state government why there is no light in omole phase2, pliers in Lagos state. It is so painful that for the past 4.years I have lived here no light. Is the place not part of Lagos state.? Haaaa God is watching the wicked souls responsible ohhhh
Nawa o,what a 'kweshun'.Abeg I have enough emotional problems right now.Can't be adding this one to it too.
ReplyDelete6 fucking years! That's Bsc plus MSC.
ReplyDeleteGirl you guy is a lazy nigga... Do me a favour and reach out to the other lady.... Don't fight her please and also don't try to convince her. I pray she listens.
Reach out to her for what exactly? Mumu advice
DeleteThe lady in this whole thing is the foool! Why should a lady with self worth "move in" with a guy and have her vagina constantly pounded by a guy for 6 years? Why should this guy marry such a woman; will you like your brother to marry a lady that has probably aborted for him or someone else?
ReplyDeleteWhat on earth is new about living with such a woman?
Why shouldn't he find a "fresh" hip and breasts and womb and vagina?
Common, ladies, you decide if sex should take place and you should be discrete with it
You decide if a child shall live and you should be responsible with it; that's the responsibility the Lord has given you.
Any lady allowing sex with a supposed "fiance" is a big fool!
If he wants the stuff so badly,he should make you his wife and not girlfriend!
Exactly.
DeletePoster, that foolish boyfriend of yours has no reason to marry you. You live there, cook for him,clean for him, he sleeps with you when he wants, you have probably had one or 2 abortions for him, why should he marry you ? You are always in his face, dude doesn't miss you but you are the one clinging to him like your life depends on it .
Start by respecting yourself and having sense , a little self esteem because for you to be asking this sort of silly question, then everything is wrong with you. So you need someone to tell you that this guy is bad news? Or you are busy consoling yourself he will change.
Na you sabi, we all have our problems.
Some guys come back and beg and beg and beg like their existence depends on you. If you are really in love with this guy, it's difficult to walk away.
DeleteAnon 16:30, thank you. Na see finish relationship she dey.
DeleteThis should be for ladies who stay with a guy,
ReplyDeleteLive in partners
Let go girl,be strong,though this option is the most difficult. You dodged a bomb.don't count the years.A friend dated a guy for 9 yrs,he eventually left her,the next guy dated her for 18 months and he wifed her. It's not how far but how well.
ReplyDeleteI stopped reading when I saw that boyfriend has cheated severally which means that I read to the end. My opinion is that just as we Ladies have priorities we want to acheive and how we want to acheive it, that'show guys have things they wantto acheive too. The guy is looking for a greener pasture too just like u. He is a hustler. Allow somebody's childto acheive his goals in lifejor. U want to acheive him (marriage) butcomfort Is more important to him so let him be. Nov on. The best way to move on is to Chang your environment. Relationship is not a do or die matter.
ReplyDeleteMbaise girl, if you had a google account, I would have sent you some airtime. I mean it. I don't encourage laziness. But a man has to look for a way to achieve his dream. Don't mind these silly, greedy bitches. Where do all our girlfriends get large amounts of money from, knowing so well we didn't give them that money? My unemployed former girlfriend, obviously from a poor home got a new accommodation at Maitama, where she paid N5m for 2yrs. Where did that money come from? An aristo of course. I didn't begrudge her. She had to survive. I left since I knew I couldn't cope. Just like Mbaise girl said, guys also have ambitions, if another woman is willing to help them achieve it, so be it. If you can't cope, no need coming to a blog to ask questions. Just leave. Poster, this guy wants you for the long term, but he doesn't have what it takes to fund the relationship. Make up your mind on what to do. The animals here will call him names, but he's the one with the shoe. He knows where it pinches. That he allowed a woman help him doesn't make him lazy. Many guys leave home to hustle every morning, but don't get lucky to earn much. Life has different designs for every one.
DeleteTwo dumb fucks! A lazy man and a runs girl, how perfect! Una go dey alright
DeleteAnd aw long will that last. Fuck boys always remainfuck boys even after they are married which basically means all the monies they make amounts to nothing.
DeleteA man who get off on women is a foolish fool!
ReplyDeleteHe is not a serious human being
He is not a marriageable man
He is irresponsible
But the more irresponsible one is the lady that allows herself to be fondled and messed up for that long.
No man after having sex with such ladies wants to marry them; talking from a man's perspective
He will look for newer adventures
Such men pardon boys are out for just adventures and not marriage
Hmmmmm,very somehow
ReplyDeleteWhy do we ladies deceive ourselves?
ReplyDeleteWhy do you think that a man will marry you just because you've been his "girlfriend" and giving him sex?
No, men are smarter; he will lick every good thing in you and jump ship
look for a fresher, younger, girl to wife
Six year of pounding without marriage takes a lot of peace from a woman.
Doubt it; get your picture before it all started and compare with what you see in the mirror now; you have become an old bitch!
Sex in marriage brings peace of mind and makes a woman younger and loved
I believe in not fornicating. But please how many of these Nigerian men marry virgins and maltreat them? Too many. Thats why you have all the different dear Stella letters. The women being maltreated are not just non virgins
Deleteme need that type of woman to come pay for my flat fist
ReplyDelete@CHILAKA Christian you say? Ekwunwe kwana. Espeakilekwene espeak. Are you kidding me?
DeleteSay "God forbid" ka ihere mee ekwensu.
Another lazy buffoon, idiot
DeleteLadies, if you are in a relationship, close your legs and see how the man will value you.
ReplyDeleteOpen your legs and you worth nothing; absolutely nothing to him!
You will just become a sex toy and never a wife in his head.
Do not fornicate because the Bible says so, if you do it because you want to be valued by a Nigerian man...you are on a long tin. The women being cheated on are not non virgins
DeleteAll this talk abt guy not marrying who they've pounder lots of times is shit. My husband nd I dated for 6years with constand pounding sef.we even lived together for 1 yr plus at some point nd we still got married in the end.this July will mk my marriage 15 years of bliss.he's God sent nd to top it all off he's not a cheat nd has never been one.all thanks to jah.
DeleteStay and do what?yeye!
ReplyDeletePls start looking 4 another boyfrnd biko because it's obvious ur "6yrs lover" is dating d woman dat paid 4 d house...is lyk ur boyfrnd is a fuck boy sef...indi ne 're afuche onu
ReplyDeleteLeave pls or is ur destiny tied to his?find a new place cos u re MADAM DO GOOD?drop the broke ass and move on biko.
ReplyDelete1. he's a serial cheater.
ReplyDelete2. he must be a gigolo.
3. ask yourself if u can live with that
4 if ur answer to 3 is no pls leave
I may buy a gun 👀 for his brains
ReplyDeleteOne word
ReplyDeleteLEAVE.
Right after I burn that shit to the ground! You can't come and waste my time like that! For a lady to pay your rent that means you were a broke nigga. That means I put up with 6 years of being with a broke nigga. Hell to the fuck no! When I'm done wrecking everything you touch...then you'll understand "Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned" You don't want to know the lengths I can go for revenge baby...check yourself!
DeleteNa mouth u de mak my dear, persons lik u ar even mor vulnerable
DeleteThe guy is a confirmed gigolo. Men are gold diggers too not just women. He wont stop seeing the lady. What do you have to offer him? Can you pay his rent? Lol. Pls leave the guy and move on. Too many fishes in the sea
ReplyDelete@Trinity
DeleteThat's if she will take your advice, because from her write up she gat no self esteem.
Leave the chewing gum/gigolo boy at once na. That one follow for man too ne? Hian!
ReplyDeleteNne help me ask that empty thick skull poster.
DeleteAm a man and this is my humble opinion. Relationships are between two adults and it must be mutual, progressive, inspiring,motivating with a lot of sacrifice from both parties. Communication is key to make it work. Now men are excited by what they see and women by what they hear. Now when a guy starts acting up BIG-TIME then it's time to move on. Same for the woman too. If a man can move to an apartment paid for by another woman then it's time for the girlfriend to pack her things, get her acts together and move on without looking back. To answer the above simple questions I will tell the girl to .... 1. GO and NOT look back.
ReplyDelete2.Leave and keep moving
3.Don't even discuss the issue of the guy refunding any money. He has clearly state in clear terms that he is no longer interested.
4. She should find a new place and start on a fresh note.
No explanation can excuse the guy....He has a history of cheating. He is a USER not a GIVER. He will NEVER be a committed person.
Thank you. Very apt 👍🏻
DeleteWord on marble 👏👏 God bless you 🙌
DeleteThank you.You nailed it.Babe,just leave
DeleteAnon you're one hell of an intelligent man. You head is on your shoulder, you just said it right.
Delete6 years 😵😵😵? Just LEAVE.
ReplyDeleteYea its difficult pls do it for yourself. That guy doesnt love or respect you -hes a gold digger yes he is 😒.
You will meet someone loving,loyal,faithful and trustworthy. Goodluck 👍
You don't see yourself marrying someone else apart from him??
ReplyDeleteI don't think you can be so sure of who you will marry until you are married.
People change and so does circumstances.
I think you or your family should be responsible for your shelter until you are married, I cannot tell you to stay, leave, fight the lady or get your place because I am sure you have made up your mind on what to do already, but it looks like your man is another woman's investment already. All the best.
Please leave, he is a low life cheat who deserves only tramps.
ReplyDeleteMove the hell on!
ReplyDeleteWhen date someone, even if you love the person, always expect the unexpected, no human is indispensable, u can be discarded, u can be kept, don't ever think you are at ur last stop, one leg in, one leg in my papa house! Lol, but u no go see d leg.
She should leave,the signs are there that the relationship is on red flag. The number of years a relationship has lasted has nothing to do with it lasting or leading to marriage. A failed relationship is 101% better than a failed marriage. Some people don't know your worth till you are far from their reach
ReplyDelete@Barr. Oma
DeleteIt is obvious that the poster is thinking with her tohtoh. The guy has fucked away all her brain, leaving empty skull for her
Have a fresh start
ReplyDeleteWhat kind of man would be comfortable having a woman get him a house, clothes and basic things? Fuck boy.
Eyah..... Men are now looking for rich girls. They are now the gold diggers. Your man is one of them. The best option is for you to leave. But since he is the only man on earth(according to you). Then hustle hard and buy him a car. Maybe he will love you then.
ReplyDeleteSame thing happened to me, except that I never caught him cheating. The communication, moving out and stuff... I left him o! And he didn't even see anything wrong with it. Took me a while but I moved on. Now he calls once in a while, giving signs like he wants to come back but No way! He cannot be committed.
ReplyDeleteAbeg no make me vex,what kind of a question are you asking?whether to stay or leave?so you don't know you will "LEAVE"?poster you had better"FLEE"...there are some kind of things you don't ask cos you know the right thing to do but you won't want to do it cos its hard,pick your dignity,your self and flee
ReplyDeleteEsther Mgbolu. How IS you Nwa oma?
DeleteAs for the poster, the guy dey service her engine well, so na her tohtoh she dey use think now.
I'm very fine chiks,thanks.
Delete@ Poster, I know you are not that confused to decide on what to do but I will still help you with the answer - MOVE ON!!!
ReplyDeleteSome men are not worth the stress. God will surely grant your heart desires.
Leave. What do you want with a persistent cheat and a man who eats off women? Do you not love yourself enough? Are you not worth anything? Please I will apply tough love here. Love you sister, you are worth more than this man. Look in the mirror and repeat this till you believe "I deserve better". Do not set yourself up for a future of hurt. Not all of us men are users and cheats. If you value yourself enough, a great man will find you, love you and respect himself enough to NEVER cheat no matter the money or ass thrown at him.
ReplyDeleteI dont know how some ladies do it dating guys for 6 years and more without him proposing I cant deal a four years relationship talkmore of six years.babes leave that nigga because at the end you will be the side chick and the lady will become the main chick,they will make you frustrated till you leave that relationship.
ReplyDeleteBabe borrow sense and 🏃 run from that guy, look for an honest man, this guy is gigolo stop wasting your time with him abeg
ReplyDeleteMadam, no more explanation abeg.. With all this, I see no fruithful ending with h8m madam.
ReplyDeleteGo to God in prayer cuz the most delicate moment of we human is at a time of choosing our spouse.
Think well, do you need an husband or a home to call ur own, filled with joy and happiness.
Think think think
Mc pinky
Asking a question like this mean your brain is completely messed up.
ReplyDeleteNg please leave enyinna alone n move on, he has moved on.
ReplyDeleteLol, are you their neighbour?
DeleteYou are still waiting on people's advice..My dear tell yourself the truth and move on with your life. Life goes on.
ReplyDeleteAs a man, this is really low from your ex. He's not worth your time, he's very obviously a fucboy with no pride, not to talk of any future ambition.
ReplyDeleteSix years is a lot of time to put into a relationship and I'm positive that's why you're thinking of getting back with him somehow. But sis, this guy is very obviously not worth any more second of your life. Stop selling yourself short.
I want you to do yourself a favour and try and picture a future with this loser. It will end in nothing but tears and heartbreak.
Cry if you have to. Call him and cuss him out if you have to but, I beg you, do not go back to him. You don't have to get married to him or anyone for that matter.
Now is the time to rediscover who you are and look towards the future.
Really sorry for your plight.