STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
TENANT BROUHAHA
My Darling Stellawi, How is you?
It's me again o.
I met up with a blog visitor named Jane and my Spirit just led me to give her both Shoes.
So, now to the reason I am sending you this mail. I want utmost sincere comments, practical comments o.
We(My husband and I) have this Tenant who for God knows why has been disrespecting me.
We have 3 tenants and we live upstairs, hubby doesn't live here, he only comes and spends few weeks and goes back to his base.
This issue happened when hubby as usual wasn't around.
We have separate Tanks but one pumping machine. It happened that Nepa restored electricity and I decided to pump water. This was happening close to midnight. From to 12 up on till few minutes to 2am, My Tank wasn't full. I asked my older Daughter to go and check what was happening. Only for her to rush up stairs to tell me that it's been disconnected!
My head rang a bell.
I went into my bedroom, put on my shorts and went down stairs, I knocked on the door of this stupid tenant to ask him why he disconnected my pumping machine and this Bastard asked me if that was why I was knocking on his door!!
Ahhhh, I lost it....
That he's wife and child needs water.
I asked him if Alhaji (hubby) were to be around if he would have done what he did??
And he said "Yes" that him and Alhaji are cool that he will just explain to him, blah blah blah.
Then I started Abusing him, I abused him so badly that he had to shut his door.
And the very next day, he quickly called my husband and changed the story for him.
My husband called me to hear from me, but I just couldn't think or talk to him as I was just shouting and Shouting (Hubby detest that)
But who freaking gives a flying f-k at that time.
Cause it baffles me how this particular idiot will be misbehaving and hubby will keep mute.
The other time, he pulled out my Cut-out. Saying his wife called him on the phone that I have electricity and they don't. For crying out loud. An electrician lives opposite Us and his even their Friend, what stops him from going to him to call him to come and rectify his electricity issues??
Same people their son had convulsion weeks back and the wife couldn't call me o! She had to call a fellow tenant to call me to help her with her child. Hmmmmmm
This is a woman who hardly greets me.
And even after that episode, she will see me and quickly walk pass. OR Atimes mummer a greeting.
And when hubby is around, You will be surprised to how they greet him!
They will be shouting at the top of their voices.
Please, correct me if am wrong. Do you think hubby by any chance told this people things about me??
Did he tell them funny things about me?
Because I keep wondering where all these sick nonsense is coming from.
I have asked and accused hubby of giving him the platform to disrespect me. And he says No.
That is the same platform he gave him, he gave all the other tenant. Hmmmmmmm.
I had to call Hubby's Younger brother to tell him let him know that he's older brother (hubby) did not train me in School.
He never ever paid for my School fees.
Neither did he pay for my Project
Not my Accommodation.
I met him in my Final Year.
And he came to ask for my hand in Marriage.
I am yet to come to terms on how a tenant can Weild so much "Guts"
Something must be giving him that morale.
He was even boasting he wanted to report me to my husband that he greeted me and I didn't answer. After that incident. hmmmmmmm.
Please post this, hopefully I will be able to see things from other people's pespertive.
Thanks you Dearest Stellawi.
I have grown to love You.
I will most definitely be reading comments when it gets posted!
You may decide to get angry with me but I will say it as i see it. from what you narrated up there,babe you are the problem and that is why everyone is avoiding you.you sound troublesome as well.
So you walk pass your tenants waiting for them to greet you?what happened to your mouth?
Change how you treat others and watch them serenade you with the same respect they do to your hubby.
Alhaja, please work on yourself character wise, datz all I have to say
ReplyDeleteThe things you told your BIL shows you're a real trouble maker.
DeleteTell your husband to buy a separate pumping machine for the tenants.
Stella, please what are you saying? Even if she's got attitude does that mean the tenant should disconnect her water supply and the rest? Please let's put ourselves in her shoes. Some of us here would react like angry lions if such ever happened to us.
DeleteHaba! Make I put mouth before I go cook. Madam! Your hubby called you to find out what happened and you were shouting? You do realize that as a landlord's wife, you owe it to all your tenants to ensure there is peace and unity especially as you are more on ground than your hubby?
DeleteI currently stay in the same compound with my landlord and his family. Yup, they are local, don't attend church but they are the nicest people I have ever met. I haven't seen the wife not reply any tenant's greeting or have issues with anyone except her husband and sometimes workers.
I also remember the second place I stayed at when I moved down to uyo; local couple again, loud landlord with crazy rules and a somewhat kind heart and a wife that kept malice for Africa. When her husband died suddenly, she still knew which tenants hadn't come to pay their condolences.
Easy oh, this life na one!
Madam pls adjust your ways,the truth is bitter,you even said you were just shouting on ur husband on the phone that was too bad and despites they are ur tennant's I think you should give them some respect as well.And I believe you pumping water to ur tank alone isn't ur first time of doing such.one thing in life we should always learn to do to others the way we want others to do to us as well,like wat Stella said let me repolished mine,even if you are the landlady,am not talking of ur husband nau for example you passes ur tenants you are like Una good morning oh,or Una well done,not necessarily all the time shia,you flow with them like you are a fellow tenant like them by then you will notice how the whole of you in the compound will look like one family in that yard.stop carrying ur shoulders so height for them else they might gang up and beat you mercily before oga returns one of this days.so sorry dear if some of my words were harse, no better way of using those terms.
DeleteStella you took the wordd right outta my mouth. As I was reading through this narrative all I could see is a woman that nags & quarrel, imagine the hubby calling to hear her own side of the story & all she could do was shout @ the hubby, madam na wa for you o. Please the fact that you're a landlady doesn't warrant you to command respect from people anyhow. Respect they say is reciprocal, you're not giving any but expect it in return. Please try to change is attitude of yours.
DeleteMadam landlady your yeye dey smell. No be your horseband first start get house, so leave your tenants alone. Stop fooling yourself and having confrontation upandown. Mind your family and stop been a nag.
DeleteD damesh yaff bin don Weda yhu ah trobusom or dey ah disrespeckfool.
Delete*Eye blaim yhua horseban for olwaz choozin the repot of the tehnants ova yhuas....
*eye blaim him For acshuali givin the tehnants dat mora to cuonter yhu or yhua niutral decishions...
Dame!!!! If he tinks treetin yhua fork up is by mecking the tehnants disrespeckt yhu an gate aware wit eat, den Yhua horseban yaff fork up big thym... Eat panes meee.
#instade of him spradin yhua staned pantis awtside for efriborri to see, he shool aff renthird yhu an appatment sumwer els if trully yhu ah trobusom.
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MadAm. ..Fact that somebody rents your house..does not make them slaves. If u want your peace..don't rent ur rooms out...They are doing u a favour just like u doing them a favour
Delete.It a hand go hand come thingy....You Sound very rude..Calling them stupid and Bastard even in your write up..smfh..Learn to talk to people calmly and respectfully...no matter what..That's the only way u can get others to respect u
You are a very proud (wetin concern us with who u dash shoe) and a very rude woman, the chronicle says it all. Na ur type want make person worship una because u get house. Married woman leaving your house at 12am to go and quarrel, the man suppose pour u water.
DeleteStella, stop it. That tenant is disrespectful. He doesn't have any right to disconnect the pumping machine. No right what so ever
DeleteHa! I read through most of the comments and I felt everyone is too harsh on this poster. We have been tenants too and now landlord by His grace so I know how human beings are,not to talk of tenants. What that tenant did is very wrong! (disconnecting your water and your electricity) but the way you handled yourself is not right either. You are only loosing more respect and won't be comfortable in your home with them. You need to control your anger because trust me, people generally can be annoying. Talk to your husband to connect that borehole properly and get two pumping machines. Why separate Tanks in the first place when it's one compound. Don't allow the devil use that tenant to tempt you. Na u and them dey live. Na u knw where e dey pain u. That tenant lacks respect! It's because you are a woman that is why he looks down on you..its normal everywhere. Na who dey control house tenant dey respect oh! In this case that's ur husband..if it were ur house,trust me, they won't mess with u..even if u r a witch, they have no option than to coordinate their self. Just don't allow this silly issue cause a rift in your marriage. You don't have to be friends with them..simple 'Good morning oh' is okay. This is why I hate living in the same apartment with tenants oh..just build your house separate, only you and your family. Then you can have house with tenant somewhere else.
DeleteMadame work on yourself I beg you. Reading through your narrative I can almost tell how resentful of ur neighbours u are. You should ask yourself why they respect your husband and not you.
DeleteYou knocked on ur neighbour's door at that time of the night and u expected a warm welcome? Or did you not say it was past midnight? Torr.
Some tenants can be funny, I know. But u Madame needs to work on your attitude
Ok bye
Madam respect is earned not demanded. Why will you etc trading insult with common tenant. In that situation you were supposed to say 'mr so and so that's not how things are done, if you needed water you needed to tell me i would have allowed you disconnect and connect back after.' No need to bring your husband into the matter at all. After that if the guy was rude to your simply call your husband to warn him. Also don't you have his number? Why will you be knocking on his door at night? At 2 am.
DeleteComport yourself well so you will not get insult. Carry yourself well like the madam it does not mean forcing it on them it means carrying yourself with grace.
Stella chop kiss 😘. You are right.
DeletePoster needs to fix her attitude
Once Alhaji bring in the 2nd wife, landlady eye go clear. Na then she go start to dey greet everybody even when dem never wake up.
Deletehahahahaha Stella, chai you just finish our landlady.
ReplyDeleteMadam to avoid trouble with this troublesome tenants, do a meeting with them and get another pumping machine that will be pumping water for them.
All i can see here is that they are just jealous of you. Dont mind them.
Stop carrying their problems on your head unless you want to get wrinkle.
Your husband is not stupid to say things about you to them. They are just jealous of you period
You have a nasty attitude. And you feel entitled because your husband is a landlord. It's his house...NOT YOURS!
DeleteThat aside, you lack class. You ought to 'earn respect' with a classy attitude because your Husband's status as a landlord will never give you that. You come off as a ratchet bish. Fix that attitude.
Oh pls shut up already, @ General Zod and all others. All I see is dt u pple will always support Stella whenever she uses d red pen. One way traffic people. Even if she be crazy landlady, what gives a tenant d gut to disconnect her line! He chop winch? His house? So, cos of a bloody tenant, u've suddenly separated a couple's property for them? Madam, this is not d only tenant u have right? He is blackmailing u'r hubby about something. The tenant knows something abt u'r hubby.
DeleteBefore Stella used red pen I concurred d woman was rude. After the man said is that why you came to.my door You can simply reply. 'Mr Di's I know its late but what you did was not good etc' what was d need to insult him like a common market woman?
DeleteYes sometimes Stella is arrogant with her advice because of the power she wields running this blog. U are right.
I dont think your hubby told them anything.you sound like my former landlady who was so troublesome and felt she could do anything cos they own the house. And maybe you dont respect your husband too and you shout and tenants hear you shouting on him so they treat you this way. Change your mindset
ReplyDeleteLMAO. As in I weak as I read am. No wonder we have some Bvs with unnecessary hot body. Madam you're been busted!! 😂 I can't imagine myself arguing with tenants. Abeggy, madam ignore and stop creating scenarios in your head about what its said or didn't.
DeletePlus what you told your BIL is unnecessary joor. Is he that relevant to your marriage?
DeleteLandlady wahala, yes, u sound troublesome, no wonder alhaji lives with his other family more than you.
ReplyDelete*picks race outta post*
Lmao
DeleteLol.
DeleteMadam landlady, take it easy with ur tenants. Cos u sound like those women that act as if they got the whole world under their feet. Respect ur tenants see the reciprocate.
Who else could hear her shouting as you were reading the chronicle. This post is filled with so much rage. Kilode! Na you build house chai! You even had to call your bro-in-law. Work on your character madam. It's never that serious.
DeleteHahahaha
DeleteOuch, that's not funny o!
Okays your comment and runs right after you with protective helmet on my head
DeleteStella,, u can write for gambians... U have nailed it anyway.
ReplyDeleteMadam, work on ursef.. Simple
Mc pinky
May I ask if the apartment is given to them for free? Even if na free you have the responsibility to provide water and electricity for your tenant. Why would you want to fill your tank first before the tenants? They have water needs as much as you do, ihe was right to say his family needs water too and those need have to be met. Be careful my dear, tables can turn anytime. Be kind for "they too are the earth"
DeleteRespect is reciprocal. If someone offends, be the bigger person and ask them gently why they did it. Shouting like a rabid dog won't get you anywhere. No one likes to be disrespected.
ReplyDeleteThe other tenants probably respect you probably because they don't like trouble themselves.
Only a mad person will disrespect you when you've only accorded them with respect.
When you also help people stop expecting them to repay you back with greetings or acknowledgement unless you are doing that just for praises, be kind to people just as God has been to you.
Take it easy ko, life is not that hard. No one is dragging landlord wifeship with you.
Gbam you nailed it @Doppelganger
DeleteSorry to post here but:
ReplyDeleteBvn
Pls whats the difference btw church wedding abd blessing?
Pls i would like full details.
Thanks
Church wedding is the whole shenninigan, church blessing is a more quiet affair, just get blessings from pastor in his office, might not put on the wedding apparel, and after that, pastor announces you guys as a couple. Refreshment may or may not be shared afterwards.
DeleteChurch wedding comes with that blessings you're asking about. They're all wrapped in one box, except you are talking about Church/pastors blessings & family blessings which is almost thesame thing here, because your family will give out their blessings first before you can head to church for wedding/blessing. Hope I made sense sha
DeleteThe difference is that in church wedding the lady can wear the white gown because she is yet to have a child or pregnant but while in the case of blessing the lady can dress in the white gown cos she already had a child or children for her partner so a they need is Blessing of marriage....I hope I am correct.
DeleteTuscany
DeletePure Nigerian explained it best
The main difference is that with a proper church wedding, the couple get a marriage certificate which is recognized and binding under a court of law because the church is licensed to conduct marriages. Mostimes especially with new churches, they do not have the license to wed people. So the couple will normally go to a court and get married, get a wedding certificate, thereafter, they go to church and do an elaborate ceremony, church blessings; but do not get that valid certificate.
Deletefor church wedding the couple starts and finishes the whole marriage process in the church then get the certificate..... for blessing they already have the certificate from their court wedding so the church prayes for them and join them in the church and that's it. They can't have 2 certificates from church and court since both certificates are same.
DeleteLady, check ur manner of approach, its cracked or broken... Sometimes ure even right but go about it the wrong way, they even respect u cus of ur husband.
ReplyDeleteHoe can you call your hubbys brother to say he didnt train you in school bla bla. Why does your husband live away from you? Cos hes trying to avoid your wahala. Probably has another wife who respects him. Remember a fool at 40 is a fool forever. You might not be 40 but you get my drift
ReplyDeletePoster your manner of writing isn't helping matters. You have serious anger issues, I don't know if you're a Christian or Muslim but pls read the book of James 1:9, Romans 12:16, Ephesians 4:3 and Psalm 141:3. Mediate on and pray with these verses daily and ask God to make you slow to anger. It's really working for me but first you must really be ready to change.
Delete@Trinity well said. But my own is what was I supposed to do with the 'shoe' information? I even thought she wanted to tell us she moved the tenants to accommodate the girl or something. Or she wanted us to know she's 'nice' by saying that 😄
DeleteMadam landlady,you sound like a trouble maker!...
ReplyDeleteYour chronicle is full of rude statements!...
It is your right to provide water and electricity for your tenants!...
You expect this people to be worshipping you because they live in your house...
Taa Gerraahia!...
Is the house yours?no be your husband build am?...
Wicked woman!...
I have tenants too though I don't live with them but I make sure things are moving well with them!...
Now I know why people don't like living in the same compound with their landlords because of wicked,rude people like you!...
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DeleteGbam the Queen has spoken. Madam please work on your attitude.
DeleteDon't mind her, as if she built the house, when I was still a tenant, when landlord is around, you ll see people smiling, but when his wife appear, hmmmmm wahala dey, that was how my former neighbour almost slap her one day.
DeleteI must agree with you queen.
DeletePoster how can you be pumping water comfortably in your tank while your tenants have no water in theirs. Even though your tenant shouldn't have disconnected yours, but there are ways to go about it.
You sound high handed and troublesome. No one in his right senses would just decide to disrespect you, so check yourself and your attitude. And who says you can't be the one to greet your tenants first.
Killing. Queen oooooohhhh 😂I quickly scrolled to check what you will say. Chai!
DeleteWith what you wrote up there, madam you go like trouble pass fight o. You even have to talk your BIL in such a very rude manner about your hubby. You need to work on your character, you're missing it big in that aspect
ReplyDelete*Larry was here*
Poster please what is the correlation between the Bv you gave shoes to and this your chronicle.
ReplyDeleteMarried woman using the F word like it's going out of season. You even ended the chronicle with an exclamation mark. Hope you don't talk like you write in front of your daughter. Madam your husband told nobody nothing, you're a troublesome woman and your narrative reeks of insolence. I'm sure everyone is aware of the way you treat your husband with utter disrespect, that's why they're more cordial to him than you.
I'm sure your husband is a calm person that tolerates your excesses so you naturally assume everyone should. If you like don't change, If you like move out to a new place your bad character will still follow you there.
I'm waiting for you to come and reply me cause I know your type very well. Everything is gragra
She's proud mhen
DeleteI wonder too. She sounds like a very proud person. Anyway, thank u on behalf of the person u gave shoes to.
DeleteTire me fa
DeleteThe shoe and the chronicle right hahahahhahaha was wondering too 😂😂😂
DeleteHahahahahaha just to tell us how 'rich' she is
DeleteI also wonder wetin concern school fees, project and school accommodation with this tenant issue. The chronicle get as e be.
DeleteStella you said my mind oo
ReplyDeleteAs I was reading, all I had in my mind was.. This woman is a troublemaker!!!
Madam change your troublesome ways, clearly your hubby is a good man and good landlord..which is why everybody loves and respects him. You are the problem here.. Not supporting what your tenant did but still.. Live and Let Live!!! RME
See your mouth like.. I abused him so much he had to close his door! You shouted while explaining to your hubby, you knew he hates it yet you did it and you have the guts to add.. Who gives a flying fuck???
You are wicked! Nonsense
It's people like you that give landlords bad name. Embrace Peace and you will see how they will all start showing you respect and love!
Nice one @BeckyDivine, the woman seems like a troublemaker from her narrative
DeleteGbam! Gbammer!! Gbammest!!!
DeleteTroublesome woman, don't go and change your ways o. Be there looking for trouble upandan, I'm sure she'll be very angry now reading the comments bcos this couldn't have been the kind of replies she was expecting LMAO
From your write up, I think you are disrespectful.
ReplyDeleteI swear I wanted to write exactly what Stella wrote. U are a difficult person. What I get from the story is you're treating them with disrespect because you n hubby are well to do, and you're looking down on them because they're ur tenants. Be friends with them. Stop raising shoulders.
ReplyDeleteHaba, even if she is the problem. Is that why the tenant should remove her connection? No now. Even if she is a fellow tenant, that's wrong.
DeleteAnon15.44 how sure are u tht the poster is telling the whole story?
DeleteStella saved me d energy for typing n no I'm not licking her ass,I agree with her 100%.
ReplyDeleteStella your so wrong about your comment.
ReplyDeleteyou are just being paranoid. leave your husband out of it
ReplyDeleteMadam calm down. U are a bundle of problems. Ah Ah na only you be Landlady abi na only you waka come? Shuo
ReplyDeleteMadam humble your self.Nobody carries house to the grave. But still call your husband to caution them about disrespecting you.
ReplyDeletewatch war room and drink coconut oil
ReplyDeleteits bcos you are jobless. get a job to keep urself busy
ReplyDeleteHahahahahaha, you are cray
Deletewoman from you chronicle you seem to have a very bad attitude. if i live in that same compound with you believe me i will have issues with you. you need to work on your attitude. you are the cause of your own problem. learn to live in peace and love with all men. your husband will never take sides with you because you have a bad attitude and men detest women with bad attitude. learn to be soft spoken and your husband will love you. how can you be narrating what happened to him and you are still shouting. you need to learn how to talk. do a self assessment and you will realise that it is your attitude that is making you have issues with people. I use to be like you and realised i kept having issues with people, i had to start praying about it and today i have a better relationship with my husband, friends, siblings, parents and inlaws. Thank your star for bringing the matter here. from what matured minds and married women will tell you and advice you, you will become a better person. good luck.
ReplyDeleteGod bless you for this sound advice you just gave the poster. Madam a word is enough for the wise.
DeleteMadam, you are your own problem. From your right up, you are not humble. You sound like 'I know it all kind of person'. Let the change begin with you. Shouting on your husband because you are angry? And when you went to your tenant's house, you went ready to fight, irrespective of his reason. Are you sure the other tenants really like you or they are just not as confrontational as this tenant. Look within and change your ways. You are just too aggressive and defensive. You are the landlady doesn't make it right for you to insult your tenants(in the middle of the night o).
ReplyDeleteIn addition to what stella said, please don't be offended, are you the first wife of your husband? If you are not, it could also be a problem especially if you are in control of the man.
ReplyDeleteHnmmmmm! Iyawo landlord wahala no bi small tin!
ReplyDeletebe humble madam, nor be only you first get house. the house is not even your own. you wont be the first to have tenants. pls treat them with respect and love cos the table can turn tomorrow. after all they are paying rent and not staying in your house for free. live and let's live abeg.
ReplyDeleteStella thank u for saying the truth! I almost throw up while reading ,,, Jesus. Madam your husband dey try oooooo so you want dem to worship u because them be tenant ... Go get alive please.
ReplyDelete@Stella I agree with you 1000%. Madam learn to work on your attitude..Why would you call his younger brother to ask such questions and even report him..is it to smite him or what..You even disrespected your own husband doing that...I dont see greetings as any thing..I can even greet a 3 year old child..Its only here in Nigeria we take greetings as one big thing..Reduce your pride..They cant be your tenants forever...
ReplyDeleteStella you just said my mind. She's just very proud and arrogant because her husband built a house. A tenant told you that the family needs water and the explanation didn't appeal to you. You expect your tenant to worship you
ReplyDeleteI see pride in u. If u don't take time that pride will kill u! Shuoooo...
ReplyDeleteWell sald stella I love you more for saying the truth
ReplyDeleteMadam poster from your narration you sound proud as in you are proud and troublesome let your tenant be let them have rest of mind, good name is better than riches.
Poster has anger issues. And it seems you always in a hurry to react to everything. Chill and think things through at times. It helps. Also try respecting your tenants too cos your manner of approach to things is all shades of wrong. And don't drag your hubby into this. Work on yourself.
ReplyDeletePoster,I put it to u that u re the one putting ur self in the position to be disrespected by this fellow. That u re the landlady doesn't give u the right to be rude to ur tenants no matter what.Running ur mouth like tap just cos of water,something u could have simply ignore mtchheeeww
ReplyDeleteRespect is reciprocal... Work on yourself madam
ReplyDeleteAnd you wore shorts first to go and fight innit ? Monkey ologbo landlady. Who dash you I was waiting to see if you'll write ur the one that built the house sef . Landlady my hairy cunt.
ReplyDeleteThis is why it is not good to live in same house with LandLords, because they will be feeling like they own the world while its only the small hut they have.
ReplyDeleteThey disrespect you. For god's sake who are you. Did you give them the house for free? Respect is reciprocal. If you don't respect them they won't either. Both of you are struggling families. If you thing both of you are not on same level, then you should live in the whole house yourself or better still if you need close neighbours, give out the house for free.
I can't pay you rent and you still be forming Land-Lord for me. I paid my money to you. So what is the big deal. If you want special treatment, kukuma give me the house for free.
My Dad always try to tell my mum this. She forms landlady a lot and at the end she gets disrespected.
Now, I live on my own an din someone's house. I no send anybody because I pay rents. If you want me to send you, give me the house for free. If you don't want me anymore, give me notice ontime and I leave your house for you.
Let me tell you why they disrespect you. They have a feeling you are proud. The man(tenant) is my type and likes to tickle you a lot to just tell you, you can do nothing.
And truly, from the tone your write up came across. You are really proud. What your husband has is just that house and all tenants inclusive are on same financial level. Stop thinking you are better because if you really are better than they are, you won't have tenants in your house. Your young family needs their money. So take-off that tenant-Landlord mentality of your mind.
The highest you can do is to cause problems for yourself in your family. Since they paid your husband money and live there. They are just purposely looking for your trouble, imagine the audacity to tell your husband's brother that nonsense you wrote up there. And you want respect. Fish brain.
Madam don't just expect special treatment, if not you will cause more problems for yourself. Respect is reciprocal. Your husband respects them that is why they do too. He doesn't expect so much from them, that is why he gets that much.
Don't expect your neighbours wife to greet you whenever she sees you. Even if you are older than she is. Mind your business. You can still greet them first and don't expect them to greet you first always. You are doing them a favour by giving them a place to live and they are also doing you a favour by giving you their hard earned money to solve some problems.
So respect yourself first. With the way you are going, I am sure your husband already has a side-chic to cool off from your excess. Later you will be among those to say all men are cheats. Continue, the day your husband will come back with another wife, those people you call tenants will be the ones to help you pack your bags.
Be feeling like Jesus Christ. I can't just explain how mad I am at you. You are lucky I don't live with you. You will be crying for me everyday.
your attitude smells. and most times it is as a result of our upbringing. pls do not pass this same attitude to your children cos they see the way you behave. after all the advice gotten from here today. pls go to your husband and apologize for all your bad behaviours in the past. tell him you want to be a better person and from hence forth you will be a better wife. for your neighbours, just make peace with them by cooking something nice to them this sunday and then thereafter start having a good relationship with them. best of luck. and see how your life will be better.
ReplyDeletePoster, sorry to say but you sound troublesome. Really troublesome.
ReplyDeleteYour hubby seems to be 'taking sides' with them cos they all are at the receiving end of your troubles. You really should learn to be humble. It'll help you a lot.
Poster my landlady and yourself should be siblings cos she is just like you she expects tenants to worship her since she owns the house.respect should be reciprocal regardless of age or status.your tenant can become your landlord tomorrow am not cursing you trying to make you understand the way life is.If God gives you and your type the privilege of been God for just one hour things go spoil.change your ways..
ReplyDeleteMadam landlady, are you the only madam in oga's life? If the answer is No, then your tenants probably know your story and because you have been wearing big shoulder pads, they've decided to humble you.
ReplyDeleteI know of a familiar story and the same scenario played out. The lady is a second wife and the new madam for yard. The first wife and hubby lived in that same house before they moved to a bigger one in Lekki. First wife was very humble, nice and respectful. Tenants loved her both old and young.
As soon as junior madam enter house, she was on a very high horse. Doing comptroller general for old yard. She didn't have it cool with them loyal tenants. Hubby wasn't helping matters, he couldn't evict them cos first madam said he mustnt. See gbege!
My advice to you is tell hubby to warn them sternly or advice him to evict them if you are the apple of his eye, he would consider. Because, even if you decide to reduce your pride and become their foot mat, they wouldn't budge. Water af pass pap...
If you are lucky to have new tenants, please be nice .
This is the answer to this chronicle!!
Deletemadam you are f***king flying stupid.
ReplyDeleteNo need to say anything...you all have said what I have in mind to say....
ReplyDeleteThe poster doesn't have a problem. I think the tenant and his wife are just being difficult.The same happened to my friend's wife. Their househelp respects the oga, but doesn't have an iota of respect for the madam. But whenever oga is around, she treats her madam like a demigod to curry oga's favour. Madam complained severally to oga that their househelp doesn't respect her, but oga won't hear any of it because he felt his wife hated their househelp for no reason. The wife installed a hidden camera in their house in oga's absence. She had a confrontation with the maid. They almost came to blows. The maid was pointing her fist at her. When oga came back she told him what transpired but he didn't believe her at first until she played the video of what happened. Oga couldn't believe his eyes. He called the maid to ask her if what he had heard really happened. The maid categorically denied it until they played the video for her.....lolzz..... she started to cry and beg. Poster, get a hidden camera and get solid evidence so that when next you report that tenant to your husband, you'd have solid evidence to back it up. Meanwhile, know that respect is reciprocal. You must learn to respect your tenants just as you want to be respected.
ReplyDeleteI agree with you. The poster is upset because hubby is taking their side and letting them be rude to her. No wife will be happy with a husband that doesn't take her word over someone else. The tenant even disconnected water and people are still saying she's rude.
DeleteGbam
DeleteSo she should pump in her own tank alone when the tenants too don't have water abi....why not pump into both at the same time or better still get a separate pumping machine for the tenant.
Deletehad to call Hubby's Younger brother to tell him let him know that he's older brother (hubby) did not train me in School.
ReplyDeleteHe never ever paid for my School fees.
Neither did he pay for my Project
Not my Accommodation.
I met him in my Final Year.
And he came to ask for my hand in Marriage.
What has what you typed up there has to do with anything?
Your husband called to ask u what happened and u were shouting on him,did he accuse you when he called or just ask?
Your tank doesn't av to be full b4 u pump allow others pump. Is there enough water in the well you pump from or is it a borehole?
As a Muslim that u are, I'll advise you to start drinking water from the ablution kettle to reduce stubbornness - myth or real adonknow lol
Be the better person even if your tenant na werey.He must have reasons for being rude to you sef.Is he rude to other tenants?
No wonder ppl don't like living with landlord
Kai!,,,
ReplyDeleteStella,you nailed it oh!,,,
I didn't read your red pen before writing mine...
This poster is an asshole!...
How come u dont know where/how to use his and he's?
ReplyDeleteWoman you need to be re-trained. You narrated a one sided story , notice how you apportioned no blame to yourself? You are a self-conceited, rude, insolent woman!
ReplyDelete1. Why must your tank get filled before pumping for the neighbors ? What if the light had seized, what would then happen? How would you feel knowing you have water, and them, none? Are you that heartless ?
2. How dare you call your BIL & be telling him trash that your hubby didn't train you bla bla, how does that relate to the issue? You lack respect for yourself, your husband, & your neighbors and that's why your hubby stays away from you!
3. You are delusional - to think that your hubby would be sharing intimate details about you to the neighbors , I'm sure your fake friends are feeding you senseless advice, you will scatter your home with your hands
They should have told her they want to disconnect it. Not that she's there waiting and waiting
DeleteIf you are not careful, one of these days, they will give you a good mass beating and damn the consequences. They are your tenants not your slaves abi they no dey pay rent?
ReplyDeleteRespect is reciprocal. Learn to respect others and you will be surprised how everything will work in your favour.
ReplyDeleteI'm really surprised that your hubby called you the next day and you were still 'boiling'. Learn to let go of some things because of High BP.
You went a bit far by calling your brother-in-law asking him if your hubby paid your school fees- that is uncalled for and shows you lack respect for your hubby and probably others.
Nothing would have stopped you from allowing those people get some water before the ranting, after all, you were supposed to make provisions for them going by the fact that you own the house.
Learn to work on your temper cos you have anger issues- if not, a lot of things will be destroyed no matter how good/giver you paint yourself to be.
Find something doing for yourself to get you occupied.
Above all, lay good examples for your kids cos they are watching.
N:B- There is no correlation between this chronicle and the 2 pairs of shoes you gave to Jane.
Live and let's live
So because hubby called she should be calm. Don't you know even repeating the story would annoy her afresh.
DeleteStella u hit d nail on ds head! Madam landlady, did u hv to tell us dat u gave a certain Jane some used pair of shoes? U sound arrogant and a braggard! Am sure dats y ur husband avoids coming home to u! He definitly has anoda wife dat he stays wit dat gives him peace of mind and joy!i can bet u nt his only wife!madam u vry garrulous and canterkerous! If u dnt knw d meaning of wat I wrote go and check it in d dictionary!dats d assignment am givn u! U sha want ur tenants to worship and adore u,unto say u be dia landlady bah? Madam work on ur character!ur character is despicable! I can't even hv or keep someone lik u as a friend!we can neva jell!u too like wahala! Just imagine u saying it's lik ur husband gossips abt u to ur neibors!u see hw myopic in reasoning u can be? Evn telling ur broda inlaw dat ur hubby did nt train u in schl dat he only met u wen u whr about to finish! And so fucking wat? Most of d guys dat are married today, did de train dia wife's? Madam na wetin de worry u sef? Ishi gi dikwa an ma?u must be frm a poverty strike background dat just stumbled into wealth by marrying dis ur rich alhaji! Nor be say na u get house sef!u jst de para de show urself for ur tenants!dats y dem don see u finish!de dnt regard or hv respect for u at all!u knw y?becos u are vry mean,wicked, petty and selfcentered! Abeg carry ur yeye house go sit down jare! Omo onile! Mscheeeeeew! Gd riddance!
ReplyDeleteStella u hit d nail on ds head! Madam landlady, did u hv to tell us dat u gave a certain Jane some used pair of shoes? U sound arrogant and a braggard! Am sure dats y ur husband avoids coming home to u! He definitly has anoda wife dat he stays wit dat gives him peace of mind and joy!i can bet u nt his only wife!madam u vry garrulous and canterkerous! If u dnt knw d meaning of wat I wrote go and check it in d dictionary!dats d assignment am givn u! U sha want ur tenants to worship and adore u,unto say u be dia landlady bah? Madam work on ur character!ur character is despicable! I can't even hv or keep someone lik u as a friend!we can neva jell!u too like wahala! Just imagine u saying it's lik ur husband gossips abt u to ur neibors!u see hw myopic in reasoning u can be? Evn telling ur broda inlaw dat ur hubby did nt train u in schl dat he only met u wen u whr about to finish! And so fucking wat? Most of d guys dat are married today, did de train dia wife's? Madam na wetin de worry u sef? Ishi gi dikwa an ma?u must be frm a poverty strike background dat just stumbled into wealth by marrying dis ur rich alhaji! Nor be say na u get house sef!u jst de para de show urself for ur tenants!dats y dem don see u finish!de dnt regard or hv respect for u at all!u knw y?becos u are vry mean,wicked, petty and selfcentered! Abeg carry ur yeye house go sit down jare! Omo onile! Mscheeeeeew! Gd riddance!
ReplyDelete4. The problem is you, check yourself . I grew up in Nigeria , & stayed alone for a while before relocating . My landlady was the sweetest to her tenants . Massive building , 3br there was 1M , mine was a studio at 300k. How much are you paid to make you so proud? Why can't you be humble? Do you think you are better than them? Because your hubby has money ?
ReplyDeleteJust pray your husband lives long , if something happens to him ehn, his family will show you ! I'm sure they are also tired of you and your disrespectful attitude.
Look at you, the landlady of the house going to scream at her tenant like a mad dog. Who will take you serious ? Yes they will honor and obey your husband over you , he has earned their respect.
I advise you to change your ways , learn to tolerate people. Stop this 'I'd show them mentality' , you are not better than your tenants , if Alhaji didn't pick you from the gutters , you will also be in their shoes struggling with a husband in a rented apartment.
Learn to show compassion , be nice to people , show love, purge your heart off every wickedness! appreciate, respect & love your husband and stop talking down on him in the presence of the kids & hearing shot of the tenants. Stop talking down on him period!
Greet your tenants first , ask about their kids, pump their tank 1st atimes, if they have light issues offer to help , be nice, sweet and peaceful and watch your hubby start spending more time with you & the kids .
May God help you
Madam landlady you are full of pride at times you come down to your tenants, communicate with them, don't forget that you have children that will school away from home and rent somebody's house and get same treatment, how will you feel?
ReplyDeletePoster please live and let live. You are not the only landlords' wife on earth. In my step brothers house, before anybody pumps their own water, they always pump the landlords' own first. Mind you my brother doesn't live there with his wife but they do it out of respect for the wife because of the way she treats the tenants. You won't even know she is the landlords wife. So please learn to be humble and people will respect you with out you stressing about it.
ReplyDeleteI understand the Bv is troublesome, but should that be the reason to disconnect her light and also stop the tap?that tenant is troublesome too,if na me that tenant won't stay in that house least he does something harmful to u,its is pure hate coming from him your husband shouldn't get to close to such person.
ReplyDeleteTroublesome tenants will always be. They never end. If and when it becomes unbearable, the key is to calculate their rents and give them a balance of the months they've stayed at yours and one month quit notice. Simple. Who has time to exchange words? Where and how?
DeleteI understand the Bv is troublesome, but should that be the reason to disconnect her light and also stop the tap?that tenant is troublesome too,if na me that tenant won't stay in that house least he does something harmful to u,its is pure hate coming from him your husband shouldn't get to close to such person.
ReplyDeleteU also need to work on yourself.
ReplyDeletePoster go and sit down. It is obvious that you are a troublemaker. You are your own problem. You don't even have respect for your husband. Shameless woman.
ReplyDeleteEeyah.judging by the 30+ comments I have read so far let me have pity on u and just say "calm down". But for real, follow all the above advice.
ReplyDeleteIya yii, fara bale
ReplyDeleteOUR LANDLADY FINALLY CAME HERE TO DISGRACE HERESELF
ReplyDeleteDont mind her, she's looking for attention in a very rong way
DeleteReally she is your landlady.how do you guys cope with her
Delete😂😂😂
DeleteNa lie, anon would have given more info of Na truly her landlady be dis.
DeleteYou were just rapping the chronicle and i felt the tense anger in your words. Just cool down first, wisdom will help handle minor and major issues. Seek wisdom!
ReplyDeleteI love this quote " You cant change how people treat you or what they say about you. All you can do is CHANGE how you react to it"
You husband and them share a secret. Most likely the woman he's living with in the other town is their relative, or they sha know the woman, most likely a young lady. Even with hubby you shout and scream on the phone, despite knowing he hates it? Lol! Aunty, olodo Ni yin!
ReplyDeleteStella, this woman is the same thing with my wife,very troublesome ,wants everyone to worship her. She quarrel with my employees and tenants always, says they don't respect her.I am tired of talking so I always keep quite when she start her trouble. If I talk one she will talk ten so I have given up on trying to change her. I will be more careful in my next life ( if such thing exist) when getting married.
ReplyDeleteYour type might have gone out with a quiet girl and let her go because of timidity right? Bear your cross oga. If my assumption is wrong sorry.
DeleteChai, sorry. Some women are like that, all you need do is to carry your cross.
DeleteMadam Landlady becareful... A landlady in Lagos can become a tenant in another city tomorrow or it might be your kids. Some house owner always act like mini gods to their tenant. Madam e get as you fight this tenant reach you fit just lose your life... Imagine rushing to wear bum short for a fight with a man... Married fighter.
ReplyDeletePoster I will still repeat what others have said, please show respect to others. Talk to your tenants with respect and they will respect in return. They are human that have feelings and you can't bring it hot to them and expect them to just look on.
ReplyDeleteAs a woman you are not suppose to be abusing someone's husband......that depicts you as a lousy person. Work on that please. And it's not on everything you complain. Sometimes, just do like you didn't notice any anomaly.......
God is your strength my sister
You are not even the landlord yet, your hubby is and those tenants are paying. Your type want to be worship. You are just a wife to the landlord Madam, you are nt God ,so stop expecting people to worship you.
ReplyDeleteAbeg leave matter. Her husband owns the house, it's hers too
DeleteMadam you pumped water for almost two hours and it never occurred to you that others that have been without water for same period will wait till all your tanks and containers get filled before they will be allowed to get..... I really pity your tenants.... Wise judgement would ve been to pump water into every tank for 30 mins.... Then go back and start pumping fully from the first tank.... You need to understand that your tenants can also be landlords or landladies...to me you sound proud... Even comments that your hubby did not train u through university is absolutely wrong... God help you...
ReplyDeleteMadam work on your attitude, stop giving your horseband unnecessary problem. I don't wanna quote the Holy Bible to you because I can see you are a Muslim. Try change your kids perception on your tenants. Be nice and greet your tenants.
ReplyDeleteThat yr tenant fit you.
Madam trouble
ReplyDeleteYour tenant can only be an Igbo man. Tell alhaji to have him thrown out. Simple..
ReplyDeleteIf the tenant is an igbo man & alahaji throw him out I give you 5yrs from today he will buy that house. That's an igbo man for you go & ask questions.
DeleteAnonymous & amacastel, you're both bigoted assholes. Shameless children.
DeleteMadam you don't command respect from people but you earn it. You make a lot of noise.
ReplyDeleteImagine wearing your short to go and meet your neighbor. What happens to sending for him to amicably ask him what's up?.
Learn to be humble and classy.
Stella, God bless you. In fact my blood was hot before I read your comment.
ReplyDeleteAlhaja, a little humility will do a lot for you. I don't have energy to type abeg. It seems you come from a poor home and never knew you would be a landlady someday.
I forgot to add, so your tank must be filled before other could get a little water? You are very selfish.
ReplyDeleteMadam i don't get why you would suspect your husband of saying something to them. Has he gossiped about you to others before ? If not, then you are as suspicious AF.
ReplyDeleteThank God for your husband o... If not, your type will use tenants as rag... Like seriously, you could not calm down enough to explain how things happened to your husband. I think your husband is happier when he is not with you. You should work on yourself.
ReplyDeleteFoolish gold digger landlady this is the trait of them. When a woman that doesn't knw she will live in 1 room of her own eventually marries a man that has a house she will want everybody to run inside hut for her.
ReplyDeleteIf am the wife of the man I will beat the hell out of u. Foolish jobless idiotic landlady
madam you sound like you have a very nasty attitude. How can you be so proud of insulting someone? you don't respect and your husband knows that. That is why he barely says anything for the sake of peace. Try to change your attitude and see how they too will change theirs
ReplyDeleteMadam I think u should check yourself, u sound very temperamental. Try and control your anger. They are your tenants does not mean they should be treated as lesser beings. Their safety and well-being should be your aughtmost concern. Advice no be cause.
ReplyDeleteMadam land lady, iron lady, alhaji wife, you too dey feel too big, bring down yourself, humble yourself, as those people dey live for your house no mean say them be your slave, allow them drink water keep cup, women like una Sabi wahala, relax no body tell them gist about you but your pride want finish you.
ReplyDeleteSee as you dey call person husband names cos na your talent, na only you get house? Pack well joor.
You are that has problem. See my tenant tapped light from my gen, when I noticed it, I went straight to him and asked him in a calm voice and he denied, after one week I noticed that he did not remove it, I just quietly called my electrician one Saturday afternoon when there was no light, I on my gen and went straight to their flat with my electrician and when he opened the door I asked the electrician to check and behold we caught him, I did not quarrel o, I just asked the electrician to just disconnect it. The next morning the wife saw me and threw her face to east, me I from south called her and greeted her. Since that day both husband and wife respect me alot. They have become very humble, you don't need to be rude to your tenant. Everything is wisdom. And I also notice you said your daughter ran to you, please don't teach that child how to be wicked and rude because the way you sound is as if your daughter knows that you will take action immediately. Start greeting your tenant and apologise to your hubby for shouting at him. Even if he did not pay your school fees at least he paid your bride price.
ReplyDeleteImagine! Women sometimes do not help matters, throw her face away saybwetin?
DeleteMy landlord allows only his electrician to carry out any electrical installments and uninstallments in the house.
Perfect! 👌👊
DeletePoster you are a very stupid and uncouth idiot without any iota of home training from your poverty stricken family that raised a razz bitch like you that thinks the whole world is at her feet because she got married to a land lord. No be your mates they build houses and go still they humble? I am insulting you because you feel your mouth is filled with venom you can just spit on people. Haba, why call him a bastard when you may actually be the real bastard? You nagged your husband from the house, better tame yourself before co wife join you, else she fit be the one to clip your wings. No use HBP kill your unruly self.
ReplyDeleteThey are your neighbors , stop shouting tenant. You are a bag of trouble. I pity your husband. Native landlady.. Who knows may be na one bush d house dey....
ReplyDeleteMadam agreed o your tenant went out of line. But you have issues serious one, from the post you are obviously a trouble maker, see how you are disrespecting your husband. Coming out around 2 to abuse people,being arrogant. I hope the overwhelming response you have gotten will help you change, if not hubby will start coming home once every year and spending just 1 day
ReplyDeleteI even like the way the tenant told you if it was your husband, he'd explain to him and he'd understand. That statement should've made you reason that it's coz your hubby is a gentle and understanding landlord. As a Landlady, you must learn to deal with difficult tenants otherwise they will make your life a living hell. Apply wisdom in your interaction with them even when they are at fault. Speak calmly and politely and if they don't change, then you can go ahead and take a firmer approach. Goodluck.
ReplyDeleteyou just have to work on yourself.show them love even when they misbehave dont give them what they expect
ReplyDeleteThe worst part is Madam landlady is hiding under anonymous and is fighting everybody saying she is wrong.
ReplyDeleteMadam is paranoid and delusional
Landlord travel and see.
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