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DEALING WITH A MANIPULATIVE MAN

Hello Stella, Hope you are doing good.


My story is a bit lengthy but please bear with me


My brother invited me for his friend's wedding sometime in 2014.The wedding was kind of a reunion as it comprised mostly of ex-students of the university I attended. Along the line, I got talking with this guy who was also an ex-student, was like 2 sets ahead of me and although we weren't really close back in school, it seemed he had a thing for me or so I thought.We both exchanged numbers but at that time, i really didn't want a relationship yet as I was still trying to heal from my past.


I was surprised when the next day, he called that we hook up, I felt it was early soIi said I wasn't available. A few days later, when he called again, i came up with an excuse that i was busy.After our meeting at the meeting, i had also sensed he was somewhat like an authoritative person and so I felt i needed to know him well, maybe start as being friends.


A few months after when I didnt hear from him, I reached out but the way he replied my messages made it obvious he was angry with me. The following year, I came across his profile on a dating platform and decided to contact him.he still acted cold and gave me the silent treatment. Last year (2016), he sends me a friend request and i felt he had come back to his senses.we chatted a few days after and i regularly like his posts and photos on his wall even though he never reciprocated.


Fast forward to a few days ago during the easter break, I decided to send him a message.He replied saying we needed to see asap.Everything was going on smoothly until he said we had history together after I jokingly asked him if he was still vexing with me.To me, history means there was something but in this case we never dated or anything.After asking him what he meant by history he manipulating me into answering first.I had to admit i was avoiding him then before he said he got disgusted with my attitude and that i was an a**(whatever that means) and so he got tired of contacting me.


On asking him if he had a girlfriend as he shared photos of himself with a girl some months back, he queried that it wasn't important as it wouldnt stop us from getting intimate.Things then got heated when he said i was stubborn, defensive, saying our conversations were never productive and I was to blame.This is someone that the both of us had never chatted or sat down down together to talk for even 30 mins and he was already calling me names. At this point, I started regretting reaching out to him and i was pained as I felt he was being manipulative and was playing mind games with me.i wasn't surprised though because my instincts had always told me he was that kind of person.


He sent me a message yesterday that we should meet if i was free.I asked for a suitable time and was already preparing to meet him but would you believe that up till this moment he hasn't replied me nor called.


I want to know if I am the one at fault or if this guy is even worth the wahala or I should just follow my instincts? He collected my number after our conversation but he is yet to call me.I reached out to him because we could be friends first then take it further.


I need advice because I am officially tired of the kind of guys I meet and I feel that I don't just have luck with guys. almost all of them i have had something with are never straight forward with me e.g either they are unavailable or those only after sex. I don't know what to do or am i too emotional?


Stella and BV's,please advice me, Thanks

*What exactly do you need advice for?This relationship is dead on arrival,do not even bother starting a relationship with this man