STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
CROSS ROAD
Good day dear, am always on my phone refreshing ur page. I'm a big fan of u, but hardly comment.
Straight to my point. I'm in a relationship of 4yrs now with a guy I love so much. This Is a guy I can do anything for, I have tried breaking up with him but we end up making up..... Am tired, am confuse I really don't know my stand in the relationship. I don't snoop but I know he is cheating.
Last week was his birthday I saw a lot of girls wishing him happy birthday with some disturbing write ups...
I am tired, I love him so much but can't leave, I'm always the one breaking up with him but he is always coming back saying we re stuck to each other, believe me when I say I have tried going into other relationships but it doesn't work, the last relationship I had with someone else ended...
I am tired, I love him so much but can't leave, I'm always the one breaking up with him but he is always coming back saying we re stuck to each other, believe me when I say I have tried going into other relationships but it doesn't work, the last relationship I had with someone else ended...
Each time I pass the night in the new guys place I see my boy firm in my dream on a serious note, one weekend I went to the new guys place, I saw my boyfriend in my dream on Friday, Saturday and Sunday I had to leave the relationship that weekend.
I hv blocked him from every means of getting to me but he still find his way to get to me.. I hv tried praying about it but each time I pray to God about him to give me a sign or Just allow him leave.. In the mist of the praying he is going to call me, not once, or even twice and am scared... Now he wants to leave the country soon so a training that will take him too years and he is asking me to wait for him..
Am worried, what if after waiting we don't end up together?? Lately he has been saying some marriage stuff indirectly but u can never tell the heart of a man.
I really don't know what to do, I don't know if he wants this relationship as much as I do.
For people that will say I should get busy don't even go there, I have two business already at age 25 and am also a graduate, most times I ask myself what he really want ? I'm not perfect but I know am ok, even his friends are hitting on me, sometimes I tell him about it and we laugh over it.
For people that will say I should get busy don't even go there, I have two business already at age 25 and am also a graduate, most times I ask myself what he really want ? I'm not perfect but I know am ok, even his friends are hitting on me, sometimes I tell him about it and we laugh over it.
So Last night I Jst sent him a massage on whatsapp Asking him to tell me if am not the one for him, he should please tell me and say it out loud. Even if I cry or beg him and wonder what I did wrong, he should not give in, he should not stay, he should be honest about it, he should tell me even if he knows I can't handle it........ He read it and sent a surprise smilieš³
Stella and fellow Bvs please advice me on these .. When ever his call comes into my phone I can feel the joy all over my body all tru the day.... If I am talking about him to anyone before the end of the conversation he is going to call.
These is really tough for me because I want to spend the rest of my life with him but I don't want to look desperate..
Is it right leaving the relationship??
Should I still hang on??
What if he gets married to someone else after waiting??
I don't even know what to type again please pardon my typographical errors because am emotional down right now.
Did u eat his placenta?
ReplyDeleteOr did they tie his blokus with ur placenta?
Babes it's not easy I tell u
DeleteSo you can settle for such???
DeleteMarriage isn't the ishh here.
You can assure him you will wait for him but don't ever try such,never laid ur eggs in one basket.
DeleteYou sound like your period was close when you typed this..full of doubts and uncertainty.Tell him you will not wait unless you are his wife.
DeleteYou should learn to love yourself.
Me, ayam not a soothsayer, so I cannot predict your future. But I sense you already know it won't work. Advice: NEVER build your life around a man. Until that ring is on your finger, OYO is your case.
DeleteWhat bad flaws does he have that you're breaking up and making up? At 25, you're still this overly emotional.
ReplyDeleteEmotions dey get age range?
DeleteChaaaaaiiiš
Lol....I have been in your shoes.
DeleteIt's a Mumu thing, you need to get your brain to remember all the ways he has hurt you and breed hatred for him.
That's what worked for me.
I missed his call yesterday night, he still calls me out of the blues and chats me up saying mushy things. But I know he's not good for me....
He's a classic Beyonce- Poison.
Too emotional mahn! Me i don't pity men oh. Warris all this? Na wa oh! People dey. I had one roomie in uni who was like you. Can loooooooove š Una dey try oh. U love person sotey u see am for dream. Na winsch?
DeleteDear poster you seem like someone I know... If the guy you are referring to has 4 sisters and he his the 2nd child and only boy.... If I'm correct I beg you in the name of God leave him alone we You are only telling us about your boyfriends bad side but you are not telling us yours and please don't forget that none of his family or friends likes you everyone hates you with passion and we don't forget to curse you and your family bcos you have turned him to a fool and your money bag... Go and loose him anywhere you have tied him bcos we will not stop praying till God Puts you and your family to shame and if it's thesame person I know that posted this chronicle why are you lying you are a graduate bcos we all know you are a bloody illiterate and if your level of education is what you call graduate then I am a Phd holder.... ✌š½️
DeletePoster lover girl, you are not serious. I don't even understand what you want. You are confused
DeleteThis lady no be spirit boyfriend you carry so. Chai.
ReplyDeleteYou think everybody is a human being. Abeg enjoy your spirit boyfriend in physical form. hahahahaha.
Ijay abeg wetin i sum all on SP this morning. Abeg leave the tea drinker hand jare.
Spiritual boyfriendšš
DeleteThe guy don charm her na. He don nack pigeon for her head.
Deleteššššš
DeleteMaybe they have both used pigeon on each other's head, so they are now stuck.
DeleteYou know he cheats yet you want to become 'mario' on his case?
ReplyDeleteBabe don't prepare yourself for a life of chronicles in future o. The decision is still yours to make. Enjoy your day.
Lmao @mario
DeletePoster,you really like this guy...
ReplyDeleteWell,marry him and chain him spiritually so you can enjoy your marriage with him...
That's what most correct women do to their husband wey their dick no dey stay one place!...
I just lucky say u nor marry person like me..
DeleteU for don run mad coz ur jazz go dey backfire for ya head..
And I for fuck all ur friends join....
Linda linda Eze hahaha
DeleteLolz
DeleteQueen up hubby must be walking around with lots of chains...I feel so sorry for him
DeleteHahahahaha
DeleteHahahahahha. Na wa!
DeleteQueen biko i need that chain ooo. How is it done sef? Kai
DeleteIf you pray for a polygamous home, marry that guy, if not, leave him and never go back to him, trust me, you won't die. The guy is just using you to while away time. He knows you love him, and most people like to marry who loves them than how they love them in return, so that anytime they wrong or cheat on the person, the love such person have will make them to forgive them. That's exactly what your man is doing with you.
ReplyDelete*Larry was here*
U get senseš
DeleteSometimes our minds play tricks on us. Your dream of the guy when you are with another cos your heart is with him thats all. He calls you when you ask God for a sign because you will him in your mind to call you. God is telling you nothing or maybe he is and its what you dont want to hear so you choose to believe something else. He has a strong hold on you this guy. Only you can break it but it cannot be broken till you actually want it broken. There's a difference between wanting other relationships and wanting other relTionship just because you want to forget about another guy. Really decide in your heart you want to let him go. Yes allow yourself cry. It will make you feel better. Learn to distance yourself emotionally when it comes to dating. Remind yourself of all the wrongs he did you. Keep doing so and you will finally let go
ReplyDeleteThe signs are so glaring ,yet she is still looking for answers
DeleteOn point.
DeleteYou really want us to agree with you that your supposed boyfriend is using jazz right?
ReplyDeleteDarling, you're wasting your time with this man. You have 2 businesses yet you can't focus on them while you take time to meet the right man for you.
All these assumptions that he is all seeing and knowing is all in your head. You believe it doesn't mean it's real. You have placed him above everyone and everything that even if you meet a good and better man you still won't leave this time waster.
He is travelling abroad and wants you wait. Are you a waiter? No friends to hang out with? No projects to implement? No courses or skill to learn?
You want to wait for a man who is simply playing with your feelings because he knows how much you love him.
Love is never enough and some times in situations like this, it's best to apply wisdom.
If he wants to marry you then he should meet your people and say his intentions. Stop expecting a man to break up with you before you decide to move on. He doesn't own you and shouldn't wield so much power over the decisions you take. If you want to move on then do so unapologetically and without remorse. You will do way better without him and that's the only time you will meet your God given man.
A man still getting free pussy when and how he wants it will never own up and tell you he doesn't want you. He will fuck you even before he takes the woman he wants to marry to the alter.
Be wise.
Ure so on point,ur comments are very intelligent and i totally agree with ur pointš
DeleteI look forward to reading your comment always. You are indeed one of a kind. So filled with wisdom and power to guide. Your family should be proud of you!.
DeleteThis is the best advice. Please just follow it and spare yourself a life filled with chronicles.
DeleteYes. D Lady is good n intelligent. I n my husband do talk about her nice comments
DeleteFirst of all, u are dating a fvck boy. Secondly, can u say for sure that u are the only lady he asked to wait for him while he travels?. Are u chick number what? Surprise smiley? Are u stupid? Is that ur level of esteem? Does he flaunt u on ssocial media and Co? . I'm tired of typing
ReplyDeleteHarsh ,very true and absolutely necessary
DeleteFirst of all, u are dating a fvck boy. Secondly, can u say for sure that u are the only lady he asked to wait for him while he travels?. Are u chick number what? Surprise smiley? Are u stupid? Is that ur level of esteem? Does he flaunt u on ssocial media and Co? . I'm tired of typing
ReplyDeleteWait fire! I v bin there and done dat, d bastard came back to wed his wife he met abroad, u better don't. Try, for heaven sake u just said he is cheating and u can see d signs, pls move on abeg, abi he dey gbenesh u well, as for u seeing I'm all d time, stop having sex wit him when u on ur period, and. Even stop totally, go b4 God and seek His face, young lady use ur head to think not ur pussy.
ReplyDeleteOnly one who's been there will understand I swear
DeletePoster digest this!
Poster the guy has a bomb(Mayan)dick period! You are just stuck on his sweet dick nothing more!
ReplyDeleteListen to True by Brandy
ReplyDeleteThere's nothing worse than been in love aloneš§š§š¼š¶š¶š¼
I was once in ur position and it made me understand a man who loves u truly won't hurt u continuously
If a man loves u,ur tears will pierce his heart.
Ur anger will make him sober
Ur touch will be all he craves for
Ur smile will soothe his soul
Ur words will be like a healing balm to his wounds
He will cherish u so much and make u feel like u are the only girl in the world ..
Now gather ur self esteem from the bin where u left it
Let him go,trust me its not gonna be easy at all but trust me u will be glad u did.
He knows u can't let him go hence his non chanllant behavior, so my dear shock him! Let him go!
You deserve better and ur prince charming is waiting for u.
I left that kind of relationship last year November ...it shook me to the bone but I willingly let go...I found the best man the following month .I've not properly healed cos I think about all the times I wasted (4yrs) but I'm in a better place now.
Iwish u so much happiness but if u still insist on being with this guy ,then I wish u well sisš
Kisses IBk
DeletePoster Read this...infact absorb this well
Beyonce - Poison will work.
DeleteMain...
*mehn...been there, done that.
DeleteI literally wanted him to "kiss me one more time before I die.."
Till I met my man and it was like comparing granite to diamond.
......Is it true,that I am not the only one,is it true that u r just having fun with my heart,I need an answer. Is it true ,is it true????....
DeleteMy anthem in 2009 .
Poster,u love the guy but he is playing you. Its gonna be hard but you can move ahead without him. Don't receive any ring from him to tie you dow n for two years pls.
Take this advice poster
DeletePlease I need information about Special fraud unit at Ikoyi. I want to know the necessary steps to take before going there. It is urgent and life threatening.
ReplyDeleteWhistle blower ?
DeleteDem they talk love you dey talk police. Na wetin the worry me about Nigerians be that. Always off point
DeletePoster it is all in your head. You love him so much that it seems you are obsessed with him. You will your head with him all the time and can't think straight when it concerns him.
ReplyDeleteYou have allowed him invade your whole being.
Only you can help yourself. Read books on loving yourself and books that make you confident about you. Stop spending your time daydreaming about him. He might not be doing anything diabolical to keep you but you just filling your head with him.
And jumping into another relationship cannot help if the issue has not been dealt with. Purge yourself of him so that you can think straight and know if he is really the one for you.
So true!!
DeleteShe thinks bout him 247, so his calls meets her wen she's prayin, sleepin, eating, shitting... She must be overpaying customers sef, cus her mind has travellled
Everyone hardly comments....
ReplyDeleteI kind of understand your "stuck in" relationship, I know a couple who have been on and off, they know within themselves they can't be together but they are hellbent over each other. Is he your first? Because most times, that's usually the situation.. I'll be back to read comments meanwhile between the two us, your grammatical errors is much more than a typo. (Ps:my last statement is between the poster and I)
I feel you are more into him than he is into you. If he really wants to marry you like he says, there is nothing wrong in him doing something serious like intro and trad before leaving. I think he is only talking about marriage to hold you down.
ReplyDeleteSweetie give yourself brain, all those seeing in dreams are just psychological. You have attached yourself so much to him that you feel you can't move on without him, wait till he finds someone before you....
Do not put all your eggs in one basket. You are only cheating if you both are married according to Reno. So dear, his leaving the country shouldn't stop you from living your life. You only live once.
Oh chimuooo
ReplyDeleteShould love be this complicated ? ? ?
Just pray for the best
DeleteI've been there
Poster get a hold of yourself pls.wth is all this nonsense talk .my friend enter dry fasting for one week.who knows whr this one don go chain ur spirit keep. Yre 25 break up with this mofo and forge ahead.no time for delays pls .
ReplyDeleteIf u think long & hard about anythg, you sure would dream about it as a pleasant dream or nightmare, i used to dream so.mch about my landlord when my rent is almost due, lol.... Dreams are mostly our subconscious thoughts mixed up with mental reality we weren't done processing, so scrap that! Its not a divine message that he's the right one 4u, but with so mch love energy from ur end & the coincedence uve keyed into, ure sure to let urself marry this dude, ignoring his flaws u don't agree with, i always tell folks that come to me for mental therapy (lol) that " in a relationship, you've got to close one door b4 opening another" you might say " its over" "we're done" " your dick is always flaccid".....lol etc & you jump into another arm u think is ur knight in shinning armour or ur messiah, making him the rebound guy, why'd u think rebound barely works out? Id tell u why..... Cus ure still very mch emotionally connected to ur ex, & then the comparises starts showing cracks. With this ur mindset poster, you can't even be happy is u date Mark zuckerberg, u'd enjoy the money yeah, but the heart wants wat it wants.... If u think u can deal with infidelity & look the other way, then take the risk & wait.... But i wldnt advise u shut other guys out totally.
ReplyDeleteMy CBvs boo
DeleteI'm always ready to read from uš
Have I ever told you I love you,I LOVE YOUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUU.
DeleteYou've never told me oh..
DeleteOk now u hv, lol.
@Ibuku, didn't peg u for sum1 who knws mch bout love, uv always seemed troublesome 2me.
Okoko poster, continue with him another chronicles loading smh
ReplyDeleteGive your life to Jesus and be prayerful.
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry poster but this your chronicle is annoying!
ReplyDeleteCan't deal abeg!
Try and control your emotion and put him in a state of confusion by not calling him nor sending in message, if he truely loves you, he will call to ask if all is well.( he is playing with your emotion).
ReplyDeleteZainab go and google them. You know everything is now google
ReplyDeleteLolzz My friend wake up and have a steelheart like me..You are simply building castles in the air and making fleeces, doing 'Tunbo Tunbo'with yourself..U think at 25, you have achieved all and all..My Dear you better grow up and move on with your life..Dont Allow one 'Agavu' to west your time..
ReplyDeleteI Recommend these songs to you to listen.
Imagine me-Kirk Franklin
Strong Enough- Cher
Never Knew My Strength-Whitney Houston
I will Survive-Gloria Guynor
Poster, did u say these lovey dovey stuffs for bvs to advice u to wait for him? U already know he cheats what else do want? If u know u can stomach all his shortcomings, u can go ahead and wait. But be on the alert.
ReplyDeleteAll in your mind, think of other things then gradually forget him
ReplyDeleteLove has its own butterflies nd rainbows,but it hurts when someone you love the most doesn't love you right back..So to say,unrequited love is an ultimate form of rejection.Girl,wear your crown and make an exit from that kill-joy relationship!Don't let anybody have power over your happiness and ruin your emotional sanity.You will be fine.Cease to love the most in your next relationship.
ReplyDeletePoster I absolutely been there. This guy knows d state ur heart is in concerning him and he is just using u as past time. He does not love u now,maybe he did before. His travelling abroad is ur God sent opportunity to get over him. Mine was my one year nysc. MAKE USE of this 2 years. Thank God u are stil very young. I bet u when u are over him he wil seem like thrash to u. I did it. You can
ReplyDeletePoster thank God you already have a Job that's means you can take care of your self he is not feeding you, and with all the off and on mode he is into it shows he has other babes he is fucking don't heed to him telling you to wait you will Jst turn methuselah pray to God for a better person someone who will be crazy about you and love you unconditionally take that humble decision and leave the fuck boi alone for real this time around however he might think you will make up again as usual but if you knw what's good for yourself and you want to live happy take a step ahead.
ReplyDeleteDear poster,the bros no use jazz oo,it's emotional manipulation and it's working on you because you want it to.it would actually been easier to move on if sex was not involved(no judging you o)but please pray hard and u will not only forget him but get a better man.he just wants to keep you here for keeps oo,trust me do he's getting a boo d moment he lands wherever he's going.please hold on tight and free yourself,its in ur hands dear!!!you won't be this downcasted if he's right for u,your instinct is telling you to run but u don't want to try!!
ReplyDeleteBeen there done that. I feel like he went a bit spiritual cos was so tied to going back to him, despite so much abuse I faced.I think you are in a toxic relationship n I feel u should like really move on. Its difficult, yes. U probably need a reality check, pray its not too late when u do. Try to move on especially now he's going away. Take time out for yourself, no need to jump to a rebound yet. You'll definitely meet someone better.
ReplyDeleteYou dont need any advice.
ReplyDeleteLet me give you my humble opinion. I think you are scared,insecure and listen to a lot of general comments on SDK. From all you mentioned above you didn't say he is cheating, you don't have evidence, you have not snooped and merely said you have broken up with him several times. I feel you were intimidated by the number and class of babes giving him attention on his birthday.And the dreams you had were all psychological cause you were cheating on him cause if you have issues which is common in every relationship you don't start dating someone else and sleeping over and after a while you go back to your Ex. You should first close your Ex chapter, clean your emotional slate and turn a new relationship page. So you seems confused cause you see a lot of good qualities in him and you know that's why a lot of ladies also flock round him. My advice to you is very blunt and can break or make the relationship. But you must follow it to the latter. Call him for a heart to heart talk in person. Ask him if he really wants to settle down with you. If it's a YES from him then ask if he is cheating on you. Don't expect him to own up. So tell him you are willing to forgive him even if he is cheating but from that moment you need a fresh and assuring start. Then immediately as for his phone. If he gives you without any resistance you are the ONE and that means he respects you. If NOT.....keeping moving and don't look back. If he he gives you and you find he has been having other affairs then ask him to delete it all. Cause you are equally guilty and must also have contributed in both of you having back-up relationships. Be ready to take charge of your man and not being in charge of the relationship. The mistakes a lot of ladies make is the want to be in charge by dictating how things go which the man will resist because of his ego but when you take charge of your man by laying claim to him then you will be fine. U will ask how do you take charge.... By talking and making plans on life changing issues. Your business, his career, his plans, settling down and what the two of you hope to achieve in a period of 1-5 years. This will show if there is future in the relationship. If in 5years he can't say things like we would have been married and you must have had our second child.Then OYO is your case?
ReplyDeleteYou know what to do..... WALK AWAY!!!
ReplyDeleteThis scenario is what u get when the lady loves the guy more..one will begin to think with the heart rather than ur head..babes wake up now and take a walk out of this super toxic relationship. .if not that truly love is blind..why would a sane being keep falling in love with a flirt..am I destined for unhappiness?may God see us all thru..
ReplyDeletePoster!!!!! This your case is the reason why the Bible said we should not fornicate cause sex is a spiritual form of agreement.... Ride on!!!!!! Ride on!!!!!
ReplyDeleteposter so his friends are hitting on you like tboss abi? i hope you are not a cheap commodity? it is only cheap commodities that guys hit on anyhow.
ReplyDeleteallow him to travel, by the time he is not in this country i think you would have borrowed brain and make up your mind to move ahead, you have already wasted four years of your precious life and now you want to still waste two beautiful years to wait for a man that is cheating on you, weldon sister am 25 years old with two businesses and i don't know what he want. he will waste your beautiful years and dump you.
Sister, all I can deduce from this ur chronicle is that you are a very confused someborry.. and I don't have patience for confusion...
ReplyDeletePoster....I will tell you one thing, you can't force love. If you show love to someone and he's not reciprocating give the person space.
ReplyDeleteAfter given the him space, he may start missing you and realise how important to him, you've become and then he will be the one pursuing all over the place......
So for now, give him a wide space.....
Heaven and hell is real
ReplyDeleteAfter being in relationship with markiss for seven years,he broke up with me, I did everything possible to bring him back but all was in vain, I wanted him back so much because of the love I have for him, I begged him with everything, I made promises but he refused. I explained my problem to someone online and she suggested that I should rather contact a spell caster that could help me cast a spell to bring him back but I am the type that never believed in spell, I had no choice than to try it, I mailed the spell caster, and he told me there was no problem that everything will be okay before three days, that my ex will return to me before three days, he cast the spell and surprisingly in the second day, it was around 4pm. My ex called me, I was so surprised, I answered the call and all he said was that he was so sorry for everything that happened, that he wanted me to return to him, that he loves me so much. I was so happy and went to him, that was how we started living together happily again. Since then, I have made promise that anybody I know that have a relationship problem, I would be of help to such person by referring him or her to the only real and powerful spell caster who helped me with my own problem and who is different from all the fake ones out there. Anybody could need the help of the spell caster, his email: drosemudiamenspellhome@gmail.com you can email him if you need his assistance in your relationship or anything. I CAN NEVER STOP TALKING ABOUT HIM, HIS EMAIL ADDRESS IS: drosemudiamenspellhome@gmail.com CONTACT HIM NOW FOR SOLUTION TO ALL YOUR PROBLEM
ReplyDeleteUna Don reach here demons
DeleteThis boy has not proposed to you; has he?
ReplyDeleteYou are the one proposing to him; that's called desperation; isn't it?
You "sleep over in his house" and you pray to God?
Are you telling us you are not having sex; fornication which God regards as sin?
How many times have you aborted for this boy; or are you infertile?
If a girl aborted for your brother or has been desperate to marry your brother will you advice your brother to go ahead?
You've been in a relationship for a while and this boy is leaving you to go outside Nigeria where "women do not exist"; why hasn't he even proposed to you since talk less of marrying you?
You are married to him already na
ReplyDeleteJeez....4 yrs.
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