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PHYSICAL INTIMACY AND MARRYING IN THE CHURCH
Good Day Stella, I'm an avid reader of your blog even though I hardly comment but every morning when I wake up i check your blog like it's the morning paper, you're doing an awesome work ma, thank you for this platform.
I'm a 22 years old graduate of business education from a reputable state university in Nigeria and I've been dating my girlfriend for 8 months now, she is also 22, we are crazily in Love with each other and we are both Christians attending a very famous Pentecostal church in Nigeria (that one that has parishes on every street corner lol).
My dillema now is that for the 8 months we have been dating we make out a lot(she likes giving me hand jobs) and on 3 to 4 occasions I've used my fingers to pleasure her down there but we have both agreed not to do the real deal (gbensh) till after marriage (we are not virgins though).
We plan to get married in 3 years and she has always dreamt of having a nice Christian/Church wedding as she is the first and only daughter of her parents and I'm also the only son of my parents who are strict Christians. Now to my question, Is it possible to have a church wedding when we have been physically intimate to that extent? Please i need constructive and honest answers from blog readers and most importantly your red pen, thanks in advance.
N. B. I attached our pictures (for your eyes only ma)
I dont know anything about the rules of Church wedding and intimacy so i will have to read as well.
Good Day Stella, I'm an avid reader of your blog even though I hardly comment but every morning when I wake up i check your blog like it's the morning paper, you're doing an awesome work ma, thank you for this platform.
I'm a 22 years old graduate of business education from a reputable state university in Nigeria and I've been dating my girlfriend for 8 months now, she is also 22, we are crazily in Love with each other and we are both Christians attending a very famous Pentecostal church in Nigeria (that one that has parishes on every street corner lol).
My dillema now is that for the 8 months we have been dating we make out a lot(she likes giving me hand jobs) and on 3 to 4 occasions I've used my fingers to pleasure her down there but we have both agreed not to do the real deal (gbensh) till after marriage (we are not virgins though).
We plan to get married in 3 years and she has always dreamt of having a nice Christian/Church wedding as she is the first and only daughter of her parents and I'm also the only son of my parents who are strict Christians. Now to my question, Is it possible to have a church wedding when we have been physically intimate to that extent? Please i need constructive and honest answers from blog readers and most importantly your red pen, thanks in advance.
N. B. I attached our pictures (for your eyes only ma)
I dont know anything about the rules of Church wedding and intimacy so i will have to read as well.
Both of you are so young,why thinking of Marriage now?I just wanted to catch you both in a bear hug from the photos and ask you to stop worrying....
The way i see it,it will happen soon if you both dont concentrate on something else....too much physical intimacy will eventually lead to s3x.
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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
DESPERATELY TORN BETWEEN TWO MEN
Dear Stella,
My name is Linda, am a chronic reader of your blog. I must confess u are doing a great job. Please I need your candid advice and that of BVs.
Please do not publish my name.
I have two men asking my hand in marriage, one is my ex for over seven years and the other is a senior colleague of mine.
I broke up with my ex because I was not in love with him but he was crazily in love with me and still want me back for keeps after everything I did to him.
He is a good man with a heart of gold, has a good job, no kids yet. And it pains me that I don't love him.
The other one has five kids from three different women, two with his ex wife and three with two concubines. He is also a good guy very generous and kind but an average income earner. Obviously I have fallen for this guy, he has promised to stand by me no matter what.
Dear Stella,
My name is Linda, am a chronic reader of your blog. I must confess u are doing a great job. Please I need your candid advice and that of BVs.
Please do not publish my name.
I have two men asking my hand in marriage, one is my ex for over seven years and the other is a senior colleague of mine.
I broke up with my ex because I was not in love with him but he was crazily in love with me and still want me back for keeps after everything I did to him.
He is a good man with a heart of gold, has a good job, no kids yet. And it pains me that I don't love him.
The other one has five kids from three different women, two with his ex wife and three with two concubines. He is also a good guy very generous and kind but an average income earner. Obviously I have fallen for this guy, he has promised to stand by me no matter what.
The problem here is I am scared of spending the rest of my life with him because of his kids and their mothers and also considering the fact that times are hard I don't intend to raise such a large family, but I love this guy and he loves me too.
Should I just say yes to my ex and learn to love him when we are married? As age is no longer on my side, I will be 32 this year and don't have kids yet.
Please advice
Should I just say yes to my ex and learn to love him when we are married? As age is no longer on my side, I will be 32 this year and don't have kids yet.
Please advice
At 32 you cannot make up your mind about whether you want to Marry for love or out of desperation?When you make up your mind on the REASON you want to marry,Making a choice will be so easy.
If you want love,choose the man with kids and handle whatever comes your way with Solomon's wisdom..If you are desperate to marry choose the man without kids.....
CBV is here
ReplyDeleteBrb
Poster 2:I've said it before and I will say it again,when u are in a cross road between two men go for the one who loves you more than you love him!!!,believe it or not as women we are kinda programmed to love a man who shows us love and cares for us, have u ever wondered why our grand mothers loved their husbands without courtship?,
DeletePoster 1:it is best u ask your pastor, in my own church you can get married even when you are heavily pregnant or have given birth to kids, it is not as if they are encouraging promiscuity but because they believe in reconciling sinners back to God as the bible says the repentance of one sinner brings great joy in heaven,all the same avoid staying in a private place together and seek forgiveness from God
Advice from the pit of hell!!! In marriage 2 becomes 1, there's no issue of who loves who more, do you think this is secondary school? So what happens when the love begins to diminish and you end up loving him more than he allegedly loves you? Bask in your ignorance, don't drag people into what you don't know
DeleteP2 the exact way you feel for this player/womaniser and are falling for his charm is the same way his ex and concubines once felt, but their love for him and perception of his love for them didn't shield them from the price they are paying now! Wise up
DeleteGo for the single man!!!
DeleteNo need for marriage with plenty baggage!!!
P1, well you guys are doing it in another way so to say, let your mind be the judge. P2, it is up to you to decide. You know what you want
ReplyDeletePoster 2, Na wa truly age is just a number. Better marry the first man and rest. See what you are falling and dying for, love fire. Mtcheew
DeleteVery stupid chronicles. My dog can answer wouldn't have had to ask. Mmmtttccheewwww!!!!!!!!!
DeleteNarrative numero uno: dd u say three years from now n u guys are already striking matches wen u ain't ready to cook.
ReplyDeleteWeh done bros
Weh done sisi
I've learnt a new one today "striking matches when you're not ready to cook".
DeletePoster one let your conscience be the judge.
Poster two you want to marry a divorcee that already has five children for three different women oya clap for yourself 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏, after three women what is to say that he won't fall out of love with you and fall in love with someone else by then you'll probably have at least one child for him and then when you realize how foolishly you left someone who loved you for someone with so much baggage. My dear use your tongue to count your teeth.
Happy birthday stunning slim Shady, IWULL'N'P. May God bless your new age. Age gracefully.
DeletePoster one, be physically n mentally mature before u pursue woman.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 is mad o. How can she even be considering the guy with 3 baby mamas? It shows that he is loose. Do you want to die before your time? What makes you so sure that he didn't behave the way he is behaving to you now with the other baby mamas? If he could dump them despite their kids, what makes you think that he won't dump you after marriage? Where is your brain?😡
DeleteHahahah Redeemite people. see wetin una dey write. Have you guys gone for lets go a fishing? Two mumu children
ReplyDeletePoster 2... You want a real package. Man with 5 children. Abeg go for the one with 5 children since you no get sense.
Abeg let me wait for my telemundo jare. Big boss is not around at all. Na me and the office
Yori Yori.. y u come mention d Church name!!! Abeg forget abt church ooo,it. Applicable to so many ppl. Any ways
DeletePoster1 : received sense nd start something reasonable doing
Poster2 : at 32 u still dey fine sense too..everyone sitting or standing on ur brain I send thunder wit current of lighting to dat person..
You're a clown girl! Your advice to those babies up there 👆🏻👆🏻👆🏻👆🏻👆🏻👆🏻👆🏻
DeletePoster one go ahead and get married. No need waiting
DeletePoster 2, so because you're 32 with no kids of your own yet you want to shoulder the cross o other women and take in 5kids? So how will that help you in anyway when your be busy taking care of other people's children and fighting off baby mama's.
ReplyDeleteWondering how you went from not loving a guy with no baggage to falling in love with all the kaya is this world.
Not 1 child o but 5 from different women.
God hates divorce, he is divorced and you want to still put your elf in the equation. You clearly do not know what you want or know that you deserve much more than you are allowing yourself to have.
Please start to pray ehn for God to give you direction. You can walk away from both men and ask God to give you your own man.
Poster 1, Redeemed right? LOL
Well 3 years is a long time to wait and anything can happen between now and 3 years.
If you don't want sex till marriage then stop doing the things that can and will lead to sex. How long can you both hold out for? Stop it.
*Cross of
Delete*you'd
*falling in love with a man with all the kaya in this world
*put yourself.
Sigh, typed rubbish.
I dislike poster 2 so much, no sense @ all
DeletePoster two, at ur age, common sense has eluded u, seems u have a penchant for emotional pain. A man with kids from ex wives n different concubines is whom u call a good man?
ReplyDeleteChim oooooooo
Don't mind that poster 2. Later u will write chronicle to Sdk about the ex and concubines. It is better when the man loves u more. Pls just stick to the guy without baggage at all.
DeletePoster1, u guys shld just gbensh already. What is the difference?
Don't mind the poster2 smh
DeletePoster 2.... It is better to marry the one that loves you'crayfishingly'. I don't like men with baggages.
ReplyDeletePoster 1.... Continue. Just know that molfix is more expensive than always.
Oga.Leave hand job and fingering women for now. Use your youthful age to chase money and invest in ur future...Leave women and Toto for now
ReplyDeleteLmaoooo @ leave hand job and fingering women for now😂 James u no well
DeletePoster 1 please here is not a play ground where you ask stupid questions.
ReplyDeletePoster 2, ijikwa uvuru gi?? At least consider your parents naw, how can you chose darkness over light. Nna mehn your village people no one make ebetter for you.
Dz babe eeeeh 😆😆😆😆😆😆
DeleteNo be small ijikwa uvuru gi😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅
😂 😂😂
DeleteFan Emmanuel, I fell off my bed at your advice to Poster 1.
Oh, my days. What a question from a 22 year old.
Hahahaha!
Chai!
DeleteFan Fan, na you be the Emmanuel.
DeleteLol@ your advice.
💯likes for the advice (question)
Fan, that your dialete don kill me with laughter.
DeleteI wonder why girls leave the good guys for the Rastafarians. If you do not know what you want at 32, my dear OYO is your case
ReplyDeletePoster 1 when you start marriage counselling, they will ask you if you've had sex. It's your answer that will determine if the counselling will continue or not. If you lie to them you can't lie to God. If you're strict christians, you should know what the bible says about what you both are doing. I will advice you change your ways to avoid guilt when that time comes.
ReplyDeleteIt's never too late to repent.
Narrative numero deux: Linda weh done, kindly contact pastor Krix on ds blog for prayers n counselling on d other hand ask bv lovemejeje for her Bishop's number.
ReplyDeleteAm out
Poster one
ReplyDelete@22 you both are already thinking of marriage! It's even okay for the girl to be thinking of marriage now cos she's a woman, but you? What do you know about marriage?
I think you both should be more focused on making your relationship work,getting to know each other better, than worrying about church wedding first.
Please take your time! Love is never enough in marriage, don't rush into it to avoid regrets!
I wish you two all the best.
Becky so a 22 a person isn't allowed to think of Marriage. Only a woman is supposed to think of it abi. Here's a bright young man wanting to start early and be responsible. After it's you ladies that will complain there are too many fuxkboys out there. And what makes the lady the better one to start considering marriage as an option at 22. Mstcheeew.
DeleteRowland are you the poster? If you're not, kindly waka pass my comment! You Do Not have to agree with me, but please don't come under me to type crap again!!
DeleteBright young man indeed! Don't go and make your own money oo, stay there and be relying on your parent's wealth. Pussy don hungry you tire! Talk truth kwakwakwakwakwakwa
Poster 2 seriously? You are confused? Follow your heart.
ReplyDeletePoster2,age is truly not on ur side.What hv u been doing when u were fresh and young. I guess u were doing shakara for correct guys. Now u hv two bad choices to makes .
ReplyDeletePoster 2, marry a man that loves you more. You already have issues with the status of the new guy. Go back to your ex or leave both of them.
ReplyDeleteIs 32years a death sentence?
Me as I dey here so,I must marry a man that loves me note than I love him
DeleteI can't shout
Stella,nwanyi oma i hail oo,1st poster abeg let things flow,if marriage,intimacy,etc will come,your relationship will ease into it.Your are not too young to marry,but too young to handle the roller coaster called marriage.Enjoy your youth.Nancy says so
ReplyDelete2nd poster abeg no stress your ex,you no like am,leave him for another woman who will appreciate him.You rather want to marry a man with children from multiple wives,who says he will not have more after u are married?B wise
@Poster 1,at 22 you ought to have matured more than this now, even some churches weds pregnant couple let alone Your Own, will they carry out virginity test on you?
ReplyDelete@Poster2, it's a pity you don't love your ex, I have some men like that, they love me with everything but I can't even pretend to love any of them, but @32,your ex is a better option than that man with 5kids from 2 women, please manage your ex, I pray you grow to love him, if not you will surely cheat on him and you won't even feel remorse about it
*Larry was here*
Poster two..
ReplyDeleteAre you okay?
Like are you seriously considering marrying that second man with all that heavy baggage he's got? At 32, why do you reason like a child?
It's always better to marry a man that loves you more than you love him. That your Ex will make the perfect husband bcos he loves, cares and adores you.. So why are you not in love with him! Is he not handsome enough? Sexy enough? Does he not dab as much as you'd like? Flex you the way you want?
I'm asking these because it's silly things like these that makes us girls leave the good men for the bad heartbreakers. Nne give yourself brain and stop acting stupid.
The second guys resume is scary,five kids from 3 different women 😳something is wrong somewhere(meaning 3 different baby mamas WAHALA). 4get love and run🏃🏃🏃🏃🏃🏃🏃. Except you can handle it-goodluck.
ReplyDeleteDont put pressure on your self is better to marry late than marry a wrong guy. Give your self sometime.
Plus 2 from an ex wife. And she says he is good man. Stupidity at its peak.
DeletePoster 2 whatever you do, do not pick the man with kids. He doesn't sound like a responsible man that can keep a marriage. He might just be a lover boy and you are his current conquest.
ReplyDeleteHow did u date a guy for 7 years and did not love him? Whatever the case, marriage is serious business and you have to make sure it is with someone that you can spend the REST OF YOUR LIFE with. We dont want a part 2 of this chronicles.
Sometimes we ladies carry ourselves into so many complications. Poster 2, I can't believe you are asking such stupid question,after yu will send in chronicles, get married to the man and after one or two kids he would marry another person. Since you want our advice,its better you marry a man who loves you more than whom you love. If you like drama,go and be the third wife inugo?
ReplyDelete1, when elders hear a stupid question from a child, they become quiet but since you sent this in, here:
ReplyDeleteFace your school, graduate well, vow and work towards becoming that man you'll be proud of in future.
Things will fall into place then. Right now, you and your question reeks of immaturity.
2. May that blindfold (cos it's not love) be lifted from thine eyes. How can you want that kinda baggage at 32 and for the rest of your precious life? Mind blowing, but what do I know? Different strokes for different folks.
I would say go back to your ex - which is the better option - but you don't want him.
Pray for wisdom.
Poster 1: The two of you are innocently curious and you are playing with matches that I hope you won't strike. Anyway, my humble opinion is you don't know what it is you want. Sex is easy..all you need is a dick and Toto which you both have and gbam! But are you ready for the result and consequences. It's good you are both young and in love. What's your immediate plan and future plans? Are you employed? Have you guys started paying your bills? Guess you have too much time on your hands. It's good to love but it comes with a lot of responsibilities. On what your church will say? My advice is save yourselves the drama. Avoid touching yourselves except in public. Try and put some measures in place so that you don't have sex. And channel your energy on developing your career and personal growth.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: I laugh when a greedy grown woman start acting the fool. You know exactly what you want and I will tell you. You are crazy about your Senior colleague dick cause he is been banging you in every available space in the office. He is a reckless dick and I wonder why women just walk into burning fire. With 5 kids and 3 or more women in his life you think he loves you? Wait till another young girl starts working in your office. The reason why you don't love the other guy is he is a gentleman who values you but doesn't have the time to be banging you all over the place like a whore. At 32 you are asking who you should pick from this two men. OYO is your case.....
This is a good reply. Poster 2 s just a whore!!!
DeleteAt 32, u still naughtiness as love. The guy will you old move to the next one. Stupid somebody...
Fix it lord
ReplyDeleteMarriage is like Christ and the church; Eph. 5
ReplyDeleteChrist became the bridegroom of the church when he paid with his blood.
The moment you pay her bride price, you are her husband and only then are you meant to have sex. You will not see a "church wedding" in both old and new testament; if you see kindly write one for me under this comment. Nothing is wrong with celebrating in the church though; just telling you the scripture about marriage
Right now, what you are involved in is impurity; check Gal. 5:19; it is a work of the flesh.
If you and this girl as Christians should begin to fast and pray and study the scriptures together toward the marriage you are going to embark on; you will have peace and not indulge in this impure act that has robbed you of your peace and hence this chronicle.
I am a Christian guy like you and married my wife after four years of courtship and by the grace of God we did not indulge in lewd acts; I just wrote what we did; having times we fast and pray together and study the scriptures.
The problem with Christians is that a lot of folks concentrate on what "the rules of the church" is rather that the rules and teachings of Christ.
Poster 1, As a Christian, this forum is not where you should ask this question. Yoir have your bible as your life manual and know the right thing to do now and that is to discontinue pleasuring each other sexually with your hands. God forgives every wrong and whether you are virgins or not when u get married, He loves you still. Pls stop and let that relationship be celibate.
ReplyDeletePoster 2, marry a man that loves you, not a man you love. Don't even think about papa 5. Sometimes love is not enough. I am sure he is a smooth talker that's why he ended up with 5 kids.
Follow the guy that loves you !
The secret of a long and lasting marriage is to marry a man that loves you and not a man that you love. Decide
ReplyDelete2. I think you should worry more about the fact that the 2nd guy has concubines and was once married. Hnmmm this isn't a good sign babe. What if you're added to the list later and he marries another? The baggage this guy is carry tie wrapper abeg.
ReplyDeleteLook out for the single guy and my mum once told me that it's to a woman's advantage if she marries a man that loves her more. Babe love is not everything in marriage, you need your peace of mind please. It's still your decision to make.
1. Please forget about sex now and go out there to make more money, be mature mentally to handle marriage. Let it not be that when you're 30, the whole thing will won't mean anything to you and you might start cheating. Face front first.
Poster 2. Pele o. The same way he promised to stand by you was the same way he promised to stand by his ex wife and concubines.
ReplyDelete@poster 2...you should borrow some sense ooo.. You will soon be 4th wife as he will also plan to marry the fifth... Don't go and start your life with a fresh man and be thinking of marrying badly used man... So annoying for an agbalagba like you to think that way.
ReplyDeletePoster 1....God be with you both
@poster 2...you should borrow some sense ooo.. You will soon be 4th wife as he will also plan to marry the fifth... Don't go and start your life with a fresh man and be thinking of marrying badly used man... So annoying for an agbalagba like you to think that way.
ReplyDeletePoster 1....God be with you both
this thing called love na wa o! pls poster2 if u can it will be very profitable to leave both men,or marry ur ex. leave baba of 5children plus 4baby mamas..save ur self d stress! its not like dis baba 5kids is Aliko Dangote!
ReplyDeletePoster1: u both should gbensh now,quit asking stupid questions,who even told u both u gonna marry each other ?
this thing called love na wa o! pls poster2 if u can it will be very profitable to leave both men,or marry ur ex. leave baba of 5children plus 4baby mamas..save ur self d stress! its not like dis baba 5kids is Aliko Dangote!
ReplyDeletePoster1: u both should gbensh now,quit asking stupid questions,who even told u both u gonna marry each other ?
Poster 1 please both of you should stop please, touch touch can lead to sex and moreover you should think of how to improve yourself physically, financially and spirutuallly. Poster 2 please go for your ex, you will grow to love him, the man with 5 kids will drop you the way he dropped the mothers of his children after you have also given him kids. Think and use your tongue to count your teeth
ReplyDelete@poster 2 hope say u no get kidney problem sha? #justasking
ReplyDeleteHappy easter to all my blog family.... #busyweekforme
@monkeynofine, am very much healthy. Funny though!
DeletePoster 2 , are you seriously thinking about a man with nearly half dozen kids? It is better for a man to love you more. Poster 1 , if you really want to marry each other later please stop ✋ touching smoching, kissing and licking now so that God can perfect your plans
ReplyDeletePoster 1, stop what you her doing with that girl.
ReplyDeletePoster 2,whatever decision you take, do not marry the man with children.
Poster one: Isaacson is that you? abeg na question i ask o... if you are not Isaacson forever hold your piece , i nor ask u kweshion..
ReplyDeleteposter Two: Congratulations, successfully use your legs to waka and enter fire with your eyes wide open .. we will be expecting your next chronicle .. @ 32? No sense, God forbid bad thing!
Poster one i can assure you that someone out there will gbensh her sooner than you think, thats if someone isnt gbenshing her already. See you wont marry that girl, yes i know bcoz you are still a boy who has a long way to go and plenty pussy to sample. Stop deceiving her by hooking her down. if she is a sharp babe she will use u and pass time. How can a 22 year old girl be waiting for a 22years old boy to man up? You want her to become aunty gwegwegwe like some people in this blog okwaya? Nna stoppit, you guys should just enjoy yoursef and do not harbor the tot of marrying una sef. Mtcheeeew i kinda see the sex happening soon sef.
ReplyDeleteEven when i was younger i have never dated any man who was 5years older than me talk less of me dating my age mate for what na? Matured men does it for me, i like a man who is very knowledgeable with woman matter just like my General. How can i begin to explain to man what to do when we are in bed mbanu na. Is she a blog visitor so i can draw her ear wella?
*hangs leg on the wall*
Be careful how you shade people. Even the smartest make mistake. May God forgive you for calling people gwegs.
DeletePoster 2, Wow! Come and see Reason thrown out of the window! My dear, love is no longer blind today oh! You enter into marriage with your two eyes open! Don't you realize that the same attraction and magnetism that drew his ex and cocunbines to him is also drawing you? What makes you think you won't end the same way? When you go into marriage you will soon discover that Love is more of a commitment than an emotion. While I may not advice you to go for whom you don't love, I personally feel there are some sinister forces fighting your destiny. Pls seek audience with a seasoned pastor of tested ministries like Redeemed, Winners chapel etc without delay!
ReplyDeletePoster 1 you need to repent and properly give your life to Christ or you will reap what you sow!The fact that you are in doubt shows you still have a conscience. Don't deaden it further! In any case why seek ye the living among the dead?
Refer her to God not a pastor of your selected churches. The married pastor heading the Redeem church I was attending dey gbensh married and unmarried. One lady even dragged him to court. So tell her so stop fornicating and pray. It is obvious the second guy has sweet tongue and sweet dick.
DeleteWoow poster two @32 you are still foolish? How can you confidently type this rubbish? So you prefer a man with so much baggage than a man who will treat you right all bcoz you dont love him? How can you use you korokoro eyes enter gutter? Are mad ni? See you deserve an e slap 👋. Make use of ya head for abeg. Why ladies love bad guys is what i dont understand? What fuckery.
ReplyDelete*hangs leg on the wall*
Poster 2
ReplyDeleteTime is no longer on your side and you are wasting time too.
You don't love your ex, why bother.
Man number 2, get pikins, why think about it? no so he brainwash you reach? Nne you no love am joor, na crush abi fantasy be that(5 kids from different women?Tueh)
Poster 1.
ReplyDeleteStop the sin already, at the end of the day una still no go marry.
Get busy, find job, make money, further your education if you want to and stop doing finger gbenshing.
@poster 2 .the answer is staring right at your face.why ll u want to marry a man with lots of baggage.if this your so called colleague was that good,y did his wife become an ex with two extra babymamas. At 32, your akonuche is really needed here. dont enter hot fire with your two eyes opened. well i still prefer your first boyfriend(the love will grow)i stand to be corrected tho.Pray to God to guide you.
ReplyDeletePoster 1...at 22 you're already programming marriage in 3 years when you can't even cater for the woman? My friend remove that your monkey hand & get your priorities right before talking about love & woman
ReplyDeletePoster 2: That you're dating a divorcee tied with 2 extra concubines shows the type of person you are. Not to judge but what he didn't see in his wife & the mothers of his children, he won't see it in you, YOU'RE NOT THAT SPECIAL! An ex is EX for a reason, go find yourself a fresh dude without all these appendages. At 32 you're still acting like a 19 year old
Poster 2 marry your ex I promise you will learn to love love him DON'T MARRY THE OTHER GUY PLEASE O!!!! The bandage is too much and he will eventually dump just like others be wise
ReplyDeletePoster one....relax and build your careers, you guys still have your lives ahead of you, take it one step at a time.
ReplyDeletePoster two...its not your duty to live your husband, you're to submit to him while he's to love you, so babe its better you marry the man that loves you, tolerates your faults and forgives you, the affection will grow with time.....Are you seriously considering marrying a man with Five kids from different women?? Are you the new Annie Idibia??? Remember, tuface is a millionaire while your so-called love is a salary earner....Receive sense in Jesus Name.
Poster 2 you no get sense motu motu. My advice to you, go find a new guy to marry Abeg. Poster 1, the lord shall be your adviser....lololol
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Poster 2 the only advice you need is a brain reset slap. People like baggage sha.
ReplyDeletePoster1, that is a sin and Pls desist from it. You r just 22 my dear, you have the world ahead of you, why not launch into the deep 1st before having a life partner? My the time you're 28 come back and marry her if you still feel same way about her.
Poster 2, marry the one you love, if you marry your ex you will cheat on him with your love. Allow your ex to meet the woman that will love him and he will love her in return. Better still, don't accept anyone of them, put on your searching mode. You are still young, so calm down and marry right.
ReplyDeletePoster 2
ReplyDeleteAt your age, sense you don't have. What were you looking at when your mates were getting married to rich single men?
Like one poster rightly said, this your colleague with half a dozen children has got a bomb dick! How else would you explain this infatuation you have with him?
I can't marry a man with 1 child , unless I'm super desperate not to talk of 5. You obviously don't love yourself . U think your are special abi? Special than the other baby mamas he couldn't keep . I'm intensely sorry for you.
Poster one no advice for you
ReplyDeletePoster two marry your ex love grows with time, a man with five kids from different women, hhhhhhmmm how sure are you that he will not still in pregnant another person after you marry him? Five kids is on a high side considering you have never been married before. Seek the face of God before you make the final decision.
Why do ladies love bad guys? After 7 good years with your ex and still you don't love him because obviously he was too good to you. Now you are in love with a man with five kids from three different women. Poster kindly cook jollof rice for kids and asked them to pray for you afterwards because your case is no longer ordinary. I am also sure gbenshing is one of the key reason you are loving your Mr Solomon.
ReplyDeletePoster 1: for the mere fact of reading your chronicles. I know you are still young. Please re write back in 3 years.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: 5 kids, 3 baby mama and you're not even 32, I know you don't love yourself
Poster 1: for the mere fact of reading your chronicles. I know you are still young. Please re write back in 3 years.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: 5 kids, 3 baby mama and you're not even 32, I know you don't love yourself
dear Poster, stay away from that second guy,. soon he will hurt and dump u like his exes. i mean just see how much baggage he has. sometimes, love is not enough to be with people.
ReplyDeletechimoooo, Stella Nawa for u oooo on this ur non intelligent advice for poster 2, love is the last thing you consider in marriage besides is not her duty to love her husband her duty is submission , cos it takes more than love to stay married oooo. u can't compare sleep & death they r not the same & can never be, a man with 2 ex wives & 3baby mama's is an irresponsible, arrogant, impatient, selfish, confused, Sexmannia, smooth talked \operator, pretender, inconsistent,bad character man forget the lovey dovey parole HE IS SERIOUSLY A BAD MAN & a pretender, it simply shows that he can't handle & will never handle a relationship let alone marriage,
ReplyDeletePoster 2 u are sitting on a keg of gun powder waiting to explode sooner or later& Wen it will explode ur eyes will clear vam! !!!, you think u can make that insatiable man happy, gosh girl u are on a long thing, Pls DUMP that man with baggages & give the single man a chance, let that father of 5 from 5women go & look for a divorcee or a widow to marry he is a serious red flag, if he was married once & it didn't work out u would have advice u to marry Him cos of ur so-called love but getting married 2times & 3 concubine is a very big RED FLAG So Pls if you love ur self DON'T EVER MARRY PAPA 5KIDS GO FOR THE SINGLE GUY who loves you more you will enjoy him like kilode, be incharge, & have peace of mind, like I said earlier love is the last thing to consider while chossing a life partner cos Na understanding ,dertermintion & peace of mind go make stay married.
Poster 1 leave that girl & focus on building ur self, financially, career wise & write this chronicles in next 4-5 yrs that's when you are old enough to be married,