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Hi Stella happy Easter in Advance to Everyone...
please I have a little problem I need to share and need advice.My boyfriend claimed him and his aunt are best friends have seen closeness but not as close as this .
he shares all we have with her and she is just younger sis to his mum and she claims she tells him everything in her marriage becos she is married and even when she sleeps with her husband or not he told me that and he is doing Same to our relationship...
When we make love he tells her, when I need anything and maybe he says he doesnt have if i call aunt and tell her that he doesn't want to give that he claim he doesn't have and the next thing aunt will call and he will give me....
Even 2weeks ago when I had some disagreement with her becos of this pokenosing issue and the next thing she stopped picking my calls and he was also was angry and he travelled and Didnt call .
Stella what i feel is assuming we get married if aunt is not happy we are not happy and she decides our happiness and claim they are just used to each other ..
Stella him and his mum are not close as this .pls what can i do should i just quit in peace or I have spoken and nagged about this and he will say what i don't understand is more than what i understand..
Please what does he mean? .
Your advice pls my fellow bvs
Hi Stella happy Easter in Advance to Everyone...
please I have a little problem I need to share and need advice.My boyfriend claimed him and his aunt are best friends have seen closeness but not as close as this .
he shares all we have with her and she is just younger sis to his mum and she claims she tells him everything in her marriage becos she is married and even when she sleeps with her husband or not he told me that and he is doing Same to our relationship...
When we make love he tells her, when I need anything and maybe he says he doesnt have if i call aunt and tell her that he doesn't want to give that he claim he doesn't have and the next thing aunt will call and he will give me....
Even 2weeks ago when I had some disagreement with her becos of this pokenosing issue and the next thing she stopped picking my calls and he was also was angry and he travelled and Didnt call .
Stella what i feel is assuming we get married if aunt is not happy we are not happy and she decides our happiness and claim they are just used to each other ..
Stella him and his mum are not close as this .pls what can i do should i just quit in peace or I have spoken and nagged about this and he will say what i don't understand is more than what i understand..
Please what does he mean? .
Your advice pls my fellow bvs
He said what you dont understand is more than what you understand?..............Hmmm that has a lot of meanings but if i coin a meaning from your story,it might mean your guy and his Aunt might be lovers...I said might.
I am almost tempted to advice you to snoop on their fones and get the answer but..............DONT!!!
Also you encouraged her pokenosing by going to complain about him not giving you something....
You sound smart and alert,please ''USE YOUR kidney'' think am well before you go any step further.
Maybe he sees his aunt like his mom. Maybe she took care of him while he was growing up,.just speak to him and tell him how you feel
ReplyDeleteTwo maybes.... 😁 means you're thinking what Stella and I are thinking👀
DeleteShe could just be his mum....
DeleteMaybe she gave birth to him when she was young and the woman he is calling mother took Kia of him.
Make una learn to think out of the box abeg
Even his mum sef, it's not healthy at all, what nonsense. He is sleeping with his aunt, I think she started very young with him, probably the one who disvirgined him, thats why she has that much hold. Pls bounce or snoop, is he even rich enough to be giving you all this headache?
DeletePoster them dey gbensh, which kind end time closeness b DAT. Bet me if u snoop u will find out. Anything is possible in these times now.
DeleteChronicles
ReplyDeleteHow we go know wetin dey ya boyfriend mind? Na wa ooo. Borrow yourself brain, you have gotten the signs.
DeletePoster I don't even know you guys yet I was so uncomfortable when you wrote the part about his aunt's sex life. She tells him when she has sex with her husband,l and he viceversa, wow. That is so disturbing!
DeleteHahahaha that "DON'T" came to late stella. TeamSnoop stay winning.
ReplyDeletePoster pack your load dey go cos na 3 of una dey that relationship and u don't need the drama.
U are not his wife thankfully so forget investigating the connection. Just move on cos that kinda relationship is far from normal.
Stella, she should Snoop and then Don't! After putting the idea in her head ba? Wehdone ma!!!
DeletePoster, if u want answers to quench this your curiosity, i'll advise u snoop on his phone and get to knw what's up.
There's 90% probability they are gbenshing.
ReplyDeleteSnoop snoop snoop ooooooo. Its allowed biko.
Lol
ReplyDeletePoster sorry because of my laugh.
Poster me and you know say your boyfriend dey lash his Aunty's otele.
Inukwa closeness.
Closeness gbakwa oku.
Hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha
If you can ignore them try and do so, snoop his fone to be sure they are not lovers, who knows they maybe hiding something important. If you are not strong to deal with the both of them, just walk away.
ReplyDeleteYou better snoop before you carry the curses that come with INCEST! There's definitely something going on here. Investigate but "strong ya mind" so what you discover won't kill you. Start giving out your number and saying Hello to other men. There's no reason why they should be discussing sexual intimacy, it's wrong wrong WRONG!!!!
ReplyDeleteAre you sure she's his aunty? Beware ooo
ReplyDeleteMaybe she's his real mother. As in she has a baby at a young age and the elder sister had to front for their family to save face.
DeleteI suspect so
DeleteShe is the mother she is not the aunty cos I see these everyday. That's why they are that close.
DeleteThis your English na real wah
ReplyDeletePoster,I am very close to my immediate older brother...
ReplyDeleteHe tells me everything!,..
I mean every damn thing and I do the same...
If you want money or anything from him,just come to me first and I will do the talking for you!...
He has never say no to me and we look so much alike...
We can pass for a twins...
When he wanted to get married,he brought the girl to me first for my approval before introducing her to my mom and the rest of the family!...
The girl as a smart sharp babe started coming close to me...
She is my buddy!...my bestest paddy!...
I will tell her how to keep my brother and all that!...
Lemme advise you...
If you really like this nigga,humble your self like my sis inlaw and make that aunt your friend!...
Trust me,you will learn a lot from her...
Snatch her from your man and watch how things will unfold!...
Queen i never heard you say you meddle in their business or play judge on stuff that have to do with their relationship. I think thats what's pissing the girl off not even the closeness
DeleteSame thing i said. They are just close
DeleteUnhealthy interdependent brother sis relationship
DeleteUnhealthy interdependent brother sis relationship
DeleteSo queen its ok she tells him when n how she fucked her hubby the previous night n vice versa?
DeleteSo Queen because this particular chronicle is kinda related to yours that's why you aren't talking trash today about "knacking" pigeon on his head and going diabolical abi? I pity those who actually take your advice or opinion seriously.
DeleteSnoop first.
ReplyDeleteI don't think they are having an affair, I have my reasons for saying it,he is just over use to his aunty that's all.we shouldn't let evil engolf our mind all the time.
ReplyDeleteThank u my dear, too much negativity all the time, jeeeez tho is no longer funny yo
DeleteCorrect all your gbagauns first and resend. Can't deal. Moving forward
ReplyDeleteDon't mind Stella. The time to snoop is now. Just settle every quarrel with the guy. Fire all the love into his system. All his antenna go drop. Then very silently to through his all gadgets. Brace yourself for what you're gonna see.
ReplyDeleteCorrect! #Teamsnoop
DeleteAbeggi. Aunt turned bed mate. Shine your eyes or LEAVE
ReplyDeleteI assume there is something going on between those two which is very deep,beg the both of them for forgiveness then try to snoop on his phone,listen to their conversation and you can also get your answer from their gestures.
ReplyDeleteAre you a child?
ReplyDeleteOk if you are, let me spell it for you. Your boyfriend and so called aunt are doing chuku chuku.
And the chuku chuku must be sweet gan for him to be telling his aunt about everything that goes that goes on in even when he us banging you.
My dear, SNOOOP, snoop like a mountain lion. The truth will be revealed to you. But knowing how desperate Nigerian men are for marriage. Even if the guy dey mount im mama, you no go mind. I sure say you go marry am quick. At least, make you too answer Mrs. Nonsense.
End time aunty.
ReplyDeleteIt would have been better if it was even his mother that they are close like this.
Iv dated a guy that was so close to his elder sister but not to extend of telln her about making love o.
But she had a say on who he married etc.
Me I was still young so didn't know plenty things.
She was very nice to me though I do sleep in her house when the guy is around as he was based abroad.
But she would say I won't come and see her only if he's around.
I didn't even know he was also dating another girl. This girl will travel all the way from north come visit her. Buy her kids things. Help her around the house etc.
At the end he married that girl with his sisters backing.
They said i was not behaving like someone ready to marry because I was not licking their ass like the other girl.
If you know you want to marry that man you need to also become close to the sister.
I can't advise you what to do but know this won't stop even in marriage.
It's either you can deal with it or you leave.
same thing I'm experiencing now, infact the sister he's close to has stopped gisting wit me, they want me to lick their ass and come weekend and wash cloths. if that's marriage theñ I'm not ready . How long will I do that see?
DeleteHappy birthday to me.
ReplyDeleteHappy birthday ASW
DeleteHmmm I agree with Stella..@Stella its not might , they are sleeping with themselves..Its like Poster u can really tolerant such immaturity. How old is your boyfriend and the immature ''Aunty'' u better run away from such persons and give yourself some respect Ok...Just wow! wow!! wow!!!...
ReplyDeleteYesterday, a guy said if you wanted to sustain your marriage, you should stay away from this blog. That was a very correct assertion. Madam blog owner, why would you impute what you did up there? The poster didn't suggest that in her post. She was only concerned the aunt would have a big say in her marriage if she eventually married him. And the funny thing is that your very uninformed entourage will tow the line you did.
ReplyDelete@blunt lwkmd
DeleteSo u think its a healthy relationship, where his aunt tells him when she sleeps with her hubby n vice versa. It makes me uncomfortable, poster pls look b4 u leap!
DeleteYou're dating someone who already is in a relationship. Just quit!
ReplyDeleteYour comment will be visible after approval.
Stella,I just read your red pen..,
ReplyDeleteI don't think they are dating..,
My older brother when we were growing up used to beat the hell out of me!...
Then,I thought he hate me untill he left the house for us and started sending money for my mom through me!...
Way back,he was sending $500 monthly for us but will tell me to take $300 for my personal needs!,..
The first car I drove is courtesy of him...
This brother of mine spoilt me silly!...
He will say I'm a girl and he dosent want me to start looking for men that will give me money for my needs...
I was the first set of people to own a GSM with an MTN line I bought for 60k!...
While coming back from the US,he will shop and shop and shop for me!...
Two big boxes is for me alone!,..
Stella,you don't know what this poster's man and his aunt have gone through in life...
Everything is not all about gbensh!...
Who hacked Queen's account biko?????
DeleteThank you for this comment chief, u are intelligent. Don't mind stella with the stupid advice.
DeleteWow that just shows that it does not matter what you give some children they will turn out the way they want
DeleteSo true , everything ain't all about gbenshing,,,,, this is so me and my bestie, the day I got married everybody in our family started making jokes of him that i am leaving him behind without considering our friendship😊😊😊😊... We so close now and tomorrow in fact forever😃😃😃😃
Delete@Queen is your brother single? 😂
DeleteThis one pass me abeg
ReplyDeleteAunty not even sister sef or mum... There is more to what he is revealing
Activate your FBI mode babe, best of luck
Use your kidney sense sister. Wa wa alright!
ReplyDeleteYou're slow sha.Please snoop and get closure. They're sleeping with each other abeg. Which kind closeness be that one.
ReplyDeleteHmmm my dear use ur tongue to count ur teeth
ReplyDeleteHis aunt might be his mom,who gave birth to him at a very early age.
ReplyDeleteDats one angle to c it too
DeleteSo he tells his mum how he gbensh his girlfriend ?? You guys are not thinking normal.
DeleteBabe shine ya eyes wella before you enter pot hole!
ReplyDeleteDid this his aunt ever lived with him? Maybe na the woman disvirgined him.
ReplyDeleteYour boyfriend and Aunt are fuck mates.
ReplyDeleteDon't be in a relationship that a 3rd party will dictate what ever that happens in it, it won't end well
ReplyDeleteThird party is always terrible in a relationship. Help me beg her/him is not a good idea.
DeleteSister, snoop o. Dude might be straffing his aunt. Snoop well and save yourself
ReplyDeleteAnty or lover... Are their destinies tied together?
ReplyDelete*smh*
Abeg move on jare, is he d only guy on earth? What an unhealthy r/ship brewing him n his aunt. Mschew i can't deal
Very unhealthy...
DeleteThe problem we guys are having is that, you meet a girl and profess love to her, the next thing is for her to start comparing the love u profess to the love you have for your family and relatives. One asked why do I care for my Sis more than her. (got rid of her later)
ReplyDeleteAnon are you kidding?she asked you why you cared for your sister more than her?you are soft,why did you get rid of her lera?you should have flinged her away immediately asin "BETTER FLINGING"nonsense
DeleteSnoop o. Snoop well and do it quick so u can save yourself while u still can
ReplyDeleteHave u watched 50 shades of grey? See how close he was to his mum's friend. Obviously that women was the one that disvirgined him, that's why there's that bond. Funny they might not be doin anything anymore but they've slept or still sleeping together. 70% have gone thru that a few have come out of that spell
ReplyDeleteI've heard cases like this one and it always ends up with the two people involved having sexual intwrcourse. There's hardly smoke without fire.
ReplyDeleteSee my dear, use your head to think and use your brain to walk. If you'd been involved with psychological cases before, you'd have learnt that twenty percent of the men in our society were introduced to sex by someone related or close to them.
Nawa o, I tire for dis kind relationship oo
ReplyDeletePoster.. They are lovers.i bet you, if you dare snoop you will be heart broken but pls dont. Sit him down and tell him you want to have a conversation with him.. Put it directly to him that he is into a romantic affair with his aunt and you know. What how he reacts to that,!.. You are in a whole lot of mess which you don't even know about.. The truth will be hard for you to handle. Don't even marry that guy... Leave as soon as possible
ReplyDeleteNOT advisable
DeleteBoth of them are bedmates. Please flee!
ReplyDeleteAbeg they re fucking each other...u don't need ogun to tell u this...and Stella is trying to tell u to snoop on their phones..
ReplyDeleteNne your in for a loooonng thing,that kin closeness dikwa risky.like Stella said they might be sleeping together, u will never be happy in that relationship
ReplyDeleteNope... This is a no no for me. I can't deal. If I was in your shoes, I will follow the instruction the Angels gave lot when he was told to leave Sodom and Gomorrah.
ReplyDeleteWith what you wrote, do away with him. The poke nosing of the aunt is too much and it might affect your marriage if you marry him.
ReplyDeleteYou better snoop! Snoop but prepare for the worst. Snoop so you know where you stand!
ReplyDeleteMeanwhile, which one is 'we make love' which kain love making you and bf dey do? You fuck is you fuck, not love making. Lolll.
Get close to his mum and start hinting her act like u don't suspect anything, trust me his mum will act.
ReplyDeleteWhat she the one that raised him?? Did he ever live with him??
ReplyDeleteMy sister shine your eyes.. There might be more to it. It might just be a case of an aunt molesting his nephew and the nephew growing up to love it....
My sister abeg snoop, asin snoop well. You might find the answers you're looking for and save yourself a whole lot of stress
Snooping saves lives
Snooping saves relationships
Snooping is good
Keep snooping
#teamsnoop
It pays to snoop ojare, don't mind Stella ugwu sugar
DeleteYou better snoop to put your mind at rest
Delete* was she the one that raised him?** Did he ever live with her??
Delete#gbagauntitakeover
I understand this chronicle very well cos I can so relate, my best friend is a guy and we grew up together attended same pry and sec together, we love eachother like mad and any babe he dated then call it quit because of me, even my husband who understand our closeness still sometimes frown at our friendship..... Till today if there's any problem he's the only one that can calm me down because I am hot tempered, mennnn the day I got married he cried like a baby and i was feeling somehow about it not until his wedding day I got to understand the tears ge shared on my day,,,, I was so jealous of the lady I didn't know where that came from, till today his wife still find it difficult to believe that we ain't dating ..... He's base in Paris now, anytime I visit them, we stay awake allnight gisting" in visitors room alone!
ReplyDelete"Stay awake gisting all night alone..." with another man's husband? Isokay.
DeleteUna go dey alright last last.#inbloggiesvoice
Gisting alone kwa, let me try and imagine the look on the wifes face the entire time. 😒😒😒
DeleteLolz
I can relate. My bestie is a guy. He lost 3 girls because of me. They chased themselves away. They refuse to accept we're not dating.
DeleteBUT
This story up there, get as e be.
Stay up all night gisting with someone else's husband
DeleteTotal disrespect for another woman's home.Dont worry another woman will do it to you 1 million fold
@queeneth u heard me right! I think God ordained our friendship from heaven..... Nothing can separate us!
DeleteHahahahaha anon 19:31 Amen to your prayer! aloud one I say! As far as she's in the friendship with clean heart just like I am no bigi at all,,, me and Stanley has come along way too long no one I repeat NO one can understand where we both coming from...... I forgot to add that during my single days he use to help me rub cream on my back while I am stack naked,,,, dont forget we be friends from childhood , grew up in same hood..... U guys read too much online jare
Delete@Uriel the wife will say your mama don come , "I know u won't sleep tonight Una good night ooooo".... During their dating days she complained me to some of our family members and to his close friends , they end up telling her not to go there if she really love him cos those two are inseparable..... @SWAG your kidney they function wella....... I have always see him as my bro from another mother that's how it will remain forever....
Anon 19:31 u know what? I just copied these comments to him and his reply was THEM DEY CRAZE...... Bye....
DeleteI don't believe u.
DeleteEwooo, wetin I no go hear. Fine you were close but you did that in the home of a married man on a visit? Ko daa ooo.
DeleteWhy do I have a feeling his Aunt isn't his Mum. Probably she is his mother and had him quite early. And used her Elder sister to front. You just mihg t be talking to your Mothein-law yet not knowing. anyways my advice is that you DON'T snoop. Have s meeting with your Boyfriend and set things straight with him. He needs to know what relationship privacy means. And if he and his Aunt doesn't bulge Nne pack your kaya and gawa. Simple.
ReplyDeleteEven if d aunty is his mom, do u tell ur mom wen ur bf fucks u? Or does she tell u wen her hubby fucked her? Mk una use una brain. Am not saying dey r fucking, but she should snoop abeg. Queen n boss, u said u r so close wit ur bro, do u tell him wen ur hubby fucked u or does he tell u wen he fucked his wife?. Biko nuu, closeness di iche n'iche, dis 1 pass oooooo. N ving a 3rd party who determines wen u will b happy or not in a marriage is a no no. Snoooooppppppooooooo.
DeleteYou better snoop! Snoop but prepare for the worst. Snoop so you know where you stand!
ReplyDeleteMeanwhile, which one is 'we make love' which kain love making you and bf dey do? You fuck is you fuck, not love making. Lolll
Hmm, there is nothing new under the sun
ReplyDelete@poster don't assume they're lovers , there are friendship like this try and be close to his aunt!
ReplyDeleteSo u think its a healthy relationship, where his aunt tells him when she sleeps with her hubby n vice versa. It makes me uncomfortable, poster pls look b4 u leap!
DeleteSomething is fishy.pls take a walk
ReplyDeleteI smell a kettle of fish.👺👃
DeleteI don't think they are lovers, she might be his spiritual mother or probably she's been the one taking him out to seek spiritual supports. #mythought
ReplyDeleteThis is a run situation. Run and don't look back!
ReplyDeletePoster, ayam running on your behalf 🏃🏃🏃🏃🏃🏃🏃🏃
DeleteHmmmmmm
ReplyDeleteSide eyes at this your bf and his 'AUNTY'😞. Should should have complained from the beginning poster. Once you get into a relationship and you notice things you don't like, speak up from the very beginning. It's almost to late to change the situation except the guy really loves you and is willing to change. If you know you can't take it in marriage better scram now that you guys aren't tied already. Don't know how a guy can be that close to his end time AUNTY ayele ibosi.
ReplyDeleteStella no just wan hear SNOOP...
ReplyDeleteIf u aint getting happiness wherever u re. LEAVE. Its fat simple. Stop complaining and step out.
ReplyDeleteLemme wait for comments.Mean while,my husband and his aunt are very close coz she trained him but not to this point of her making my hour sweet or sour.I and my husband gossip her too;when I need some info from her but don't want her to know I pass thru my husband.But in all,I'm the closest to my husband.
ReplyDeleteLike Stella said " use your kidney" .. better snoop ooo so u know if they are fucking
ReplyDeletePut this question to him directly:
ReplyDeleteWhen last did you have sex with your aunt?
Poster,your boyfriend's Aunt was probably his first(first discovery to sex)hence that bond, not saying is conclusive but I have strong convictions. Walk away from that relationship cos it's toxic. You might not know but he measures you up to the standard of his aunt hence his running back to her for any ish in your relationship. So long as that sexual bond is there, you may well be a stranger to this"relationship"
ReplyDeleteGive d guy space abeg!...also an ultimatum to dump his shameless sugar mama....maybe she disvirgined him as a boy hence d attachment.....some men sef!....thank God I'm married....wit d quality of men we have this days, it's becoming difficult to settle down
ReplyDeleteYou just reminded me of Christian Grey in 50 shades, who was introduced into his weird sex by his mother's friend as a lad. What struck me was how casually he said they were "friends". Poster don't jump to conclusions, but I gotta tell ya, either way, your situation is not good. Run.
DeleteThere just might be more to their closeness than you can presently understand.
ReplyDeleteImagine what he told her. I can't stomach that personally.
DeleteYou are not yet married and the four tires have burst
ReplyDeleteWhen you are married, how will you drive in this journey?
😂😂😂... She will use the spare tire. 😏
Delete😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 this comment got me laughing so hard😂😂😂😂😂😂
DeleteWhat makes you think she is not his mum? Maybe she gave birth to him in her teenage years, handed him over to the big sister your fiance's supposed mother. You know, kind of family secret
ReplyDeleteIt must not always be the case of incest
So let's say she's his mum its ok she tells him when n how she fuc××d her hubby? That's just gross
DeleteStella gave you the clue . Snoop on his phone
ReplyDeleteUr guy is fucking his Aunty...Period!
ReplyDeletePoster, try and discuss with him, let's see his reaction, but for me I don't think they are dating, nope I don't think so
ReplyDeleteEven if they are gbenshing will he come out and say it? Nehi. Therefore snoop baby, snoop.
DeletePoster, I don't think they are dating, some people can be that close. My ex is very very close to the sister, as in extremely close. You need to see them whenever he comes to Nigeria, they will spend the first night, whole night gisting, me go leave them sleep off. Everyday, they are together. If you need anything, just go through the sister and I bet you will get it. He complained that I am not close to his sister and don't call her and all that. The sister is always nice to me and i like her but she was still looking for wife for him because I was not kissing her ass (I don't know how to do that). Today, we are no longer together. So if you really love the guy, calm down and become best of friends with the Aunty and understand their relationship.
ReplyDeleteThis guy is gbenshing is Aunty, no two story about it. Leave them and go your way. She's a fifth columnist, you can't have peace of mind if you eventually married to him.
ReplyDeleteThey are fucking but can't make it official.
The only part of this story and their supposed closeness i'm not comfortable with is the telling each other everything including their sex life, haba that's just disgusting. I can't abeg, they probably jerk off on each others sexcapade
ReplyDeleteWould he be telling his mom of had s lovemaking sessions and she the same? Poster you need to snoop with wisdom.
ReplyDeleteYour guy is still a boy and young at heart..Even if he has intimacy with his aunt that should not give room to lack of privacy... He doesn't want to grow up.
ReplyDelete