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Saturday, March 25, 2017

Doc Who Jumped To His Death From 3rd Mainland Bridge Was Allegedly Frustrated.

Fresh insights have emerged as to why Allwell Orji, a 35-year-old medical doctor with the Papa Ajao branch of Mount Sinai Hospital, decided to take his own life by jumping into the lagoon in Lagos last Sunday.



A close associate of the deceased doctor told The Nation that he (Orji) once confided in him that he was fed up with life and “wanted to end it all.”

He said:

“We were close and we often discussed about his life. He was a brilliant young man and he liked helping people. He was in the habit of taking part in free medical outreaches and he loved to study.

“Despite his condition, he was still studying further. He ought to be rounding off his post-graduate studies which would have enabled him to become a consultant,” the young associate said.

Although it was gathered that the deceased medical practitioner was a sickle cell anaemia carrier, the associate, who pleaded not to be named, said the deceased doctor sometimes had moments of mental instability.

The young man added:

“Sometimes it happened like a convulsion, and it even embarrassed him at his place of work while he was busy with a patient. Although the family did their best to manage the situation, there were times when he and some members of the family exchanged words because they taunted him for acting abnormally.

“His frustration heightened when his father died about four years ago and some family members believed the burden of his health condition contributed to the father’s death. These were some of the reasons he told me at that time that he wanted to end it all, but I tried to encourage him with the word of God”.

The close ally also said that the late doctor’s mother had tried to get him a wife but it did not work out. He said the mum, a wealthy woman who owns a number of vehicles, also hired a driver for the doctor as a way of monitoring his movement to prevent him from taking his own life since he had exhibited such tendencies.

“The jeep (SUV) he was riding belongs to the mother and she also got him a driver to take him around. The mother tried to arrange marriage for him at a time but it did not work. The deceased’s younger brother is already married and his sister is also a medical doctor,” the source said.

When one of TheNation’s correspondents visited the Odunukan residence of the deceased on Thursday evening, a sober atmosphere pervaded the entire street.

One of the residents, who identified himself simply as Mr. Oluwole, recalled that Oluwole had attempted suicide about four years earlier, adding that he saw Dr. Orji walking past the Saturday before his death.

Oluwole said:

“We were here four years ago when he wanted to jump from the top of the storey building owned by his family. His family members do not relate with other people in the neigbourhood, and it was the same thing with the late doctor.

I often saw him walking on the streets bespectacled on days he was not on call at the hospital. He walked like someone who was thinking too much.”

Oluwole also believed that things could have turned out differently if the deceased doctor’s family had not changed his driver.

He said:

“It won’t be out of place to describe him as a recluse. He was not on the social media, neither did he engage in any social activity.

“I believe things would have turned out differently if the family did not change his former driver. The former driver would have suspected and could have tried to stop him once he ordered him to stop on the bridge. I am not sure his new driver was well briefed on his medical condition.”

Recalling his last day at work, Orji’s colleagues said:

It was just like any other Friday when the late Orji resumed work at the branch of Mount Sinai Hospital on Ojekunle Road, Papa Ajao, Mushin, on March 17.

The storey building housing the hospital overlooks the dual carriage road that is popular for the spill-over of heavy commercial activities from the nearby Ladipo Market. Although it is sandwiched by two very close buildings, Mount Sinai Hospital wears a bright colour that makes it easily noticeable.

It was here that Orji reported last for duty as a medical doctor before he gave it all up two days later on a bright Sunday afternoon. He was said to have stopped his driver on the Third Mainland Bridge, got out of the vehicle and jumped into the Lagos lagoon.

A colleague of the deceased, who did not want to be named, said that Orji’s last day at work was like every other.

He said:

“He was cheerful on that day and attended to patients in his usual cheerful manner. There was no slightest indication that something was amiss or anything to indicate that he was depressed or bothered by something. If there was any sign, it was not obvious at all. If there was anything amiss, that would be his personal life which, of course, we couldn’t have been part of,” the colleague said.

A nurse at the hospital, who fought back tears as she spoke, also described the deceased Orji as a cheerful individual.

“Everybody here will miss him. He was a jovial person. He loved his work. He was someone we enjoyed working with. That Friday was his last day at work here,” she added.

One of the doctors, who appeared shocked by the incident, referred The Nation’s correspondent to the Communications Manager at the Surulere branch of the hospital.

“It is the Communications Manager who has the mandate to say anything about the late Orji. I am sure that the hospital will communicate an official position about the incident in due course,” the doctor said.

At the Surulere branch of the hospital in Lagos, however, the Communications Manager was not available to speak with reporters. But an official of the hospital who would not disclose his name said that while he shared the sense of loss, he would not answer questions concerning Orji’s personal life.

He said:

“As for his official life here, I can tell you that he didn’t show any sign that he had any issue whatsoever. He was at work on the Friday before the incident. He was a likeable fellow, cheerful, had a good working relationship with his colleagues and he was well remunerated. If he had personal problems, I wouldn’t know. It didn’t show.”
from– TheNation


This story is a really sad one and I keep thinking if there was a way this could have been prevented...Such a sad loss!

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    1. *sighs deeply*

      May God help us and take evil thoughts away from us, amen.

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  2. I pray God grant his soul rest

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  3. RIP to the dead. I hope we never see any situation that would ever make us consider suicide, talk more of doing it.

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  4. God have mercy on ur children. Such a sad loss. May God grant his family the fortitude to bear this great loss. Depression is real and it could happen to anybody. Please we just all stop talking down on people,u don't know their challenges most especially on this blog. Lost for words.hmmm

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  5. God have mercy on ur children. Such a sad loss. May God grant his family the fortitude to bear this great loss. Depression is real and it could happen to anybody. Please we just all stop talking down on people,u don't know their challenges most especially on this blog. Lost for words.hmmm

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  6. Why on earth will I want to end my life!? I can't fathom any reason...May his soul rest in peace.

    #DontQuoteMe

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    1. Cos u ve never been faced with things bigger than u,u ve never been betrayed by ur own mother, ur siblings,ur husband or the pple around u,thinking and planning too,taking my 3kids with me, cos I just can't take anymore,cos I know I don't ve any1 to look after them.

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    2. I've never had it up till suicidal thoughts but I feel you as per not having anybody, not even your own mother cos I've been there and back. But guess what, family is a privilege not a right. It's either you play along, pretending to be family like they do, or ignore and cut them all away from your life and relocate. Nothing is worth taking your life for. Even Jesus, asked God on the cross if the curse can be removed from him. Start to treat them like strangers, no unsolicited visits, stop going to them. Look back into your past and identify one or two non-blood families, yes there are still reliable people. It doesn't have to be your pastor. Pray hard. Love yourself more. Ignore them pls.

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  7. If you a medical doctor could think of killing yourself, what do you want a grave digger that got no formal education with no bank account, no hope of anything unless he digs graves before his family do ?
    Why this poor man didn't kill himself because he's disadvantaged​ ? I still can't pity a man that end his life untimely. No sorry.

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    1. More than 3 occasions I've had suicidal thoughts coz I was frustrated but I didn't end it when I realized the love that my siblings and parents have for me. My dad calls me every day to make sure I'm OK. I had to enrol for part time program to keep me around people and I try not to be alone. Mr Don happiness is not based on riches

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    2. Ppl like you are the reason some individuals don't ask for help. Shut up! You don't know what the next person is going thru be it they're wealthy or poor. Just bc you can't understand it and wouldn't do it does not mean ppl won't still take their own lives. Learn to be empathetic and stop thinking that your life is the standard bc it is not. Stfu and have a seat!😠

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    3. Abi o. Thanks jare. Please tell them.

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  8. Atimes we do not know what those around us are passing through. God help your children in this recession o.

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  9. Stella, I heard another one almost happened during the week, but for the intervention of the police on 3MB. That the woman took a cab and when they got to the middle of the bridge she told the driver to stop. And she came down to jump over. As the driver saw he started shouting for help. That the woman was plus-sized and he was an old frail man. So the police patrol people saw her and rushed there. When they begged her and managed to pull her she started crying that she has unpaid loans (MMM maybe???) and she doesn't know what to do. That shes frustrated.

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    1. She was only looking for attention. Shebi she get money to take cab to 3mb ? Some are looking for the tfare to buy bread with pure water.

      If an able body man with car and cheaffeur​, good working environment, fat salary could think of ending it all, what does he want those beggars inside computer village, with no arms or legs but crawl around on thier chest do ?

      He is and was a selfish human being.

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    2. Don don't say that, mental health challenge is real

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    3. Don please don't say that.

      People are wired differently.
      Some are born hustlers no matter the situation, others give up on life after one or two challenges.

      I as a person have asked myself if I can ever attempt suicide (God forbid) and the resounding reply is hell NO, life is too sweet abeg.

      But you see, my view is very different from some others. Our mindset are different. Our mental state and health are different.

      Therefore most often the time, we just need to be sensitive to the plight of others.

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    4. Okay, I heard you guys. Thanks

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    5. Chikito, I know the woman. It's not MMM. She's a big textile dealer in Lagos market. She attends my church.

      Her son duped her years back. So she won't go out of business, she started buying goods on credit. Her house caught fire again. It was just God. Everyone came out of the house but she could not jump down because of her size. She was finally rescued. She has been through a lot but she doesn't look it.

      She even begged the boy to come back that she has forgiven him. I guess he left again.

      I pray she gets the help she needs.

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    6. She was even duped by a BDC guy sef.

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    7. Wow! @ swag thanks for confirming. I overheard my collegues talking about it. We all thought it was MMM. What a son!!!

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  10. Very sad indeed. RIP to the deceased.

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  11. You never know what people are going through so it will cost you nothing to be nice to everyone you meet.
    We all have silent battles we are fighting. Some are minor issues but a little kindness shown to the next person will go a long way.

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    1. Thank you. Some many people are going through a lot. May God help his children.

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  12. Things people go through silently, is baffling. Everyone with their battles and when they seek help, comfort or solace from family and friends they are turned down, mocked and ridiculed. It throws them into depression, sinks them in and shut the door living them in a cold dark room alone and helpless, shuddering in fear. So they feel the only way out is to end it all😣😫😭😖😞😩😳😟

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  13. I really feel for the family especially the mother who has being trying all she could to make things right. It is well, God knows best and why things turned out this way.

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  14. Oh wow!
    Just wow.
    Pretty sad story
    May his soul rest in peace

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  15. fr me I dnt see any reason that will make this man commit suicide,OK what of people who dnt have hope of tomorrow, who dnt have education in life, who struggle to put food on there table, but still live so I no see any pity I have fr him.

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  16. People need to be made aware of depression, it's real and yes it happens to 'black man'.

    I've read here on several occasions people writing about how much they want to end it all and some idiots would reply with "Take sniper" "make I buy rope for You?" "Begger, just say you need money"...SMH.

    Some years ago, I was sure money was all I needed to be happy. I know better now.


    MISS Jacobs.

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  17. if I tell you what I'm passing thru, it means people like me dnt exit, but still I'm still alive,committing suicide is it end of all,a times such tot will enter me, I said no, no be me create my self,let God forgive. in a family we re 8 in number, no one educated there, or even make mouth say he or she have complete 50k in his account, so is a big challenge fr me, each time I remember d condition it make me feel bad and tire fr my life, but one day my God will remember us I believe. and I bless God fr wonderful husband and son He gave me. no matter any thing you will see what you will use and bless d name of God in your life

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  18. A sad story.... It is well. Rip to him

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  19. a.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said...
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    This is very sad though..... Rip to his soul(even though i dont believe in soul)
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    ***CURRENTLY IN JUPITER***

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  20. Its well with God' s children

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  21. Fucky shitty shittt! That sickle cell shitty shit can be fricky fucky frustrating and depressing you know.
    Rest in peace young Doctor

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  22. Some of you really don't get it. The most important factor people readily ignore is, people are different, the threshold for pain or frustration are different. We all can't have the same reaction to the same situation. Then when you add the mental health issues to the mix, all bets are off. An individual with mental health issues cannot be held responsible for his/her actions because, apart from cognitive impairment during an episode, the mentally ill person is absent minded and has little or no control over his/her actions because they are not in their right minds. ‎

    Before you compare yourself with a person plagued by suicidal thoughts, remember that what makes "A" lose only a night's sleep, may tip the sanity balance of "B". You may feel you've weathered or still weathering financial storm and if you weren't suicidal, someone who is financially stable has no excuse. The bane of your existence may be financial instability while the bane of someone else may be loneliness. Your financial instability is not superior to someone else's loneliness just because you don't understand why or how a rich person can be lonely or why loneliness should even be a problem. The rich individual who sees you miserable because of financial strangulation, may not understand why you should be miserable. After all, you are surrounded by friends and family, the very thing he craves. Some will even be willing to give out all the cash they have just to get someone who genuinely cares about them and will always be by their side to vanquish loneliness. I know the economy is hard but don't cloud your judgment with that. Suicide isn't always about money, on the contrary, suicide among wealthy people are quite common because they've seen it all and done it all, so life has lost its meaning. They easily fall into depression and if not properly handled, they become suicidal.

    If you still feel justified comparing your struggle with that of a person suffering mental health challenges, the very fact that you are mentally balanced should be enough to stop the comparison. You can never know what it feels like to suffer mental illness unless you go through it yourself. I implore us to be more empathetic and sympathise with those suffering mental health issues, rather than be flippant with our words. I know some people play the "suicide card" just to whip up sympathy or get attention but let's err on the side of caution by giving them the benefit of the doubt, just in case. ‎If out of 10 people, 9 are faking it, saving the life of the one who is really ill is worth the trouble.

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    1. I think this is one of your best comments on this blog. A very critical analysis. Good one @Ronalda 👏

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  23. Everyone is facing their own unique battle so please don't judge Don. From the little I remember of this guy [he was 2 or 3 years ahead of me in school] he was such an easygoing person.
    May our faiths and strengths never be tested. I always saw suicide as the easy and selfish way out and judged those who even contemplated it but I'm not proud to say that a couple of months ago I genuinely wanted to end it all. I can only thank God for bringing me out of that dark period so no, do not judge please. You have no idea what he was going through.

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  24. Epilepsy is a condition that Nigerians liken to being possed by a demon. Is it any wonder that the poor man was depressed and committed suicide? Even if he found a woman willing to marry him, her family would stop her once they heard about his seizures. My heart bleeds for his family and especially for his mother. To have a child suffering from epilepsy, to have him graduate as a medical doctor, grow up into an upstanding young man and still not be happy must have been heartbreaking. More than anything, as a parent you just want your children to be happy and successful. Success without happiness is like eating a nice meal without the ability to taste anything.
    I can just imagine what his life must have been like, having epilepsy that could not be fully controlled by drugs. You can not imagine the embarrassment and disgrace of knowing it could happen anywhere or at anytime, to know when it happens you could wee on yourself or even soil yourself. To wake up and find people crowded around you with looking at you as if you are the devil himself and making no effort to help, the shame of waking up to find you have injured yourself and people make no effort to help as if by touching you, they would catcht it. To find yourself shunned by friends, not invited for parties so you don't disgrace them, even Instead, every corner he turned, people telling him to come to their church and how he would be cured by their pastors. Who knows how many churches he must have been to each time to have his hopes dashed because he finds they are all the same - SCAMS!!!! I wish the federal government of Nigeria would make it a jailable offence to claim to heal people if you cannot back up your claim. In fact all pastors should be made to verify their claims to heal by healing nominated people sent by the government and examined by a panel of specialists before and after. They should not be allowed to make any claims to heal if they cannot prove this or with their scams where they hire people to pretend to be crippled etc and heal them. They never call up real people and the stupid members of their churches never query how come they do not have any fellow members that have been healed, how all the miracles only seem to happen for strangers that nobody can verify. Anyway back to this poor young man. I can just imagine the hopelessness of his life knowing that he was not likely to get a wife of a similar interlectual level because of the prejudice in Nigeria. Even though the truth is that people should just be allowed to marry whomever they fall in love with as long as they are aware of the challenges and ready to support each other. Is it not human beings that marry able bodied people and yet after an accident are tied to a bedridden individul that cannot talk or walk. Are such marriages any better than being married to someone with epilepsy?
    Nigerians, accept responsibility. You caused this man's depression with your narrow minded meanness and his death as well. I hope you are proud of yourselves.

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    1. I was in high school when a classmate of mine had a seizure. Can't forget that day. Immediately one of us got a spoon and put in her mouth (she said she has a neighbor who has it). Some of us held the girl. The others were crying. Some poured water on her, and in turn the ones trying to hold her. We weren't quite sure what it was but we just wanted to help. You won't believe our teacher didn't even go near the girl. The girl was a very brilliant student sha. Those ones that wear huge glasses like windscreen. She lay on the floor for a while, with the spoon in her mouth. I think she was even foaming. Class captain rushed to call the nurse. We were just crying. After what seemed like 30 minutes she woke up and cleaned her mouth. Went to the bathroom and dusted herself up. She came backs and sat quietly in class. Of course classes were disrupted for the day. After that day we all tried to be extremely nice to her. And she knew why. By the next term she didn't return to school. I often wonder where she is now. *sigh*

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    2. I was in high school when a classmate of mine had a seizure. Can't forget that day. Immediately one of us got a spoon and put in her mouth (she said she has a neighbor who has it). Some of us held the girl. The others were crying. Some poured water on her, and in turn the ones trying to hold her. We weren't quite sure what it was but we just wanted to help. You won't believe our teacher didn't even go near the girl. The girl was a very brilliant student sha. Those ones that wear huge glasses like windscreen. She lay on the floor for a while, with the spoon in her mouth. I think she was even foaming. Class captain rushed to call the nurse. We were just crying. After what seemed like 30 minutes she woke up and cleaned her mouth. Went to the bathroom and dusted herself up. She came backs and sat quietly in class. Of course classes were disrupted for the day. After that day we all tried to be extremely nice to her. And she knew why. By the next term she didn't return to school. I often wonder where she is now. *sigh*

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    3. As for The narrow-mindedness in Nigeria, its on another level. I won't even go there. Cos I've had my fair share even on this blog.

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  25. May God rest his soul.


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  26. May God rest his soul amen

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