Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative..

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NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE

PREGNANT AGAIN TOO SOON

Good day Stella(pls,hide my mail) and my bv's.

 Am crying and very sad writing this. I need serious advice from experienced women or doctors, though going to see a doctor before this week ends. I just tested positive for pregnancy just 7months after birthing my baby through CS despite using condom as contraceptive.

I didn't want to use injectable or drugs as age isn't on my side, so we opted for CD which has failed o. We never ever planned for this. I and my husband have talked abt it and he said we shouldn't remove it because of my age (36)though I tried telling him to just let me use drugs to terminate it cos it's still very early.I We never ever planned for this. Am now reading on how to strengthen the uterus lining/scar tissue, if I may keep this pregnancy because what am reading scares me about uterine rupture.

 My questions are:
I am afraid of uterine rupture(UR) while my pregnancy is still on especially during the 3rd trimester. what are the chances of not having UR? 

2ndly, should I continue breastfeeding my baby or I should stop? 

3rdly, what are the things I should avoid doing?
I will reduce my portion of food so as not to make my tummy big but with plenty fruits and water, is this advisable? 

Has anybody experienced this kind of thing in this Nigeria? No need to tell me to travel out, I no even get the means. 

Lastly, can I abort it since its still very very early because we didn't plan for this but was planning till our baby is 1yr3mnths. Am crying,depressed,having headache and almost dying,cant even eat well, Chai, pls advice me.

 Thanks and God bless you all.Abeg,Stella,dont post hateful comments. I will watch what I say henceforth because I was saying I can never be part of those that will get pregnant 6months after CS, now never say never, God forgive me.*crying profusely* But God, why me`?

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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO

CHURCH ISSUES AND MARRIAGE


Dear Stella,

I have been attending Winners chapel since 2012, although on and off, not as a registered member. Recently, I decided to join a unit because I heard that before I can get married in my parent’s church, I’ll need to present a letter from my church. I stay in a different state from my parents and my parents attend one of these orthodox churches.


The issue now is this. I work very hard from Monday to Friday, up early and get back home late. On Saturdays, I clean up, go to the market, cook and stock up food for the following week, just preparing for the week ahead due to how un-breathable my schedule is.


Since 2012, I have faithfully gone to church except when I have to travel on Sundays for work related stuff. I planned my life such that 2-3 hours are for church, preferably the first service, so that I can use the rest of the day to get as much rest as possible. NOTE THAT: (I do not have a social life. There’s clearly no time for one. The little time I have isn’t even enough to rest and clear my head).


The thing is, after joining this ushering unit, I discovered that their policy is all workers must come to church by 6am in the morning, and stay for both first and second services and sometimes even workers meeting. Meaning I’d eventually leave church by 1-2pm thereabouts.


Stella, this doesn’t sit right with me at all. I come back feeling so exhausted, I can’t even hear what was said in church, and my much needed rest is never satisfied. I begin the new week more exhausted than ever.


I would like to know from your blog visitors if:

1. There’s a better way around this.

2. If there’s another flexible church I could go to, that lets you serve your round and leave.

3. Is it possible to get the letter without having to go through all this hassles? (My mum is really on my neck with who will give you letter when you are not a member and worker in a church, help yourself so that God will help you…..bla bla bla).

Your responses would be appreciated.