Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative..

Seems this happens a lot?WOW..I cannot even imagine this!

STAND ALONE NARRATIVE....

RIP TO A FATHER THAT HAS NOT DIED:

Good day super Stella and BVs.Been a blog visitor long time so let me get straight to the point, I don't know where this fall into but please i need advice. Sorry for the long story, tried my best to make it short. Stella please hide my ID.....i sent this few months back but it wasn't posted so i am re sending it again


forgive the errors that would follow,i am a lady , my parents met while my father was doing his NYSC in imo state,my mum is from IMO. my mother got pregnant with me when my father was about going back to the west, because he is Yoruba, they both agreed to abort for reasons best known to them, when he left, my mother found out that the abortion didn’t work so she decided to have the baby and bear the cross alone because they lost contacts.

She had me, got married but my step father refuse to have me in his house after some time into the marriage. That’s after my mum has already given birth to a son for him. She left him because of that and raised me and my brother alone, she suffered but she tried her best, she insisted on me answering my father’s surname because she believed that someday we would meet.she really loved him.


Long story short she met him when i was like 6 years in Lagos and he was interested in meeting me and all but my mum was leaving the country and had left me with an aunt in the village so he wasn't able to meet me.after my mum left the country and lost contact with him again. I was left with only a framed picture which he said should be given to me. (Picture got misplaced through my aunt i was living with,i was so little so i cant even remember the face right now )



I started looking for my father when i got admission into the university, asking questions and checking Facebook. after i lost my brother to the cold hands of death i intensified my search for my (father).I found him through Facebook, I know what i went through before i did. Saw his nephew on Facebook through the surname, i had to lie and somehow the guy gave me his number .this was last year February. I will be 30years in March. I was so nervous and happy that finally i have to meet this man, and put a face to the name i have been bearing.

I called him after deliberating for 2 days what i was going to do, he was as surprised to hear from me and said he was going to call me back,2 good weeks he didn’t call and i finally told my mum and she got his num from me and called him. He later called me and apologized for not calling back explaining how he lost my number and the rest. 

He explained his side of the abortion and later meeting my mum story to me. i told him i just wanted us to meet get to know each other .he said he is based in Abuja and is married with 2 kids. He picked a day for us to meet only for him to disappoint, I didn’t hear from him and I decided to let him be for few months .i called him again and he apologized that he lost all his contact.

this past xmas I decided to call him again so we can meet, I explained to him that I didn’t want anything from him, am done with my schooling and working so I just wanted to see his face. 

He agreed that we should meet on the 24th of December, that’s how I didn’t hear from him again. I sent him a text that if we didn’t see and 2016 runs out that he is dead to me, he didn’t call or reply the text.i still cant let him go ,i told myself to delete his digit and let it all go but i cant bring myself to do that .


P.S -  his nephew that gave me the num don’t know am his daughter and he told me he is a lecturer at NOUN in Abuja ,I live in Lagos and he was in Lagos this xmas ,he told me himself


Is it bad to want to place a face to the surname I have carried with me for 30 years?

Should I just forget about him and delete his number??

What could be his reason for not wanting us to meet???

I have met someone and i think its leading somewhere the only issue now is that i told him am from Imo because i didn't want to explain all the above to him.should i tell him now??

*Please move on your father does not exist.#Spermdonor ..

DO NOT TELL YOUR MAN ANYTHING cos he might use your story against you later......He doesnt want to meet becos he is scared you might want further contact and he doesnt know how to explain you to his wife and his family.

Stop hurting yourself,please move on and be Happy.