STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
CONFUSED ON THE NEXT STEP
Hi Stella .Hi *Bvees*.
I am confused. I am unlucky in love. I am a 33 years old lady. I am heavily endowed and well.. Beautiful.
I have a biiig problem. I am overly generous. Even when I no get I can borrow to sort someone out. Its that bad. I always promise myself to say no but I end up giving to friends, family and even strangers. My own na disease.
I tried snm in Sept and this guy and I hooked up. Guy was old school and local. Very razz. We met at a mall at my insistence and I paid the bills. Guy kept asking " you hold bucks?" In his Yoruba acented voice. Vex wan kee me. His voice was also very loud and he kept talking about Buhari and Ambode..jeez.
Whenever we chatted he always reminded me that his data will soon expire, I kept sending him airtime and when he started talking about his expired house rent, I borrowed sense and took a walk.
Within the 2 months we chatted, I was a mermaid but at least 40/50 k left my purse to his pocket.
I met another dude on the DEC snm and I am at it again.
I have never met this guy but his "situation" got to me after he told me his story. He is 38 and was affected by the recent mass sack in the banking sector.
Oga no get shiishii saved up. I have sent money more than 6 times. I no dey take ear hear say person dey hungry.
Guy has promised marriage over the phone. we chat 24/7, video call et al but I never see this dude before.
Biko who do me?
Its not as if I am desperate .I just can't stop this my yeye" saviour" behaviour. Friends and family has taken advantage of my generosity in the past.
Dude is eager to see me but I am holding back cos I will foot my bills from uyo to Lagos. I will also book a hotel for my stay cos I can't stay over in his house although he is asking me to.
To be fair to him, he has never asked for money but whenever he laments, I quickly transfer cash.
No be say I rich ooo. My biz even has malaria.. Lol.
Abeg na only me waka come? Who get cure for this my madness? I be maga?
Should I give it a shot and spend my own money going to visit egbon? whilst I am there, I will be responsible for our feeding and I have to leave something for him as well when I am leaving.
Is there hope for this kind of relationship? Has anyone "sponsored" a man and eventually ended up with that man? He is a great person though. I am confused oo. Stella use a black pen today biko..lol
Pls hide my email add.
*Wow....I dont even know what to say,you need JESUS..LOL
Brb battery abt to die
ReplyDeletePls I need Richard card poster
DeleteHahahaha, u will sponsor your trip and give him money when u r leaving....?
DeleteHehehehehe. You be sugar mummy?
Find a man that can take care, it feel nice. Or worst still one that wont collect from you. Dont start what you cannot finish my dear.
Poster, it's like in your past life you were are man and has come back as a man in a woman's body.
DeleteBiko go and borrow sense, pesin no dey stupid like this.
You have the ministry of help. Its in the Bible. My pastor once talked about it . Priscilla or so had that ministry in the Bible.
DeleteMe too,
DeleteThis your reply made me 😁. But poster this is too much. People will keep taking advantage of you if you don't stop. You need wisdom and real friends to guide you.
DeleteMy dear i feel it's desperation oooo biko calm down maybe your village people don't want you to have a saving. Don't visit him, infact stop the relationship naa maga the guy see you as. Calm down and pray o
DeleteMy dear i feel it's desperation oooo biko calm down maybe your village people don't want you to have a saving. Don't visit him, infact stop the relationship naa maga the guy see you as. Calm down and pray o
DeletePoster, stop being stupid. Even if he doesn't ask you for money, he had the mind to send you his account number. How sure are you that he has ever worked in a bank? He could be playing you. Remember Cynthia that was killed. Be careful.
DeleteWhat he is doing to you now is a common strategy that broke guys use to get money. What makes you so sure that you are the only person he is chatting with from snm? Don't go to any Lagos and stop sending him money!
How many broke guys think of marriage? He is using that strategy to manipulate your mind. You better block him on whatsapp so you will stop seeing him and focus!
DeletePlease come and help my ministry, I have an exam to write
DeleteWelldonema....i deh pity you in advance
ReplyDeleteLet's stop insulting the poster, having a good heart is not a crime. Babe harden your heart.
DeleteI used to be like you poster,not giving to boyfriends though because I never had any but I was giving stupidly and even to those who don't need it,I had no savings,I will rather give to people than buy myself any good thing,it was so bad,I will even borrow to give if I don't have but I always have but no savings though.
DeleteMy friends and everybody who knew me took advantage of it,the worst is that when I give,I do it secretly so that the receiver does not feel embarrassed, it is a long story though, until i went for deliverance. It became a very big problem when I started hearing the same people I give to, discussing among themselves about how much they can easily manipulate me to get something from me,at that point I knew I needed deliverance. And I did,I am better now, though I still give but now it is mostly to those who need it. I also learnt not give to those who ask me for it but those ones who I can tell that they need it. I learnt that from my pastor, don't give to those who ask sometimes but those to those needy who never asked.
Those guys know how to press your mumu button😃 well I once like U with my ex but I prefer giving to the less priviledge now o. And Na yafunyafun gidigba gidigba blessing dey follow me . Just take Ur time sisto, the right one will come
DeleteMadam poster, I used to be like you. I found it difficult to say no. Even when I did, na long story I go dey use explain. I will be giving excuses and even lie. I had a "friend" in uni then who I noticed that she was not from a comfortable background. I brought food from home for both of us. This geh was saving the pocket money her parents were sending to her. If I cook, she will take the biggest meat. If she is drinking milo, it will fill half of the big mug and very thick. She will look at my phone for when alert enter. She broke the camel's back when I kept a cash gift I was given secret and she kept malice with me. Now I am stingy! Especially since I went broke one time and trekked to the hospital to have an operation because I didn't have transport fare. Then I got a very stressful job that had me standing for hours. The value of money became very clear to me. Even street beggars, I no dey give again. One of my toasters then asked me to buy charger for him that he would refund, I no buy. Even to use money to cook for a guy I can't. I have finally learnt to say "no" without explaining myself. When I think of all the times that useless poverty girl used my head, I just want to slap myself. It would be cool if I sent this to in house news sef.
DeleteReceive sense in JESUS name... amen!!!
ReplyDeleteNothing is wrong with u aside you bn desperate for marriage, nwanne calm down n pray to God for direction to the right person
Delete#mycandidopinion
This lady your play play too much. Can I be your boyfriend please? Ezigbo nmadu. Apart from men who you epp?
ReplyDeleteHahahahahahahahaha, Fan ehhhh
DeleteU need deliverance@poster
ReplyDeleteThat was how I mumuishly gave and gave my ex that had a federal job o for two good years, till I lost my small job. Meanwhile, dude never bought a pin for me for a day. Whenever I hint that I need money, he'll give me a prepared speech on how he did a fixed deposit with his bank and don't have much to give out, yet he spends mine lavishly.
DeleteI footed his bills whenever he visited me (both feeding and accommodation) all in the name of love, because for my mind, he was saving for our future. Even when I visit him, na my money we go still spend. Until I lost my job and asked the nigga for money, he started the sob story again,that was when I gave myself brain. The last year of our relationship, I spent my money on myself alone after getting another job. He had the effrontery to say I was stingy. Yes, let me be.
Dear poster, I beg you, stop giving him, even when he says tells you he has 1001 problems, na format. Don't even visit, cos na your money you go still spend. If he wants you to come, let him make arrangements for that. Btw, to be honest you don't need such a broke ass morrafucker. Your real man should treat you like a queen and not the other way round.
Please snap out of it already.
ReplyDeleteA real man doesn't spend time lameting and complaining that's an indirect way of begging because complaining to someone alone is because you expect them to help you out of your situation someone.
You're not desperate but you act so.
How can you keep giving and giving without receiving.yes God loved a cheerful giver but not for men.
Do not go to Uyo, if he was responsible be would have saved money all the while he worked and even at that he has family and friends before he met you
At 38, he has no direction. He is worried about relationship when he should be worried about getting another job or starting something to sustain himself.
Dear lady, please wake up and stop using your age as a yardstick to be used by men and people who take your generosity for granted.
It's time to focus on your business. Your own man with sense will come but he won't come if you keep chasing never do wells and lazy men who want women to give them.
God bless you dopple! How can u keep giving to men of no value! Huh? It beats me how a 38 year old man worked for years and couldnt save anything to fall back on even if it is to feed himself pending when he will be able to secure another job. Visionless, Goal less man is what I see this man represents. You don't need a man like this in your life poster. How can u take up the man's role? While he is lazying there and just lamenting without making efforts to be right on track again?
DeleteI give not only to men but to people around me. I can't bear to see someone hungry and right from when I was a kid, I shared even my lunch.
DeleteI guess I need deliverance from this yeye behaviour.
My mind is made up, I won't visit. And I won't give him money again.
Thanks everyone. I have received sense.
Poster you will get tired of it. You cannot keep supporting him. Let him forget about dating and organize his life first. It is unfair for him to tag someone along when he has nothing he is doing. And please, if you have to travel to go see a man, he has to pay for your expenses. If you start by paying for everything, it will never stop. You are spoiling him. Tell him to get a job and get on his feet first. Dont spend another dime on him. I repeat..dont spend another dime on him. When he starts complaining about issues, you too should complain about how you need money to solve something. Lazy men dont mind collecting money from women all the time. A responsible guy willtake care of you and not expect you to take care of him.
Delete@ Poster, quit this childish talk. You dont need to go to any church for deliverance, this is who you are and nobody, absolutly no body can change you. Do not listen to every thing these ladies here say, cause in the shelter of their homes, the do worse. I see beautiful heart in you, all you need to do is learn how to control and regulate it. People, Men, not all, would want to advantage of ur giving spirit, but should be able to decipher who genuinly needs your help, give only when you have, do not strain yourself to please another. Walk, when you know the person you want to help is of no good. Confide in somebody, family member, who will help you in containing that urge to always give. Do not stop, but be watchful. God be with you.
DeletePoster am like you exactly like you but I gave my s nose too and started investing in different things (properties and biz in nija etc) my dear the only many you should support sometimes is you confirmed husband I don't know what nija boys re turning into my ex which happens to be my childhood friend wanted to suck me dry always complaining of one thing to d other even to the extent he will lie he dint eat cos oil company where he works has not paid him for two months I will just log on my online account send this fool cash and with time I looked my account statement and saw it had become a regular thing to have a solid closure I flew to ph to frm paris to see this big baby fool and found horrible things on his laptop Facebook email etc
DeleteConclusion any man that truly love you will be the one feeling the way you feel for these guys abou you as in even if he dnt have he will borrow to put a smile on your face.keep your money buy purse bag land car whatever but for yourself alone
Enough said
Dear poster please stop it. I am like this but mine is with sense and is not restricted to men. Infact, I would rather not give men. For what?? Plus my first bf spoilt me silly so my expectation from men was very high.. pls stop it. It's cos u have a good heart. Just give with sense. No go anywhere till dem send u money o
DeletePoster,
DeleteI'm glad you have received sense.
Don't visit him at your own expenses.
Let this be a warning to all of you husbands who are sitting down lazily wishing and wishing for break-through, while leaving financial burden of the home to your wife.
Only Wicked men do that.
Your days are numbered.
The bible said a man must provide for his home else he is worse than an infidel.
There's no no excuse to justify such laziness man!!!
Sweetheart, firstly ur write up made me laugh so thank you. But more importantly, I think God has gifted u the spirit of giving/charity. It's one of the gifts of the Holy Spirit & it's clearly written in the new testament. Please re-direct ur giving to people who really lack and not users and able bodied men (and women) who are only there for what they can get from u. PLEASE, RE-DIRECT and watch God bless you beyond ur imaginations! As for relationships with men, STOP GIVING THEM MONEY! Please stop eet! No real man will 'lament' to u let alone beg for money. A real man will add to urs even if u are a billionaire. Focus on your business & serving humanity ( and God) and the right man will show up. He will! Forget these hungry ones please, they are far from responsible and are obviously there to suck you dry. Imagine "u hold bucks?" Lmaooo
DeleteOya Aunty mi I am broke
ReplyDeleteMake me believe your chronicle
DeleteBefore you go to Lagos, reach ur village and beg them to free u. Cos this is super abnormal
ReplyDeleteVery abnormal! Even 'sense' no gree follow this woman cos of fear of d unknown!
DeleteEya
ReplyDeleteThey will always take advantage of u,u have to stop,its not longer funny at 32,or are u using their destiny? CU's I don't get it o.lols?
ReplyDeleteAs a matter of necessity, Na dis kain babe supos marry rich man! I love generous women, you're the right age, wrong location, (No vex, Uyo faaar!), but you confessed to being endowed abi how you tok am. Nay, I like my women nearly dainty. Moderate ass, moderate boobs, like Kidjo as a size 10.
DeletePoster just say it is well
ReplyDeleteAm short of words
Jesus!..
ReplyDeleteOMG!..
OMG!...
I need to see this poster so I can slap this rubbish from her brain!...
This story is annoying me!...
Poster,you are a goat,monkey,Mugu...infact,you are everything...
You mean you give men your hard earned money??...
Oh gosh!...
See,real men don't value women that spends on them like you do!...
You really need to change if you want to get married to a real man not a leech!...
You have to borrow your self brain and stop!!!!...
Give your money to beggars and the vulnerable instead of a full grown man!!...
This story is annoying!...
Na wa for you.tufiakwa.u are doing tohtoh tank u.at dis age.continue wasting your time and money.please make u reach me.
DeleteI quite agree you but not with the name calling. If you advise her without calling her names nne onwe ihe ga-eme gi
DeleteLinda eze walahi na motor go kill you at last! Lets bet it☝
DeleteMy dear something is seriously wrong with you, you said you're not desperate but deep down your mind, you're very desperate and these men knew about it, that's why they're using you. Is something wrong with your self confidence? Please work on that and stay away from SNM guys for now
ReplyDelete*Larry was here*
Maga fall, guyman chop.
ReplyDeleteAunty U need JESUS
ReplyDeleteSince you're sharing money kukuma come and bless me ehn, God will bless you too 😟😟😟...
ReplyDeleteYou say you are not desperate but you spend your money on guys you just met.You are even thinking of going to visit egbon in his town,and asides footing your tfare, you will be responsible for feeding while there and still drop something for egbon while leaving.
ReplyDeleteClap for yourself Mother Christmas. If that ain't DESPERATION,I don't know what else is.
Better borrow sense.
A real man has ego and will never demand from a stranger he's just meeting maybe you give the impression that you have a lot of money to throw around hence the demands.
ReplyDeleteYour intentions might come off as good but men might be threatened by the money display and all. Stop giving them the impression you are too comfortable financially.
The guy should invite you and make provision for accommodation, transport and all.
On another note, as I dey sleep better sleep this afternoon, I just heard my neighbours
wife screaming and threatening to break the door; she travelled for a wedding and told her Husby she will be back on Monday only for her to come back today and the Husby brought in one Sisi for the weekend. Men! Na WA o! Let me go outside and see the damage on the door.
Ooooo
DeleteY no drama de ever happen for my house naw?
Hisss
Hahahahaha, she should break his head instead.
DeleteKai! Some men ehhh
Smh! You need prayers. It's good to give but not not out of foolishness. People will keep using it against you and id have been surprised if you told me your business didn't have malaria. I'm sure you're giving all the profit out to the 'needy'. Please open a charity at once you hear?
ReplyDeleteOya oh... needers of help make una see una helper ooohh. This is the helper we have all been waiting for. 😂
Lol@last paragraph....
DeleteShe is indeed the helper we have been waiting for....gals and desperation...but I can't blame her o...
She is 33 so its normal to want to do anything for your man but not someone you haven't met...u Dont even know if he has a girlfriend and just using you....
Please stop it b4 you break your heart by yourself cos bros no send you...
You even added 1 to d age...lolz
DeleteOh dear. Young lady. You need to work on your self esteem. You also need to understand that spending on people wouldn't make them like you. You have a good and generous heart but people will take advantage of you. Stop letting that happen.
ReplyDeleteFirst of all you should sit your ass down. Don't go to any Uyo. If he truly cares let him come to Lagos or wherever you are. If he doesn't have then wait till he does. Trust me the only reason why he wants you to come is because he feels you will be as generous with your body as you are with your money.
Also I feel you may come off as a bit too desperate for companionship know your worth and don't diminish your class for any man.
Even my old grandmother will tell you that the only men you should spend on are your father and your sons. she didn't even approve of my mum and her sisters spending on my uncle. She will say a man needs to know how to work to feed! The allowance my grandparents gave him were all he used to build himself. If you see my uncle now ehn he is a big boy to the glory of God.
My dear there is no hope. Eve if it works its because he has seen an everlasting maga that will cater to him. You need to let it go and mermaid your wallet.
Pekele pekele arugbo je gbese, tani o san. Desperation at it's peak!!!
ReplyDeleteAunty poster, you better give yourself brain, all these fuckboys you are running upandan with will only waste your time, fck your punani and still collect your money.
"He promised marriage over the phone" Ahh! Is it that bad??? For the guy mind now, he dey do you Favour aye mi o, oma she o.
You better goan buy Malarech tabi Maladrin for your business. Oshi rada rada.
Oya tawai!!! Receive sense! Ayu mad? You better sit your ass down and don't go anywhere. Yes they're always nice until the money finishes or stops coming then you come here with part 2 or dv stories. If you wanna test my theory, next time he complains lock up and don't give him shishi his attitude will change. A real man may not have job but at least e go get small hustle to take hold body. In fact thunder fire am there on your behalf. Jati jati oshi.
ReplyDeleteIt's not sickness. It's your mindset and the earlier you change it, the better for you.
ReplyDeleteMy dear poster you wouldnt get a serious relationship with this kind of a behavior of spending on guys you are dating or plan dating instead they will be seeing you as a maga and wouldn't be taken seriously.don't go and see him,its like he has nothing to offer, just be patient with relationship,ur right guy will come.
ReplyDeleteI will say this,dont start what u can't finish.. cos the next chronicle will be,my hubby is a lazy ass.this guy is singing marriage cos he has seen u as his meal ticket.do u wanna know if he means what he is saying concerning marriage? Act broke,if he complains from now till tomorrow just tell him God will provide and watch him turn 360 degree to another generous man.when I was dating hubby,he was always spoiling me with money,the only time I spend for him is when I want to buy him toiletries or boxers!!be wise woman..Hubby said my money na "pussy cat shit"dem no dey see am anyhow..I hope that's how u gv ur parents even b4 dey ask.
ReplyDeleteBless you
DeleteAww cum broak ass men kip beeing atrackted to yhu... Olzo yhu sayed yhu ah north a desperet sombori, yhu shore yhu ah north d tipe dat flonts welt wish atrackts em?
ReplyDeleteDun be decieve by dat marage promiss somtin... Cus yhu mite north laik aww eat wheel end.
Befur eye forgate, Eats a gud somtin to giff epp... Bet abaut weda or north to go fisit dat guy, my sista, eye dunno.
Ode.
ReplyDeleteHanti can I know u?
ReplyDeleteI need ur type in my life😊
@Ibukunoluwa are you not same person dancing to @ monachiofficial music at IG to be won 1m
DeleteAll this fabu everyday should stop please. I refuse to agree that a well composed niga girl in 2017 will be this shallow. We are adults here not kids. Please go elsewhere and seek for children advice. If you are real though you really must be fish brained.
ReplyDeleteForget it Ooo,..
DeleteSome gals are like that...I have a a friend that started spending for a guy she met only once and later discovered he had a relationship (she saw pics of the guy and the gal) but he lied to her that the gal was just a friend... So forget it Ooo...some gals do it so the guy can marry them probably out of desperation or ,....
Its the truth babe. What will I gain by writing such s story about myself?
DeleteThanks anyway
Dey there things dey happen. Na because say this one talk her own? It's happening but they are all hiding it
DeleteDear poster permit me to insult you small,you are a fool o,at 33 your brain is still so empty.God will help you,Nywaiz you need to be smart,pray,its good to be nice but you are overdoing it Ma..give yourself brain!abi you no wan get savings ni?
ReplyDeleteDon't mind her...
DeleteIf she is my sister,I would disowned her...
I relate with your story somewhat as I am also generous to a fault. Remember that people will keep taking and taking from you until there's nothing left before moving on to the next person,so once in a while, keep your palm shut and say NO! Saying no for me is also hard so in order not to use all my money to save the whole world's problem, I've learnt to keep my savings either in a fixed deposit or invest immediately in a property. I try as much as possible not to keep cash around so when I say I don't have, I genuinely mean it.
ReplyDeleteAs for this your Uyo guy, I'm sure you already know what to do
Correct!..
DeleteNne biko bless me with only 30k,as u are going around doing good. God bless u as u bless me too. Thank u
ReplyDeleteSeconded I need her blessings too financially
DeleteHahahahhahhaha Hahahahhahhaha
DeleteIf you continue like this, you will keep on footing very guys bill so stop that habit because guys will only love you for your money.
ReplyDeletePoster don't go Lagos with your money, you will definitely get tired of feeding him and still walk away so don't waste your money.
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ReplyDeleteSTELLA!
DeleteSTELLA!!
Your female version indeed!...
DeleteScammer!...
Poster better don't even team up with anon 15:28-. Both of you will be a disastrous couple. Trekking and buying jeeps for people 😂 Please find a firm person to team up with. Someone that is financially wise to curtail your excesses. That goes for both of you. You don't need each other. I chikito don't endorse this relationship and I'm just trying to make common sense 😂😂
DeleteSo you want to chop your own share ba? God go punish all of una
Deleteposter be careful with this anonymous with BBM pin. trust no one. people are dangerous. remember yahoo plus people can mess you up big time. .... don't add this pin.
Delete419 original. Hahahahhahhaha
DeletePoster u be mugu o! What do u mean by 'To be fair to him, he has never asked for money but whenever he laments, I quickly transfer cash', why do u think he laments to u? Its because he knows u are his mumu provider.
ReplyDeleteThe easiest solution to your case is to try dating rich guys that are generous and would hate a lady footing the bills. These guys u mentioned are all broke guys.
Gbam!.,,
Delete"I am heavily endowed and well.. Beautiful"... send your picture or you are lying...it's either you are fat or ugly for you to be spending money on men...but again, why is a guy not so ashamed to be asking money from random women who are seeking love? I am a guy and i findit absurd for a grown ass man to be asking for money from a woman in the name of love as in the case of the first guy.. well lady,look for a man who is responsible, a man worth to be called one.
ReplyDeleteJames,is this you?...
DeleteHahaha
Somehow I understand your problem koz I was once like you. Worked in a bank and had NOTHING saved up when I left because I was busy feeding friends and housing everyone I met.
ReplyDeleteI didn't really give to male friends but I go buy you food and if we go out, I foot my bills you pay yours.
Somewhere along the line, I realized I had a problem and needed auto reset. God made me broke ( yes he did). I lost it all and had to start from the scratch.
Now, I have Ijebu sense. I still give though but not like before. If you call me for help these day, instead of going all out and even borrowing like I used to back then, I will take a pen and paper, then write out my account balance and expenses for the month ( usually it's never enough) so where I wan see change give you?
Poster, na only you waka come o. You have a problem. FIX it and start taking care of yourself.
Good luck
Where is that Mugu poster,
DeleteOya,read this one and digest...
This story pain me ga n
Kikikiki.@monkey face I tell my dad that God made him broke too. So that all the evil around him will be exposed. You won't know who your real friends are until you're having it rough. No one should wait for that lesson before you learn. Have sense early.
DeleteI agree. I was like that and just like you, I had to lose it all before factory settings was activated. If you don't stop this poster, nature has a way of correcting anomalies. You may have to lose everything before you understand yourself.
DeleteGuys how do you feel collecting money from a woman, even my wife e dy hard to spend her money. @ poster God is your strength. Your generosity will be rewarded. For every person you give especially guys talking marriage please let them know you are not desperate or being foolish. *still wondering* how do you keep face to beg a Lady you are asking out for money. Shame dy catch me for una. I once had a friend like that,this guy lived on women.
ReplyDeleteSigned: John edet
Dear John, there is a difference btw generous and foolishness. Our poster here is not being wise in disbursing her God given blessings. Not saying she should be tight fisted though but she should give with understanding.
DeleteYou are a real man !...
DeleteAnd I forgot to add...
ReplyDeletePeople like this will always have "friends" who are ALWAYS in need. It is not a coincidence.
You are their Maga
Been there, done that, learnt the hard way
Hahahaha Abeg leave broke yaraba guy jare.
ReplyDeleteYour open hand is God gift to you just like me and there is nothing you can do about it. Just that God will give you wisdom
Leave that recession man
It's good to give but not doing it with sense!...
DeleteYou need Jesus
ReplyDeleteI used to be like you. I lived for people. I always did everything I could to make my friends happy. Whenever any of my friends faced a problem and my help was sought, I always came to their rescue like Spider Man. Even if I didn't have money, I borrowed just to help a friend in need. I received sense when I encountered financial problems and non of them lifted a finger to help me. Not that they tried to help oh. I suffered in silence. I have stopped being father christmas. I was generous to a fault. I was generous to the point that if I went out with a friend to buy drinks and I didn't have enough money on me, I'd tell the friend to take an expensive drink while I take the less expensive one. I was a mumu! Always trying to form good friend to those who didn't and still don't deserve it. Dear, don't let people milk you dry. Don't create room for people to take advantage of you. Instead of giving your hard-earned money to ingrates, visit an orphanage and make a little donation. The most annoying thing about my own generosity was that: I was generous to people that had a lot more than I did. Imagine a brokeass like me. Thank God for opening my eyes. Let HIM open yours too. If you don't let him, he want. Don't be a MUGU!
ReplyDeleteTankiu!!!
DeleteThose friends will NEVER lift a finger to help you when you are down
Poster,come and read this too...
DeleteMumu!.
😂😂😂 see my father's twins ohhh!! So una plenty like this?
DeleteY'all got the queen and boss triggered. See how she is allover the post hyperventilating and shit. Lol
DeletePoster RUN. Yahooo Yahooooooo comes in different format. U are been scammed. They will milk u dry. Ibadan lo mo,o mo layipo.
ReplyDeleteHmm this sounds like one Bv sha but make I keep mute
ReplyDeletePoster, please have some self love and stop giving the impression that you are rich, you can't let yourself vulnerable for people.
DeleteMy dear, I am older than you and still very single I work and also had a business, I own landed properties I had friends of the opposite sex that were interested in me, we talked for years still do. They only know that I work, they don't know I have employees or any other thing about me. Guys that ask me out in the same city with me don't even know where I live cos I would not even tell them. A man has to prove himself.
That I have more money than you does not justify why you won't be a man. A man is supposed to : provide, protect and be a coverage. You want to be a man abi? My dear, if a man does not have shame and he is asking you directly or indirectly for money that tells a lot (negative) about him. That means he cannot even use Hus church mind to give you anything when you are in need. Stop attracting the wrong kind of people into your life.
Na so my papa dey do before. Chief of helpers association!! 💪🏼💪🏼 I lived in a 14 bedroom house until shortly after my 10th birthday. My childhood memories are sooo bae! 🙌🏽 My siblings and I would occupy only 3 rooms, my parents one room, maids and drivers two rooms. Chefs never stayed. The rest of the house populated by relatives, inlaws, friends, church members who had accommodation problem. The worst was that the rooms were big so one family can stay in one room very conveniently. See charity house. My mum had to insist that she needs her guest section in tact if not they would have taken it too. She said her friends used to ask her how she manages. She big pot we were cooking with.
ReplyDeleteWhen his finance house folded up (Thanks to a fraudulent IJGB best friend he invited to partner with landing his 'good heart' in a hot financial mess and taking off); he was using his personal money to cover as salary for over 100 employees. He couldn't leave them jobless. He wasn't ready to. When other partners were using the money to pack up and relocate their families. Na lie oh! Father Christmas. He did that for 6 months until he ran dry. Then we heard it hot. I thank God for my wise mother with a good heart. She had insisted on working despite his status, and had saved her salary for over one decade. That her 'what do you need to work for?' salary became our saving grace for a long time.
Then come and See betrayal!! Court cases up and down. The house became very empty. Employees left. If I write my family's story here we won't finish today.
That was when the man learnt that all he has is his wife and kids. Lock up!! Till today he still asks God to help him forgive some people. It took my father years to heal from all the hurt that his 'good heart' caused and start over. Youb just open up your heart to be used by all and sundry. One of his blood sisters asked for the papers of one of his houses to get loan that she will return. She later sold it without even telling him. Unto 'Mr big generous heart'. When he needed it she dodged. Till today their relationship get as e be.
Poster don't worry. Maybe when you learn a lesson too you will seat up. As for me, I don use my papa learn I don't need any more lessons on unnecessary generousity😂😂
You don't say Chikito!..
DeletePeople are bad!...
Poster,come and read this and digest...
As I dey read your story I just dey vex!! So many memories. Better ask God for wisdom or else.... go and read my story again.
DeleteSometimes one needs to just wonder, "hope my good deeds won't kill me?"
DeleteEverybody is not your friend
The award for "most experienced BV" goes to you, Chikito. Uncontested babe!
DeleteMrs Dickson
Oh mehn! Girl I give it to you finally finally, you must relate😀😀😀
DeleteI feel I wrote this story subconsciously.
DeleteI would have asked if you are my sister,my father was so much like yours,Infact at some point,some of these so called friends and family poisoned him and luckily he survived those nine times. I watched our Mecca house became isolated when things changed,I watched my father shed secret tears out of betrayal. I resolved never to be like my dad,but I was wrong,Blood does not lie, I started behaving like him unconsciously until I went for deliverance. I thank God for His restoration upon my family and His wisdom upon my life,I became a harsh version of my father. I give with wisdom now,thanks to God.
DeleteStory of my life. I learnt from my dad's mistakes too. People are evil and will only chop & clean mouth; and when u need help, cricket u no go see sef.
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ReplyDeleteWhy can't he hustle for transport money and come to uyo to see u. The worst thing u can do in life Is make more effort than ur man is doing , until he proves himself worthy,no man Is worth going the extra mile for,and even after that,have ur senses intact. Use ur brain dear, u sound like a jovial and nice person. Don't let that nature be taken away ,cus of the one chance, u wan use clear eye enter.
ReplyDeleteAbout ur giving nature, oh well...givers never lack.
Lazy Sunday! I commented on almost every post today....*gives myself a Pat on the back*. lol.
Hmmmmmmn!poster I no fit shout and for the record this guy no go marry you and he's after your money,how can you spend money on a guy you've not seen,please better save that money or give it to the poor.
ReplyDeleteGo to God in prayer because your own husband will soon come.
The man is the one to spend on you.
I got news few hours ago my Grandma is dead. Oh maama!
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My helper oh my helper, my helper oh my helper............ and I sang that song with all my heart in church today. Wow wow wow (as a siren that I am na) God bless you poster for your large heart . Pls keep helping the needy, your reward is in heaven.
ReplyDeleteI learnt my lesson but I just pray make I get sense to be able to say no and be able to say I no get. I was so generous despite knowing that the person who needs help sef get something pass me, abi Na for relationship sef. As from today I don borrow sense join the one I don get recently . To enlarge Ur coast U must be ready to give less and not everytime. From the little one wey I get I fit give everything and be left with nothing
DeleteHmmmm, pls somebody pray for me. am also facing disame thing hooo, all my mate we started work with. are all having their house & car. as for me nothing to show. any one just complain, exspecialy family members i will go to any lent to give.
ReplyDeleteYou have a very serious problem for real.
ReplyDeleteThe tone of your writeup reveals a very unserious, directionless and needlessly carefree person. I find something off and irritating about your write up. You sound like some naive 13 year old who is all excited about getting deflowered in a neighbour's tricycle. Haba, is this some form of mini imbecility or what? Sorry, if i sound insensitive and brutal, but abeg, you did not approach this as a problem at all. You sound like you need some pat on the back for being a good,generous to a fault kinda person who maybe, should be mildly chided for her naivety about love and relationships and probably be given a simple advise and even marital connection from here...BULLSHIT!!!
Better stop reading if you have no liver oh, i am not about to be nicer.
At your very ripe age, you are behaving like some remote controlled zombie.
You suffer from deep insecurity, feeling like you aren't good enough to be loved for you. So you bribe, you pay, you over support and over compensate for acceptance till you've grown into a full blown doormat. There is nothing spiritually wrong with you. You are a result of chronic self-enablement of severe low self esteem.
So what makes you think you are not good enough as a person?
If you feel you are that overweight, why not invest all that money you throw on others to trim down via exercise and healthy diet or find a way to accept yourself as you are. If you think you are ugly, which can't be true, THERE IS NO UGLY WOMAN. Improve you looks with makeup that complements you, change your wardrobe, dorn on colourful accessories and the rest.
Learn, practise how to say NO. This brand of "good girl" you are practising will fry you. Think yourself first. It is okay to be justly selfish. No one will put you first before themselves so why not be your own champion. It's a good thing you are not married sef, you would lose yourself totally.
Since you know of your problem and how others take advantage, view every complainant with suspicion...better paranoid than emotionally used and drained. Zone off if any one starts complaining about being broke, do not be hasty to listen to people's problem or make promises and commitments. When they rush you,ask to think about it for at least a day, draw up your own needs, settle them first before you throw around money. People will never run out of issues, if you die now, life goes on, you are not indispensable at all, another mugu will be found..so kill this excessive and smelly sensitivity. Your new mantra, NO NO NO. Change lines or don't pick nos of chronic beggars. Stop indulging them, stop hurting yourself with temporary fulfillment.
What you are doing is a short cut solution to your problem. If it's something you can't handle, get your ass to a psychiatrist. You need to find yourself first, with that your taste in men will change. You keep sending money to men coz you indulge yourself in all these "have you eaten" relationships, which is how they complain and your mumu button get pressed.
Mini imbecility..lol..I don suffer.
DeleteI am a size 10. Not overweight.
Thanks for your advice.
I disagree with you on this, you did not understand the poster. Those who are like that,are like that. It is an unconcious thing. Something you have no control over. She said,she does not give to men alone.
DeleteI saw my beloved father pay dearly for such behaviour,yet I found myself living like that until I ran to Christ for deliverance.
The poster needs deliverance.
Lol@ responsible for OUR feeding 😂😂. You'll feed him too...lol
ReplyDeletePlease stop doing this to yourself.
Being generous is a rare gift but a gift misused eventually becomes a curse.....
ReplyDeleteDear ask CHUKWU OKIKE ABIAMA (God) that he directs you steps and actions henceforth so you won't come across those evil ones that will take advantage of your good nature to hurt you ....
You are just like my elder sister. People always take advantage of her because of her generosity, likewise my mum. She is widowed and currently harbouring an entire family of mother father and children in a one room apartment. I am also very generous but I know when to give and when not to. It is good to give than to receive, your reward is in heaven.
ReplyDeleteWoman ! It's good to give cos when u give ? It'll definitely come back to u but seems u have loved ur neighbour more dan urself,its a sin and my Bible says love ur neighbour as urself, u need to have self control , it's hard to get a true love thru dis , be wise !
ReplyDeletekotinu!na so one aunty waste her money on engr deola for abuja for more than eight year,as soon as she get sense engr deola decided to fall in love with engr adedoyin (his boss)moved to her official quarters and dumped the b4 b4 aunty say she dey mannerless meanwhile engr doyin is unmarried at close to 40yrs;as she see fine boy na,begin spend money on engr deola cook correct food for am sotey he begin fat,all effort to reconcile him with his bfor bfor lover,engr deola no gree,and i hear say engr doyin don fuck half of d whole abuja so she doesnt mind to spend her money on engr deola and his long throat family!the summary be say say women dey wey be natural mother xmas;do u have a motive like engr adedoyin?r u yoruba cos na una sabi mumu pass?or what exactly is ur problem?
ReplyDeletehmmmm;no be my office gist be dis?anon dem dey work for jb utako?deola tall drives camry but don dey drive d chic car noe,mehn short doyin wey dem dey call yeye?bleached?all her family black oh,babe fucked her way up,as she see say pple notice hin and adeola!she beg one of her office aristo to transfer her out of dere,deola na hin slave na,she dey waka;deola go dey quarters dey watch tv,,even d doyin know say deola dey after hin money but aunty wan marry and she can do jazzzzzzzz she n her friends,dem go dey use church cover face:make i stop my gist cos e no fit be dem
Deleteanon17:09 u sure u are not just the bitter ex?
DeleteYoruba girls can be so desperate na,using their money to feed men
DeleteYeye dodo gist reach here?babe like party like mad,all her aristo friend don marry so she go wan hook anyone wey she see na!na so she fiht her frnd serah as dat one marry finish,i hear say the engr guy na small boy oh,junior staff wey get greed and hin family go dey look their son under spell?yoruba people n their wahala,
DeleteSo he realised his ex was mannerless after eight years??????waooo how do women date for his long sef,now he won't marry her as he is love with his boss!girls make una use una brain o
DeleteNa dem na,i hear say engr Adeola don do introduction with the bfor bfor girlfriend bfor he realise say engr Doyin na better meat n he begin form I'm in love
DeletePoster Pls come & purchase form from me to learn how to be original NWANYI NNEWI, anybody that knows me wella knw say to borrow money from me is mission impossible, I bring out my money in my family & that's when is absolutely necessary,
ReplyDeleteEven if u be my guy if u eat in my house I will collect the money somehow sharply without you knowing sef. How can a chick like u sponsoring a man is not ur husband. U seriously need JESUS " in Stella's voice. Receive sense biko & save ur money for rainy days.
Sylvia,is this you????????
DeleteYou go dey alright last last. Cancel the trip and receive brain.
ReplyDeletePls don't visit him.
ReplyDeleteBroke guys pls leave hardworking ladies alone.
Find your kind .
I feel for this poster, its not wrong to be kind but be wise pls.
Don't ever give him money again and see how he behaves towards you.
Guy go and borrow or steal. Stop taking money from a woman.
you are desperate. You are the architect of your own problems. You allow people use you. until you stop, you'll attract the wrong people who will like you for what they can get from you.
ReplyDeleteMadam, you are not just as you said you are! If you have been going to motherless babies home, going on a giving spree on street beggars; the crippled, the blind, the lame, the frail etc. then we'd know that you truly have a giving heart. If you do not do these things, then your giving is all for what you will get out of it. For instance, the thing you want to get out of the men in question is nothing else other than for them to marry you and that is the definition of desperation.
ReplyDeleteFor your information, it is not such gift or "being endowed" that will make a man commit to you, it is the enduring character of a gentle and quiet spirit.
Begin on a "clean slate" and be truthful to yourself.
Hello Poster,
ReplyDeleteThere is nothing wrong with you. You are kind hearted, and that is very good
The man that'll marry you is blessed. Don't get entangled with riffraff and any dick or Jarry you meet. Go to the right place to meet a good man that is more world wise who will complement you.
No man, I repeat, no man worth his onion who wants to marry a woman would expect her to make the first move. If he is broke, he has no business thinking or talking about relationship or marriage.
The man should do the wooing and spending at the initial stage, you can start imputing much layer after being convinced.
If you don't know how to say no or lie to people, tell them that its not paper of your budget for the month when they ask u. I also hope you care as well for your parents and siblings...
Keep doing good, but ask God to give you THE SPIRIT OF WISDOM AND DISCERNMENT to know your right from wrong.
You'll surely smile this year. God bless you.
That was how I met one in december 2016, this guy can lament for Africa. 'baby pls call me I don't have credit,'baby I never chop for 20days oh am damm broke. By end of december I dumped his ass waka, kobo him no see from me oh.
ReplyDeleteHello poster, I'm searching for your type of friend,cos people around me wants one thing or another from me.
ReplyDeleteHow will you be transferring money to people you've never met? This one is not generosity. It's foolishness.
ReplyDeletePoster, remember to allow God use to bless me ehn 😊
ReplyDeletePls poster, chill abeg. I used to be like that. If a man says that he does not have money, tell him that you don't have too
ReplyDeleteI guess there are no feminists on this here site. Its my first time posting here but i am an ardent reader.
ReplyDeleteIf it was a guy sending girls money when they find themselves in a bind i guess it would have been acceptable to most of you. Equality is not a buffet where you get to pick and choose the parts that you want. Theres nothing wrong in a girl sending a guy money, whom she likes, and who happens to find himself financially short.
Make sure you're not being taken advantage off is all i will say. but don't let people shame you for your goodwill. Men send money all the time to girls. its fine if it comes the other way occasionally.
Stella bring back our single nd mingle oooooooooooooooooooooooo
ReplyDeleteEmpress Cho, you not nice at all haba! You hammered the poster left, right n center lol. Seriously speaking, broke guys are everywhere. That was how I met one recently,dude said he is into haulage business. When I asked how profitable the buiz is? He responded that its very profitable. Okay o, as valentine come now, no sign that he wants to take me out.The next day I kukuma ask, Oga, as a buiz man that you is now you no go take me out for valentine. Na so oga begin they stammer!!!Broke boy alert. Days later he started singing another tune, buiz is bad, I am sick,etc Shuo! Wetin make I come do now? Make I begin send you money? I no dey waste time, na so I delete his yeye ass commot for my phone.Won o shoro mo o.
ReplyDeletePoster needs to read T.D. Jakes' "Woman Thou Art Loosed". As a woman, u are a receptacle made to receive(and "u must be careful what u allow to plug into u"). As a lady, u dont need a broke ass.
ReplyDeletePoster, you have received so much bashing and I am not about to add to them. However, like you, I am in my early 30's, endowed, working single and a giver as well. But I have received sense and my money na to invest and I barely have enough on me these days not to talk of to see excess. Now to the main gist, If you want to invite a broke guy for a booty call, and sponsor him, I don't mind. My issue is when you start taking about marriage et al. Please do not go there. Stop sponsoring and feeding men. You can agree to pay 50% as per you are both mature but stop spending your money on men. It never goes down well. I pray you make the right decision though. SDK sha na school.
ReplyDeletePS: I hope your family receives money regularly from you.
Poster am not like you exactly lol but hmmm I have given too and trust me I have learned never to give because the men will promise to pay back which they never get to pay
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