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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
THE LIFE OF THE WIFE OF A SERIAL CHEAT
Good day Stella,
Thanks for your platform, been following since forever
This is an awkward moment were I got no one to share with except my fellow bvs....
Please hide my ID and share my story, I really need advice.
feeling numb right now.....
I'm legally married, what is supposed yo be my happiest moment,turned to be a nightmare....I'm faced with a repeated spousal cheating somebody of a man.
There are so much that I can bear but lies. the fact he thinks I'm so clueless.
I've received calls from them, seen so many chats (esp from corper Seun currently serving in Kogi state). The fact she knows we are married and setting my husband. Hmmmm..
Men will always be men, so insatiable.
I'm sleeping beside him and he's sexting her...thinking I'm asleep...my heart wants to explode, so much disrespect.
He said he's horny and she says wake your wife na. Hahaha..I'm so bitter right now
I look him in the face, and he's telling me he loves me blablabla...wondering why he married me. I didn't pray for this.
We've dated him for 6yrs, he was first my bestie.
There was no sign till 4yrs when the calls came in.
Heart racing, Body shook terribly on this revelations, of cos i confronted and all was denied.
I see him now as a lying scum ...
I pray not to hate .....
it's just so unfortunate ...
We been married Nov 2016....
One Kot (that's what I call her)said she will send pictures, still waiting...I wonder if he will now deny....
I got them digits, all social media details everything. ..
Its Seun Corper that's trending now.
He thinks he's smart.I look at him and I hurt.
Loving him is so hurtful.
I pray for strength.
its too early in our marriage to go tru such.
I'm at work now and can't concentrate
I look at him and he feels I'm a fool
He's my Second relationship....
I've Never dated married men cos I had the notion of do what you want others to do to you.
All I want is a forever happy home...
I pray for that and much more ....
Free from STDs and all(she was she was safe and so no condom)
A home filled with children's laughter......
What God wants marriage to be .....
I look him again and again and whisper into his ears and say to him as my heart cries bitterly ' I love you too baby'....
Now my question is should I confront him again? knowing fully well that he will surely deny?
I've prayed so hard not to have a cheating husband like my dad, bro,Cousin...
Is this the sins of my Father ? God forbid!!!!
This is the only place I can pour it out.
Beautiful chronicle
ReplyDelete#sad. Try to forget him, live your life and do things that'll make you happy.
DeleteLol, how? It sounds like a poem right?.
DeleteHuh????????🙅👆. please,i can hardly comprehend.
DeleteSHUOOO,UR story is disjointed and seems like u want to practice American style.
Sorry for Ur pain.You could have saved yourself this misery if you had left the relationship before marriage.
It is well, men are insatiable so don't take it to heart.
DeletePlease contact the Queen for pigeon...your husband will never be the same again.
How is this beautiful😨
DeletePoster said something that touched me. You said he looks at you like a fool, sorry no vex but lemme clarify something, what are you before if not a big fool. Go and have a relationship with real married people and ask them what snooping does to a healthy marriage. You should concentrate on how he treats you and respect him regardless! You are looking for something and now you have found it and I still hear you complaining. Grow up and leave his private flirtatious escapades. You don't need to know why we flirt because we do it for various reasons. But it's never to hurt our families.
DeleteYou are a mumu
DeleteSomeone is going through a terrible thing as said and all you can say is "beautiful chronicle"... Wow,just wow. Since it is beautiful to you, maybe we wish you to have such a beautiful chronicle too!
DeleteAct like you don't care about him! Perform your widely duties of feed, friend, fuck (with a condom). Insist on it and if he starts trying to guilt trip you, sit him down calmly and ask him if he wants an open marriage, because you know and have evidence that he has been seeing other people. Start taking care of yourself, making up and dressing up real good. Start going out without him, laughing a lot and find happiness in your life. If he dies of HIV you attend his burial and keep quiet. You don't cry for such a man. Don't even bother having his children. It'll only worsen your emotional pain.
DeleteBarely 4 months being married and you call this beautiful... May yours be "more beautiful" than this!
Delete@Miyake. Are you real??? "Grow up and leave his private flirtatious escapades. You don't need to know why we flirt because we do it for various reasons. But it's never to hurt our families"
DeleteReally??!!!!
The likes of you think you are God's gift to women. If you cannot be a faithful husband then don't marry!!! Simple. Your vow says you will forsake every other woman for your wife. If this is too much sacrifice then remain single and give real men that can honor those vows the chance to marry. Dogs like you will marry a good woman and ruin her chance of meeting a man that will dignify her.
Thunder fire you.
Y'all expect women to loss their worth all in the name of marriage.
And according to u, u've never dated a married man when you were single?
DeleteNow I believe that there's nothing like karma
Funny poem chronicle!
DeleteOh wow! This was my exact story two years ago. Newly legally married, my supposed horseband would constantly chat up girls on Facebook and WhatsApp, even promising them marriage. I would come back from work and he would leave me in the bedroom to go to the sitting room so he could have ample time for these girls. I would complain, he would lie like I was a fool, we would quarrel, I was labeled a nag, I became a shadow of myself. I sat down and asked myself for how much longer I would be able to suffer emotional neglect while praying for him to change, I realized I couldn't take it indefinitely. So at 22 years old, barely 3 months into my marriage, when I had glaring evidence including him sexting with a married ex, I walked out with my sanity. Thank God I didn't get pregnant for him. My divorce came through this year.
DeletePoster, you can stay and pray for him to change, e no easy but nothing God cannot do. You can choose to be like me and take a walk not minding the divorcé tag, forever is a long time to be subjected to emotional torture.
And no, I never and would never date a married man, life just happened to me as it is happening to you and for that darling, I'm sorry.
Wow. I could have sworn I wrote this.
DeleteMy dear poster, am really sorry 4 wat u r passing thru, I can neva wish dat 4 any1 even ma worse enemy. There's something u said dat catch ma attention, u said u v been praying 2 God not 2 give u a cheating hubby lyk ur dad etc n u also said u noticed he cheats on u 4yrs in2 ur r/ship wit him b4 u guys got married. Now ma qestion is dis, y did u still marry him after ur findings, y didnt u go down on ur knees n pray 2 God 2 ascertain if he is ur hubby n His will 4 u. U knew u were dating a cheat n u still went ahead 2 marry him. Dis doesn't v anything 2 do wit u not dating married men wen u were single, but d decision u took concering ur choice of apouse.
DeleteMy problem here is that she does not have kids, I would have said ignore him and use condom. Aids is real o. Don't let this man send you to an early grave.
DeleteWow!
ReplyDeleteYour husband is an unrepentant cheat who even disrespect you while at it.
Don't even know what to advice than to pray for him to change OR get separated from him.
Sometimes I just wonder why some good women marry bad boys and vice versa.
Be careful how you advice on issues like this, you are also a married woman !
DeleteBe careful with your advice , u are also married, Stella I know you won't still post this hypocrite oshi.
DeleteDear poster, is the corper Seun in Yagba West?pls reply me.I may be able to confront her for you, meaning one down, remaining the others.
DeletePls answer fast , I'm a fellow corper in Kogi State but I don't take such nonsense.God bless you!!!
Another clueless married woman that should have chained his dog sinceeeeeeeee with pigeons!...
ReplyDeletePlease stop allowing him to make love to you before he transfer an orishirishi disease to you!...
Linda men don begin invest in odeshi o, the same babas Wey dey sell pigeon juju give Una dey sell antidote to the men! Men stand with men except if Na DV. Una no go graduate to using ostrich so?? Or eagle??
DeleteMake she dey there dey sleep...
DeleteMaybe this is d way her own karma is playing right back at her!
*her...
DeleteChief Cheif.....
DeleteNwanne ole?
Seriously spill this pigeon ish our dear Queen... Maybe someone here will find help from it.
DeleteTalk biko
Madame I may know this Seun in person, Pls where exactly is she serving?...which of the local govt.
DeleteMadam stop stressing your self. Men will always cheat. Just concentrate on something else. Get busy if youre not already. When you start paying him less attention he'll start wondering wassup. Then you can face him with evidence. But it probably wont stop him cheating but he would know you knew all the while. Men are not worth stressing yourself oveer. If you worry and die from heartache he will remarry sharply
ReplyDelete👌
DeleteSome kind of cheating I can even take. Maybe you made a mistake along the way,you know it was wrong and you take steps to ensure it doesn't happen again. Or you have a slip up once in a blue moon but you value your home and marriage.
DeleteThis posters husband is a chronic cheat and it is part of his DNA. No respect sexting in front of his wife. This one has no fear to even hide it.
The wife can talk from now to kingdom come. He will change for a while then go back to his ways.
He's the type if his wife travels to birth. He will move another woman in.
People don't choose husbands well. While I was choosing as a fine girl that i is. I met the over rich;who was into yahoo and spoilt me with money,he excited me takes me out,wild sex etc typical London boy and I know he won't be faithful,I no be only girl on his case. I knew he wasn't for marriage. Then I had a born again igbo guy,fine as hell but with okay job and average salary,met another wassup guy,yoruba every woman's dream but his lies are top notch. Typical london boy.
I took the born again fine igbo guy and we are building together. I even earn more as an accountant. But he still takes care of his responsibiluties. He may not be able to buy me my designer bags,but he take care of his kids.
Maybe in Nigeria men have more time. But at every minute I know where my husband is. Comes home daily 6.30pm without fail. Weekend we are together through out.
Party,church we go together. He gets the kids ready in the morning,drops and goes to pick them from nanny as my job is quite far.
He hardly even knows where his phone is. Kids are constantly playing games on it. And I also use it cos of the free calls he gets.
People are not marrying the right men. Out of love of money,age not being on their side etc.
If I had married the more flashy guys above I mentioned,I won't have peace. To them the girls around them is not even cheating to them. It's normal.
My dear I disagree with you. Men will not always cheat. I've been married for 3 years and my husband has never cheated on me. Maybe I'm just lucky but he has never cheated. We have our marital issues but cheating and DV have never been a part of it so please don't just conclude.
DeleteConfront him!
ReplyDeleteI see u writing that u found out 4yrs ago and u went ahead and married him so u can send chronicles. Sometimes we put ourselves in the position we find ourselves. Must u marry him? Couldn't u have moved on then? Don't want to sound rude but u need to hear d truth. Stay strong or take a walk.
DeleteI've confronted him before twice, he swore on everything that he's always been faithful...
DeleteHe's swearing he's faithful but you had EVIDENCE! If it walks like a duck and talks like a duck, it's a fucking duck!!!
DeletePoster pls I beg of you,Which of the area in Kogi, is it Kabba,Okwne or Yagba? I'm asking because my girlfriend's name is Seun and she's currently serving there.
DeletePoster I went through the same thing with my husband and despite the fact that I see his transactions location and cinema tickets which we didn't go see a movie together he still lied and these is what I did, just be prepared that this will hurt you but just to get a strong one to use against him so I picked the girl's number and texted her that hope you know the person you seeing is a married man because he told me that he has been blocking your number but you pestering him and wouldn't let him be, so when she got that I knew it will hurt her so she texted me back and said they have been dating,sex, dinners and all that is why she keeps on calling but I shouldn't worry she has figure out the kind of trash he is so I shouldn't bother telling her. It hurts so bad I cried my eyes out but what I simply did was forward the text message to him and he couldn't say a word which I lashed him out afterwards and since then I have had peace but I have promised not to ever snoop on his phone again and to keep myself busy by trying to build myself a career and concentrate on my life, I am 22 years old and my marriage too is just five months old and I have promised myself to turn blind eyes to all his atrocities because cheating is in men's DNA they will always cheat no matter what you do to satisfy the best thing is to zero your mind and build yourself a career, go out with friends have fun and enjoy yourself, you have many people that love you and p.s Best revenge is your papers.
DeleteI almost poisoned my bf, been dating him for 4 years.. the 1st thing he tells his skanks is that we have broken up... sexting is his hobby, jobless fool. I have promised myself I will not make the mistake of marrying him. I wonder where all these girls were when he was broke, the annoying thing is not 1 of these girls is half as fine as me. Every time I break up with him, he will cry and threaten to hurt himself. I just dey look am, I will invite him to my wedding he should come and kill himself there. Now he wants a last chance to be good, this is my time to cheat, he has no clue what I will do to him. Men are scum. Focus on yourself, my skin is glowing like never before, I dnt give myself any headache over him anymore. Denying him now as well. Peace of mind.
DeleteYou already hate him.
ReplyDeleteGet a job.
Get a distraction.
Confront your horseband.
Talk as e dey do u for body.
STELLA, YOUR TIME IS MISLEADING. IT'S PAST 2 HERE AND NOT PAST 3 PM YET.
ReplyDeleteAll I can say is to pray for God to strengthen you....
ReplyDeleteThis is a tough one! Comment reserved!
ReplyDeleteHave you ever confronted him? I think you should dear. No one prays for a cheating spouse but you see many women will tell you as long as a man is taking care of you, remove your eyes from his cheating ways but they forget that sleeping around can get either or both of you six feet under because he'd might and can catch something and pass it on to you.
ReplyDeleteI had the opportunity of attending a forum recently and heard of a story of how a married man infected his beautiful wife with HIV, now they are both dead and left behind a child.
You don't deserve to suffer for another man's disrespect and greediness. A man should be satisfied with his partner.
Confront him and get it off your chest. If he won't stop, stop sleeping with him. Let him know his actions are hurting. Communication is important before you'd poison him one day from all the bitterness and anger in your heart.
Not talking about it isn't going to help you in the long run.
Thank you, Doppel. Why should a woman settle for a cheating badtard all in the name of keeping her home. Women Women, know your worth. Your hubby vowed to be faithful so you are not being unreasonable confronting him when you have good reasons to believe he is cheating. If your husband can not be faithful he is saying he doesn't want to be married.
DeleteSo leave the bastard!!!!
Madam face ur God, work and make babies, rem to always go for test every 3month, u discover dat he gave u HIV kill him and move on, kapish
ReplyDeleteChoi😱
DeleteWhen you are dating a man and you both are having sex, this sort of thing happens. For six years, he has already entered into the marriage "fed up" with having you. A marriage where the couple preserved themselves for each other is such that the thing is always fresh; they keep discovering things about each other daily. The reason? That is how God made it; it is such that there is a protection canopy of God on a chaste marriage. Marriage is honorable with a condition; if the bed is undefiled. Most folks begin marriage in a defiled, deceiving and hypocritical platform. The same way you are hurting now is how God hurts when folks degrade their bodies and lie to the "outside world" that they are chaste! You mustn't believe it; be entitled to your own opinion.
ReplyDeleteNicely said anonymous. We need to say these things more often.
DeleteAnon u are very right.
DeleteVery correct. Sex before marriage kills relationship, especially prolonged b4 marriage. Somebco habit, buy property together and other deep committment before marriage. By the time marriage comes, there is nothing to look forward to
DeleteWhat happens to virgins that their husband's cheat.
DeleteThis doesn't always follow.
The watch word is grace and favour. Just pray to God to give you the best.
I also don't always encourage camping with a man before marriage but I know someone whose wife started living with him from school and they are 20yrs strong in marriage.
Whether you defiled marriage bed before or after doesn't always follow.
You're a big FOOL! What about those that married as virgins and their husbands still cheated! Ode ni e olorun. Go and pick up your brain from whereever you left it.
DeleteAnon 17:39 spot on! God bless u, a lot of people here just pass judgment as of they are God!
DeleteWill the marriage still not get to 6 years? Abeg leave story
DeleteYou can see that here is a difference between being married and having a home!
ReplyDeleteQuestions:
Did you once date a married man in your "single years?"
Did you once kill in your womb?
Just to help you begin your confession/repentance from somewhere.
What's is ds one saying?
DeleteSharap.
DeleteMy dear it dosent follow. Even if she had a horrible past and has repented and enters marriage on a clean slate she can enjoy her marriage. I had a past I'm not proud of. I repented. God helped me. I'm happily married to a perfect gentleman and have a wonderful family.
DeleteThis question simply shows that u didn't read the story. Go 🔙 & read
DeleteShm.....
DeleteHmmm, continue praying and make yourself happy.
ReplyDeleteHmmmm with all theses marriage revelations.I keep wondering if u can go through with it.Baba God please give me that grace
ReplyDeleteThose of you that listen to the "Queen of the coast" when she tells you in this blog to "fuck married men if they have money" . . . why are you complaining when your husbands fuck other girls?
ReplyDeleteThank u lord for your forgiveness,d guys I dated while I was still single are more than the hair on my head! But today I am blessed with the most beautiful kids and a wonderful husband and I have been married for over 14years and still counting! Are u saying almighty God made a mistake for forgiven me? Or he doesn't know what he's doing? Chai if men where God. God I thank you ooo.
DeleteThis is sad. I'm short of words. It's not even one year. My cousin's hubby do do go carry hiv come give her.. He died some weeks ago.. She s there jobless with two kids.
ReplyDeleteIf only we can zip-lock their penis whenever they are leaving the house. It is well.
Imagine *smh* and ppl like Stellar nwunye Korkus wud ask us not to snoop... My heart goes out to ur cousin.
DeleteAwww!! My dear poster. I can feel the pain in your write up. IT IS WELL WITH YOU.
ReplyDeleteWhat can I say? blaming you will not solve any problem. The signs are usually there during dating etc..
SOLUTION.
Don't focus on him anymore. Detach your mind from any emotional attachment to him, because the more you are attached, the more hurt and bad you'll feel. Focus on work, your hobbies, TV, church, family, whatever can distract you for now.
Secondly, stop snooping for now. You already know the truth, get your proof and present them to him at night. Don't start a fight, gently present those proofs to him and pour out your heart to him (PRAY VERY WELL FIRST TO OUR HEAVENLY FATHER, GOD LISTENS AND ANSWERS PRAYERS). Try not to be hysterical and find out as calmly as possible what he is looking for outside.
Cry if you must, speak to his spirit. Ask him why he married you... I believe that it can be remedied and he can change. BUT please pray!!. Your marriage is too young to break up yet.
If it is a family curse or a spell (most side chicks are diabolical), prayers can solve it.
I'll put you in my prayers as well.
Cheer up dear. All is not lost.
Cheers..
Great advice!
DeleteGod bless u wendixx! @Poster,the Lord'll see you through.
DeleteOh dear..
ReplyDeleteI felt your pain while reading this. I understand the pain and heartache. I can totally relate, it hurts like devil himself.
My advice to you.. If you still want to continue with the marriage. Turn a blind eye to the cheating and start focusing on his good side. You should focus on his good side, so you'll see reasons not to hate him. Cos once you allow that hate into your heart, it will never be leave and that is how the marriage will crash.
You might start thinking suicide, killing him, confronting the girls, committing adultery and everything evil. And while you're busy plotting and harbouring hate in your heart.. the guy will keep slipping away from your grasp slowly. He'll start complaining about how you've changed so much and how frustrated he is with you and now hates everything about you! Slowly one stupid girl will take over and they is how you'll lose him.
So if you don't have kids yet, calm your mind and get pregnant. Once you have kids, your attention will shift from him to them and they will give you strength to live. In them you will find love and happiness again.
#that is if you still want to continue with the marriage though
HOW CAN YOU TELL HER TO GET PREGNANT??? When the man is sleeping outside without a condom??? 😳😳😳
DeleteRubbish advice!
DeleteRubbish advice abi???
DeletePoster oya oo pack up and leave your home! Yes let's support the movement, pack and divorce him sharp sharp!
BTW.. Both of you Anonymous fools are stupid! Didn't you see where I wrote if she wants to stay in the marriage? Did I state that it's a must?? Ndi nzuzu
That's how you'll be rushing to reply but won't read well!! Unrealistic twerps
Becky don vex😂😂😂😂
DeleteHmmmmmm... Take heart dear...
ReplyDeleteHmmmm,WTF,smh
ReplyDeleteHmm... Your narrative is covered with bitterness & heartache, & its been just 4months since u tied the knot, that's sad! A man can love u & still cheat repeatedly, but wen he dsnt care if he gets caught, he's reached a dangerous level of disrespect for that union. What more evidence do u need? You saw the late night chat & pretended not to, u'd never witness his dick deep inside her 1st hand, how do u see such & not confront him immediately? Huh?? Men are good in lying on the spot if caught red hnded, how mch more u give him time to cook up sumthg good & serve, if he's ur friend/husband, communication shldnt be a problem, confront him, but i'm afraid it wouldn't change anythg, he'd jst get better at covering his tracks.
ReplyDeleteTry to confront him,and mail the girl to leave him alone
ReplyDeleteONce a girl gets married she wants "a forever happy home".
ReplyDeleteBut when she is single, and you tell her not to fuck a married man,
she asks you; "is he not the one chasing me. .."
Questions:
Why shouldn't your husband chase another single girl?
How many homes did you scatter or helped to scatter before; you think that those kids and lady do not pray to God?
Was it not a couple of days ago that most girls were on this blog telling a deprived girl to fuck a married man?
Talk about repentance and soul-searching!
Ode read it well na, animal
DeleteThe poster clearly said she's never dated a married man and this is her 2nd ever relationship.
DeleteNot all of us married women or women in general has ever dated a married man pls
All you ppl will just come with opinion that all Nigerian girls date married men in their youth
Poster you need a break. Go somewhere and clear your head first for some time, before you pick up a knife one evening and dissect the guy. Abi you get pikins? Tread with caution because you are no longer thinking or seeing straight. You need a counselor asap!
ReplyDelete#Thoughts that you don't want to lose something are filled with fear. Fear nothing - just think about what you want!*
ReplyDeleteIt may as well be your sins not that of your fathers
ReplyDeleteHave you aborted before . . . most girls I know who did such are wedded but not married
Those of them I know who repented and mourned for those kids are living peacefully.
No I've not aborted before
DeleteSo sad 😔
ReplyDeleteYou're not gonna leave him. No matter what anyone says here you'll still forgive him and be hoping he'll change. He won't! My dear it's time for "Operation Numb".
ReplyDelete1)You need to stop caring like before, ignore him and act like he doesn't exist in your world.
2) Focus on your life as a whole and live it to the fullest.
3) Start using condoms and stop thinking sidechicks will always be clean.
4) Start tasking him for everything. All that money he's spending outside task him for it, if you have to lie lie so you can drain him financially.
Also this should be a millionth (if that's even correct sef) lesson to every lady out there staying with a cheat. Stop making that pig your whole world it aint worth it. It's not you it's him so stop thinking if you do this and that he'll have an epiphany and change his ways. Love yourself!
It's obvious you're not married with this your reasoning if this is what you can come up with for a couple who's been together for just 4 months.
DeleteHmmmmmmm
DeleteGood advice!
DeleteThank you for this comment.
DeleteI know one woman who's cheating husband practically turned her mad.
She lived her short life in bitterness. She was on all sorts of psych medicines till she died.
The man later remarried had more kids.
My mum always use her as example. That is why she flex my father's money and enjoys her life.
And she says it. No woman,man or spirit can chase her out of her home not even the husband.
When he starts his cheatibg she ignores. Concentrate on her kids.
She just came back from US from my sisters omogwu she spent 5mths.
My mama just dey flex her life. Looking fresh.
You can turn mad if you too think mans matter.
Dear poster, this is the best advice so far. Abeg follow this one o,na ogbonge advice😉😉😉
DeleteKidjoCuteReportingWithSamsungGalaxyNote5😉😉😉😉
Yimu @anon16:21 awon sabinu! why don't you give your own advice rather than talk down on mine.
DeleteKidjo😉😉how far na👋👋
DeleteAll men cheat, you either deal with it or walk but don't wallow in self pity or depression.
ReplyDeleteConcentrate on whatever makes you happy,look good, make friends and pray. I found out my hubby was talking to several girls too, I didn't leave him because of that, we already had issues ranging from verbal abuse to physical abuse. I took a bold step and left with my two boys. I never looked BACK.
All men don't cheat.
DeleteAnonymous gangster, but you cheated on me the other day😛😛😛😛😝😝😝
DeleteKidjoCuteReportingWithSamsungGalaxyNote5😎😎😎😎
Kidjo, how, when, with who??
DeleteTake heart dear. I'm tempted to say all men cheat especially married men. My ex lecturer that is married with two kids, the oldest being just two years, is on my neck even after we have not seen for two years plus. Always begging me to date him that I was supposed to be his wife blah blah blah. If you see his wife, you will slap him for trying to cheat on her. She is beautiful to a fault, highly educated and a serious church person. I just agreed to see him last week so that I can tell him face to face that I can NEVER date a married man he travelled down from Warri to come see me in Benin. Omor guy called to tell me he was waiting for me in one hotel bar, quickly told him I will prefer to meet him up Kada instead. Mtcheww with his annoying eating habits, chewing like a carnivorous animal. I sha told him that that was the last he was going to see of me because I nor get time for married men at all. I always feel for their wives and picture them cooking or praying or at work but all she thinks about are her husband and kids. Please permit me to say all men cheat. While I was in school, in my department and some few others we borrowed courses from, only about two lecturers out of 25 did not pressure me for sex. It really had some kind of effects on me to think 98% of men on the surface of the earth has a tendency to cheat at least once on their wives.
ReplyDeleteAll I can see in your "beautiful" writeup here is that you would engage with any guy as long as he's not married even if he is in a committed relationship.
DeleteAll men don't cheat. But believe what you want.
Delete98% of men do not cheat. That's a very high figure. Your statistics from campus lecturers cannot equate the general population. Police men, lecturers, soldiers, drivers, business men or professionals always on the move have a higher tendency to cheat more than others
DeleteYou better go and jazz your husband, many people here will lie to you to pray for your husband bt in reality they are not praying for their husband, I know of a woman whose husband maltreat her anyhow to the extent that he gave her cloths to wash when she has whitlow, one day she went to the village and jazz the man, walahi u need to see the way his woman is now shinning, the man doesn't beat her again, cheats on her and talk to her anyhow, use your head and if you are scared of doing jazz, then walk away.
ReplyDeleteKikikikikikikik SDK bvs won't kill someone.
DeleteMadam you can confront him. But be rest assured he will change for a while, but come back to it again.
You know why? He is a chronic cheat and a leopard never changes it's spots.
He was probably doing this from his dating days but you didn't catch on because you were living separately.
Eyah...am feeling for you right now. Well Marriages comes with some bitter things, and your husband cheating habit could just be one of them. I know a lot of persons will tell you to cheat back, but its will not be a good thing.
ReplyDeleteMy advise is keep praying and talking to him, no matter how he keeps denying it, screen grab and show him the evidences don't keep quiet, let him know how displeased you are, but do it calmly and maturely. Also give him more chances that he would change, if he doesn't make sure you keep all the evidences, and ask for a separation. Don't cheat back while married to him.
You better go and jazz your husband, many people here will lie to you to pray for your husband bt in reality they are not praying for their husband, I know of a woman whose husband maltreat her anyhow to the extent that he gave her cloths to wash when she has whitlow, one day she went to the village and jazz the man, walahi u need to see the way his woman is now shinning, the man doesn't beat her again, cheats on her and talk to her anyhow, use your head and if you are scared of doing jazz, then walk away.
ReplyDeleteIt is better to do DAT before getting married to any man my dear....so u can enjoy your home from scratch to end ! No time to waste time jare......
DeleteThey keep advising them to pray as if they don't pray before hissed
You better go and jazz your husband, many people here will lie to you to pray for your husband bt in reality they are not praying for their husband, I know of a woman whose husband maltreat her anyhow to the extent that he gave her cloths to wash when she has whitlow, one day she went to the village and jazz the man, walahi u need to see the way his woman is now shinning, the man doesn't beat her again, cheats on her and talk to her anyhow, use your head and if you are scared of doing jazz, then walk away.
ReplyDeleteConfirm!..
DeleteThat's what correct married women wey sabi dey do!..
Na me wan come dey fast /starve my self all because of a cheating husband 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 that matter too small to handle. 5k too big to spend.... Nonsense....
DeleteIs this a poem?
ReplyDeleteNo its not a poem... This is just how I know how to express myself.
DeleteChai,sorry
ReplyDeleteOmasiri, flawlesssbae is not the same person that promised whiteberry a job, that other persons name is flawless bossqueen, I had to do go back and check.
ReplyDeleteOmasiri, flawlesssbae is not the same person that promised whiteberry a job, that other persons name is flawless bossqueen, I had to do go back and check.
ReplyDeleteIt's still early now to opt out if you can't cope with a cheating husband.
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry to hear about this but thank God you work. My dear, if you can leave now, LEAVE. It won't stop and since kids are yet to come, get out while you still can. I get that some men cheat but your marriage is not even up to a year so no excuse for copper Seun. Men say their wives change after child birth etc etc but you've not even changed and look at what this fool is doing. So after your breasts fall and you start getting old, what will happen? Are oh ready to be in a polygamous union? Do not box yourself in a corner by having kids for this demon of a man because it will only get worse and you will have yourself alone to blame. Na this type dey catch AIDS give him wife.
ReplyDeleteLater they will say karma
ReplyDeleteNo be only karma na karimo
A man that will cheat will cheat abeg
But u saw the signs and still went on with the marriage bah
See ehn let me tell u one thing that I've come to realize ...If a man is yours,he won't come with all these baggage, he will love and respect u,he will never want to see u hurt or cry.
The more u keep holding on to a cheating bf shows u don't have any self esteem.
Who told u ur prince charming is not out there waiting for u?
Who told u he's the best man for u?
Now u are suffering in silence.
Madam get a grip on urself biko
U knew he is a serial cheat but u were just hoping marriage will change him
Just four months into marriage and u are already like this
Lol@ karimo. I'm getting scared of marriage each day. U married folks keep scaring us(single folks). Just 4months. Lord, when is Jesus coming?????? Hian.
DeleteConfront him with your evidence. All these men that cheats forget say God will take them to hell fire. Let them be deceiving themselves that it is a man's nature to cheat.
ReplyDeleteWhen una reach heaven, make una tell Angel Gabriel if he himself no cheat.
Useless men
You will have to confront him na to hear his sweet lies so your mind can be at rest because I already know your type from this writeup. Kikiki! The things I read here though. Make una leave snooping de follow hubby jeje with prayer and all, una no go hear. Bitter truth is 'All men cheat'! Some do it shamelessly without regards/respect while some are smooth operators. The high time women base their mind on that and freely live their lives and do things that make them extremely happy not just hubby, the better. Will prefer to just read comments on chronicles from now onwards biko. Afterall, I am a learner too na.
Deletehmmmmmm they are all the same
ReplyDeleteAll men are not the same.
ReplyDeleteYes! One can fall into temptation but be remorseful, regret your decision and retrace your steps and ask God for forgiveness.
Don't believe that shit that all men are same.
Ask him how he will feel if you put aside your vows and cheat.
If you have the guts to cheat, have the guts to admit it and stop making a woman question her sanity.
BTW, your husband is a dog on heat. November is just four months ago.
Too early for iranu?!
He's been cheating since they were dating but she wasn't sharp enough to detect it.
DeleteAre you a New BV? SDK don suppose teach you the signs.
I started talking to one married serial cheater. From our 2nd date through my teachings on SDK I gathered he was married.
I chopped his money complaining of accomodation problem and dumped him.
This guy was cheating since madam.
Madam it is well with you. Do yourself good by not bothering yourself with thinking, he is enjoying himself and you are here destabilizing yourself. Put your trust in God and let him be the author and finisher of your faith.
ReplyDeleteMadam don't confront him or the girls. Be happy for yourself. You are even employed get busy with that. But make sure he wears a condom when you make love. When asked for your reason tell him you want to live long for your parents. Wow just Nov 2016?hmmmmmmmm no wonder no marriage in heaven na 4 earth e finish. It is well dear.
ReplyDeleteYou've been married "since" Nov 2016? Is that one since... my dear be worried oh, it is too early for him to be cheating abeg
ReplyDeleteOya experts your advice is needed
ReplyDeleteHmmmm...
ReplyDeleteMadam we don't understand this chronicle oh. You married November 2016 and by march 2017 he is already cheating? Haba! He must have been cheating before and you didn't notice or maybe you just met, but even at that the live should still be hot or are u heavily pregnant? Hmnnnn. I don't known what advice to give. I really don't. Ask him if its open relationship he wants were two of you are cheating because he is not serious.
ReplyDeleteEXACTLY! By the time she asks him calmly if he wants an open relationship, fear go catch am!
DeleteI think say na poem I dey read.
ReplyDeleteJust tell him that you know what he's doing, his every step, etc He should stop such act unless he wants you to start yours.
If he denies call one of them and put it on speaker and after that walk away. But always pray for his salvation. If Men of God can cheat and still brag about it, my dear your hubby is better than them.
Sad one, Kip praying n hoping he changes..and snoop less! Wat u dunno wil not hurt u.
ReplyDeleteYou Sabi write sha
ReplyDeletetry nd get evidence, screen munch it nd send to ur phone b4 u confront him
ReplyDeleteDon't waste your time and energy to confront him. If not that you are newlywed and want to conceive, i will advice using condom always with him. Stop whispering love to him.Good thing you have a job to keep you occupied. Continue to be snooping and monitoring him, so STD or unwanted pregnancy from his affairs will not take you by surprise. Don't develop hpb because of a he-whore and his slut. It does not worth it!
ReplyDeleteHMM.....NO COMMENT.....OK LET ME SAY SOMETIN, PLS IF YOU HAVE PROOF DEN CONFRONT HIM AND END THE MYSTERY EARLY ENOUGH, DONT PROLONG THE TORTURE ON YOURSELF, YOU MIGHT LOOSE YOUR SANITY IF YOU GO ON IN THIS MANNER, RECEIVE SENSE NOW BCOS HE WILL NOT CHANGE!
ReplyDeleteDarling, you need to sit him down and have a heart to heart conversation with him. Let him know that you hurt, let him know that you're aware of his sexcapades. Forget about the corper seun, focus on your family. Thank God it's not DV, please don't forget to go to the hospital and get tested. Complete him to go and run for some tests before you let him have sex with you. May God bring back happiness into your home, just know that Jesus loves you
ReplyDeleteMy sister it's only prayers that can change your husband. Talking from experience. I am also in your shoes. Married my husband as a virgin at the age of 29. The first year of our marriage was hell. I got preg immediately after. Naso guy man vex. If he had a side chick e for even better but bros was straffing prostitute. Is taking cefalexine and antibiotics like sweet,storing milk in his car, condoms in his bag,leaving the house in the morning and coming back at night 10/11pm in the name of work. You name it. Stingy to me.i was so bitter and wanted to curse him. Had genital warts and gono when I was preg with my first child that it affected my babies eyes. My sister I was tired of complaining and feeling sorry for myself. Prayed for him and frankly I can see a change. Just pray for your husband bcos its only by the grace of God that he can change.Nothing is too difficult for God to do.
ReplyDeleteWow! 😳😳😳😳😳😳😳😳😳😳😳😳
DeleteWomen we have suffered! I'm crying.
OMG!...
DeleteMadam not only are you a wicked woman, you are a witch. Your child is partially blind and it's all your fault. He will infect you with hiv soonest, then you can complete your witchcraft by making your child an orphan. If you like die in marriage. Is it the God you're praying to that asked him to cheat? Nigerian women always on bended knees because of marriage. Poor child will be bullied and taunted and mocked by peers because of his mother's evil heart. You knew he was shagging prostitutes and you opened your stinking vagina to collect dick with pregnancy on top. You couldn't even insist on condom. Because of that innocent child, may happiness elude you. Now pikin get bad eye because you want to carry marriage on your head. MAY GOD PUNISH YOU AND SEAL YOUR WOMB so that you don't bring more kids and make dem handicapped.
DeleteYour husband put the health of an innocent baby at risk and you're still there praying for him? The kind of dirty slap God is preparing for you when the HIV coming your way takes you to him will be like thunder. You are crazy and that disgusting animal you call a husband does not deserve to procreate.
DeleteMrs and you are still there??your hubby is fucking prostitutes?? Is your destiny tied to him?
DeleteNa wa o. Warts and gono. Affected your child's eyes and you're still with him hian.😩
DeleteAre you gonna keep praying till he infect u with something stronger and worst than gono? Wait madam did u just started praying? Shit!
DeleteU've only got one life to live, just one shot at this thing called life, when u think about that long enough, ud make urself, priority and not some irresponsible arsehole u call a husband.
ReplyDeleteGod bless you for this statement. Poster please consider leaving this man now before you get pregnant and it becomes even more difficult. He has shown you his nature, please believe him. Not all men cheat and you can find one who won't, if you leave and that is what you want. To repeat after Candid!, you've got only one life. Make it a good one.
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DeleteMy dear I've suffered the same thing. Married for 15yrs. He's a wonderful father, good enough and attentive husband but he has girlfriends. And like it's they trend. One even used to call me. Sometimes I actually hate him. But I've learnt to ignore it. As long as he gives me and the kids attention then we r good. But that slight hatred, it's always there.
ReplyDeleteFirst thing i said after reading the title is na wa oooh.
ReplyDeleteWomen and men matter, let me go and read.
*hangs leg on the wall*
I really felt the sadness in this narrative. No advice coming to my head.
ReplyDeleteThose idiot men we have in Nigeria.Am so tired.mine gave me herpes despite my faithfulness.I remained in the marraige and still faithful mainly because I don't want to infect anyone but he still sleeps around and didn't learn from his mistake.Am leaving him though but I guess am going to stay all by myself till God says it's time.Men pls stop all this nonsense especially married men.Maybe am suffering my parents sin too.
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry to hear you have the incurable herpes. You should have left earlier.
DeleteWho will want you now with herpes,? You waited mumuly until you caught an incurable infection because you want to bear Mrs someone.
DeleteSad. Y stay that long to make a decision? If na me be you, I will make sure his penis is no longer functioning before I move out!
DeleteThis will really shut those people up dat believe bcos a girl sleeps wit a married man her own Husband will cheat.its got nothing 2 do wit dat!my dear calm down talk 2 him wit a calm voice put him in your shoes tell him how it makes u feel and see if he is d type that believes he is a man and therefore entitled or if he will change..meanwhile don't complicate things by getting pregnant trust me it wont make it better wait 2 see if he changes if he doesn't then decide if u want 2 be in this kind of relationship for d rest of ur life..dont be afraid.. be bold..God loves u no matter wat
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This will really shut those people up dat believe bcos a girl sleeps wit a married man her own Husband will cheat.its got nothing 2 do wit dat!my dear calm down talk 2 him wit a calm voice put him in your shoes tell him how it makes u feel and see if he is d type that believes he is a man and therefore entitled or if he will change..meanwhile don't complicate things by getting pregnant trust me it wont make it better wait 2 see if he changes if he doesn't then decide if u want 2 be in this kind of relationship for d rest of ur life..dont be afraid.. be bold..God loves u no matter wat
ReplyDeleteWHY do men make women go through this? why? so much pain i feel from this poster. wow! Please leave, you are still young. do whatever makes you happy. cheat sef if that will make you happy. aint no one got time for depression..next thing we go see women dey jump enter third mainland bridge.
ReplyDeleteHmmm, I dont even know how to advice u. Confronting him(with evidence)is OK but it wont stop him from his philandering ways. He will only find better ways to go about it.
ReplyDeleteIt is well!!!
yeah right
DeleteA leopard never changes its spots
Woman ALL MEN CHEAT am tired of repeating the same line over and over again mbok but when he disrespect you in the process i advice you lace his tea with shayin kpera lol.
ReplyDeleteConfrontation doesnt solve the issue most time. I will advice for the sake of ya sanity to stop snooping, the key to ya happiness lies with you, find it. I know it hurts. Find something that will make you happy. If i am queen and boss i would have advice you to find a side boo if you are young and your breast is still standing. Lol how insensitive can i be? Sorry honey take heart and manage his stupid cheating ass or dump his stupid cheating ass and find a new nigga. Men plenty oooh
*hangs leg on the wall*
All this cheating wey no get NAFDAC. There is God ooooooo.
DeleteThese days you go just dey use Queen of the bus take talk wetin really dey for ya mind. Wehdone ooo.
DeleteShut up. So that when they catch HIV the man will treat himself and allow his wife to die. Shut up abeg
Delete😊😊😊😊😊😊
DeleteMy dear, I once sent in a chronicle like you too,of my cheating husband
ReplyDeleteI have stop bothering myself and stopped praying for him to change
I want to be happy in life ,and I had to find a man for me too ,we use protection and I feel no guilt atall,he appreciate what hubby does not and my account is smiling. I feel no guilt atall if that is the only sin I ever commit
PS:I'm not advising you to do the same but just do whatever makes you happy,cos happiness is all that matters. Curse me out if u want
Just one question for you... What would you say about your mother if she were the one in your shoes and you found out?
DeleteThen, I hope you can advice your daughter to do same if she gets caught in same situation.
Food for thought!
Correct babe!...
DeleteGoing to heaven is all that matters.
DeleteAnon 16:36 I will feel blessed bto have a mother who knows wat exactly the time is.......... @choco you're the real MVP
DeleteCorrect woman, take 5✋..
DeleteIf they(men) can do it , then we(women) can do it better even best!!!..who born pikin wey nor wear pant,mtcheew.
twerks outta post.God punish any guy wey go reply me under anon.😠😠😠
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Babe I feel you die... I am in the same shoes with poster, but my own case was I got myself a fellow married woman like me that her husband is giving her same problem and we became FRIENDs 'if you know what I mean by friends' being the fact that we live abroad and we make each other happy so I have no problem
DeleteAnon 16:36,my daughter has her life to live, I can only do my best that she doesn't die of high bp cos of a man
DeleteAwwwwwww baby gal I feel your pain,
ReplyDeleteBut I wish my husband was cheating
With coper seun, Ifeoma,Amina etc
No he is so sweet I think I don't deserve him
Why can't he be like ur hubby?
That way I will tell myself it's my karma
Why can't he be an asshole like my dad?
My dad is lazy as fuck and depends on mum
Never paid a bill in his 35 years of marriage
But my perfect husband is texting someone
And paying someone's rent,and dis someone is a MAN
Why will a man tell my perfect husband if u want me come get me?
So I need answers speedily more than you do.
Thanks.
No am not hurting
Am just confused
Dear Lord format my brain
Pls God Pls God
My head is overheating.
WOW! 😳😳😳
DeleteJust when you thought u have heard it all, sorry dear.... Let me manage mine like this since no domestic violence and cheating. His only problem is river Niger mouth, I've got mouth too
DeleteGhen! Ghen!!!
DeleteJesu Christi......
Delete*picks up jaw*😫😫😫
DeleteWawu!!! This is serious mehn!
DeleteWaawuu.... reminds me of being played by vivica fox.
Delete*mouth hanging open with eyes bulging out*
DeleteWomen Have Suffered ooooo
Jesus Christ of Niger Delta ooo.Wetin monkey nor go see ontop tree😮😮😮😮
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Don't wake me up biko, lemme faint
I don't even know what to. Say and to think thhat the marriage is not up2 one year.buy female condom dear.
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ReplyDeleteplease get your proof first. i mean solid proof so he wont emotionally or mentally blackmail you to thinking its all in your head. they do that. gather every damn proof you Have you are not breaking your marriage but you will be teaching him a lesson because as far as he is concerned you do not know nada.
Here is the Plan:
get the proof of messages et all, if possible pictures too
start dropping them where you know he looks at so maybe his closet or shoe closet,
by his bedside table. in books etc
post 1 proof everyday where you know he will see it.(print out the proofs on paper)
act totally normal. make sure he doesnt have a clue when you are putting them in those places.
watch him start thinking his going mad.it will cloud his thought so much of how these things got in the house and he will eventually come out clean at some point because he would know you will soon find out. play with his mind the way he plays with yours .SIMPLE
Hmmmmmm
ReplyDeleteI don't know what to say honestly.
There's no excuse to cheat. Except the woman is denying you of your marital rights and she actually doesn't show a bit of concern whatsoever.
I'm sorry you're going through this in this early stage of marriage.
Why don't you confront him? Ask him what exactly he wants.
Well, since he has enough money to throw around, increase your demand in the house, don't pity him in spending, but be wise, save almost all you collect from him and he shouldn't know. If you're pregnant already, if the list you need is 50k,tell him it's 250k. If you're jobless, just be patient, gather enough money from him.
May God save your home and answer your desires.
I knw all hubby's gfriends,i even joke wit him abt dem cos life is 2 short 2 worry abt men n their cheating nature. I console my self wit porn tho oya make una begin judge me lol
ReplyDeleteI won't judge u madam, u can't come and go and kill yourself.
DeleteYou joke with your husband about his girlfriends? Hopefully HIV won't joke with you dear.
DeleteAbeg if you are not okay with what your man is doing divorce him and stop all this long story that's not gonna help anybody. Rubbish chronicle.
ReplyDeleteNA BY FORCE TO REMAIN MARRIED ?
I don't even understand how some ppl will advice u to keep a blind eyes to his cheating..this is still her fucking honeymoon stage, she should be enjoying being married not having her heart ripped from her chest.I can feel ur pain from across the phone, because no woman deserves to be cheated on, most especially the one that never dated a married man. My dear, honestly I don't even know the advice to give to u. But truth is U need to stay away from him b4 U kill him. From the tone of ur chronicle u are getting to the point where u are so pained u can do anything to make the pain go away. It's quite unfair that u are going through this, I would have asked if u didn't see the signs? But honestly I think u saw all the signs but love has a way of blinding us to things we should pay attention to. I pray God gives u the strength and patience to handle ur Horseband, and also turn his mind away from every other woman to u.
ReplyDeleteMY DEAR, IT IS WELL YOU PUT TOO MUCH OF YOURSELF IN THE RELATIONSHIP THINKING YOU GOT A GOOD MAN, THATS WHY YOU ARE SO PAINED, YOU HAVE TO BE DETACHED, LIVE YOUR LIFE BE HAPPY IGNORE ALL THAT CHEATING BECAUSE IF YOU CONFRONT HIM IT WILL BE MORE LIES, JUST DO ALL THE THINGS THAT MAKE YOU HAPPY AND KEEP YOUR EYES OPEN TO AVOID INFECTION THAT ONE IS A KILLER
ReplyDeleteOne advise to all the ladies complaining about their cheating husbands, move out or start cheating on him too..... People now see those who are happily married as pretenders, the complain is getting too much oooo hian same story every GaDem day!
ReplyDeleteMEN SHOULD BE MORE RESPONSIBLE. SEE WHAT YOUR CHILDREN GO THROUGH BECause of your sins
ReplyDeleteSorry poster I can feel your pains and I know how it is. I discovered my husband cheated on me when my phone had problem and I have to call one of my prominent customers my sis in law asked me to use his phone hubby was not around I said he do password it I called him to give me the password and explained what I wanted to use it for he gave me and after using it I started my team snoop operation poster I wan die, feel so betrayed and devastated on all I saw come see love profession I have to sit down and think things over again before I kill myself with hate over somebody who go fuck anything fuckable if I die with hypertension. I noticed I started feeling depressed, hateful and hurt. This is just barely a yr after our marriage o
ReplyDeleteMy point is this, you need to calm down and talk to him, confront him and pour out your whole mind to him let him know the effect of extra marital affairs on your marriage especially now that you don't have kids. Those that are telling you to poison him, leave him, forget him and all sort are just saying it with bear mouth if you leave him will they give you their husband or brother na them go first call you married gwegs. Talk to God about your married it is too early for you ppl to start this kind of war
Dear Poster, cheating is a no in marriage, God detests it and included it in the ten commandments- thou shall not commit adultery...God hates divorce but permitted it ONLY on the grounds of adultery...this goes to show how our creator detests this act. That being said, u shd know that what u allow, thrives...if u turn a blind eye ,he will continue and u shd then be ready for all sorts - STDs, HIV, step children, financial waste etc.
ReplyDeleteFirst things first, go to the author of marriage and present the case...pray,pray,pray. u can never go wrong praying. when I experienced same I prayed so much, it seemed like God didn't hear cos he didn't stop but God made me not to feel hurt anymore...sometimes prayer brings about a change in u,not him...I embraced the change in me and I was no longer bothered. I consciously reduced my love and affection towards him...he then became worried...he wld complain I hardly call him in the day when we are both at work and I didn't make any effort to improve...finally what broke him into pieces was not being responsive to his touch....usually as soon as he touches me, I get so wet...but here was I dry like harmattan...he knelt down and begged me to forgive him that he wl stop...and he did stop.
may God arrest ur husband and change him