Oh My GOD!!!
STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
WHEN THE WEDDING IS CALLED OFF WITHOUT A REASON
I hope this meets you well.
I'm writing this on behalf of my friend, though with her permission.
She is in a shattered and devastated state now.
Let me call her mercy. she has a fiance' who is based abroad, last year Oct. He sent his people to go and do her introduction and also pay her bride price. He then fixed the wedding and Tm for Feb. 2017. He came back by Jan. And started preparations for the wedding including printing of the I.V.
when it was two weeks to the wedding he called mercy and told her he's calling off the wedding without giving her any reason.
Mercy's family asked him what the problem is, he refused to say anything rather he insulted them.
A guy from his village told mercy's elder brother that mercy's husband is seeing another woman.
Please Stella and my fellow bvs advice her on what to do, for she is not finding it easy at all. Thanks.
Stella easy with your exclamations. I almost thought somebody died.
ReplyDeleteA just taya 4 stella jare😶🙄
DeleteAs in ehn...I quick quick open post...
DeleteThis is serious. Life goes on jor. She should wipe her tears forge ahead. It was nvr meant to be.
DeleteMe too.... I was scared.
DeleteJazz things!
DeleteMercy must have a bad past the guy got to know.
Delete😂😂😂😂😂
DeleteShe should cry all she wants and pick herself up to keep on moving. It's not the end of the world.
DeleteShe should cry all she wants and pick herself up to keep on moving. It's not the end of the world.
DeleteWhat else does she want to do than move on?
ReplyDeleteAbi o, move on and thank God you dodged a bullet.
DeleteExactly
DeleteWats her problem?someone dat is supose to be tanking her God dat shs bn delivered a from a permanent disapointment! Or is it becos d guy is in d abroad?abegggi! NNE biko tk a chill pill!God jst saved u frm d hands of a junkie u don't even know! See hw bisola was crying dat TTONY was evicted!not knowing God was removing d fool frm her in order not to keep distracting her frm d game! My dear,in every disappointment,ders a very big blessing!NNe go and Tank Ur God Biko!
DeleteExactly, better thank God you didn't marry him you never know what you are dodging . And that's how my aunt's secondary school/ university days bf dumped her to marry another girl. She cried herself to stupor. Fews weeks after the marriage, the guy and the pregnant wife died in a fatal accident. My dear, rest your case.
DeleteGod will help mercy o
ReplyDelete*Larry was here*
Very painful,but life goes on.She can't kill herself na.
DeleteStella,weh done ma,don't read my mail o.
PG 18
DeleteMercy knows her mess.she most have been doing shit, thinking paddy will not find out. Mercy confessss!
ASHAWO WAS 1's A VIRGIN
Chai they don use pigeon knack this guy head.
ReplyDeletewetin you want us to do now. Anyway tell Mercy to contact me if she still wants the guy. This one na by fire by force ooo except God do not want her to marry him.
What a pity. Mercy should not kill herself, she does not know what God has in plan for her. It is well jare.
Spit just dey my mouth for the jollof rice i eat come see fly for inside food. Abeg make i go wash my mouth jare.
Poster,are you the mercy?..
ReplyDeleteGo and settle your ogbanje and marine husband!...
Stop living in ignorance,that shit is real!...
After settling them,locate a good cele church so they can help you knack pigeon on the guys head if you are still interested in him!...
Come back and thank me later!..
😂😂😂😂😂I swear I can't tell if you're joking or serious... ah ah! Na wa to you o!
DeleteYour own ogbanje don leave u?
DeleteI disagree.
Deleteatimes God delivers us from a lifetime regret and we blame spiro husband wey no de.
She should just love herself and thank God for averting a future problem for her.
Believe God to bless her with her own family and be happy.
Evie
Wat about yo papa TB Joshua?
DeletePreposterous!Asinine! harebrained!Insane! Monstrous! Outrageous!
DeleteOluwa ooo, see grammar. Checking my dictionary for the meaning of asinine.
DeleteLol... This woman!
DeleteAbeg poster,you no get any spirit husband.The guy is just foolish.
Most of the members of cele churches are so poor..even their pastors..Why ain't they doing something about that? Forget that spiritual thingy..all na wash...
DeleteThe guy has called off the wedding, she can only cry and move on, better he didn't marry and abandon her later.
ReplyDeleteI can imagine how she feels but tell her she dodged a bullet and should be thankful to God.
ReplyDeleteHer case is like Bisola of BBN who doesn't know God has taken away her problem but yet she is busy dreaming and crying over a man who lied about his family and deceived her.
I know a lot of time and effort has gone into the relationship and preparations for the wedding ahead but imagine he didn't show up on the said date or ran off after the wedding.
In all things give thanks.
Refer her to the story of the man who composed that Christian song after losing his whole family on the high sea.
She'd be fine.
PG 18
DeleteWhy are people looking at this one sided? Is it because na she call police mean say she most win case? From what the friend wrote, he said nothing but insult the family when ever they call him. Thats a clear sign of anger. He is clearly angry at something.Why do you guys not think that God opened his eyes to see who she really was on time.i remember a guy wrote some months back about a girl he wanted to get married to, only to find out she was fucking her so called childhood friend and said she was just with him for the money and what did those of you that commented advise?
ASHAWO WAS 1's A VIRGIN
Anon even if Mercy's hands are not clean na still move on we go tell her in which case, the guy dodged the bullet. 😀
Deleteshe should jux calm down n hold on to God bcos her own husband wil cum at d right time. I know is not easy shaaa. some men are just waste of sperm.
ReplyDeleteShe should calm down either this false prophets has told him ur friend isn't good for him or the other woman he is seeing don't knack pigeon for him head.
ReplyDeleteWhy are you pple so myopic, pple fall in and out of love, he may ve fallen out of love and decided to quit, he may have found someone that suits him better. At least he didn't deceive her into the marriage, I applaud him for taking the bold step. On this same blog pple applauded a woman who dumped her fiancee for a richer man she met on a flight on her way back to lag after her intro. But because it's a man now all hell is let loose. I female bvs and thr selfishness sef.
DeleteBut he should give her a reason at least.
DeleteMove on.
ReplyDeleteAs much as it is a very bitter pill to swallow,she should get her act together,accept it has God's doing and also know that it happened for a special reason. God does not do evil,never. HE just might not want her to send in chronicle in future or even celebrate divorce. God will be with her
ReplyDeleteSorry to sound unsympathetic but what is left to do but thank God for chasing away a potential serial cheat and adulterer. Imagine them getting married and he leaves her with a child to cater for. Is that not worse?
ReplyDeleteYour friend will be fine. She will cry a lot but will get over it. People Will talk but in a few months a new juicy topic about another person will come up. I know a lady that was disappointed 2 times and eventually got married at the age of 35 to a wonderful man. They are now in London together.
She should not fight to get the man back because he can never respect her. The only thing she can do is to move on and carry her head high ignoring people around. If people should ask her what happened she should simply say he met another woman and broke up with her. That will shock them to silence. Any donations the guy has made towards the cancelled wedding should not be returned because that is her compensation for the heartache and shame he has put her through.
Gbam
DeletePoster there is nothing she can do. Family and friends need to rally round her and give her all the support. She shouldn't be allowed to be alone, at least for now. She will be fine. This too shall pass. As for the guy, people like him end up with witches.
ReplyDeleteHmm it's not that easy, let her seek spiritual help. Relocate and get a new job even if it is to sell snacks along the road. You guys shouldn't let her stay in a place, depression is real bikonu
ReplyDeleteWhat would you have us tell her?
ReplyDeleteTo go and be begging the man upandan?
The guy called it off cause he's no longer interested for reasons best known to him
Let go girl.
But I pray a bigger disappointment befalls the guy someday.
Nop.. I won't accept this or say amen to this.
DeleteThis is a one sided story u shouldn't be quick to come to a conclusive conclusion.
To me am pretty sure somfin is really happening and hidden away from d lady.
Let dis girl search herself very well.. U see one tin I noticed abt men of this day.. They see bad tinz abt u which u have lied abt but wl keep I to them until wen they r ready to revenge.
Mc pinky
Gbam!!!
DeleteMay God give him bigger disappointments & heavy shameful rejections!!!
May he be stranded too & kicked off & abandoned by his hope of help.
The girl should forget him, celebrate her freedom from the trap of deceit & liar, pathetic man.
What is there to advice other than, she move on, I know a lot will say it jazz and that she should pray, but know that nothing happens without a reason and that God might be saving her from future heart aches and pain, what kind of man sees someone else when preparing for his marriage. Babe please go and do thanksgiving cause you've just been saved.
ReplyDeleteCan she force him?
ReplyDeleteU can force a whatever to d river but cannot force it to drink
If she forces herself on d guy by doing everything possible for him to marry her does she knw what d future hold?
I advice she be prayerful and bury her head in d word of God.
If he's hers he would come back.
Also,are u sure she told u d truth? As in everything?
There's no smoke without fire o. Something might have occurred or transpired between them.
The alleged other woman,was she first in d picture before ur friend? Maybe they reunited or something
My dear,theres alot to this which u as an outsider might not know.
In all,let her make her supplications and heart desires known to her MAKER .
He don chop vegetables. Nacking of pigeon thingy...smh.
ReplyDeleteYes the name of the song is "it is well with my soul" by Horatio Spafford after suffering a business downturn, losing his son and daughters.
ReplyDeletePlease tell her that it might be a big disappointment one that will take a while or years to heal from but she will be fine and God is preparing a better man and home for her.
Same thing happened to a dear friend of me and she got engaged to a good man this past weekend.
Her own was even bad because it was on the wedding day he didn't show up, he kept them all waiting including his family.
Now she is grateful she didn't even end up with that guy because after the whole mess she realised she didn't even know him well enough to spend the rest of her life with him.
Odikwa egwu
ReplyDeleteAmawbia ugbo ogiriga
Dude just gave you reason not to leave a life of missery yet you're being fretful.
ReplyDeleteBabe, stop grizzling. I know it won't be easy but in the future seek for closure.
Ask whatever questions u can. Curse out, blame the gods/God/foes. Harangue but DO NOT do anything goofy or wacky.
With time this too shall pass.
Your rightful partner is on his way.
Ahn ahn very strange behavior! Who knows what might've happened?
ReplyDeleteMy dear there is nothing to be done, it must be shocking and heartbreaking but she can't kill herself nau
Just tell her to dry up her tears, dust herself up and move on! Surely her own husband will locate her bcos that other guy isn't her husband.
A broken engagement us better than a broken marriage!
Hugs and much love to her
Let her move on......
ReplyDeleteNo need fighting over a man that doesn't want you.
Prayer is da key prayer is. Da key, prayer. Is da master key, pls everybody sing along
ReplyDeleteMy dear if he is. Yours he wouldd come back, if e isn't. Urs he would go, God gat a reason jare, change. D party to a gettogeda!
Spot on
DeleteMc pinky
There is no advice for her. She will get over it with time and even thank God for saving her. Time heals all wound.better now than later. What if he had married her snd dumped her her in the village. She will be tied down,waiting for divorce and much more miserable.so let her thank God for dodging a bullet.the man seems like a fickle minded person and such are highly unreliable.easily swayed
ReplyDeleteAbroad husband is not just it,she is lucky they are not married.She should move on already.Probably change environment and cut all contacts with the guy.
ReplyDeleteThis is a no-brainer. The guy is irresponsible and unworthy of her love. Tell your friend not to lose sleep over the issue because there is absolutely nothing she can do. Getting herself worked up won't remedy the situation. She should pray and ask God for a better man.
ReplyDeleteHmmmm... Simple, she should be calm for now and also she need someone to always be by her side now.. I mean frnds or family to prevent story dat.... U know.
ReplyDeleteI smell somfin anyway, let him kukuma say wats happening 2him.
Mc pinky
Too badt! She ought to be devastated, shattered and all atm but she will certainly be fine. She cant kee herself na. Exactly same thing happened to my first cousin few years ago. Infact hers was even worse because the supposed hubby called on the morning of the wedding, blabbed and switched off his phone. She cried and cried like her world would end that day but met another guy shortly after and got married. She has two boys today to the glory of God. Some guys can be mean like that so advice your friend to take it as one of those things jare. Hard but life goes on!
ReplyDeleteThat might even be God's way of saving her from a bad marriage.
DeleteAs harsh, as my advise will sound... please let tell her to forget the guy and move on.
ReplyDeleteMoving on won't be easy but for now, she should cut all contact with the guy, her family should do same. She should not do anything o, no curses infact she should start praying, she should look to God.
She should totally ignore them.... God's got you baby, it is well!
My advice is she let go ,everything happens for a reason, if the man was hers he can't be snatched by another lady, every disappointment is a blessing in disguise, although it will hurt but she will overcome.
ReplyDeleteIf person swear for this one now tell me how e nor go work?
ReplyDeletethis happened to someone i know,she nearly died of humiliation. shes now married to a handsome doctor who loves her to pieces,so tell your friend to be strong.
ReplyDeleteI think she should be thanking God it happened early.... It's gonna be hard for for buh she will be over it. Nawao!
ReplyDeletePosters friend sorry...
ReplyDeleteTell her to start thanking God, because if she had married that man, HBP would be calling her name. God is just getting her ready for someone that is a million times better. It is well!
ReplyDeleteAbroad husband, those broke ass guys. When are we going to learn
ReplyDeleteEvery girl these days want to marry "an abroad husband";
ReplyDeletecharacter you don't know.
Marital status, you don't know
Occupation, you don't know
temperament you don't know
That's it!
A broken relationship is better DN a broken marriage..... But that guy is wicked.... Look at the public disgrace he brought to that babe（⌒▽⌒） I am not talking about the emotional stress she's passing through..... Babe relax u gonna meet someone that will be far better Dan him!
ReplyDeleteShe and her people should know that the "tied the goat" has escaped.
ReplyDeleteAll you girls want to go abroad; that's what you get.
The man may be married and once he shows up during christmas, girls will be at his beck and call. He has to promise marriage to balance the equation and be able to insert his rod at will.
She should be thanking God for showing her the kind of unstable man she woulda gotten married to. A good thing he misbehaved now than 3 kids later. Tell her to tell God to heal her heart and trengthen her to move on....she will be glad it happened when she sees who God has in store for her.
ReplyDeleteAre you sure she didn't do anything wrong? I asked the question because men now bug ladies phones and walk away if the get hint that she was playing "away match". It happened to a lady till date the guy did not tell her what went wrong he only called off the wedding though he told very close friends what she did wrong. If your friend is innocent she should not be sad all things work together for good, something better will come her way.
ReplyDeleteSo the man sent his people to pay for the "torotoro" and now he has slaughtered it!
ReplyDeletePlease this girl Mercy should move on and learn from it.
It is not greener in "the abroad".
Pls tell ur friend to be grateful to God for delivering her from the hands of a cheating man. She shld move.
ReplyDeleteShe should forget about him! if he is seeing another woman and she ends up marrying him he will continue to cheat
ReplyDeleteSad!!!
ReplyDeleteBehind every disappointment comes on its tail an unseen blessing.
what advise do you want us to give her other than she should take heart... She should move on and learn her lessons...Good riddance to bad rubbish!
ReplyDeleteWhat's gonna be is gonna be, this one is not meant to be dear poster's friend. Yours is on the way forget the abroad tag you'll be fine.
ReplyDeleteMercy, do you love God? If so, here is his promise:
ReplyDeleteRomans 8:28 And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.
Easy babe! ur best is yet to come.
ReplyDeleteShe should forget him and move on. What other advice is she expecting? To fight for her "true love"?
ReplyDeleteHe doesn't deserve an amazing lady like her.
What advice again so you need? Tell your friend to move on, the guy fell out of love
ReplyDeleteEveryone be saying ah thank God she dodged a bullet....what if it was the other way...as in the man dodged a bullet on time?
ReplyDeleteTell your friend to relax and move on with her life, her real boo is coming soon. Am sure the guy does not know what he want.
ReplyDeleteAllow her cry, just be there for her. In time, she will heal, no two ways about it
ReplyDeleteSHe should do the needful by moving ON. God has delivered her from DV period. She should be grateful to God.
ReplyDeleteI can imagine the pain & hurt your friend is going through right now but only God can tell why this happened at this time. She should dry her tears & move on. God still has better plans for her. There are still good men who will love, cherish & accept her for who she is.
ReplyDeleteMove on dear
He has gone, he has gone. She can't force him. Whether the other person used jazz o, it's not her problem.... What if they get married and he starts sleeping around? What if he starts DV? This is a blessing in disguise,
ReplyDeleteTHIS WILL PASS........
Is it painful, YES
Will ppl gossip? Over gossip sef.
Is it easy? No
Can she do anything about it? Yes
Should she? NO!
Move on dearie, it's OK to cry, but just for 1day.
Dont return any ring. Sell everything you've bought in preparation for the wedding and save the money.
You'll meet a better person
That same thing happened to me in 2014.. I cried but moved on.. Intact I shared IVs.. But I thank God for giving me the strength to move on.. Now I am married with a Son.. Pls let her pull herself together.. The deed has been done...
ReplyDeleteBUT THIS IS EMBARASSING O. SOME IGNORANT PEOPLE AND ENEMIES OF HER PROGRESS WILL BE BLAMING HER AND TALKING RUBBISH. THE NEW GIRL MIGHT NOT EVEN KNOW HE WAS PLANNING HIS WEDDING. ANY MAN WHO CAN DO THIS TO A WOMAN HAS A HEART OF STONE. IT'S GOOD HE SHOWED THIS CHARACTER NOW THAN AFTER WEDDING. TELL YOUR FRIEND THAT SOON THE SHAME WILL FADE AWAY AND GOD WHO HAS HEARD HER CRY WILL GIVE HER A FAR BETTER MAN.
ReplyDeleteWIPE YOUR TEARS BIKO
Now y are u shouting for this small matter....
DeleteA guy that would do this to a woman is not worth a woman's heartache. God delivered you just in time before you end up with a pig!
ReplyDeleteDon't let his action humiliate you either. You move on fast even he wouldn't believe you ever even gave a crap about him.
Frankly, none of these man-brats are worth the headaches but some are much better than the rest.
All the best!
A lot of questions need to be answered. Did they meet online? Was this the first time they are meeting face to face? Did she decieve him with makeup? Padded bra, pant, etc? Did she tell a lie about herself?
ReplyDeleteIt could also be that her behaviour, hyegine, mannerism etc repulsed him.
Whatever it was , let her pick up herself, her husband will come.
Let her relocate to where no one knows her story. She will be fine. Time heals.
ReplyDeleteBabe should pray if he doesn't turn up, she should move on after all they say all disappointed is a blessing
ReplyDeleteLet her move on and go for thanksgiving. God just delivered her from a marriage that would have been hell.
ReplyDeleteMy sister move on.God sees from the end to the beginning. Hmm in years to come you will thank God you didn't marry him.its painful yes.I have gone through such.in years to come he will come back lamenting but too late. Take your time,pray and be vigilant.your own will come with so much love without regret
ReplyDeleteI have been there. Mine happened july 2016.she Will be fine. It was not easy but God took charge. A broken relationship/engagement is better than a broken marriage. After the whole thing, it was as bad as i purge once i hear his name any where. Ur fwnd Will b fine God no dey sleep.
ReplyDeletein as much as i sympathize with her,I Must confess that she is a lucky girl! a broken relationship is better that a broken or terrible marriage. Dear Mercy, pick up your broken pieces and move on. life happens and i still insist that it was for the best. unlike people like me that were not jilted but my so called husband of six years is living with another woman. i am married and very very lonely. i would have preferred if he had jilted me this way than this life i am living now. i hope to send in my story one day. Sobs
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