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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
HARD DECISION TO MAKE
Good day Stella and blog visitors, Stella please post quickly because it is very urgent.
I am at a cross road and I have seek advice from my friends but I have not been happy with their replies.
I married my ex when I was in my late twenties, everything was going on very well for both of us, we have three children together.
Three years ago he got transferred from Lagos to Ibadan, he come home every weekend or sometime two times a month. I also visit him with the kids when they are on holiday but mostly he always come home to us because of the children's schooling.
About eighteen months ago, he stopped coming home and the allowance stipends he sends got reduced because I am a stay at home mother though not for lack of trying for a job. When I couldn't find a job I resigned myself to being a stay at home mom.
Last year September I, received a call and letter from someone claiming to be his Lawyer that he is no more interested in the marriage anymore and that he would like me to hand over my three children to him. To say I was shocked was an understatement.
I eventually did my investigation and discovered that he has married another lady he met in Ibadan and they are living together as husband and wife.
He refused to pay the kids school fees for this term and our house rent has due since September last year even though he is comfortable enough to pay, he refused insisting on me handing over the kids and going my way.
When I seek advice from friends, I was advised to hand over the kids that
1. It will make me to move on quickly to meet someone new
2. He will take care of them and put them in his will when he died.
3. I can still support and see the kids any time I like.
But to me handing over the children to him and his new wife is like being stabbed with a matchet because I am very used to them but watching your kids hungry and not going to school is also heartrending.
I also contemplate going to court but I feel it will be time consuming especially when he doesn't live in Lagos and can dogde the court order for years.
Please I really need advice urgently because I received a letter that I have to quit my house within seven days should i take the children to him and his new wife and move on?
Brb
ReplyDeleteYou should over your kids just like that? Who will take care of them? The new 'wife' that you don't know if she will be an evil stepmother to your kids? Did you hear about that little girl that was stoned to death by her stepmother? Or that little boy whose stepmother cut off his penis because she couldn't have kids of her own? I guess you didn't. Bad enough that He has abandoned you ,now he wants to take your kids away from you too. How old are the kids anyway? That husband snatcher will turn your kids against you and they will grow up to hate you. So you think they will be allowing u come to the house to visit the kids anytime you like? Madam,you have to fight for your rights here! You are too gentle,I swear. You are entitled to keep your kids and get child support( feeding,accommodation,school fees etc) from their father. Go and google FIDA and look for the nearest branch. They will take take up your matter for free. You too try and get something to do,business or a job,no matter how small. Where are your families in all of these? If you can gather some money to rent a smaller apartment,even if one room for now so you can manage with the kids. Home school them for now until their idiot father decides to do right by them and pay their fees or until you can get some money to do so. Do you know his office in Ibadan? Pls go there and create a scene with his boss. Everything is in your favour in this case. Why are you taking things so quietly,madam? Or you too have secrets that you are afraid he will reveal if you make any trouble with him? Nothwithstanding, you gave birth to those kids and nobody can make you give them up for now especially as they are still tender. Forget about another man for now,what do you want another man for? At least for now? Fight for your right,woman. Take it to God in prayer. You just open eye,one small girl stole your husband,now you want to allow her steal your children? Kai,I have vex. I don't live in Lagos,else I would have taken up your case for free. I hate injustice. Just make sure you don't give up your kids(they are the only thing you have now) and the rest will sort itself out with time.
DeleteYou should over your kids just like that? Who will take care of them? The new 'wife' that you don't know if she will be an evil stepmother to your kids? Did you hear about that little girl that was stoned to death by her stepmother? Or that little boy whose stepmother cut off his penis because she couldn't have kids of her own? I guess you didn't. Bad enough that He has abandoned you ,now he wants to take your kids away from you too. How old are the kids anyway? That husband snatcher will turn your kids against you and they will grow up to hate you. So you think they will be allowing u come to the house to visit the kids anytime you like? Madam,you have to fight for your rights here! You are too gentle,I swear. You are entitled to keep your kids and get child support( feeding,accommodation,school fees etc) from their father. Go and google FIDA and look for the nearest branch. They will take take up your matter for free. You too try and get something to do,business or a job,no matter how small. Where are your families in all of these? If you can gather some money to rent a smaller apartment,even if one room for now so you can manage with the kids. Home school them for now until their idiot father decides to do right by them and pay their fees or until you can get some money to do so. Do you know his office in Ibadan? Pls go there and create a scene with his boss. Everything is in your favour in this case. Why are you taking things so quietly,madam? Or you too have secrets that you are afraid he will reveal if you make any trouble with him? Nothwithstanding, you gave birth to those kids and nobody can make you give them up for now especially as they are still tender. Forget about another man for now,what do you want another man for? At least for now? Fight for your right,woman. Take it to God in prayer. You just open eye,one small girl stole your husband,now you want to allow her steal your children? Kai,I have vex. I don't live in Lagos,else I would have taken up your case for free. I hate injustice. Just make sure you don't give up your kids(they are the only thing you have now) and the rest will sort itself out with time.
DeleteGod bless you!for saying it all
DeleteGod bless you, annon 18:47
DeletePoster, pack ALL your stuff with the kids and 'land' In his house in Ibadan. Enter the house shouting and causing a scene. Take up a room, and set up you and your children's stuff. Ignore the man and his mistress. If he askes you to leave the house, and hand over the kids, tell him to show you a court judgment that says so. Till he gets one, you are staying put. If he refuses to feed you guys, enter the kitchen and cook what yoi like. Home school your kids. Make a scene and his work and home, make shame catch him and him mistress. No be person go tell am to enroll the kids in school. Also be prayerful, it might be jazz things at work
The life of a typical Yoruba man!
DeleteWell, reminder to single ladies, never marry when you don't have anything doing, or settle for being a full house wife. Madam, may God send helpers your wasy
ReplyDelete*Larry was here*
Don't hand your kids over to anyone. Manage what you have,aim for better. Pick up a skill. Why do people think marriage is a priority? Your kids are,you might struggle for a while,but in the long run,you won't regret your decision.
DeleteMadam pls do not give your kids to anyone, no one can take care of kids more than their own mother, what are you saying about moving on? Right now they are the most important thing, if you have to fry Akara pls do so cus that new wife may not treat them well. Fear ibadan most married men and even women cheat a lot. Young married men would be looking for single girls to make second wife up and down
DeleteIt's a sad thing, if u are not selfish please don't leave your kids. Go struggle with them. It's well u can learn tailoring and start producing
DeleteTake your kids to your mother in the village, leave for the city, get yourself something to do, return to your kids and move on with your life. Shikena yauwa
DeletePush up some people can take care of kids more than their birth mum.
DeleteChai Yoruba demon don carry your horseband ooooo.
ReplyDeleteMadam sorry ooo. Madam abeg knack better prayer on this your horseband head now. No sit down and allow stupid idiot take what belongs to you.
For the meantime, try and look for money to pay the rent, because this one na yuyu dem take hold your horseband.
Interested to free him and his sense come back, let me know. We go knack better prayer, that hand wey hold him fire go burn am seriously.
Your laziness chased him away. If you were busy doing something he would not try this. Sad but true. He is a very selfish man. Did you guys wed? I have a feeling it was cohabitation and NOT MARRIED.
DeleteAnon 17:38 so he did what he did because she was not working? My sister inlaw who was working in Lagos faced the same fate.
DeleteMy only blame on her was why she stayed put in Lagos when she is not working. She should have moved to Ibadan with him. A useless man is a useless man though!
Madam. Hand over d children . If U r not fat with big tummy. U can still meet another man
ReplyDeleteAs usual, your stupidity shines through.
DeleteJames, u missed yesterdays chronicle.
DeleteYou just don't have sense
DeleteWhat a really stupid thing to say.
DeleteU must have bin a fool in ur previous life.only to come back as a goat.
DeleteShior
DeleteI need a man,a phone. I'm tired of begging frm someones'.
ReplyDeleteYou need a job...
DeleteYou don't have a phone and you want a man, hmmm
DeleteUse your head
I need a man,a phone. I'm tired of begging frm someones'.
ReplyDeleteU need a man for a date or a man to buy u a new fone ???? ....which one is yur problem lazy bitch ...???
DeleteThis is not something you should resolve on your own. You have families that came together when you got married. Involve them. He cannot just decide one day that he is not interested and you should hand over the kids just like that. Were you just used to have the children? Whatever is going to be decided, let both families come together.
ReplyDeleteMrs. Suleiman, Is that you? If that's you then you changed so many things?
DeleteIf you are who I think you are, tell Stella so I can tell you what you don't know.Thanks.
I concour wit ur advice cos from the write up she didn't mentioned she told any of both families.madam God will help you and in whatever u do don't handover d kids to him u will be fine.
DeleteDon't hand your children over to him,this is the time to tie ur belt very tie and start felting for your kids all alone though all this came all of a sudden.take ur kids to ur parents place and start up life from there. Let me read others advice as well.
ReplyDeleteMadam,
ReplyDeletePlease do not hand over your children to him for any reason! Do you want your kids to suffer? Do you want them to end up dead or maimed? Don't you love them more than life itself?
Sign whatever papers that are necessary, to be sure you both are properly divorced! Then start sending out your CVs to any company you can find, teaching job is easy to find sef... Most especially private schools. So I think you should check there also
It will be the right thing to take him to court cos he should be made to take care of his kids, but since you don't want too much drama... I suggest you forget that route for now.
Swallow your pride and seek help from any family member(s) or friends willing to help. God in his infinite mercy will send divine helpers your way okay!
But whatever you decide to do, please do not let go of your kids! EVER!!! Hugsss
Good one!
DeletePoster,your friends are right!...
ReplyDeleteGive those children to him...atleast,I'm sure of them going to a good school...
Where will you even start from with three kids?...
They will come back and look for you when they grow up my dear!...
Use that money you will spend on lawyers to start up a business!...
I don't know why girls from your tribe always snatch people's husband and una men can't stay with one woman...
Tueh!...
Sorry oh!this too shall pass!...
Poster please don't take this advice. This self styled queen is deluded and to be honest, borderline psychotic.
DeleteI expected this comment from you.
DeleteDo you know what the husband will fill the childrens' heads with later? Things like your mom is a witch or she abandoned you guys.
Life nor be Nigerian film o
Wandering tribe. Their men wander, their women aren't any better. That tribe is so morally deficient.
DeleteYou that anon 15:51- You're not just psychotic but depressed and deeply sorrowful. May God remove you from that deep pit and give you a head that thinks like that of a human. FBG
DeleteQueen your advice is the only realistic one so far. How will she take care of 3kids without a job? Poster you will be pushed to sleep with men for money. It is better you leave the kids for now.
DeletePoster your husband must be a Yoruba demon. Igbo man can never behave like this.
ReplyDeleteI will advise you to sell all the properties you can sell, take your kids and go back to your parents house and start a business or look for a job.
Don't give another woman your kids to train.
Your immaturity knows no bound. I am a Full blooded Igbo man, your comments always reeks of bias, as a man, you shouldn't be here always my dear brother.
DeleteI had to go back to read and look for where she mentioned that bother herself and hubby are yoruba.
DeleteDon't ever do that....if he loved them so much why can't he send money even if it's just for the kids feeding ?.....he is petty and irresponsible .....nd that woman will never treat your kids better than you
DeleteI understand your plight but how do you move on without your kids.From another mother with three kids to you,i expect you have a family,move back home,get something doing and take care of your kids.Leave your husband to GOD and do not let him near your kids.They will be worse off with the other woman.My children are my life,I will fight for them till the end of life.THERE IS NO LIFE WITHOUT THEM.
ReplyDeleteThey may nOt be worse off with the Other wOman,not everyone is wicked
DeleteAnon 05:10 did u actually type that,"may not b worse off wit d oda woman,not every1 is wicked"how can a sane human being move in with a married man wit kids?abeg tink b4 u type.
DeleteI will advise you just look for a job no matter how small, and please don't hand over your kids to another woman to take care of them for you when you are still alive. It's better they are managing with their mother than being maltreat by a step mother
ReplyDeletemadam do you have family members? where are they? do not hand over your kids to that man. he will spoil your name and your image and the kids will hate you. they will feel like you abandoned them cos he will make them feel so. how do you know his second wife won't mistreat your kids? how can you be alive and another woman will mistreat your children? they are many wicked women out there who can do anything to kids that did not come from their own womb. How do you know you will be allowed to have visitation rights? where are your parents and your siblings? you and your kids can stay with them for a bit, get up and start looking for a job with faith. commit your situation in Gods hands and you will get a job no matter how small. start from somewhere but do not allow that man take the kids away from you. children ALWAYS need their mother. unless you feel they will stop you from flexing and getting a new husband like your friends say and that will mean you are a very selfish person
ReplyDeleteMust you involve her family members? @Trinity, where were your own your parents and siblings when you were having unprotected ses with an irresponsible man?? Didn't they advice you?? Or you chose to be a baby mama?
DeleteGod bless you for this comment.
DeletePoster, use your head
Trinity Trinity Trinity!! Kudos to you. I love your sense of humour keep it up
Delete@anon 16:06 I see you can't read. You don't understand English or you choose to just display your foolishness.did I insult her family?I asked where they are so she and the kids can stay with them. Useless personality. Be living and breathing on my comments inugo..you and the rest of your type. Ordinary English you can't read cos you want to rush to insult.
DeleteHmmmmmmmmmmmm
ReplyDeleteNdi ofe mmanu I dey Hail oooo
What makes you think the husband is a Yoruba man. I used to respect you on this blog but you just prove to be like one of "those" people whose comments always reek of tribalism.
DeleteNwanne, ogwurum Ike. I can bet you there never was a REAL wedding. It must have been their usual leather-bag marriage.
DeleteYou're just plain stupid, you this chike
DeleteHow did you guys get married? Court marriage or just traditional marriage? You need to take him to the court and fight for your kids leaving them to an unknown woman is dangerous why would you want to leave them and move on where r u moving on to...am sure u have relatives that can help take care of the kids while u fight for them how about your mum if you leave those children in the hands of another woman they would be maltreated
ReplyDeleteAm not sure they married. Lawyer will not call and ask her to hand over kids when his client is guilty of Biagamy. She and the man were cohabiting
DeleteThis is heart breaking!! You have no means of taking care of you and your kids so make getting a source of income your priority.
ReplyDeleteIf you have family that can take you and your kids in while you find your feet then don't hand over your kids but if you have nowhere to go then hand over your kids and sort yourself out first.
Of a truth, "Money answereth all things"
If you can get a human right lawyer and Sue him to court, you need child support oooo
ReplyDeletenah wah ooooo ur horesband is heartless NNE Jesus is ur back bone
ReplyDeleteThis marriage thing don dey fear me oo.. Which kind problem be this again.
ReplyDeleteHandova Wat? Are d handouts ni, why are women on dis blog so low on IQ and esteem, madam u don't v family ni, so u can't run around and start sometin for urself to train ur kids, are u an illiterate, even some illiterate are smarter, get a lawyer and fight for ur right, sit dere and be swallowing bullshit, ur friends are Bad, imagine d kind of advise, dey want u to be free to Come prostitute with Dem, shame On u woman, u are LAZY! Tueh!
ReplyDeleteWhich one is "why are women on this blog so low on IQ and esteem"
DeleteDon't you use sense in typing, or you don't think before saying anything at all?
Rather it is you who has a low IQ for generalizing. Stupid animal....your mother's IQ is low....oya come and beat me
DeletePoster pray that his dick will stop functioning and when he comes back his dick will resume work.
ReplyDeleteDon't forget this prayer point, let's see how he will marry the new wife
Stop littering this place jor. Women wrapper
Deleteoponu, afofungbenu, bastard!
DeleteWhy did you agree to be a full housewife? Dont you have families?please dnt ever think of dropping your children with your ex and his wife.look for a friends place to stay and I pray you see someone who would help you.
ReplyDeleteI believe this is just half of the story, there are so many things you are not telling us concerning your marriage for us to understand better. Your husband can not just stop communicating or avoid coming home, and suddenly requested for divorce, then expect you to hand over the children to him just like that. Tell us what issues have you been having? there is no smoke without fire.
ReplyDeleteIf you want to be honest and not die a hypocrite, you know men of these days don't need to have any good reason to move on with other women. They are just not properly raised, have no conscience and believe they can get away with anything.
DeleteWomen, learn, learn learn. No matter who you are marrying, never depend on them financially. This way, you will not be devastated if the animal in human skin starts to feel he is God.
Thank you .... There is more to it. The man must have run for his life. You only mentioned your friends....Don't you have relatives and in-laws. What and why did you stay in Lagos when you are a full house wife and also the apartment you are staying is a rented one. Why is it that you are interested in him putting your children in his will. You said you discovered he is married to another woman when you are not legally divorced yet? You are covering up a lot of things. I don't believe your story.
DeleteMichohay I hate stupid commentators like you... What has the full gist got to do with the issue on ground? In order words it must be her fault...so no matter the issues she should just hand over her kids and agree to the divorce abi? Life happens and yes some men are that stupid
DeleteDem no marry dats why she has not involved family in it.
DeleteThank you .... There is more to it. The man must have run for his life. You only mentioned your friends....Don't you have relatives and in-laws. What and why did you stay in Lagos when you are a full house wife and also the apartment you are staying is a rented one. Why is it that you are interested in him putting your children in his will. You said you discovered he is married to another woman when you are not legally divorced yet? You are covering up a lot of things. I don't believe your story.
DeleteWhat woman will take your man and your kids at the same time ? Uhn?
ReplyDeleteWhy are you worried about his will ? What is his worth ? You are already thinking of inheritance ?
And your kind of friends who are they ? The only thing they can think of is inheritance. Smh !
So you Ve written yourself off that you can't amount nothing ?
You spoil everything with the mention of his properties 😳😳.
I cannot let go of my children cos of any future uncertain inheritance.
Take up a job or look for something to do and hold on to your kids. Once you hand them over that it for you. You might never see them again.
Some women sha Do you bear children 👶 with the notion of releasing them to your spouse incase of separation?
I can't release my children to anybody no matter the sufferness.
I hope you have never aborted because 'releasing' them is better than many abortions you girls do,you only want children as insurance for old age and a collateral in keeping a man because the moment you don't have a man in your life you abort the babies in your womb.use less women most pretend they have children but most have killed children in their wombs,women love men too much haba
DeleteI don't understand what you mean by move on. You sound like your kids are baggages that you just want to dump and move on to the next man.
ReplyDeleteHow about a temporary solution, like letting them go stay with their father after all he is their father while you look for a JOB.
Isn't lack of job the reason you're at this point? Is moving on to the next man the best solution.
Obviously, those kids are better off with their father and the new woman than with you.
How can a woman be so settled about "moving on".
Their father left you does it mean those innocent children don't deserve to have their mother too?
What man wouldn't leave a woman with no work in this decade?
Best solution, let them go and stay with their father while you look for something to bring income for you and them in the long run.
Then before letting them go, do no sign anything gIving up your rights to them. They can visit both of you intermittently, they don't have to live with just one parent.
How can you even trust the welfare of your kids to another woman?
He knows you have nothing that's why he is using money as leverage to get what he wants.
Don't you have relatives or friends, to put up with pending when you get your own place.
Go and get something to do. It doesn't have to be an office job.
Your children need their mother.
For your information, a will can be changed anytime, won't the wife have her own children too?or she would stay and let your kids have it all.
You are too slow.
She is slow while u that is sharp is still single at your age @doppelganger
DeleteThank you Dope
DeleteHonestly doppelgänger you are so stupid....you rush to comment without reading.....I don't even know the fools who hail u as wise.....can't u read? She said people have advised her to move on....did she say that was her decision? She has also come here cos she is still not comfortable with all the advise she got from friends....learn to read well before you comment...imagine stupid you calling her slow. Ewu
DeleteIf Atheist thanked doppelgang, it means she made sense, so anonymous shut up
DeleteAnon 17:07 ...You are the BIG fool and the stupid one. Why is she asking for advice here if the ones her friends who are even closer to her are saying she should dump her kids and move on. You need to read her story well and you know she has a lot to hide. Just wait till the husband responds and you start singing a different tune.
DeleteI thought I was the only one that saw this stupid 'Doppleginger' as stupid. Always wanting to show herself by giving useless advice.
DeleteYou won't even read well before typing with your partially damaged brain. Mtcheeew
Anon17:07 U can say that again. This Doppelganger or whatever is just a sad frustrated woman, always in a hurry to dish out her Venoms
DeleteThat new wife will mistreat your kids, go to your parents house and plan your next line of action from there. Do not hand over ur kids o, she will turn dem to slaves.
ReplyDeleteNne your horseband is mean!
go to her parents house??? No wonder you are not planning to get married @BlackBerry
DeleteNa lie oh, BB... She's the runs woman, bringing men to the house
DeleteThis poster is lying. She and the man no marry. Look through her story, she never referred to him as husband. Her friends are advising her to hand over the kids so she can move on to someone new. No responsible friend would be advising her that way if the poster was really married to the man. See the way she even said going to Court is a waste of time. If she was married to him, she would get so much out of him. Lawyer called to ask for kids when he could have served her papers for dissolution of marriage.
DeleteDon't give a man you are not married to your all and be lazy at the same time. Why won't he leave you? Give him the kids because you cannot cater for them
Hahahaha. LMAO. You are one of the real witches of SDK blog who torment men. See how your husband jejely borrow leg join run commot for your grasp before he perish before his time.
ReplyDeleteWise man. No too much talk, no issue of domestic violence. Just gbaga in silence.
You no even feel remorse or any form of emotions.
You must be a calculative and cheating scum. Tueh.
Not one allegations against the man sef. Peaceful man, hopeless wife.
Face your music and dance to the tune.
You are hell bent on doing whatever pleases you, just like you always do; you can't kill him now, so bounce. Jagajagakwakwakwa
That's another angle i didn't pay attention to, what must ve prompted his decision?? For a woman that's comfy as a housewife, she appears lazy... Lemme evn delete my previous comment
DeleteYou just enjoy being unfortunate.
DeleteEvn the advices frm her friends tell the kind of friends she keep.. "So she can meet some1 new"... No talk of a good bizzness venture.
DeleteThat's what happens when you wife a ho.
DeleteChop knuckle..... I said it in my earlier comment. This woman is not telling the truth. Her husband must have run for his life. She only seek advice from friends and didn't mention any role the extended families played on both sides. Then she said she was contacted by her husband lawyer....which lawyer would represent a man who is still legally married and also married to another woman.She was quick to start raising the issue of will. Is she wishing her husband death. What does she do all day for 3years while her husband is in ibadan. She sits around waiting for the kids to come back from school doing nothing? She should have engaged herself in something positive rather than gossip with friends who cannot even bail her out of her accommodation problem. She must be a difficult woman. A man does not walk away from home and start asking for his children if he is really irresponsible. My views......
DeleteNooooooo,I don't understand when some people suggest u handover ur kids casually to ur ex and move on.Do u know the other woman?u want ur kids to end up hating u in future?Anyway maybe I don't understand the ways of life,the other woman could be the perfect mom right?Take ur kids with u...
ReplyDeleteIbadan woman don use Juju collect ur husband.
ReplyDeleteWhich husband?
DeleteMadam don't abandon your kids for any reason. He's their father but you don't know how the new wife will treat them if a somewhat good husband can abandon his wife and make his children suffer, be can do worse to his kids.
ReplyDeleteYou married your ex???...Oh! foolish you!
ReplyDeletePls read the chronicle again,again and again.
DeleteGo back to bed
DeletePosted I am a bit upset with you it seems you are the type of woman that lets marriae define who she is.
ReplyDeleteThat aside the first thing to do is to contact your family members. If you ddnt expired you will probably have to stay with one of them so I am sure they will take in your children too. And allow your children grow up with a strange woman calling her mother while you are still alive. This is a woman that decided to marry a married man what makes you think she will take care of your kids? Please why send your kids to a place that will break then and leave them with a lifetme of scars.
Next stop how did you marry your husband? Native law? In a law court? What also stops you from suing his ass? I think he is trying to bully you because j knows you are timid and dependent on him. Once you put up some fight he will back off trust me.
Next step Sen your cv to Stella. Let her post it so she and her fellow blog angels can link you up.
Above all, don't be scared or intimidated. He is a bastard and you and your kids will triumph over him.
Oh by the way no landlord can throw you out after a 7 days notice. His only remedy is to go to court to get an order for him to recover possession from you. Self help is frowned on and if he throws you oyt forcefully he can get a prison sentence of at least 3 months So for accomodation you have got at least 6 months so chill.
When rent has expired? She is now a tenant at will and can be served with 7 days notice of intention to recover possession through the Court. Who wants to give her six months notice for rent that has expired. She no marry the man even. Her story is the more you look the less you see.
DeleteFake legal adviser miss Kenefo.dey yarn wetin u no sabi.
DeleteIBK what's ur IG handle
ReplyDeleteThis is sad!
ReplyDeletePlease poster, whatever decision you may decide to take, never leave your kids with him, never! Don't try it please. If it's garri you have, drink it with them and be sure they are safe.
Go out there and start working, no legit job is too small, be the motherhen of your kids please.
A car tyre wouldn't just pull out entirely impromptu, there are usually signs & cringing noises alerting the driver, if ignored, you'd find urself stranded on highway in the middle of the night, xposing u to various other dangers.... This is what uve done to urself madam, u ignored the signs & remained jobless, confortable with the little he brings in for upkeep, now ure forced to make a sharp bend decision. Do u even hve the money for a lawyer? Court sessions dsnt come cheap.
ReplyDeleteYour hands are tied, & you're boxed in, that's how i see it. If ur kids are stubborn you might just get them back in 6months, lol.
Don't give out ur. Children woman, fight. For dem, train them and keep dem, there are yours, let ur Ex go make new babies with his. New woman, don't u dare give dem out, those children would never forgive u, and bet me ur ex would turn dem against u. Take ur asss up and go look for a job.
ReplyDeleteStella befor I forget, I had a dream dat dis southafrican would. Kill enuf Nigerians, please let's talk to our pipu to comme back, it's going to get really bloody, although d south Africans would be caught and killed too, but Nigerians aren't safe.
Do not give your husband the kids.
ReplyDeleteAll you need is help. Help in form of job or money in other to start a business.
In case you get the help you are looking for, i'll advice u start food business.
Jesus.. How can a man like me be this heartless.
ReplyDeleteBut poster, Im struggling to believe nothing transpired between you two.
You must have had a fight(s), or atleast some quarrels. haba!!
Please get both families involved and do it fast.
it breaks my heart seeing women going through stress like this.
Go to OPD, office of the Public Defender. They will provide legal advice and services for free. And they will make him pay maintenance for the children. Their office is on Western Avenue near national stadium. Do not give up your children. You are their primary caregiver. For this reason, the court will grant you custody. The laws in Lagos have been strengthened to protect women and children.
ReplyDeleteMadam please Dont take this south o... I just want to know if your friends are educated. How can they tell you to hand over your kids to him when you have a clear winning case her.
ReplyDeleteThe fact that he married another when the agreement (marriage) between you two has not been annulled is something worth suing for. Oh! He has a lawyer bah? Sue his arse! Make him pay!. He does not want you anymore fine! But make him pay! You open yansh born children finish, now he is love with another... Love bust his scrotum there. Where is his family? What about yours?... Are you guys Muslim?
I am done vexing on your behalf. I seriously wish you would explain what you mean by stay at home mum.. See dearie there is nothing sweeter than making your own money. Did you not acquire any skills? You dumped your certificate for what? Enough with those cock and prick story of my hands were full. Shey you have see it na.
As a matter of urgency,Sue him. Igando court is a good start😕😕. Dont mind those your #5 naira friends o. Even if you Dont have the heart to trouble him, Dont give in to releasing your kids. Get up and do something. Stop talking about another man looking at you making it look as if you exist for men alone.
Insha Allah you will real the fruits of your labour. Take side hug😳. I would have given a full front hug but I Dont want to reduce my 🙅🙆.
#pardon my gbagauns. I typed in painment.
God bless u
DeleteBlunt Chic thanks for your comment.
DeleteFrom the moment she told me she's a housewife because she looked for Job and didn't see (business no dey??) ❌
Then she has sought advice from her friends and she's adviced to leave the kids (really?? Your OWN children??) ❌❌
All I can say is: baba God thank God for my mother 🙌🏽 Even in this old age that my uncle is telling them to relocate indefinitely to the US the woman said she can't leave her children yet. Old cargos like us. But you, a younger mother, you want to leave young children with a strange woman because you want to move on quickly. How selfish a mother are you? Like do you even know the meaning of the word 'mother?' It's when you sit in Lagos and someone tells you that your child has been blinded by domestic violence, or poisoned to death that your life will be perfect. Kuku kill them if you don't like them. Don't push their harm to someone else when you can be responsible for their safety. All you're thinking about is moving on 'man man man' that's all that's on your mind. For many like you this would be a wake-up call to seat up and hold the steering of their life. But no oh... you and your friends want to continue the groove life. I can't believe you're even considering that. What the fuck is a will?? Him be Dangote?? Can't u train your children not to even look at their fathers money and work for their own? Fuck that man and his new wife, fuck their so-called money and their fucking future will (which may not even exist in his old age). You're just a lazy woman who wants the easy way out and I pray you find it. Please feel free to troll me in anger for the next few weeks. It won't change the subject matter. You want to dispose of them like used clothes. Your own children, the key to your eventual happiness in life.
I have nothing else to say to you.
P.S: Smart women rule! 💪🏼
So you think all children are keys to eventual happiness? Really? Ok
DeleteEnter your comment...please dont give him your kids...stand your ground...they will suffer your kids...please...i know what kids gp through in the hands of step moms...please...you find someone who will accept u and your kids...you will be fine..the holyspirit will guide you... dont worry..
ReplyDeleteGet a lawyer.
ReplyDeleteStella got some abulance chaser's here, they should be of good use at this time.
Ambulance*..
ReplyDeleteWhatever decision you take please do not leave your kids for anyone including your husband. please go to Lagos market and do alabaru to feed your kids and put them in school. Never ever abandon your kids in any situation you find yourself.
ReplyDeleteMadam poster!sorry for your predicament. My advice for you is since they are 3 in number,why not let him have the most elder one among them.Carry the two to stay with you.Dust tour certificate go out there and see you you can find a job no matter how little it is.Wish you goodluck.
ReplyDeleteSeparating the children will only worsen the situation. She should keep them together. Although I don't believe her story I think she is hiding a lot.
DeleteNigeria is so paternalistic. Imagine the nerve of your ex! And to think your friends are actually advising you to hand over your three kids is even more shocking.
ReplyDeleteOh! How I wish more Naija women are like me! What I did to my ex ehn,) he his still weeping and gnashing his teeth. You dare treat me so badly and think you can take away my children in addition to the suffering you've subjected me to? Never! Madam, don't ever hand over your kids for another woman to look after them when you are very much alive and well. The kids will never, ever understand and will interpret it as abandonment and they will resent you when they grow up.
Instead, ask around for women's rights centres in Lagos, they can assist you to enforce childcare care payments and mandate your ex to pay for their upkeep and school fees.
Do not hand over your children willingly to another woman; you will regret it if you do.
Dr S.
Well I bet he is a Yoruba guy... kai... just to show you that being married and having boy n girl isn't guaranteed that you will have a forever wedding, so all we married women should please be humble and not always trying to bitch our single ladies. Madam I bet the 2nd wife has something doing. It is your non contribution to the house that caused this. The pressure of responsibilities on the man was too much. So he went for someone who could bring more to the table. Anyways what do I say? If you have no one out there to help you, you can take your kids to him... how old are the kids? You can drop your kids with him. Try to get something doing and get your life together financially. I swear if you make it more than this man, it won't be hard for your kids to port to you when they are older and probably in secondary school... if they are young, tell them you will come back for them and you sure will when you start getting money... so give them something to hold on to and to not forget you and go hustle. They would understand... but if you have helpful parent, well I am just saying suffering with 3 kids often times won't get you to where you are going. Abeg make the "I too know" advise you. Am out
ReplyDeleteHIAN! IF YOU HAVE A MALE CHILD, HE WILL BE TARGETTED BY THE NEW WIFE. IN FACT, SHE WILL MALTREAT YOUR KIDS. I WOULD HAVE ADVISED YOU TO SOURCE FOR FUNDS AND START A BUSINESS OR DUST YOUR CV AND LOOK FOR A JOB. IF YOU ARE LUCKY, A BV MAY HELP YOU FIND A JOB. THAT BV THAT WAS PROMISING BANK JOB IN LAGOS, WHERE IS SHE? THE SOLUTION TO YOUR OWN PROBLEM IS MONEY.
ReplyDeleteHOW CAN A WOMAN BE IRRESPONSIBLE ENOUGH TO MARRY ANOTHER WOMAN'S HUSBAND? NOW THIS WOMAN IS SUFFERING WITH HER CHILDREN BECAUSE OF THE SIDE CHIC TURNED WIFY. WHEN EVIL BEFALLS HER, SHE WILL BE ASKING GOD QUESTIONS.
HER DAYS ARE NUMBERED...ITS ALSO POSSIBLE THAT YOUR HUSBAND LIED TO HER THAT HE IS DIVORCED
HMMM
Just like that. women are their own enemy. Hope your people are aware of it. Ma'am you made a very big mistake, business you no get, work babu. Start looking for a job sharp sharp o. God is your strength. To me I won't hand them over if my people are by my side.
ReplyDeleteMadam don't ever leave your children ooo. Get something to do no matter how little.
ReplyDeleteThank God my mum carried us, if not. Maybe I would have given birth for an Okada rider. Step mum's are evil. Not all sha o
Let me read comments too.
ReplyDeleteHow can ur husband just decide to marry another woman like that? I don't understand. What of your parents? Nobody can take care of children 🚸 like there own or their grandmother, *their mother's mother
ReplyDeleteMadam poster do not give him the kids. Hold on to them because the moment you allow him have the kids, you will not get to see them for a long time besides the other woman can maltreat and even make sure the kids don't go to school anymore.
ReplyDeleteYour kids are your bargaining chip. As for the use of of the word "ex" desist from it because until the court formally disolves that marriage, you are still legally married to the man.
Can't you look for something to do that will fetch you money? Just don't sit there and complain get busy to earn yourself some respect.
Women should learn to be up and doing incase of things like this. No one prays to be in this kind of situation but be prepared incase it happens.
Does he not have family members you can report him to?
Go to the ministry of women and children's welfare where you live and complain to them that he has refused to perform his responsibility. They will certainly call your husband and compel him to provide maintainance for the kids.
Blunt chic, do you attend Uniben? Can't wait to finally leave. Home soon. Make I first go see my project supervisor
ReplyDeletePoster, I won't blame you but you gave him too much time. Women you ensure that their husband is responsible for everything in the family, so they know it's their job.
DeleteAs it is make sure your kids are with you. Fine something doing, like teaching in a private school where you can also enrol your kids and get some wages to care for you and your kids
God will strengthen you for your kids
Uniben the craw craw school?😕😕😕😕. Dont mind me o😁😁😁. I am a tuskite.
Deletemadam,do not give ur kids to ur ex husband ooooh! work hard,take care of them,fight for ur kids. let him go.. if u were working,he would have probably still be in the marriage.. some men sha...
ReplyDeleteHi poster sorry for your predicament. This is why women should always hold thier own. (All those women handing your salary to husband oyo)
ReplyDeletePoster how about parents or siblings that can help? Can your drop them with your mum for a while while you look for a job?
While I am not in support of you taking your kids to your husband, we need to be realistic. You need to be able to cater for and feed them.
1. If you take your kids to him he might make it difficult to get them back.
2. They might poison thier minds against you leaving them to believe you abandoned them
3. They may be maltreated by the new wife.
1. Try and find a job or business asap. Look for where to borrow money to start a business.
2. Can you force him to court to pay you? He should be paying school fees. Those ngos are a good idea.
I'm sorry for your issue I wish I had better advice. Women please beware. How can your husband not come home for 18 months and your are there looking. Poster should have moved with him to ibadan. Na wa.
Let me read comments
ReplyDeleteTell the lawyer they can shove their offer up their asses
ReplyDeleteGive them your new offer; he continues to pay for the rents and give money for the upkeep of all three kids
Yes he will resist. If you did court marriage then he is guilty of bigamy, not sure if Lagos state law on Bigamy being legal is now active. You don't want trouble so let them pay up and of not, wear sokoto. Let them know you will fight them with everything, physical and supernatural. EVERYTHING. Let your husband know that you are absolutely mad when it comes to your kids. Nobody mess with you there! In other words, never give up your children, not a half and a monkey!
Look for support from friends and family. Most importantly, get a job! It's hard but start searching aggressively.
Move on fast, forget that bastard exist. Take your time. Chicken we never die still fit chop corn. Yes you can still marry again and you can still become very wealthy. Don't let anything that depraved husband of yours has fool you. On the end, everything is vanity. Just don't allow him take your life with him. God be with you.
The woman no clean. If not she will not narrate her story this way. The man is not all that either but she knows that there is a reason why he did what he did. Cos they ain't married.
DeleteI had to read your story again...something is amiss.
ReplyDeleteI sympathize with you, but I find it difficult to believe that for 18 months when your husband stopped coming home, you didn't go on a surprise visit to Ibadan to see what happened? Lagos to Ibadan?It is not far ke!
Well, the deed is done. No point crying over spilled milk. In no circumstances should you give your children to your ex huaband and his new wife. Since yesterday, I am yet to get over the picture of a 5 year old girl stoned to death by her step mother. I wept!
Move back to your parents house if they are still very much around, if not, any relative or your husband's parents! Yes o. If push comes to shove! Shelter first! From there start to hustle. Sigh!
Best of luck.
P.s To the chronicle of yesterday, don't go back to your ex husband. Since you know how to generate income, find a room to rent with your kids and leave your mother's home because of the pressure on her. Your husband simply see you as a means to an end!
Have u heard of FIDA? Google them and take your plight to them. they will assist you to sue him and then he'll be made to pay alimony, how does he expect u to live without your children, also there are so many female groups who can help you fight your fight, also you can try Female in Nigeria (FIN) i hrd they have some badass lawyers who can take up your case pro bono. God be with you. Cheers
ReplyDeleteI'm sure u also know ur wrong ,there must be something hidden, it will be better for u to notify his family and if it's getting out of hand" woman ! Handover his children to him cos there's no way u can care for them right now and the situation of things in Nig is somehow , u still have chance to see ur children anytime u wish . Think twice woman.
ReplyDeleteDem no marry that's why.
DeleteWale oko mi?
DeleteBalaji! Can u pls drop ur pin here .
DeleteBut madam, please tell us what you did or what you have done in the past.
ReplyDeleteBefore we all castigate the man, is it possible that he's reacting to something you've done/
lets remove emotions and think properly
God bless you....👍
DeleteThank you jare. I heard whiie the man was away....she was fucking about. Good radiance
DeleteMadam pls don't leave your kids for anything,why are you in a hurry to move on?the other woman will make their lives miserable and tell them loads of lies about you,struggle hard to train them,there's so much you can do to earn if u pray hard,please you won't be able to get these kids back in the future!
ReplyDeleteThe fact that the woman mentioned Lagos and Ibadan automatically makes the man a Yoruba demon?..I still don't know why people always bring issue of tribalism into everything. I want to assume that people who are from south- south or south-east are angels. They are perfect in everything they do..in fact they don't have issues with their marriages.
ReplyDeleteAnd your own tribalistic mind also assumes the supposed tribalistic person must be from SS or SE as if there aren't other regions in Nigeria.
DeleteDear Poster,please and please dont give your children to him. If dat woman can turn him against you,she can as well eventually turn yr children against der father! She can never take care of your children like you would. Like sm1 sed,sell some of d properties u can and start up smtin. Try and involve his people/family in d matter afterall,both families were involved and consented to your marriage. I know its not easy but with God,you will definately scale thru.
ReplyDeleteGod be with you.
Madam please do not give your kids to another woman to bring up. They will never forgive you o! Please fight for them now. See yourself as a single mother and start hustling like never before. Move back in with your parents or a sibling then take it from there. God is in control!
ReplyDelete@Tilly you spoke well, @Chike Teflon God bless you for those words.
ReplyDeletemadam poster, dont ever leave your kids with anoda man, dont try it. if the woman used JAZZ to steal your husband, then your children life is not safe. she will destroy their destuny. bet y men? why una like ojukokoro like dis?
Which jazz? Story o
DeletePeace maker you are a crazy guy hahahahaha. So only fat women with fat tommy wont have another man. You don craze finish
ReplyDeletePls, whatever you do, do not hand over your kids to be cared for by a step mother. Horrible things usually happen. The man cannot be at home all day to watch over the kids. Sometimes the kids could be accused of witchcraft/ stealing etc, for the father to start disliking his children.If you got married legally, then look for a lawyer, some could do pro bono. Again U repeat, don't hand over your kids. Anotheran can still love you with them in your life
ReplyDeletePoster, there is more to your story than what you posted. Some things must have happened from last 18months till when his lawyer contacted you. There is enough advice already dished out from bvs. Good luck to you and your kids.
ReplyDeleteMadam the truth be told, the new wife has either a job or doing business. Your mistake here is resolving to be a stay at home mum, life is no longer easy for the man with 3 kids and a jobless wife even up to matches of ten naira na the man. If you start dating another man and your employment status remain the same in no time he will be tired. My advice is after settling the issue with your husband, please look for something doing to upgrade yourself. I wonder how someone can be so comfortable 24 hrs in a day, 7 days a week, 4 weeks a month, 365 days doing nothing. Una dey try.
ReplyDeleteHow some of you came up with the assertion that they must be yoruba still surprises me.
ReplyDeleteForgive me if I am wrong oh,but madam I hope you were not unfaithful while your husband was away because I don't understand how a man will just wake up and decide to marry another woman and take his kids from you.i feel you are more concerned about your upkeep and how you can move on than on salvaging the marriage.My advise if this is not the case, is for you to involve both families in this matter but make sure you hold on to your kids
ReplyDeleteYou sound lazy.sorry to say but you seems to have resigned. Teaching job nko? Aren't you legally married? Instead of you to ask for legal help here, hmmm.
ReplyDeleteShe is not married at all to him. Why lie and seek advice at the same time. Not everyone here are fools.
DeletePoster when your husband moved to ibadan and you had no job doing what kept you and your kids in lagos,? Why did you not also move with your husband? Can't you put your kids in a boarding school while you stay with your husband in ibadan? See what has happened to the long space you gave to that man, you don't know that babes are not smiling with cute and well to do men?
ReplyDeleteAnyways you have already fucked up, all you need to do is to come in agreement with your husband, tell him to put your kids in a boarding school so that they will not have to suffer under his new wife, you too need to go on your knees to pray cos that is d only permanent solution, do not drop your kids with another woman, start looking for a job or anything to do. Where are your relatives ? What of your in-laws? Is time to report him to his people, do not give up, God is with you.
To train four children alone is going to be hard, physically and emotionally. A lot of people will tell you don't do it but my advise is, if you do not have a good support system that will be there always, maybe grown up nannies to take care of them, then hand them over to their father. Nannies are not enough.
ReplyDeleteImagine you close from work 6.00pm,how do you give them enough time before the day breaks and you are off to work again? Your ex is also their father and not every man will watch their wife maltreat their child and it is not every step mother that is bad.
I know you are pained but be reasonable. You also need to be loved too. A lot of people will tell us how their mother never remarried and dedicated their lives training them but have you asked those women what their regrets are? That is selfishness. We are told in Africa to bury our sexual urges, slave till old age but my dear, you deserve to find love too, you deserve to have someone all over you or you will end up bitter. Your children are not companion for old age. Your children will grow up, they will marry, what next for you? They may even abandon you after all the care.
Moreover, why do we always absolve the men of the responsibility of being a father because marriage didn't work out? We are indirectly making our men irresponsible. Whenever a woman leaves a marriage because she wants when the man is chasing after the children, the man will chase after her too or they use the children for pawn game, she will take all her children. Some men notice and abandon them and the children. If you had left those children with him, he would think twice before he will remarry. He will check if the woman will be a good mother.
You can also hand over three and keep one. If you train those children alone, you are training them for their father. If they are boys, when they become men and marry, you will find no succor in them because if you try, the wife will become jealous and call you a divorcee that wants to spoil their marriage.
Give them to their father. Get a job, empower yourself, heal from the inside, find a recreational activity, have a nice custody arrangement with their father so they can visit you when they are free. Send monthly allowance to their account. If they are grown a bit, they have your number.
Most widows have family members training their kids.
If you train those kids alone, your bitterness level will rise to 100. You will snap at every little thing they do because of the pressure of taking care of them, you will curse your children's father in their presence.
KING XOXO MYSTERY
I pity people who are raising kids thinking they will be a form of insurance for them in old age,what if they get married and abandon you,not all parents enjoy their kids.better save for your old age,this is for people who have been commenting
DeleteWomen! Please when your husband move, pack up and MOVE WITH HIM!!!!!!
ReplyDeleteA man that will leave,will definitely leave,many broken marriages are partners who live together
DeleteTo train four children alone is going to be hard, physically and emotionally. A lot of people will tell you don't do it but my advise is, if you do not have a good support system that will be there always, maybe grown up nannies to take care of them, then hand them over to their father. Nannies are not enough.
ReplyDeleteImagine you close from work 6.00pm,how do you give them enough time before the day breaks and you are off to work again? Your ex is also their father and not every man will watch their wife maltreat their child and it is not every step mother that is bad.
I know you are pained but be reasonable. You also need to be loved too. A lot of people will tell us how their mother never remarried and dedicated their lives training them but have you asked those women what their regrets are? That is selfishness. We are told in Africa to bury our sexual urges, slave till old age but my dear, you deserve to find love too, you deserve to have someone all over you or you will end up bitter. Your children are not companion for old age. Your children will grow up, they will marry, what next for you? They may even abandon you after all the care.
Moreover, why do we always absolve the men of the responsibility of being a father because marriage didn't work out? We are indirectly making our men irresponsible. Whenever a woman leaves a marriage because she wants when the man is chasing after the children, the man will chase after her too or they use the children for pawn game, she will take all her children. Some men notice and abandon them and the children. If you had left those children with him, he would think twice before he will remarry. He will check if the woman will be a good mother.
You can also hand over three and keep one. If you train those children alone, you are training them for their father. If they are boys, when they become men and marry, you will find no succor in them because if you try, the wife will become jealous and call you a divorcee that wants to spoil their marriage.
Give them to their father. Get a job, empower yourself, heal from the inside, find a recreational activity, have a nice custody arrangement with their father so they can visit you when they are free. Send monthly allowance to their account. If they are grown a bit, they have your number.
Most widows have family members training their kids.
If you train those kids alone, your bitterness level will rise to 100. You will snap at every little thing they do because of the pressure of taking care of them, you will curse your children's father in their presence.
KING XOXO MYSTERY
Don't give them up. You will regret it. Involve the families and authority. Find something to do no matter how little. Move out of that house cos he knows the place. Hold your children tightly. You guys will survive, trust God, He will make a way.
ReplyDeleteIt is easy to say, you can do it, what is there in taking care of four children, get a job, do this, do that. People are being more emotional than practical. My dear, it is not going to be easy at all. It is going to take the special grace of God for you to do all that and still be sane.
ReplyDeleteIf you do not know God, it will get to a point, you would almost sleep with a man to get peanuts to feed those children. Imagine if two of them are sick at the same time at night, how would you do it? At the end of the day, what is the use of keeping them away from their father if you may have to sleep around to feed them?
You are favoured because the father is interested in taking care of them, take advantage of that sharply. Keep every sentiment aside. What is best for the children is to stay with their father because he is more stable and has a job. You can send three and keep one or send all.
People are going to tell you, is it because of a man that you want to abandon your children? But at night, they will cuddle beside their husband. They will ask you, is it because of sex you want to abandon your kids? At night, they will fuck their husband and fuck an additional person. When you became a divorced woman, you operate on your terms.
It is better for the children to stay with their father for now. Get empowered, get a job, build your capacity. Use that opportunity to come back stronger and better. If you also find companion at that time, good for you because you deserve that. Always keep in touch constantly with your children. Send money to them, let them visit you or you visit. If you happen to see a rich man, lock him down fast whether as a first wife or second wife or third wife but make sure you are the apple of his eyes, you have checked his health status and you are the only current wife, then save and invest for your children. Do not be sentimental about it (the girls on this blog are ready to marry twice divorced man, they will defend it and say the ex-wives were mean).
Just because your husband left you, it does not mean you should retire. You deserve to be loved and fucked. You deserve some one to hold you and caress you but that is not your priority now. Your priority is to get to know God, get empowered and all other things will fall in place. Remember, whoever you deal with in future, check their health status.
Do not follow the line of some people that started tying scarf, tying wrapper until the years passed them while they are waiting for karma to locate the second wife, it will be a long lonely wait.
Most single mothers that are forming super women and are taking care of all their children alone and with bitterness disguised as love, watch their desperation. They are always very desperate, they see every man as a father figure for their children and they do not scrutinize marriage proposals before marrying again. Some end up experiencing heartbreak again. After several heartbreaks, they retire to curse the father of their children and make life unbearable for the children that are with them.
KING XOXO MYSTERY
What Is yOur advice tO widows with 8kids ?
DeleteDon't you ever come here to write any rubbish chronicle again. Stupid and insane woman. You think we don't reason here? Or you think we are sick like your olosho friends. Better give the man his children and stop giving us a one sided story. After you have finished fucking around with a man that isn't married to you with your blocked brain you sat at home for years doing nothing you come here to ask for advice? You must be mad in fact you are mad. Aimless, shameless women.
ReplyDeleteIf you hand over your children can you collect them back when you have stabilized? If your ex-husband is reasonable and understands the value of children being with their mother's then go ahead. If no, I would suggest taking your children to a relation or your parents to stay for the meantime while you hustle to get back on your feet. I would suggest you start the court process sooner rather than later. I was wondering why the entire family did not relocate when he was transferred?
ReplyDeleteMy beloved sister, I understand your pains. What took your hhusband away at the same time want to take your children away worth being confronted . The advice of anonymous of 2 March 2017 at 18:46pm is the best step to take. Bring in your family
ReplyDeleteInto this matter .Get closer to God,in Victory is on your sid.