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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
FIGHTING TEMPTATION
Hello Stella and bv's. I don't know where this post fits in but I trust Stella to sort that out for me (maybe Chronicles). Please darling bvs, I want you all to knock some sense into me as am afraid I'm about to take a step I may forever regret.
I am tempted to have s3x with my EX.
I am married and presently live in Lagos, he is also married and resides in the Eastern part of Nigeria. We met in 2013 in the East, I was working there then. As at when we met he had a girlfriend that stays in Lagos I also had a boyfriend that resides in Lagos.
Anyways, two lonely people met, fell in love and started dating. We both acknowledged that we have serious relationships in Lagos and we know our boundaries for instance, if his girlfriend calls while I'm with him I usually excuse myself, he also gives me space whenever my boyfriend calls. Note that two months before we met he had already done introduction with his girlfriend.
Truth be said, we love each other to a fault, most times we wonder why our paths didn't cross early enough. There was a day he asked if I can drop my boyfriend if he decides to drop his girlfriend so we can be together forever? My answer was No because I don't want him breaking the girls heart just as I can't afford to break my guy's heart.
We waxed strong together, he made my stay in the East memorable, vice versa. Fast forward to about 11months after (abi na Later) he got married to his sweetheart. She left Lagos and moved down to the east to be with her man.
Waawu! I had to back out, it wasn't easy but we stopped seeing each other although we kept in touch via social media. As luck would have it I got a new job, moved to Lagos and got married to hubby few months after. I and hubby started good until he lost his job and invested the money he has in a business, People say "business is bae" but trust me my dears "not all business is bae". Imagine the poor man going to shop from Monday-Saturday and not being able to boast of 2500naira profit at the end of the week.
Hmmmm!!! I was working and assisting at some point until naija economy strikes its heavy blow. Things sha got from bad to worse on the home front but let me not elongate on that.
In 2015 while I was few months pregnant my ex-boyfriend came to Lagos, we communicated and met face-to-face. The pregnancy wasn't showing much as at then, he begged and begged that we have sex, I told him NO that I was pregnant. He persuaded until I almost gave in but No I can't allow another mans sperm mix up with my innocent baby's growth. What did he not promise me that day if I just allow him one round of sex, money including a good phone which I have always wanted but my people na still NOooooo (did I mention he is very comfortable?)
In 2015 while I was few months pregnant my ex-boyfriend came to Lagos, we communicated and met face-to-face. The pregnancy wasn't showing much as at then, he begged and begged that we have sex, I told him NO that I was pregnant. He persuaded until I almost gave in but No I can't allow another mans sperm mix up with my innocent baby's growth. What did he not promise me that day if I just allow him one round of sex, money including a good phone which I have always wanted but my people na still NOooooo (did I mention he is very comfortable?)
My present problem is that he is coming to Lagos soon again and has asked that we hook up. I don't mind meeting him but my greatest fear is will I be able to hold back if he initiates sex? Will love for money and materialism not make me open my cookie jar? I am not holy but i kinda respect marriage vows. However, a strong part of me tells me one reason I was able to keep my integrity the last time we met was cause I was pregnant. BV's I strongly don't trust myself this time around cause the cash i will get is needed to keep body and soul alive.
("Money go finish, conscience go remain" is what I want my thick skull to understand)
Stella did I mention that the day I was fortunate to load 1k shoki on the blog I sold it through transfer to a neighbour and used it to buy baby food for minimee. Hmm!! Let me just not go into details concerning how we feed sometimes.
Stella did I mention that the day I was fortunate to load 1k shoki on the blog I sold it through transfer to a neighbour and used it to buy baby food for minimee. Hmm!! Let me just not go into details concerning how we feed sometimes.
I am very certain of one thing though, if I sleep with this ex boyfriend of mine I will forever regret it (imagine 10minutes or at most 20minutes enjoyment compared to my peace of mind forever) So please fellow bv's, kindly knock some sense into my head through your comments. I am sure some of you will abuse me, some will praise me, some will advice/encourage me and just maybe some will say I should go ahead and have sex with him thereby using what I have to get what I want, In all of these I am certain one or two persons will say something that will make/help me think and think again until I resort to do what's right.
So please again darling bvs, HELP SAVE ME FROM ME. Don't forget to abuse me where necessary ( I am tempted to the point that just this afternoon I brought out one new pink pant I have, wore it and was wondering if my ex-boyfriend will find it sexy enough. Chai!! See my life!! Covers face!!! Sadly, Money is the root of all evil.
Help a sister, don't hold back on the curse/abuse so it will keep ringing in my head in case I plan to carry on with this adultery.
Kindly pardon my typo and bad English, remember I'm imperfect.
Please get a hold on yourself, haba!
ReplyDeleteIt's a pity what this blog has been reduced to! People now seeking validation to open totoh when still in marriage. Shame, SHAME SSSHHHHHHAAAAAAMMMMMMEEEEEEE
DeleteBia this okafor law people don deh send chronicles NI?! Una leave us abeg
DeleteIn as much as I love the way you are being honest especially with the new pink pant😜
DeleteI will advice you to drink deep or taste not,that's how adultery is...if you feel you you can't go all the way just don't start, cos immediately you do you can't pull the leash on it....trust me I'm talking from hearsay and experience.
Poster oya clap for your self!! From all indications during the time of your close 'relationship' with the 'friend' your present hubby was not aware even after you got married. I think you are just very selfish, you want to eat your cake and have it, which is highly impossible. Do you think all marriages are smooth? The 'friend' is comfortable today, might not be tomorrow, would you then open your leg and buy another pink panties for another 'friend' to get you a better phone? Think of your husband and child who are oblivious to all these. Your husband is working hard for both you and the child. He asked for sex the first time and you didn't give in, common sense didn't tell you to cut off all forms of contact with him? Is it till fire burn you before you would know its hot? I pray you receive sense soon enough before something happens ooo!!
DeleteLater y'all be clamouring, respect women respect women, but how can? With daft stunts like this!
DeleteThank God for SM, now we all dey see am say e dey exist korokoro kampe.
Shocking sluts
Plz nne don't do it. If he cares he would assist u without asking for anything in return. This phase of life shall pass & all will b great again.
DeleteHey poster, I Dnt even know where to start from, what is the problem exactly 😕
DeleteAre you looking for money or you want sex, becos sincerely you sound alot more confused than you think...
The only reason this guy is sweeting you is bcos you guys r not 2gether and besides you should b grateful you dodged a bullet, a marries man that is still looking for sex outside or do you think it's becos it's you, or that he hasn't broken his marital vows b4... Sweetie no condition is permanent cos as for your husband his situation will change sooner or later, just trust in God and pray
Look at it this way, if you married him you would have married a very unfaithful man. He was engaged and had no problem having sex with you. There is nothing special about you, he just likes to fuck around. The highest level of disrespect and lack of control this guy has is to push you to fuck him while pregnant. Will he survive such if his wife did that to him? Pls block this guy. He has no limits, lack respect and is sexually perverted. He's doing this with you and many others. You may be poor, if he really cared for you he will give you money for free without demanding anything in return. This guy will fuck you and infect you with something. You may be poor o, but you all have good health and peace of mind. Your husband is not treating you bad. Don't use your hand to allow the devil cause more problems in your life. This is a temporary situation. Things will get better. Hold on to God. If you want to ask your ex for money, do that. But if he begs for sex, blast him and block him for your own good. It's never a good thing when someone tries to bend your will against doing what is right. They are not good people and will never be!
DeleteYou just read my mind
DeleteD prob ive is u dont seem to see how wicked, evil n manipulation this ur so-called EX is.
DeleteIf u were dat close b4 both of u seperated n got married 2 ur spouses im sure he should b able 2 help u finacially withput asking 4 sex.
2ndly, if hes not evil ask him if his wife slept wit her EX hw would he feel?.
My dear, u aint just tempted 2 sex him 4 d money but like him ure still in d habit of enjoying wats stolen.
My advice? None. Cos quiet frankly as Im typing, ure online with him. So carry go but always remember what they say abt sleeping with d devil.
Nice!!!! I like ur comment
DeleteA man whom u claim loves u wants to sleep with you despite ur pregnancy to give u phone and money.is that one love?I don't need that love .ur mama for use u do abortion bcis u no be pikin.
DeleteMy dear go and watch that Tyler Perry movie... Of the woman that carry AIDs ahbi HIV when she slept with the rich man that was tempting her sweet sweet.... Ahhhhhh God!!!! Somethings I read on this blog makes me scared of people honestly ...you even brought out pink pant... You are a slut and a useless woman I swear. If anybody likes come and cuss me out, nonsense
DeleteIf I am to speak my mind honestly...it will come out as rude or an insult,so am just gonna wait for queen and boss comment😁😁
ReplyDeleteQueen and Boss will tell her to go and get laid. Trust me.
DeleteShe said she doesn't mind the insult na...go ahead
DeleteIn other words....
DeleteSee format,ijust love this blog, don't worry poster, your helper will locate you immediately, isn't that why you sent this crap? Oh wait! You wanna deny it,oh plsjust shussh, don't worry, because of this my harsh truth, your helper has been touched to do something. Just wait for stella's RE, it's coming.
DeleteEeeyahh!!
ReplyDeleteI kinda feel sorry for you, but then again, you know what is right and you know that you'll forever regret this.
Isn't it enough that you cheated on your now husband for months? How would you feel if the tables were turned and you found out?
Then again, after the sex, that's it. No commitment, nothing. So, why would you want to? In exchange for money?
You're someone's wife and mother; not a whore. If you know that you'd give in, then look for an excuse when he comes.
May you find lots of dignity and self control in this trying time. Moreover, you're not the only married woman having financial difficulties. And they've not all gone against the vows they took before God. I'm tired of writing, mbok.
Just know that it'll never be worth it ; not even for all the money in the world.
#WhiteDiamondOut
Nne please just hold on to GOD. He knows and sees every thing. Learn to pray for your husband and his business at midnight. You can start midnight prayer today and see what happens in your husband's business this week. Don't sell your body because of money,you will live to regret it all your life. Believe me dear,midnight prayers can work wonders.
DeleteIs it money you want or you're sex starved? One minute you're selling recharge card to buy baby food and the next you are picking pink pant to seduce another married man.
ReplyDeleteYou should cut all communications with this man. According to you he was there before you married your husband yet you both didn't end up as man and wife.
Instead of you to think of ways that you and your family will make more money. You're busy letting the thought of an unfortunate man fill your head. Is he dangle? How much does he want to give you to take care of your money situation permanently or will you keep offering him your body for every 5k and 10k he wants to give you?
Anyway, it's your body but remember and like you said that 10mins of fun can cause 10 years of sorrow.
All she wants is help... I understand her.. job for her husband n her or little cash...
DeleteCorrect.
DeleteU sold 1k recharge card to buy baby food. Yet you have money to recharge ur phone for data... lie well oo.
DeleteLemme use my church mind and advise you...
ReplyDeleteDon't do it!...
Unless he is going to drop like $20k!,..
If you want to cheat on your husband,the money should be worth it!...
Chop better frog!..not someone that will drop a chicken change to you!...
If you chop a better frog,you won't feel guilty at all!...
Good luck!..
Babe! U make sense jooor! It shud be worth it.no be change.
DeleteI'm surprised at this your comment.
DeleteWell, in response to this irresponsible comment coming from this daft hag, lemme just add that “all die na die"! Definitely he doesn't have that much money otherwise he won't be going for a broke ex when nollywood actresses full there remain, so he ain't worth it.
DeleteSecondly, I hope say this quack queen* of the coast of this blog don't drag cheating/treacherous men through the mud because all she knows how to do best is blab rubbish against one gender.
Thirdly/lastly, should in case I am wrong and he can afford your cheap totoh, then remember to give him his cut/℅ now and forever; this last point applies to all scandalous wandering thots. Thanks for your time.
20k....u not serious,what wil that do?
DeleteExactly. Poster follow this advice. Don't mind these people. When u come here to beg for assistance the same idiots will still call u a 'whiteberry'. Get money and set urself up. Simple.
DeleteI support you... Who poverty help!!!
DeleteThe Queen has spoken!☺☺☺
DeleteLooool....u nailed it jor...
Delete😂😂😂😂😂 queen ooooh! !
DeleteQueen queen... na u biko ooo
DeleteMy blog boo b killing it 😂😂😂😂😂
DeleteI was just looking out for ur comments. That's is why I say u are so real.
DeletePoster, don't do it.
I bet he wont gv her more than 20k plus a promise 2 see her wen next hes in town.
DeleteAsslickers
DeleteJust know that your ex didn't love you in the first place cos if he did,why will he assist you only when you give him cookies .he is not even worthy to be called your friend.if you know your conscience will disturb you why thinking about it in the first place?cut off all connections with him
ReplyDeleteThank u. D guy isnt worth it.
DeleteMadam you already know the route you want to take is bad, but I don't know why you brought it here.
ReplyDeleteYou will sure get all the answers you are looking for.
From me to you.....don't do it, because I doubt if you will remember condom as e dey do you so.
Poster, First let me say this, money is NOT the root of all evil. It is the LOVE of it.
DeleteBut in this case I believe it's not just d money that is luring u to have sex with ur ex, it’s ur past. Both of u in d beginning wove a cycle of destruction and that cycle still continues.
How can u get over it when u both will dare have sex with each other knowing full well that u both had fiances?
So poster, it’s not just abt d money it's abt ur emotions. If u slept with him at that time, u will sleep wd him again cos I don't think u even have any remorse for what u did.
If u have any bit of conscience, this is the time to break off from this demonic relationship. Put urself in ur husband's shoes, how would u feel? How would u feel if u were this man's wife?
Even in marriage, do unto ur spouse what u want ur spouse to do unto u stil holds. Not only will ur action have physical consequences, what abt d spiritual?
Until u see d wrong in what u did in the past and what u are abt to do now, u are beyond help. No one can help u but u.
U are d one who needs to see d wrong in all of this.
U are d one who ought to be remorseful abt d seeds u sowed in d past. Are u?
U are d one who have to deliberately break every communication with this man. Tell him enough is enough.
U are d one who ought to get angry abt dis whole situation.
Wake up!U are making things worse by sleeping with this man. Grow a conscience. Repent and turn to God. The seeds u sowed in d past always will come back to haunt u.
This is time to do something right in ur relationship.
Mitchelleobatu.blogspot.com
She knows the answer to all her questions. Turn your energy into praying for your husband's success. Flee from satan
DeleteIf things were tight for you and your husband why did you rush into marriage? I think you should use what you have to get what you want. Even if you want to sleep with your ex, make sure he gives you PLENTY money, make sure you fuck him so well that he keeps coming back for more and the $$$ will never run dry. Don't go and fuck for 20k and come and be crying.
ReplyDeleteDid u read at all. They were finacially ok until things got bad.
DeleteNo amount of money is worth her peace.
The devil is knocking on your door my dear..please DON'T open..
ReplyDeleteSo you don't even trust ur own self.asked yourself where you brought up this way? Sorry to say does your mother cheated on ur own father and if no asked itself why would my own be different. Then asked itself again where is our faith? Don't you believe in miracles? Don't cheat on ur husband, have faith in God things will change for the better and pls forget what the society has turn into what you are about to do its a sin before God and what if you both are stuck on each other in the process,think about the shame and what about if trumpet sounds when with him, will you make heaven? My sister think about all this things, I know hunger and poverty is what is giving you such thinking,let me stop here because I have my own problem as well but don't ever do it.
ReplyDeleteMadam whiteberry, tuale.
DeleteYou are very stupid@ white berry!
DeleteSo you sabi give advice like this naim you no give yourself sense before stealing people's hard earned currency? Thief-thief onyeoshi! Abeg carry your advice look bush. Yes, nobody holy pass but na woman wey carry bele naim dey fuck.
DeleteRip english😭😭😭
DeleteEnglish has suffered!!!
Deletewhite Berry, English plsssss.
DeleteWhiteberry pls na, save us... kukuma speak pidgin... what is dis.. my eye don dey pain me
DeleteI love this blog.
DeleteSupu bekee LMAO, bekee Wu agbara.
DeleteEnglish - suffering in whiteberry's hand since 1503.
Green field ( Av forgotten my google password) and can't log in agin, please how do I go back to my account. Will appreciate assisitance to log back in. Don't wanna remain anonymous biko.
Woman bring out a razor blade use it and tear your Toto into three parts and the urge will stop.Nonsense.
ReplyDeleteChoiii abeg kokonu...u do d same tyn 2 ur d**k...
Deleteawkward comment...
Delete#mazamazaboy
on't do it period. Because if you try it you'll regret it since your conscience pricks you. Just cut all ties with this guy.
ReplyDeleteHmmmm, just remember God in everything you do. HE is the one you should be concerned about not your fellow human.
ReplyDeleteEya. I won't abuse. For ur peace of mind don't see ur EX. He can always help u without d sex part/seeing. I don't see luv here but Lust and obsession. Pls dnt see Him. If he really luvs U a bit, he will respect U and his wife. Helping someone should not come with terms and condition.
ReplyDeleteYou can only save yourself from yourself.
ReplyDeleteTruth is u will fuck this guy n you think he'll give you 1million?
He won't give u upto 500k, you wan bet? Lol!
She will even fuck him for free and pay her molue transport fee to and fro sef. Make we bet! lol
Delete😂😂😂😂 seconded. She will join the long list of married hoes. Oshisco
DeleteHummmmmm busy day....will be back to read comments
ReplyDeleteIf you feel you will sleep with him when he comes around then don't go to him. Make up excuses until he leaves town.
ReplyDeleteMeanwhile you mean he can't help you without sleeping with you? That says alot about how he holds you in his mind. Don't do something you will beat yourself up for later. A good name is better than anything.
My thoughts exactly. A good friend will assist you without compromising your values. Just thank God you didn't marry that selfish prick. Because for him to have the guts to even ask for sex he's not a friend but an opportunist. Be there wearing paent and imagining. Devil don dey hit kom-kom for your head. How much him wan give you? 100K or 1m? Don't people give that to others freely? Go and heap wahala on your head. Afterall I'm talking from my own experience. Abi?
DeleteYou know it is wrong to sleep with him because you are married so stick to what is right before God and man even within your own conscience. If you love God don't kill what is left of your conscience between wrong and right to avoid self destruction. The lord will visit your home and finance too.
ReplyDeleteYour case will be different. Resist the is devil and he will flew from you.
Hmmm.... Dis na confirm okafor's law.
ReplyDeleteAll them hoeloshes plenty full this blog yakpa. We dey come across them for snm wella. That's why every man should strive to marry a virgin. Wasted rundown cunts with no friction everywhere.
DeleteWhat's this for God's sake?
ReplyDeleteYou know you shouldn't go
Na money wan make u go sha
Money is the root of all evil
May God provide for you and your husband.
There's always light at the end of the tunnel. Just hold on,its a phase that will soon pass
Be strong and tell your ex you don't want to meet up o
Stop cheating pls
If it were to be your husband sneaking around with his ex,aw will you feel?
Why go see him mofo? U so silly, HOE!!!
ReplyDeleteWhere is Mr James sef? My glorious Godfather, I miss him so much. Since Stella cautioned him as a result of her wailing wailers indictments, I haven't seen his comments. Please come back Mr Peacemaker,we love and miss you, in fact we need you to give all these whores the sense they so desire.
DeleteYou already know you will sleep with him when you meet, so why entertain the visit?
ReplyDeleteTo keep your sanity and home, bar his line from calling you ASAP.
You go still do am sef, why I dey bother advice you?
BVs advice me please..
I bought a phone from KOnga and it e never reach one month come dey get plenty problem, from battery to other issues
Now e no gree on again....abeg what should your girl do?
I bought it cos I loved my colleagues own, now both of them done kaput...
What can I do please?
Take it to the Lord in prayer 😂
Deletedear poster I dnt wnt to insult u cos I believe u hvba lot going on in ur mind already but I jst hv one tin to tell u . fight against dis with everything u hv got and wen u suceed u wil feel free, strong and ready to face and deal with life as a better person cos I believe if u cn fight dis den u can fight against anything lyf throws ur way cheers nd hv a fun filled day
ReplyDeletePls gimme ur exboyfriends number poster. Since he doesn't mind doing married women. I need money to keep my family afloat. Life is hard enough as it is.
DeleteAwww so sorry
DeleteBut then can't this guy help you with a lil cash to start something without sleeping with you?
I guess you also want the sex that's why you haven't seen it from this perspective.
Poster I type short and simple advises please so far your conscience will kill you after don't if possible doge him please don't see him Owk
DeleteAnonymous 15:48 hmm u are funny, wait u might get it
DeleteMadam poster I have a question for you. Why are you still talking to your ex?
DeleteSecondly imagine being discovered and thrown out of your home in disgrace. In addition to all your problems. And if you really had problems, you won't have any nice pant to be trying on. Hisssssss
Hmmmm! I like you poster, at least you are sincere.
ReplyDeleteHe asked you to leave your boyfriend then and marry him and you refused,if you can refuse him then, you can also refuse whatever stupid advance he is making at you now.
That ex of yours is not a nice person,he knows you are passing through hard times and he wants to capitalize on that to take advantage of you.
No matter how hard you are tempted to see him, DON'T!DON'T!DON'T see him.Don't give the devil chance to enter into your marriage.
If you give in to him because of material things,don't forget that the financial assistance he will give will never be enough to foot your bills.
A wise woman builds her home,don't destroy yours.
God will make a way.
What stupid to Ex....infact stop communication with the evil man cos if he really liked you he can help you without tempting you. Imagine begging another mans wife when u have your own
DeleteHmmmm true talk
DeleteYes o,you will sleep with him and think he will give you one correct,but you will be shocked he will give you stupid money,you won't be able to challenge him.it will hurt when,you will wish you never opened the cookie for him,you will regret it so much and maybe hate him sef afterwards.you can save yourself from al these emotions by just blocking him,an ex that knows what you are passing through and is taking advantage of your situation by asking for your cookie doesn't care about you,he is selfish and a user,Flee from him. If he was a good person he will help you without asking for anything in return. Don't make hunger put you in a position where the thought of the "act" will haunt you for as long as possible. God will send an helper your way. It is well dear
DeleteVery useless man. That's no miracle madam. A miracle is when someone helps you without demanding anything in return. And it's very very possible. Don't compromise. Else you will become a married hoe.
DeleteU don't have money to feed but u have new pink pant. I can't save u from u, only u can save urself. All I can say is don't start what u can't finish. I don't see a reason why u should meet up with ur ex in d first place. Marriage is a sacred institution.
ReplyDeleteMy dear,if you don't trust yourself enough to be alone with your ex,can u not show up at all?act as if u never met him,I have a sec school love whom up until now I just can't afford to be alone with him in d room no matter how spiritual I have become so I don't lie to myself, I simply disappoint him whenever we re to meet,plus he gave me my first kiss,and I haven't gotten over him till now.so its very dangerous to go see that ex u so much connect with,forget the fact that hubby is going through financial difficulty now,if u add adultery to it,you will kill his finance totally,trust God,I know things are hard,but He always come through some how. All the best.
DeleteI know the feeling. I still have palpitations and feel lightheaded when I see my ex. I will never be in the same room alone with him, more than 10 years after our relationship ended.
DeletePoster it's not about the money you actually want to get laid by your ex You enjoyed the secret relationship you had then. Do not go and see him cause he will get you laid and you will not even get money or get something not meaningful at the end of the day.
ReplyDeleteEventually you will never forgive yourself and you might end up sleeping around with other guys with the excuse that your husband is broke.
When people say they are broke it surprises me though. Can you not package yourself go to various stores and offer to sell goods and earn commission's. We are lazy in this part of the world and we only build mansions in the air. Please wake your husband up to go hustle. Don't be looking for fuck to get change. Register with real estates and use your social media handle to get real deals amongst others.
My dear...also add contentment..we just so greedy and lazy here...in othet places.. You see a married happy family doing well...wife maid and husband mechanic..and they are happy and doing well..but here..we want to work in oil companies..drive big jeeps and yes...quickly give into sex with the excuse things are hard..am so ashamed for women...poster you getting me upset...where us your pride? Okay...fine...after sleeping with him what next?or you planned sleeping with all tom and dick for your daily survival?...finally women are so cheap....now i know why things are just this way....am so angry now...poster better dont..it could be a test for your breakthrough you never can tell..am sure you are a christian..
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U think its that easy? People be giving advice they can't use. If we check well u r not married or even close to her situation. Shut up. Wake ur husband up to go and hustle. If he get to a dead end and starts robbing or become another vampire u ll still judge. Do u know how much d guy has hustled?shut up again. Stop judging till u walk a mile in people's shoes. Idiot.
DeleteAnnon 1552 why so much frustration. Well if you must know am very much married with 2 beautiful kids to show for it. Guess what I work with a multinational and my husband works with the nos 1 IT firm in Nigeria. We earn above half a million monthly but guess what I do not rely on that kinda money. I sell all sort of drinks despite the fact that I work. My husband does PP jobs especially on weekends despite the fact that he works. Together we hustle round to continually provide for the family and help people. I am not even 30 and my husband is less than 35. That said combined with business we earn nothing less than 1.2 million montly after all expenditures.
DeleteI only gave you this brief so you don't belittle yourself. Nigerians are filled with excuses. It's not easy it's easy. Likes of Odetola get 2 heads! If you can't take simple advice continue sleeping why those younger than you are making it big in life. I even consider myself to still be poor despite all of this. Before I forget I have lost millions why trying to learn a business in the past but guess what I learnt my lessons with that experience and I moved on with life. Stop been silly.
By the way annon let me add this I started this business after I lost millions in a bad deal. We where going to use that money to deposit for a house in Lekki Gardens but then again stuff happened and we lost it all. From a millionaire (in my little mind) to a broke ass married woman with a child then (I had not even 50k in my account I was only dependent on our salaries then and you know what that means it you leave on the island "change"). What did we do. I approached some wholesale guys in Oke Arin market and got into a deal with them. I began to go to clubs in VI and Ikoyi and premium bars. Raised orders and filled KYC forms for them (Know your customers form) and once the wholesale guys confirm this I raise the order via phone calls and deliver to the customers. I will add atleast 5 to 10 percent of the cost of the spirit to the cost price and deliver with the only family car available. They give me like a 2 weeks post dated cheque in the name of the wholesale guy I pick from. Cheque clears. I get my commission everyone is happy. I just gave someone a free business advice. Try it and thank me later. Now i have people that work for me and despite the fact that we work I pay salaries. Never belittle yourself woman. Do not give in to money that will erode your conscience. Please wake your husband up and build your home. If the business is doing is not feasible why noy try something else. Don't fall into temptations. Yes sometimes is not easy but it's how you interprete your situation. I changed my situation with the help of God and my husband. The only motivation then was my daughter. I have successful exes and i am very HOT (not hyping) My parents are very comfortable but i had my husbands pride to protect so we just keep faking it. We sold 1 out of 2 cars to keep afloat . That's the same period my husband got a better job. Do not bring curse unto your family. I plead with you please. Leave whats in the past forever in the past. Do not let the Okafors law be your portion. Once again I am not saying all this to boast am only sharing my experience. I wish I can reach you and teach you something's. Don't be fooled by a man's offer to sleep with you.
DeleteAnon 17:08 &17:30- youre just my kind of woman! A woman who loves her pride too much to throw it to pearls. God bless your hustle and increase you and hubby. Xx
DeleteThe vagina is usually always a way out for most nigerian ladies.
DeleteI noticed something when men are married they always go back to their exes, Kehinde Raji the oshogbo dog, keep fooling yourself, I won't come back to u
ReplyDeleteIt is the fools,the selfish,the senseless and the greedy ones that goes back to their exes.
DeleteSeems u are angry and he married someone else. Pele Ex-Gf oshogbo dog
DeleteMy dear it has happened to so many married women,especially at a trying time like this. Mine was 2weeks ago, my maga came back from Bangkok,and wanted us to hook up as usual. Without knowing that am now a married woman (13weeks pregnant). I battled with my conscience for a very long time, I had less than 5k in my account but am sure if I meet this guy I will get nothing less than 50k from him. Just a night. Worst case is that hubby traveled that day
ReplyDeleteWhat did I do, I just politely told him that am now married. He was like when,how?? I explained every thing to him and he still insisted I come and tell him to his face. Ha, I told him I can't (because I know what's involved). After much pressure he hanged the phone on me probably waiting for me to call back. My dear I did not call and up till today he never called back. Are my still broke? Yes. Are my at peace with my self and God? YES YES YES!!
My darling the devil is a liar, forget about his promise and trust in God, He will never fail us.
God ll see us thru. Can't even start talking bout the sexual advances I get daily from ex and rich relatives all cos I need assistance. It takes d grace of God to stand firm. I m tired emotionally. Don't know how much longer I can hold out....* wipes tears*
DeleteYou are right, the temptation happens to so many of us, not necessarily only women. We come of it by holding on to our sacred vows. There's nothing normal about fornication talk less adultery. Hopeless Chronicle. Na so the other day one good wife asked Stella the big nose for tantric chair to take dey fuck her husband, and the blogger provoked. Today see the rubbish she dey put up without even giving proper advice herself. Mtcheeew
DeleteMay God bless and honour you.
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😂😂 my dear a man who can't dash you 50k is NOT a maga. He's not even close. Don't even classify him near a 10th grade maga. It's good you didn't go.
DeleteWawuuuu, after fucking he'll likely give you just 50K??? Is that for airtime or what???
DeleteThe problem is not about ur ex. It is about ur greed.
ReplyDeleteYour hubby is going thru difficult times and u feel opening ur pssy for ur ex and collecting money is the way out.
I pity ur children. Their wives too will cheat on them. Dnt spread curse to them.
Madam first know that that man is a married man. You will just attract more hardship to your husband. What you should be bother about and praying for is your husband and the future of your home and kids. E be like say e never done on you say na that marriage you go dey until death. You have left the substance and now chasing shadows. I just pity you. Believe me your contact and relationship with your ex now is just a pathway to destruction. You had better throw away empty emotions and face the reality of your life. Your husband is not doing well, that you should be worried about but all you can think is having sex with your ex. SEX!!! So that is your problem now? You better channel that energy to something that will pave long lasting way for your family. Na you wan regret at last o
DeleteYou are a thief.
ReplyDeleteHahahaha big thief my dear, I agree with you. Because using what you have to get what you want at any cost is the same as robbing people at gun point because you have a gun. You just can't serve 2 masters and you can't eat your cake and have it.
DeleteMiyake thanks for doing justice to this post. I admire you because you don't lick ass, always saying things the way it is. Correct guy.
DeleteMust you go and see him. Your ex should remain in your past that's why he is an ex for God sake. Why are you people still communicating. It's like your mind is even made up already. Goodluck in your adventures.
ReplyDeleteSin keeps us in poverty...especially sexual sins..my dear life is ful of challenge. Why not over come this..i feel if you can over come this then you are ready to overcome all life challenges and you can achieve all you want to achieve in life..dont give in..be strong..
ReplyDeleteSexual sin keeps us in poverty yet the olosho actresses fucking apostu up and down are smiling to d bank. I stand with Queen on this one. If he ll pay well close ur eyes and do it. Love never paid anyone's bills.
DeleteYour queen said if you want to eat a frog, eat big frog. And you bought it. Clap for your self and your mentor, what an inspiration she is. Remember say men dey cheat too. Funny enough, no where in the Chronicles did she discredit her husband. Meaning the man dey try na just say totoh dey scratch his Randy wife for external prick.
DeleteMay God save his children, Amen
Keep standing woth queen till your life go scatter. Most of you here are nothing but olosho including your queen of the coast.
DeleteI don't really blame you tho...
ReplyDeleteAs rickross said "ߎ墥en dead broke is the rule of all evilߎ墊Back to the topic
It ain't really a crime to fcuk hm cos u've done it b4.
My submission is hv sex wit hm, just to help ur kid... provided ur hubby doesn't kw shaa.
It's not a crime to commit adultery? No be crime but na sin. How you even typed the rubbish you typed is mind-boggling. Have sex with him to help her kid? That is not help...she's simply inviting curses into her life. Another woman's husband? Breaking a covenant made before God? You think it comes without consequences? I laugh! We see adultery like it means nothing;ignorance is not an excuse.
DeleteMadam poster, better tie your legs like mermaid, respect your marital vows, respect your husband and the fact that you are a mother, respect your self to! What happened to hustling yourself? Why limit yourself to your job is its not paying that much? What happened to doing something during the weekend to bring in more money? How much does he want to give you that is worth your peace of mind and dignity? 2 priceless things money can't buy. That ex does not like you not even love...if he can attach sex to giving a helping hand,the same helping hand people give on this blog running into millions without meeting the recipients face to face. Imagine demanding for sex whilst you were pregnant! He's a bastard.
I pray that you overcome this phase of life.
All i can say from this damn chronicle of yours is that....Whether we advise you or nay you will eventually go ahead and get your whorish pkekus get hit by your ex's rod...... Like you plainly said "( I am tempted to the point that just this afternoon I brought out one new pink pant I have, wore it and was wondering if my ex-boyfriend will find it sexy enough. Chai!! See my life!! Covers face!!! Sadly, Money is the root of all evil." like seriously???
ReplyDelete1st You brought out one new pink pant you have, wore it and wondering if your ex will find it sexy??? With that i put it to you that you got all this planned out, who knows whether na you initiate the hookup self
2nd "Money is the root of all evil" this happened to be the man reason for this whole shit, you wanna seduce him to get to fuck you so he can give you money in return. Do you know what that makes you??? A whore!!! You slutty scum
You've made the decision already, all you wanna hear is encouragement and for some bitches here to give you a justification on why you should go ahead with the premeditated act...
PS: Maami Stellaricious mama kindly post my comment because i know you might not want to due to my level of profanity, na the poster vex me jare..... Gracias!!
Sis let me tell you something, if this ex ever really and truly love you, he will help u even without u sleeping with him. Infact he won't even allow u do it. See open up to him about your situation maybe also you have also not told him what u are going Tru yet. Open up to him. DON'T DO IT, YOUR family is going to come out from this challenge very soon, just keep praying that's all. If you do it you will SINK THE MORE. take time to fast and pray and if possible don't meet him when he comes just explain your situation to him on the phone. Bless
ReplyDeleteIt is not even about the money the buffon still has strong feelings for her ex.The ex on the other hand is super evil.Heavens will come to my future boyfriend/husband's rescue if i ever find traces of their ex on them.
ReplyDeletePoster.You know your weaknesses, you also know your strength. Adultery is a one handle door.Once you open it,you would never be able to close it back. Yeah,you are broke & all.But trust me,it's not worth it.Walk away from that guy, same way you would walk away from a beautiful dress you saw in a shop, but all you had in your account was money for your baby food.It ain't worth it dear.
ReplyDeleteHoe! Hoe! Hoe alert.
ReplyDeleteWhat pains me in your narrative is that you choose to start whorism while being married to a good man.can't you seek for help else where? Must you tell your ex about the issue you have in your home. I just wish your husband catch you if you do it.
I don take notice of you today.
DeleteYou be better person.
No be only say wetin you talk na good thing,but the way you take talk am. Na real hoe alert; lol
Hummmm dear poster whatever you are going through now is a process to your breakthru so don't give in make God your confidant talk him, ask your self if such act will glorify God. Then make your decision
ReplyDeleteYou're just a cheap slut and an unworthy woman.
ReplyDeleteHope this resets your brain. I'm not I. The mood to cuss
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ReplyDeleteOkafors law at work..
ReplyDeleteCut off all forms of communication with him and don't make the mistake of going to see him when he is in Lagos. Focus on how to improve your family's finances before your baby comes. Do you intend to sleep with your ex whenever you need money?
ReplyDeleteAbi do you want to prove okafor's law right?
Poverty is a bastard!
ReplyDeleteEverything is not poverty's fault. Ashewo na bastard. Rich wives still share punany. Your mentality is flawed.
DeleteWhy do i have a feeling that even if you get help from this blog you will still go have that Hot Sex with Ex?
ReplyDeleteYour story is honest but your intentions are not genuine.
Don't do it!
Poster,i put it to you that you are going to sleep with that ex...and after sleeping...you will be more confused...broke and filled with regrets...while your ex will move on and feel satisfied.....
ReplyDeleteMadam simple DON'T go and see your ex. The money will finish and your conscience will not finish.
ReplyDeleteThat man doesn't love you one bit! Look at what he sees you as, a prostitute. If for anything cheat with somebody that thinks you are worth it and not a whore
ReplyDeleteEveryone is now a virtuos wife. Stella pls let's have another anonymous night post. Who are d adulterers? Even scummy ideato is calling someone a slut. Wonderful!
ReplyDeleteI am not in the mood to give advice to a stupid married olosho. Arik be pissing me off since morning. Been in the airport since 11 am. My bumbum hurts like hell.
ReplyDeleteHow do you even harbor the tots of meeting ya ex when you are married knowing fully well you stand the chance of getting gbenshed? well madam continue falling for temptation you hear.
*hangs leg on the wall*
Do whatever feels right. Your predicament is as a result of want. That baby of yours needs baby formular to grow healthy. Your had to sell the recharge card you got free to enable you buy food for your baby. One of the effects of malnutrition is stunted growth. Do whatever you have to provide nutritious and body-building food for your baby. I hate to give such a nasty piece of advice but if your boyfriend has the wherewithal to assist you with a substantial amount of money to set up a business, by all means, go ahead and do the deed. I'm against sexual promiscuity but one has to be pragmatic. Poverty is a disease. Once you get in, getting out is a herculean task. This is why I'm so scared about marriage; that someday, something is gonna go wrong and I won't be able to cater for my family. Tell hubby to rise up to the occasion and fulfill his obligation. Go for prayers. Your predicament could be a spiritual attack. You never can tell!
ReplyDeleteSo you want to go into this business transaction, having sex in exchange for money. Please don't go to see him at all, at the end of the day he will have more admiration and respect for you. You in turn will feel proud of yourself for not giving in.
ReplyDeleteNow to the other matter, what sort of friend is he that he cannot offer to get you a phone when he knows you need it and he also has the means to provide same, instead he wants your *******. My dear, he is NOT A FRIEND. I don't keep such kind of characters around me. At least your husband has a business you guyz should revive the business. You could also do some little trade from home that could get you something at the end of the day.
Do not put your hope in man.
Since he claims to love you can't he lend you some money
ReplyDeleteCan't he give you money without sleeping with you since you claimed you loved each other that much?...abi u were inlove with yoself?
ReplyDeletePut aboniki there, every urge will go. In 2 minutes, its works wonders
ReplyDeleteIt's obvious ur ex wasn't in love with u in the first place, cis if he was he won't withheld his help just cos u didn't sleep with him, he was using u when u guys were dating and intends to continue doing that, if only u can borrow urself a brain and resist him thus time around
ReplyDeleteI actually laughed when I got to the part you brought out a new pink pant.
ReplyDeletePoster it's simple, if you are sure you can't avoid fucking this guy then don't go to see him.
For the sake of Christ hanging on the cross, forget about this dangerous thought. Marriage is a covenant between your spouse,God and yourself. Respect your vows and cut off all ties with this ex. Lack of anything should not let you sell yourself cheap,dishonor your husband, place a curse on your child and destroy your marriage not forgetting disobedience to the Almighty creator. It may seem as a quick fix, enticing, guilty pleasure or just sex but it's prostitution point blank. The regret alone will cripple you mentally. Pray for your spouse, hard times are not forever, have patience and endure this times, it will pass. Keep your dignity and love your spouse. Pray for forgiveness for lusting after someone's husband, repent sincerely and keep your home in order. It's not easy but it's worth it.
ReplyDeleteDear poster, I'm not going to insult or judge you but I want you to know that this temptation you are facing will lead you to a greater glory if only you are able to overcome it. Now ask yourself if what you are about to do will glorify God, if your answer is NO, then don't do it. Why are you looking up to a man for help when you have a mouth to call on God to bless you and your hubby? Money isn't the root of all evil but the love of it. I really pray you will be strong enough to push this evil desire away.
ReplyDeleteYour ex is out to confirm that if he had married you you would have been cheating on him. He actually wants to have a reason to justify not marrying you and you are about to help him achieve this. Chai we women can be really stupid. We are the reason for our own tears and shame. Pls don't go near him again coz he won't give up till he succeeds. He doesn't love you at all at all trust me
ReplyDeleteMarried olosho alert.
ReplyDeleteOk
ReplyDeleteYou are here asking us jamb questions..... My friend block his number, block him from all your social media handles.
ReplyDeleteMadam ur ex neva loved you,coz no one will see who de love in need and not help..especially an ex u both once shared a bond
ReplyDelete#Faith is taking the first step even when you don't see the whole staircase*
ReplyDeleteCut all communications with him. 5 or even 1000mins of fun is not worth it👎...
ReplyDeleteThe birds of the air are taken care of not to talk of you, my dear God will provide for you. DONT DO IT.😒
Poster please be contented with what God has blessed you with. Mind your marriage.
ReplyDeleteMadam run and resist the devil,believe that everything will be alright.
ReplyDelete"THE LOVE OF MONEY is the root of all evil"; that's the correct quote.
ReplyDeleteIf you do not repent and discipline the flesh (fasting), you will succumb to this temptation. And what's the best way to avoid it one that day?
Do not go near where he is! Read Proverbs chapter 7 and reverse the roles then you'd see your case.
Stay completely away and do not take his calls; he means no good.
If the dalliance blows up as it will surely do, your marriage will blow up and his will not necessarily do.
Hello,poster.Pls, what's YOUR problem exactly?....is it that you're broke, confused, or you simply miss your ex?...I have just one word for you- You need deliverance!...
ReplyDeleteIf you're broke, cant you send stella a mail(or even bvs),concerning your plight,for them to assist you,even if it's to start a small business?...Dont you read other people's chronicles for you to learn from?..pls, receive a slap of sense!!!...So you think cheating on your hubby is your meal tickect, oya continue!....mtcheww!...Pls, go to MFM ASAP, ur case is on their no1 list.
Hello,poster.pls,is that you're broke, confused, or you just miss your ex?(thereby looking for an excuse to cheat).Cant you just mail Stella(or implore the bvs) to assist you with some cash to start something little?...Is this how little you value your hubby/marriage?...Pls, you need DELIVERANCE ASAP!...Go to MFM!...#side eyes#.
ReplyDeleteHello,poster.pls,is that you're broke, confused, or you just miss your ex?(thereby looking for an excuse to cheat).Cant you just mail Stella(or implore the bvs) to assist you with some cash to start something little?...Is this how little you value your hubby/marriage?...Pls, you need DELIVERANCE ASAP!...Go to MFM!...#side eyes#.
ReplyDelete@quen and boos:
ReplyDeleteHow can a "married church woman" be advising other married women to conscientiously commit adultery?
Remember that there is a God that judges the intent and attitudes of people's heart.
@WhiteBerry.. Are you trying out for villager's position?
ReplyDeletePoster... I can feel you, in fact, I had a similar situation a few days back. A married man that has been on my case invited me for an all expense paid boat cruise. I do not need his money (Thankfully, my job pays high 6figures) but I am unmarried and need some fun. I was sore tempted but I borrowed myself brains and decided to refrain from this wahala.
To answer you dear, the best way to avoid sin is to avoid the occasion of sin itself. You don't have to see him and even if you do, make sure it is in an open place.
Do not cheat on your husband to feed that same husband. He will never appreciate it. love you
But you're also contesting for villagers position...pot calling kettle black.
DeletePoster, I know how these things work. Don't see him, if you do my sister, he will get you laid and you will enjoy it but the guilt you will take to the grave. Don't be trapped in that guilty pleasure ish.
ReplyDeleteTell him what you are going through and see how he can assist you financially to start up a small business.
If he can't do that from afar, he is definitely not worth the stress.
Delete his number or block him from all your social media handles. And make sure you try as much as you can to forget about him.
Pray your husband into success and also think of something you can do to assist the family.
Look inward and you will find that thing you do without struggling. That's your gift. Groom it and think of ways which you can commercialize it.
Believe me you will be glad you didn't fall into this temptation.
I beg of you. Don't do it. You are married besides you never can tell how your hubby might find out and kick you out of your matrimonial home. Be wise and may God help you.
Poster please respect yourself and keep your Toto to yourself and husband. See you see troubled mind.
ReplyDeleteAll these married men and women will not save their spouses STD and respect their vows. Woman form your are busy and stop picking his calls bikonu. Make person hear for Una na..
Serious love nshi. You are on point Olivia silk.
ReplyDeleteRespect your husband and tell him shikina
Kehinde Raji,randy dog,dated him 2011 or so
ReplyDeletePoster don't even make the GREAT MISTAKE of telling your husband! He will never stop suspecting you, especially if things suddenly get better or he sees you with any little cash/new thing. I repeat YOU DO NOT TELL MEN SUCH THINGS!!
ReplyDelete"We communicated and met face to face"
ReplyDeleteThe communication wasn't bad enough you had to meet up to too and listen to him ask you for sex? Thirsty woman!!!
Some people are better off single. Since society won't let women be, expect more married hoes and tales as such. Silly woman!
MISS Jacobs.
My dear I feel your predicament but I hope you are not lusting after him meanwhile if your ex truly love you as you claim he will be glad to help you without giving you any condition. Please if he insist that he must sleep with you before giving you anything this time around tell him to his face that he is wicked and you regret ever coming in contact with him. Delete all his contacts and block him off. I know and I believe God will surely see you through.
ReplyDeleteTell him to send you money
ReplyDeleteHe's not a good man
How will he feel if som1 is poking is wife ?
You're certainly a cheat, a slut and a whore, coz that's the reason you are fuckin him in d first place
If you do it, you'll not be able to stop it and he will not be the only one
Its obvious you miss him aside from the money.
Run from him b4 u add more to your husband's problem
Its very simple!... Don't meet him since ure not sure of yourself.. Stay in your house
ReplyDeleteAll is well, God will help you.
ReplyDeleteYou're not FIGHTING temptation,you're FINDING temptation by still seeing & communicating with a married Ex when you're also married. I advise you to immediately commence a 7 day 6am to 3pm fast (with your husband if possible)and pray fervently for God to take control of your marriage and bless your marriage. Cut off all ties with your Ex and the Lord will reveal to you a way out of your financial quagmire. The Lord is at the door. Satan too is at the door. Who will you let in. Be rest assured that your decision will have generational consequences. May the Lord guide you.
ReplyDeletePlease don't give in. I know you are having it rough financially and economically, but it's better you don't meet with him cause if you do, you'll have sex with him after which you will most likely regret your actions which cannot be undone at that point. The fact that you're suffering right now doesn't mean you will continue suffering forever. I commend you for resisting the temptation to sleep with your ex thus far, at least you have some sense of morality. Avoid meeting him since you already know his agenda. If possible, sever all forms of communication with him because what you need to focus on right now is how to be a good wife to your husband and a good mother to your baby. A word is enuf for the wise. Don't do something you'll be ashamed of doing when you are exposed.
ReplyDeleteMy dear concentrate on your job. You are a help meet and may be God is testing your faith. So chill and have some respect for yourself.
ReplyDeletePlease don't do it...run very far from him.if he can't give you money witout you sleeping with him then he was never a good person from the get go. You should be happy sef that you didn't marry him...
ReplyDeleteOne thing I have observed in life is that,when your miracles is on the way you see strong temptation.please let hiM go.God can't be mocked, don't give in and you see what God has in plan for you n your family....Stay blessed
I hate these ex situations. May God not give me a spouse who's still tied to an ex coz the distrust, temptations and restlessness it brings in
ReplyDeleterelationships/marriage no be here.
Madam, you have heard all the advice. Just be sure that whatever action you take will have consequences, good or bad. Whatever seed you sow, you must reap. The choice between good and evil, right or wrong, life or death is in your hands.
Poster, please run away from your ex, if he loves you so much he would have wife you back then no matter the commitment and to think your family is having financial issue and all he can offer to you is sex, abeg that man is bad, i have a ex who came back of recent too and he started saying all sweet talk, fast fast i told him am married, because for four years i dated him he was not ready to wife me, so why coming back no, please dont allow the devil to use you, because if you do, hmmmmm your family will never remain the same again, detest such if he is true friend, he should be bothered about helping you not looking for sex, abeg pray and encourage your husband.
ReplyDeleteYou are a slut, a prostitute, ashawo, ololo, shameless miserable cunt. A man insults tour entire lineage past present and future by asking for sex while you're pregnant and you remain friends with him? He loves you but uses money & phone to lure you? You're an idiot. O hope your husband catches you Nd throws you out, miserable bitch whore!
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