On a recent post
many of you told us how your relationship with your best friend went sour and the former Best friends were the reason the relationship went south...Right?
What if the coin is flipped and you were the reason why the relationship went south? Most of us here too have once caused a once beautiful relationship go south..Right?
Take the blame for once!
What did you do to make that once sweet friendship with your friend go South?
What if the coin is flipped and you were the reason why the relationship went south? Most of us here too have once caused a once beautiful relationship go south..Right?
Take the blame for once!
What did you do to make that once sweet friendship with your friend go South?
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Aunty Stella have you heard anything on nnajis secret marriage again. Biko inquire. Thank you
DeleteLol...Hey Pipi.
DeleteI've messed up a friendship and I regret it everyday.We were so close back in Uni.We were always together,she always stood up for me,fought for me and always had my back,and I had hers as well.Her enemy automatically become my enemy...Lol. I wouldn't even ask who was at fault,all she had to do was tell me 'S,we are no longer friends with this person'and I'll be like 'ok' lol.Gosh,I miss her so much. We did lots of crazy stuff together, Whenever I caught her boyfriend cheating,he'll just be like,I know I'm finished cuz there's nothing I'll tell you that will make you not tell A.
I remember when they were having their usual fights and the foolish guy came to my house to complain about my friend,I just took him to a close by eatery,had a good meal on him,had take out for my friend ofcourse,and told him to go sort things out with his gf,he couldn't believe it...Lmao
She still calls once in a while,but I feel awkward picking her calls.Lots of things have happened and I know we can't be that close again.I MISS YOU SO MUCH A.
Reconnected with my primary school bestie on Facebook and chick is married with a kid now.Oh,good old days when we had no worries.
Hey Sass baby, good old days my dear.
Delete@ sassy u dodged the question o. U didn't tell us what u did
DeleteLemme read comments.
ReplyDeleteAll my besties are my besties until they get married.
DeleteOK, let me explain this one cuz I honestly dont know if I was at fault. My really close friend (let's call her chioma) told me about a guy she was kpanshing, she said it was strictly sex and they both agreed on no feelings involved, she told me the guy comes to her room in the evenings that when next he comes, she'll call me from my room to see him (we stay in same hostel, different rooms)
DeleteOk, as it happened, the guy came over and she called me; she introduced me to the guy as her friend. The guys first comment was wow! You're so beautiful, I said thanks and left.... (I dont really talk much when I meet someone for the first time)
After that day, the guy started coming to our hostel everyday, he'll drop by my room with chioma to say hello before he leaves... Until one day, he called my number. I was surprised and told chioma. She said maybe he took my number from her phone, that I should not worry prolly he wants to be my friend.
Everytime the guy (peter) called, I tell chioma. It became obvious that peter was interested in me because at first I was getting gifts with no name on it. Eventually he started leaving his name... Gifts that I and chioma shared together o. I called him and told him to stop that i wasnt interested, chioma was annoyed that i warned him o, She told me this guy never used to buy her even pure water that I should chop his money well and she doesn't care. She said she has no feelings whatsoever for him and I should make sure I *in her words "barb the guy head gorimapa*
It was our plan o, chop his head... We share the gift... Because I know he has been with chioma, I never let him touch me, no kisses or whatsoever (I have a thing against doing anything with my friends boyfriend or even ex... I'll just be imagining the both of them)
My excuse to him was I was taking my time and getting to know him.
This continued until one morning, one girl from my hostel called me and told me that chioma is not a goof friend, she said while I was away, chioma started gossiping me to everybody in the hostel of how I sleep around, how I follow married men, how I prostitute... In the girls voice *she don they do wetin oyinbo girls they do" the girl said if not that she knows I'm not that kind of person, she would have believed her. The girl told me to confront chioma and if chioma denies it I should come and call her and she will call everybody chioma told those nonsense too
Chai, I said thank you and left... That same day, another guy in the hostel called me and played a recording for me... It was the conversation chioma was having with them... The same talk the previous girl warned me about. This time, I heard every from the phone... I actually cried. Chioma was someone very close to me... I didn't expect that kind of lies... She even knew I was a virgin and she said it in the recording that "d girl think say I be Mimi, she dey form virgin"
I went to confront her calmly because I can't stand fight... This girl denied everything, she even started crying and said people in the hostel are trying to turn me against her. I didn't tell her I heard a record or anything... Neither did I tell her who told me... I borrowed myself sense and started staying away from her.
African Babie, when God wants to expose DEVILS,he uses the same Pple d devil backstabbed ur name to,you r not wrong, it's called inferiority complex, she cldnt stand u were chosen over her, she is a pretentious cow, if she was a good friend and wasn't jealous of ur beauty, she wld have told u HOHA, I dey cool with dude,pls hands off him! But ENVY, jealousy and low self esteem didn't let her, I trust she loves leading, feeling ontop all the time like a boss, so she cldnt take d complement others gave u in front of her! God exposed her real self to u, such Pple r not friends, if u have a bound holding u with such person, ie work, accommodation, transport or anything u guys do in common, withdraw gradually and observe(for anyone going tru this now) wen u r sure of an alternative, u can hit her u know about her back stabbing. I know this cos it happen to me,i already knew I was dinning with d devil herself, so Nne I used pure Anambra sense withdraw from d r/ship. Be careful of such Pple they go any mile to destroy names but who GOD don bless, no MAN can cause.
DeleteAfrican Babie, when God wants to expose DEVILS,he uses the same Pple d devil backstabbed ur name to,you r not wrong, it's called inferiority complex, she cldnt stand u were chosen over her, she is a pretentious cow, if she was a good friend and wasn't jealous of ur beauty, she wld have told u HOHA, I dey cool with dude,pls hands off him! But ENVY, jealousy and low self esteem didn't let her, I trust she loves leading, feeling ontop all the time like a boss, so she cldnt take d complement others gave u in front of her! God exposed her real self to u, such Pple r not friends, if u have a bound holding u with such person, ie work, accommodation, transport or anything u guys do in common, withdraw gradually and observe(for anyone going tru this now) wen u r sure of an alternative, u can hit her u know about her back stabbing. I know this cos it happen to me,i already knew I was dinning with d devil herself, so Nne I used pure Anambra sense withdraw from d r/ship. Be careful of such Pple they go any mile to destroy names but who GOD don bless, no MAN can cause.
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ReplyDeleteI told her to stop talking to me ! Lol
ReplyDeletei am a very short tempered person!
As u short so? Lol
DeleteI'm innocent,I've always been innocent. Stella trust me,adim alike trouble!
ReplyDeleteLol you? Fan u?
DeleteYes BB me. Every body on this blog will attest to it. #Shines teeth #
DeleteLol. Your comment just made me 😊 fan.
DeleteI supported the 9ja bill against LGBT my bestie who's rumored to be BI started fighting me na so our relationship finish till today ooh I miss her though☹️☹️ Maybe I should have been a little sensitive knowing she once was..! It's okay life goes on !
ReplyDeleteMy gossip talk turned two.friends against eachother.. But am now a.changed person sha and God has forgiven me..
ReplyDeleteLol.. Onye asiri
DeleteKikikikiki
DeleteI said it this girl is something else. Mtchhhhew
DeleteHere comes the juginas @God's favourite
DeleteAbeeg read and waka pass #roll_eyes
Hehehehe nothing do you
DeleteMy BFF had too many bff's and it got in our way. Me being me, I got tired and kept my distance. In end I let her go cos she doesn't like good news from me. If she is single, she wants me to remain single with her since friendship to her means we both share and feel same thing and way. If she finds out something new happens to me that is good, she will invest all her effort to undo it. She visited me once and stayed two months(showed me shege) I had to tell her to go away cos I can't Continue the friendship. Case close
ReplyDeleteAbeg read d headline well na
DeleteStory is long. We both contributed sha.
ReplyDeleteAbeg i no take any blame. My friend was forming too tush for my liking. So everybody done find their square root.
ReplyDeleteI dont understand why friends form for their own friend...😒😒😒
DeleteIve never had any BFF..😥😥😥 Is it just me? 😑😑😑
ReplyDeleteMaybe because better girls no de fed poly oko
DeleteMaybe. I don't know
DeleteIve never had any BFF..😥😥😥 Is it just me? 😑😑😑
ReplyDeleteMe too
DeleteBoyfriend called me a name so had to go our separate way.we are like strangers now,very painful
ReplyDeleteSeriously speaking I've never had a BFF. My siblings n parents have always been my best pals.
ReplyDeleteI lost contact yrs back with someone that would have been my BFF and she is now a Rev Sister. Guess the closeness is no longer there.
God bless you Sister Chidinma, you are a friend-turned-sister. Even though we were very young then, I still learnt a lot of virtues from you which is helping me in my everyday life.
My friends and I respect each other too much to provoke or offend ourselves deliberately. If in the course of disagreeing over something we realize that we just struck the wrong nerve,we quickly apologize and move on. I have never fallen out with any friend though we disagree on issues. Despite the distance when my girlies and I meet, we bond and gist like we were never apart.
ReplyDeleteI can relate with this..my best friend and I respect each other.. We haven't had any issue before.. Though she can be inconsistent at times with her gist. I just over look so peace will reign
DeleteIts called Respect! Which slot of Pple don't understand comes 1st b4 the word friendship! Deliberately harming Pple with bad words or backbiting because they r better than u(for ur mind o) that's no friends.... Real friendship respects boundary! I love ur kinda friends mature
DeleteI hv never had a bff, plus i dont see any need to allow other people's opinion hv an influence in my life..
ReplyDeleteOK, let me explain this one cuz I honestly dont know if I was at fault. My really close friend (let's call her chioma) told me about a guy she was kpanshing, she said it was strictly sex and they both agreed on no feelings involved, she told me the guy comes to her room in the evenings that when next he comes, she'll call me from my room to see him (we stay in same hostel, different rooms)
ReplyDeleteOk, as it happened, the guy came over and she called me; she introduced me to the guy as her friend. The guys first comment was wow! You're so beautiful, I said thanks and left.... (I dont really talk much when I meet someone for the first time)
After that day, the guy started coming to our hostel everyday, he'll drop by my room with chioma to say hello before he leaves... Until one day, he called my number. I was surprised and told chioma. She said maybe he took my number from her phone, that I should not worry prolly he wants to be my friend.
Everytime the guy (peter) called, I tell chioma. It became obvious that peter was interested in me because at first I was getting gifts with no name on it. Eventually he started leaving his name... Gifts that I and chioma shared together o. I called him and told him to stop that i wasnt interested, chioma was annoyed that i warned him o, She told me this guy never used to buy her even pure water that I should chop his money well and she doesn't care. She said she has no feelings whatsoever for him and I should make sure I *in her words "barb the guy head gorimapa*
It was our plan o, chop his head... We share the gift... Because I know he has been with chioma, I never let him touch me, no kisses or whatsoever (I have a thing against doing anything with my friends boyfriend or even ex... I'll just be imagining the both of them)
My excuse to him was I was taking my time and getting to know him.
This continued until one morning, one girl from my hostel called me and told me that chioma is not a goof friend, she said while I was away, chioma started gossiping me to everybody in the hostel of how I sleep around, how I follow married men, how I prostitute... In the girls voice *she don they do wetin oyinbo girls they do" the girl said if not that she knows I'm not that kind of person, she would have believed her. The girl told me to confront chioma and if chioma denies it I should come and call her and she will call everybody chioma told those nonsense too
Chai, I said thank you and left... That same day, another guy in the hostel called me and played a recording for me... It was the conversation chioma was having with them... The same talk the previous girl warned me about. This time, I heard every from the phone... I actually cried. Chioma was someone very close to me... I didn't expect that kind of lies... She even knew I was a virgin and she said it in the recording that "d girl think say I be Mimi, she dey form virgin"
I went to confront her calmly because I can't stand fight... This girl denied everything, she even started crying and said people in the hostel are trying to turn me against her. I didn't tell her I heard a record or anything... Neither did I tell her who told me... I borrowed myself sense and started staying away from her.
So how is this one now your fault?
DeleteShe must be from imo state with a peculiar name I hate from d depth of my heart! Born and raised in Lagos as well, correct me if am wrong😁.u r not wrong, u just go waka with obele ekwensu
Delete@African barbie are you feeling guilty because you didn't turn down the guys advances? C'Mon! ! Did you tell her to go and sprrreeadd her legs? Lol. Abeg free yourself. If she didn't want she should have said she wasn't comfortable with it to your face. That's how straight forward pepole should act. Hope you kep chopping the guy though?
DeleteTold my bff to take a walk, was no longer interested in friends that can make any sacrifice for you jara, they want you to always make them happy but for them na lie, the other one she said alot of things about me to someone who called me and told me and asked what kind of friendship we practice, abeg i carry my kaya waka comot before people go kill small girl like me
ReplyDeleteI can b bossy n controlling but I don change but then most of my frnds are married.
ReplyDeleteCan't remember having any female best friend but the male one I had, asked me to marry him and I said no. He stopped talking to me. Even though he is now married and am still single, he is still angry with me. I still miss him sha bc he was like a brother I didn't have.
ReplyDeleteMy BFF got jealous of me and started spreading hateful tales about me to people back then in school.She tried to date one of my ex, And even told a lecturer who was asking me out about my boyfriend and the lecturer called me out in class, embarrassing me in front of a full class😩 for dating a Muslim when there were other better choice(him).Cy na God go punish you sha.😅😅😅.I had to borrow sense and bone her,warned my other friends not to give her my new number. I don't normally keep female friends, Most end up getting envious of one's success.I prefer the opposite sex.
ReplyDeleteLol...
DeleteMy best friend then traveled to Canada and i was always complaining he doesn't call and this had a strain in our relationship. I latter had another best friend and traveled to the us and my new best friend was always complaining i don't call bla bla bla. The stress with working and schooling isn't easy.i aha got angry and told the guy if u cant call me den stop disturbing me. The guy nor call and me kukuma nor call too
ReplyDeleteI miss my bff, I think I overreacted she, I was sick and she was planning to travel to visit her boyfriend, she didn't even bother to cook or go outside and look for those people that use to sell water knowing fully well that the next day will be sallah celebration and u hardly see them... I do travel when she is sick too but I always make sure I cook and do other things for her before leaving and I will make sure I get who will stay with her through out that period that I won't be around. I got so angry that I ignored her till our house rent expired and when I told my sister about it she blamed me saying that I should have asked her why did she treat me that way that is possible something was disturbing her then since she was never like that... I didn't give her that chance to explain herself
ReplyDeleteI owed her money that I had every intentions of paying but couldn't at the time being, she saw me boarding flights to Lagos and displaying fine pics and was about to get married and she assumed I deliberately didn't want to pay (she knows the story behind the flight oh and also knew that my hubby to be no be dangote).... long story short she got angry insulted my parents and generation yet the money no comot immediately but she was paid when the payment plans we already put in place before the insults actualized.(nope not taking any blame)
ReplyDeleteWhy would idiot like you take blame, see the nonsense you just spilled. If it were you that was owed, I know you will do worse, flying up and down, and not even feeling remorseful, ungrateful goats everywhere. Mtschhh.
Delete17:02...😁😁😁😁someone is owing you, that was very personal, you have to pray the 'what are you waiting for' prayer.
DeleteU are a wicked friend. Ur hubby is not dangote but u are boarding flight upandan and displaying fine pics ontop gbese wey u owe..I hate friends like u..Madam borrow pose..Oni gbese..
DeleteDevil's incarnate..How can u be comfortably owing ur friend and still flaunt ur wealth? I'm sure u stopped picking her calls and flaunted fine pics just to taunt her.. I am happy that she insulted u very well..
If I were her I would've arrested u join..Idiot.. I thank God for delivering her from a jezebel like u..
And u even said u are not taking blame? I pity ur hubby and people around u..U are mean!!!!
Milk and oil DONT MIX(save the last dance movie) money and friendship is a big NONO
DeleteDebtors don't flaunt in the face of creditors. Hope you now fly without taking pictures? It's not an achievement. Thanks.
DeleteStella, ,
ReplyDeleteI write this story with a heavy heart.
This friend of mine borrowed me an expensive weavon her cousin have to her to use.
I had no plans of using it.
My younger sis encouraged me to give her to fix,which I did.
My younger sis used Oil on the hair, which made it to shade, , .
When I returned it,,,after my friend had taken it, she sent me a text that it wasn't her weavon I gave her.
I told her it was.
Babe was angry ehh,,she said she will return the weavon that I should give her the one she gave to me.
I told her to get the original price value from her cousin so I can pay in installment.(all this discussions were via text).
She never replied.
I called her severally yet she didn't pick.
I sent her a msg that I don't want our relationship to end due to a favor gone wrong.
The babe didn't reply my sms.
This happened in 2014 june.
I didn't hear from her btw 2014/2015.
2016 I called her and she didn't pick.
When I heard her younger sis was getting married in Dec 2016,,i called her. Yet she didn't pick.
Called her 3 more times(on different occasions) she didn't pic and I decided to let her be.
She fell I'll last year and died on the 2nd of Feb 2017.
Stella,i was scattered. , I blamed myself for being at loggerhead with her.
I should have sent her a msg.
I should have gone to her house,no matter the outcome (I was scared she may embarrass me tho).
I wept bitterly, , i know if I was in her life,she wouldn't have died.
I couldn't attend her funeral,was it necessary??? Since she wasn't happy with me. ... ,but I haven't stopped thinking about what her last moments were like.
So many people called to console me(yes,we were close), ,they didn't know our relationship was strained and that made me more guilty.
I hope I find closure since I have shared it here.
Please BVs should tell me what the think or how the feel about my story.
Please stella. U can make this post a stand alone post if u have stopped enabling comments.
Thank u.
Stella, ,
ReplyDeleteI write this story with a heavy heart.
This friend of mine borrowed me an expensive weavon her cousin have to her to use.
I had no plans of using it.
My younger sis encouraged me to give her to fix,which I did.
My younger sis used Oil on the hair, which made it to shade, , .
When I returned it,,,after my friend had taken it, she sent me a text that it wasn't her weavon I gave her.
I told her it was.
Babe was angry ehh,,she said she will return the weavon that I should give her the one she gave to me.
I told her to get the original price value from her cousin so I can pay in installment.(all this discussions were via text).
She never replied.
I called her severally yet she didn't pick.
I sent her a msg that I don't want our relationship to end due to a favor gone wrong.
The babe didn't reply my sms.
This happened in 2014 june.
I didn't hear from her btw 2014/2015.
2016 I called her and she didn't pick.
When I heard her younger sis was getting married in Dec 2016,,i called her. Yet she didn't pick.
Called her 3 more times(on different occasions) she didn't pic and I decided to let her be.
She fell I'll last year and died on the 2nd of Feb 2017.
Stella,i was scattered. , I blamed myself for being at loggerhead with her.
I should have sent her a msg.
I should have gone to her house,no matter the outcome (I was scared she may embarrass me tho).
I wept bitterly, , i know if I was in her life,she wouldn't have died.
I couldn't attend her funeral,was it necessary??? Since she wasn't happy with me. ... ,but I haven't stopped thinking about what her last moments were like.
So many people called to console me(yes,we were close), ,they didn't know our relationship was strained and that made me more guilty.
I hope I find closure since I have shared it here.
Please BVs should tell me what the think or how the feel about my story.
Please stella. U can make this post a stand alone post if u have stopped enabling comments.
Thank u.
Stella, ,
ReplyDeleteI write this story with a heavy heart.
This friend of mine borrowed me an expensive weavon her cousin have to her to use.
I had no plans of using it.
My younger sis encouraged me to give her to fix,which I did.
My younger sis used Oil on the hair, which made it to shade, , .
When I returned it,,,after my friend had taken it, she sent me a text that it wasn't her weavon I gave her.
I told her it was.
Babe was angry ehh,,she said she will return the weavon that I should give her the one she gave to me.
I told her to get the original price value from her cousin so I can pay in installment.(all this discussions were via text).
She never replied.
I called her severally yet she didn't pick.
I sent her a msg that I don't want our relationship to end due to a favor gone wrong.
The babe didn't reply my sms.
This happened in 2014 june.
I didn't hear from her btw 2014/2015.
2016 I called her and she didn't pick.
When I heard her younger sis was getting married in Dec 2016,,i called her. Yet she didn't pick.
Called her 3 more times(on different occasions) she didn't pic and I decided to let her be.
She fell I'll last year and died on the 2nd of Feb 2017.
Stella,i was scattered. , I blamed myself for being at loggerhead with her.
I should have sent her a msg.
I should have gone to her house,no matter the outcome (I was scared she may embarrass me tho).
I wept bitterly, , i know if I was in her life,she wouldn't have died.
I couldn't attend her funeral,was it necessary??? Since she wasn't happy with me. ... ,but I haven't stopped thinking about what her last moments were like.
So many people called to console me(yes,we were close), ,they didn't know our relationship was strained and that made me more guilty.
I hope I find closure since I have shared it here.
Please BVs should tell me what the think or how the feel about my story.
Please stella. U can make this post a stand alone post if u have stopped enabling comments.
Thank u.
Hmmm....this comment about a friend who died got me. I have to call someone and forgive cos she has been begging but I told her I have forgiven but can't go back to how we used to be and she wants that. Truth be told it can never be the same but I should try. It's got nothing to do with a man. I find it hard to forget when people I hold in a certain way don't hold me in the same way but that's why we are different right?
ReplyDeleteOnly bff we went separate ways was a guy there was nothing whatsoever between us we were just really close but apparently he ws Nursing feelings for me .... doubt we could have even had anything if I knew but we drifted apart after a while when I started dating my the Boyfriend now hubby . I still miss him he was my padi for jungle .
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