My Divorce Story -8

Na wah...poverty induced divorce....

Dear Stella,here is my story. I hope others learn from it. 

 I got married some years ago. His family have always been against our marriage. I remember sending you my story when the wedding was almost called off because his parent and elder sister insisted on him building a house and training his younger siblings before getting married. 

We practically begged them to allow us marry. on the wedding day,you could tell they were not in support as they sat like every other guest. His mother did not even attend the church wedding,saying she was too tired from activities of the previous day which was the traditional. fast forward to present day. we have 2 kids and he lost his job,I also lost mine. 

The kids also have a medical condition and it has been really tough. his family was still very demanding despite knowing we were both jobless. they started accusing me of being the one controlling him,that he is spending his money on me alone.they accuse me openly and even stopped talking to me. my name and picture was even taken to prayer houses and shrines. 

I know because one of them told me.I tried my best to help either of us get a job again.Stella,i even disturbed you with mails several times.although i am a university graduate,but I did all sorts of side jobs to help support and sustain the family. my family was very supportive. my mum would always send us food stuff and money. but he became verbally abusive yet I endured until this last straw. he slapped me from my sleep and started hitting me every where. it was midnight.

He then said he was going to kill me and kill himself so we can all have peace. he was also drunk . I managed to run out almost naked. then I was a able to get my kids the next day. no remorse or apology from him. I went back to my village. since I got here,I have been having pains in the ear he slapped me.then I noticed I can't control that part of my face. it has affected my speech.

when am drinking any liquid,it pours on me. I have checked Google and am scared from what am seeing. I have an appointment with the doctor this morning and I really pray I can get drugs that will help. I am not even up to 30 and marriage has messed up my life. I was never beaten by my own father when he was alive. but a man I love and married has hit me almost to a state of deformity.lets all say no to domestic violence.

LESSONS:
if your spouse family is not in support of your union,especially his mother,please don't go ahead.you need their support all the way.

I am back to point zero but am glad I came out with my life. plz say a word of prayer for me,I need to be in sound health to be able to work and take care of my children.

Pele....Whats the link to your chronicle or story?..You are not Divorced,you are ESTRANGED FROM YOUR SPOUSE.....Divorce is when all legal document is signed,sealed and delivered and pronounced that both parties can go their separate ways.