*Mouth hanging open*
STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
ADVISING A FRIEND WHEN YOU ARE IN THE KNOW
I write this with pain in my mkpuru-obi We are three friends. Vowed to serve God with our bodies as teens and keep ourselves until marriage. I will call them B and C. First I got married some years back,last year, friend B got engaged and began planning her wedding which held in November. We all were excited. Immediately friend C too said she was engaged.
Haba! To a man you just met? ( I wasn't in support of her choice of Boyfriend now turned Fiancé) She said "YES O! I prayed to God and I have peace within"
Stella, me, I have no peace rara!
The man in question drinks, smokes indian hemp, womanizes, from a family that has ancestral curses flying left, right and center. Infact, when the Bible made mention of " Spiritual wickedness in high places" it made reference to this family.
I know this for fact because he is MY BROTHER!!!
We lost our parents years ago as a result of this. I and my Sisters have had to go for deliverance, cutting ties and breaking generational curses before diving into our various churches and Holding onto God because our lives depend on Him. My friend is not aware of his bad habits. She thinks he has stopped drinking and smoking but na lie. Last week she was at my house to tell me they have fixed their wedding for April 29th...
To say I was shocked is an understatement.
To say I was shocked is an understatement.
My brother has lost his job. Friend C earns less than 40k though she is from a comfortable home but I keep wondering why she would open her eyes and jump into this boiling pot. My brother has not even told us he has fixed a date. I for one know he does not have a dime to foot the bills of the wedding. I pointed it to her in a subtle way. She told me her family has got that sorted ( na so my mouth hang until fly almost enter am)
Last year, I Begged her to reconsider her choice of a spouse. She changed the topic to something irrelevant. I brought it up again, she changed it a 2nd time. So I had to give myself brain.
Now she has fixed a date, i am begging her to atleast move it till October or thereabout to enable him get a job or something, while praying his true colours show before then. My friend no gree o! She said it must be in April
I really do not know if I am Paranoid or if I should keep quiet and just mind my business. I love this girl like a sister and would not want her to make a mistake koz I know she will regret it for life and will end up blaming God for not being on her side. Remember it is believed that Girls who do the team mermaid thing end up in regret but Its not true. Most times we make foolish decisions in our choice of a spouse and God has nothing to do with that.
I can't tell her anything in plain terms because the last time I did, my brother called me on the phone, warning me to "face my work"
Stella and BV's please advice is needed.
Send her d link to this post
ReplyDeleteIf you send her the link to this post, she'll send it to all and sundry, you'll be tagged hater and all.
DeleteMy dear leave her to herself
Lol pls poster save ursef headache and mind ur business bcos theres nothing you will tell her that make her reconsider... Some ppl won't learn without mistake so let her be
DeleteBut someone else married you with your ancestral curses and spirituality in high places... why don't you give them a chance
DeletePoster i understand you perfectly. Something similar has happened to my friend but her own case isnt marriage. So she started dating a guy i warned her about, she was a virgin. I knew the guy so well (he is not my brother tho). She let the idiot burst her open, as if that isn't enough, she had like 5 abortions for him. Anytime i advice her she will go and tell the guy. The guy will threaten me with his cult fellows. So i let them be. Before she ran for her life na me tell am??? The guy almost killed her na, she was too shy to tell me what happened buh trust me, i got the gist.
DeletePoster, you have tried leave her to learn for herself. She's gon be alright.
Simple. Just leave to make the mistake. If ur brother finds out u told her things, he might come for ur head. And u of all people know the consequences. So leave her to make her decision.
DeleteAnno 16:22 , thank you very much for that statement
DeleteMind your business my dear. You are trying too hard. Support doesn't necessarily mean you understand. Leave her to God and pray for her. Figure out your own life.
DeleteDon't say no more that's how my sisters frnd married one useless boy even after the warning ⚠️ she's enjoying the marriage now na 😂😂😂😂 no moni she still d use old cloth snap she d regret d marriage now na ode
DeleteFace ya work o, let her learn by herself.
DeleteShe is preggylicious.
DeletePoster,you have tried abeg...
ReplyDeleteAllow her to make this mistake since she no wan hear...
She will jump in and jump out!...
Queen exactly, let her make her mistakes abeg😏😏
DeleteThe only option I feel is left now is to go to God in prayer on her behalf since you love her so much, pls take the matter to God in prayers,ask God that His will be done,before April,God will prove Himself & you will come back to testify.
DeleteEnd time sister
DeletePoster you can only pray. Nothing else.
ReplyDeleteWell she feels left out. The 2 of you are married, so she doesn't want to remain single. U can't blame her.
DeleteSince the guy in question is ur brother, Pray for them and wish them God's favor. That's all u can do.
Hmmmmmmmm. How will she not listen to you, he is your brother and can just hate on him.
Delete*can't
DeletePlease you have done your part as a friend and sister.
ReplyDeleteBoth parties are clearly comfortable starting a marriage on lies and deceit.
Your friend is desperate and she found the right person to charm.
She is okay with his not having a job, so I'm sure she won't even bat an eyelid when she finds his other vices.
Like your brother has warned you, mind your business.
Uche onise face your work before they'd say you are jealous and don't want their progress.
Your friend wants to be a Mrs. At any cost. Please leave her to it, you won't suffer with her. She might end up rushing out just like shw would rush in or die put since getting married is top most on her to do list.
You've warned her, she refused to listen.
ReplyDeleteYour brother warned you to face ur work.
Wait, didn't your brother go for deliverance also?
If nobody heeds your warning, let them be.
You can never tell what d future holds
Gbam!
DeleteO ga!
ReplyDeleteYou have not warned her enough.
DeleteSet your brother up and let her catch him in the act. Whichever act it is that will make your friend's senses come back.
ReplyDeleteI don't think that's called for, if the setting up backfires nko?
DeleteYou're a bastard ...am sure ur mom is very fetish!!!
DeleteWhat if she's God destiny for the broda..?Oloriburuku plenty dor this blog oo with dia short evil begi begi brain.Tuehh😤😤
May all the venom you spit out go back to you in a hundred fold. Read your comment and listen to how you sound so little and immature. All you know how to do is curse instead of talking like a reasonable human being that was born with a brain. Learn to disagree constructively and not like a mad dog that has no sense of direction.
DeleteTilly Go and die.
DeletePoster don't tell her anything ooo..cos she has been blinded by love. Just pray for God to review the guys ways to her or change him for good.
ReplyDeleteIf none happens and you truly loves her,try to support her in her marriage since she's getting married to your brother.
Afi review nah
Delete😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 anon 16:24 can't sum1 make mistake in peace again
DeleteDere wheel be no gun-shut in the foress iff the snell and totis wer the onli animol in eat.
ReplyDeleteKip yhuasef aware frum trobu an mine yhua biznez....
Lawd!!!
DeleteMust one suffer migraine just because they want to read your comment? 😡😡😡😡
You is crazy as a bat!
DeleteYou even bother to read it. I jump and pass. No time to decode and read at the same time. Waste of my IQ.
DeleteWaste of IQ indeed. Atleast he is trying as much as he can to contribute, he isn't allowing his limitation stop him from contributing the little he can.
DeleteThere are other things to use your IQ for, if you don't want to read his comment, just scroll down.
Akwa Ndi IQ.
nzuzu ewu na nzuzu okwu
DeleteFace your work and family as advised by your brother, let her enter the den with her eyes wide opened. You've done your part as a good friend only if you've not been truthful to us here
ReplyDelete*Larry was here*
Hian!!!
ReplyDeleteOh girl face your work. wetin concern you for their matter.
ReplyDeleteYour friend and your brother are an adult. Let them deal with the situation themselves. Abi you want to use cane on your friend?
Leave her since she dont want to hear word. Desperation at its peak
So what you're trying to tell us is that your brother is a bad person and so he doesn't deserve to be married to her or any other person
ReplyDeleteWhat does that make you?
You only see the bad in your brother and you have refused to help him come out of that bad lifestyle
Help your brother to be a better person or leave him to live his life.
Thank u Chi.Madam poster u did not tell us why u left your brother out of the deliverance. U Love your friend but u can't save your brother, and u are there boasting that u are serving God.Your family is still cursed as long as your brother is still carrying the curse around.You are a hypocrite.
DeleteI will like to know why you hate your brother this.
DeleteDon't mind her. End time sister.
DeleteDon't mind her. End time sister.
DeleteNothing more to do but to FAST AND PRAY for her.
ReplyDeleteIt is better to tell someone "I told you' than to tell her "I would have told you"
An adult has made her choice.
Keep your shoulder when she runs to you to cry
Do not keep away then.
Do bear in mind that God can do all things.
Wawuuu this is serious trouble
ReplyDeleteMy dear, please don't tell her anything again. Bcos the next time you try to convince her to stop the marriage from happening, she might just term you a hater!
So quietly call her for the last time... Advice her to search her heart to be sure this is the man for her, tell her to also put the whole thing in prayers. Then wish her well and wash your hands off the whole matter, the day dem invite una...you go and celebrate with her.
It will be her cross, kindly allow her to carry it! A WORD is enough for the wise
Why are you contradicting.. your second paragraph says "please don't tell her anything again and your third paragraph is saying "quietly call her for the last time".. aunty which way?
DeleteTake your friend to the same pastor for deliverance on behalf of your brother and just as you pray for yourself pray for him too so that not only will the wedding be successful the marriage too would work he is family stop bad mouthing him he needs your support its really not nice he has been regarded as an outcast because of his lifestyle people change you know
DeleteIf she's truely your friend she would read this2geda and take a hint or 2 with the descriptions you've given but if she doesnt,send this link yo her annonimously or through your 3rd friend as u r 3.This is d most reason iits always adviceable to move with pips of like mind,y should a single girl have 2 marid bedtfriends?She should look for single friends to befriend n u arent really friends just cause you 3 made a committment.If she was truely your friend she would have gotten a hint of the situation of tins in your family,even though its not d main gist.All dis years youve bin besties n u dint introduce her 2 stelas blog or complain about your wayward broda.Wots your defination of friendship dear?Friends do Stellas blog 2geda😍😍😍😍😍
ReplyDeleteNaa not really.I have never thought to introduce my bestfriend to Stella's blog. For what?
DeleteShe might be the one who will bring out your brother from spiritual bandage or he is the devil sent to question her faith in God.
ReplyDeleteI wish your husband was warned about the curses in your family so he wouldn't have married you!
ReplyDeleteOr maybe he was warned several times but he saw something positive in you and decided to give you a chance.
Who knows?!
Help me ask aunty ooo... please leave them be... she said she has prayed and God answered her.. who g you the right to the Lord and Master over them... aunty face your work
Delete😂😂😂😂
DeleteDid you read where she said she and her sister had to go through deliverance prayers etc?
DeleteLady T werey! What if that marriage is his own deliverance? Must he go to human before God set him free?Abeg u no get *sense* no dey advice for dis blog again.
DeleteI don ban you.👮
Why don't you take ur brother for deliverance or declare a prayer and fasten on his head, so that he will change for better.
ReplyDeleteif U know how to pray that God should reveal things to the lady then why can't U pray for the guy to be free from any curses? E be like wey U be gbeborun sef, U've say her down and talked to her yet she still insist then face Ur mata na. Paranoid ko paracetamol ni
ReplyDeleteLeave her na if she has refused to see that you have her best interest at heart despite the fact the guy in question is your brother...I think you should focus more on helping your brother become a better & responsible person.
ReplyDeleteTake him for deliverance too to break those curses in your family just like you & your sister did.
She should be ready to live with the consequences of her actions for the rest of her life.
This is very funny,were u said my brother, lols abeg leave them.face ur business
ReplyDeleteMind ur beeswax, let her use her head to carry whatever comes after all ur brother must marry someone. I have learnt d hard way not to put my mouth in such matters, when she starts singing the had I known song just be there to tell her sorry.
ReplyDeleteJust keep praying for Ur brother
ReplyDeleteMy dear i understand how your friend feels,all her close friends are married and only her still remaining, perhaps she has no one so she just jumped to what she feels its available, though not in support of her choice as its glaring but keep holding her up in prayer trusting God would have mercy on her and reveal who the guy is so she doesn't regret it. trust me its not easy knowing most of your close ally are married. God help her.
ReplyDeleteAwww..... You're a very very good friend. God bless you. *hugs*
ReplyDeleteEver heard that good girls love the bad boys? This might be the case.
Just pray that Jehovah Nissi the Omniscient God 🙌🏽🙌🏽 will open her eyes to see what she might not be seeing and let His will alone be done. Who knows? Marriage might change your brother for better and help him receive sense. You know.... sometimes in life we think we know it all but God has the final say. However, He's not an author of confusion. If she says she spoke to Him and you pray and things still go as planned just leave them. You hear?
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I think you need to help your brother by helping him undergo his own deliverance since you know his behavior is not ordinary
ReplyDeleteThe lady is desperate for marriage.
ReplyDeleteYou don't seem to be bothered with your brother's lifestyle,you are more worried because He wants to marry your friend.What efforts have you made to help him improve his life. Please do what you can for them before its too late.
ReplyDeleteI understand how painful and frustrating this is to you but the best thing to do at this point is to let them be. Both are adults and even though they may be thinking like kids, you can't force your opinion no matter how relevant it is on them.
ReplyDeleteJust pray for them from an observable distance
Instead of you to be happy for your brother mayb with this marriage he might change his ways since ur friend is a God fearing person, you are here looking for ways to stop d marriage. You have done your part by trying to warn your friend so dat she wouldn't say u never told her,but its ok like that. Or don't you wish your brother any good, or do you want him to be like that forever.
ReplyDeleteYour brother said "face your work" face it dear together with prayers
ReplyDeleteYou ve done your part as a friend (a true one at that) by warning her even against your own brother.
ReplyDeletePls leave her to decide whatever she wants for herself, she's the one going into the marriage, not you.
Like your brother warned you, face your work, the best you can do now is pray for them.
Poster you have tried your best, if she still want to go ahead good for her
ReplyDeletePoster im very sure say na you gangan !!yes you be witch wey dey do your brother.......#Enemy of progress.
ReplyDeleteLEAVE EM ALONE.😛😛
@poster. E be like say una parent get some properties..naim una wan kill am?? Appreci8 your friend 4 loving your broda! Wish em well.
DeleteShe feels out of place as her close female friends are already married therefore unknowing to ur friend she's having peer pressure just pray about it and watch God act.....ur a good frnd tho *peace*
ReplyDeleteMyn ya bussines !!poster u be Aje "madam dicktator and taminator!!.
ReplyDeleteEvery winch wey wan dictate my life or decide God destini 4 mi ..die now now!!.
Poster open up your brother's life to her as it is. Let her hate you if she wants to. Let your brother hate you if he wants to but please tell your friend the truth as it is. She will never forgive you when she eventually gets married to you and then gets to realise you knew all of this and then refused to tell her. Bare out your heart to her and then leave her to make her final decision. By doing that you will have a clear conscience and will not be blamed for whatever she goes through in the marriage should she decide to still get married. Try telling her once more time and then leave her to make her decisions.
ReplyDeleteI think it was because u both were married that made her desperate to get married too though to her own detriment. Since you have tried talking her out of it and she refused listening,just let her be. But its so unfortunate cos anything that happens during the marriage will still affect you. I won't ask you why you guys didn't drag your brother for deliverance cos I know his type will not agree to follow you guys. Its well,just put it into prayers and ask God to come into the matter.
ReplyDeleteSame way you and your sisters escaped f family's curse leaving behind your brother, maybe she's been divinely sent to rescue your brother. Just saying...
ReplyDeleteabeg na so ur broda bad reach? allow them pls
ReplyDelete1 Thessalonians 4:11
ReplyDelete'..and make it your ambition to lead a quiet life and MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS.'
MISS Jacobs.
I think you should pray for her, let God expose him and his bad habits so she has a rethink
ReplyDeleteHow about helping your brother to be a better person or doesn't he deserve to be married and have kids like you?
ReplyDeleteYour friend on the other hand wants you to leave them alone, kindly do so ma'am.
Beta pikin ! U get zenz👍👍👍👍na she be the wicked winch👹!!
DeleteE go beta for me and you oo😍
I am a 22 years old girl my 1 st boyfriend tried to have sex he put it in once but I didn't want to do it anymore but I haven't done anything like that for 6 years...I met this new guy we didn't have sex at all but he had precum on he's dick which he wiped off from he's dick and after a while he fingered me can I be pregnant?Plus I gave him oral sex can I have hiv? I am so scared I'm sorry for putting this here but I'm almost going mad I'm so scared
ReplyDeleteNaa you are not! Calm your mind. As for oral, you could have hiv if you had a cut while giving head and his semen somehow came in contact with that cut bit thats a very low probability. You will be fine.If you want to have sex next time endeavour to use condom.
DeleteDon't do that again. You ain't pregnant nor do you have HIV. Just be careful dear and repent from your sin.
DeleteNo!!! You're just fine,for pregnancy but test stick...Above all stopeeeeweeeet now .maka why you wan die young?? Go marry now now as preek be ur priority"and if you know you never redi .I say stopeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeet😐
DeleteYes,you are pregnant!...
DeleteGet ready to be a mother...congra in advance!💃💃💃
Ano 17:06 yes you're pregnant and HIV positive onugwu #uduri#
DeleteA stubborn fly end up where...
ReplyDeleteLeave her but keep praying so that her eyes will open. You have tried.
You see why i don't believe in all these born again christians? How can someone who claim that her life depends on God and was delivered of curse, let her brother perish in the same ordeal. You are wicked, your heart still dark and i tell you God wants to use your friend to save your brother but you are too selfish to see that.Jeez, i couldn't believe that post came out of a christian and a sibling at that. You have no love for your brother.I will go extra length for my siblings and as orphans, you ought to stick together.You need to go on your knees and pray, fast.Call your friends and your sister, organise a 3 days fasting to pray for him and his future.Didn't your pastor,papa or whatever y'all call them these days tell you that you should love your neighbours and be your brother's keeper?Don't you know that your prayers can change many things for him?
ReplyDeleteHey guys I'm anonymous 17:06 please someone answer me
ReplyDeleteHey guys I'm anonymous 17:06 please someone answer me ....please
ReplyDeleteThings dey happen.
ReplyDeleteLong live SDK
I am anonymous 17:06 please can someone answer me please
ReplyDeleteSince your friend is a good girl, don't you think you should be more concerned about your brother?
ReplyDeletePray for your brother, pray intensely for him. Pray for his inner man to change first, let him have a heart that longs for God's presence and every other thing is secondary. When you get down on your knees, spend it praying for your brother. For me, it is a good thing he has a woman whose heart yearns for God's presence, it means God has started working on him, he just doesn't know it yet.
Let them not reschedule the marriage to a latter date while praying for your brother.
He does not necessarily need to go anywhere to be delivered. He needs to accept Jesus Christ as his Lord and personal Savior and all other things will fall into place. Seek ye first the Kingdom of God and it's righteousness.
If you stop your friend from marrying him, how about the next good girl he will meet? The person, who needs to change is your brother and because you know God, you have to pray for him.
Bye love
KING XOXO MYSTERY
The bible says love God with all your heart and soul and love your neighbor as yourself. How can you even say you Love God that you haven't seen when you do not love your own brother. I will trade the world and give up my life for my brothers! Oh my goodness in a second. How can you be this evil? You are saved but your brother is not and you can say it. Your friend is better than you. She sees the good in him and accept him for his flaws. The Bible says he who finds a wife, finds a good things and obtain favor fron the Lord. You are a hindrance. You are a obstacle to them. And my dear your are not a true believer. You are just a churchian. I pray God disgrace you and make there marriage work. Man's true enemy are truly the people of his household. Shame on you poster, shame.
ReplyDeleteThank you very much, you just said my mind. Very wicked sister.
DeleteTo all those saying "Maybe God will use her to deliver Him". Do you think the hand of God is so short that He wouldn't have done it by now? You are encouraging a woman to place her life in the hands of a man who does not know where he is headed, a man who may destroy her. Is that not wickedness? When she comes here with stories that touch, you will be the same people to ask her if she didn't see signs before marrying the man.
ReplyDeletePoster - in life, some people prefer to learn from their own mistakes instead of learning from others. I would advise you to stop talking about this issue. If you are so concerned, pray for God's will for them and face your family. I am sure they need you more.
Poster, many times, kind-hearted people like you are called haters or witch when you mean well or your actions are coming from a good place.
ReplyDeleteDeliverance is not a child's play, it takes will power, determination and a sinless life to overcome familiar spirits, so your brother cannot be forced or persuaded to go for deliverance if he is not willing to. This much I was taught in bible study. And his spiritual battle is not yours to fight either, because there will be consequences to pay for, this much a deliverance minister once said.
So, please let them be. You have done your part as a true friend, which is a virtue because some sisters will keep quiet, but I understand perfectly the angle you are coming from.
I want you to understand also, that your friend is eager to marry and what better person than your brother since you are best friends. So dearie, leave them both, after the wedding squarely face your lane and be praying for your brother to get a job.
I seriously pity that your friend, she expects him to change? Is it not in this blog ladies advise each other that men don't change, rather the bad habit will multiply? As the saying goes, you can force a horse to the river, but you cannot force it to drink water.
All the best..let her parents foot the wedding and be feeding them after, then she will know how far when she founds out 40k is like 4 naira!
My dear I advise you pray for her, for God to open Her eyes
ReplyDeleteMind your own business, amebo na who send you? Instead of you to keep on praying for your brother you are here talking rubbish how he has generation curses, Sabi somebody brother marry you abi? You way say make she no marry your brother you get another person for her? Leave them alone to make their choice, both are adults, what if God want to use her to change your brother? Focus on your marriage while praying for them.
ReplyDeleteHave you considered maybe she is God's will for your brother? Or that she could be good for him? No. I don't think it's your place to agree or disagree with her choice of spouse even though he is your brother! It's none of your biz. Like your brother said ; face your work.
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