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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
DEPRESSION ALERT OR NOT
Hello bvs
I seriously need advice as soon as possible because I am starting to think I might be suffering from depression. I am a young girl in my late twenties, a graduate and also married.
Please kindly note this is not a form of begging, i just want matured minds to read and advise me appropriately.
My life has been stagnant for more than 5years now and I don't think is normal, i graduated 2011 went for my service and finished 2012 since then I've been struggling to get a job, i finally got one small one and was managing and happy atleast I wasn't idle.
This job paid me 20k monthly and I spend more than 500naira everyday on transport yet i didn't mind because I believed i would meet people and perhaps help me in securing a better job, and also i was learning because it was a handwork kinda job.
Then marriage came and I moved to another town and with the help of my parents i opened my own place, they bought materials for me, paid the office rent and arranged everywhere for me, that was 2015.
Since then till now i haven't made up to 100k and the materials and shop rent ran into million. It was as if the office was cursed no one came into there, the little money i made was from the jobs my parents got me, I went everywhere in the town sharing my flyers, opened a social media page yet no client, no white collar job also coupled with delayed conceiving.
I started thinking a lot and will always isolate myself from my husband crying, as I writing this long epistle now I can't remember the last time I prayed. I have given up on that because it seems the more I pray the more difficult things become. Within me i feel like I am a failure, a burden, a mistake.
And this is affecting me seriously because I get angry at a slightest thing that is not even worth getting angry at, and my hubby is the one at the receiving end.
I sat down to type this thing now because my office rent just got expired and I am thinking of how to pack my load shamefully. And what next to do with my life if it will progress at all. I feel pity for my parents and my siblings. I know they 'might' still help me if God touches their mind but I am so ashamed of myself and don't even know how to face them because it looks like i am a prodigal child. They've never eaten my money.
Now my question is could anything be wrong with me? Is it my destiny? Is there anything that I am not doing right? Is it spiritual? Or could it be as a result of my not praying again? What of all these successful atheist nko? What should I do?
*I think first and foremost you need to make peace with your Family...you are not just depressed,you are broke -Financial depression!!!
Since your family can help you,why dont you swallow your pride and ask them?
Your hubby is the one on the receiving end of your anger?wow,easy woman.
I really dont know what to say more.
THE FOLDER IS EMPTY OOOOOH:
Madam. Did u do any serious bad thing in the past? Think hard pls
ReplyDeleteFind your way to mfm prayer city on first Saturday in the month of march,come fasting by 7am
DeletePeople go through worse than this in life but we Dont Know cos they Dont talk about it...if I tell you my story and how stagnant life has been, you will thank God for yourself, at least you have someone you can talk to and that can share your burden and you still have your parents to help you financially... Just continue praying because that's what I do and hope something better comes up... I know that feeling of giving up on prayers...
DeleteThanks for your advices. I really appreciate. I've realized I need God no matter the situation, He knoweth all. And I promise to go back to Him. For those that asked about my hubby, He's a civil servant, we don't starve, we are contended with what we have. I just don't want to be idle, and I have to work too because his salary won't be enough when the kids start coming. And for my parents i don't have any issue with them, i just feel for them, i sent a message to my dad and he blessed me and told me not to worry that he isn't ashamed of me, that it's just a phase of life that I will overcome it. I've moved my materials to my house. Let me job hunt for a while and see how it goes, if I am able to save money before the end of the year i will rent another office by God's grace.
DeleteThanks Stella for posting.
Babe, we have all been there. Some of us are still there. The road to heaven is narrow. The worst mistake stopping to pray. That even prolongs the bad luck. Make peace with God and try not to get too stressed out. Tell yourself that you are not a failure and thank God for doing it for you. When God sees your faith in him, he will bless you. God is your only hope! Don't compare yourself with others.
DeletePoster,start your business right there in your house. Then do your adverts and watch things turn around for you.
DeleteMy dear don't be deceived. Remember Job? Sometimes God puts us through trials to prepare for the blessings he has in store. Through it all you must not lose your faith and goodwill towards God. Being a Christian is not just about praying for blessings.
Delete2 Corinthians 12:9
But he said to me, "My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness." Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ's power may rest on me.
When we learn to love God with the same ferocity and be grateful for the mercy he shows us in good times and bad, we are much happier people.
This has been one of the hardest years. Loosing people left right and centre but what God gives unfailingly is peace of mind. If you abandon yourself confidently to his will and meditate on his word whether you live under a bridge or in a mansion you will have joy.
Poster,u may not be in Lagos,where ever you are,find your way to mountain of fire and miracles church. Follow anon 16:50 advice. I was worse than you before but that church has changed my life,my husband business and even my children life. Go and pray your self out
DeleteWhat type of business did you start? What are you selling. Why don't you post your wares on SDK and see if people will buy. You can post for free like some of spend small money on advert or beg SDK to post for you for free and promise to pay if you make sales. There's nothing wrong with you. We all go through tough times.
DeleteMy dear have you studied the book of Job, it really inspired and help when I felt stagnated, depressed, withdrawn and all, I left everything to God, served him and held him by his word. You may not hv it all but look within, u hv Many benefits to be grateful for ( eg life, food, a tolerance hubby u are venting on, a loving family who supports you) hv u thanked God for them) remember ps 103
DeleteSecondly u invested so much in a new business without feasibility study. Dnt be sad pple loose more just replan but start from ur house. E hugs
Madam poster,i emphatize with you,but empathy isn't what you need now,what you need is Jesus..he is truly the only way out..we are in very perilous times now,its either you serve God or u serve mammon..but you must have an active altar speaking on ur behalf..personally since rededicating my life to God its been bliss all the way..my dear talk to God..he will touch hearts,break protocols and send helpers ur way..speak life to your marriage,ur business,your womb..declare that your womb shall not be a coffin but shall bear fruit..retrace your steps back to God darling..ive been in that place where I dint trust God and trust me it's a dark place to be..come back to his fold and let him give you rest..i wish you all the very best in all your life endeavors and I pray God who formed us in our mothers womb and sees our hearts,will meet you at the point of your needs,AMEN.
DeletePoster nothing is wrong with you. Here's what I think:
Delete1. You should pray to God bout your situation. He can do all things.
2. Have a positive mindset and believe you will succeed in everything you do.
3. Your business failed because you were not making sales or getting new contracts. This happened to me when I was a freelance programmer. I was a very good programmer but contracts were not forthcoming. I knew this was a problem for me because my business was stagnant.
I shared my problem with my role model Nnamdi Ezeigbo (Slot CEO) at a seminar and he suggested I go into another line of business which I did. Today, I'm into buying and selling and business is booming by the special grace of God.
4. I suggest you consider learning a trade.
5. Always know how much you are making and spending at every point in time. Know your Profit and Loss and record all expenses.
6. Have a purchase book and sales book.
7. Use stock card to track your inventory.
8. Invest in Facebook page ads (sponsored posts). You can reach a larger audience and track results.
9. Share the success tips with others when you get to the top.
Best Regards,
Someone that believes in you
What of ur horseband? Can't he do something for u? Abi na only to gbensh ur something he sabi?
ReplyDeleteOde
DeleteSorry madam, but just know that pain ends..Oh no, today's miracle job banquet service at Goshen was lit. See God visiting his children with diverse testimonies. It seems like the more you pray the more more things become difficult? No dear, that's what the devil wants you to believe.. pls I implore you to retrace your steps back to God.. if you're in abj, I'm inviting you to convenant day of settlement next Sunday ND watch God turn your life around in split seconds. But if you're not, pls attend the nearest living faith church...I'm a living witness to this diverse testimonies, as I received testimonies all through this week ND it can only be God.. last Saturday I had just 2k all in my name, I was somewhat worried, as I had no hope of feeding myself if it finished. ND God used a total stranger on IG who gifted me with 10k, without begging, just like that. I began applying for jobs last2weeks ND on Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday and Friday I was receiving mails from this organizations to come for an interview..aah it felt like magic.. serving God pays, because Bishop abioye has asked us to pray kingdom advancement prayers and watch God change our stories that week and attend convenant hour of prayer, I did ND look at the result.when I went for the 1st interview,I made them understand I wasn't ready to undertake the job just yet, I just applied cuz I didn't want to be all idle after my diploma in August. They still agreed ND told me to come back... My dear the reason for this epistle is to encourage you, God is still alive, you need to go to a Bible believing church, living faith and I bet you, your story would be changed. People are saying no jobs,ND haven't gotten any invite. But I'm the one virtually going to decide which job to settle for after my diploma in August....Indeed when men are saying there's a casting down, I shall say there's a lifting up.. my case is different. This is just to encourage you my dear. God loves you, don't be distant from him, join the nearest living faith church close to you ND watch God turn your life around in split seconds...
DeleteYes dear i attended it but not the same branch
DeleteMy secret was. I furnished my CV ND signed up to different job website eg hotnigerianjobs etc. and was applying, those that required cover letters I wrote ND submitted accordingly... Just do that my dear, prayerfully, and make it duty to be buying guardian newspaper Tuesday and Thursdays. Plenty job advertisement tue and thur. Do that prayerfully. You would testify. But you need to go back to God my dear.
DeleteReceive sense peace maker or did u read through your anus?
Delete@ poster, follow finest advice. God is too faithful to fail. He is a loving father. Don't allow end time depression to weigh you down. ..... nattnathaniel said so
Delete@ poster, follow finest advice. God is too faithful to fail. He is a loving father. Don't allow end time depression to weigh you down. ..... nattnathaniel said so
DeleteDO YOU TITHE?, its a key to success, God said he will pour down his blessings when we tithe. Pls tithe and attach it to a request from God to open the gates of heaven on your family. Same for your hubby. God bless
DeleteSorry for your pain
ReplyDeleteBut please stop taking out your anger on your hubby, that is not right at all.
BTW...what does your hubby do for a living? Doesn't he have a job too? Can't he support you financially? You didn't mention anything about these, which is why I'm asking.
First thing yo should do is reconnect with God again. Ask Him for forgiveness and bring forth your problems to him, He loves you and will never forsake you!
Then humbly go back to your parents with tears in your eyes and ask them for help again... God Almighty will touch their hearts and use them to bless once again.
But make sure you also pack out of that your old office space, something bad night be going on there. Relocate to a better place and this time, open up a profitable business.
It's well with you
This can be really frustrating, that feeling of 'being stagnant'. Go back to your family and make peace with them whilst being positive in everything you do. We've seen /heard/read of people who were "stagnant" but still came out of that "stagnation"...
ReplyDeletePoster you need Jesus fully with your heart, start attending a Bible believing church.
DeletePoster,go and settle your spiritual husband and your ogbanje!...
ReplyDeleteThese spirits block ways for people but ignorance will not allow them to see it!...
Look for a good pastor that will deliver you..
Come to SCOAN if you are in Lagos...
See,prayers works!...
Everybody need this deliverance atleast once a year for open doors!...
You can go traditional if you don't have strength for prayers...
That's what most succesful people do but they won't tell you!...
This my church member your mouth hmmmmm hahaha haha Emmanuel
DeletePoster abeg instead of going to fake scoan better go meet native dr. At least u know for sure u are dinning with the devil.
DeleteQueen have said it all, Ndi ogbanje & spiritual husband & Ndi iyiuwa @ work.if u can pray, if can't go to native pple To Help u, then jee sa uchu r spiritually dirty that's why anything u do don't work & if don't act fast it will roll into ur marriage ooo. But God forbid.
DeletePoster work on your anger first cos it can hinder good things for you then no family rejects its own except you are not telling us the truth(go to them). Try another business if the previous one didn't work out (like food stuffs),don't give up till you get result. Even if you can't pray,just dedicate your cry to God and he will listen to your heart.
ReplyDeleteEat is nefa in any mans laif toe be a falior xzept yhu aff givin intu failior an wash yhua hans off ashivin sucksex...
ReplyDeleteEfritin yhu ah fazin tuday wheel pass.
Plizz, Draw bark toe God..
Yhu ah north a failior....
God blase yhu.
This is the time u need to be closer to ur Maker.
ReplyDeleteHe wishes above all things that u prosper. Do not let the devil overtake ur mind. Remember an idle mind is.....
Study more of God's word and pray.
Try see if ur parents can help u again
Y not look for another area where ur type of biz can move?
Before one rents a shop,one must pray very well bcx some shops are cursed (sorry to say) but with what I see in Benin here,its better one stays at home than rent shops in some cursed houses bcx ur biz won't only go down,ur entire life n even family might go with it
So my dear,pray,seek help from ur family if possible,and relocate when d help comes. Let's I forget,do not let it affect ur relationship wt ur hubby pls.
I am sorry this truth my hurt you but I believe your answer to break through is the prayer you don't want to pray. Seek God, open up to your family about your fear and pain. Make a good sacrifice to God for breakthrough. The lord will come to your aid. Remember the weapons of our warfare are not canal but mighty through God to the pulling down of strong holds. It is well with you.
ReplyDeleteAll i read is all i read. Wat abt ur husband? Is he also broke? Pls get bk on ur praying feet. U need God intervention in ur life. It os well n yes depression is rolling in. Pray against it.
ReplyDeleteAll you need is prayer, since you've stopped praying, is your life any better? Are you now progressing since you stopped praying? Everything that happens to us have been predestined, though it's normal for us to be impatient when we see others progressing, but don't run faster than your destiny, you might need serious deliverance and prayer, yes you can seek for that. Also, if your family is ready to help you again, leave that office, get another place and be prayerful before moving to another office, we all read a chronicle a BV sent concerning a house her her sister rent, so go back to your God in prayer, there's no power anywhere aside from our God
ReplyDelete*Larry was here*
Poster,listen and listen good!Nothing is wrong with you. First,you have to love yourself and always be happy. Another one is begin to give to humanity,pay your tithe and see how your life will turn around.And again you to re-activate your pray life. My pastor will always say that if you don't how your life is going pray yourself out.
ReplyDeleteMy dear if your husband earns enough and he is the sort that picks your bill why dont you relax and try to conceive? Once the children begin to come out goes every sense of emptiness.
ReplyDeleteYou have a life time to succeed in a career or enterprise . Take heed cos I have passed through this junction you are right now.
Nothing prayers cannot do, Jesus answers prayers, nothing prayers cannot do, Jesus answers prayers...
ReplyDeleteLady, you sound like a Christian who has abandoned the life of prayer. "people ought always to pray and not give up . . . " hope you remember this admonition in Luke the eighteenth chapter. God did not abandon you for he said that he will never leave nor forsake us. You were the one that abandoned him.
ReplyDeleteIn over two decades as a Christian counselor, I have come to realize that a lot of God's people are in "difficulty/frustration" because the rushed into "their own way". They never consulted with the Lord before they take major life decisions like; marriage, career or opening a business. You see, you discussed with your earthly parents about "this business" but you failed to discuss with your heavenly father. Think about it; if someone like Hanna daughter of Phanuel in Luke 2 had opened a business instead of living the life of prayer that gave her so much peace. Or if Jacob had followed his brother Esau to hunt instead of being "a meditative man of the tent" like he was?
You did not tell us that you lack the basic things of life now that you are living with your husband.
Advice: Pack up that shop/office and devote yourself to prayer and fasting to know what actually the Lord wants you to do with this life you call "yours". You will see a flood of peace in you home. Do not bother about "what people will say". Be sure of your life first.
If you continue in this "nagging attitude at your husband", you might complicate your situation by jeopardizing your marriage. God's Grace.
👌🏽👍🏽👊🏽 @ pack up shop and office.
DeleteChronicle poster, it is well with you, don't give up, keep praying, Our God never fails. Am a jobless graduate going through my times of trials too. I still believe in God. You can as well ask for financial help from your parents. Stop seeing yourself as a failure because our God never fails.
ReplyDeleteInfact Stella am sending my chronicle to you soon concerning this particular film am watching,its just so annoying.poster pls nothing its wrong with you maybe you didn't seek the face of God be4 embarking on that particular business. We should always invite God on every step we make so he can direct our part.
ReplyDeleteYou just pin-pointed the problem...I can't remember when last I prayed...you haven't even spoken to your maker...
ReplyDeleteIt's time to praise Him. Focus on Him and praise Him, don't focus on the problem. Worrying won't solve the problem so why do it. Run to the arms of the one who knows the beginning from the end...my sister praise Him, it works. It worked for me, so I'm speak from experience. He inhabits the praises of His children. When praises go up...the blessings come down. Just praise!;if you don't know what to say, just say "Thank you Jesus" "I praise and worship you Jesus"...
You didn't give a complete story to enable us know how to advice you well...how's your husband? Is he doing well financially? If he is not, it could be your spiritual husband (whether you believe it or not, it's real) if he is doing well financially & otherwise that means you are the problem...if the problem isn't addressed even if your parents give you another money to set up same thing will happen...
ReplyDeleteI suggest you go to a church where they believe in deliverance & get yourself delivered from whatever is holding you down OR
Buy prayer rain(its a prayer book by mfm), go to chapters that addresses your case & use the prayer point to pray
Note: this prayer should be done between the hours of 1am - 3am... try it & see if you will not come back to testify.
I've done their deliverance. And I go for the Power Must Change Hands. Will look for the books thanks
DeleteJust tell us you are stylishly begging for a store rent.this story is cooked.not real.
ReplyDeleteOde!
DeleteA yahoo boy in the anonymous post said he used a girl's destiny . He met her from Snm. Could something similar have happened to you?
ReplyDeleteMadam, please do not add a broken home to the list of your "assumed sorrows". Why should your husband be at the receiving end of your anger and nagging?
ReplyDeleteWhy not suspend that business and take a prayerful stock of your life and ask God what he will have you do?
Save your home front first and let the Lord be your confidence. Also discuss with your husband in the intermission.
Don't give up, keep praying coz that's the only solution. Try and sow a seed.
ReplyDeleteThis advice is also for me, sometimes I get tired of life challenges, transport is more than half of salary, I'm not giving up, I have to make it by the grace of God.
Let me read comments *yawns* 😵
ReplyDeleteHope you do not scatter your marriage with your own hands. No man wants a nagging wife. You should actually be running to the Lord Jesus in prayers instead of away from him.
ReplyDeleteI NEVER gave up on God!
ReplyDeleteWhat's your business line.
ReplyDeleteHello poster,
ReplyDeleteI am touched to send this token of reply.
Firstly I want you to forgive yourself and know that you are a wonderful woman, excellent, the best of your kind.
Now truly atheist succeeds infact so many are rich I want you know it is the blessings of God that maketh without adding any sorrow.
God has not made anybody not to succeed or not to have abundance. I want you to please focus on God and erase any negativity from your heart, attend a good Bible believing church, feed yourself with the word of God and pray but don't pray and worry, have radical faith in God, u need to verify faith that your prayers are going to be answered and ur faith into action.
God bless you and I pray the Lord will touch u, give u pleasant surprises
What's your business line?
ReplyDeleteFinally a woman admits to being a nagging bitch
ReplyDeleteM dear it is well. E go better. Love ya man and pray
You're not alone. In fact we many! First, I don't think you're lazy, doesn't sound like it. Would love to know, are there many people doing your kind of business? Averagely are they successful? Since 2015 till now, things generally are slow, dull, so don't blame yourself. I suggest you leave that place, even if help comes start afresh in a new and cheaper location. You could even change line of business all together, something more you, more lucrative too. Very importantly, go back to God! Poster, go back to God! Kneel, cry, beg! God is not behind any of our problems, so why foolishly keep malice with Him? Then talk to your husband. Today is Sunday, universal family day, make him a delicious meal, then beg him to please forgive your outbursts. Talk to him, open up, and ask for help & suggestions. Do not envy people who seem to have it all, who are 'ahead'. Person Wey drive fast no dey drive past Hin house, and slow driver go reach house too. Pele, me sef need encouragement o, Wey my TGW??
ReplyDeleteThis is begging in style
ReplyDeleteShe highlighted, this isn't a plea for financial assistance but advice, scroll up!
DeleteSo what if it's begging, you wan help?
DeleteSometimes when things like these happen, its normal to question and loose faith in God..
ReplyDeleteMy advice for you is to seek spiritual help, please dont just go to any church cause theyre many fake churches about, go to a real man of God and be delivered thats all..
Go into real business... Buying and selling is bae.... OK nothing is wrong with u, reset your mindset! Be positive and all pray 😊😊😊😊 goodluck
ReplyDeleteAfter now, this kind of hubby will go outside to meet single girls to find solace with them and complain bout the kind of wife they got married too.
ReplyDeleteMami just take it easy on you hubby
You did not tell us what you do. We fit help you market am
ReplyDeleteWow!!! It could be very frustrating being not progressing in anything you do and when it seems like nothing seems to be working. No you are not a failure.
ReplyDeleteFirst, i think you should join a bible believing church and work on your relationship with God too.
Then you need to change your mindset and believe that you enjoy favour everywhere you go. Declare everyday that you are blessed and things are working out for your good.
Because even if you get a job now, you could lose it if you carry a depressing abd downcast demeanour around.
Be happy. Be joyful no matter the situation. Talk to your husband and be at peace with him. Both of you should pray together too. Sometimes just tell him to lay his hands on you and pray.
What city do you reside? So that i could take it upon myself to be on a look out for a job.
Dear poster. You are rich! I may sound silly but you have so much already.. let me help you a little.
ReplyDeleteYou have life
A shelter over you
You ate today
You have a wardrobe(no matter how)
You have a loving husband( yeah you didn't state otherwise)
You have a family( one that can help you even, I mean they even care about you)
You are a graduate
You've done your NYSC
You have siblings
My dear you just have so much to be thankful for at your age...just be thankful
You only need a child and money abi? This too shall pass. Selah
So sorry Seat. In same situation,maybe worst. I finished school 2010, spelt 2yrs time searching for jobs, sent for Masters and still home till date. I write exams and interviews i Excel but not called, sometimes om told om over qualified. In ny Kate twenties all ny Friends års married but me. I have learnt skills, one ive Bern managing to gtow in but because i need much capital to start Dell and i dont have money so om constrained. I pray and cry to Gid but he is quiet. I give up but it isnt any so i pray again. Dont løse hope. Cut it on the anger lest u løse hubby too. Just hold om to God
ReplyDeleteR u speaking Spanish?
DeleteGraduate indeed. See English. Mtcheew
DeleteGo on ur knee and pray,move closer to God,and u will find dat inner peace. It might take a while becos it is not automatic,be patience, and strengthen ur prayer life. If u av dat inner peace,then you can now focus and re strategies.
ReplyDeleteThis advice is from someone who once felt like you.
Did you seek God's face when you wanted to open the place...always commit things to God first....and don't allow depression weigh you down...it kills...I know a young guy that almost died of depression cos he couldn't get a job..,
ReplyDeleteFirst of all change your thinking and your life will change. Let your thinking be positive always, cos as you think so your life will be.
ReplyDeleteDis Stella sometimes ur so called advise sounds meaningless.
ReplyDeleteDid she tell u dat her pride prevented her from askin her family for help ? Didnt dey help her before?
Shes only concerned about asking them again so she doesn't look like a pest on them.
And what is it about her makin peace wit her family? Does she have problem wit dem?
1. Poster,reconnect back to God.
ReplyDelete2. I don't agree with Aunty Stella and other BV's that asked her to go back to her parents and ask for more because I feel the initial business was mismanaged.
3. Poster,before u venture into any business. U need to understand how it works. U need to carry out a business feasibility. Will it meet the need of people? Does it solve a major problem? Are u passionate about that line of business? At what point will I breakeven? How much funds should I put into it? How do I price my products /service to ensure I remain competitive? Location/office should come after you have answered the above questions. Location also matters a lot in business. I tell most of my clients to get their business running and profitable before they even get a physical location,i.e if their business does not require one.
4. I sent you an email Aunty Stella, that I will love to mentor 5 women for free. But it was never published. These are the kind of women that need guidance.
5. Poster, if Stella posts this. You can reach me at akaglue@yahoo.com. I will mentor you for free at my 12weeks money challenge.
I don't think anything is wrong with you. You just have high expectations of your self. You want to make it in life. As for the business is not your fault as long as you can account for the money you used for the goods. I had to close my first shop after a year and operated from the house for two years before getting another shop. I studied the business again to know what I needed to change, the people that need my goods, why didn't I make sales at my first place.
ReplyDeleteAnd you can not leave prayer out of it....some time early this year I was down and feeling all you mention up there. One faithful day I was sleeping at home and these Jehovah witness people came and knocked, so the lady asked..does God answer all prayers and I boldy said no, because I have been trusting God for something for so long gone that I felt it was over due.
She said yes, I was right, that God does not answer the prayers of sinners. My mind I was like, am not a sinner oh.
To cut the story short, I got the answer the next day
God does hear us, but the question we should be asking is Lord what are you saying. Which could be..
1. No, I want you to do something else
2. Yes, but wait
3. Yes, now
So my dear go back to God, you may not be able to hear him speak, but be confident that he has heard you.. then all you have to do is to be happy
Madam you did not give much details. What is the nature of the business? I graduated since 2010, no job yet. This is plus masters oh. At least you get man sef, me I don't have plus I have fibroids. And I am fine! I have stopped praying too (im a muslim) but I hope to get back on track soon. There's no where in the Holy Book where I am promised a perfect life, I have to get over myself. I have even seen a therapist and I am more confident about my future. Poster, you need to accept responsibility first. Look at the part you played. I came from a dysfunctional home and I was just chasing men away. My mother doesn't believe in marriage, due to how much she suffered from my dad. I just had no motivation to be in a relationship. All her friends were either widows or single mothers. I was also a very lazy student. I finished with a 2:2 but I could have done better. I don't believe anyone can jazz me. Everything that has gone wrong in my life is 10% destiny and 80% my responsibility. The present part time job I am managing, I applied to up to 300 places before I got it. Perseverance + due diligence and determination can't allow any useless jazz work. I am writing professional qualifications. I failed almost all the papers like 3 times before I started passing. Someone even told me that she thinks it is jazz. I prayed and fasted till I became very sick. Then I stopped praying completely. I put in the time and efforts and I started passing my papers one by one. Maybe you can do this business from home. It is possible that you went far above your budget for "packaging". Amazon, ESPN and twitter took over 5 years before making any profits
ReplyDeleteGods blessing don't come on a platter of gold. It's a process; that's what you are going through.
ReplyDeleteSame challenge I am going through, hold God don't relent in prayers, fasting, alms giving and above live a holy life devoid of sin. When your heavens open people will ask if you went diabolical, your miracle will look like a lie.
Hold on to God, he alone can help you. Rededicate your business, even though it might not be Gods plan for you, tell him to take charge as the Chairman, Announcer and Advertiser of all businesses.
It is well. Put your trust solely in God.
Cheer up. U r lucky u ve a family dat even heped u. But u sure ve a testimonies, some ladies are really broke and no husbands, some are very rich and no husband. At least u ve a husband, thank God for that. Try something else, start small to know if it will move. I also use to think alot to cos i dont yet have a job after good degrees 1st and 2nd. Its well dear, cheer up. Dont give up, miracles will happen for us. Everywoman wants to be financially stable.
ReplyDeleteThis is a depressed person who is calling out for help. Thakfully, she knows the root cause of her depression; financial and fruit of the womb.
ReplyDeleteI must agree with people here, you MUST seek forgiveness from God for abandoning Him. There is no worst display of arrogance than to direct it towards your maker. I do not blame you. I have been there and I paid dearly, my dear. No matter your situation, always learn to appreciate God in your life and keep praying for His kindness. God's ways are definitely not our ways. While you judge his love based on financial gains and so on, His own ways are mysterious. You only have to hope. You know He alone can fix this and when the time comes, everything will fall into place. You must pray for peace of mind and help yourself too by learning to accept things you have no power over.
Discuss with your husband, and your family as well a way forward. Plan better with the little you have and all well and good if you are able to raise more money. No good in bringing yourself down over nothing. It's all vanity in the end. Please let's take it easy. If you feel you need professional help i.e therapy, don't be ashamed to get that help too. It's your life after all. God help you, sister.
You didn't offend your family. So many dumb comments on this blog. This is just one of those rough phases in life coupled with the recession. When you fall get back up again. Think,try new stuffs and get back on your feet again. What if you don't have parents ? Won't you survive ??
ReplyDeleteHello poster I totally relate, I know how it feels cause I'm presently going through a challenge. Many times I want to give up in prayers but prayer is our only instrument. Please if something discourages to pray look for something to encourage you to and hold on to it. Mindset too!then review your CV and reapply about your shop re-strategiise I have learned to wake up every morning believing that God is on the thrown and as far as I'm awake Hope dey. At least as bad as e bad you marry? Not that alone even a man that can stay at the receiving end. Bless God Pls. keep your home, respect your man and triple your spiritual life. Truth be told no where else to run to. Good luck!
ReplyDeleteDear poster yes u need deliverance and u need to pray but FIRST go on ur knees in ur room alone and ask God to reveal himself to u. And he will once he does the next steps will be clear to u SECONDLY drop a seed in redemption Camp ( I am not a member of redeem) but it's a biblical principle that always works redeem is a fertile land when u sow u reap THIRDLY wake up 12 midnight and just thank him DONT ask for anything .like I said the next steps will be clear to u . And have FAITH except by faith u cannot please GOD . God bless
ReplyDeleteA million thanks to those who understood where this lady is coming from and were sympathetic. God bless you all. For the insensitive ones like Tanya Taylor and idiotic peacemaker, may God forgive you.
ReplyDeleteThat said, poster, I want you to know that you are not alone. A lot of people pass through life struggling with what others find easy. But I tell you my mantra, it is not over until it's over. That's it for me. I will keep pushing, keep seeking till I find my own oasis.
I am married with a daughter and have been ttc for years now, no way. We ve been to the doctors but no money for advanced treatments. The truth is an even afraid to fall pregnant just yet. Why is that? you ask, the answer is finance! My husband is working and earning. I am working too but my pay is peanuts. My husband practically carries the family. My salary is not even enough for my postgraduate program which am currently pursuing and doing little stuff my daughter who is already in secondary school. Life has been one he'll of a struggle but am not giving up. I have done all manner of businesses, buying and selling, poultry, etc I always end up losing the little money I invested. Recently, I started cooking for friends just to make ends meet. I said am not giving up. I have siblings that have been very supportive but am tired of depending on them, I have to make my own money so that I can give to them too. No be only me sabi receive. Recently an opportunity came knocking, I seized it and am hoping to make something from the business.
Some people are wired to be independent. Meaning no matter how much they can be given, they want their own and that's my kind of person. My husband is even very stingy with the little he has, so why will I gold my hands and wait for him. Same reason am even not too enthusiastic about the pregnancy again cos without my own money, hmmmmm, e go hard me. Not that I don't want more kids, I just need to arrange myself so they don't suffer.
So poster, chin up. Go back to praying. Don't ever stop praying. I ve there, I know there are times when you are like, to what ends? Why continue praying when they are never answered but that is d devil speaking. Rebuke him and always pour out your heart to God. Me and am dey sit down talk sef when my head full. Am a very jovial person. My rich friends always tell me they can't put a finger to my source of happiness cos you can never find me downcast. I have my moments but I snap out of it asap. Stop thinking about depression, talk to yourself, make yourself happy and you ll see things taking a different shape. It is well with us.
Your husband practically carries the family but your husband is stingy. Interesting! !!
DeleteAgbaya, you don't know that providing for the family is different from providing for you as an individual. How would you know though? Your dysfunctional family don gree you marry?
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ReplyDeletePoster your case is spiritual oh...disappointments, failure, monitoring spirits, promise and fail..everytyn is even happening to you and am sure suicidal thoughts are coming. My dear I was once in your shoes...it's because you v a great destiny... I had to go the extra mile to deliver myself...you see ehn sometimes our parents v involved us in some things we are not aware of..they won't tell you until someone begins to reveal it they will start confessing..my dear you v to find spiritual help
ReplyDeletePoster there is nothing wrong with you, as I speak with you I am suicidal, graduated since 2011, didn't get a job till 2012 received peanut as salary, secured another managable one in 2013 was able to save, but got drained by family problems am generous and can't withstand my loved ones go thru hardship when I can afford to help out,I was duped of the little money I had,i was trying to start all over again I lost my job, I have no kobo in my name as I speak with you,am very hard working so had to start working from home immediately last year, was able to seal up few contract to keep body and soul together,gotten another job now but hasn't paid for 2 months now,after spending the little I made on my own on tfare and upkeep, poster you know why I said you are lucky you have a man on your side to talk to, for me it has not been easy in that faculty, get attracted to leech who wants to live of me,men who don't fit the bills and are emotionally unavailable, they don't have a single impact in my life and are quick to find fault in me to cover up their track, mind you among my siblings am the prayer warrior since I was a child, not religious in Outlook but dear I love God and reveals things to me about friend and family members except about myself even till date God,have been praying about my future especially maritally since I turned 20,I am one of the earliest blog visitor on SDK and LIB read all the stories about Domestic violence which further fuels my spiritual life to pray more about the choice of a hubby,now still haven't gotten anybody to call mine,have never despised any man cos but the few who came my way had ulterior motives which am always quick to know,and as for family member they all see me as a burden, the once that are married keeps me at arms length, the one I live with wages war with me forgetting it was the sacrifice I made for them that got me in this mess,poster be grateful to God, you why -You have a man and a supportive family and as for the babies they will come just relax,worrying affects conception too,when I read your story,i laughed you are a learner just thank God my dear.
ReplyDeletePoster, you need to invest your time and energy in serving God. Pray until something happens. Make our lord Jesus Christ your all and all, allow him to love you, depend on him, put your hope and trust in him. You only need to believe him. Jeremiah 29:11 says that Gods plans for us are plans of prosperity and not of disaster. Numbers 14:28 As truly as I live, I will do to you the things you have said in my hearing. Isaiah 43:18 do not dwell on the past events or even remember it, for i am doing a new thing in your life. Then in Matthew 6;31 do not worry about what to eat, wear, drink for your Heavenly Father knows you need them. My dear, you need to brace up and draw close to God. Live your life for Christ entirely and watch how he will turn your life around. Please ensure you read the Bible everyday and pray.
ReplyDeleteDid you consider location before starting up your business?not everything we go through in life is spiritual most times we just need to figure out what works for us and aim for it.not everyone is gifted when it comes to business that is why most times the next person to sell there will attract customers.
ReplyDeleteRight from d beginning of ur epistle, i knew u were not a praying lady. U need to pray fervently n violently cos ur case is spiritual. Pray wt d conviction dt God hears n answers prayers. Pray in truth n in spirit(forget abt d worries while praying, just hold on to dt belief dt God answers, in fact cry if u can). Check ds bible verses_ Mat.11:22-24,LK.1:45,Psl.68,Jer.29:7-14,Ish.49:25-26, 2Chron.14:11. Av been thru more than wht u R going thru,but by praying n fasting i av bn delivered. Just have Faith in God.
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