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LAZY MAN WITH ANGER ISSUES...

Stella God bless you for this platform and for allowing God to use you.
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My story is quite long but i will try making it as short as possible. 

I've been dating a guy for seven years now. I was seeking for admission into the uni while he was in his 3rd year in school already when we started dating. He finished service in 2012 and since then he has not been able to secure a good job.

 Once in a while he gets small jobs but something will happen and he will have to leave the job. The last job he had was just some months but he was sacked due to the recession. Now the dude has refused to do anything else and says he has tried everything he possibly can but nothing seems to be working out for him so he wants to just chill and wait for God to bless him one day. He is 30+ already.

 All this years I've been supporting him in all ramifications. Note this guy has never given me money before and I don't ask him because I know he doesn't have.
Recently I started telling him to forget about white collar jobs and look for something else to do even if it's to go learn something he refused like bluntly refused.

 OK what do you want to do? He has nothing in mind. Now we quarrel everyday because of this. Then it's of recent I found out the dude has serious temper issues.

 It's not like I've not been aware of the anger all these years I have but it has taken a new turn of late. He finds it hard to forgive. He believes you should not even make him angry in the first place than coming to tell him sorry after offending him and I keep telling him that it's not possible for us not to disagree on issues sometimes.

 Anytime we have any misunderstanding even if it's a minor issue it takes him days or weeks sometimes up to a month to come back to normal. Mind you I am 27. The two families know each other. I've been to his family house severally so everyone knows me. But deep down me I am scared of that temper and I hate the fact that he doesn't want to go out there and hustle like other men. 

His temper is so bad that anytime he's angry he can say anything to me. I cant start writing all he says to me.The last argument we had about this job thing he called and said I should leave him since I feel time is running out but he came back to beg later.

infact he's still begging because i stopped calling or picking his calls after he said that as i was so angry.
Did I mention that am done with service since last year and doing a little job right now. I offered to give him a certain amount last year for him to use to start something but he refused and said the money won't be enough to start anything. That he needs a bigger amount.

Now everything is just weighing me down. Anytime I bring up the issue of him going to look for something to do he would start saying I am pressurizing him unneccessarily and that I've changed from what I used to be. I have never demanded anything whatsoever from him so I don't understand whenever he says am pressurizing him.

 I just want him to get something doing. He is the only guy I've ever dated. So I don't know what to do. There's a guy I've known since my service year in 2015. I met him when I was looking for a house. He was very helpful then. We are from the same state. Well the guy picked interest in me then but I told him I had someone so he decided to back off. But he never stopped calling. He calls once in a while to check on me. Till last Xmas he started calling everyday and that was the period I was in everyday heated argument with my boyfriend.

 The guy keeps calling and checking up on me. last month he got a new job in another state and had to leave that state I was ( I stayed back in that state after service because I got a little job I am managing) but he has not stopped calling. Then now he has been using style to say things about forever with me and how I keep pushing him away every time. 

Stella I need your red pen here. Fellow Bvs pls dont cuss me out i just need good advice.

I am confused. I don't know what to do. Should I give the new guy a chance or should I stick with my boyfriend and see if I can work out the anger and job thing?I have rejected so many guys because of him Is it possible to change that anger? Will he get worse?

`Stay and change what?Are you a destiny changer?..Please give the new guy and chance and leave him there to loaf..Must you end up with him cos hes your first guy?Do you think eery lady out there married their first guys?I didnt Marry MY NNDI..lol

Please,since he wants to loaf and seems to keep blaming you for his laziness.move on abeg you!