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ISH OF LIVING WITH YOUR SPOUSE' FAMILY

Hi stella please hide my email,all protocols observed.i am going to go straight to the point, this chronicle is long overdue and I was forced to send after I read Monday's own.

Hmm to my story,i met my hubby in a neutral state from where we both lived (different states), we hit it off,i was just coming out of a bad relationship then,he was really nice,humble and caring,he didn't have a job then but promised that after he gets one,we would be staying outside his state( Delta)

Along the line I got pregnant,marriage was already in the works,i had to move to where he was staying(in his state with his family),eventually after all the job hunting,he didn't get a job outside his state and got one in Delta.

Here's where my ordeal began,we were living in the same compound as his family,i lived in Abuja all my life and was not used to certain lifestyles,i had to adjust,his family are terrible people,if I start to recount incidents,this post would be too long..I have begged,fought,cajoled that we move from there to another apartment,he keeps promising.

He's the only son and his mom doesn't joke with him,interferes in everything concerning our lives,gossips about me to her daughters,she wanted us cooking together but I stood my ground.

I've been degraded to the lowest point in my life,there was a time i ran to my parents with my daughter,but they sent me back that we didn't raise you up like this,now I have 3 kids and stuck here.

Mind you,he kneels and cries and promise me heaven and earth about moving out of the family home,yet we are still there 8 years now,i regret ever agreeing to this arrangement in the first place,to be fair,he wanted us to move out in the beginning,but I said since it was an empty apartment,he should let us manage since he just started working then,so  never ever ever live with a man and his family,the law of "see finish" will enter.

My family can't visit,they are not comfortable with the arrangement,i'm so fed up and depressed most of the time,i'm a shadow of myself,i have no say when it comes to my kids,though I started being rebellious at one point,i became an object of ridicule even their maid disrespects me,i feel so downgraded,given my upbringing and where I am now,a graduate from Obafemi Awolowo University,now i'm like a village woman living in bondage,it is well..

I am hopeful and pray God touches and provides for us,so we can move and become the family I pray for,this has really affected my marriage.if my husband buys fast food,he'll have to sneak it in,if not they would gossip,if I dress up to go out I have to let them know my movements,but they go out without informing me.let me stop here.

So single ladies out there,never make the mistake of staying close to your inlaws,ever.we live in the same compound,different apartments,it's a small compound.
Men please I beg you,never subject your wife to the mercy of your people thanks.

*The way you make your bed is how you will lie on it!...Why must you inform them of your movement?I dont understand that........