WHAT HAPPENED TO GODS PROMISES?
Dear Stella......I want to say thank you....thank you for all you've done and for what you're still doing... But mostly?thank you for this blog....you're miles away but you don't know how many times you've saved me from suicide.....your blog is the only thing keeping me sane and the amazing BV's here....Atheist, Jobless,Villager, Dopple ganger,Ideato and her bus(smile)Larry,Queen and Boss and all the no ID Visitors....Thank you.
My name is Amara and I finished my ND2 last year(2016) having gained admission 2014 and the quest for the compulsory 1year IT commenced...I Left Owerri where I schooled and returned to Calabar where I reside with my mum and sibling having lost dad years ago. Before coming home I had contemplated my options which were:
1.Stay in Owerri and look for an IT place(this meant I was going to have to pay for a year house rent as I have no relatives here....plus feeding)
2.Return to Calabar......stay with the family and look for work this was a better option as shelter would be provided and food*even if I ate once was better*.
Now while in school.....I paid everything for myself ranging from house rent to school fees to books to food(I went for lectures on so many occasion without food accompanied by headache.....
I zealously searched for a job,submitted my CV to everywhere and each time the door was shut to my face...I went back home dejected. I decided to at least intern for a media house(gain practical knowledge) while still searching for a paying job. I got an intern job for a radio house as a News editor and writer this year....and I commenced(you needed to have seen the joy etched on my mother's face)...she felt I was getting paid...Stella I couldn't tell her(that I wasn't been paid)I picked up real quick and started writing and editing news stories to be aired...
The final straw happened on 14th Feb. I had written the morning news and was about starting the entertainment news when I was told to mind the reception as the copper(receptionist) went for her CD's.Mr X was angry,I didn't have a choice I went. Couple of hours later Mr X came to the reception asked me to go cover a Press conference and collected my number (he didn't have my number before then),I packed up and was about leaving when Mr Y sighted me through the window and called me...I told him where I was headed and he asked me to return to the reception saying that Mr X Should look for someone else in fact he said he was posting me permanently to reception and a little tussle over me started between Mr X and Y. (Recall that Mr Y had asked me sometime ago if anyone including mr X was asking me out...Kilode...Mr X would never do such...he was a principled man who was sometimes hostile towards me)
While at home my phone rang..."incoming call Mr X" he asked i was at work that "THEY" wanted to invite me for a drink...at a place close to where I live..I told mother who like me saw no harm in it and off I went,I had boarded a taxi when the venue was changed (I don come out already) I proceeded to the new venue....in fact Mr X Told me that he was with a couple of people from NUJ and I wanted to meet with them.I got there,he came out,took me inside and voila! NUJ I no see,
I have sat in company of people saying "who good girl EPP"(where is God and his promises to faithful people)My mother is a skeletal picture of who she once was...I Havent eaten all day...I have contemplated suicide....runz.....everything! People "men can't seem to help without wanting something in return" and I don't know any female who would help.........Where is the steadfastness of God?
Dear Stella......I want to say thank you....thank you for all you've done and for what you're still doing... But mostly?thank you for this blog....you're miles away but you don't know how many times you've saved me from suicide.....your blog is the only thing keeping me sane and the amazing BV's here....Atheist, Jobless,Villager, Dopple ganger,Ideato and her bus(smile)Larry,Queen and Boss and all the no ID Visitors....Thank you.
My name is Amara and I finished my ND2 last year(2016) having gained admission 2014 and the quest for the compulsory 1year IT commenced...I Left Owerri where I schooled and returned to Calabar where I reside with my mum and sibling having lost dad years ago. Before coming home I had contemplated my options which were:
1.Stay in Owerri and look for an IT place(this meant I was going to have to pay for a year house rent as I have no relatives here....plus feeding)
2.Return to Calabar......stay with the family and look for work this was a better option as shelter would be provided and food*even if I ate once was better*.
Now while in school.....I paid everything for myself ranging from house rent to school fees to books to food(I went for lectures on so many occasion without food accompanied by headache.....
It was difficult,very difficult),I was able to fend for myself because I got a job while in school....so I merged school with work and managed to keep a GP of 3point and above through out my two years,because of the work I didn't travel during holidays in school so while others traveled I stayed back to work,in fact I was catering for my family from school...I was sending money home to my mum...but towards the final exams I had to stop work as it was seriously interfering with school.
I came back home only to meet mother at home doing nothing and on inquiry she told me there was nothing left in her shop... I went to see for myself and Stella,it was empty and along with the empty shop went my desire to intern for a media house having read Mass Communication, my family was starving,i had to search for a paying job so we could at least feed(my greatest fear was for my HND....would I return to school?How would I pay for fees if I did).
I zealously searched for a job,submitted my CV to everywhere and each time the door was shut to my face...I went back home dejected. I decided to at least intern for a media house(gain practical knowledge) while still searching for a paying job. I got an intern job for a radio house as a News editor and writer this year....and I commenced(you needed to have seen the joy etched on my mother's face)...she felt I was getting paid...Stella I couldn't tell her(that I wasn't been paid)I picked up real quick and started writing and editing news stories to be aired...
Now to the Main issue
The radio house is divided into department with a head maning each dept,(let's call those heads X)these heads answer to a general boss "Y" who in turn answers to the owner of the radio station "Z" which implies that I have 3 bosses in general. Four days after I commenced work as boss Y gave me the employment he asked me to accompany him to lunch with another colleague of mine,a male, was I to say No to my boss?(beside I thought it was somewhere close to to the Station as lots of Bistros where around here....I was a bit mortified when he stopped a taxi and we entered,we got to a hotel (I still consoled myself as I felt perhaps he had his lunches here)...
The radio house is divided into department with a head maning each dept,(let's call those heads X)these heads answer to a general boss "Y" who in turn answers to the owner of the radio station "Z" which implies that I have 3 bosses in general. Four days after I commenced work as boss Y gave me the employment he asked me to accompany him to lunch with another colleague of mine,a male, was I to say No to my boss?(beside I thought it was somewhere close to to the Station as lots of Bistros where around here....I was a bit mortified when he stopped a taxi and we entered,we got to a hotel (I still consoled myself as I felt perhaps he had his lunches here)...
My sister OGA collected card to a room and we all went upstairs where he says he lives,before I knew it my colleague escaped Vam!!,I no see am again and before I could say Jack Mr "Y" was untop of me speaking French,I begged, I threatened,he kept saying he didn't want to sleep with me that he wanted to feel me.....Feel me?
I didn't keep myself for years to be felt by him...I entered prayer...Before I knew it he left me(he didn't sleep with me) and I ran for the hills...Stella the horror of rape is something else....no wonder some rape victims kill themselves.
I got home with shame,didn't tell Mother, intact I didn't even acknowledged it(I wanted so badly to wish it away)I was confused as I didn't know if I should return to work...I called a female friend who told me to return to work and watch out for any action from Mr Y(I did)since I wasn't working directly with him and I saw him less,it was a bit bearable. I answered to Mr X who in turn answered to Mr Y.Now Mr X is someone whom I have the deepest respect and regards for,he com emends my zealousness and even throws more work my way saying he had lots to impact in me if I remained focused intact I went with few of my colleagues to his son's one year birthday party and I had the honour of meeting his wife....but damn(Crying) he had to act crazy!
The final straw happened on 14th Feb. I had written the morning news and was about starting the entertainment news when I was told to mind the reception as the copper(receptionist) went for her CD's.Mr X was angry,I didn't have a choice I went. Couple of hours later Mr X came to the reception asked me to go cover a Press conference and collected my number (he didn't have my number before then),I packed up and was about leaving when Mr Y sighted me through the window and called me...I told him where I was headed and he asked me to return to the reception saying that Mr X Should look for someone else in fact he said he was posting me permanently to reception and a little tussle over me started between Mr X and Y. (Recall that Mr Y had asked me sometime ago if anyone including mr X was asking me out...Kilode...Mr X would never do such...he was a principled man who was sometimes hostile towards me)
Now,someone else was sent to represent me....usually while in the News room...I leave work at about 6:30 to 7pm but the receptionists left by 5pm and since that was my job for the day I left by 5pm,I didn't tell my boss Mr X because he had earlier left.
While at home my phone rang..."incoming call Mr X" he asked i was at work that "THEY" wanted to invite me for a drink...at a place close to where I live..I told mother who like me saw no harm in it and off I went,I had boarded a taxi when the venue was changed (I don come out already) I proceeded to the new venue....in fact Mr X Told me that he was with a couple of people from NUJ and I wanted to meet with them.I got there,he came out,took me inside and voila! NUJ I no see,
Colleagues from work nkor? I no see(OYO was my name) My dear, he kept everything Official,spoke about my interest,how he started,difficulties at work and with work etc but realization dawn on me when his chair started shifting towards me and he started with Chinese..... He professed love to me and place his hands that contained his marital ring on my breast!(I died ) I didn't even know how I got home...I held this man in high esteem for Christ sake!
I screamed,I cried I prayed! Mr Y was a bit bearable but Mr X?(I work with him daily), Stella I have been a good child my whole life....I have hawked ice water when it was the in thing (two for five naira) I graduated to pure water....I go to venues of events to pack empty bottle water containers which I sold,I have sold cartoons to chair makers to name a few. Where do I go from here?My account balance is 325naira. That is all I have to my name...I paid my tithes while I was working in school....I havent slept with any married man...infact with anyone despite all the temptation and devil talking inside of my head.
I have sat in company of people saying "who good girl EPP"(where is God and his promises to faithful people)My mother is a skeletal picture of who she once was...I Havent eaten all day...I have contemplated suicide....runz.....everything! People "men can't seem to help without wanting something in return" and I don't know any female who would help.........Where is the steadfastness of God?
his mercies that never comes to an end? To his banner over me being that of love....What happened to his promises? To Mathew 7:7....I have done the right thing all my life where do I go from here?(My mothers container is wasting away and I am certain that I can handle a business while generating profit for school but how do I achieve that with an account less than a thousand naira? Am gradually fading into oblivion...... I have put up a brave face for so long am afraid I might crack .(forgive any typographical error)...Life is not fair....
what do I do?
*Hold on ,GOD will show up when all hope is lost...this is just the threshing floor!..Keep your legs closed especially at this time and watch what God will do.
Hmmmm!
ReplyDeleteWomen should try to be industrious and not put burden on their children. Now her mother is sitting at home and expecting a young lady that is supposed to build a future to be giving her money for every single thing. It is unfair. Your mum can get a job even if its a nanny job. Cos you will just keep running around like a headless chicken.
DeleteI have asked myself that question countless times, who good girl epp? The ones who sleep around and all that, end up better than the good girl. Why! Why!!
DeleteTilly ur right I knw wat my mumwent 2ru to bring us 2 wer we are 2day,4rm one trade to anoda n she neva belivd in us husling 4 ourselvs till we graduated. Na wah oo
Delete@tilly,nne you lied,she will not keep running around like a headless chicken. God will surely remember her.
Delete@tilly,nne you lied,she will not keep running around like a headless chicken. God will surely remember her.
DeleteThe only thing that should be keeping you sane is your bible....if u invest the time on blogs in praying and seeking Gods face you will definitely get direction for your life....life is in phases and we all have our wilderness period...keep trusting God, he is faithful and this too shall pass.
DeleteMost times some lazy mothers expose their kids to all sorts of dangers. Knowing fully well that their kids will do all things to make them happy, but at least do every thing you could to see your child through school.
DeleteHer mum dey lazy,too lazy for my liking.pls madam, learn how to make hair ,its faster to make money from making hair. You can stay in your mother's shop to make the hair and your mother shud sell even if its pure water.she shud not sit down and depend on you. She shud be ashamed of herself.
DeletePreciousp God will not come down to help. God will bless the work that her hands find to do. We shouldn't have that Nigerian movie mentality that one person will just come and take care of all her bills and problems and be her "helper".
DeleteFeb 14 of 2017 was on tuesday my sister n Cds is always thursday. Abeg wher u say dat copper go again sef.
DeleteDo u remember d part of d bible dat says faith without works is dead, he who doesn't work shudn't eat....#workhard n God will bless d Labour of ur hand. I pray u find money2 start up sometin#Grace. More ova stop following men 2 enclosed places, meet only in open place eg eateries. U are Smarter.
Aunty CDS can be any day of the week excluding mondays
DeleteHmmmm..... it is well
ReplyDeleteI totally understand how you feel poster,this is my husband's story but worse coz he is an orphan. We quarrel everyday esp wen money arise. He will start narratting how no one wants to help him and how much God hates him because how can he be so hardworking,avoiding crimes his friends are asking him to join and yet nothing to show,that very soon he ll commit sucide. Because of money and this his sucide mission, marriage sucks and I keep praying to God to please show up for us. We have a toddler and what do I tell her if this man fufuils his wish????
DeleteI cried last night like a baby to God, I dunno whatelse to do.
Poster big hug is all I can say and stay hopeful like me. Thats all I have left
Pls go n do family plannin, it is free in health centres o. Go n work 4 ursef too
DeleteMy dear girl, all hope is not lost and do not despair.
ReplyDeleteIt is so unfortunate that your mother can't take care of you and your sibling making you carry the whole burden of the family.
I wish you lived in Lagos, I would have found how to help you with a tellering job with your ND2. I know many people who did same like you and were able to further their education with the salary they earn as a teller with a bank.
Please leave that job and those nasty men behind. Do not let them deter you and do what you'd forever regret.sleeping with them won't solve all your problems, it will only complicate things.
You need to talk to your mother, she needs to look around and get money to kickstart her business again. Your father died doesn't mean she has to blame her failure on it.
You need to stop covering for her too, you are only a child yourself and you didn't ask to be born.
Tell her all you're going through and if she is truly a good mother she'd sit up and start to take responsibility for your welfare.
This is sad and women need to learn to be independent without a man.
Now your dad is gone and everyone is suffering for it.
You need to talk to her please.
I think Fidelity Bank is Recruiting, just try, even if its a teaching job
DeleteDoppelganger please still keep your offer open to her if she has relative or friend she can stay with in Lagos and her HND will just on part time.
DeleteMadam after your IT, pls look for work.and do HND later
DeleteMost parent feel that it is your responsibility to carry out the entire responsibility in the house once you have started working be it domestic or finance it's not as if she have health issue, so annoying, please sit your mum down and talk to her, even if na pure water she dey sell for her shop it is a plus. So that you will not look older than your age,My mum once tried that with me, i had to sit her down.
DeleteI really don't see the need for this chronicle.
ReplyDeleteStop hanging out with them outside the office. Give tangible excuses
Keep it official with and maintain working relationship strictly at the office, nowhere else.
Open your eyes and start searching for another job.
The thing tire me ohh, this is no chronicle, you should have come out plain seeking for job, babes if you want what you don't want your suffering and labouring wasted, STOP all those unnecessary waka waka, haba mana.
DeleteShe needs help that what makes it a chronicle, not only marital or relationship problem is a considered a chronicle.
DeleteEmjay your stupidity hasn't abated...blog lord as for you, do u even read to comprehend before you comment?
DeleteStella owns her blog and she determines if its a chronicle or not. Even if she begs, is your write to her or let others do. Thank God you are not God you for NO allow rain nor sunshine.
DeleteSee epistle. Just come out and beg.
ReplyDeleteNext time make it short and straight to the point
You are an idiot. You see someone opening up and all you can think of it this? This is why God gets angry at people and decide not to answer their prayers. You do not have anything good to comment, DON'T! To the poster. Keep on believing in God. See it as a stepping stone to something greater.
DeleteNa begging na. All na tactics. I Hope she is truthful. Stella how are you sure she is saying the truth.
DeleteLet me have your acc num to support if you are saying the truth o
My dear God never forsakes His own okay
ReplyDeleteJust hold on for a little more time and He will surprise you beyond your imaginations
Never lose FAITH
Bear Hugss
Hold on dear lady.....your miracle is on the way!
ReplyDeleteGod will see you through in this trying time.
ReplyDeleteLong live SDK
You are/were a news editor?
ReplyDeleteHow?
With your terrible English? NBC will keep dashing license to unqualified people.
As much as I want to pity you, my spirit does not agree with you, i think you are lying, call it a result of sob stories all over the blog and you maybe right.
But my instinct has NEVER failed me.
Let those who agree with your spirit reach out to you.
You don't need any advise.
But her English is not terrible..Urs is.
DeleteAnon 15:15, people like u are one of the reasons good ones go astray in this country. So, this write-up isn't good enough grammatically? Abeg pack well,she ddnt ask for insult. You cld have read without commenting.
DeleteBruh/sis she writes well
DeleteInnugo
She writes very well! So much that I even started doubting if she didn't give a prof to write for her
DeleteYou are right Lora. Someone with an ND writes like this and you call it terrible hmm SMH
DeleteShe writes too good for an OND graduate. Which school did u grad from? (An intern as editor and writer ;!! )
DeleteThe story sha get as e be. Every1 has gone thru a difficult phase at one time in their live, so yurs isn't different.
I feel u need encouragement, so I say don't lose hope.
For advise, be open to yur mother and don't hide ur feelings from her as u don't have anyone except her &ur siblings.
Avoid socialism with those men. Be official.
Look for another job if the pressure become unbearable.
Do you really have to insult her?. And commenting is nt compulsory u can read and also give it a deaf ears, if u don't hv any reasonable thing to say. Not to post rubbish here.Nobdy needs ur opinion sf take note.
DeleteYou and(or) your mum needs a source of income.wish I could help.Ask God to send helpers your way.
ReplyDelete"Tough times don't last but tough people do"...your testimony will be"God made a way where there seems to be no way".
Disguised begging. Cant you just wait and apply properly for a giveaway? Why the pointless epistle? What is there to learn from? That some married men and bosses are dogs? Old news. That life is hard? Before nko! That widows often have it hard raising kids? Sure! You need money, to restock your mum's shop, to enroll for HND, you need help with a good job. Just come out and say so! The epistle was unnecessary.
ReplyDeleteSome of una dey reason like children o,how would she just come out so to say she needs a job without giving reasons why she needs it,who would want to help her for the former?
DeleteMay you and your daughters(either born or unborn) experience what she went through. Then you will be able to write the short version of the epistle. Fucking retard.
DeleteShe even wrote her acct balance join..make we know say na money she needs..
DeleteAll d chronicles we read now is about financial difficulties and coded begging..
Stella na u dey cause am..Anytime. A chronicle poster gets a financial blessing from an anonymous bvs,pls don't let us know..Let ur be between u and them.
Many people are capitalizing on it to send sob stories just to beg.
Anonymous gangster u hit d nail on d head! Dis one na coded begging d babe de do! All dis her stories na tales by moonlight! Nne open up and ask! Nor de give ds kind long boring stories mbok!learn and try to be diplomatic in ur begging! Ur story abi na tales, too long! No time abeg!
DeleteAnd if she is begging nko? Even the bible said ask and it shall be given unto you.if you are not a giver,pls dey your lane and quit with the insults already. The country is hard for everyone much less people like this.
DeleteFor standing with God even in this trying time he will show up for your defense and help.
ReplyDeleteIsaiah 40v8; The grass withers and the flowers fall, but the word of our God endures forever.
ReplyDeleteTrust absolutely in God, He would show up when you least expect. No matter what do not succumb to pressure.
It is well with you.
A lot of Nigerian men are badly trained pigs. The mother's here today should take it upon themselves to train their son's well. Nigerian mother's no try at all. A lot of our men are cheating, entitled, oversexualized criminals. It says a lot about what kind of men Nigerian women are married to that their son's think doing these immoral acts to women outside is ok. These men also forget that they may not be alive to protect their daughters in future and must always be a good example and sow a good seed where ever they go! We wonmen need to stand for ourselves and speak out against the harassment of the girl child in Nigeria!
ReplyDeleteMy dear, sorry.
ReplyDeleteWhy are u tolerating sexual abuse and harassment at a job u are not even paid for?
ReplyDeleteHmm, I never even thought about this. Poster this is a viable question that needs an answer; why??? I feel sorry for you though, but you've been doing so well. God that has brought you this far will continue to uphold you. Quit the job though, you are not gaining anything other than sexual harassment
DeleteBeats me o
DeleteI think she is gaining knowledge there and that's the more reason she isn't thinking of leaving yet even though she isn't paid.
DeletePoster the Lord is your strength.
ReplyDeleteYour miracle is on the way
Hmmmm, a sure candidate for Angel's blessing after due FBI to avoid stories that scratch the bum
ReplyDeleteHey Stella is there a way to help directly . Nothing is too small
ReplyDeleteAre u d chronicle poster? How many people have u helped here? I smell wayo.
DeleteNa the chronicle writers dey say please publish her account number. So many wayp beggers with multiple id.
DeleteHopefully your own father did not do the same to innocent and desperate girls too
ReplyDeleteI can relate, God pls show yourself now. Poster pls don't give up, hold on to God.
ReplyDeleteBe strong dear...pls keep closing your legs. God is not asleep HE will soon carry your matter for head.
ReplyDeleteMy dear God will show up, don't give up
ReplyDeleteDon't trade your destiny for few minutes of pleasure
Stand your ground and resist the devil
Sex does not end we you have/ had it. It linger on and spiritual
Be careful
Tiwa
So your mother cannot find something doing or maintain her shop
DeleteMy mother is a single mom too but she didn't start depending on her children
Parents lead children into prostitution faster than I phone
Sorry not sorry
Poster what is it that you want from us exactly
DeleteWe should stop you from IT?.
We should feed your mom that doesn't want to help herself?.
Your the first person to be sexually harassed at work?.
We should teach you common sense of not following bosses to eat?.
We should stock your mom's container?.
We should fund your account balance?
Or you just feel like telling us a story about work environment?
Try to be more specific when begging
Sorry not sorry
People are really heartless I swear! Put urself in her shoes! Of it was u that told this story would u want to receive this kind of reply? Mxw!!! If u know u have a heartless opinion, keep it to urself. That's the last thing she needs now. Fools everywhere. Wisdom all of Una dy lack
DeleteSorry dear.
ReplyDeleteWhen it comes to sex, there's no principled man.
If u never catch ur own no mean say he no dey do.
Poster is well all u need is faith just little faith. God never abandon u. He is packaging your blessings. O bu nwa ngbe nta. Inugo Dnt think of suicide take it as a challenge that you will overcome some day. Is ur mum old if not let her look for something to do to help herself not sit waiting for you young lady to do magic is well
ReplyDeleteAmawbia ugbo ogiriga
Can poster contact me?
ReplyDeleteI pray God to do wonders in your life and family this week. May the remaining days of this year and beyond be filled with pleasant surprises for you.
ReplyDeleteGet ready cos dis ur story will attract blessings ur way on this blog... just don't give in my dear
DeleteHelp is coming! Hold on. I'd like to give my widows might,as a seed! #myStory
ReplyDeleteMy mother is leaving my house first thing tomorrow morning never to come back. why will she slap my wife? On our anniversary? This is the height of it! She will never step her foot in my house again.
DeleteWerey re o
DeleteAnonymous 16:05 God bless you so much. How can she slap her fellow woman in her home? Isi omebiri ya? Wicked woman! In fact ehn,if you don't do what you just said spirits will keep slapping both you and your witch of a mother. Nwanyi onye ala
DeleteAnon easy ooo
DeleteShe's still your mother
You're a good man
DeleteDude! You don't say! Please, yarn us more! See Better chronicle! Download bro, make house weigh in with valuable insight. But in all, be ready to forgive mumc if she repents.
DeleteExercise patient.
DeleteHope you told her? Then why are you telling us? Slap her back. Why us she not leaving today? Are you poor?
Delete@anony 16:05...wetin ur wife do ur mama wey make her give her hot slap... Nd u Av to bring it here....
Delete@fan Emmanuel. Ezi ofia. E be like say ur ashawo mother no train u well? See how u opened ur mouth and called someone's mother a witch..I guess ur mother is a witch for u to call someone's mother dat..U are just an ill mannered slum whore..I.pity d poverty stricken man who married u..Ozu rere ere..
DeleteI blame d poster for bringing his family matter here where 90% of women are bitter and miserable..see how they are cussing ur own mother..U did not even state what ur wife did to warrant such slap..U are a born bastard for bringing it here..U want all these bitter men haters to aplaud u? Woman wrapper. Ode ni e! Clap for ueself..Ode!
Why your mama go slap your wife? Is wrong but biko take it easy with your mum, your mother is still your mother no matter what.
DeleteHmmm men men men God punish una o. May God come to ur rescue poster,be strong.
ReplyDeleteHmmm men men men God punish una o. May God come to ur rescue poster,be strong.
ReplyDeleteThis is really serious. Poster,i'm very sorry for your situation and i pray you find help here.
ReplyDeletePoster hope in God don't defile yourself.
ReplyDeleteDo anyone knows when Nysc batch A 2016 will pass out
April 7th
DeleteHmmmmmm. Life is not fair because the devil is really fighting your destiny to rule.
ReplyDeleteContinue having this positive mindset that God is not asleep on your case.
You are passing through test and don't give up because very soon you will sing joyful songs.
Useless ogas every where. Don't allow them to sleep with you. Continue being the good girl you are. God got your back because it will soon be over.
In short laugh the devil very well.
Hmmmmm...Amara,the grace of God will definitely show up for you. Don't ever give up on God cos he won't give up on you.
ReplyDeleteKeep prophesying the word of God into your life, keep telling yourself you must rise and shine for your light has come and the glory of they Lord has risen upon on... There's always light at the end of the tunnel. The devil has seen your gracious glorious destiny and he's contending fiercely with it.
Stand tall,don't ever sleep with any man for money, its doesn't worth it. Hold on to God and his promises he will defiantly show up for you. I've being in your shoes before and I refused to sell my glorious destiny for a plate of food, today am happy fulfilled , and doing wonderfully well in my career. God never forsake those that look upon him for help.
It is well o.k. just be strong, its a phase..this too shall pass.
SDK let's see how we can help her out in our little way now. Am ready to support with my widow's mite.
With the number of lies and beggars on this blog I don't know who is lying or truthful, many of u come with sob stories to indirectly beg, I would have sent something to u but I have a feeling many of u lie alot to get pity, this is Nigeria.white berry and Quincy, s people
ReplyDeleteTrue
DeleteI concur especially that Quincy Arghhhh!!! Sob stories to garner sympathy
DeleteNo o,i believe her story die,you don't know the kind of temptation we face in this Calabar o,btw from her chronicle I think it's a job she needs,she is not begging for money,she is ready to work,she Writes well
DeleteJust give her.. if it's a lie or if it's true let her answer to God... God bless you in advance
DeleteInvestigation won't be a bad idea. Abi Stella? To know how genuine theses stories are, send BVs in such localities to go investigate.
DeleteSo.let me get it straight. How do we want people who need help and are desperate to cry out?
DeleteIf they come out straight, we call them beggars. If they write a history so we know where they are coming from or challenging it is we call hem names.
Then when they commit suicide wep post RIP or you didn't have to kill yourself. And if people genuinely write telling us things they go through we still call them names.
How do we want people bti call out when help is needed.
People are going through challenges especially now. Haba.
Am just saying people should be free to air their feelings without being called names or judged.
If you want to help, by all means. If not live on.
You have no idea the hardship people are going through.
May God help us.
God bless you sister!If people don t speak out,i mean,share their struggles and challenges.How would they get help?You are not compelled to help her...if you can't help her,please don't discourage others.
DeleteLady T u are on point! Nigerians sef! People are going thru HELL!!! My own dy learn where Dre own dy. At least, try and be sympathetic. People need it not the judgements.
DeleteLady T you are really in the spirit... Name calling everywhere. Nawoo ooo
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ReplyDeleteSome people are suffering! I really feel for you and hope help comes your way soon. Have faith dear. Don't give up pls!
2 Corinthians 12:9
ReplyDelete"My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness."
Don't give up now, dearest. God is never late and He is faithful to His promises
Let me tell you a story. I was in a coma for 3 days. My mom asked the same questions you are asking now too. "God I have been faithful to you all these years. I pay my tithe unfailingly. How could you let this happen?" Dear, God showed up. Doctors said I suffered a brain damage. I woke up from the coma with no problems. My head was fine. No internal bleeding. They said they were not sure if I'd walk again. My darling, I walk even better than before now. So I'm encouraging you to hold on. Don't give in to the pressures of anyone. God is not asleep my dear. He will show up right on time and manifest His Glory in your life for all to see.
Jeremiah 29:11 says He thinks good thoughts concerning us, to bring us to an expected end. I am cheering for, dearest. Be strong and courageous, the Lord will fight for you.
Let's pray together. Dear Lord, we commit Amaka into your Hands. O Lord, please show forth Your mighty power in her life. Strengthen her Lord, and give her rest. We cancel every form of discouragement ND depression and we ask that You fill her with Your peace that surpasses all understanding and Joy of the Holy Ghost. We trust You Lord and we hope in you. Thank you Lord for answered prayers. In Jesus' name we pray Amen!
You are in my thoughts, dearest and Your testimonyis right by the corner.
Sending you love and hugs
Oh dear, just feeling your pains here. Please hold on, God will visit you soon.
ReplyDeleteFor a job you are not getting paid
ReplyDeleteI believe your story. Stop work. Your two bosses can gang up for your emotional trauma there. Work were you'll get paid like teaching
ReplyDeleteDear Poster, I have to say Congratulations to you.
ReplyDeleteYou deserve to be congratulated because in feel that your time is now because the night is darker when its about to be dawn.
Reading your story gave me chills and made me sad at someone too, someone who has been given an opportunity and she decided to mess it up - an orphan for that matter. And here you are with all the zeal in you yet suffering.
Wipe your tears, that shop will come alive and you must go back to school.
Tell your mother to hold on and never give up. Something good is already happening and you will see it.
I commend your bravery even in this world where every other thing seem to be upside down.
Wow..how do I contact you
ReplyDeletenothing good come easily, hope u watching bbnaija? U see the way they all kissing and flirting with each other because of 25m.... If gifty can kiss that kemen mouth,if bisola can give head on a national TV and still get votes then know that you nerd to act desperate to archive your goal.
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DeleteTrue talk, I honestly think U shld do what U need to do to survive. You are starving yet U have people around willing to help. If U die today from starvation, your story dies with you. But you can do what U need to survive today and then give a testimony tomorrow.
My two cents!
Dear Poster, pls ignore anonymous 15:58 and 16:49
DeleteLeave that office and go find another job. Talk to your mum too to get up and work! Let Stella know how to reach you.
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ReplyDeletePoster, listen to me!God is about to caterpult you to another level.
ReplyDeleteWait.. i really dont understand this.
ReplyDeleteYou went into the organization knowing they dont pay right?
So what is the problem?
Most of you will get a good platform and then mess it up with too much story.
Go straight to the point.. you need a job!! Then you factor in places you've worked before(experience) and what your mom is going through.
Now majority of the people here might forget the main issue and start giving you advice on how to avoid men that want to sleep with you in an organisation you are not being paid to work!!
Its well abeg.
Hopefully an angel picks your call here. You need a JOB,your Mom needs her shop stocked.
Then with your savings,you will like to go back to school right? Simple!
Gbam
DeleteYou're working in a place where u'r not paid n they traet u like this?
Just keep praying to God. He'll make a way for you.
ReplyDeletePoster i feel your pain hold on nd keep working hard, be a strong woman, as for men alot are without sense,if they try such set them up collect the little you can with crossed legs run. Staying with legs crossed is not easy but you gotta be smart about it hon, may God come to your aid soon...... I repeat alot of men are without sense
ReplyDeleteMy darling, just because life isn't fair doesn't mean God is not faithful. Like the lyrics of the chorus of one of my favourite gospel songs by Bob Fits goes; "...when the stars refuse to shine and time is no more, you'll still be faithful, you'll still be faithful Lord." No matter how horrible life is, it doesn't affect God's awesomeness. The tricky part which is mostly unfair is, there are no guarantees in life except that you will ALWAYS reap what you sow. The "when", "where" and "how" is unknown.
ReplyDeleteI'm not trying to belittle your pains and challenges but please, my darling, NEVER allow your challenges make you question the sovereignty of God. I'm sure you've always replied: "all the time" when someone says "God is good", no? God doesn't stop being good just because everything around you seems to fall apart. You are alive by the same mercies of God you now question. If you were laying cold in a grave, God forbid, you'll be oblivious to challenges. Your mum is now a shadow of herself, what if you no longer have a mum? Are you aware that there are millions of people who will trade places with you in a heartbeat? There are millions of people who will do anything to go to school but there's no help in sight for them.
You escaped being raped twice and you wonder where God is? So what if you were raped, would you have renounced your faith and become an atheist? (No disrespect meant BV @Atheist, e-kisses).You have a place you can upgrade your craft, do you think you got that opportunity by your intellect or power? Are you really that pius? Are you so righteous, Job kinda righteousness, that you feel you've earned a better life? You do know the story about Job, yeah? Have you considered if what you're going through is a test? Does your loyalty to God become compromised when what you assume should be your reward, seems to delay?
Listen, my love, scream! Wail! Cry yourself a river if you must but NEVER allow your problems reduce the size of your God. The discipline as christians striving to be true followers of Christ is to get to the mind space where we say "it is well with my soul" regardless of what we're going through, like the author of the hymn "it is well", try to read about how that hymn was composed then you'll realise how lucky you are. Instead of looking for female helpers, why not return to the Cross and look to Christ for help? The arm of flesh will fail you. The same female helper can pimp you off to an "uncle".
No doubt you've had a hard life, you can't let that weaken your resolve. Keep trusting God, some of the most outstanding success stories had tragic beginnings. Develop the attitude of gratitude. Always be grateful, no matter how bad you think your life is, someone somewhere has it worse and will gladly trade places with you. Hang in there, honey, joy doesn't come at night but it CERTAINLY comes in the morning.
#e-bearhugs.
In conclusion Ron, she should count her blessings and name them one by one, it will surprise her what the Lord has done.
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DeleteI read this story of yours, could care less that you hope help will come out of this... but i felt sorry for you and pissed off at the same time.
ReplyDeleteYou are healthy, not deformed, have seen the walls and shuttle of a tertiary institution. You managed to get an opportunity to intern, you survived a rape attempt....where is your gratitude in all this?
So you are hungry, the notion of "Who good girl epp" stirs fear and the need to go against your values to help out your overwhelming issues. You are terribly naive as well, masked in that silly good girl cover you run under, you singlehandedly got yourself in very scary situations twice, still did not take responsibility for your role in that.
I am not going to patronise you and tell you... Oh sorry, you are suffering, bla bla bla. You need an attitudinal makeover. Many people are seeing hell, yet somehow draw strength to keep pushing. You come down here to bring this story, rope in religion, runz, suicide, your mother's sorry state in a bornagain maiden in distress played out scene for the gathering of braggarts and humane people on SDK to digest huh. Your story is sad, but i just feel no deep sympathy for where you are headed with this story.
I pray your helpers locate you... i hope you get to yank off that rose coloured glasses you wear around men, i hope you learn contentment and never bargain the promises of God, i hope you learn gratitude for real. Coz no amount of alert can fix what i read up there. After this will be more problems, how many times will you contemplate runs, suicide and post your account balance?
I don't intend to be a spoiler, i might not be a helper, but if you look beyond the yinmu and "justified" anger at my seeming insensitivity. You will pick a lesson that alerts wont teach you.
I get you and I also get the poster.... My advice is for you POSTER to have an attitude of thanksgiving/living,its not easy... If many of us tell our stories, you'll be shocked at what people go through....
DeleteI pray help comes your way, really cos it's not easy... This life is not easy for anyone at all!! I can relate to your story,shebi you weren't raped?? Be thankful, leave that Job and look for something better... You even see where to Intern,be thankful, God's too faithful to fail!!
There still brilliant people out there @Empress.. My God! Are you married?
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DeleteIt is well with ur soul
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DeletePoster don't fall for the temptation. Keep holding on, don't give up on God,for he will settle you, he will not abandon you.your mum's shop will flourish again. Just be strong, the lord will support you. It is well with you.
ReplyDeleteIn his own time....God will show.himself. remember he does noth sleep, also remember its not by selfrighteousness, it is by his grace. Its not by power, not by might but by my Spirit....
ReplyDeleteMay the almighty God be your strength in this trying time. I will like to assist in any way I can.
ReplyDeleteIt is well with you. Continue praising God and don't stop asking. join the evangelism unit in your church because soul winning open supernatural doors. Work for God and he will work for you. Help is on the way for you.
ReplyDeleteAll the men lie to get you in a private secured place and then they let you go just like that. Well the best way to get attention is to cry wolf,play the victim and rope MEN in with sex offences. With the talent you have you shouldn't be looking for job. Bottom line you need money to start a business and go to school. Angels on the blog please wave your magic stick.
ReplyDeleteThis broke my heart.
ReplyDeleteMR X AND MR Y...
ReplyDeleteI hope you guys would read this. There comes a time in life when God place people under us not to satisfy our sexual fantasies but to impact greatly vast amount of wealth into them. Wealth here could be an act of kindness, wisdom, advice, etc....
On that day, when we all stand before the throne, you will be asked... "Nse what happened to that girl I placed under you?... Did you allow her grow? Did you train or impact anything meaningful into her life?... Or were you busy satisfying yourself sexually?"
This is also applicable to women who do go down to remote villages and pick little boys/girls as maid, you flashed them hope, the thought of being better persons, the ray of hope.... and all of a sudden you abadon them, use them, maltreat them.... 5 years and counting, No education, no training or whatsoever.
To you Amara, you have struggled... I think itz high time you stop struggling. I am a radical Christian an d one philosophy I belief in is, "If I serve you, you must serve me". If sango worshippers could pour libations and see immediate reaction from their god, then what makes you think the maker himself is less effective. " Come unto me all ye who are heavy laden and I will give you rest "... Also, don't not be deceived. 5 minutes pleasure can ruin what is about happening.
Hang on! Something is cooking. Itz about time.
This story might be true and might not be true at the same time... All I know is that people are going through alot... If I write my struggles here ehnnnnn?? Una go scream, even those that know me, don't know half of it... Poster, be thankful, that's the kinda attitude I'm learning to put on, sometimes it's overwhelming but God always comes through one way or the other!!
ReplyDeleteTalk to your Mum, you shouldn't be carrying all that burden
"Mathew 7:7....I have done the right thing all my life where do I go from here?"
ReplyDeleteHow righteous are you dear,and how can you prove that you have done all things right?
If you have done all things right as you claimed,and knows God as to question why His will is not being fulfilled in your life,you will be wise enough to know that you should look up to God at all times.
You made the above comment to look good before man,while it looks like God does not answer prayer,if you were to be weighed on God's scale,you weigh nothing. Don't bring down God's wrath on your self just for gains.
Start to pray for mercy and let God show you what you have not done right. Do you know that
You are better than those in the hospital
You are better than some orphans
You are better than those selling satchet water on the road
You are better than those disabled beggars on the road
Yet they find a way to glorify God,here you are,educated,have mother and siblings,a roof over your head and good health,Internet enabled phone,money to buy data, etc and sounding like your life has come to an end?
Get away from there if it is no longer conducive and go find a job elsewhere even if it is as a cleaner or sales girl, your mum can also work as a cleaner somewhere,don't make it look like the world is on your head,many are going through worst and some has gone through worst but they survived. Life is in stages,sometimes it throws bad things our way and sometimes good,but the ability to withstand it is what makes us human. If you are truly walking with God,you will know that "many are the afflictions of the righteous but the the Lord delivers him from them all".
The mentality of begging will not take you far in life,it will stagnate you,talk to God in prayer and fasting,and He will show you a way out.
Oh,you are not righteous and have done nothing right.
Be strong,only then can you have stories to tell.
I know I might not make sense as this is not what you want to hear but I must repeat, your life is not the worst,you are a whole lot better than some people. Quit begging.
This cry, this rant you have poured out here. Rise up at midnight praise God and remind Him where you are at right now...God will hear you. Infact he hears you. He is a just God.
ReplyDeletePS 55: 22 " cast your burden in the Lord and he shall sustain you. He shall never permit the righteous to be moved.
Dear poster. So many young ladies went through your current predicament and came out victorious, so I know yours is not an exception.
ReplyDeleteHowever, I enjoin you to always draw a line no matter what. Pls learn to find excuses to avoid any invitation for meeting/drink/launch outside workplace or after work, that was not in your initial schedule for the day. Start being smart, ask questions before following any boss/colleague to any place, after all you are not a paid staff. Your bosses/senior colleagues are taking advantage of your naivity.
Finally, being a good girl is not the same as serving and trusting God - choose the latter and discard the former. If you cannot afford HND, pls chill, your OND certificate can earn you a good living - just trust God and not your senses.
@Anon 15:17...What happened to Fathers. Our men are dogs because our fathers are not playing their roles. Will mothers, keep the home, marriage, bank and all kids together while fathers continue to chase their daughters mates and when the kids turn out like a lot of our men do, we blame the mothers who are doing the role of 50 people? Please get real. NIGERIAN MEN HAVE FAILED THEIR CHILDREN. They are terrible examples to their sons and leave their daughters to be prey to men like them. Fathers stand up and take responsibility. Show these boys how to be men and this nonsense will decrease. Until then, we will keep having this filth that we call irresponsible men in the workplace. These men will go home and scream head of household to their wives when they can not keep their trousers zipped. Even dogs are better than some of these men. TUEH
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ReplyDeletePlease STOP going to outside work events with any male coworker. Drinks for what? Sir, I am busy with my Mum. Hotel stop, cut out. You need to become wise like a serpent to deal with our men. Be as strict as can be, it will cost you some opportunities but I assure you that those opportunities would not have led to anything tangible anyway without you keeping your legs spread.
Your family is in dire straits. Sister, go from house to house and help people wash and clean. Go to banks and ask the women if they need someone to clean etc for them. They can bring their clothes to work, you wash and return. Go to construction sites and help to work. HUSTLE MY SISTER. There is hope, it will not be easy but you do not have a choice now...these days do not last long. A lot of us have been there and we have come out of it. You can too.
I don't understand,
ReplyDeleteIs this a chronicle or a cry 4 help??
Sorry but i just think your mom is lazy and a freeloader..
ReplyDeleteWhy should you at your age be responsible for your family especially when she knows you are a student?
She is indirectly enabling you to.
And I think you are either gullible or just 'stupid'.. Why would you accept an.invitation to step out at night for drinks? Be street smart!!
The Lord is your strength dear poster,please hold on to God please I beg of you and ignore all bvs insinuating rubbish,I have a secondary school friend who went through something similar to yours but with a lil difference, Stella please is there any way one can reach to her directly?nothing is too small please Stella,but all hope is not lost dear poster,help is on the way. Bvs with bad mouth na WA.
ReplyDeleteCan't read this. Impossible.
ReplyDeleteThe first few lines got me pissed off..
Bye.
You're the exact candidate of someone who should & be better off to have been given away for adoption in your early years or childhood. Becuase having this kind of human being as a mother is curses!!!
ReplyDeleteParents are not supposed to drag their children into the misery of financial or economic hardship.
Every child must be given the chance to focus on their personal and self development in life & never have to carry burdens of family members or their relatives like this.
For you now even common food is a temptation to go & sell your body in exchange.
A man will rape u and exploit u now just becuase of shelter or to give u roof over ur head.
Tufiakwa!!!
Your mother is a pathetic & very useless woman. How old is she? That she can't at least guarantee food & shelter for u???
Can't she go to look for menial labor jobs like househelp work to do? Why should she sit down, cross her legs and be idle, wasting away like that, penniless & broke?
Many children & young people today growing up have been cursed & marked for generational poverty & low life due to the type of parents they have & families they come from.
Having lazy, inferior minded, broke ass parents who will throw their children to the dogs & sacrifice their blood in exchange for a pittance.
OMG you are one bitter soul!! You have no right to call her mother, a woman who gave birth to her a pathetic and useless woman. You don't know her and you don't know her mother.
DeleteThis is so wicked and mean of you, to type insults at somebody who needs help??? When did human beings become so inhumane?
This is a blog but let's be careful how we communicate. Somebody somewhere is in pain and has to read the words you write and feel better or worse by them. If you have nothing encouraging to say, at least express your point without insulting a person's mother. I pray God forgives you for these vile words you just typed up there. I'm beyond disgusted.
In as much as you try to prove your point, know how to use words same time.
DeleteDo not give in I repeat do not open your legs to any useless boss, they will all fuck you and dump you, God will make a way soon just hold on a little.
ReplyDeleteA mother that carried you for nine months?I respect my mother in law although is my home. She loves me like a daughter. I hope your wife is not foul mouthed, some will use their mouth as weapon in the morning , once is evening when oga will be back they turn to an angel just like my neighbour. Am not in support of what your mum did,but i love hearing from both sides. Why bring this issue here, are you not a man?
ReplyDeletePeople complaining about this Chronicle being a begging Chronicle are the ones who I'm sure have never given a penny to anyone here.
ReplyDeleteIs it your blog?? Even if poster's indirectly begging, nobody can force you to give. Let's have some sympathy for out fellow human beings who are going through hard times and may need help.
Amara, it is well withyou and your household.
ReplyDeleteGod will raise an helper before this week runs out IHN.
I feel your pains ......but will smile on you soon. I will send my email detail to Stella and contact then will see your HND will be completed. I graduated from your school as well but I did brick laying to sponsor myself tru school but today I bless God am in a better place. A graduate and also a Canadian it's God. Stella will contact you for me
ReplyDeleteI will not type too much or tell you it's this or that because I know what you're feeling BELIEVE THAT. When I tell you God works in mysterious ways, you will just have to believe that even if it's coming from an anonymous source. Hold on! It will be worth it by His grace. Don't allow the devil to make you fall.
ReplyDeleteEven if you don't have a boyfriend that doesn't mean that you will be answering your ogas whenever they call you. You don't know how to tell them that you're cooking or running errands for your mum? Mbanu!
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ReplyDeleteNa wa. My dear it's not easy o I swear. People go through so much and it seems as though it just doesn't end, wouldn't it have been better to not be born? Instead of a life of uncertainty and suffering. But all in all everyone will always advice they will say "have faith, God will do a new thing, He won't give you what you cannot handle" etc while they are chopping chicken and jollof rice in their houses. Nobody looks at other peoples suffering and decides that once a month they will ask God to show them how to bless another person who needs it badly, they only open their mouths and say sorry with no action, what stops anyone from asking this young lady for her contact details and chatting her up privately and sending her some cash periodically and even invite her to church? Let's all be our brothers keeper. If each capable person could do this weekly or monthly for different people things will not be so bad. We are always looking to God to throw manna down from heaven but we forget that God is in us too and we can help each other. Yes some people's case needs the Lord's personal intervention but let's do something about our mind set as well. People don't have jobs, people can't afford to eat even twice a day, we have so many churches, so many mosque's, we claim to be religious but what has your department in church done for a needy person this year??? We give tithe and offering but where are these monies going to? Pastors are busy buying jet, buying cars, buying blings but where is your conscience,what is your mandate from God?! Let's all check ourselves and try to be each other's keeper pls. And as for this poster my dear you cannot do it on your own you need help. Go to a good church and ask for help. Your mum can get nanny jobs from church, you can get side hustle from church and get paid. Go to God's house and show Him that you cannot continue on your own, tell God, get angry because He is your father and He will take care of you, that's all I have to say
ReplyDeleteAnd also, it's not every call that you should pick. Being who you are you should know how to put people in their place most especially men. Of your boss calls you after work hours you can pick o but if he's asking you to go somewhere to meet up if based on networking you might want to go but based on once beaten twice shy you can tell him that you are quite busy at the moment but will try to make it. With that response he will know not to exactly expect you there and just like that you if you keep doing it nicely like that he will remove his eye from you, and if the calls become tpp much you can ignore them or even put your fone off on weekends or better still block his number so he can't reach you on weekends and unblock on weekdays so you can always say it's d network at your place
ReplyDeletei am sooo pissed off reading all these nasty comments...all of you who have decided to make yourself judges need to shut the fuck up!!! its her story to tell if you don't believe it,move on!!! simple! shuuuuu....if you don't have anything positive to offer shut the fucking hell up sheesh!!! arrrghhhh!!.A lot of people don't have it easy, even if we can't offer financial assistance we can atleast offer kind words, it won't kill you know.if you don't believe her thats fine, why sow doubt in the heart of a possible helper??? yes!! i get it most people lie just to get help,yitty yatty ya....but they never go unpunished in the end and besides lets leave that for GOD to judge don't do his job for him.Please lets us learn to spread love, encourage and pick up one another and stella it'll be nice if you can add a contact for people like these so those who want to help can reach out.this is obviously coming late but i only just came across this post.
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