Eyaaah!!!
STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
CONFUSING RELATIONSHIP
Kindly post my chronicles as I'm in a state of confusion and need advice from Bvs. please keep me anonymous.
I have been dating a guy for the past 6months. But it's been more like not being in a relationship cause he has a business partner which they are always together and do things together more than me his girlfriend.
I have asked him several times concerning this business partner of his, if he has any affair with her that he should tell me and he keeps swearing he has nothing to do with her that they are just partners and nothing else. mind you they both own the company together and I have asked his staff if they are both dating and the answer he gave was more like a yes. He plays golf and same with the lady too so they have an instagram page where they post all their activities there, each time I stumble to the page I always see the both of them in every picture together.
And there is another thing he does which is he lies a lot and promises things which he those not keep to, did I mention that he has never invited me to come watch him while he plays golf. and since we have been dating we hardly do things together as couples we hardly see at day time except in the night like around 11pm in the night and I go first thing in the morning. I have never stayed like 2days in his house.
I have always asked him that if its for the fun sake that we are in this relationship he should tell me so I don't get myself hurt and he always claims he loves me so much that if its for the fun his not a kid he would let me know.
My problem now is that I love this guy so much but I don't think what I think is a relationship between we both is more of like having fun together not a proper relationship. AM JUST SO CONFUSED ABOUT EVERYTHING.
My Question Now Is:
1, should I tell him how I feel about everything or just quit the relationship?
2, am I just getting myself worked up over everything?
My past relationships was not a good one at all and I don't want to make same mistakes again in this one. did I mention that he does not even know where I live he only knows where I work cause that was were we met. We recently travelled to where he played golf last weekend and I know the reason why he took me there was because his partner was not playing .
I did not even go to where he was playing I was in the hotel room. we got back from the travel and I did not eat all through till we got to Lagos thinking he was going to say we go to his house and his cook or I prepare food to eat then I rest till later in the evening I would go home....... to my surprise he stopped me half way his house and requested for uber to take me home I was so pissed.
Thank you so much Stella for this platform I would be reading comments. Please don't mind my English, I am not a good writer.
Thank you so much Stella for this platform I would be reading comments. Please don't mind my English, I am not a good writer.
*Babes,please borrow yourself some sense and move on,you are dating yourself.
Poster receive sense IJN!!
ReplyDeletePoster go and read IK Ogbonna's post and receive sense...
DeletePoster,the guy is messing with your emotions, and you know this quite well,but you don't want to believe it!!!! Qed
Delete*double eeyah*
ReplyDeleteYou are the sidechic.
ReplyDeleteDude is taken.
He's just having fun!
You are catching feelings!
Babe shine your eyes, Dude is dating his so called business partner. Don't be blinded by love. If you can't leave him easily, then get yourself another guy as a backup so you wont be 100% heartbroken when he breaks up with you because this dude is gonna dump you soon...
ReplyDeletefrom a girl to a girl! RRRRRRRRRUUUUUUUUUNNNNNNNNNN
ReplyDeletePity how you clearly see the writings on the wall and choose to ignore it. This guy is not into you as much as you are into him, he probably doesn't want to break your heart and that's why he hasn't said anything about it. Just move on babe, call it quits
ReplyDeletemove on already and stop dating yourself
ReplyDeletePoster you don't need advice on this one. WALK AWAY FAST.
ReplyDeleteTHOSE promises that he DOES not keep, what are they; like marry you?
ReplyDeleteWhy are you worried about spending "2 days" in his house; are you his wife; has he paid your bride price?
You labelled yourself "his girlfriend" when did he tell you that? Every story you told us showed us that his business partner is his fiancee?
Why are some girls this foolish?
I don't know why ladies see signs like these and still ask questions. The guy has a main chick while you are just a side chick. Pls run or he'll keep wasting your time till you hear he's married to the other lady.
ReplyDeleteI don't know why grown assed women would be confusing, deceiving and lying to themselves like this.
ReplyDeleteYou know the answers to the questions, you're just looking for someone to tell you what you already know...well if that's what you need to move on, we would follow stella's pointer and give you the push.
Take a walk!
Poster I'm sorry you are a spare tyre.
ReplyDeleteYou know you are supposed to walk away from the relationship but you are waiting for him to tell you to leave.
Nne leave. He is doing a that to push you aware
*away
Deletesend a link of this post to him later in the night when people don comment finish. I feel like you are dating yourself and giving the guy your thing for free. Does that business partner know that HE IS DATING YOU? ABI HE TOLD HER THAT YOU ARE HIS COUSIN? Get her no and call her then hear wetin she go talk
ReplyDeleteChronicle of a side chick
ReplyDeleteAbi of a naive somebori
DeleteI hate agreeing with Stella. But poster, your stupidity is astronomical. I'm gonna get pissed and start formulating decent chronicles for people to comment on, not this less than infantile spewing by a silly child.
ReplyDeleteI don't want to judge
ReplyDeleteBut babe really? From your past relationships, is this how it was with the others?
Either that guy is married to his partner or she is his soon to be wife. Kindly gather your self esteem and pack your stuff outta his life cos clearly You are the side pussy.
You don't love him dear. Don't worry once you leave him, your clouded eyes go clear.
To love someone will require person showing you love and care and affection... obviously he has none of those things to offer you. So my dear maybe you are lusting after his money and luxury lifestyle
Pele oooh
When exactly do you need us to tell you that you're dating yourself?
ReplyDeleteThe handwriting is clearly written, both of them are in a serious relationship
ReplyDelete'...we hardly see at day time except in the night like around 11pm in the night ..'. Wow like seriously! That alone is enough red alert, why shud ur seeing him be @ nite. Are u a child of darkness. My dear u sound like ur life is centered around this guy n this guys alone... There are oda letters in d alphabet, if plan A isn't working, port to plan B, bfr u get to Z d onE dat adores u will show up.. Cheers
ReplyDeleteI was just laughing all through as I was reading this chronicle. Like Stella said, borrow some sense@poster,i don't mean to disrespect u. Buh the truth is dat u r his side chicken. I am a guy and I knw ur guy's antics. U r his bed mate. Are u sure u r in love with this guy or just his wealth? Girls are fond of falling for the wrong guys most esp if the guy is ok financially. Also, u r not his class. He is not proud of u. How can u come to his house by 11pm and go early in the morning? Are u a witch or prostitute?? This young man is taking u for granted. Simply quit this thing u call relationship and move ahead. I pray that God will provide your own boo. If u want to confirm the girl's status with him,simply confront the girl and u will be marvelled at what she will tell u. Move on dear. This is the exact advice I would give to my sister. Move on...
ReplyDeleteWhy is it that once girls are in relationship these days they want to live with the man; is relationship these days synonymous with "sex and abortions?"
ReplyDeleteWhy not get to know this man through healthy interactions and intelligent conversations?
Why sex, sex, abortions, abortions, dumping, dumping . . . stories?
I look forward to reading chronicles of good narratives; like a lady asking how she can take care of her babies, how to make strategic investments and share business ideas that worked etc.
Poster, na only you waka come for this one o!
ReplyDeleteThe hand writing is clear.
Just end that 'whatevership'. Abruptly. Don't call him, don't take his calls. Per chance he calls you with another line and you pick, don't give him a chance to sweet talk and brainwash you; politely tell him that you're busy, and will call him later. If you feel like crying, by all means bawl your heart out. You will get better.
Clearly, you are the side chic, judging from your narrative.
Babe, you're obviously dating your self....Move on abeg
ReplyDeleteFish brain. Is it by force to send Chronicles sef. Mtcheeew. I am wondering whether it's by force to reply you sef?😯
ReplyDeleteNnemoooooo is it possible for someone to be this dense?
ReplyDeleteChinekele oh!
You are not even a side chic
A side chic has more value than you
You are his night w**re
Sorry poster but this chronicle has left a bitter taste on my tongue
My only advice for you is to work on your self esteem/value/worth as you obviously have none.
I will leave the brain reset insults to other BVs
Stop giving him cookie and walk away.you think you love him but sisters I call it infatuation.he's dating his partner
ReplyDeleteYou are nothing buy a sex toy and a potential prolific baby killing machine.
ReplyDeleteNext chronicle is how he made you kill babies.
The "business partner" was in the scene before you came on
Don't you see that you are the intruder?
Aunty, you need advice?
ReplyDeleteSee case of Daniel Ademinokan vs. Stella Aboderin Nzeribe Ademinokan
(2,stelladimorkokus law report)
Cheers.
Lol
DeleteI wanted to say you shouldnt stress yourself since he claimed he wasnt dating his business partner but when you said he lies alot,babes walk away so you wont continue to be the side chick.
ReplyDeleteFelt like crying for you!!!
ReplyDeleteHe is married to his partner. He is married. Not just dating but actually married. The staff lied to you that his bosses were dating out of pity for you.
ReplyDeleteIt's been just six months. Move along now.
My dear, you are obviously the side chick . His 'partner ' is his girlfriend or even his fiancé . End things before they surprise you with their wedding .
ReplyDeleteAll the signs are there .
Babe
ReplyDeleteThe guy is not proud of u
He feels u'r low class to him
He is dating d Lady
Borrow yourself brain like SDK said
I guess is a mature guy, maybe a divorce or his family isn't here
How can I be dating a man andd we will not go out during the day, u be wizard?
Mchewwwwwwww
This chronicle is an insult on your intelligence!
ReplyDeleteWhat exactly do you want us to tell you that you don't know already?
You don't even owe him the honour of calling it quits with him; trash him in the most unceremonious way!
You're a side chick. Confirmed side chick! But babe, it's glaring na.
ReplyDeleteWalahi she is dating herself.
DeleteLol @ u are dating yourself
ReplyDeleteBabe I don't have any advice for you at all,while so many of you will be looking for an already made man to marry.Leave that man now!
ReplyDeleteDear Poster, it's simple really: You are not a girlfriend. You are a sex-partner.
ReplyDeleteNow the question is: Is that what you want to be?
Is that what you deserve to be???
NAWA o, oshofree unlimited naim you be. Fly jor
ReplyDeleteNo thym fur rawnd tebu discoshion.
ReplyDeleteMoof on!!
There is no relationship here, move on.
ReplyDeletePatiently waiting for queen advice
ReplyDeleteBrb to read comments
Sweety, it might be hard but please take a walk and move on, that guy is just with you for the fun, he has nothing to offer, if he really loves you let him look for you
ReplyDeletePoster like Stella rightly said, move on. It's obvious he is involved with the lady,they ain't just business partners.
ReplyDeleteHow shallow can girls be?. Babes u are obviously suffering from low self esteem and keziahness, ie too much sharing of the koko. U have obviously been used in different ways in ur past rrships. Quit this relationship that has sunk asap, I know it ain't easy, u can start with being a mermaid, going celibate, refusing to see him at home or places where u can have s*x. Insist on only outdoor dates and watch him flee by himself. Please do not make me waste my advice by still sleeping with him or sticking with him when he starts telling u sweet lies u want to hear. Cos duhh, did u expect him to tell u to ur face that u are d side chick? . Nobody wants to lose their sidechick. He is gonna kkeep on lying till his wedding eve.on another note. Get d patners number from his phone, call her up and intro urself as his gf or ask him to introduce u to her as d gf. Nd observe. U deserve better gurl
ReplyDeletePoster you are dating yourself
ReplyDeleteYou are dating yourself... The lady refuses to sleep with him that's what you are meant for in that situationship... Borrow your self leg and fly away it's not by force to date a 'mademan'
ReplyDelete😂😂😂😂😂
ReplyDeleteNne that my van I requested to give to that other Gf turned Chef BV is still available. But in this case it's sense I will pack to you since you're not packing out.
Partner ko, partner ni. Guess what? The lady is allowing you service him because she's sexually exhausted. And she knows about you and you're a small 'fry' where she's concerned. He doesn't know your house? My dear..... I know one market where sense is sold in Lagos. I will go and buy some for you tomorrow. See.... His partner controls his money and affairs and you Most likely will keep keeping up with his lies. He's just using you to shine Congo. I've told you....
The partner may even be richer than him with correct contacts. No man will ever leave such a lady so poster please do yourself a favour move on.
DeleteSad, you are in a relationship by yourself.
ReplyDeleteWhy hide the way you feel about these things? Are you scared of him?
All the points you stated makes it obvious you are not his gf.
If the staff in the office have already told U they are dating why disbelieve? Whatever happened to him introducing her to you? Or you spending Friday night to Sunday evening @ his house instead of you leaving in the morning?
Darling, as painful as it is if it doesn't feel right it is 95% of the time not right.
Address these issues with him and see how it plays out, but be ready to confirm you are his side chick.
How can he not know your house after 6 months. Hmmmmmm Golfer, he must be comfortable. Is that why you think you love him?
1. Introduce me to you partner
2. Go on a Friday and take your change of clothes till Sunday and let him see you bringing out your toiletries and change of clothes and just mention in passing " I'll be going home on Sunday"
Most likely he will come up with good reasons why not, don't believe him o!!
😂 so poor people don't play golf? On a serious note. We know this girl. Madam boss is engaged to his "partner" like wtf? Did you expect us his employees to give out personal info of our boss to you?! You're so dumb. I letting this put because this is a faceless blog. You are only attracted to my boss's wealth that's why you think you're in love. 😂😂. I remember you very well. Just make sure my boss's fiance doesn't set her mind on you. Your own go be. You are just one among many girls my boss is playing jangolova with. So if you know what's good for you, pick up your self esteem and carry your longer throat elsewhere. My boss and his fiance have come a long way. So get lost you THOT.
Delete*out
DeletePoster Pls look for another man cos u don't have a relationship.
ReplyDeleteI wanted to say six months is still young till u said u sleep over at his house n he doesn't know where you live! My dear Oyo is your case,like bvs would say,use your tongue to count your teeth you are in a situationship.
ReplyDeleteI really dislike women like this who don't use their sense.
ReplyDeletePoster you know what to do and I put it to you that you are stick with him simply because he has a little money.
Where is your dignity and pride. And there must be guys out there who are dying to take you seriously but you chose to stick with someone who has zero value and use for you besides sex.
Tomorrow you'll come here to rant on how you were dumped further giving us guys a bad name.
Sister of life, i beseech thee to understand that you are a SIDE DISH... He's just using you so pls move and never look back.. He is dating that geh aswear.. If you're tired of relationship abeg date a cucumber.
ReplyDeleteDon't let this guy waste your time, leave the relationship. A better one will find you.
ReplyDeleteStaying won't let you open your heart to someone better or even notice when he's around. Move on. It is well.
Firstly, you're dating yourself.
ReplyDeleteYou need to realize everyone isn't for you. Quietly leave the relationship.
Stop calling him!!! Slowing stop picking his calls. If he calls twice a day, pick only once. And gradually, stop picking at all.
Not easy breaking up with someone you truly love but my dear 6 months us alot to be wasted in a baseless relationship.
I broke up with ex same way, was not easy but I did. Known for over a year, dated for just 1 month realized he wasn't deserving of me by his attitude and I ended it.
Life goes on!
Wait oh..... I hope that guy isn't stingy? In all this I hope you have a very full account to show for this level of emotional torture? If you don't please leave your address with Stella. Because I am coming to give you two hot brain resetting slaps.
ReplyDeleteLmao....chikito babe....you are mouthed...
DeleteLove made me
you are dating yourself maám. just move on, don't take him serious and pls free him.
ReplyDeletePls you are the side chick. Don't even say anything to him because he will confuse you...
ReplyDeleteBabe receive WISDOM...
ReplyDeleteI am even upset that u can still ask questions (should i Leave him?) My friend gently dust ur slippers n move on. Which year ll u receive sense sef? Please leave that relationship. Obviously he is just wasting ur tym.
ReplyDeleteBabe , you are really dating yourself, slap yourself seven times for wasting 6months of your precious time and move on.
ReplyDeleteIt's only been six months. Relax, don't pressure yourself or him, be open minded enough to give others a chance but in the mean time...just go with the flow and have fun.
ReplyDeleteUna to do dey fall in love quickly sef!!
MISS Jacobs.
Isn't it obvious u are dating yourself? According to Stella borrow yourself some sense. Don't talk anything over as there is nothing to talk abt. Pls run!! Your man will come
ReplyDeleteDear Poster ............Biko how old are you?
ReplyDeleteYou not even the main side chic,
ReplyDeleteBut you are the junior side chicken.
Develop some sense please.
Borrow some "uburu isi" you are his side chic.
ReplyDeleteMadam poster, you don't need a soothsayer to tell you that it is obvious your bf is seeing the other lady, please save yourself more of this emotional torture and walk away. Unless you don't mind being a side chick because that's what you are to him.
ReplyDeleteSituationship of life!!!
ReplyDeleteBut he has cash, so you want to die there
Or maybe you just have such low self esteem, you are ready yo make excuses for him...
Babe, you know deep.within you that 'he's just not that into you'
You are a.fuck buddy. If you accept what you are, you can enjoy yourself ,get some cash for yourself and be happy but it looks like you want more but girllllll, he doesn't have more to give cos he is I love with that other chic
**sorry if.I came across harsh
Pls receive sense
ReplyDeleteStella has said it all. dat is not a relationship. u r just a side chick
ReplyDeletemadam POSTER: as stella talk, boro yourself some sense. take a walk that guy is not dating you. when you see amn wey love you , it doesn't hide. just stop calling or picking his calls, dont hang out with him. so may i ask, how do you gbensh? if he asks you why the change in attitude, tell him point blank that this is not a relationship.
ReplyDeleteLadies respect your bodies and stop having sex with these men. Instead of sex, examine him, watch him, talk to him, but stop being moved by irrelevant things. Yes money is important, but whilst dating focus on his character. Enough of our bodies and thoughts being disrespected by all these irresponsible men.
ReplyDeletePoster, please leave this guy. He is blocking the path of your true husband. #teamnopremaritalsex
For six whole month he doesn't know where you live?? Sister you are dating yourself. Dude is so not into you na, you don't need a soothsayer to tell you that girl.
ReplyDeleteSo what do you want to know that you don't already know? Mscheeew. Like Stella said you are dating yourself. Coconut head!
ReplyDeleteYou are obviously dating yourself
ReplyDeleteLol..... Dating ur self....
ReplyDeleteAbeg move on!
Your so called guy its not in a relationship with you,just live that relationship as fast as you can.just be bold to do that my dear.I know its going to hurt ur feelings but don't look back.leave that relationship. Don't let him talk you into any bullshit or brain wash you.
ReplyDeleteIs it until you see a wedding iv or probably his son from that chic before your common sense comes back..haba
ReplyDeleteThey are seriously in love and he just wanna keep you as his sex toy. Be asking question until omegi voom n'anya.
.haba
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 u don't even qualify as sidechick 😂😂😂😂😂 fuck buddy that's what u re to him 😂😂😂😂😂
ReplyDeleteI read something online about why girls like dating unavailable guys and later blame themselves that they always meet wrong guys...babe, you need to know that once you see that the guy doesn't have time for you, just walk away...Please walk Away....
DeletePls does his partner know about you? If No pls let that guy be he is just enjoying your pussy. Cos like Stella said you are dating yourself. How can you be dating a guy and he doesn't know where u stay if he claims he loves u. Men borrow yourself some sense and move on ooo i'm sure u are carried away with his wealth.
ReplyDeletepls pls pls. just do yourself a favor, tell him to go to hell and block his #'s from reaching you. He is playing you like basketball.Open your eyes.
ReplyDeleteEyaaaaaaaaa. You're alone in this relationship indeed. He's not that into you and you're a tool he uses to warm his bed. It's crystal clear. Move on already.
ReplyDeleteBabe its u n u against d world!
ReplyDeletePls move on!
Don't confront him.
Just move on, you own will come!
the guy is in a very serious relationship with the other lady and he is just fucking you more like girl on call,he calls you when ever he needs sex and make you leave when he is done this reminds of my yoruba friend femi,gives you plenty transport on your way out,so babe stay there and enjoy the cash if he is a giver but please dont think you are in a relationship with him,borrow some sense babe,dont even develop feelings for him, fuck him and get cash off him ,treat him just the same way he is treating you ,get yourself a real man but if you dont have the heart i will advice you end it now ,anytime he calls you tell him sorry am busy cant see you today just keep doing that and i promise he will stop calling even if he comes around your office to see you tell him you cant see him because you have to meet up with someone like a date,if he starts to complain then you lay all your cards on the table ,tell him what you expect from the relationship and if he cant give you he can take a bow ,simple.
ReplyDeletethe guy is in a very serious relationship with the other lady and he is just fucking you more like girl on call,he calls you when ever he needs sex and make you leave when he is done this reminds of my yoruba friend femi,gives you plenty transport on your way out,so babe stay there and enjoy the cash if he is a giver but please dont think you are in a relationship with him,borrow some sense babe,dont even develop feelings for him, fuck him and get cash off him ,treat him just the same way he is treating you ,get yourself a real man but if you dont have the heart i will advice you end it now ,anytime he calls you tell him sorry am busy cant see you today just keep doing that and i promise he will stop calling even if he comes around your office to see you tell him you cant see him because you have to meet up with someone like a date,if he starts to complain then you lay all your cards on the table ,tell him what you expect from the relationship and if he cant give you he can take a bow ,simple.
ReplyDeleteFishbrain chronicle. Do you need a soothsayer to tell you that you are on your own ?? Where is the love here ?
ReplyDeleteBe there till you see their wedding invitation on Instagram. The guy is just fucking you for fun. Rubbish.
Poster, you don't need anyone to advise you, you know the truth already
ReplyDeleteWe women have inner guts that speak aloud, just that we refuse to listen. That is why you are so worried.
My dear, push your head up, and waltz out of the relationship.
If you want to get closure, you can POLITELY and DISCREETLY ask the so called "business partner" if they are dating...
You'll meet your own man dear. JUST RELAX!
Cheers..
As someone who knows a bit about golf, it's not the kind of game you can go and watch him play so don't read meaning into him not inviting you. What you should be most concerned about is whether this his golf partner knows about you? If he is hiding you from her, then there is a problem.
ReplyDeleteHe isnt into u. The signs are so visible even to the blind. What else do u want us to tell u?
ReplyDeleteBabe please go back to school biko and leave man matter alone! Gosh the write up gives me migraine!!!
ReplyDeleteYou have wasted six months...now move on with your life because you are not in a relationship.
ReplyDeleteYou are in a relationship with your self...
ReplyDeleteIf I were in your shoes...I would walk away...even without an explanation.
Common sense is not common.
ReplyDeleteYou are nothing to him. Just leave
ReplyDeleteMy sister I think you are the side boo, what type of relationship are you in? PLease jst borrow urslf some sense and jst leave.
ReplyDeleteNo one needs to tell you to move on,he's not into you at all. Look for another boyfriend and keep him aside in case he gets serious.
ReplyDeleteHave you seen burning bridges film? You need to see it and give yourself brain. To even think he doesn't know your place shows he isn't serious.
Are you the boring type? Maybe that is why he prefers his so called friend to you.
The guy is in a relationship with the geh. U are just dumb and he's taking advantage of it. U don see rich guy and u are drolling. U are the side chick raise to power 10. My friend was doing something like this before. The guy sneaks to her place in the middle of the night, sleeps with her and runs off. All because the guy was rich she was doing it. They don't go out together. The guy dumped her ass and married one chic that was all over his Facebook who he claimed was running after him lol. Nne u deserve better or are u ugly and fat? Why not ask the girl in question if they are dating. I guess u won't ask her cos u know the answer already. Cheap girls everywhere
ReplyDeleteSide chick alert, just as Stella said give your self brain because you are his side chick and his golf partner is also his main chick/ real life partner.
ReplyDeleteLong live SDK
Babe dis is stand alone chronicle, u r practical standing alone in dis thing dunno wat u call it. Its lyk being in a house thinking u v a roof ova ur head only 4 it 2 rain n u got drenched lyk some1 standing outside. Dat guy is dating dat babe. Carry ur heart wit ur 2 hands n race 4 ur lyf.
ReplyDelete...poster what are u still waiting for? receive sense Ijm run o, one day you will see their wedding pictures for that instagram
ReplyDeletePls dats not a relatonship dust ur slippers nd run for ur life he is using u as a side boo..get sense poster men re liars ooooooooooooooooooooo
ReplyDelete
ReplyDelete***we hardly see at day time except in the night like around 11pm in the night and I go first thing in the morning *** 😒😒😒
This is not a relationship, how can you be inlove with someone that doesnt care about you?
My dear you can do better, let go and let God heal you. I pray you meet someone deserving.
Dating yourself.com
ReplyDeletePoster, you make me laugh.
ReplyDeleteThe signs are all there but you have refused to do the needful.
That's not a relationship and can't call it friendship either. He is just playing around with you and doesn't want to have anything serious to do with you. U already said he lies and fails to keep his words. Forget about him and move on. Any man that cannot back his words with actions certainly cannot be trusted and taken seriously.
ReplyDeleteMy dear,i feel so sowi 4 u. Reality be told,u r d side chick...Am a married woman who has d same experience has u,inshort mine ws so bad dat my hubby has a female friend 4m secondary sch n dis same lady live in d same area wit mii,inshort we grew up 2geda,but we neva use 2 talk,but gettn 2 meet my hubby n also knowing dis particular lady r both best of friends as dey claim gave mii rest of mind...U kw d funniest thing is dat,after I got married 2 my hubby,i became close 2 dis lady in question n 2 my greatest surprise n 2 d shock of my life,d day I new my hubby n dis lady whr sleepn wit each other but using friendship 2 disquise 4 d world,i almost fainted,my sis,i ws neva bein broken as much as I ws dat day n till date,av not heal 4m d wound.....So therefore girl,dat guy is not urs,he belongs 2 her partner,ur bf is a bastarad...As in oloriburuku somebody. My advice is don't seek 4 yeye details,i kw exactly hw u r feeln n d truth is dey r both in a serious relationship if u must accept. Pls walk away n stop wasting ur life 2 d beast.
ReplyDeleteSee how you have turned yourself into a sex toy. Just know that you are a spare tire to him, always in the boot. Nobody is proud of a spare tire. Run from that man. His bad news.
ReplyDeleteBabe u r a side chick abeg as Stella talk borrow urself sense
ReplyDeleteHmmm....receive sense in Jesus name Amen...you are not in a relationship madam poster. I think he is dating his partner. Move on dear.
ReplyDeleteHe's married or engaged or in a serious relationship! Leave him now or get your heart broken!
ReplyDeletewww.ckjacob.com
You are his side chic, please move on with your life before you hurt yourself
ReplyDeleteSame way Daniel Ademinokan and Stella Damasus claimed to be business partners.
ReplyDeleteU are in a situation ship....stop forcing urself on him.....he is dating his business partner and just fucking u....please don't be afraid of being single again....just quietly stop picking his calls....move closer to God and He will surprise u....be strong dearie
ReplyDeleteBabe abeg wear your bata and run, you are not in a relationship. That guy is straffing his partner
ReplyDeletebabes let me borrow you all our senses, maybe that will do cos even you yourself should know when writing this chronicle to stellz that you are sure dating yourself. as you be oshofree person ..sorry not to insult you is abit difficult, you see the signs, the moves, the hand writing etc and you are there still asking this questions? makawhy nau
ReplyDeletewe cant keep repeating thesame advice to people, seem we dont or we aint fast learners on here cos by tomorrow another similar chronicle will surface and we will be left to start typing same. my dear visit similar one that pertains your sort of situation and read through
Please leave .
ReplyDeleteIt's so glaring he's not into you.
Please poster work on your English, I got headache trying to assimilate the sentences. Based on this writing, you are not his type. Either you leave that man or you continue for fun.
ReplyDeleteIs there any position lower than a side chick? I think you are just a booty call. Borrow yourself some sense.
ReplyDeleteYour just being used, next he will dump you after getting his fill. What can a serial liar offer? Heartbreak.
ReplyDeleteBabe, please save yourself from future heartbreak and take a walk now that you can still type this without crying.
ReplyDeleteYou're his side chick.
This 'you are dating yourself' makes me laugh everytime.
ReplyDelete90% of the world's relationship problems will be no more if only we can follow our instincts and use our God given sense honestly.honestly . You know how you want to be treated by your partner,you know what you want out of a relationship and how you want to be loved. If you ain't getting it,simply have a discussion with the person and if it's not changing but rather getting worse, and there is no attempt by your partner to conform to who you want he/she to be,you either quit if its that much of a deal to you or you tolerate it if you can depending on what your priority in that relationship is. But pretending to be cool with it hoping it will change with time or marriage is a grave mistake that only 'Fools in Love'make.IMO, dude is not that into you,you are a 'SIDE CHICK' Ma,you know it,your boyfriend knows it,his gateman knows it,even your gateman knows it too . If you are cool with it,keep playing hide and seek with him,if not then talk to him and if it doesn't change you hit the road . You are there asking if hes playing with you,will he tell you yes ma' ,I'm playing with you?.I've said my own.Bye
You are his side attraction. I dont want to use side chick. How can he drop you half way to use an uber home. Which kain boyfriend is this. Nne unless you are benefitting from the relationship, or you get another guy and flaunt in his face first, otherwise tell him you think you are dating yourself and move on. So long as that business partner never marry, they are bed partners. I guess she goes to his house more than you to discuss business.
ReplyDelete@poster, stella is right. U are dating urself and i have no doubt he has ghenshed ur senses out dat u can't think well. Recieve some sense IJN.....
ReplyDeleteYou are jst his side chick i pity you and the main chick. Esp main babe for all the investments and trust he has on the guy. Borrow your self sense if not you wake up and see their wedding pictures.
ReplyDeleteObviously you are not a good writer. Guyman is using you.He doesn't like you. And you are the side meat. Bye.
ReplyDeletehw do i create blog id
ReplyDeleteNa WA for you o poster, sit down there be asking yeye questions.
ReplyDeleteI swear u be side chick. This are signs N 'symptoms' of one. Ur boo won't marry u but he's dating you for fun, which kind of relationship would u not ur boo's house N wouldn't allow u watch him play activities? Most guys swear even with bible and say the worst while tell are telling lies. So don't believe all that swears. Please move on. He will fuck fuck fuck N dump u.
ReplyDeleteI swear u be side chick. This are signs N 'symptoms' of one. Ur boo won't marry u but he's dating you for fun, which kind of relationship would u not ur boo's house N wouldn't allow u watch him play activities? Most guys swear even with bible and say the worst while tell are telling lies. So don't believe all that swears. Please move on. He will fuck fuck fuck N dump u.
ReplyDeleteYoung lady, do not be blinded by his money and whatever sophistication that is intriguing you. All he is doing is fucking you silly. He is a much older man and since only God knows absolute truths, there is a high probability that he's shagging his partner. If he is in love with you the signs would be there. Sadly there are none. Move on for your sake.
ReplyDeleteFrom your narrative you have been in a relationship before, you are experienced, and You know that other girl is his gf according to the staff, and from his actions, which you have stated here. I'm sure in your heart of hearts, you know she is his main chick, but hoping they break up while he fu*ks you on the side. It's not a bad thing to stick around, it seems he's doing good for him self, na bachelor wey chop belefull go play golf and have cook nau, but while sticking around, just make sure you have a spare tyre boo too, incase he decides to marry his lady golfer, so that you don't loose out totally.
ReplyDeleteDon't get it twisted dear that is not a relationship so stop dating yourself. Move on and don't allow a man to waste your time this 2017 abeg the year is still young
ReplyDeleteIts so obvious you are in a relationship my dear.move on and let him not decieve any longer.ehug and a ekiss.atinuke
ReplyDeleteMy dear that guy is just using you for sex.
ReplyDeleteIt's either he's married or in a serious relationship. From the way you are even talking you don't gain from him financially, he doesn't take you out sef, buy you stuff.
Stop giving yourself away for free.
It's just 6mths, move on now its easy for you to move on instead of hanging on for 2yrs and getting the shocker of ur life by either seeing his wedding pics or his family pic.
Save urself the heartbreak now.
So many men are useless, stop giving them opportunity to use you and dump you.
Its obvious you are not in a relationship i meant.atinuke
ReplyDeleteYour ass is a side chick
ReplyDeletelol!dont mind madam stellla,you're dating your shadow ojare nt yourself
ReplyDeleteHow old are u? Are u did ugly to know this guy isn't into u? Y not upgrade yourself esteem? I don't no y girls hook or force themselves on guys and can't leave after sighting the slightest turn offs in relationships.i mean, I don't get it. Some ladies are just daft!
ReplyDeleteMy dear ehn dat guy doesnt see u as his gf,just leave him Asap bfre u hurt urself more.my advice is to delete his contact so u wnt get tempted to call or keep in touch with him.almost every girl has been where u are now,so dont think too much of this.
ReplyDeleteChai,Nawa o.My dear,you know the truth,you just don't want to accept it,but let me help you loud it... YOU ARE HIS SIDE PIECE!! It's the bitter truth.The moment you let it sink it,then you'll be able to do something about it.
ReplyDeleteDrop that niggur like a bad habit and move on.Abi na the money no gree you see road,cuz from your narrative,seems the guy is having.Abeg,it's better to be with someone that's average that cherishes you,and proud of you than to be with a loaded guy that considers you his plaything.I'm sure that his so called 'partner' doesn't know you exist,and yes,they're more than partners,they are in a relationship. Accept it and move on.
please just as madam stella said *Babes,please borrow yourself some sense and move on,you are dating yourself".
ReplyDeleteBabe what are you waiting for?
ReplyDeleteMy girl you are dating yourself. The hand writing on the wall is so clear that it's about to make you blind. Please read it while you can and move on!
ReplyDeleteOriegwu!!
ReplyDeleteSincerely, the guy is just using u. Plss quit
ReplyDeleteI was in a similar relationship some months back....thank God I was able to quit and move on.The guy didn't even bother to call me
ReplyDeleteSometimes I wonder how our girls of nowadays come here to claim they love a guy who lies, who's secretive et al. How????????????????????????????????????????????????
ReplyDeleteIt beats me flat really.
Nne receive "brain"...except you're hooked becos of financial gains. Too bad though
#make i enter danfo
Poster just give that guy some space he has someone else even if it's not that his partner.
ReplyDeleteSide chick alert. Run for your sanity.
ReplyDeleteBetter quit now before it is too late.
ReplyDeleteHow shallow can girls be?. Babes u are obviously suffering from low self esteem and keziahness, ie too much sharing of the koko. U have obviously been used in different ways in ur past rrships. Quit this relationship that has sunk asap, I know it ain't easy, u can start with being a mermaid, going celibate, refusing to see him at home or places where u can have s*x. Insist on only outdoor dates and watch him flee by himself. Please do not make me waste my advice by still sleeping with him or sticking with him when he starts telling u sweet lies u want to hear. Cos duhh, did u expect him to tell u to ur face that u are d side chick? . Nobody wants to lose their sidechick. He is gonna kkeep on lying till his wedding eve.on another note. Get d patners number from his phone, call her up and intro urself as his gf or ask him to introduce u to her as d gf. Nd observe. U deserve better gurl
ReplyDeleteis obvious that this guy doesn't love you, you are just his side chick
ReplyDeleteNa 6months old relationship don de get issues so? You don't need the hassle babe.
ReplyDeleteMy dear poster, this is the bitter truth but you either believe or not. You are a side chic, in other words, you are dating yourself. A man who TRULY loves you should be proud of you and as such, wouldn't put you through all these. Yes, I know its quite difficult moving on from the one you love but take that bold step & end things with that guy. Prove to him you are worth more than this cos trust me, if you stay in that relationship, your impending heartbreak would come with not just a bachelor's degree but an M.Sc and PhD. All the best!
ReplyDeleteI knew a guy like that; exactly the same way you described. They were always together...in church...worked together. When he aske me out, i asked him why he needed me when had her. He said i opened his eyes that day. They are both married now and he keeps thanking me for being truth
ReplyDeleteFor being truthful and plain. Though i wasn't dating anyone then, i felt they should be together. They are expecting twins now...lol and they are both my friends.
ReplyDeleteNo dear,u shouldn't tell him anything instead tell yourself you made a mistake being with him move on and forget about him.
ReplyDeleteNne use the exit for yourself by yourself. You're just a blob to him.
ReplyDeletestella stella !!! Lol @ borrow yourself some sense. She is indeed dating herself. She is in love with the money and good life i guess.
ReplyDeleteDear sister, borrow yourself brain and move on. You are too beautiful to be a sidechick.The relationship is not real. God bless you.
ReplyDeleteBabe I think U r d side chic here...RUN
ReplyDeleteYou better take Stella's advice and use ur tongue to count ur teeth. I don't know why girls like to mumu for love. All the signs are there but ure looking for reasons to stay. when he finally gets married to that girl u will come out and cry Yoruba demon,Hausa cow, Igbo mafia, but u wont talk about how u refused to have sense. You better pick ur self esteem from wherever u dropped it and walk away from that time waster. Just cus u haven't been lucky in love doesn't mean ul never be.
ReplyDeleteYour relationship is still very young.
ReplyDeleteI suggest you talk to him about how you feel, don't quit yet but keep your mind open to other guys.
The partner have been in his life before you came in, knows very much about him and together they even opened a company, it's possible they are very very close that he may see nothing wrong in doing things with her while you are there.
Still give him time, if you feel otherwise as time goes on, then you can call it quit.
@Great lady.. You are an understated definition of STUPID!Gosh! Madam poster you better dump his ass and allow a man who deserves you into your life... i was in your shoes some years ago! The punk thought he was the next best thing after sliced bread till i dumped his ass!He was a serial liar and cheat! He never got over the shock and stalked my mum with phone calls begging her to talk to me!He got married to an acquaintance's sister last year May...when i saw the wife at the ikeja mall in November..she looked like life itself had been sucked out of her!
Deletemy dear u are dating urself.
ReplyDeleteThe only reason why you're still with this guy is because of money. It's obvious that's you're dating yourself yet you have refused to give yourself brain. Listen to your instincts, and leave him alone. The fear of not having a good relationship is the more reason why you should leave this guy. Leave now that your self esteem is still intact.
ReplyDeleteWhy don't you get the contacts of the business partner and ask her politely maybe over lunch what her relationship is with your man
ReplyDeleteT must be face to face so you can see her reaction
I won't be surprised if that lady is his fiancee please move on. God will give you your own boo. Stop being a side piece
ReplyDeletePoster unfortunately you know he's not on the same social class as you. And he knows it too.
ReplyDeleteMaybe he likes to fuck you. But that's all there is to your relationship, I don't think he's planning to be with you for the long term - I don't think he loves you either. He's not trying to impress you and make you a part of his life instead he seems to be keeping you on the sideline , offering you a glimpse of his life - but keeping you actually being involved .
This denotes two things
1. He's fucking his business partner sometimes , and doesn't want her to get jealous
2. He's just using you to while away time. Till he meets the one .
3. You fuck good. But don't confuse things , sex isn't love ... and he's definitely not INLOVE with you .
Solution
Tell him you done with the sham of a relationship
Break up with him .
Do not call him/ text after
Do not reply his call/text/ whatsapp
If he comes to your work place ignore him totally
Allow him time to see if you valuable, give him a chance to see what loosing you feels like.
If he truly misses/ wants you , he will continue his incessant begging
Then after about 10 days
Randomly pick his call . And organize a meet up on your own turf .
Write down things he has to change, don't miss anything. Then memorize it .
Table all of the complaints here to him on your date . Watch his reaction. If he's willing to change , tell him he's on probation. And it will finally be over if he renegades.
Now Watch him adore you . You have succeeded in creating value to yourself .
Side note - you are too available . Sometimes tell him you busy , ignore his call atyms , don't rush to reply his text , pretend to consult your schedule if he asks you out . Mystify yourself . Give him something to think about
Now do not do all this . If he doesn't care you broke up with him . Abort mission if he doesn't keep calling or texting you. Then you know he's not THAT INTO YOU
(I hope for your sake this posts , I can't not even remember this epistle to retype )
Good luck!
Girl you are a side chick
ReplyDeleteSorry babe you are his bush meat
ReplyDeleteRun away from that relationship before it becomes too late dear
ReplyDeletePlease borrow your sense brain Oo. That guy is not into you at all except you want to remain there for the money.
ReplyDeleteSweetheart! You and I know that your instinct tells you that ... this is wrong
ReplyDeleteDon't let the love you have for him cloud your real judgment
If you love yourself more ( which you should )
End that relationship like a bad habit
Don't even give him closure ... he doesn't deserve it . Let him die of guessing why you moved on
Don't be an option to somonelse . When they are not option.
You'll be fine
Wawu. You are less dan a side chick sef. come to me for classes bitch
ReplyDelete*dat messed up silly girl*
Sweetheart sorry YOU ARE NOT IN A RELATIONSHIP u re very much single. Be wise.
ReplyDeleteDearest Poster, Stella has said it all...You are dating you, yourself and you. QED. Proper side chick things.
ReplyDeleteIssa sidechick
ReplyDeleteSiddon dere make pant still dey wear you
ReplyDeleteUr mumu never do
Better borrow yourself brain before brain borrow you
@Galore
My dear, kindly leave the relationship. He's wasting your time.
ReplyDeletePls come close, you need a serious slap to reset your brain. So you know all these things and you're still writing chronicles.
ReplyDeleteCommon sense is not so common after all. Receive sense in Jesus name.
Lol@Stella's comment.My dear go through this your chronicle over and over u will advise urself better. U are his side chic chikena
ReplyDeleteLol@Stella's comment. My dear go through this ur chronicle over and over again and advise urself.u are his side chic his partner is his main chic chikena
ReplyDeleteTRIPLE EEEEYAHHHH!!!! YOU ARE REALLY DATING YOURSELF....
ReplyDeleteWhat do you do? You sound jobless, it seems like you're one of those girls that see made guys and jump in. Go and build yourself up and you will be at their level. You no reach, everything is not fine girl. Sorry am being harsh but that's the truth
ReplyDeletePoster: staying in this situationship will only ruin your chances of meeting true love. A man who love you will be proud to show you during the day to the whole world as his love and queen. Please don't fight for his love let him love you, adore you and most especially respect you. If he can't do all this my dear walk away.
ReplyDeleteThis poster is dating herself. I'm sure it's because of money that made you endure all these.
ReplyDeleteI will not tell you to leave him because you will still follow your heart especially if he begs you with sweet promises and gives you little cash. Remain there until you see their wedding photos. Then I'm sure you will continue sleeping with him for cash.
You are not even a side chick, you are way lower than that to him. Whether you choose to break up with him after the bashings you get here or not, it's up to you. But take this home, a smart ambitious guy will always go for a lady whose purpose is compatible with his. That girl you choose to term business partner is his heattbeat.
ReplyDeleteGoddamm it, they are working to a power couple status. You possibly cannot imagine how they brainstorm about ideas together, share dreams, gradually developed same social palate, keep each other updated and the time spent together developing into strong affection between them.
What do you even discuss with that guy?
What you've eaten, Your draining hobbies and activities,low IQ friends, gossips and series, have sex, massages, texts and chats, and your tiny hustle...puleez. Any ambitious fellow will never settle for what you offer, LITTLE!
He sees a successful woman everyday, who intellectually stimulates him and probably shaped his taste and tushed him up, fired up his ambition and grows his accounts... a successful woman in her right, a woman like you...and you think you stand a chance. You are not close to an upcoming success story by works, you would have let it slip if you were. So why would he play around with platinum and take a nickel like you seriously?
Look, whatever antics you choose to put after this, like blanking him, forming busy, trying to flaunt other guys to make him jealous, changing your wardrobe, cutting calls and chats... will do nothing, it will only fake shake him up and then he is back fully to his business partner. Coz girl, dude has been "trained" by madam business partner not you!
So go improve your self, become a better version of you if you desire that type. Fire up your ambition and get someone who matches you. Build your team and have his ass trained, courtesy your influence, contributions, personal growth and sensible exposure...then you won't be a below par side chick again.
My apologies if i sound condescending but i need you to get down from that limbo you are suspended in. This love thing is a strong thing. All men are not the same, if it were a basic guy whose satisfaction is complete with sex and companionship, you would win..but you can never win with a man you have no influence over his outlook in life. You aint his let's conquer the world together kind of chick. So keep it moving honey, you will be fine.
Cry, bleed, beat yourself up but choose to grow or find your level. Be realistic in your loving from now onwards.
My dear, I feel for you. I can imagine how you feel now. Please leave him and move on, it's not late, you can find yourself a better man. It's obvious that he doesn't treat you nice. The other girl is his fiancee. Just let go, I know your mind is hurting right now. Please stop wasting your time, just take the bold step and walk away. The lord is your strength.
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