Ha!!!...
STAND ALONE NARRATIVE...
WIFE NOT COOK.
Please help me post.
Just got engaged 6 months ago and we are still planning for our introduction so
my husband to be ask I move in with him since we already engaged, instead of
paying double rent. I agreed and I won’t fake, living with this man has been
hell.
He eats only fresh meal, I cook soup once and it must finish that day, he does
not eat anything they warm or microwave it must be fresh, fresh juice,
fresh water fresh everything .I can squeez orange 12 times in a day, his job is to be drinking.
not eat anything they warm or microwave it must be fresh, fresh juice,
fresh water fresh everything .I can squeez orange 12 times in a day, his job is to be drinking.
I will cook 4 to 5times in a day, I am always in the kitchen.
At some point I decided to agree with our president when he said women belong to the kitchen because I spend my whole life cooking for this man, and after that I get very tired and want to sleep and he still expects me to ride him, because the only way he can cum is if am on top of him.
At some point I decided to agree with our president when he said women belong to the kitchen because I spend my whole life cooking for this man, and after that I get very tired and want to sleep and he still expects me to ride him, because the only way he can cum is if am on top of him.
Am getting really frustrated.
Am not working yet, still job hunting and I wonder how I will cope when kids start coming and I get a job?My greatest fear now is,what if this guy don’t marry me ?
What is after all this slavery this whole thing does not work. Because I don’t think I will continue this in future.I called his attention to it and
the only thing he did was buy me a standing fan in the kitchen and stopped
touching me.If I try to go close to him he will say I should save my
energy for the kitchen so I don’t complain of being tired tomorrow .
Please married ladies is this what marriage is really about?I need to
know please
know please
Poster receive sense in JESUS name!!!
ReplyDeleteAMEN!
DeleteAmen!
DeleteSo madam poster, you still want to marry a man who had made it clear that you must do all these things?
Now I believe when people say women see men's behaviours but still close their eyes because they're desperate.
Tomorrow now you will send chronicle that your hubby is inconsiderate for wanting all this done when he made it clear all along...
You're deceiving yourself madam. What he's doing now will only get worse when you're married so buckle up for a lifetime of sleeping in the kitchen ehn, Cinderella.
poster you are in for a lifetime of slavery. Even if you get a househelp, shr won't stay long because of too much work.
DeleteBrace yourself for a worse
Lol I just laugh as I read this chronicle.
DeletePoster advice yourself jareh
Poster pls why are you coming here to complain.Why not tell him to be doing the cooking since he likes fresh foods. Can he cook that much everytime? he seems to be bullying you and taking advantage of you and you cannot stand up to him.
DeleteIf he like fresh foods, let him cook it. You better leave or stay and continue cooking away your destiny
This narrative just reminds me of the movie #Mr & Mrs (Nse & Benjamin)
DeleteMy dear, if you cannot cope, tell him now and you both had better come to a compromise.
This is slavery!!! Like WTF?
Poster, you look ahead & you see slavery, what the fuck are u still having strenght after kitchen duties to type to SDK & ask questions? Even Nyongo Lupita got awarded, well it was a movie for a good cause, lol.... Yours is for life! Go watch that Nse movie, she seemed to turn thgs around, Don't be fooled, don't watch any movie, this i reality men! U kind of man lack empathy & won't change, they derive joy in enslaving ppl, if h likes thing being so damn fresh, he shld go live in a bush, so he can quickly pluck n consume as it produces fruits, his type will also crave fresh pussy, i can tell u that, its a psycholocical issue lady.... See the red flags flying high & don't ignore or convince urself he'd change.
DeleteFirst of all....move out of of his house....I'm not judging but fornication is now a norm...
DeleteReceive double sense oooo..
DeleteShuuu, is that how slow you are? Chineke meee! If this is not made up story, biko, op acknowledge your things and go back to your hut, and wave good bye, because you are a maid as far as that dude is concerned.
1st of all, Hahahahahahahaha. Chai, poster, u don see all d signs and u still dey ask questions. U be him help mate, and I mean am as in a hundred percent. No more job, no more career. But make I ask, people still dey do dis kin tin. Fresh ko, refrigerated ni. Thank ur God say u agree move in wit am, if not u for no see say na slave Dem wan turn u to.
DeleteAbeg, get to stepping joor. Dis is a no brained. I laugh for Swahili. Me way like to cook for my babe like die. Some guys are just demons in human skins. Walk joor.
Amen.
DeleteSuch an annoying chronicle. Five years from now you'll be looking like his grandmother due to all this unnecessary stress. Please receive sense and run.
DeleteSo what I watched in Mr. & Mrs. happens? Your greatest fear is "what if it doesn't work out"? your say. Should that be your greatest fear? In summary you are willing to spend the best part of your married life cooking? Is the goal to be happy in your marriage or just to get married?...Well, to each his own...I don't know what to say...it's good you are doing a test run though, so now you know!I wish you all the best..
DeleteMadam oh!!! It is already glaring how your marriage will be. I'm surprised u are worried of your efforts being in vain instead of talking with him and stop him from using you as a slave. You are not yet married so this is the time to pack back to your parents house. Why does he have to pay your rent? He need to realise you are a person to be loved and not a cook or slave. If he doesn't change. I advise you to leave him. This is just a tip of the iceberg when you marry him, it will be worst and almost too late.
DeleteMarry him with this attitude and this will be the sweetest chronicle you will ever send to stella, to him you are his maid and sex patner..If you must marry him then get a life thats the only way you can become relevant to him...
DeleteThat is eh
DeleteTruth be told, even if Jesus should come from heaven tonight and give her sense she will blatantly refuse it.
"My greatest fear now is,what if this guy don’t marry me ?" This line sums it up.
No Madam Poster, that is totally not what marriage is about.
Reading your post reminded me of the Nigerian movie 'Mr and Mrs' but you know the difference? You cannot pull stunt Nse pulled there because this no be film.
Chai, I pity you so much not because you're about going into hell and bombing us with Chronicles soon but because your eyes are sealed with German made super glue.
I don't think you deserve pity.
If you marry that man, get ready to cook for his babes and guys and keep the kitchen while he attends the parties and functions with his neat babes who he won't even allow to boil water. Na today?
And I'm sure you're one very fine girl but instead of you to be like Abigail, you decided to become a female Naban. Che fatto
Veru hilarious post,he bought her standing fan. Y evil na
DeleteDon't start what you can't finish.
DeleteHahahahahahaha im happy 4 u madam. Ur hubby 2 be is such a caring dude. Lol. When kids start coming he'll install AC in d kitchen 4 u. My dear I nor envy u o.
DeleteStella abeg wetin do that your "receive slap" emoji....#longsigh
ReplyDeleteHeheeheehehe...this poster is really funny!
DeleteThis is d reason we gals enter into marriages DAT don't have head nor tail!
Madam poster, u already sad DAT this man wouldn't marry u, but are u really sure u want this marriage or ur just rushing to get married?
Well..advice
-Look b4 u leap
- Don't rush in if not u rush out!
Good luck!
Thank your star,it is just an engagement.
DeleteFire on the mountain,run run run,run
Poster, i have only one question for you... who was cooking the fresh food he was eating every day before you moved in?
DeleteAnd no, this is not what marriage is about
Was your mother cooking fresh food for your mother everyday? Both you and the man are clueless! Better leave that lazy and wicked man now before he kills you with stress in the future...that's if he intends marrying you. It seems like he wants you to run because no man in his right senses will do this before Marriage!
DeleteAnother stupid girl's chronicle
ReplyDeleteWhy move in with a man that has not paid your bride price?
As a mother, will you like your daughter to do same?
Now why are you complaining; you cheapened yourself and he trampled on you
And you probably have aborted for him; or are you infertile?
He will dump you
Be wise
Get out and close your legs when next you are found by a genuine man
Poster be glad you moved in with him this time so you now know what to expect.
DeleteIts left for you to decide if you will stay with him or leave.
Here we go again.
DeleteWhen will girls ever learn bikonu?
Biko stay ooo.
Continue making fresh food for him and keep on riding him every night.
We re patiently waiting for your part 2 chronicle.
What are we here for?
Onye apari.��
Poster i beg you to listen to all these advice here. That man is just using you.
DeleteWould she had known his attitude if she didn't move in with him?A broken relationship is Bette than a broken home. I support moving in to study each other for a while before marriage
DeleteHian which kind man be this again. ..na wa o
ReplyDeleteSo this is real
Modern day slavery
DeleteNa wicked man very selfish being
DeleteU get sense at all....wetin u still dey do with the man... Na by force to marry?huh..
DeleteSorry I'm not married but allow me jump in here and please feel free to insult me and call me names as usual.
ReplyDeleteAnd you want to marry this man still? I'm so sure homeboy doesn't know how to boil water because it will probably have lumps if he tries yet he wants to turn you into a slave.
There's nothing wrong with cooking for your man or a man you are dating plus plan to marry but this level of entitlement is on another level.
Clearly you can't cope and you need to speak against it now before you'd die before your time.
Freshly cooked meals right? Well he can get a cook to assist when you can't because you are presently job hunting.
He can also eat out, you don't have to make his meal all the time.
Let me tell you if you keep up with this into marriage and then kids come in you'd look 50 at age 30 then this same man you're slaving for in the kitchen will call you ugly and old then go outside to meet a fresher babe whose nails are too long to cut onions or her lashes is too long to see clearly because they serve as umbrellas to shade the sun or rain.
My dear this is not the way to live and luckily you're seeing it now before jumping the Broom. Be not be silent about the things that bother you else you'd die not bothering and people will say you enjoyed it.
I'm even sick to my stomach that you'd still expect him to touch you after making you slave for him in the kitchen.
DeleteDon't you have shame sef? I hope you wrote this chronicle after packing your things ready to leave his house.
You turned yourself to cook and cowgirl riding homeboy to climax.
Who was doing all these things before he met you?
Baby girl, better pack and leave that house. He obviously has cash to throw around that's why you're there taking orders and acting like a teenage girl who hasn't seen penis before.
Free penis full town if na that one dey worry you.
Engagement not slavery, he hasn't even met your parents officially. When he pays bride price nko? He'd probably ask you not to work that he'd pay you while you stay at home and slave away.
Who the hell is he? Oshisco.
😁😁😁😁😁😁 @ water having lumps.
DeleteDG the girl ain't married either. And even if she was, pls stop 'encouraging' the narrow minded people who say single people cant wade into issues of married ones.
DeleteLoud 🔊 it Doppel.
DeleteI love you
DeleteHahahahaha @water having lumps. I like that. Poster, use your head. If u can't cope with it when married, flee from it now. Selah
DeleteAsk him if that's how he was raised? Nonsense... my husband wanted to start this, I warned him very well with starvation. If it is salad, stir fry I can understand not things like moi moi, beans, soup or stew. All these men sef, it is well. Better move out of his house he may not marry you eventually. It's doable if you live abroad for most meals but not Nigerian food like jollof rice.
Delete👍👌
DeleteI don't eat more than two days soup tho...vegetable one day...
ReplyDeleteEvery other thing one day
Else I drink garri
I have a very fragile stomach system where undercooked, unfresh food etc will make me purge for days...if I eat late in the evening like 7:30/8pm...I won't be able to slp and I will start throwing up the next day till all the food is gone
But I must say ur man's own is too much considering the fact that he doesn't help u out with it
I can't over work myself to the extent I won't be able to make love ...yes...
Sit him down and talk to him about how stressful it is cos my dear even after all the cooking,he might still dump ur ass...yeah...they are badt like that....
Are u a kitchen woman abi all rooms woman?
I don't like that abeg
All these kind of men dont change. Talking doesnt shake them. They are very selfish kind of people. Atleast if you so like fresh foods you should help out in the kitchen also. This man doesnt love this girl. Poster please run for your dear life.
DeleteWho ask you all this long epistle @ ibunkun ? I noticed you have been telling lies a lot these days. Check all your comment on all Valentine post and compare it. Stop lying, it won't earn you anything good or what do you intend to gain by all those your plemty lies ? To be relevant here ? I'm sorry for you.
DeleteThis chronicle is not about you Ibukun.You talk too much for a lady.
DeleteIbukun the sex narrator. The only thing I read on your comment is
Delete*I can't over work myself to the extent I won't be able to make love ...yes.**
Are always like this Ibukun? Lol
What a lazy husband to be, he can't give u doggy style n cum, prepare o, lol, u go ride wella.
ReplyDeleteAnd hey, that kinda cooking is tiring, unless he goes to work u cook breakfast n dinner, both of u should straighten it out NOW.
Cook, freeze, defrost n eat, unless there's no fridge then my sister, buckle up or buckle out.
Yes
DeleteThe fact that he doesn't even touch her again saying she needs the energy to cook ...that's harsh mehn
Chronicles from a lazy woman and you lazy lots will support her. A vitruos wife w cook as often as her husband wants, ride him as o a he wants. As for for you, I'm sure you can't ride a man till he cums, you are just a sex braggart.
DeleteYes oh, blackberry
DeleteVery lazy man i tell you, he always wants her working to please his appetite, even during love making she should work, & remove the condom to dispose sef afterwards, she added that he cnt cum unless she on top, i can imagine the gymnastics she does for how long b4 he cums, all to please a man, see wat society has done to ladies mentality.
But nnem, odiro possible to convince such dude, nothing to straighten, na to jejeli comot. he no go marry her, I bet my breakfast on it.
DeletePls I beg you, Run for your DEAR LIFE!!!
ReplyDeleteWhat has he been eating before you move in with him.
DeleteNo that's not what marriage is, but marriage can be anything you make of it.
So move out and buy yourself some dignity
Before you ask married ladies if this is what marriage is all about ask yourself if this what your mother is doing for your father. If YES , it means that's what marriage is all about. But if NO my dear leave that dude because he will definitely dump you.
ReplyDeleteWhy do I like this comment?.
DeleteSpot on Chike!
She is not even meant to ask,she is supposed to give him a piece of her mind cos what the fiance requires of her is total bull...
Na wa o!
Lol!
DeleteBless you. Which Kain overwork be that? Some men ehn. It is well with you, poster.
DeleteBetter still, poster ask yourself genuinely if this the kind of marriage you would like to experience. And act fast if not.
DeleteI would say flee that guy is inhumane.
If he can't do all these for himself y is he so selfish to the point of using you to do these things for him?
I Neva loved d idea of moving in wiv ur fiance but good u did and now can see clearly what you marriage wiv him would be like. It would hurt but temporarily, so run.
Marjorie
Young girl, where are your parents and family? Are you a slave? You're not even legally married to him and he already used you like this. Now if you continue like this and after having 2 kids, you will just look as if you're the one that gave birth to him. What's your problem? They say what you won't accept in future don't try to cope with it now, it's high time you move out and set your priorities right, if he can't treat you like a wife, don't settle down with him, he's the type that beliefs women are slaves
ReplyDelete*Larry was here*
Yes
DeleteShe go quick old
I tell you.
DeleteAunty bike FLEE! No long story again
ReplyDeleteStory of an EX. Although I never cooked for him. He only told me he eats only fresh. No one "warms" his food.
DeleteI didn't move in m wasn't engaged because I couldn't come to terms with cooking only fresh and I can't move in with any man except my Bride price has been paid
No, my dear. That's not what marriage is about. And just so you know, whatever you condone now, will get worse when you eventually get married. Trust me on that.
ReplyDeleteSo if you know you can't cope with this situation, you know what to do. I'm so pissed, I tell you.
You shouldn't have moved in with him in the first place though. But on the brighter side, it's made you see his semi color.
All the best dear.
Yes
DeleteMoving him with him made her see that if not ehn but me I will never do it....ain't moving shit in till u put a ring on it
Exactly
DeleteMadam you never marry. Engagement no be marraige. Why will you live with a man after engagement. No complain. Abeg carry your cross jare.
ReplyDeleteMadam cook and orange juice maker
Bet Y are u like this NNE😂
DeleteI dey imagine the kind lerosn wey u go be for real life...very funny woman😂
Ahn ahn... organs juice? Let me read again. Holup! ☝
Delete*orange
DeleteSure you asked married ladies question;
ReplyDeleteI am married and I did not move into my fiance's house
I moved into my husband's house; yes he paid the bride price to my dad and that night I moved in
It's been sweet
He helps me buy food stuff and helps me in the kitchen
Please girls DO NOT CHEAPEN YOURSELVES BY MOVING IN WITH A BOY
Yes a boy because no man will want a lady move in without paying her bride price.
Girl, if you don't run away from this man, you will become not only a cook but a babymama when kids come
Sorry did I say baby mama; no you will become a baby and milk factory all joined together
You will be squeezing breast milk to feed a big toddler you call "husband" before you even feed the babies.
Her moving in even though wrong has helped her know the true nature of her would be husband.
DeleteWATCH MR AND MRS. DO YOU THINK HIS MOTHER DOES THE SAME FOR HIM? HAS HE BEEN EATING FRESH FOOD BEFORE YOU CAME INTO HIS LIFE? THANK GOD U NEVER DO WEDDING. DONT MARRY HIM OR YOU WILL SUFFER. ANY BABE THAT TAKES YOUR PLACE WILL STILL SUFFER. THAT MAN IS VERY WICKED. TELL HIS MUM. IF HE DOESNT CHANGE, PACK YOUR THINGS!
ReplyDeleteIF YOU DONT, THINK OF HOW YOU WILL BE IN SOME YEARS TIME. SOME THINGS CAN BE ENDURED BUT THIS ONE PPL WONT TOLERATE!!!
USE YOUR TONGUE TO COUNT YOUR TEETH.
GOD IS OPENING YOUR EYES
HE WILL GIVE YOU A BETTER MAN.
SEND A LINK OF THIS POST TO HIM TO READ THIS NIGHT AFTER PPL DON COMMENT FINISH. HE COULD PRETEND TO CHANGE THEN CONTINUE AFTER THE WEDDING. USE YOUR BRAIN AND CHOOSE WISELY OR WE GO READ YOUR CHRONICLE TIRE
Poster watch Mr and Mrs
DeleteHe's rich or you're desperate. Next.
ReplyDeleteLmao
DeleteEasy easy buddy
I pity you sha. Well, maybe its because you are jobless, dats why he is taking advantage of you cos I believed if you are working, you wouldn't have the time to stay in d kitchen all day.
ReplyDeleteBy d way, how was he feeding before you moved in with him? Haven't you ever noticed this in him before you engaged him, or you thought it didn't matter? Or perhaps he just decided to enjoy himself at your expense, knowing fully well dat you want marriage.
I'll advise you to dust your slippers and run now dat you haven't entered fully and don't start what you can't finish.
Or put your foot down and tell him firmly that you are tired of being in d kitchen 24hrs.
In fact, I think dat guy is just taking advantage of you. Fresh food my foot.
Very good question. How was he feeding before u moved in?
DeleteHahahahaha sorry but i had to laugh..He bought you a standing fan in the kitchen after complaining??? Girl you are on your own. My advice is to draw your two ears and run from that slavery you call relationship.
ReplyDeleteHonestly I also laughed 😂😂 thank God its not only me who finds this funny. God really blesses people with girlfriends oh. Emi? Chikito? When there's hellofood on speed dial. Isokay.
DeletePoster reading this your Chronicle reminds me of the movie "Mr and Mrs"
ReplyDeleteAre you sure you are not narrating a movie scene to us?
Lmao
DeleteNo
Some people are like that
I wish it was.
DeleteFunny thing is that everyone whose advice I ask kip mentioning this movie. I will make out time to watch it.
As in ehn, this is Mr & Mrs. "I, Ken Abba doesn't eat stale food" Chai.
DeleteIn church yesterday, we were told that cohabiting with a spouse/boyfriend/girlfriend is wrong wether you're engaged or not reason being it reduces your value before them.
What does this your fiancé want, a maid or a life partner? It's okay to cook afterall you guys have "moved, in" together but to naw be in the kitchen everytime making
everything fresh haha. Is this the routine in his parents house?
Ask yourself if this is how you want to spend your life, and if this isn't how you want to, speak up for yourself.
Lol @mr and mrs, but the Nse own better, because she was married, but this our 'new maid' is not even married, the guy just used introduction to brain wash her so she can move in and come and belong to the kitchen, kai!
DeleteIt is not a movie nau. Ahn ahn... say soemthing 😂
DeleteI posted like ten comments but I'm only seeing two.
DeletePoster pray for the remaining eight comments to appear.
No dear, this is DEFINITELY not marriage but sufferhead. I can't even believe you still want to go ahead with the marriage plans. Pls do not start what you can't finish....you go tire. Your fiance is very inconsiderate and selfish.
ReplyDeleteLmao @ suffer head��
DeleteBetter sufferhead worst still the guy will not marry you.
DeleteU must be very silly to degrade yourself to this when he's not even married to you yet. Continue you hear, you will turn out to be a housewife . So pissed abeg.
ReplyDeleteNo one should come and talk rubbish under my comment about pride or arrogance make I no curse you this evening
Nobody go curse u
DeleteThe chronicle vex person
You have turned yourself into a slave.
ReplyDeleteOooshey president of d kitchen gang!
DeleteOooshey president of d kitchen gang!
DeleteAbsolute bullshit. Mtchewwww.
ReplyDeleteBeyond bullshit sef...
DeleteModern slavery!
ReplyDeleteHe got you a standing fan when you complained and decided to stop fornicating with you?
Babes, even though it is not in the godliest of ways you discovered this, I'll advise you run away, by the time you start popping kids, you will be a very tired person all your life.
You are to be a helper not a burden-bearer.
I also think what is happening to you is "see finish".
Poster let me tell you, all men easily gets tired of a lady that is over loyal.
ReplyDeleteWashing, cleaning, cooking and doing reverse cow girl for him can't make him wife you.
He should employ a cook if not do not marry him. simple!
ReplyDelete
ReplyDeleteYou have successfully enslaved yourself.
You had better look for any excuse, genuine or not, to opt out of his house, you may still be in the relationship, provided you can cope with him if you end up together.
Am not such this one is ready to marry you. I hate men that stress their ladies.especially this one he is always telling you to come on top to ride him meaning stress too with him will be stressful as well.let me wait to read comments,need to learn something today.
ReplyDeleteHmmmm, don't start what u cannot finish. BTW thats slavery.
ReplyDeleteAm not such this one is ready to marry you. I hate men that stress their ladies.especially this one he is always telling you to come on top to ride him meaning sex too with him will be stressful as well.let me wait to read comments,need to learn something today.
ReplyDeleteI can't stop laughing!!! That's not how it is but its something you have to find a way around
ReplyDeletecook meals that don't take time to prepare and give special meals weekends make sure you spend sometime to relax in the afternoon and when you know you cant bear it get a cook to assist you. Know that the woman's body wears out so no matter what you must advocate for yourself
Poster let me tell you the plain truth. It is not every time that a wife will cook for her husband. Just dump his lazy wicked Ass.
ReplyDeleteIf your man has never cook for you, my dear he is not a husband material. Husbands cook sometimes cook for their wives.
Your man doesn't need a wife. Walk away, let him use the bride price and money he would use to maintain a wife to get himself maids (cos one would run away after a while) and the rest to get prostitutes when he needs sex (he needs to pay to get satisfied) and someone to act as surrogate mother when he needs a child, then his life would be perfect.
ReplyDeleteAnimal is what he is!
hahahahaha.....sorry the standing fan part in the kitchen got me laughing.
ReplyDeleteAll i have to say is that, what you can't tolerate in marriage ,don't tolerate it while dating.(An advice given to me by my big Aunt).
Datsall!!!
Poster, if that lazy wicked thing you call your boyfriend say he only eat fresh meal ask him how many fresh meal does his mother cooked for him when he was growing up. Also ask him how many fresh meal he cooked for himself when you you were not living with him.
ReplyDeleteLMAO. You are mouthed. Chai.
Delete😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
ReplyDeleteWhat are u doing living with him? Start looking for a job immediately, and move back to ur parents house or ur place as d case maybe. You are not married yet
ReplyDeleteIn summary - he just wants someone to cook his meal, d love he has for you isn't more than what he has for a freshly cooked meal daily. If you leave him, he will only beg u to come back mainly cos of food. . If he can stay off sex just for food!!!! Wow.. d love for food is far greater. Kindly try to b scarce for now, go stay in some friends place. Sorry bout this.
ReplyDeleteMy brother is like your fiancé. He eats only fresh meals. No microwave in his house. No overnight soup. No frozen anything. His wife cooks fresh meals for him each day and they've been HAPPILY married for 10years ( ten years) and 3 months! He leaves home 5:30 am each day for work with freshly made lunch in a food carrier. His wife tries, I must confess. But, at poster, if you can't do again, please leave. And I can bet you that that man WILL NOT marry you. He won't. You're just being stupid doing wife roles for him. Another brainless girl!
ReplyDeleteYou are an extremely stupid girl. Typical fish brained nigerian woman. You complain about all these & admit u are already frustrated, yet ur biggest fear is him not marrying u at the end? As in, you are still so hung up on marrying a man that has turned u to his slave? You see your life? Later after your eyes are cleared you will go around claiming the guy is a devil, yet he has shown u his true self even before marriage.
ReplyDeleteI pity all the BVs who are gullible enough to support women with sob stories about their husbands. Most of them chose those men that way! This is a classic example. Mumu raised to power 90.
nooooooo that is not marriage.........please run!!!!!!!
ReplyDeletePoster is like you like sex too much? Why are you begging him for sex?
ReplyDeleteApply what you ladies call strength of a woman. Whenever he talks about sex, romance him well well and if he want to penetrate tell him you have lost interest. My dear believe me, he will go down on his knees and beg you. Do plenty iyanga for him before you will know negotiate price of penetration(you kitchen freedom) with him. Do it repeatedly.
Don't forget to come and thank me later.
Chisos Christ... Really? U're still asking questions... ahanahan better leave that man. Thank God na onli introduction una don do..wow.
ReplyDeleteand he doesn't even assist.
ReplyDeletethat's irritating!.
Stella, this story was copied from a facebook group. The same story was posted last year so I doubt the poster is the original owner o. All this attention seeking people
ReplyDeleteStella, this story was copied from a facebook group. The same story was posted last year so I doubt the poster is the original owner o. All this attention seeking people
ReplyDeleteI was the one that sent it to the facebook group. Amanda Chisom also put it on her wall.
DeleteJust wanted BVs opinons.
My Val shout out goes to
ReplyDeleteMiss Ess(happy belated birthday)
Cookie
Pipi Lee
PASTOR'S DAUGHTER (SteffySoFlySoFyn aka kokolet aka leg hanger aka ... *lol*)
Ipherie dear
Amanda Favour
Elastic
LOLO IDEATO
Chief Queen and Boss
Esther Mgbolu
Adadioramma
Miss Lynn
Chikito
Isaacson
Sandy Nekky
Fan Emmanuel (my MMM family)
Peace Maker
Doppelganger
Ibukun (sex narrator *lol*)
Stella I sent you a mail. Please help me post it.
Stella my agape love for you is still strong
Dear Poster,pls scroll up and read what u just posted...how does it sound to u?Pls receive sense
ReplyDeleteHi guys, Please hope effective is 24/7.As a broke student I don't have money to waste. Please advise
ReplyDeleteNawa o, wetin I wont read of SDK blog.
ReplyDeleteThat isn't life you are living honestly. He even bought fan for you in the kitchen, so you can spend all your free time in kitchen. Next time pls ask him to also buy a small tv and connenct DSTV in that kitchen. Because if you don't address it now, that will be your life. Then your body and hair will be smelling of pepper and oil all day long.
On a serious note, I do enter the kitchen daily. But from mon-fri I'm only making little things like rice, eba , frying plantain,or someone even helps me with that if I'm too tired. All my main soups and stews I cook personally and are cooked weekend and stored in the freezer and I bring out one daily.
I don't even know what advice to give, let others advice you.
The only ppl that can live comfortably like this is those that are full time house wives.
I believe in women cooking in their homes. But how will you maintain a job, take care of kids and then spend hours behind gas cooker. No quality time to rest and even relax with your kids and husband.
Is that man really looking for a wife. or he's looking for cook and bedmate? only you can answer that.
LMAO! This is funny and sad at the same time. I laughed at squeezing all that orange and his own is to be drinking. 😂😂😂
ReplyDeletePoster, the writing's on the wall!
So you are now his cook ,sex was just a plus.Do your parents know you moved in with a man?Anty,please give yourself brain and do the right thing.
ReplyDeleteDoppelganger said it all! pls babe its better u both have a very serious talk abt dis issshh! what does he mean by not eating warmed food, is that how he's mother slaved for he's father & them? he must sign agreement to hire a cook o,if not Oyo is ur case,he might even want you to be a stay@home wife/mum,even with that he must hire a cook....babe take abt dis !If u can't bear the heat pls flea asap..#wifenotcook#wifenotslave
ReplyDeleteAs much as living with him isn't totally the right thing, I think it just saved you.
ReplyDeleteImagine marrying him and moving in with him before you discover this attitude and by then you're already married. Hmm
Abeg dont beat yourself up for living with him, theres nothing wrong. Gbenshing is the wrong part.
Good you have discovered this. And like blackerry rightly said, buckle up or buckle out.
if you cant cope and he's stuck on his ways, better leave now for the good of all parties involved.
Lol
ReplyDeleteThis guy was sent to ruin your life.
It seems money is a problem for you that's why you are putting up with his wickedness.I was waiting to read where he got you a job or gave you some money to start up a business as his jobless fiancee but all he does is to exploit you in the kitchen during the day and in bed at night!!!
But wait o,is he rich?If yes,dont leave him empty handed!save some money from him or if possible,swindle him and rent a house and start something with the remaining while looking for a job but make sure you run for your life or else you will remain a cook for the rest of your miserable life.
Poster, watch Mr & Mrs if you havent
ReplyDeleteThat's why when dating.. you should ask questions! Like what are your opinion on domestic violence
ReplyDeleteOpinion on gender equality
This gives you a perspective of your partners ideology.
No oo, but all we are concerned is bae this
Bae money for hair , bae what's your movie genre.
Now see ... he likes fresh food
You are not even working ... have you asked him what his thoughts about having you solely dependent on him?
But you are satisfying his sexual appetite for orgasm
Someone that you want to spend your rest of your life
Babe you are not ready nor serious for marriage.
Better attend marriage Counselling ... if you intend to go with this marriage and ask important questions .
If you ask me
Is t move is to move out of the house before see finish sets in too early.
this girl no get sense at all,i pirry for you continue to dey do house girl
ReplyDeleteAre u narrating this movie "Mr and mrs"
ReplyDeleteLmao. Smoothie chef.
ReplyDeleteMove out
ReplyDeleteI'm sory but did you not notice this before you got engaged! Una sha! Thinking with your Anus then shey! Better borow sense cos I'm sure u saw all of this and still went ahead to agree to marry him.
ReplyDeleteYou shouldn't have moved in with him. All the same it is an eye opener.you know better now, please kindly move out of that house and set your priority right. What if he dumps you at the same time. He is a lazy man, you ride him.better give yourself some brain.
ReplyDeletePoster your mumu be like Huawei phone battery, it is inbuilt! Btw, watch Mr and Mrs starring Nse Etim and Joseph Benjamin.
ReplyDeleteThats how slavery begins.
ReplyDeleteSo standing fan is the solution to all that you complained about?
Poster that relationship is not a healthy one.
The way i see it, am sure when you guys are married, he won't allow you work. He would want you to become a house wife.
No man has the right to treat a woman that way.
Women are home builders not slaves.
If you do not walk away now, you will live to regret it.
And if you dare to challenge him after marriage, he will start hitting you. Run s far as you can.
Poster do you still have legs to run? If yes, pls run. If no, kindly borrow and run. Your man believes wives should be taken as slaves.
ReplyDeleteAfter you've over pampered him, you are now complaining.
ReplyDeleteAre you for real? Babe, respect urself and leave his sorry ass. This is the kind of person that would tell u he doesn't want u working when u finally get a job.Is it fresh food he's been eating before u came into d picture. You r nt yet married and u r sounding frustrated already.Wetin go come happen when u marry and start having kids.Abeg use ur head.
ReplyDeleteYou wan enter one chance o!
ReplyDeleteThis is rubbish ,how was he copping b4 u moved in with him? This chronicle made me laugh,reminded me of Mr & Mrs,lol.... This ur slave master,does he work in an oil company? What jazz did he use on u?
ReplyDeleteMy dad was like that hmmmm. I personally prayed never to marry someone like him yes. You cant please people like that, with all my mum did cooking fresh meals and serving fresh fruits he still got married to a second and third wife. My dear what you cant take in a relationship dont bother. Cos he will turn you to a mordern slave.
ReplyDeleteGet married to someone that is understanding with also a conscience.After cooking jollof rice my husband will warn me not to touch the bottom of the pot cos thats his favorite. So my dear dont kill yourself for someone that is too selfish to think of only himself. What happens when you get pregnant or have kids and may not be able to cook fresh foods everyday.
hmmmm i hope you dont ride your destiny out for a man like that.
ReplyDeletena wa ooooh begin to ask the right question now, take the right action before it becomes to late. i cant come and go and die bcoz of a man na. mba odiro possible.
Dear poster I have a family whose father is exactly like your man.every thing he wants is fresh . she is a shadow of herself. A slave...my dear don't run.....flee
ReplyDeleteUr fear is if d relationship doesn't end well, MY dear wat are u doing with a 👾 ? Why not move out of that hell of a house? If he want to eat everything fresh tell him to get a nanny. I do everything in my home with the support of a nanny!
ReplyDeleteBy the way how expensive is the ring that he want to turn u into a slave.? The guy most be rich for him to b eating fresh food everyday.......
ReplyDelete1: move out of that house; engagement is not marriage.
ReplyDelete2: stop fornicating. Fear God just a little, my dear
3. If you are not the type that can cook and meet his needs, please break up the relationship and let his own real wife locate him. It is evident that you're not his missing rib.
5: my parents have been married for 44 years and my Mum cooks her meals fresh. We cook all 3 meals fresh each day no matter what meal it is. 44 years of eating fresh meals! My Mum is a typical career woman. She rose to Director level at work, with 6 kids ( mostly boys) a husband and in-laws to care for. Yet, she made us all fresh meals. No house help as she does not trust people. She's now over 70 years, yet, she looks much more younger. You'll never believe her age! My Dad sits and orders us all around. I love him though. But, we are a happy Christian family! So, if you can't cope, leave now! Finally, I can assure you 95% that your fiancé WILL NOT marry you. Have a sincere talk with him, sweetie. May our good God dash you small sense. Amen
A man who only eats fresh meal is selfish. Dear poster, if you think you can cope with this life style after marriage then feel free to continue. It is not going to stop after marriage it will only get worse. I don't see you working in the future because your man will later tell you why do you need to work. For someone who deprives you of sex just so you can save your energy for cooking does not sound like someone who can allow your job hunting deprive him of his meal. The choice is yours.
ReplyDeleteYou are very stupid for bringing this here. Lemme ask this questions. Are you fat, ugly looking with your joblessness ?
ReplyDeleteWho do you like this ?
In case you don't know, you are a slave on probation period !
WTF did i just read? He sees you more like his cook than anything. He is more concerned about the fresh daily food you cook for him than any other thing. You haven't tied the knots yet and you are already experiencing hell, what happens when you do? you should not be afraid if he doesn't marry you. You should be more afraid when he does.
ReplyDeleteIn the developed world, moving in together isn't such a bad idea, it gives you the opportunity to see your partner the way he or she is, then you ask yourself if this is what you want to experience for the rest of your life.
You are unhappy already and you aren't married yet, may you get some sense and know when t leave a relationship.
I no fit laugh abeg. Truly you belong o the other room and kitchen. It's only Niger Delta men that can ask for such because na them get assorted food for him to be asking for fresh food.Lol. I hope he will marry you. But better let him know you can't keep up with this hard labour of cooking everyday. Unless he hires a help. Cos when you start work, that is if he allows you work sef. Don't start what you can't finish. Sorry eh. But this is funny.
ReplyDeleteA broken engagement is a million times better than a bitter loveless marriage. When you revolt don't be surprised when domestic violence sets in. Leave that l egoistic buffoon of a man before you regret your whole life. Marriage is partnership,love and compromise. Marry your friend and not just any man but most importantly seek God's face. He will bless you and add no sorrow. Marriage is beautiful,anything else is self afflicted suffering.
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ReplyDeleteOh girl are u OK sha? When am cooking my fiance stand next too me helping me and once and done with soup I tell him to make eba or semo which ever one we decide hmmm you know what he serves the food on the dinning. Your man is supposed to be your helper not making you a slave. And to make matter worse you still have to ride him to come haba after all the stress despite my fiance helping me with everything when I ever I visit him he still respects my body no sex till after marriage. Pls woman run for your dear life that man does not love you at all don't be desperate to settle down.
ReplyDeleteYou are his slave and maid, meanwhile I can stay days without cooking self, cos my husband will tell me to cook plenty beans, jollof rice, moi moi and store in the fridge, I only warm it or micro wave it and fry plantain join that's all meanwhile I ain't working o, he said it's better that way than his wife cooking always. Trust me u will look 50 when u are 30. And this kin man go make u wash him cloths,boxers, clean bathroom and fuck u jor. When u come get kids you go look lyk a mad woman
ReplyDeletePoster I'm sorry to say this, you are a BIG FOOL!!! Is this really what you want like I mean the kind of life you want for yourself? Must you get married? If yes, must it be to this wicked fool? Ha! men dey sha. See me wey dey form chef and my hubby will be angry that I stand too much cooking then another man is telling someone else's daughter to be cooking him fresh meal like seriously? If he wants fresh meal why can't he enter the kitchen and make it himself lets see if he can continue. What rubbish oh! Ehn!! as what na? Some men are full of rubbish oh. Before he met you how was he coping? Wait a minute, so this man in question deliberately asked you to come live with him so he can turn you into his slave bec you are not a wife. YOU ARE A SLAVE BIKO.
ReplyDeleteMadam, I stayed with my hubby before we got married. Listen, two months into our staying together, he told me out rightly that he is getting married to me that I should get ready to lead him to my father's house which I did after I returned from an official trip. In fact the guy no wan waste time. While we were together, he hardly let me enter the kitchen na me self dey form ajebo pikin wey no dey eat stale food. Not until my elder sister called me to order and her reason being that I can't sustain such once I start having kids so I should adjust which I did. A man that loves you will not let you pass through stress. I do tell women who cares to listen that, when you see an angel in form of a man you will know. When you experience first hand love, you will never settle for less and will forever cherish love. A good husband should be able to understand and have human feelings.
My dear I'm not just a married woman, I am happily married so I know what I'm telling you. Don't settle for less my sister. I do the cooking in my home yes! bec it is part of my duties but no making fresh meal like machine even machine dey tiya self lol. I cook two pots of different soups and put in the freezer to last hubby for a month. The food we take to work the next day is prepared in the evening after I return from work and I neatly pack them into our lunch box straight to the fridge. Chai! nothing wey man pikin no go hear sha. That your suppose hubby is WICKED.
Poster, if you know what is good for you, please pack your things and go now it is still morning. Don't say you were not warned. Pls Madam Stella take note of this particular lady should in case she goes ahead to marry this man and later send in chronicles. Please I am begging you don't post if she does bec we've all advised her to run for her dear life.
Where is it written that marriage is by force? We give men the upper hand to do what they please. If you know your worth, you won't settle for less I tell. Honestly you've left me appreciating God all over again for the man he gave me as hubby.
Indeed some are very fortunate in marriage and while some are very unfortunate.
Please don't be sorry to say she's a fool. And it's her type that will be forming tired when her mum tells her to do things at home. I'm sure she doesn't do this for her own family and you're there slaving yourself for a man. Continue cooking oh ad "Sisi Yemmie" that you is now.
DeleteMtcheeww even sisi Yemi is making money from her own. The next thing now is for you to open a YouTube channel with that your standing fan.
" his job is to be drinking" lmao, please that guy wants a slave not a wife.
ReplyDeleteYou have turned urself into a slave. U r desperate!! I've been married 15yrs and have never suffered like this. In fact I am stunned!
ReplyDeleteHmm received sense
ReplyDeleteWhat rubbish! This póster is very stupid, how on earth do you think you can cope with that? Freshly cooked food all the time? Like Seriously, where are ur parént? How does the guy eat b4 u met him? How long did you date him b4 he Engaged you? Ur story got me laughing hard & at same time very angry. Pls pack your bag & leave that guy. He wont worth it at the end. He will use you, molest you & dumped you. The very next time u ild see him, will be in a restaurant with à beautiful Lady. Be wise!
ReplyDeletethe man dey mad ni? who has that time these days that women work to support the home. even if i am a full time house wife kolewerk rara. i work in the bank , wake up 5am, leave the house btw 5:30 to 5:45 from the mainland to VI and get back by 9pm. which man wey give me this stress for christ sake?
ReplyDeletehe will tell me if his mum made fresh meals for him. ladies abeg no give man that priviledge you go just die and age faster
babe... receive sense in Jesus Name Amen
ReplyDeleteI have a couple in church that the husband eat fresh food everyday. Funny, the wife is not working and she well known in the market. Even without money at hand, she buy and pay them later.
ReplyDeleteNow, this is my fear for you poster. You are not married yet you are already complaining. Min you, he won't change but my get worse. My advice is for you to tell him at least every 3 days, you cook fresh or else, you will be like this till forever!
this reminded me of the Abbah family in 'MR and MRS'...run
ReplyDeleteNo!no!!no!!!This is not what marriage is about o biko.This one is just a domineering beast.I know some women can only achieve orgasm with a particular style but never heard that about man
ReplyDeleteHe's going to turn you to a REAL slave after marriage. If you don't want to be,LEAVE!!!But if you love your life presently,please stay!Just don't send in another chronicle
BTW,1st chronicle I'm commenting on!That's how much I'm pissed(I no just wan abuse you no o or talk too much)
This is not marriage my dear, run and dont look back.
ReplyDeleteABEG STOP NARRATING D MOVIE MR & MRS TO US. GO FIND UR STORY. NONSENSE !
ReplyDeletePlease please please do not marry him. Marriage is not like that, not e that he isn't behaving this way because you are staying with him,thats the way he is. If you marry him the you are finished cos after serving him, you'llserve his family.
ReplyDeleteMy dear sister, use your tongue to count your teeth. Marriage is a lifetime affair. I'm married. Being married alone is challenging enough. Is this what you want to be doing for the rest of your life? Please, dump his sorry ass and check out of his house!!!
ReplyDeleteAM a man and I cant treat a woman in that way. First, he is not planning to marry you! He wont....he is just looking for a slave to help with his food and warm his bed. Second, I think you either a retard or close to it cause all the signs are so glaring,you better use ur brain and act. It is better you stand your ground or you shift base. Wake up
ReplyDeleteMarriage is partnership, love and compromise. Anything else is just co-tenants with benefits. A broken engagement is better than a loveless, unhappy marriage. You are very blessed to see the signs of a future hell with that Man. Run as fast your legs can take you. I am married and it is hardwork but it is easier with the right person that God intended. You must be submissive but to the right Man. My dear gather enough sense and courage and leave that house, are you a domestic staff and sperm extractor? Seek God's face and forgiveness and love yourself
ReplyDeletePoster.... my father eats fresh soup oh. everyday... I don't know how my mum did it while she was a working mum. But what I know is the moment any of her children shoot out you become a mini chef 😂 The only thing my dad can eat twice is stew. Soup? Never. Since I was a child until now. So cooking became like a hobby to me and my sisters, because it's almost an everyday affair. Sometimes I blame my mum for spoiling him so much. How will someone wake up and ask for pounded yam and white soup at 10pm. Although now they have helps that attend to them cos no one is at home for that yeyeness.
ReplyDeleteBut guess what? My mum married him FIRST. Excuse me.... why you cooking for your boyfriend? 😂😂😂😂 I remember the day I said that YD started having long throat and saying my once in two weeks stew isn't enough and I put him straight. Someone said my own was too much. Me, chikito, turn to your cook? 😂😂😂 the annoying part is when people see me they laugh when I tell them I can cook because I really don't look like the 'kitchen type'. Only for me to expose myself to YD and he wanted full time feeding benefits. My dear, better put ur bf straight. Job or no job you don't have to slave like that. Are you well at all?? Youre cooking 4-5 times a day and asking if the relationship 'might' work out. Oh girl.... You're a reeaaal learner. I'm not a relationship seer but what I know is that if you marry this your bf you will be a full time house wife. The guy can't even take the stress off you he's there eating and eating. Coming from the house of one fresh soup eater I can't go to the house of another. It's not a funny something. Good luck!!
Listen to me, the earlier you pick up your self esteem from wherever you dropped it and walk away from that sham you call engagement, the better for you.
ReplyDeleteIs this even how your father who is traditional behaved to your mother, the answer is No. You are engaged to a heartless user, and this is the sign God is showing you, use the odds in your favour.
I come dey imagine your face and how confused you are over orisirisi boyfriend and everyday food 😂😂 if you were my friend and you came to me with this issue I will laugh at you ehn. Before I answer you. My dear.... just cool down 💧💧This relationship matter isn't supposed to be that hard. You can't keep up oh one day you will just kpeff.
ReplyDeleteLol@ imagine her face
DeletePoster please just turn off your hearing to those that busy blaming you for moving in with him, thank God you did, you would have live the rest of your life with this hellband if you did not, this is an eye opener for you, count you teeth grab your shoe and run, I think God really love you....can I even make common sense...?
ReplyDeleteThis is mr and Mrs Nigerian movie. If not madam, go and watch the movie. It will help your decision but before then, Ruuuuuuuun!
ReplyDeleteIf you really wanna know if he's into you tell him you want to visit your parents and hear him. Secondly pack out of that house and go and stay with a relative while you job-hunt, you should get a job before settling down if not another bombshell chronicle is coming up. What a slave in this age. Its a 50-50 thing he may marry you or may not. That's not marriage o but slavery. Men are not scarce abeg. You should've asked people before moving in with him.
ReplyDeleteAre u serious, this is a reality of Mr n Mrs(d movie)..u talked to him n all he could do was to buy u a standing fan! Lady pick up ur shoes n dust them very well n never look back.#bewisebeforeitstoolate#
ReplyDeleteThis is what you get when you cheapen yourself for a man.
ReplyDeleteEverybody likes free/cheap labour, so I don't blame the man, I blame you and your parents that allowed you to move in with a man that is yet to marry you properly.
You better shine your eye now and leave when you still have a lil self respect left.
Get something doing and settle for a man who wants a wife and not a slave.
Na only you waka come oo,eating five times a day,he no dey go work ni?Dont start what you can't finish,can't even imagine cooking everyday.You better take a walk now that you know his attitude cos he is not gonna change..
ReplyDeleteJesus Christ! So you are still thinking of getting married to that SAME man? RIP in advance. Nonsense!
ReplyDeletePoster you are a GOAT!Your most fervent prayer right now is that it does not work out. It shouldn't be your fear.WtF is this chronicle? I would not even do this for a so called husband! What the hell is this??? Are you sick ni? Is it not as his mother pushed him out, yours did too? Are you okay in your head? That man is sick and thank God you have seen it. It is time to bow out! I have been dating my partner for 5 years and I have never brought water out for him to drink and sex happens only when I want it and sometimes I feel I am still giving too much of myself.Poster are you okay, seriously?! This chronicle just pissed me off! That man is psychotic IMO. You are a slave and a whore. Even if you stated you are married it doesn't change the fact! No woman, married or not should ever be treated this way, ever! The time you could use for job hunt is being wasted on whoring and slavery for free! You are mad! Girl be gone till you brain cells receive oxygen because clearly, you are in coma. Bye!
ReplyDeleteOkay let me also add that.... If you must marry this guy (as husband 'scares' 😂😂) just do bulk shopping. Have your ingredients handy. Have ur meat stock always available in the freezer. Buy live goat, get someome to kill, cook and fry the meat and keep it in the freezer. Grill your chicken and turkey. Fish should be Frozen freshly. Put in tray and in the freezer. As for vegetables - efo, ugwu and ewedu etc ... can be gotten freshly and chopped and there's something my mum does like rolling them up in a newspaper and putting in the fridge. Keeps for a few days. Egusi, ogbono and the likes can be ground into powder and stored. you will now make general soup for the house and kids. That one can be defrosted and taken back to the Fridge.
ReplyDeleteAsk him what he will eat in advance so you know the things you can keep out. E.g: chicken stock for melon and fish stock for okra. This is where a help is handy. She will arrange all ingredients. when hes coming home he will give you an hour headsup. You do a very very small pot of soup for one and that's that. If he wants more give him green tea and crackers. 😂😂 Note: my mum had a flexible occupation. I don't know what your career path might be.
And he MUST appreciate it oh. Because it's not easy. Let him praise you 100 times a day. He should even put ac in the kitchen. Ahn ahn.... and anything you ask for in the kitchen you must get. Even tv if you wish...don't try to manage he stress. Let him know it's back breaking and many women (like chikito 😂😂) won't do it.
But if you decide to pack out please let me know so I can come and help you. I'm just a phone call away baby 💋💋 Trust me husbands aren't that scarce 😆
Lmao!!! I tried not to comment but chikito you're the bomb!!! You made me laugh ehn. Kai. Lool. Poster abeg read all comments chikito made.
DeleteReceive sense IJN! Why na? Because of this marriage sha. U din trry sha. I pray God gives you a man that truly deserves you but this your fiance, let me tell you frankly. He will never change because someone raised him to look for a woman to serve him like a slave for the rest of his life. Guess what? He thinks he's found that woman. Are you that woman?
ReplyDeleteMy darling, how can your major fear be NOT becoming the wife to this monster? Your fear should be becoming his wife. Do you not see the abuse in the way he treats you? A lady reserves the right to call the shots and make her man do her bidding during courtship. The minute she becomes a wife, she hands over that authority to her husband and he becomes her King. So if you can't "front" or "style" for your man now that you aren't his wife, when will you?
ReplyDeleteWhen the use of a thing is unknown, abuse, also known as "abnormal use", becomes inevitable. I believe it's a woman's duty to feed her man. She either does the cooking herself or supervises a cook to carry out her duty. That one of your duties as a WIFE is cooking your hubby's meals, doesn't mean you have to be relegated to the status of a slave. Honey, you aren't his wife yet! I honestly pray you never are. Who told you a wife must slave for her husband? If you're gonna work yourself silly, the least he should do is appreciate your efforts and make you feel like the Queen you are.
Sweetie, I've been married for 15 years to the bone of my bones, the most amazing and remarkable partner one can ask for. I got married at age 24 and I can tell you authoritatively, that, that hell of a bootcamp you're in is not remotely what marriage is like. I'm blessed to come from and be married into wealth. We have 2 cooks under our employment, one is a board certified chef, yet I still supervise the preparation of my hubby's meals when I'm not tied down with work. Can you believe after all these years my hubby still takes out time from his busy schedule to prepare meals for me? At least twice a month! The days I feel like whipping up some delicacy for him, the way he shows gratitude, you'll think I bought him a private jet! If your man doesn't appreciate your efforts at this stage, it will only get worse after marriage.
Sex with your husband should be mutually beneficial and satisfying. If you must be his sex slave, it should be those kinky days both of you choose to role-play. If your man, for whatever reason, only comes when you ride him, he ought to satisfy you FIRST before you reciprocate the favour. He must be very selfish and crass to expect you to cook fresh meals 3 times daily and still expect you to be responsible for his orgasms. Then still has the impetuousity to sulk and become sarcastic when you complain of exhaustion when he demands for sex. I guess he is ignorant of the fact that sex begins in the kitchen. When a man helps his wife will chores around the house and does things to reduce her burdens, that's the most natural aphrodisiac ever. He need not ask for sex, she will lay it on thick effortlessly and do all she can to please him sexual.
Baby girl, I don't care if preparations for your intending nuptials are on full throttle, put a cock in this slavery you mistake for courtship. Move out, the rent you think you are saving isn't worth the torture. At any rate, you may still end up using that money for medications and frequent hospital visits. You've been warned, don't allow this opportunity pass you by, you may never get another one. There are men out there whom know how to treat a lady with utmost respect and tenderness. Please, don't compromise your future even before it starts.
#e-bearhugs.
Watever u see in a man before marriage,definitely will continue after marriage. It's good that u have seen things for yourself before going into it full time. If this is how you want to live your life forever,then go ahead. If not, make a u turn now. Don't expect that lifestyle of his to change(unless he goes completely broke).Move out of his house sef. Some men do not respect women. Am sure if u were his sister he won't be happy to see u under a man's roof without being properly married. Just a piece of my mind sha...d final decision is urs
ReplyDeleteI just have to comment on this chronicle!
ReplyDeleteDear poster, your story reminds me of one of the best Nollywood home videos, MR&MRS. This really happens? Cooking fresh meal/soup/stew everyday? In this time and age? NOOOOO!
My dear, it is a good thing, you lived with him for a while, and I am sorry to say that you are in for a rough and tedious ride!
I won't advise you to break the engagement, but try your best to get a job first before getting pregnant. Because, when you both leave home the same time and come back late, he will eat whatever you prepare,and it should be very quickand simple meals.To discourage him more, don't make any extra effort to prepare delicious meals,make it bland as possible, that he will be forced to order meals home, and you can relax. By the time you start having babies, and cooking 4-5times daily,you will definitely go, ga-ga!
Best of luck.
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My dear,u are not in any relationship but situationship and might end up losing your self esteem by the time u realised what you are into. For God sake, u haven't even done introduction and u said u r engaged 😬. Please and please, it's not too late and d fact that you realized the better for you.flee from slavery
ReplyDeleteEND THIS RELATIONSHIP NOW BY FIRE IN JESUS NAME....END IT NOW
ReplyDeleteEhnnnnn.....?even getting angry when you complain of being exhausted and telling you to save strengh for d kitchen? My dear,pls take a walk now. He will even be surprised you did because he already thinks he owns u and u can't do without him. Trust me if you marry that kind of man u will become a typical example of "women's education ends in the kitchen". Be wise
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