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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
35YEARS OLD,SINGLE AND AT A CROSSROAD
I don't need to praise you again,because you have heard it all. May joy,blessing never depart from your home. (please hide my email)
Back to my story,
Long before I turned 35,i had vowed to have a baby (baby mama) if I turned 35 and am not yet married by then,because a prophet once said I will never marry,but going to be a baby mama. Even thou I want a guy that will be fully responsible for the baby's welfare.
I have reached the cross road,no guy in sight to say I do. The only option I have is Married thou he and his wife are TTC( in fact I friend zoned him to brother sister relationship)
he hides nothing from me,likewise me,have been part of his struggle for a child suggesting he finds another woman to sending the TTC prayer post .. to him.
Truth is,i don't want to destroy his home,but I yearn for a baby to love and nurture . (every where I go,how are the kids is their greetings).I need in house advise wether to go for him or accept my fate and wait for my own prince charming.
Stella your red pen is needed.
Stella your red pen is needed.
Hmmmm,why must it be with a married man whose wife is TTC?The damage and the hurt you will cause will be too much.
If you must get a Single man whose consent you have to birth his child before you attempt to go on this Journey.
35 is the cross where it begins to get difficult to get pregnant but i would rather you do not complicate your life by having a baby for a man whose wife is desperately trying to get pregnant.If she calls heaven down on you,the curses that will follow you is better imagined..BE WARNED!
Wait for your turn. Don't destroy please.
ReplyDeleteGod is not late in any situation
Which prophet told u that and you believe? Please u are ur won prophet, say what you want and it would come to pass..You can still get married and have your child, Please do not compromise,not especially with someone's hubby biko..no reach that lane abeg.
DeleteThe prophet told you that and you believed him because he's your God ba? Continue!
DeleteDid some digging..is your boy isaacson same person that stella posted about he's father who was a dean was kidnapped n some people came out to comment he was already killed abi dead n buried?he dropped a comment similar to this yesterday.
DeleteAnon 15:40, gbegborun
DeleteSo @35, u give up on yourself bcos of one prophet.
DeleteSMH for you.
Having a baby isn't much of a stress since u have already keyed into the "prophecy"
Find a man, (old/young)
Have an agreement
Gbensh raw when u are ovulating
Carry belle for 9months
Pray for safe delivery
And Don't go back to that prophet.
Or
If u have money oooo,
Look fr a sperm donor
Science will take care of the rest
And dont go back to the prophet.
Thanks
Dats all
I'd always said same...when I was very young, I would look at my aunties that are not married and tell myself I would get a child if I ever clocked 35 without a husband but I always figured I would travel overseas on holidays and get pregnant by one fine ass oyinbo tourist who would have NO idea 😜😜😜 In my opinion, a child is more important than a husband ( thank God I got married at 26 to a wonderful man)
DeleteMadam, whatever you do, do not do it with someone's husband! Don't! Your happiness will be marred and your joy will not be complete. Find someone without baggage. Your child deserves that!
Na wah oh!
ReplyDeletePoster,abeg leave your fellow woman's husband alone!...
Can't you find a small boy that can get you pregnant without him even knowing?...
Trust me,all these small small boys sperm na gum!...
The thing dey gum like glue!..
Poster don't get pregnant for that man,if you do you will know no peace. Look for a young healthy guy with a good background to have a baby with. Guys are everywhere I'm sure some of them will even be happy to just impregnate you as long as you are not forcing them into marriage.
DeleteYes @poster get a small boy who isn't ready to be a father, maybe a student sef. That way even if you tell him you are pregnant he will be the one running away from the responsilities. I beg you in the name of God leave that man alone haba just imagine what the wife is already going through and you want to make her feel more miserable.
DeleteU this poster! Are u seriously advising DAT married man to look for another woman who can give him a child? Cos that was ur advice u gave to him!
DeleteU already sound like someone whose going to sleep with d married man! So Stop with d 'friend zoning him' !
I wonder how u gals always feeling like wen destroying another woman's home! Mtchw!
No word for u!
Prophets of doom abound. You listen to them at your own peril.
ReplyDeleteYou have keyed into those words that you don't even believe that God is alive and will do your own for you.
See God that I serve is in the business of doing miracles and he has never failed me. Do you believe? Then he will do it.
Leave that man and his wife alone. What makes you think it's not him with the problem? He'd sleep with you to his satisfaction then no child what next? You want to be a baby making machine for men? Do you think been a single mother is easy and just takes carrying a baby to term and birthing it.
Well I'd like to believe everyone knows my stand about things like this and maybe it's easy for me to talk because I'm not at a cross road yet but when all else fails it's best to turn to God in faith.
Do not despair. Don't be a sell out. You were created for a purpose greater regulating yourself to a baby mama.
Don't be the reason another woman will shed tears, that woman TTC doesn't deserve another pain to the one she is going through.
You're a woman and should know better.
Loads of single men out there, you just have to believe.
I don't bother commenting most times because I know doppelganger would not disappoint. Chop kiss darling😙
DeleteWell said!
DeleteDoppelganger I'm with you on this one
DeleteYou've said it all Doppel.
DeleteMy God is still in the business of performing miracles. You don't even need a miracle to get married,it is your right as a child of God,all you need do is believe.
DoPel rocks. You said it all.
DeleteGirl!!! U impress me ALL d time...no homo! xx
DeleteDear Poster, pls read and digest! It's time to change ur thinking and reject evil prophecy abeg.
Hmm where are you rushing to at 35? Jesus Christ never fails. Patience is a virtue and please forget what prophet of doom says.
DeleteJust one advice
DeleteB4 & After u get pregnant, (by whoever) pls don't go back to the prophet.
Chop kiss abeg.
DeleteGo for someone single please. Don't put more tears to that woman's eyes
ReplyDeleteMadam no try am oo
ReplyDeleteLeave that woman's husband alone and go find your own man!
There is somethin called Spiritual Offering! Make a sacrifice to God with something of yours that is of great value to you... take that sacrifice to God with a pure heart and await your miracles!
Once you've done this, await your own man! Have faith
I concur
DeleteGod bless u girl i love dis advice! Just do it poster and ull come back with a testimony
DeleteHmm carefull
ReplyDeleteI put it to you that you will still do what ur mind tells u to do.
Dear poster, concerning what you said,"...because a prophet once said I will never marry,but going to be a baby mama," pls listen:
Delete"It is not the news u receive but the report u believe that will determine the future u will experience."
Think on those words.
As difficult as it may be to be unmarried at this time, yet I pray u WAIT. Forget getting pregnant and forget d married man.
My advice: WAIT WAIT WAIT.
It's always safer and best to do things God's way.
Most times out of impatience we make wrong decisions that cause us to miss God's blessings which may be just round the corner.
Don't run ahead of God. What's urs is coming and if u hv faith enough u wld knw that when ur man eventually lands, it will b beyond what u ever imagined.
In its time, God makes it all beautiful. Trust God on this one.
Mitchelleobatu.blogspot.com
Which prophet told u that and you believe? Please u are ur won prophet, say what you want and it would come to pass..You can still get married and have your child, Please do not compromise,not especially with someone's hubby biko..no reach that lane abeg.
ReplyDeletei have a friend who is 36 and she is still believing God for a husband, i have another family friend who got married at age 38 and had twin boys before 40. dear, if you have faith enough to believe a prophet of doom who quoted the same bible that said non will lack her mate, then your faith is enough to believe in God. we often get it wrong by helping God (abraham and sarah). my 3 cent though
ReplyDeleteSo you believe a demonic prophet over God word
ReplyDeleteMaybe you are not a believer its obvious that is why you want to have baby for another woman hubby
I have seen a woman that got married when she turned 40yrs ,so why in a hurry expect you don't belive in miracles
Please leave that man and his wife and look for small boy to give y belle since you don't want to marry I wish you luck in your endeavour,do you think been a baby mama is easy and funny?
2Kings20 vs 1-10
DeleteIn prayers, we can reach out to our creator and effect positive change in hopeless situations.
I wouldn't call any prophet names ...... But wouldn't accept negativity just as the King Hezekiah.
But can we boast of a life devoted to God Almighty to attract such attention and change from him ?
How are you sure the man will get you pregnant? I think you believed the prophecy from the prophet of doom hook, line nd sinker that is why you are in this 'condition'. Do not complicate your child's life by getting pregnant for an already married man by being the 'kept woman'. If really want to be a single mom look for a single Nigga, get pregnant without him knowing or d option of a sperm bank is there, if not forget d postulation of ur prophet that sees a problem without a solution and pray! ,35 is not that too late to get married nw
ReplyDeleteA human like you told you that being a baby mama is your portion and you accepted it? Is the man your maker?
ReplyDeletePlease kill the thought of bringing sorrow into the home of a woman like you just to achieve your aim, it doesn't work that way.
What makes you think you will conceive should you go ahead with your plans? God is still the giver and maker of babies and not you. Read about Rachael and Leah's story in the bible if you are a christian and you will know better.
My advice to you is that you wipe this wrong plot from your mind, reject what the prophet told you and believe that God is still in the business of surprising you with a good man and children. All you need to do is believe!
Stupid girl. I'm sure u have been dating married men all your life, that's why ur 35 and now miserable looking for whose home to destroy.
ReplyDeleteIdiot!
Keep going to prophets. I really don't know why Nigerian women are dull. Omg!!
Very dull
DeleteMadam. Stop dulling Time is no longer on ur side.U r still doing shakara when u r no longer a young girl in her early 20s. My sister a master degree holder is 30 & she already thru with childbirth. Act fast A stich in time saves nine .
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ReplyDelete@Poster, God is never late. And don't block your mind with what that so called Prophet told you. God's plan for your life is not for you to be a baby mama. Even if you have an ancestral curse which predestined you to be a baby mama, a true prophet of God will show you how to break that curse. So wait for your turn. What will be, will be. I got married at 40 and got pregnant a month after. Had my first baby at 41 and got pregnant again 5 months after the birth of my first baby. I have a very healthy, intelligent smart kids. Forget what medical science says and trust God. In my own case, my constant prayer to God was that I was going to trust him to provide me with my life partner at whatever time he chooses and when he does, I don't want to have fertility challenges no matter my age. I prayed it through the years and I removed my mind from all these their medical findings. So my dear, relax and trust God.
ReplyDeleteWow
DeleteEverly rockin, this is a testimony and I key into it big time.God will continue to bless and make your home flourish.
DeleteIt's so sad that a prophet said something about you, you didnt counter it but to it wholeheartedly cause that is what you have been nursing instead of calling on God , you took the word of man..I think when we stop being religious and be more spiritual then we can start having common sense..and to even think that it is with a married man..I just pity your life..what happened to adopting a child, visiting orphanages or paying school fees of a child in need e.t.c..Stop degrading yourself abeg..
ReplyDeleteWhy believe that prophet of doom? Is he/she your God? I will advice that you leave that married man alone. God is still in the business of doing miracles. Cry to him with a sincere heart, he will give you your own husband. You may also seek deliverance (I will recommend Mountain of fire).
ReplyDeleteUnless u r very rich & ready to freeze ur egg like Jennet Jackson until u meet ur Prince charming @ 49.You need to make hay while d sun shines. There is nothing wrong with a man marrying two wives if he is wealthy. And ur marrying d man will not stop d wife from having her own children at d appointed time.
ReplyDeleteJames James.
DeleteWhat if the TTC is ur sister and anoda 'peacemaker' advises ur inlawz 'friend' with what you said.
U think shez not gonna die of heartbreak with a curse filled karma on the advisor.
Poster better leave that couple alone and focus on your relationship with God and doing what pleases him.
U are looking to be babymama but who told you that you will come out of the birthing experience alive.
Our lives are not ours but God's so live according to his purpose for creating you.
Seek his face diligently for he never forsakes his children.
Peace of Christ be with you.
Find your own man poster abeg.
ReplyDeleteDear poster,
ReplyDeleteDon't try anything of such. I know a woman that got pregnant for a man that is TTC with his wife for years and trust me, no one who knows about it prays for the baby mama. It's always curses.
So do not loose hope, your man is coming soon. God might be preparing something you never expected could happen for you.
You're writing this chronicle so that your fellow runs girls on this blog can okay what you're about to do with this man. Find a sperm donor, adopt a child, be a cougar but don't destroy another's happiness and home in a bid to find your joy. Leave that man!
ReplyDeletePoster pls just leave ur life on and pray so much to God. Go deeply to wat God says about u(the word of God) 35years and u think u re old or cross d line of marriage? My dear there is notthing my God cannot do.
ReplyDeleteChronicle Poster Of 2days ago, 'ayam' Still Interested In the Wedding Invite.
ReplyDeletewe can be friends.
Why not have faith in God to give you your own husband that you both will birth and nurture your children together.
ReplyDeletePlease don't go and cause confusion in another woman's home, don't give an innocent woman who is TTC (ing) heartache.
Go find a single man to marry and have babies for.
The devil is truly roaming around and contaminating people's heart.
When there's life, there's hope.
My aunty got married at 35 in 2012, has two kids now, had a miscarriage last year(twins).She has fibroid too which didnt allow the twins grow but she had it with the other two.
ReplyDeleteMy dear why do you think your time is UP?? If your faith can carry you, wait for your Man, he will find you.I am sure he is searching for you but if your faith can't carry you, my dear look for a good guy with good genes that will knock you up (if you can afford to take care of the baby alone incase he doesn't live upto his responsibilities.)
Are you like me that hardly socialise pls where will the guy meet us???
Am younger than you though but don't mind making your acquaintance lets start going to where we will meet people.RME( I said that for fun though) but i have been told severally that to attract the kind of guy i want i need to go where those kind of guys hang out.
Pls who knows where Don Jazzy hangs out??
**running off Post***
You definitely don't want your own man it's obvious, and that is how you will be going after unreasonable people till you reach this posters age.. Don jazzy go chop you like better soup and clean mouth. See this learner! Don jazzy sleeps with about 3 different women each day , dude is a sex freak .you think he hasn't come across beautiful successful single women? Why hasn't he settled down?
DeleteLook sisters in your quest to find a husband please be reasonable . This poster might be joking , but you can actually tell her taste from it . Entertain the nerdy, boring , not so worldly men ... they are good for marriage . Not everyone will marry tall, dark & handsome
Please hold on to God, he can break every yoke and change your story. Never accept mans report about you, only Gods report matters. The year is just beginning, so many fasting and prayer programmes are on going - try to participate. Marriage is not soley for childbearing, companionship is the most important and every woman who doesnt choose the convent deserves her man. May the Blessed Virgin Mary intercede for you and the God of suddenly visit you....Amen.
ReplyDeletePlease hold on to God, he can break every yoke and change your story. Never accept mans report about you, only Gods report matters. The year is just beginning, so many fasting and prayer programmes are on going - try to participate. Marriage is not soley for childbearing, companionship is the most important and every woman who doesnt choose the convent deserves her man. May the Blessed Virgin Mary intercede for you and the God of suddenly visit you....Amen.
ReplyDeletewhy believe in a prophet when you can talk to your creator yourself....
ReplyDeletedrop the desperate act,
run a self audit...
and above all be prayerful,tell him what you want and he will come through for you.
be conscious of what you think bout cos they become your reality.
End time prophet, try and believe so that you can achieve
ReplyDeletelong live SDK
The devil is liar, using your prophet to destroy the wonderful plans God have for you. cos the devil knows that your time to shine is around the corner. Just be more prayer.
ReplyDeleteTrue
DeleteThere are sperm donors in hospitals!!!
ReplyDeleteHmmmmm, you will surely have your own man or husband and it's never too late
ReplyDeletePoster you are a witch that is why u are not married at your age and you are considering breaking a marraige, you are an evil witch, you probably do not know you are one sef, most of you old unmarried women are witches but u are not aware.
ReplyDeleteEasy pls
DeleteForget about any prophet! They are not God. And Stella, it's not difficult to get pregnant at 35. I got married @ 31, had a miscarriage @32 and gave birth to quadruplets(four healthy boys) naturally.
ReplyDeleteGod is God and He will never forsake his own; I'm a living testimony.
Girl, focus on God and He will make you joyful. I know of a lady who got married @ 39 and she gave birth @ 40. She's pregnant now and will soon put to bed. Surround yourself with God's word. Think positive my dear and speak the word.
Love you Stella for the great job you are doing. Stella, an unexpected favour is coming your way. Don't forget me when it happens.
My dear poster, I am older than you. I was even told in a dream as a teenager that I will have problems getting married. I refused to believe and I have never given up waiting on God. I said no child outside wedlock but everytime a date is set for my marriage, something will destroy it.
ReplyDeleteWhy am I saying this? You do not need to get pregnant for dt guy, and what makes you think you will get pregnant when you sleep with him?
Continue to seek and you will find your heart's desire. I'm about getting married to my God choosing husband now.
Mmmh...have you stopped to think that the TTC in his family could be his fault and not his wife's? This way, he can't make you pregnant either.
ReplyDeleteIf it isn't his fault and you don't want to break his home, why do it? You ant hide is baby forever. Move on, there are millions of guys out there. But you are in the right direction. The child would take care of you God willing. Good luck
Mmmh...have you stopped to think that the TTC in his family could be his fault and not his wife's? This way, he can't make you pregnant either.
ReplyDeleteIf it isn't his fault and you don't want to break his home, why do it? You ant hide is baby forever. Move on, there are millions of guys out there. But you are in the right direction. The child would take care of you God willing. Good luck
Mmmh...have you stopped to think that the TTC in his family could be his fault and not his wife's? This way, he can't make you pregnant either.
ReplyDeleteIf it isn't his fault and you don't want to break his home, why do it? You ant hide is baby forever. Move on, there are millions of guys out there. But you are in the right direction. The child would take care of you God willing. Good luck
I got married at the age of 45. Please put your trust in God and he will never let you down.
ReplyDeleteSister pls don't have a baby with that man,like Stella said the hurt will be too unbearable, go & look for another man,young or old who's not in such situation,its not must u will tell the man u r having he's baby,wait till u birth ur baby to tell him...what am I even saying?? well may God help us o
ReplyDeletePoster look for a single man and have a baby by him. It is even mean of you to consider a TTC couple. What even makes you think the wife is the problem? Don't cause another woman pain because of your own desperation, the result of it will cause you pains too, be careful life is deep.
ReplyDeletePoint of correction, u can get pregnant at any age, be it 15 or 45. Stella where did u get the idea that it gets difficult as u get to 35? Na God we day look o.
ReplyDeleteI taya oo, 2015 at 35 I gave birth to a very healthy boy and I am currently 3 months pregnant....so what is she talking about really?
DeleteYes o
Delete"My sheep listen to my voice; I know them, and they follow me" John ten vs. twenty seven.
ReplyDeleteYou do not hear the voice of the Spirit of Christ because you are none of his and you do not follow him. The "prophet" that claimed to have heard, heard from whom; whose prophet? Baal had 400 prophets didn't he? And the Lord as at the time had one; didn't he? The "prophets of Satan" are more and just like the way that leads to death, many find it. That is what you have entered and you pitiably have agreed with them of a false fate; what a shame.
Why not make it a priority to know this Lord; Jesus who loved you so much to die in your stead as a sacrifice. Every good gift that is perfect including husband comes from him.
You want "a child to nurture and have . . .", why not go to sperm banks or adopt?
ReplyDeletePlease leave another woman's husband alone.It doesn't usually end well.God's time is always the best.Wait for him with clean hands.
ReplyDeleteAre you saying of ALL the men in the world it's this one that's the ONLY eligible candidate? Yet you were abusing Anita when she did same to Toke. 'I don't want to ruin his home...' you're gearing up to do just that. Biko find a sperm bank and get some into you if you want to get pregnant. Else the next chronicle you will send will be: 37, baby mama and home breaker with a lot of drama.
ReplyDeleteAnd why did you believe that prophet? Smh
Are you saying of ALL the men in the world it's this one that's the ONLY eligible candidate? Yet you were abusing Anita when she did same to Toke. 'I don't want to ruin his home...' you're gearing up to do just that. Biko find a sperm bank and get some into you if you want to get pregnant. Else the next chronicle you will send will be: 37, baby mama and home breaker with a lot of drama.
ReplyDeleteAnd why did you believe that prophet? Smh
I think you can adopt a baby instead! Who knows, your husband can visit you while taking care of what you'd call "a bastard".
ReplyDeletePlease don't give in to this pressure.
God help you!
Poster what rubbish are you talking about, if you want to mess around why not do it with single guys that will love to dash you their sperm, why will you destroy another woman's home cos you need a baby, don't even think twice to get pregnant for that man he is wicked and senseless. The wife should hug transformer and die since she is ttc abi? Leave that man alone and face your world, tell God to give you your own husband, discharge him completely else you will remain d way you are, that man is covering other men from coming, don't you knw that married men block suitors?
ReplyDeleteBe patient with God, but if you cannot wait any longer is best you get one sweet, young, calm, matured dude to help your ministry move to the permanent side, your husband is on the way, when he comes you will be d one complaining of how much love and care he wants to kill you with, trust God, be patient and stop complaining.
E go be like film for your eye after you born you become after 1 and him wife still be him wife,you no get faith,read your bible cos your are faithless,you no see Janet Jackson carry her own pikin at 50,I don't like insulting pls dnt let me insult you!
ReplyDeleteDon't believe dos useless prophets! Just Pray hope and Trust In You! God Wld perfect All Dat Concerns U!
ReplyDeleteWow, I pity you so much. U want to get married but u want to break another home. I am very sure this man has filled u with all lies about his wife being the problem. What makes u think he is not also discussing about you to another? Do u av idea what a ttc woman is going through? Who even says u can get pregnant so easy? I am not wishing you bad but untill u get to that point u av no right to say all u av said.
ReplyDeleteAny prophet who tells you you cant get married is a false prophet not from God. It is what God says that is the truth and His truth is that non shall want her mate. Please wait, seek and trust God.
ReplyDeletePut urself in the shoes of his wife. If the reverse was the case, how would u feel. Get a child from someone who has the same wishes as u. Trust me, there are pipz like that out thr. It is well. Don't let fake prophets make u destroy other peoples lives. I beliv u are a sensible person. Do the right thing. If possible sef, cut off frm that man. Remove temptation frm ur way. Goodluck
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