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A MAN WHO DOES NOT GIVE BEFORE MARRIAGE:
I was dating a guy for more than 4 years now. He loves me although we have issues we ain't perfect. But we held on cause of the love we felt for each other and friendship. We have a bond and we've become more than boyfriend and girlfriend we are like siblings.
He promised we'll make it official this year but we ended it last year. I love him a lot. I can't deny that and he loves me too but he's an extrovert and I'm an introvert coupled with the issue of having many girls around him which I don't like. But he still maintained I was his one and only. (Men gist).
Plus we have a serious medical issue that will not allow the marriage work so we ended it last year.
On the other hand there's a cool headed guy seeking my hand in marriage based in the US. He's been on my case for years but I never gave him a chance.He's loving, respectful and into me as well. I was not into him because I was in a relationship although he has the potentials I need in a man even though I'm not sure if he's just pretending for now cause he's far away and we only talk on phone.
He's been begging me to let him come and do the basic things and let's get settled but I'm really scared of marrying a total stranger. He is also a stingy person from what I've observed cause he hardly cares about my upkeep or needs. I'm not a perfect person but sincerely I try to give people the little I have whether there's a relationship or not. He doesn't believe he can do little things for you without having a relationship. He expects me to call him with my airtime and data when he knows I'm not working I'm just doing little jobs to help myself.
He says he'll start when I marry him which I don't believe cause a man that can't give you 50naira now won't give you later. It's not about testing me or not cause I have never asked him for a dime since I met him and he made it clear to me that he won't give me a dime until we start marriage process proper. I'm not expecting him to foot my bills but at least if you can't send me airtime don't expect me to call you.
It's not like he's poor he can afford 500naira airtime weekly at least. He's well to do and money is not a problem for him he doesn't have so much ooo but he's ok. I've stopped calling him with my airtime because I use to before without minding the cost. Now he's complaining and I'm thinking of telling him off, or asking him for money just to know his reaction. I'm not a broke girl I can afford the things I need and by Gods grace my parents are well to do so its not like I'm looking for his money I just feel there are little things you do for people you claim to love.
No matter how little it doesn't even have to involve money and I don't need to sleep with a man for him to be nice to me and maybe cause my ex boyfriend started doing little things for me even before we started dating and I reciprocated as well.I don't know how to cope with a stingy man cause I like giving and I have a very open heart I see him as a kind of husband who won't even want to help people around me not necessarily my family cause my parents won't give my hands out in marriage with the hope of taxing their son-Inlaw.
Im confused sincerely because if I and boyfriend were compatible medically I won't even want to start a relationship with someone else cause I truly love him. It's just that fate has made it so for us and we need to move on with our lives. Thanks I'm grateful.
Very stingy man. Well look and think well before you leap into matrimony with him, he might change and he might not but as for me I wouldn't enter it
ReplyDeleteThe guy may be acting out of bad past experience
DeleteLol see the way you went on and on about him not spending on you. You said it yourself if not for condition you won't even reason him so why should he be your Maga or doing 'little' things for you when he is a plan B (he knows this)
DeleteYou can just wake up one morning and decide to go with someoneelse all because you love that person more soo.. bro is just being cautious just as you're being cautious about being in a long distance relationship with someone you don't know too well.
You sound as if, if he turns father Christmas now you would give him a chance without considering the fact that your barely know him smh
If you're worried about the distance, it makes sense. Don't be desperate. I would say be patient for your own man, not long distance unknown but you alone can decide what you want to do. Just be careful and don't let desperation or some pressure influence your decision.
So you mean this stingy aka gum is the only man in your life?...
ReplyDeleteDon't marry him oh!...
That's the worst mistake you will make in this your life!...
Continue fishing!...
Too lenting to finish reading, most nigerian girls and aboard husband
ReplyDeleteEaster nko?
DeleteLenting bawo,na wa o
DeletePoster,i want to blv ur abroad guy is trying to play safe,you never can tell what he has gone through previosly relationship wise,prolly someone don use am as atm before,my take is if you really love him,leave that stinginess for now,if its possible,i mean if you can afford it,you need to travel down to wherever he is so you can actually study him very well though I personally don't subscribe to all this love across the ocean
Ode!its lengthy.and you can't read it cos you are a dundee united!!
DeleteChimo! Afi'lenting'na...Afi 'aboard' Where did you study your type of English? Inside the belly of the fish?
Delete*lengthy*
Delete*abroad*
Deleteaunty, pls invest in a book called "Brighter Grammar". thank you.
Delete"Too lengthy"
DeleteSweet Dee is right. Most women in the US are independent and don't necessarily depend on men for money, so your guy may be seeing things from that angle.
DeleteHowever, spending money on calls etc are considered investments in a relationship and should not be solely your responsibility, a reasonable guy will actually shoulder most of that responsibility. Talk to him about money you spend on calls, and let him understand he needs to compensate you for this instead of complaining. If he still doesn't yield to this request, then yes, he is inconsiderate and might be stingy as you suspected.
You should consider using skype, whatsapp calls etc as alternatives to lower the cost of calling. Long distance relationships ain't no beans.
Lenting? Do you mean lengthy?
DeleteWhiteberry, abeg dey write in pidgin. No be only lenting na fasting
DeleteLady, you don't know what love is;
ReplyDeleteA man who "loves you" will not have other ladies to browse;
That's the case of the first person you presented.
What you had for each other was LUST not love
love does not seek its own and does not hurt people.
The second man is "a stranger" with a strange character
He sees you as a furniture which he cannot polish because he has not bought it
"love is kind and gentle. .." and this man is not
He is brash and self conceited
Get to know God and stop "sharing cookie" and you will know love; love will find you
My dear I will advice you to let go, a good man/husband is like a gardener, he waters n tends to his Flower
DeleteRun for your life, let them go, get busy and your life partner will locate you.
I dated a stingy man, his excuse was his ex jilted him after all his investing in her(why suffer for the sin of another?). Even when I lost my job he didn't send a dime Inshort he stopped calling for a year. Today my story is different by God's grace am with a better person n blessed with a good job and he is back to reap where he didn't sow(who get him time). They wouldn't change. If you can be Mrs independent then marry ooo
Eeyah
ReplyDeleteAbeg marry anyone, and stop disturbing us
ReplyDeleteYou wicked
DeleteGod will take perfect control of everything
ReplyDelete*Larry was here *
Stay out of relationships for a while and set your priorities right
ReplyDeleteMy dear, a giver remains a giver. If he can't give u now ur not married to him, he won't wen u guys end up married....truth be told.
ReplyDeleteAll is i see is money this. Money that... o gini di??
ReplyDeleteHe might not be stingy!
Remember that thing they said about once bitten twice shy??
Some girl might have played the poor guy mugu in the past...which might be what he is trying to avoid now.
The guy is not yet sure about you. I think he needs some sort of assurance that you won't eat his money and run!!
Like you keep saying... you still love your ex very much. Meaning you don't have any real feelings for this other guy, so you just want to eat him till you find another alternative!
Sister this one na bad market, find another guy biko
And try find work you hear? Tanchu
you make correct sense.
DeleteBecky, raise your legs lemme eat ur shaki, correct comment! Broke ass chick, you wanna join the long list of girls Wey don chop d guy money run! Nah!
DeleteVery sensible comment right here. Sorry dear poster but i think you are a very greedy girl, a gold digger
DeleteDo u people read before commenting at all? Sis she sound like she was always demanding? Why will u like a girl and u can't spend credit to call her? So if a girl played him how do u show another girl u are not stingy? He does not need to be giving her money but for him to be expecting her to keep using her money to call is bullshit... So as na she dey find husband she should be the one buying airtime abi? Poster don't even do long distance courtship. People you are with you can't even know everything about them talk more of someone you don't see often. If u sense he is stingy then he most likely is.. don't put any hope in him...
DeleteIs that all? @ poster
ReplyDeleteAm still thinking of what to comments
ReplyDeleteSo someone you're yet to see is already discussing marriage with you. What if he has undesirable qualities or a worse medical condition than your ex. Mtcheeww
ReplyDeletePlease don't annoy me this afternoon. #sips liquified-egg#
Lemme read comments
@anonymous lmao
DeleteMy lovely sister, thank God say your eye open wella,since you both don enter another level base on relationship you need to task am small no matter how little , person wey you no sabi sef for bus dey pay Tp for person talk more of a matured man wey say he love you,forget matter say you get o or your parents cos ones you marry na your husband name you go answer. E go come bad if you keep quiet now wey you never enter the marriage. Task am with play Play no use fight or harsh voice. Goodluck dear!
ReplyDeleteMy lovely sister, thank God say your eye open wella,since you both don enter another level base on relationship you need to task am small no matter how little , person wey you no sabi sef for bus dey pay Tp for person talk more of a matured man wey say he love you,forget matter say you get o or your parents cos ones you marry na your husband name you go answer. E go come bad if you keep quiet now wey you never enter the marriage. Task am with play Play no use fight or harsh voice. Goodluck dear!
ReplyDeleteU are confused? There's absolutely nothing to be confused about.
ReplyDeleteDon't marry either of them.
Just move on, it might be hard though.
But MOVE THEM.
Madam your case is very simple,tell him to send you money that you need it for something and see his reaction. Don't conclude without texting him.
ReplyDeleteMadam. He no love u at all.even rech cad he no fit dash u
ReplyDeleteWhy did U waste 4 years with a man u cannot marry for obvious medical reasons? U must hv missed better guys during this time.
ReplyDeleteTrue.
DeleteYou are dating someone that won't give you money for upkeep until he marries you.. Are you that desperate or what? Absolutely nonsense, even as a single mum of two, I can't tolerate that, my love language is money despite the fact I earn more than £2,000 after tax in a month.. Julie
ReplyDeleteIt's obvious why you are single.
DeleteNa ur type dey get small small boys wey u dey spend on but u come here to deceive gullible girls dat u don't spend on a man..Na only sugar daddies go dey spend a lot of money on a single mother like u..Keep deceiving urself.
DeleteThat American guy is a bad news. I don't even want to start explaining it.
ReplyDeleteHmmmmm stella nwunye Korkus ur red pen finish?
ReplyDeleteA stingy man is a no no. My boyfriend is based in USA and sends me at least 200dollars everymonth even though I'm working
ReplyDeleteAnon15:27 U mean he sends u a paltry 2 pcs of $100 dollar bills every month? SMH
DeleteHahaha peace maker oooo
DeleteHahaha peace maker oooo
DeletePeace maker u don't have sense...how much do you send to your grl. Oniranu
DeleteBaba, he try na. How many Nigerian boyfrieds even give their babes 50k monthly
DeleteNa wa oooo
ReplyDeletehonestly i hate girls with your kind of attitude, you haven't really dated this guy, you never said u love him and you already feel you are entitled to his money.
ReplyDeleteyou are not over your ex and you already want to start a new relationship, you said if not for med. issues u would have married ur ex, so you are not even concerned that he is a wonanizer?
i like the new guy he is smart, he has seen your attitude hence his calculation. DO NOT MARRY A STINGY MAN, but with what you wrote ☝ there? you are the problem.
Exactly what i thought
Delete*womanizer
DeleteSexy candy u are foolish... so him buying airtime is asking for too much? It's foolish idiots like you that allow stingy men thrive. It's your type that will sponsor thier weddings and still continue feeding the man... mumu next time read before ranting bullcrap
Delete@Anon. 21:36
DeleteYaba left straight!!!
Oh baby, do not allow any "wife-material" wanna-be on here or a poor brother, (not broke) try to guilt you up into thinking your concerns are superficial. They are more than valid. Many guys who will bash you here about your materialistic concerns would not wish such for their sisters...so pay them no mind, i am sounding this coz your story was nearly apologetic and riddled with explanations.
ReplyDeleteHe is not the giving type, wanting osho-free relationship with a babe primed to be super low maintenance that he will disrespect and break when he marries her.
Not only is that guy stingy, he is also not a sincere person and i bet he is terribly manipulative. He opened his mouth to place a condition on his giving...that smelly talk of having you as his wife before he gives, a girl you are actively wooing...wooow.
Do not rush into anything with that guy, which smart lady allows that whole let me come and do something on your head and relocate rubbish with guys "in the abroad" again.
Don't try it, you are not emotionally connected, forget the phone calls. He is a stranger as much as the guy you meet next in a taxi. Do not get carried away. Your instincts are screaming loud, listen to it please.
If you rush off and fall for his line, and marry that guy...Lord, you are going to be the poster child of sufferhead. You haven't assessed this guy at all to know what he is like, what he does, what he is up to there, if he has a "wife" there.
Like seriously, you keep calling him for what... why do you allow his empty talk be all the effort he makes in the pseudorelationship?
Please, shine your eye, cast away that mumu behaviour many "good" girls have that they mask as being introverted. Ask questions, shine your eyes, think, probe, pray hard. You make whatever you have with this guy look like you are in some deep well waiting for the ultimate slimmer of hope to be rescued.
Marriage is partnership, friendship, a decision to love and support...this dude who be wanting to dictate how everything goes and is giving conditions is likely going to be controlling.
You are very much single, so open up your mind not legs for more options. Try to move on from your past relationship, you are still holding on to your ex. The one for you will not show if you are not "available". Find a job or acquire a profitable skill while at it, being broke makes one terribly vulnerable.
Do not settle, do not accept what you can't tolerate. Do relationship and marriage with someone responsive and open to you. The one who would love you the way you need to be loved, who flows with your love language.
Smart good girls are winning, do not miss road with this k-legged situationship.
Goodluck.
You are very right dear. The second guy is a BIG NO. My now husband was like that, with all the across border calls you will think you know something plus he never gave me a penny all through the courtship and l never asked since l was working. He is still like that even in marriage and still feels he did me a Favour by Marrying me. Girl, forget him and take your time and equip yourself so that you will not enter the wrong one.
Delete@Empress CHO, Please learn to summarize your comments Thank you
DeleteGood to see you here Empress CHO💕💕💕💕
DeleteOluchi thanks for sharing. Don't mind the hypocrites here saying she is money conscious...testing her my royal arse..
DeleteLol. Empress CHO please stop trying to be Ronalda! Leave the beautifully written epistles to her. This your own sounds so somehow.. full of repetition and unnecessary things. Just go back to your old way of commenting. I've been noticing this for a while now
DeletePathetic, really pathetic that the few good comments we see here have to be disturbed by senseless anons. If you dont like the length of her comments, scroll past it. Stella do something, this is not funny anymore. One tries to make sense and deranged people try to pull the person down, not everyone will reason at your level, deal with it. Leave the babe alone, thankfully she ignores your likes @anon 23:09. You are obviously new here so you dont know that Empress cho is epistle herself. I am not even a fan of Ronalda after seeing a long letter she wrote defending men and cheating, for a lawyer,I think that's pathetic. That said, the last thing i would do is try to knock two women's head together, I am very sure you are a woman nonsense. They both give intelligent advice which is what is important here so get lost. That's how you idiots effectively disturbed white diamond and doppelganger for their seemingly long comments and now they either dont comment or do it halfway. Stella, these dimwits will run down your blog. Everyone must be able to comment as they like esp in this chronicle section. That epistle might just change their life. This is why many of us dont like to comment.
DeleteOh and for the record, Many of us like epistles okay? Rubbish. Stella please post cos am really disgusted by that anon's comment.
Anon 1:13 Summarize this rubbish you wrote... Too long LOOOOL 😂😂😂😂
DeleteDear Poster: There is nothing to be confused about..I share in your sentiments too..Only you have been doing the communication means you are in a relationship with yourself. Please find someone else abeg, like you rightly said he should show he has a sense of care na wa oh..Are u sure he is America or Cotonou or about to be deported by Donald Trump cause that guy no pure abeg..Let the love you seek find you..Cos if you marry him, he will expect you to do everything for him..Some men have no shame and not man enough..Lets keep praying for our men...
ReplyDeleteUr ex bf started doing little things for u even b4 dating and u reciprocated.
ReplyDeleteU said u r not working.Alright How exactly did U "reciprocated" ?
But in your explanation it doesn't seem to me you guys are dating, so why do you want him to spend money for you.
ReplyDeletePoor you!! Just pray to meet someone else. You are not compatible with any of them, move on already
ReplyDelete....I'll advice that once you get to marriageable age and you start dating someone, before you Straff (for the tasters before buying) go for a test to know if you are compatible genetically, blood wise and all that so we won't hear stories that touch the bone marrow
Mtchewwww!!!
ReplyDeletePlease open up and tell him what u feel towards his attitude of giving.
He might really not be stingy but just scared of 'investing' in something that won't be his totally in the need but life itself is a risk.
Stop formimg miss independent and talk. We all need help sometimes
Sdk, where is your red pen na😁 Poster, no need for long talk. This your guy is a stingy koko and will only worsen when you guys eventually get married. Like seriously, even though you are independent, a person who calls himself your guy is meant to support in his own little way. It really matters. The ball is in your court anyweiz. Sorry about the other that didnt work out.
ReplyDeleteStella shantelle empire has been one of those anon that has been insulting you. In that ruggedman's post was an anon went wrong post.
ReplyDeleteI went back to the post and saw that Stella deleted the comment already.. What did shantelle say?
DeleteHmm! Poster just pray and know if he is the right person.
ReplyDeleteSome guys their stigy koko no be here o
Poster, your answer is blowing in the wind of air-time...
ReplyDeleteMy dear, we are almost in the same boat.mine stated categorically that he cnt give me money until we are married,i have never asked for a dime either but we got talking and i brought up the issue. Let me read comments too
ReplyDeleteLol...
DeleteSorry for u
So if this man starts sending you 500 naira air time every week, you marry him?
ReplyDeleteOh who did this to some ladies; who gave them concrete filled skull for brains?
Why are you confused; because he's in the US and you want to "travel abroad?"
A man who you do not know if he is on trump's deportation lists?
Madam, you painted with "sh8t" and you are asking us if it is adorable? Yes it is; very adorable "pigshure"!
Poster look elsewhere please. The abroad guy is not it at all, who stingy epp? You don't necessarily have to start a new relationship as soon as you ended one, take your time. You mean this guy no send goodies for the festive? Nah nah it gets worse after commitment
ReplyDeleteMrsBee
Poster, none of them is your husband. The first one, even if there was no medical condition, he would have been a chronic cheat thereby giving you heartache. After marriage, he would still have some random girls he f*cks and then tell you are his no 1, his Lolo.
ReplyDeleteThe second guy might be married over there and just wants a Nigerian wife besides I have never seen a guy who was stingy while dating and changed to a generous man after marriage. A stingy man is a stingy man, a generous man is a generous man. He would just breeze into the country, impregnate you and leave all the expenses to you.
Receive sense. Find your husband go front.
Guys , rule no 1... Never date a jobless woman!!! No matter how small, she must be doing something
ReplyDeleteWhich one is he wld not give u money till u guys are married..... My dear search else, the dude sef might not be serious with d marriage proposal sef, remember marriage is supposed to be a once in a life time thing, and from the way u are sounding u guys aren't close, there is not intimacy or connection,I don't mean sexually, pls don't get me wrong (that kind of intimacy that u can share unending communication together) because if u guys do, u won't be bothered about who calls or not...there is nothing like when ur supposed significant other gives u that sense of financial security, happiness and peace of mind...Hope you make d right choice 😎 Cheers hun....
ReplyDeleteSince you haven't asked him for anything yet and he made it clear to you that he won't give except you start the marriage process. Trying asking him for some amount of money for a start before concluding, make him understand it's urgent then see what his reaction will be like.
ReplyDeleteHe might mean another thing: he may be this kind of persons that don't spend heavily on girls esp when he doesn't want to waste his resources on someone he isn't sure of.
If you don't feel comfortable with his reaction after you asked him, pour your mind to him
maybe when U meet someone else , you will still have something bad to say about that one too abi? #singing# U think sey the world dey revolve around your bumbum, you think sey the world dey rotate around Ur bumbum, U think sey the world dey around Ur fineface Hollup hollup hollup . It's ur boi jameezi
ReplyDeleteYou chose him because he is in the USA , remember Trump o. Secondly he is not your daddy, he is just a guy looking for partner, he is not looking for a beggar
ReplyDeleteMarriage is more than all these ones you are saying my dear! Is monetary attitude will become worst if you eventually marry him, is it because he is saying he wants to marry you? Look else where o
ReplyDeleteMy darling, I always tell ladies, just because there are 2 men vying for your attention doesn't make it an "either or " situation, especially when it feels like you'll be settling for someone who doesn't treat you the way you want to be treated. In your case, you moved on from guy 'A' and you're assuming guy 'B' could be the guy you end up marrying, in spite of his obvious character deficiency. My question is, what if guy 'E' whom is yet to surface is the guy who will treat you right? Why can't you wait till you find the right guy?
ReplyDeleteHoney, you are still in love with your ex, which is absolutely normal but until you get closure and really let go of your ex, you will keep making less than smart decisions. You will tolerate things you shouldn't because a part of you is eager to find love again. In your subconscious, you are seeking a replacement very fast because you feel a new man who wants to marry you ASAP will help with the pain of losing the man you really love. You feel getting married is the cure for the pain you feel right now. True, a new guy could be a pleasant distraction but he could also be an unfortunate rebound. Whatever relationship you are in now shouldn't be anything too serious until you've dealt with your past.
Please, my love, pleeeeaseeee stay away from online dating, especially with someone in a different country. You are way too fragile for another emotional sucker punch. Why is he so eager to come see your parents? Why does he assume you want to get married so soon or did you make him feel you're desperate for marriage? You must date a guy in 3D mode to know what he's all about. A guy in a different continent can be on your case for over 5 years and still not want a serious relationship with you. He can be doing his thing over there while giving you the illusion that he's all about you. Action is the most reliable nonverbal communication.
If you stupidly fall for that trick, you'll be amazed at how different it would be when both of you finally meet live and continue with the relationship. It will be like dating, or worse, being married to a complete stranger and then your suffering truly begins.
ReplyDeleteI'm not comfortable with a man who can tell you that he wouldn't spend on you until you are his wife. It's not some much his reluctance to spend on you that bothers me, rather it is his mindset. He will be so controlling and domineering, your opinion on issues will mean nothing to him. If you make the mistake of relocating to America to be with him, especially as an unemployed wife, he will frustrate the hell out of you and you will know the true meaning of agony. You'll be a slave in your own marriage and both of you will start resenting and eventually hating each other.
A man who loves you will always be sensitive to your needs. Even if he isn't financially buoyant, he will give you the little he can afford. This guy in the US seems temperamental and prone to violent outbursts. Honey, let this guy go. Don't even consider any relationship with him.
During courtship, a lady ought to be in charge. Her man jumps through hoops just to impress her. It's during courtship a lady gets to "shine" because once she gets married, roles reverse. Her husband becomes her king and calls the shots. As a queen, one of her priorities is to cater to her king and make the necessary sacrifices and compromise to please him. So if you don't get to call the shots during courtship, when will you?
Sweetheart, courtship should be like an audition, men should be bending over backwards to get the role of a king, worthy of your affections. You will easily submit to such a man when he becomes your husband. Unfortunately, a lot of ladies get it wrong. They mistakenly feel they have to go to hell and beyond to prove to a man that they are wife material. They forget that they will have all their lives to play the role of a wife once they get married. It's the duty of your boyfriend to convince you that he is husband material and not the other way around. That's why a man proposes to a woman on one bent knee. Remember, you have the power during courtship but you hand over that power to your man the day you become his wife. Don't give any man too much power over you just yet. If he doesn't treat you like a queen, he isn't your king. Step aside so the one for you can step in.
#e-bearhugs.
My dear with all this thing u wrote here u re dating urself
ReplyDeleteFor the abroad guy he is not serious forger the begging
U re confused becos he is abroad, if na Nigeria guy and he is not given u money u for Don give am run
That guy will come back browse ur website n go back.
Mark my words
Pls run for ur dear life cos such pple can be very stingy even after marriage telling u from experience
ReplyDeleteI've noticed that most abroadians are very stingy... Please don't marry that guy,you will enter into a prison n not marriage. Even the widow in the bible gave his mite. Inukwa calling you with my data and airtym when you can't call,what happened to the free WiFi in the abroad? That was how one kept on asking me to call him on a video call as if he recharges my data for me. Smh
ReplyDelete*her mite*
DeleteJust calm down and I am sure you would meet other ppl, giving and finances are very important in a marriage o .plus you don't seem to know this guy
ReplyDeleteHowdy Iphie dearie.
ReplyDeleteGlad to get a little break to comment.
Trust you are good...E-hugs.
You CAN GIVE WITHOUT LOVING(like you give to the beggars on the road) BUT You can't love WITHOUT GIVING(For GOD so loved the world that HE GAVE HIS ONLY begotten Son)
ReplyDeleteYou can GIVE WITHOUT LOVING(Like you give to the beggars on the road) BUT You CAN'T Love WITHOUT GIVING(For GOD so LOVED The World that HE GAVE HIS ONLY begotten son) Don't fall for that BS(when we get married, I will start giving) it's a TRAP!
ReplyDeleteWhatever you tolerate in your relationship while single is what you will keep tolerating when you get married #BE WISE
Here in the US,men don't carry GF responsibility. Even after marriage is 50:50 or 60:40 if you are lucky .na every man for himself.... if you both go on dates , he pays sometimes , you pay sometimes. Just letting you know . It's not like Nigeria where the burden is on the man alone...
ReplyDeleteIs he an igbo man? Sometimes stingy men may change after marriage that is those with insecurity issue, he may feel you will call another man with d airtime he will send to you. Some men dat do give before marriage may change after marriage also, everything depend on individual, you should look before you leap, life is all about risk, what makes you feel dat d next guy you will be with may be an open hand person? Search d answer in your heart darling and make your decision.
ReplyDeleteBia, poster stay single for now. You are not yet available as Empress cho rightly said. Enjoy your "singleness" else, a companion would not be appreciated by you. Wipe off the memory of your ex, Obviously your new guy is just a rebound. Know the real meaning of love not the nonsense you and your ex were doing and never ever date a single man again. Meanwhile EmpressCHO, dont answer that anonymous oo. She is trying to bait you. Na woman dey do that kind thing. I used to comment with my I.D but i responded them and they just insulted me anyhow, so many sad peeps here. I just retired. Na them go shut down this blog last last. Stella abeg put all these anons inside boat make we throway them. Well except me. Cant sleep sha, my siesta game too tight, #sigh
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