Na wah!
STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
PREGNANT AND ABANDONED:
Please I need your advice and that of kind hearted Bvs here. I'm a 25 year old lady currently serving the nation and I'm in a relationship with a guy of 30. He asked me out for close to 8years and I finally gave in to his advances in 2014.
We have had a good relationship this past years and I had thought we were leaning towards marriage. His family are not very comfortable with me because I'm a Muslim and He is a Christian and a pastor's son, but he kept assuring me and telling me our love is stronger than their opinions. On the 3rd of Jan I found out I'm nine weeks pregnant, I was totally devastated and I called my bf and told him and the first thing he told me is we should get rid of it.
He said he is a pastor's son and can't have child out of wedlock that he would Shame his parents. I refused and he called my elder sister and told her same thing.my elder sister told my mom and this guy still went to my mom and told her same thing with promise of marrying me next year if I take out this child.
His friends are begging me to abort it too as they feel he will abandon if I insist..he is insisting on taking me to the clinic today where it will be done. I have told him I'm not going but he says I should think about it cause he is sure I can't raise a child with my finances.and his friends said if i decide to go ahead with it that he wouldn't be a party to it nor contribute or have anything to do with me or the child,and if i and my family decides to go to his house that we will be shamed, cos he can easily deny it and say he hasnt seen me in months.
I'm so shattered. Stella i need you red pen biko Pls help.
*The mistake has already been done by not protecting yourselves but dont make another one by aborting that child.If you have never been head strong about anything before,please be concerning this.
I am sure you read how many women are trying to conceive?Please keep your baby and let him abandon you...Karma has everyone's address.
You sef,i hope say you go learn from this one?Dont get pregnant for a man who has not married you.
Nawa o
ReplyDeleteKeep your baby he is not serious at all. Thank God for your Mummy is in the known, it's makes it easier for you. Let your family find away of getting his parent to know about you and your unborn baby. He is lying no real pastor will encourage you to abort their grand child even if they don't want you. I guess he is hiding something from you.
DeleteDear Poster, pls don't abort that child!
DeleteWhat guarantee do you have that he'll be there after you abort it or that he'll even marry you next year? None!!! Believe me when I tell you,he is worried about how his dad/family would see him not about you or your well being...keep the child please...you don't know the destiny of that child...
#50 condom could have prevented all this rubbish.
DeleteWhen he was pounding you skin to skin, he didn't know he was a pastor's son?
And when you were shouting harder harder n oh baby, u didn't know u will get pregnant.
Condom is cheap for crying out loud.
Oya carry ur cross baby mama to be.
#50 condom could have prevented all this rubbish.
DeleteWhen he was pounding you skin to skin, he didn't know he was a pastor's son?
And when you were shouting harder harder n oh baby, u didn't know u will get pregnant.
Condom is cheap for crying out loud.
Oya carry ur cross baby mama to be.
Don't abort that baby
DeleteKeep that child alone let karma deal with him. The uncertainties surrounding abortion are just too many. You will be fine.
DeletePoster keep your baby ooo.
DeleteYou will not say I didn't tell u
The deed has been done its now time for you to own up to the challenges ahead of u.
Moreover, there are more fake and quack doctors performing abortion now. Don't lemme them perforate your uterus all the in name of my boyfriend is not ready. And babe,forget the dude he's never gonna marry u,he only came for your shaki. Even if u murder your baby,he will still run and leave u crying had I known I would have kept my baby.
Pele, the Lord will send u help and see u through your 9months journey.
Ladies if you must eat pomo,make sure the guy used condom,and also ensure u take your morning after pills,to avoid stories like this.
Why are pastor's children the worst? Go with your parents to inform his parents.keep your baby and forget your bf. At least His family knows
DeleteWell Stella may choose to approve my comment or not but I wld type anyway.i got pregnant at the age of 21,I couldn't be more confused in life,some friends told me to leave it,some told me to abort it.that period a friend took me to the club in order to feel better and he narrated my ordeal to one big girl we met in the club (they're friends)the girl advised me not to terminate it that I'll suffer for a while but enjoy later.shes a baby mama too and she told me the story of how the baby daddy left her.i didn't listen though as I was not ready to suffer.i found out that my socalled bf that impregnated me had a fiancee and she's also pregnant.he pleaded and pleaded for me to remove the baby that she's his ex that he loved truly and all that.my people I was down and frustrated.it was like my life was falling apart.i finally gathered courage at 8pm to terminate my first fruit.ask me if I'm feeling guilty.yes I am.and the fool is begging for us to come back together.what if I just steal his wife's number from his fone and tell her that that innocent girl ur husband impregnated then is pleading for u to warn him to control his dick,but I would not,I wish them what they wish themselves. I know my punishment is waiting for me after death but the uncle that got me preggy and begged me to remove it wld also suffer.ever since then I've been very careful.ill be 24 this year and I must say it has been a rough ride.the guilt and all but I'm still standing strong and when I look back I'm always glad I did the abortion.i can't go through the trauma of a baby mama.never.poster all said and done use your head.if you are financially OK nothing is stopping u from keeping the baby but if ure not ull suffer a lot without the guy's support and what is the probability that u won't suffer that one mistake for the rest of ur life.mqy God bless u and urs
Delete@ portable queen have you not heard that some people have latex allergy! Lol!!! Poster please do not abort that child....the deed is done so do the right thing now by keeping that child. The guy is just worried about his parents knowing. If you abort it he'll still abandon you!
DeleteDear poster, dont abort that child, if his parents are true pastors they wont want you to abort it. And also, since he doesnt want to have a child out of wedlock, then they might ask him to marry you right away before the pregnancy shows. If he wasnt ready for a baby, then he shld have used a condom to prevent it. #Dumb at 30.
DeleteAnon 17:57
DeleteYou are a foolish girl. Grow up and receive sense.
Brb
ReplyDeleteBiko i am begging you to keep the baby, if you are in Lagos or all these industrial cities just look for a job and start saving no matter how much. I don't want you to regret in the future, even when you get married and then start ttc your soul and heart will be at peace knowing that you didn't tamper with any of your reproductive organ unlike when you have done abortion and then start ttc, hmmm your body go hear am.
DeleteMy dear,the decision is totally yours.Be selfish at this time.DO WHAT IS BEST FOR YOU.People telling you to keep that baby won't be there to help you raise the child.Raising a child where both parents are together isn't easy,not to talk of when you do it alone.Check yourself.Re you emotionally prepared for a baby right now? Financially too.Are you ready to be saddled with a baby? Having a baby changes everything.If you feel you can handle,then by all means,keep it.If not,do what's best for you abeg.
DeleteIf you are not financially and mentally fit to keep this pregnancy,biko flush it out!...
ReplyDeleteDon't bring a child here to suffer!...
Most women have aborted before so what's the big deal?..
Emmanuelllll
DeleteIts a big deal to abort o, you can only understand this when you have done everything right and you can't still get pregnant. The waiting is not what anyone can understand, its a road you don't wish even your enemy.
DeleteMadam....*smh* some of your comments shaaa!!!
DeleteYes,I ve aborted before 3 times which am still regretting, am not proud of it and asking for forgiveness everyday as am TTC.if only I can go back to time.pls dont do it,u will always regret it for the rest of ur life.
DeleteI got pregnant at the age of 21years even though my boyfriend was against me trying to flush it i went ahead unfortunately it wasn't successfully we didn't have any dime and our parents threaten to disown us we kept the baby against all odds we suffered eventually got married and this is 15years after the baby I had 3micarragies and a death of a baby what if I yielded to pressure......
DeleteGod forbid. just imagine the casual way you advised that the pregnancy should be flushed. My dear poster, reconcile with your creator and trust him to see your through.Do not remove that child
DeleteYou appear to have no qualms saying that. I pray you never have to look for a child. Ignoramus.
DeleteQueen shut up
DeleteLinda you are a devil I swear
DeleteThe big deal is that the child growing in her didn't ask to be conceived. He had no say and yet he is growing in her.
DeleteMy goodness and you call yourself the queen. The Queen of what, if I may ask? Have you no heart or feelings? So what if people have had abortions before? Does it make it right? In life there are no guarantees, what if she looses her life, what if she looses the ability to conceive in future, what if...? There are so many what if's I could go on. You may call that your advice reality, but the reality is a child is growing in her and she should take responsibility. The guy in question will eventually come round. It may take time.
What a shame. Didn't he know he was pastor's son before all of this.
Dear poster, if you know his pastor go and report him. He is living a lie and he wants to get away with it.
Pls don't abort. You will be glad you didn't.
Am still TTC.
Linda your sons wives will be married to women that has aborted all their children, say amen.
DeleteQueen Queen chief, I just lost my respect for you
DeleteThat is how u would end up not having a child. Silly thing giving silly advice.
DeleteI hope you give your daughters this kind of advice, well I don't think anyone dey take all these your advices serious
DeleteMost bvs here are being sentimental over this issue because it's very easy to say abortion is wrong. But I'll advise you to think about this yourself. if you're utterly convinced you want to have this baby know that it's gonna be emotionally tortuous, you'll have to deal and swallow your parent's disappointments everytime, the father will dump you(It's even in your best interest)while he pursues his goals and you're left stuck with a child, think about all this first. if you do decide not to keep it you'll deal with the guilt and probably get over it then make better decisions with your life. These are things you should ponder upon because everyone here is going on some high horse and forming saint but will be the ones to tell their brothers not to marry you because you're a babymama. Are you mentally ready to deal with the stigma and insultive side comments while pursuing the best for you and raising your child well. My aunt had a child out of wedlock after nysc and the only reason she kept it was because "abortion is bad". She didn't raise that child nor attend to his needs, she gave the baby to her mum and went on to marry and have her own children. When you see her and that boy, they don't relate at all. My point is keeping a baby right now for you should be more than just because "ABORTION IS BAD" so the kid doesn't regret coming to this life through you. Anyone who wants to cuss me out for this advice should please feel free to eat my shit and choke on it.
DeleteNa real wa...be smart ladies!
ReplyDeleteDo you think that guy will marry you?You should really have thought things through before allowing him pour his Akamu jehovah into u. Bear ur cross
DeleteI pity you but I don't like Christians marrying Muslims.
ReplyDeleteBecome a Christian and I will pray for him to marry you. But don't go for an abortion ooo
I wish you all the best!
What do you know?
DeleteI still prefer u to Linda Eze Fan,nwa 042...kedu ije ?
DeleteHa, why are you comparing me to my own sister? Ibiakwa! Am fine though
DeleteWe will be judged by our WORDS,THOUGHTS,ACTIONS and INACTIONS.
DeleteDO NOT TAKE A LIFE GOD CREATED.
The way of God is not of man and we can never fathom it.
The punishment of the act may be de disappointment of your parents but hold onto God nd he will provide you with what u need to care for your child.
If u can't please give up the baby to the care of a TTC couple and be an instrument in wiping their tears.
We all should know that life is transient and for everything we do we must answer when we die and dts eternal.
Fan queen said evil and u shud not shy as to join words with her by asking why de comparison.
Okwuru ARU.
am a woman and those advocating for abortion shud know they would have been manure for plants if their mothers have flushed them out.
Babe learn to be celibate after this cos fornication is not worth your soul.
Evie.
I don't understand but the question I'd want you to answer is, what do you want? It's your body and you have the right to do what you want with the baby growing inside of you.
ReplyDeleteI'd still scold you for having sex albeit an protected one. There are worse things you can get apart from pregnancy.
Do not go with him to any clinic. Your sister and mother are aware, what is their stance on it? Is it marriage that is your issue or staying alive. You could die from a wrongly done abortion.
And just know that that boy won't marry you.
Do what you think is best for YOU and not for him.
Since he is so bold as to take the matter to your family then you should do same to him and go tell his family what their son has done and is planning to do.
If he can sleep with a Muslim babe then he can marry one and take responsibility for his child.
#gbam
DeleteMost bvs here are being sentimental over this issue because it's very easy to say abortion is wrong. But I'll advise you to think about this yourself. if you're utterly convinced you want to have this baby know that it's gonna be emotionally tortuous, you'll have to deal and swallow your parent's disappointments everytime, the father will dump you(It's even in your best interest)while he pursues his goals and you're left stuck with a child, think about all this first. if you do decide not to keep it you'll deal with the guilt and probably get over it then make better decisions with your life. These are things you should ponder upon because everyone here is going on some high horse and forming saint but will be the ones to tell their brothers not to marry you because you're a babymama. Are you mentally ready to deal with the stigma and insultive side comments while pursuing the best for you and raising your child well. My aunt had a child out of wedlock after nysc and the only reason she kept it was because "abortion is bad". She didn't raise that child nor attend to his needs, she gave the baby to her mum and went on to marry and have her own children. When you see her and that boy, they don't relate at all. My point is keeping a baby right now for you should be more than just because "ABORTION IS BAD" so the kid doesn't regret coming to this life through you. Anyone who wants to cuss me out for this advice should please feel free to eat my shit and choke on it.
DeleteDaenerys, apt!
Deletehahahahaha Pastors children na dem spoil pass ooo. So this one too dey chop, come go chop Muslim babe. hahahahaha.
ReplyDeleteWhen he was chooking you, he did not know it will shame his parents. No abort. In short go and join his father's church and be a member of Chorister there hahahaha. Sorry i had to play small.
Dont abort it ooo, God will take care of you and the baby. Cant you see fine babe Fehintola just gave to us? abeg ooo
Lma😂😅😆 @your first paragraph. You no well oo princess albeit, I have heard same severally say na pastors pickin spoil pass. Toooooh!
DeleteU know his parents r still giving u guys problem yet u got pregnant for him? Hian!!!
ReplyDeleteYou scarce o! Wahala geh😛😜😝
DeleteLol. No mind me joor. I dey try do small business.
DeleteKedu ije?
Ok! I wish you luck. Ije dinma!!
DeleteThe girl willingly got pregnant
DeleteShe was 9 weeks gone and didn't know?
Just negodu.
Great lesson here
ReplyDeleteDo not get rid of that innocent baby! If he decides to abandon you.. go with your people to his parent's house and let them know all that has been happening.
If his parents support him, go to that their church and expose them for the fake pastors that they are! But if you don't like trouble, then you should leave revenge and judgement for God. You and your baby will be fine by His Grace
I concur
Delete#correct
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ReplyDeleteWhen them tell una to close una legs and control una Toto until una marry una no go hear
ReplyDeleteStop pre marital sex, no
ReplyDeleteUse condom, no
What do you want us to tell you,
If your family can take care of the child, keep it. I'm out.
When you're having raw sex, were you expecting an Iphone 7? Well, this your relationship is dead on arrival, his family did not love you, yet you will go to them that you're pregnant, this will surely cause hatred for you both from his family and him. But I will advice you to go and meet with his mum first, open up and cry in her front to tell her the mistake you've made, tell her you don't want to commit another sin by aborting the innocent child. I pray God be with you,and don't forget to give us feedback.
ReplyDelete*Larry was here*
So, he just discovered he is a Pastor's son, and that's why he had sex and wasn't even smart enough (I'm not excusing you from this stupidity) to use a condom?
ReplyDeleteThe annoying thing right now is that your family seem not to have taken action against him, the dude is asking you to commit murder, asking you to kill your parent's grandchild, asking you to kill a child. You have made a mistake, don't make another one. I know it's not easy, the shame and all but you can stand above all that.
Please don't go back to that guy, he's what we refer to as a 'Pussy nigga' , he's not a man, just look at his very silly excuse for not taking his responsibility... About your finances, I don't even know what to say about that
Any guy with bounden either from family ish or babymama or even religion is a no from me.pls keep the baby and forget abt him,I knw he will come begging in future.
ReplyDeleteDear Poster: Stella just took it out of my mouth..Please go with her advice..The more he gives you a hundred reasons to abort , the more a million reasons are coming up for you to keep the baby..The Lord will strengthen you dear, its not only by finances trust me when you have a good support system then you need not worry at all..God will be your helper..I hope you know better now, fornication is not acceptable by God..
ReplyDeleteU have your family's support poster.do not abort it please
DeleteI had to two abortions before I got married. I am married to smash man now tho and happy but dear that guilt stiff surfaces once a while especially when bad things happen to you. I didn't conceive immediately after wedding and when I did I had a miscarriage abi na spontaneous abortion at about 6 weeks. Guilt killed me! God finally answered our prayers with an angelic princess. Please don't do it! If I had spoonful of the support you have I wouldn't even consider it then but I am from the 'perfect home' with perfect children.
DeletePls what happened to condom
ReplyDeleteNothing should happen to that angel u have inside u.
But u should have used ur senses before u people have reglion barriers
To late to cry now. Keep the baby and expect the worst! Just know that from day one that relationship was dead and now it's about to be buried ! Keep the baby if you know you can take care of all the responsibilities.
ReplyDeleteIm 100% with Stella on this.... Leave the guy and let God deal with him. Thank God you are serving, save as much as you can,pray to God for a good job and take care of your child. No one is saying it will be easy,don't go begging him to accept you or your child and dont listen to his threat either. Accept your fate as a single mother and you wont regret it but if you decide to abort believe me,he won't marry you and you will regret taking out your child. Please listen to Stella.
ReplyDeleteMy dear poster, don't abandon that baby! He's so scared of bringing reproach to his parents, but he's not scared of God!
ReplyDeleteHe wants to make you commit murder, don't indulge him.
What a disgrace of a pastor's son; he was indulging in premarital sex, which the bible preached against and now he wants you to commit abortion. Don't try it!
Nothing that is done in the secret that remain there, God will always bring it to light. You both were having sexual intercourse without protection and the end result is pregnancy.
You better go and report him and yourself to his parents, if they support you go for abortion, call them out.
You had a bright future ahead of you, but you decided to jeopardize it by indulging in unprotected sex, now you'll have to face the consequences of being a baby mama.
Doesn't your holy Koran tell you to abstain from premarital sex? Why go against the commandments...
Please, don't go for abortion because the guy will not marry you even after that.
It's so unfortunate that young girls of nowadays play deaf to the words of wisdom
#true
DeleteThat you boyfriend is a stupid boy. He can't even take care of his responsibility and her is promising you marriage.
ReplyDeleteMarriage my foot.
Please dear poster, I know it will be a rough ride at the beginning but believe me that child is a blessing.
If you abort that baby you will be a murderer.
Let me tell you, that boy will leave you if you abort the baby.
But some men are funny oh..when he was knacking you and turning you 360 degrees he didnt remember he was omo pastor, now that pikin don show , he now remembers..ok ok ok **in akam'dboy's voice**
ReplyDeleteI wish I could have your phone number so I can call and beg you not to try aborting the baby, let your so called boyfriend do his worse but please keep the baby, I know it may not be easy at first but you will laugh last and know that one day he will come begging, wanting to see his child. Let him Fuck off.
ReplyDeleteMy dear poster D Lord is Your Strenghth!Dont abort dat baby!d deed has already been done! God Wld See U tru! Don't worry,u wld be fine!your guy wld come bk looking for his baby,mark my words! God Wld Definitly See U Tru!its well with you my dear!
ReplyDeleteAlrighty, no need pointing shaky fingers, thers enough blame to go around, let's focus on the peril, the damage has been done. NO TO ABORTION!!!! Call his bluff dammit. This isn't about shame, or lack of finance, or religion differences, its not even about love, but its about a human life, i mean urs & the baby, stamp ur feet & let ur NO echo to his parents, YES, why havnt you been so bold to march to his parents, is he the only bold one? Go & inform them jo.... They're xpecting a beautiful grandchild this 2017, that shame he used to scare you, is the same shame that'd make his folks embrace you & care for their grandkid, fuck fear.... Fear makes a baby come out frowning & ugly oh, lemme inform you, so get rid of it. #TeamTrump, say No to abortion.
ReplyDeleteWell said..
DeleteI keep wondering weda u are a girl or boy..
DeleteU are so intelligent and your comments are always sensible..
Keep it up!
U r so shattered. But when U were hanging legs on d window and opening ur punani for him.it was sweeting u
ReplyDeleteAbortion and 'shaming' his parents which is a heavier sin? Ok. Morality aside, poster if you don't have the financial, psychological capability to raise a child now please do the needful. Don't bring a child into this world to suffer and also limit to get to where you want to be. And kick that Nigga to the curbs and pls insist on a condom next time.
ReplyDeleteAny man that can't stand to take care of his responsibility when he see pregnancy should tie his dick to his leg and wait till he becomes man enough.
ReplyDeleteWhat was he expecting when doing it without protection? "a plasma TV?
Poster, to be sincere with you that boy don't love you. No wonder you called him boyfriend because you know you are dating a boy.
Leave him and look for manfriend/fiance.
Terminate that pregnancy and dump that guy. He doesn't love you one bit and trust me,ge won't marry you!
ReplyDeleteBoth of You are not even matured enough to get married(even his friends know the shit you are dealing with. .Smh).
Don't go with him to abort that pregnancy,ask him to give you money and then go to another clinic and do it.
Make sure you break up with him after that and if "they" ask you about the pregnancy, say you were never pregnant!!!!
Next time use a condom o and be careful.
People may attack you for your comment. But you made sense. Some that have aborted are forming keep the child keep the child. Hoiler than thou people everywhere. Poster the choice is yours to make. Follow your heart.
DeleteEmpty head...
DeleteDon't listen to these devils I beg you in the Lord's name.
DeleteI don't know why all these small small boys can't keep their prick one place. They will be deceiving innocent ladies with boyfriend and marriage talk, when pregnancy show they will be running up and down shaking like jelly
ReplyDeleteIf u or ur parents can't take care of d child, abort it, if u parents support u, keep it.
ReplyDeleteI hope u won't be a clingy babymama if he decides to marry someone else.
Condom is so cheap but ye decide to do flesh to flesh.
The deed has been done so there is no need of crucifying you but learn to be careful next time.
ReplyDeleteThis is indeed a hard situation but it has been made a little easier cos your family already knows.
Do Not Abort your Baby, instead
You and your family should go to the guy's family and report him and if they refuse then keep your baby. I know it's a hard decision but you will be happy u did on the long run.
Since you are still serving, make sure you learn a craft and master it well just for the rainy day.
I know of a 'Christian' couple who aborted few days to their wedding due to shame and stigmatization. Right now, they married for over 2 decades without a child.
One might even lose her life while aborting. Make the right decision today.E-hugs dear.
Kip that shild!!!!!!
ReplyDeleteU should have abortion ASAP!
ReplyDeleteBut good one at hospital!
Also terminate the relationship woth the boy because any one that rejects ur child is an enemy #1 for ever & ever!!!
* women learn that sex is not love. Don't fool around with any man & don't expect to use sex or pregnancy to please a man !!!!
Are you kidding, going to your family to report, you too go to his family and report, but just know. The outcome might not be that good, also have in mind that dude will not marry you, at least I am judging from what you wrote.
ReplyDeleteYour body is yours and yours alone, meaning you can do whatever with it, but in this case I'll rather you let that baby live ok.
Take care
Please don't abort that baby since ur parents are already involved. It might be difficult since he said he would deny the baby but believe me,he would come back n ask for forgiveness.
ReplyDeleteSecondly, why did you even get pregnant when you know his parents aren't in support of both of you, to worsen the matter you allowed the baby to get to nine weeks???? You better don't abort that baby o... you tot the baby will make u guys get married.
Ihe onye metara,owere isi ya buru....ukpana okpoko buru,nti chiri ya...
Please don't abort the baby!a child is a gift and shouldn't suffer .God will give you grace to train your child!
ReplyDeleteOne thing I can never and will never support in my life is abortion. There are many WHAT IFS involved.
ReplyDeleteDear poster, the deed has been done, now brace up to become a single mother.
Obviously, this guy won't have anything to do with you henceforth. Funny enough, whether you abort the baby or not, this guy still won't marry you. Why should he tell you to abort the baby and he would marry you next year? Who does that? It's all a ploy to make you get rid of the baby. If I am not mistaken, isn't that what one senator told one actress when she got pregnant?
Like I said up there, brace up and get ready to be a single mother. Better a single mother than a childless woman just because of an avoidable mistake.
Leave the man to God, it is obvious his friends are also as wicked as he is. Focus on your unborn child and be grateful your family will be supportive.
Two wrongs do not make a right. All the best.
One thing I can never and will never support in my life is abortion. There are many WHAT IFS involved.
ReplyDeleteDear poster, the deed has been done, now brace up to become a single mother.
Obviously, this guy won't have anything to do with you henceforth. Funny enough, whether you abort the baby or not, this guy still won't marry you. Why should he tell you to abort the baby and he would marry you next year? Who does that? It's all a ploy to make you get rid of the baby. If I am not mistaken, isn't that what one senator told one actress when she got pregnant?
Like I said up there, brace up and get ready to be a single mother. Better a single mother than a childless woman just because of an avoidable mistake.
Leave the man to God, it is obvious his friends are also as wicked as he is. Focus on your unborn child and be grateful your family will be supportive.
Two wrongs do not make a right. All the best.
Oluyomi,you don't have to post the same useless talk twice you know
DeleteThis boy get long legs o, no sister in their church to court and marry? Convert and meet his parents asap. Ask God to forgive you. kpele.
ReplyDeleteWHat made you think that guy will marry a MUslim? Well unless the Muslim girl converts.
#Sleep o
Hahahahhahahahahahahahhah honey listen to me carefully he will NEVER ever marry you, will your family allow you marry a Christian? What makes you think his family will want to have Muslims as thier inlaws? Kai this girl is plain stupid wallahi, which part of the country are you from sef,if its Yoruba then there might be a chance if not kukuma forget it.
ReplyDeleteCan you raise a child on your own? Why date a Christian for fuck sake? I hate it when people with different religion date, don't you guys always look at the bigger picture?
keeping the child is gonna be a big mistake but aborting the baby is gonna be a bigger mistake.
I don't want to sound chuchy but damn una two are very stupid for fucking without a condom, now the life of an innocent child is at stake.
Abeg let me sip my chilled zobo jare.
My dear keep the child oh, in a long run you will look back and thank God you deed, what if you die in the process or you lose your womb? Will he still Marry you? Guys hardly end up marrying a girl that has had abortion for them, so either way you might sill loose.... now is the time for you to keep your head straight and make sure a family member of his knows about the child incase of any further issue except you want to end up like me. I will only advice you to abort the child only if but of you are As in other for you not to birth a sickler child, to birth a child out of wedlock is one thing, to birth a sickler child out of wedlock is another thing the suffering is not here oh! cos I know what I am going through especially now that there is no finance. Weigh your options
ReplyDeleteLong live SDK
Single mom you want to end up as a baby mama like you
DeleteAnd am getting married to one... Is only God that gives life
DeleteIf he can be bold enough to go to your mum and tell her he wants the baby aborted, there is no assurance he will keep to his word of marrying you after you terminate the pregnancy. It goes to show, he has no respect for your family.
ReplyDeletePlease don't abort the baby, it won't be easy but trust God Almighty to see you through it all.
Don't abort the pregnancy dear poster, that foetus might be tomorrow's president
ReplyDeleteIt may also be the most hardened wicked armed robber
DeleteThis is STRANGE!
ReplyDeleteEveryone is now saying "Do not get rid of that baby", just just some days ago when the news was that Trump would not fund abortion clinic, you all were cussing and dissing him.
Abeg, who are the people to utilise the abortion funds if everyone should keep the pregnancies? Hypocrisy won't kill you all.
God bless you
DeleteDont mind them. Hypocrites . na them do abortion pass.
DeleteAfter they will be the first to be insulting someone baby mama, single mom this and that. Poster that let anyone pressurize follow your heart.
My dear hypocrisy @it's peak,queen said her mind and the vultures came for her odiegwu. .......
DeleteWhen I say this blog is filled with the most hypocritical lots, they will Insult & curse so teyyy... haha.. welcome to naija women community sha; Where common sense comes to die & anger, self righteousness, judgement & hypocrisy rule.
DeleteHear me well. Either you keep the pregnancy or you abort it, this guy will never and can never marry you.
ReplyDeleteJust do whatever that will make you sleep at night.
Once you abort, he will get rid of you and if you didn't abort, he will never be part of your life and that of your baby.
Pretend that you have decided to yield to his plea of abortion then record your conversations with him concerning the issue before you go to his parents to let them know that he was pushing for abortion. You will most likely loose him afterwards bt with that his parents will know the truth. The guy never planned to marry you
ReplyDeleteWas he not a Pastor's child when he was fornicating up and down without protection for that matter?....this your boyfriend na devil.
ReplyDeletePoster pls pls and pls do not abort that innocent baby. That is one of the price you have to pay for having sex with that IDIOT without protection. Yes, I called him an idiot because if he is not one, he won't tell you he"s going to deny you and the baby if you keep it. Just wait and see how things unfolds.
ReplyDeleteDo not abort; you may not come out of it alive!
ReplyDeleteThere is something ABOUT ABORTIONS which I'd like us to see. When one kills (or encourages the killing of; see Prov. 6:16-17) innocent children, the consequences are three. 1. You deny yourself the joy of having a home (remember the Hebrew midwives who spared babies against Pharaoh's advice to kill them; God rewarded them with families; Ex.1) 2. You risk "sudden death" in the hands of another fellow/accidents etc. remember Gen.9:6 and thirdly, you deny yourself eternal life! What a life! God isn't going to call you to glory if you do not repent. Jesus said; come to me all you that labor and are heavy laden and I will give you rest; that's Matt. 11:28. If you do not repent, you'd keep on laboring for the Serpent. But if you repent and make Jesus your Lord today and begin to read your scriptures; you'd find peace and the above three lots will not be yours. God bless you.
All this preaching on top wetin na?U don forget say she be Muslim?
DeleteAha, the Christmas abortion tales have begun to come in.
ReplyDeletePlease spare that child for your mom spared you;
I work in a hospital and the most cases of "septic abortions" (abortions that get infected etc.) that we see is usually during the first quarter of the year; a fallout of vaginal pounding during Christmas and valentine. Chai, come and see beautiful dead girls, lost wombs, bedridden ones and so on. What pains me most is that these girls will continue denying that they had abortion as if the doctor is a magistrate that will sentence them to death. One denied aborting till she breathed her last only for the nurses that were to prepare her body for the morgue to pull out a mangled baby's remains from her vagina.
And these boys just continue to prowl on the next victims -any vagina that opens! Girls, there is no "rest in peace" if you did not let babies find peace in your womb when the "mistake" of premarital sex was made. If this is your case and you survived it; repent, we all make mistakes.
The guilty ones who do not want to repent are those that will come under my post to rant. Having said it, they will perhaps hide under anonymous and talk about how "nothing happened"! It takes just one day for the thief and murderers to be caught!
You don start. Abeg go sleep
DeleteAnd you are here claiming that he loves you!
ReplyDeleteDon't double your sin by committing abortion!
It is very wrong.Look before you jump next time!
A"pastor's son" will not have a child outside wedlock but he will have sex outside wedlock and commit abortion; kill innocent babies?
ReplyDeleteGirl, you do not need this kind of a hypocritical "toy" for a husband okay.
And be careful, he will plot to kill you too; stay away from him.
He will not want to "shame his parents" but he does not mind shaming God?
ReplyDeleteAs far as he has accepted the pregnancy better you keep it and find a way to go see his people with your family.trust me abortion might be a way out but what if something goes wrong? Do you think this selfish guy would marry you after?
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ReplyDeleteMost guys do not marry girls who have aborted for them; it is called "compromised womb".
For him to call your mum to tell her that he wants you to abort the baby.... mehn the guy does not have an iota of respect for your momma... Like wtf?
ReplyDeleteI'll advice you keep the baby & let his folks know you are pregnant & that their son wants you to flush it, if they are true christains they won't want such to happen & make sure you have evidence to back it up since he's threatening to deny you. Goodluck!
You found at u were 9weeks pregnant,what were u looking for the weeks before?
ReplyDeleteThat man never had the intention of marrying you,a pastor's son and a muslim? (his family didn't even like you). Ur relationship was dead on arrival.
Abeg let him go,and keep ur baby. But just prepare yourself o,its not easy,cos your life is about to change! To born no be moi moin. . Wish you the very best!
Chai,
ReplyDeleteIf you want to catch a girl, use MARRIAGE
just say "I will ma . . . "
Legs will be thrown open like automatic doors;; cookies everywhere!
Choi this guy doesn't love you a bit, if no be that Belle from everything you wrote up there, he for don use better punch and anger nack you wella make your innocent baby comot.this one don pass correction if I were you as e be say him papa na pastor eehn na the main reason you for no follow that your Bobo go one clinic , have that child make I see wetin him papa dey preach weda him no go accept you or not, no just near the family or that nigga for now , make them no do you strong thing . Go hide, born your pikin we go see who go loose tomr. Stella don talk am finish karma na bitch .make you try talk to your family make una no welcome them again as e be say na threat of abortion talk dem get to yarn,abeg think this thing wella before you go regret am final final. Mama baby keep you baby I beg you. Stay strong sweety.
ReplyDeletePls don't abort your baby... Help will come. Let him go
ReplyDeleteWhen you open your legs to have unprotected sex, you should be prepared to take responsibility of the outcome of it. Don't abort that baby, he/she didn't asked to be conceived so you have no right to murder the innocent to cover up your own mistakes. Besides, that guy will not marry you , if he wants to, he will not ask you to abort his baby. He will still tell you he is a pastor's son, he can't marry a Muslim. He doesn't want to fail his parents or the church. Christian guys will never marry Muslim girls, they are not like some of their female counterparts that compromise. My cousin dumped his Muslim ex when he was ready to marry after dating for 8 years and some other cases I have seen.
ReplyDeletePlease don't abort it. You will be fine by his grace.
ReplyDeleteSomething amazes in SandM. Ladies would always search for a man of 30 years and above. Please we that we are 28,29... and are ready for something serious, who will. Ddate / marry/ date us?
This man is 30years and still a mumu.
Just passing.....
if you decide to go and meet his parents and he denies it, they ll fully support him since you said they didnt like you before,
ReplyDeletemy piece of advice, move on with life and forget about him.
I can bet you that scum of a boyfriend you have WILL not marry you if you abort that pregnancy. Use your tongue to count your teeth! It is not gonna be easy, but keep your pregmacy n raise your child. If he denies you, karma is a bitch n it would definitely come for him at the long run. A word is enough for the wise!
ReplyDeleteIf you keep the pregnancy, he will not marry you. If you terminate it, he wouldn't marry you too. So, what's the best option? To be a baby mama to a Pastor's child? A christian? Which muslim would want to marry you in Future, being a baby-mama? To a christian! Don't complicate your life madam. Do the needful. If you had no qualms having unprotected sex out of wedlock, you shouldn't have qualms doing the needful either. How many women your age haven't had an abortion? How many? Don't destroy your life. Na only person wey born pikin dem dey call baby-mama. And it isn't a tag anyone would want to carry about in our society.
ReplyDeleteA lot of single women get married every day,every minute, so don't discourage her,whether Muslim or xtians, a guy dat will marry her will still do. This life is not dat hard, na d people inside make am hard.
DeleteSisi mi,whether u keep or abort d child will not guarantee d guy marrying,becos persin wey fit denial U, no love or get respect for u at last. Infact na from d abortion clinic his calls go dey reduce.
Pikin no dey long grow up now, abeg keep dat child.or better still follow ur heart.
Difficult to admit but i agree with you(am no saint). Abortion is a decision made by self. The mistake has been made,you have to carefully think it through. I have once been on that road and i have no regrets whatsoever(the decision to keep or abort was entirely mine). She wears d shoes and know exactly where it pinches. Ball is in her court.
DeleteIn bold letters! DO NOT ABORT THAT BABY! IF YOU ABORT IT, YOUR BF WILL LEAVE YOU. IF YOU DON'T ABORT IT, HE WILL LEAVE YOU STILL. AGAIN! DO NOT ABORT THAT BABY. THAT BOY WILL NEVER EVER MARRY YOU WHETHER YOU ABORT OR NOT. That baby may be your only child from God. Do not kill him. Gd will provide a way to care for him when born. But, why do girls never learn? Pastors son indeed! He just wants you to help him cover he sin of formication from his parents and society. Naughty little boy!
ReplyDeleteTell him you will abort the pregnancy. Hide from him and have your baby secretly. Don't let people know about it. Change location and thank me later.
ReplyDeleteTell him you will abort the pregnancy. Hide from him and have your baby secretly. Don't let people know about it. Change location and thank me later.
ReplyDeletePlease dear,do not get rid of this child you never can tell what will happen tomorrow
ReplyDeleteGod will give you strength and whatever you need for the baby's upbringing
Do not abort that baby. Worry less, and ask God for forgiveness and see the wonders he will do in your life.
ReplyDeleteI did a quick check he asked you out at age 14...dated you age 22, now you are 25 and pregnant....and undecisive about aborting.
ReplyDeleteWhat were you thinking sleeping with a Daddy's boy.
Dear young men...you have no business with sex if you can't Man up when it happens.
You better not commit murder.
Even if U get rid of the pregnancy that my guy won't marry you, where is the love he said was stronger than his parent's opinion, if that guy loves you my sister he won't tell you to get rid of it. He didn't know he's not prepared, yet he was knocking the hell outta you? The did has been done, don't get rid of that child, if you do my dear he will use it as a means to reject U when the time to settle down with him comes. But the guy get liver o, he even went ahead to meet your parent and requested for an abortion abeg give me that guy number make I slap am. He is stupid and a fool, keep the child my dear and accept Ur fate like every other woman who had a child in an abusive marriage and got divorced. If he needs the child later on, he will come for the child, abeg dey practice how to shakara the idiot before then. {terryG} #thatsnonsense
ReplyDeletedon't compound things by aborting an innocent child.
ReplyDeletework hard for your child.
Madam, i will advise you don't abort the baby, i repeat please do not abort the baby, what kind of a man claims love and cant stand up to his responsibilities, he does not want the baby but wants to marry you next year, is hard cross but you will scale through, abortion is not an option for you ijn.
ReplyDeleteMadam listen up!!
ReplyDeleteThe same way he came to your family to tell them he wants the baby out, is the same way you should meet his family and make sure you go with your mother. What rubbish from a stupid child. No be only pastor's child. I say go straight to his parents if he likes let him deny it. Tell them the truth will be out once the child is born after all blood no dey lie.
He has to take responsibility for his actions and I'm super sure his pastor parent will not opt for abortion as well as it is against their believe.
Please get going now.
Mother Nature.
You are right. They are just trying to frighten her to keep quiet. I support, go and tell his parents.
DeleteSee if you abort it he won't marry you next year as he promised keep the child. God will provide a job for you to raise that child. Karma has his address. Don't worry you will meet your own husband,forget about this guy. What if your womb was scarred in the process? What if you die in the process? It is well o
ReplyDeleteExactly he wont marry her. So better keep the child.
DeleteI tink its high time higher institutions start adding sex education in their curriculum. The rate at which people have sex & get preggers carelessly is alarming.
ReplyDeleteHow can a matured lady like u not know when & when not to sleep wit a guy if u wanna gbensh raw?, or don't u know ur safe & unsafe period?? Let's assume u don't know, condoms & contraceptives don finish from market?
just don't tamper wit dat child. If u don't want it, u can put d child up 4 adoption. There are many families in need of dat child.
Hmmmm you Muslim girl went ahead to date a Christian a pastor's son for dat matter,firstly ur pipo won't support d union even before d other party well d deed has been done my advice is for you to keep d baby on no account will u abort it,hope you've learnt ur lesson now
ReplyDeletePlease, don't abort that baby because you don't know how many children you're destined to have. Do you know if it's just one or two. My advice is stay your ground, and inform someone in his family. After having the baby, I tell you for a fact, he will come around. You will be fine dear, God is your strength
ReplyDeleteThe baby is innocent, please keep the baby. God will provide all you need to care for that child.
ReplyDeleteHe may deny you now but he will come begging after you have given birth. Take your stand.
If he doesn't want pregnancy why didn't he use condom. And a pastor son dey gbensh.pet him in any way you know that you can still wed before the pregnancy start showing....don't abuse or curse him.....just keep your cool....He would come to his senses by God's grace
ReplyDeletePlease dont abort this baby, is God that provides, you certainly don't need that overgrown boy you call a boyfriend to raise your child. Its not the end of the world!
ReplyDeletePlease so not abort that child growing up in you. Don't listen to anyone who ask you to get rid of it.
ReplyDeleteAborting that baby might be the easier option for you but my dear, you never can tell what tomorrow might bring. And then again, the easy way out is not always the best way out. You family already knows, it is only proper for his own family to be in the know too.
ReplyDeleteGo to his parents, tell them what's up and see how they react. Whatever the outcome, the sole prerogative to keep or abort is yours alone. Do what suits you but from a woman who is ttc for 14 years now with regrets for past actions, my dear I ll say; keep that baby
Dear poster, I want to appeal to you to keep your baby. By the time the baby grows up,you'll realize you made the right decision. Your case is just like the experience a senior colleague related to me. Those were even undergraduates when the woman got preggy. The insisted she aborted it but she vehemently refused. Today,that guy is the only issue they both got. He's grown now. What if she had listened yo him ? That'd be all... Don't also forget the guilty conscience you'll live with the rest of your life. Cheers...
ReplyDeleteKeep keep keep keep keep keep keep keep keep keep that baby, I said d keep 10times so that u can understand me . If u don't want I want plz. Bv Milani (milanimills@yahoo.com) u can mail me
ReplyDeleteWhich kind idiotic pastor's son is that? When his jingolo was busy gbenshing you, he didn't know he was a pastor's son? When he was committing fornication, he did know he was a Pastor's son? Even asking you to go for an abortion? Haba Pastor's son! My dear have your baby. He can leave you but hold onto having your baby. He should riot in hell stupid Pastor's son my ass.
ReplyDeleteSeriously this Pastor's son is wicked! The bible says thou shall not kill, but he would prefer to murder his own blood to protect his stupid rep that can be restored if he changes his ways.Na wa! Poster I know what I saw before I had my first child, so I advice you to have that blessed child
ReplyDeleteChai, hypocrites full Naija too much. 90℅ of our parents failed us. Most of you on this blog should have been aborted. Jobless lot. Look at them frowning about abortion but preaching using condom, so abortion is a bigger sin than fornication. Better hot hell fire naim dey wait 95℅ of una. If Stellawaniomakokus opens another topic beside this one and asks would you rather do mermaid before marriage or not? You go see all their unrepentant restless pussies screaming - Noooooooooo! Even the evil ones with over 50 body counts and 15 abortions to their CV are scolding chief queen the nuisance sef! SMH. Poster:- It's easier to give advice but it's a very delicate matter. Two wrongs can't make a right, neither can holding on to a previous wrong by making it worse. Just think about that and follow a path that you shouldn't regret. Sex is met for adults not riffraffs. Pregnancy should always be put into consideration.
ReplyDeleteMy dear I just the read comments the laugh choi, hypocrites full this blog I swear just very few comments here with there own opinion not follow follow
DeleteThe only reason I like Queen & Boss is that she's consistent in her evil. Lool... But the others? Sorry case. They encourage pre-marital sex, runs, cheating on their husbands, stealing from their husbands, going diabolical on their husbands & others, attacking single girls, etc etc... then they turn around to preach & act all righteous when it comes to issues like these. According to them here, there are only 2 sins o: Abortion & dating married men! That's when they remember God, Karma, retribution etc.. but they support other evils. I don't know who they are deceiving sha o.
DeleteI do not support abortion at all, but if u are holy, be holy all round. And if u can't, allow others make their own decisions without your hypocritical judgements. Mumu women carrying fish brains since 1900.
Dear poster pls DO NOT ABORT that baby, I have had abortions before,thou today I am married with a child the GUILT I feel is something I can't describe, I cry sometimes, I have asked for forgiveness from God but I am yet to forgive myself.
ReplyDeletePls if you have financial challenges in the course of your pregnancy or raising the child I will support you, contact Stella and I will reach you.
Eyah... My mum didn't abort me... And she is super happy... The only son... Am successful and very responsible. I never see the dude and am above 30....I want to be your friend... But how? Am anonymous
DeleteWell I was inyour shoes a few years ago but me and my then bf planned the pregnancy and marriage before the baby was born. But he turned around and told lies to his parents and me the fool backed up his lies for him. Today I'm a single mum because eventually him and his family rejected me and my son. Anyway yes things were hard but 2 months after they rejected us I got a FANTASTIC job making cool cash. I live in my own house and pay my own bills but yes things were hard for me but now much better. I'm still single but that's because most guys only want to have sex and I'm not interested in that. Keep your baby, my son is my bestie and my joy. He is so helpful and top in his class but also the youngest too. Keep your baby but the choice is yours, I'm not short of male attention because I look good.
ReplyDeleteGood luck
I got pregnant for my boyfriend now hubby before marriage. He insisted on abortion. He even abandoned me. He pressurised me ehnnn it was crazy. I did not agree o especially since i didnt even believe I could get pregnant because i had a major surgery before then. After he realised i wont burge he came around. We are married today. I am not the happiest person. He is a good father but a horrible husband. He says he feels trapped. My advise to you would be that you should make sure he doesnt marry you because you are pregnant for him or have a child for him. I should have known with the way he behaved when i was pregnant that he wont be a good husband. Its difficult being in a loveless marriage. We are practically living like flatmates. I wake up everyday asking myself how much longer I can do this. Marriage is supposed to be for a life time but we are bearly 2 years in and I am already tired.... He is also tired....
ReplyDeletePlease dnt abort the innocent baby
ReplyDeletePastor's son my foot! My dear please don't abort that baby oo if u die in the process, pastor's son would go marry another lady.
ReplyDeleteDear poster, pls have this baby and you can give to a family that is looking for children. I beg of you in the name of whatever you hold dear. Don't remove it.
ReplyDeleteAm sure one couple will be glad to have him.
You never know, the child might be a son. Be strong and God bless.
Still amazes me how at 25 you'd allow yourself get pregnant in this modern age and time. Anyway deed is already done. Go and inform his mum you are pregnant for him. His friends are only trying to blackmail you into aborting the pregnancy by using threats. Gather all you can financially, have this baby and then leave the child for his family to cater for. It will be hard but it's in your best interest.
ReplyDeleteI am sorry a pastor's son treated you this way. Not all Christians are like that. Congrats, you're having a baby. Stay strong.
Kim k,is DAT d best advice u could offer. Pls put urself in her shoes b4 spitting venom. U are a lady for crying out loud
ReplyDeleteIf my had listen, to the bf maybe I would be aborted. Today am her only son, work in a repute company, asset her and preparing to marry the most beautiful woman. Was it easy nope, who is laughing last her. Is she grateful yes... If u abort the child there won't that child encouraging someone. It always ends well
ReplyDeleteIf my mum had listen, to the bf maybe I would be aborted. Today am her only son, work in a reputable company, assist her financially and preparing to marry the most beautiful woman. Was it easy nope, who is laughing last her. Is she grateful yes... If u abort the child there won't be that child encouraging someone tomorrow. It always ends well
ReplyDeleteU can keep the child if you want....just know when you are suffering, dont come to SDK blog to beg! It is alright to fornicate and have sex with different styles but it is not alright to abort a 9 week old zygote!
ReplyDeleteI lived in the north part of my growing years and I know a lot of Muslim parents are so hard hearted to allow their kids marry Christians.. The westerners are more liberal sha....as for me I won't allow my child marry a Muslim except the person becomes a Christian on their own. Cos I hold dear my relationship with the lord Jesus Christ....that said, it won't be easy for a pastors son to marry a Muslim girl. Yes he made a mistake or he might not even be born again cos salvation is a personal race but he might not want to disgrace his parents in the eyes of the world.....this is the time to begin to ask serious questions.....is your family in support? Can you raise this child alone? Abortion is a sin anyhow u want to deny it so are you ready to bear the consequences of your actions? Yes some people have gotten away with it in the sense that God gave them children after but do you know how your own case will end? This decision is solely your to make......if you keep it, it might be the only child u ever had. If u keep it just focus on taking care of the child yourself cos the guy has clearly told you his mind. Yes you have made a mistake but God is a merciful God and he gives second chances....he can and will work all things together for your good if you trust him...so pls whatever decision you take let it be cos you want to take responsibility not because you want to force the guy or manipulate his parents..he will get his own judgement in due season....
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