Hmmmmm...
STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
CONFRONTING THE SIDE PIECE OR WALKING AWAY
WHEN TRUST DIES
This is a distress call!!! I have been seeing this guy for almost a year.
His sister introduced us and we spoke on the phone for a long time prior to meeting up.
When we eventually did meet up, it wasn't awkward or uncomfortable. We still had good communication and amazing chemistry.
Nothing happened on the 1st visit but we knew we were going to keep seeing each other. When we eventually hooked up (YES WE DID), I made it clear that I wasn't going to tolerate any BS, and he was free to walk even after he had the cookie cos we're both adults. Of course he promised to behave and things kicked off.
I've always had this unsettling feeling, 'call it women's intuition' that things didn't feel right. I communicated this and he assured me that we were fine and it was all in my head.Yes I can be a tad bit paranoid because I've had bad relationships in the past.
However I discovered that worries were actually true. He was apparently seeing someone else, or had a side piece, cos I don't know what to call it. They don't see as often because he spends most of his free time with me, but they do meet up once in a while, and she tries to communicate with him often. I confronted him and he claimed they were just friends and nothing more, and to prove that she isn't so important to him, he would cut off all communication with her which he did. I know I'm no. 1 because he goes above and beyond to show it but the thought of someone feels like a knife piercing my heart.
However I discovered that worries were actually true. He was apparently seeing someone else, or had a side piece, cos I don't know what to call it. They don't see as often because he spends most of his free time with me, but they do meet up once in a while, and she tries to communicate with him often. I confronted him and he claimed they were just friends and nothing more, and to prove that she isn't so important to him, he would cut off all communication with her which he did. I know I'm no. 1 because he goes above and beyond to show it but the thought of someone feels like a knife piercing my heart.
He brings up the marriage talk but as much as I think I love him enough, right now i'm apprehensive because I don't want to send in another chronicle in the future.
Now my issue is, how can I bring myself to trust him again because I feel we've lost that part of our relationship? As we aren't in the same location, how can I trust that he doesn't continue with this behaviour. And most importantly, the lady in question was there before I came into the picture.
Now my issue is, how can I bring myself to trust him again because I feel we've lost that part of our relationship? As we aren't in the same location, how can I trust that he doesn't continue with this behaviour. And most importantly, the lady in question was there before I came into the picture.
I would never want my presence to cause another's pain. Do I try to reach out to her to figure out where they stand or would that be inappropriate. Asides from this, he is an amazing person but this part is enough for me to walk away.
I would really appreciate your honest advice.
Regards.
I would really appreciate your honest advice.
Regards.
*Honey you got no business with his side piece,dont even try it.....
As for trust and giving him another chance..did he kill anyone?why are you taking it this serious?Abeg give him another chance but kick him to the curb if you catch him again.
since he has left her find a way to forgive him and move on. every guy has a main chic and a side chic. its judt to know which you are
ReplyDeleteNot every guy. ...it's not good to generalize
DeleteWill you shut up Trinity with your silly mentality oops low self esteem cos not all guys have side chicks
DeleteTrinity just listen to yourself EVERY guy has main chic and a side Chic.I guess you are the side chic that why he abandoned you and your child
Delete@ anonymous 17.07 why r u so bitter? If u don't know hoe to comment with modesty then don't bother who the hell do u think u r
Delete@adanne true
DeleteKai anon 17.07 that was harsh. Jeez!
DeleteThis story makes me wonder... is she the other woman in his life. I am heart broken... met this guy about 4 years ago... he was on my case but I wasn't interested(he looked like a womanizer because he was super young and successful). Three years later I gave him a chance we had a distant relationship... he was very nice came to my state to visit(i was in love) we had issues because he wanted me to come visit but I was always busy( I gave in visited once) it was great met his cousin I liked her my kind of person not much of a talker,we continued our relationship till I made my second trip to come visit him. He was so distracted was always with his phone excused himself to talk on phone... his little niece the next day I came said she wanted to do cleanup specially in his room( while I dressed for church) I was shocked were did all the used condom packs come from... was really hurt but I went to church(he went for an earlier mass)in church I asked God to reveal the real my Guy to me. I got back to his place came in the door was open went to his room the door was open as well( he was talking to his sister about a girl) when I came in he was so shocked he removed his phone from speaker and dashed out the room... I went to the palour to meet him and ask him what was wrong (he quickly blurted that his sis introduced him to a girl and that he is so ready to get married so he needs more than a girl to make a selection from... I didn't say anything just went to the room picked my bag and left without turning back... (so poster it might be a coincidence but if not I wish you both the best but you might as well have been the side chick)
DeleteHmmm me i am not understanding what everyone is saying because if you go ahead and marry him and then he cheats then people will say "im sure you saw the signs in courtship, carry your cross'
DeletePlease take it to the Lord in prayer. Serious fasting and prayers. I won't advise you to proceed with this man unless you are 100% sure he is faithful.
Anonymous 17:07, may Amadioha urinate on your head and that if your generation. By the way...why are you So pained. I dont think your mother thought you members becos if she did you wouldn't attack BV Trinity in such manner. Idiat!!!
DeleteNo advise for you joor... U gat insecurity issues. Pls sort urself out first.
DeleteYou didn't catch him in d act, he even cut communication with the babe just to please u, what else do u want?
I won't advise you. Do as u please and God help u ma.
pls walk away...
ReplyDeleteSo u can walk in naw,idiot if she were ur sister wud u advice the same?
DeleteAnony 16:48 I would not even allow my enemy marry this type of suitor. A man that is truly in love will not cheat. Poster if you marry this guy, do not complain of his cheating ways, because it will only get worse.
DeleteMy dear Abeg since you are sure you are the main chick forget the side hen till you feel threatened...
ReplyDeleteMechie ikputu onugi there, poster marry that guy
Deleteyou are so uncouth. if you don't know wat dt means, check a dictionary. I don't care how you respond cos I won't be surprised.
DeleteAre you retarded or you don't understand English, we are still on the same side... And yes I have finally noticed you my super fan
DeleteWho be dis one again? Pls poster, it's not that deep. Why are you looking for trouble where there's none.
DeleteYou have no business with the other woman. What are you afraid of and why are you making the relationship about you and just want you and how you want.
ReplyDeleteWhat about him and what he wants? If this doesn't work out eventually due to your apprehension then you have yourself to blame.
He has made efforts to be with you and win your trust yet you doubt him.
What more do you want? An oath? You better calm down and enjoy the relationship. There is no perfect relationship and trust is earned not bestowed.
Take things easy and slow.
Stop worrying about the other woman like she is part of your relationship.
The person you have issues with is him and not her, leave her out of it.
Doppelganger, You must a shameless side chic with zero self esteem smh
DeleteDopp that mind spoilt poster,miss do good always looking for faults. You will soon rust in ya papa house
DeleteAnonymous why tye insults now? Stella should start doing something like deleting some of these senseless attacks.
DeleteMadam mind your business abeg, reach out to her as in what Na, go and date other guys too, he's not married to you, don't be too bossy,if u don't trust him then walk away, is that simple.
ReplyDeleteAm sure the poster is either a lawyer or a police offer, very stupid set of people to marry always thinking that every thing is charge and bail
DeleteLol madam Thomas. You have just finished my profession. Hahahahahaha. Exclude us from that list. Not all lawyers are that bad.
DeletePoster I don't think you have any problem. Shebi the guy don cut off every tie bonding him and the girl? Chilaze,you are the main chick!
ReplyDeleteJust go home and sleep
You want to write 'chilax' ??????
DeleteI was once like the poster, always concerned about the other lady, when even from my shopping I knew the other girl is aware I am the main madam, I was there killing myself. The day I gave myself brain and see the other lady as nothing is when I started enjoying my relationship cuz I love my man so much. I stopped nagging or mentioning the other lady. My dear I am marrying my man next month and I can tell you he respects and adores me for trusting him. Mind you the ex side chick is now our down stairs neighbor, I will just greet her and move ahead, thank God I did not confront her.
DeleteThank God u did act irrationally. You would have driven yur soon to be husband to her onetime.
DeleteHope she's married now sha? If not there is fire on the mountain.
Congrats Ma'am
Can't u keep a private side piece too?
ReplyDeleteSomethings are too frivolous to be bothered about, women should gather mind o, get strong mind, it will save u a lot. Allow him to continue wasting d side hen's time, he'll get tired or u quit if u can't stomach it.
Poster,this means you are not ready to settle down!...
ReplyDeleteHow many men will you reject because they have a side chick?..
See,this dude is still single as fuck untill he walk down the aisle with you!...
Like I always say that Most men don't put all their eggs in one basket so he has chosen you after comparing you with the side chick!...
Grab this nigga and marry him!...
Don't mind her cos she thinks that she is the most beautiful mgbeke with plastic makeup face
DeleteLinda u too much. Girls should be forming because a guy has gf.he is single until he is married. I was a side chick turn happy wife. That was my first attempt not to care about a.main chick and it paid off.
DeleteObi's Jewel
Hahhaaaa madam Thomas the talk talk. I said same thing as queen up there and after cussing me out you're here agreeing with her loool smh
DeleteOnce the trust IS GONE, it'll be hard to make i work...seeing as you are in different states
ReplyDeleteYou can keep seeing him for now while receiving the love and care! But shine your eyes and ears wella this time around and if you suspect Piim again.. dump his ass
Also jejely keep an eye out for another husband material(harmless something), incase this dude acts up again! You can't let yourself be the looser here jare
Poster once he is gone you will be like okirika bail. To find better husband no be beans, marry now that your pussy never rust
DeleteIf the thing rust you go and epp her oil am na looool
DeleteMen and their lies...do you know if he told the gal same thing he told you...u are a side chick till u get the ring my dear...my friend's boyfriend did same thing... He was dating my friend in same state and dating another gal in different state... It was on his birthday my friend discovered she was the side chick when the other lady came with his family members to celebrate... And the guy still denied it till my friend discovered on facebook...men can't stay with one woman...they like to taste every every....
DeleteLol at "every every"
DeletePlease I need your advice. My husband is going for a year course outside the country without me. Can I use dildo, cos I am a Christian I don't know if it is a sin.
ReplyDeleteStelz this question here will make a good debate. It will be nice to hear what different religion thinks of this.
DeletePoster I hope you don't mind?
For me, I wouldn't do it! Self pleasure is a no and my religion doesn't support it. I move with my dh allllll the time babe, I can't imagine a whole year without him.
MrsBee
Animal why not use yam. Foolish idiots everywhere that can't respect the sanctity of marriage
DeleteMadam Thomas, please stop calling people names. It is so uncouth. You can express yourself without being rude you know. Thanks and have a blessed day!
DeleteChai,
DeleteDis question here is a strong one o.
Will yur hubby approve of ur use of sex toys?
Will u approve of same for him?
Then if your answer is YES to both questions, then you are good to go.
Well, if I were to be you, i will confront the other bae oo in a very friendly manner so as to really know my stand and avoid stories that touch in time since you admitted the other bae was in the pix before you. Men can lie for africa abeg and it sucks. Good luck to ya!
ReplyDeleteSmh. As mature as u are see ur reasoning measure. Whether friendly or not it is highly inappropriate to confront d other woman. Ull just end up showing ur insecurities n if shes actually a side piece u just passed a msg of confidence 2 her plus if shes slimy then kiss ur man goodbye. Mteeeeew.
DeletePoster if u cant stand him or trust him biko create space 4 someone sensible 2 come in.
DeleteTessbaby, I dont get! Come and force your own opinion on me na. Thats how you tried to awake Sunshine and Emjays blog beef the other day by that senseless comment of yours. Must one behave like you here nor have same opinion as you? Abeg ooo swerve. Inukwa!
DeleteHe was dating d other lady before u came into the picture and you calling her sidechic chai that word don suffer. Babe he's giving u all the attention now because you're the new bae , just relax and see yourself then into the sidemugu
ReplyDeleteExactly...you got it...he was dating her b4
DeleteAre you Johnny walker? Or you just got a pair of Nike trainers you wanna put to test, is this even meant to be a chronicle? Pls you have no bizz contacting the lady, it'd all turn messy & splash on you.
ReplyDeleteYou're even losing trust, over what if i may ask? Cus u didn't mention evidence or trace of him cheating, it might just be online flirting or you nipped it on time, who the hell knows? Don't jinx ur relationship
Atheist did you see d apology I drop under your comment in IHN?
DeletePlease, forgive me ooo.
Na beg I dey beg ooo.
Forgive me for carrying the case on my head like gala.
DeleteForgive my ignorance self, i won't involve myself in blog brouhaha again..
Maybe ur punana is not tight. Did u allow too many prik to enter inside ur something b4 u met him?
ReplyDelete😂😂😂Oh God!!!
DeleteJameisi! Hian!😂😂
DeleteToo tired to type
ReplyDeleteI will advice you to do proper investigation to avoid stories.
ReplyDeleteI remember my boyfriend now hubby calling me years back when I went on a business trip that lasted close to 8months precisely on 31st of December that he brought a girl home during Christmas and had sex with her, the same girl that had been on his case in his office... was I angry? yes. did I make him pay for emotional damages? yes. but did I leave him? hell no! when I came back from my trip, he went for HIV test and we settled... don't live him because he cheated, leave him if he is cheating...
ReplyDeleteI see, I hope he's still not cheating
DeleteApt!
DeleteMrsBee
Chop knuckle but you acted cheap sha
DeleteAmazing..... I read in awe how women keep lowering the standards. This world ehhhhh. The bible is the standard and the question is what will Jesus do?
DeleteEnter your comment...sounds so like ish m having in my relationship ......u sure u not d side bae?is d guy's name Okoji/Sam..........hmmmmm
ReplyDeleteEnter your comment...sounds so like ish m having in my relationship ......u sure u not d side bae?is d guy's name Okoji/Sam..........hmmmmm
ReplyDeleteOh he already "ate the cookies" which you gave him; why shouldn't he eat "another side piece?" and another when you get married. You murdered trust with your own hands by opening your legs for a man that hasn't paid your bride price.
ReplyDeleteAnd on your wedding day, you stand as "chaste" to take vows that you broke before the "ceremony?"
Don't you see hypocrisy playing out in both of you?
Do not dump him; both of you should first repent for that is where it starts. Then will the Lord Lead you as a shepherd.
Shut up, pretender oshi. Are you a virgin or did God tell you He needs an assistant judge? It's people like you that spread their legs like rumours every other day. Miss goody two shoes.
DeleteOh pls sharap,useless Madame judgina,,yu DAT has lost body count
DeleteMy dear, please wait for another MR. PERFECT. So that you will have trust again. You are an adult. Leave him and i dont want you to send chronicles.
ReplyDeleteTry and look for all this SUs bros who are perfect and wont look for side chickens at all.
Calm down please , you are over worrying yourself, don't turn yourself to aggressive and bittwr woman.
ReplyDeleteno big deal lady. most men have more than one chic, they all sample and choose the one befitting to them for marriage. just play ur cards well if you love him and always put it in prayers for God to sieve him out if he is not the one.
ReplyDeleteAbeg my people i need advice o, people tell me that i am very selective that is why i am not married at my age. but wait o, who does not select, for the ones that are married, do you just marry anyone that comes your way?
I like tall guys, dark coloured, neat, good christian,is this too much to ask?
Height and color should be a plus. A good neat Christian can come in a short man package. What matters most to you is what you should prioritize! Height and color doesn't give anyone peace of mind nor put food on the table.
DeleteMrsBee
Lol. I was selective like you, till who I thought was my ideal man showed me the meaning of Cameroon Pepper. He was everything I wanted on paper, but he had a wandering dick! Ashawo Abia! If I shout his name in a restaurant, chances are 30% of the women have fucked him. I gave myself Einstein brain. Now, I'm with someone I wouldn't have dated in a million years, he's handsome quite alright but he's dark (I like fair boys 😍) and doesn't have the nicest teeth. I spent time with him and he blew me away with his charisma and maturity. Plus he's fucking RICH. So my sister, stop looking for a perfect man. Look for a man that can be your good friend first, who is responsible and disciplined and has the core values you want (I'm not here for that my man is my best friend shit) ain't no way I'm telling you more than you need to know. My love get eye and e dey see road well.
DeleteHonestly this poster you are super jobless.
ReplyDeleteMother Nature.
Madam. Please check urself . are u fat? Are u lazy in bed? Do u hv flat tummy? He is clearly missing something in u
ReplyDeleteYou are stupid
DeleteMy dear,
ReplyDeleteYou have no business with his side chic. He is the one you should be bothered about.
Give the dude a second chance but let him know that if he is not going to be a 100 with you he had better let you know rather than waste your time as you will not forgive should the episode repeat itself.
Go for it girl, keep your fingers crossed.
All the best.
Don't have sex before marriage
DeleteThe guys will always disappoint
A man who eats your vagina and seek another will always seek another and another and another. He will "cut off" one communication and open three more.
ReplyDeleteYou've been giving him the cookies; have you also aborted or are you infertile.
Always tell girls that a man who has "ate the vagina" or for whom a girl has "killed in her womb for" will always look for "a fresh one" when he wants to marry. It is all a circle of deceits!
I don't mind anyone attacking these words. But all of you girls opening your legs for men; how many of them are genuine?
Those of you that opened legs to get married; how's the trust in the marriage?
All of you girls that aborted for "men" how many of you are married to them and have peace?
Anon15:23 quit using d word v****a it's almost gross and archaic. Toto or punana sounds better Thanks
DeleteIs the above comment about your life cos you sound like you haven't found peace too. like a bitter abortionist that was dumped.
DeletePoster you are just looking for something to bitch about!
ReplyDelete&WOG
*boring*
ReplyDeletewhy are u paranoid,give ursef some space to think,and final open ur heart u will learn to trust him....miss h
ReplyDeleteStella this "side piece" is a human being. Who knows what he told her and what promises he made to her? Who knows what ? I would advice that she follow her instincts . Some men don't have conscience, they just decieve and dump girls at will.
ReplyDeleteStella help me ask her. Poster you seem to have deep rooted trust issues like I used to have before I took a hold of my emotions and put a stop to it. If you continue this way you'll end up with a pretender for a partner. Why do you want to communicate with your boyfriend's side chick, are you that insecure and shameless ? Who destroyed your self esteem? Poster if you truly love him, give that a relationship a chance to grow before you kill it with mistrust and accusations. Honestly the only problem here is you, I don't think you're emotionally ready for a relationship. #Harshtruth
ReplyDeleteHmmm.Women ooo.why are you taking this personal?see there is nothing like a perfect man oo,only God is perfect so please and please hold on to your man since you said he is a good person
ReplyDeleteHmmm.Women ooo.why are you taking this personal?see there is nothing like a perfect man oo,only God is perfect so please and please hold on to your man since you said he is a good person
ReplyDeleteGirl you are damn serious from your writeup.No fun time with you,all this una efiko girls.
ReplyDeleteDear Poster, kindly stop deceiving yourself...
ReplyDeleteAs he is telling you she is his friend, is the same way he is also telling her you are just his friend.
Same format
You have no business with the other lady as you are both his side chics until he wifes one of you
More grease to your elbow(s)
Poster, your confused state is quite difficult to unravel.
ReplyDeleteDecoders on this blog keeps failing. Just read yesterdays IHN. I'm still yet to know whose name is yet to be linked with LOLO IDEATO.
Going to my Lekki office now for a meeting. Bye guys..
If your doubts are that serious then walk away. Because once you marry a man you don't trust you can never have peace of mind.
ReplyDeleteFrom all what you've written I think you should hold on a bit, pray and do a little more snooping. If you still don't feel comfy then my dear walk away to avoid marital problems caused by paranoia and a lack of trust.
As for the so called side piece don't you dare confront her bcause you don't know if she will intentionally mislead you. Face your partner and not the so called side piece.
Dear Poster
ReplyDeleteStella is right, you have business with the other woman just yet. And just so you know untill IT is done, u too could be the side piece.
There is also HARDLY any marriage that doesn't have a story that can be put up in this Chronicles, so don't doubt if you will need to come back (It's a matter of choice).
You love him and you are no.1, that's fair enough. The problem here is distance an that can be agreed on or discussed before marriage (ofcourse you will move in).
Trust needs time, you'll b fine.
Ps. You sound a bit pained but you still care about another woman's pain, you must be extremely nice and generous. TAKE YOUR THING
You acknowledge that the girl was there before you and still had the temerity to call her a 'side chic'? #wehdone.
ReplyDeleteNo further comment.
girls give "cookies" these days easier than alms giving; it's okay ooo! God dey.
ReplyDeleteEveryone deserves a second chance but kp praying about it if don't have peace over it after the prayers u may take a bow
ReplyDeleteMy dear,there is no perfect human being oooo
ReplyDeleteGirl's these days:
ReplyDeleteMeet a man today,
Hello, hi
have the cookies
(picks pen and write chronicles to stella)
*crying* "he ate my cookies and walked away"
Aha, you expected him to eat your cookies and stay? Are you the only one that has cookies?
Pointleess
ReplyDeleteDis1 doesn't hv wahala, break up wit him abeg n drop his numba for our single bvs
ReplyDeleteI don't blame her, different path for different folks. It's important we address the problems facing the unmarried on time...men are few, the responsible ones are fewer, even the well to do are scares. All you see are beautiful unmarried ladies and you think there's no problem? The truth be told, most pentecostal churches have programmes for ladies sugar coated in the names ranging from singles, meeting ur spouse etc...when you attend this programmes you will 85% beautiful ladies and 15% guys, so how do you balance the equations? This reality created more gigolo's to prey on women...
ReplyDeletedont even dare talk to the other lady, since he has cutoff all communications with her, pls forget it ever happened, be yourself and keep your options open, am not saying you should be distributing cookies up and down o, cos it seems you dont care about that aspect, best of luck
ReplyDeletePlease drop him like a bad habit and move on. If you continue with the relationship and end up marrying him, would you have peace of mind? A married woman without peace of mind is susceptible to getting high BP anytime the man innocently comes home late or has to step away to make a call. It's so not worth it. If he marries him and he continues cheating, everyone would say that you saw red flags but still decided to dive in.
ReplyDeleteAnd please women, never contact the side chic. You make them feel important when you do. Confronting them is like acknowledging to them that you see them as a threat. The person you should focus on is the man, who has forgotten his human nature outside and has taken on the animality of a he-goat.
Poster pls relax k, some guys have done worst and the relationship still worked out, so give him another chance.
ReplyDeleteSome women just like unneccessary drama, what is that, you want to reach out to her, what did he do that no man has done before settling down, he gave you his words, he is kind and loving and he has a side piece and so, madam if you dont want to marry the guy tell him so he can move on and stop wasting his precious time
ReplyDeleteThis woman so you want to kill yourself bcoz you have a cheating boyfriend? Men will always cheat honey,you need to understand that.
ReplyDeleteLike I will say leaving a man bcoz he cheated is like living a city because it always rain. Honey its everywhere. All of them are the same.
But if you can't stay you can kick him out but remember the next one might be worse.
Find a way of dealing with him. If he truly loves you he will try to put a stop to it for a while.
nice advice madam Stella....sis mind ur business o,if he misbehaves show him d way out
ReplyDeleteInfidelity is bad. Very bad. But is it forgivable? Absolutely yes. Question is: are you a forgiving person?
ReplyDeletena wa o, d way u guys call dis tin side chick /piece whatever ,take am easy o,na human being o,same story he told u he also told her o,until u r not married to a guy u remain a side chick simple
ReplyDeleteDrama Queen,
ReplyDeleteLow self esteem
Paranoid
Trust issues
From a dysfunctional home
Gbamest
DeleteI've noticed your comments on many Chronicles. You're just a mean and bitter soul. Oh! And I'm not the poster.
DeleteSo maybe honey, you may have to work on yourself. Read somewhere that a gd marriage is made up of 2 very good forgivers.
ReplyDeletehahahahahah Lolo Ideato office woman how far oo
ReplyDeleteI feel you are talking about my boyfriend. we have been on for over a year and all of a sudden he stopped communicating with me. I feel he has met someone else. and yes he does not live here. Pls help a sister can you just post the location he is so I can know if we are talking about the same guy.
ReplyDeleteMy ex that abandoned me for another after spending a rosy 1yr plus with him is demanding for a second chance.. I know for sure that I'll agree if he were in najia because no matter how he has messed things up blw us, he is truly sorry(I know it's crazy to think he is, but I've know him to a large extent) , but sadly he isn't in naija and am not a fan of distant relationships. All am saying is that u alone best know where the shoe pinches.. u've been with him, studied him to an extent and u know what he's capable of.. if u feel he truly has cut her off, why not give him the chance then? Starting a new relationship these days is as hard as a rock. Yes I know this Cos I have been single since then..
ReplyDeleteBtw, am looking for a job in abuja. In a construction company preferably, I don't mind not being paid(that's to show u how badly I need this. I'd rather work without pay than stay home idle. ) I read project management technology and have completed service.I am very hardworking and very fast in learning too. Down to earth and highly respectful. Pls reach out to a sister.. I do not want to indulge in any werey movement atall. I believe in miracles ������
Calling out Wazobia Max, do you guys think its robots that watch your station, how can you be repeating programmes over and over again, imagine showing a soap three consecutive times, and its not like you finish it. they just get to the middle and jump right back to start again. If you don't hav programmes to show, please be kind to just show us the rainbow colours with the 'god be with you till we meet again' song.
ReplyDeleteAnd you are sure you ain't the side chick?
ReplyDeleteCommon poster, don't let your past make you loose altogether. Holding on to past experience only makes you rigid and loose a good man who needs you to be flexible to some extent. From your write up, that guy is into you, of course he most likely would have someone before you, but it's not working for them. You have no biz with her, she's loosing and won't mind letting all the involved parties loose. Above all, marriage is not a childs play. Instinct is not enough to have a good one, and being paranoid will only make you and the guy horrible. Commit your future into the hands of your creator. Good luck
ReplyDeleteMrsBee
Na advice today come tomrww
ReplyDeleteDear poster, it is a pity that most BVs don't comment with their brain in the right position,before u comment, think,think and think again.
ReplyDeleteBack to ur matter poster, I don't see a prob here, the prob is what ur mind is making u think. Take it or leave it, almost all men do av more than one lady @ a time.
Moreover ,u said he has cut @ ties with the lady, give him another chance.
Furthermore, don't ever think of calling the so called side chick before. You av no business with her, concentrate on ur man.
Goodluck
*PEARL*
Fix it lord
ReplyDeleteLadies should know that when they are in a relationship, they should face the person they are in relationship with especially if the person is into you.
ReplyDeletePoster, you're in a relationship with the guy. Forget any ex or sidechick. Hold your space
Please poster, no matter what you decide to do, do not,i repeat do not confront the girl. Face your man and sort yourselves out and if you cant handle the whole drama,just move on
ReplyDeleteis this a chronicle?
ReplyDeleteen and their lies...do you know if he told the gal same thing he told you...u are a side chick till u get the ring my dear...my friend's boyfriend did same thing... He was dating my friend in same state and dating another gal in different state... It was on his birthday my friend discovered she was the side chick when the other lady came with his family members to celebrate... And the guy still denied it till my friend discovered on facebook...men can't stay with one woman...they like to taste every every....Did I also mention on his main chick birthday he deleted my friend from his bbm contact in order for my friend not to see...poster just be careful and Dont think he didn't tell the gal same thing he told you...he is dating the two of u and others
ReplyDeleteen and their lies...do you know if he told the gal same thing he told you...u are a side chick till u get the ring my dear...my friend's boyfriend did same thing... He was dating my friend in same state and dating another gal in different state... It was on his birthday my friend discovered she was the side chick when the other lady came with his family members to celebrate... And the guy still denied it till my friend discovered on facebook...men can't stay with one woman...they like to taste every every....Did I also mention on his main chick birthday he deleted my friend from his bbm contact in order for my friend not to see...poster just be careful and Dont think he didn't tell the gal same thing he told you...he is dating the two of u and others
ReplyDeleteAll this "you don't have any business with the side piece" talk is sounding quite right to me oh. If I read well, she didn't say she wants to confront or fight her, she probably just wants to clarify matters. These simple discussions with so called side pieces have saved so many women, she might just find out that her boyfriend is engaged to the other lady. Dear poster, if you have doubts, follow your instincts, mine never fail me. Don't marry someone you can't trust in a bid to marry fast.
ReplyDeleteI personally can't put up with deception. Forgive him if you may but can you stomach it if he does it again? This isn't just a case of he cheated. He's actually dating someone else and stringing you along.
ReplyDeleteThe best thing to do now is pray for guidance and ask God to show you what to do. Pray for his will to be done.
Also re-examine your motives of wanting to be with him and be honest with yourself. Then I advice you keep off from having sex with him so you can be more clear headed in making your decision and help you hear from God.
Don't be sad. You'd be fine.
Cheers
Anon 201.18, I feel sorry for you. You are seeing gutter and you want to walk in with your eyes wide open? Good luck to you. And you now have the side chic as your downstairs neighbor. Are you the man didn't plan to have her below you guys? Maybe when she begins to bear his children, you'd finally understand what you're up against. The side chic is probably laughing off her head somewhere because you are behaving as if he is the only guy in the world.
ReplyDeleteWhich course is your husband doing for one year that he can't take you along? Masters degree no dey move for job market like that again so he should cancel that dream and stay back in the country. I would not agree to such an arrangement o, except I have a very lucrative job here and be travelling every few months.
ReplyDeleteMany married men go for these courses abroad and in 2 weeks' time, they've discarded their wedding rings and jumping around with all the white/mixed chics so please instead of coming online to complain, tell your man not to go anywhere.
The choice is your
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