Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative

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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE

CONFRONTING THE SIDE PIECE OR WALKING AWAY

 WHEN TRUST DIES

Hello Stella, Please post asap and please I would like to remain anonymous. Pardon me if this is lengthy.
This is a distress call!!! I have been seeing this guy for almost a year.
His sister introduced us and we spoke on the phone for a long time prior to meeting up.

When we eventually did meet up, it wasn't awkward or uncomfortable. We still had good communication and amazing chemistry.

Nothing happened on the 1st visit but we knew we were going to keep seeing each other. When we eventually hooked up (YES WE DID), I made it clear that I wasn't going to tolerate any BS, and he was free to walk even after he had the cookie cos we're both adults. Of course he promised to behave and things kicked off.

 I've always had this unsettling feeling, 'call it women's intuition' that things didn't feel right. I communicated this and he assured me that we were fine and it was all in my head.Yes I can be a tad bit paranoid because I've had bad relationships in the past.


However I discovered that worries were actually true. He was apparently seeing someone else, or had a side piece, cos I don't know what to call it. They don't see as often because he spends most of his free time with me, but they do meet up once in a while, and she tries to communicate with him often. I confronted him and he claimed they were just friends and nothing more, and to prove that she isn't so important to him, he would cut off all communication with her which he did. I know I'm no. 1 because he goes above and beyond to show it but the thought of someone feels like a knife piercing my heart.

 He brings up the marriage talk but as much as I think I love him enough, right now i'm apprehensive because I don't want to send in another chronicle in the future.

Now my issue is, how can I bring myself to trust him again because I feel we've lost that part of our relationship? As we aren't in the same location, how can I trust that he doesn't continue with this behaviour. And most importantly, the lady in question was there before I came into the picture. 

I would never want my presence to cause another's pain. Do I try to reach out to her to figure out where they stand or would that be inappropriate. Asides from this, he is an amazing person but this part is enough for me to walk away.


I would really appreciate your honest advice.
Regards.

*Honey you got no business with his side piece,dont even try it.....

As for trust and giving him another chance..did he kill anyone?why are you taking it this serious?Abeg give him another chance but kick him to the curb if you catch him again.