Nigerian First Female Admiral Talks About Getting A Partner Who Supports Ones Career -Uses Self As Example

I feel inspired when I see older women who do it right both in their careers and marriages, I don't care what is happening in their home because No home is perfect, ( every family has its own issues) and having to know this makes me respect these women more for choosing to hold it down.


Often times society has made young career women like me to believe that success scare away men, they tell you , you cant be too rich, the men won't come, don't work too hard it will scare them away now that I know better, I do not believe in it, I am not saying men like that do not exist, off course they do but as much as we have stupid men you will agree that we have stupid women too isn't it?


But fortunately this post is not about the stupid people, or the weak men, it's about us changing our beliefs and mindset do you know that some of us ladies believe this theories so much that even when we find A wise man and he offers advice to us particularly concerning our career because of our mindset we conclude"oh you wanna slow me down" specially if the advice doesn't go down well with us.


what am saying is do not build your life around some of the negative advice / report you have been told in the past it's not like it's not true but it happened to them doesn't mean it will happen to you, you are what you think, and what you believe is what you attract in this new year begin to see things the way you want it not what you think usually happen, I have been opportune to learn from women who are 20/30 years in marriage and very successful in their career, trust me they are many, I look at them and say if they can do it I can too, this people have husbands who support them and let them the freedom to express themselves and fulfill destiny. An elderly woman said sth,, she said just make sure when you are wanting to make a choice of a life partner do not choose a STUPID man".


Yes, do not choose a stupid man our mistakes are mostly caused by our choices, so we need to slow down and not make a life time choice in a hurry, so I was told by an older woman. yes we should learn from other people's mistakes but not believe that all men are like that, men have a few characteristics which is similar with other men but so do women.


so if you go into a relationship or marriage with a mindset of what happened to your sister, Neighbour or friend then that is a huge problem because what you have in mind wouldn't let you see the true potential of what God has blessed you with, I honestly do not know who this message is for but I am just begging us to be a little flexible, don't be to hard , don't play too independent, it is good to be independent I am not asking you to go depend on a man for a living, all I am saying is don't let some certain happenings, change your mindset, change your belief and unknowingly you begin to spoil and change things for bad for yourself because somewhere someone told you "all men are the same" .


always remember that the people getting it right didn't mould their husband , neither did they specially order the man from JUMIA. So take it easy as we go into the New year don't be FOOLISH! Yea, stupidity is not an excuse and lastly let your couple goals be real life couples holding it down for 10, 15 , 20 to 30 years or more not the couples on social media doing it for the gram.


Sweedy you can't get Real life blessings if you keep pursuing Fake goals.


Get mentored by Real people , and when you finally get the right one pls don't compare him to anyone not even your mentors remember we are wired differently. You are to have a mentor to learn and not copy, even if u must copy not photocopy your journey is different. So career women can find love too#you don't need to trade marriage , love happiness for career#Not all men are the same #Not all women are the same # free your mind and find your match