Are you kidding me?
NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
WHO OWNS MY BABY?
Stella please post i need advice on this matter.
Stella please post i need advice on this matter.
I was raped in my office under the most unfortunate by my now ex business partner who happens to be Asian, months after i discovered i was pregnant, my baby is now 3 months old and does not really have the features of a bi racial baby except for his hair.
My husband adores the boy but i fear as he grows older it might become obvious and i also feel guilty that i did not tell him about the incident with my ex business partner.
NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
Stella, i checked through his phone the other day and what i saw got me scared.
Although, he has taken me home, have met most of his family members and he has been in constant contact with mine, i still feel insecure. When i complained about all his acts, he cooked up stories and ended up telling me that he loves me and that if he doesn't, he wouldn't have done all he has been doing; that he won't even get so serious and that he knows what he wants, which is me.
Please bvs what do i do? i dont even know if the baby is his or my husbands and i dont want to give my husband a child that is not his. I cry every night on this matter please help me!
*I saw your cry out in the comment section yesterday and decided to post it because of its seriousness.you are the architect of your own misfortune..HOW CAN YOU BE RAPED AND YOU SAID NOTHING BUT KEPT THE PREGNANCY FOR YOUR HUSBAND?YOU ARE A WCIKED WOMAN AND I AM SO SHOCKED...I would tell my husband and damn the consequences and bring my baby up alone if he throws me out than go through what you are going through.
*I saw your cry out in the comment section yesterday and decided to post it because of its seriousness.you are the architect of your own misfortune..HOW CAN YOU BE RAPED AND YOU SAID NOTHING BUT KEPT THE PREGNANCY FOR YOUR HUSBAND?YOU ARE A WCIKED WOMAN AND I AM SO SHOCKED...I would tell my husband and damn the consequences and bring my baby up alone if he throws me out than go through what you are going through.
It does not matter how you tell your husband now,you will be disgraced out of your Matrimonial home if you tell him..The only reason you are scared is because you know he will soon start asking questions hence you are looking for a soft landing...I only have one serious question to ask you.
WERE YOU RAPED OR IT WAS GBENSHING WITH CONSENT?
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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
WHEN THE PROMISE DOESNT LOOK PROMISING
Hello Stella.. I must say you are doing a great job on this platform.. I heart you!
I've been with this guy for over a year now and am beginning to have second thoughts about the relationship.
Hello Stella.. I must say you are doing a great job on this platform.. I heart you!
I've been with this guy for over a year now and am beginning to have second thoughts about the relationship.
Stella, i checked through his phone the other day and what i saw got me scared.
He chats with ladies requesting they visit him, he clubs a lot, he does so many things that are against relationship ethics and just this evening, as he was trying to get something from his bag, two packs of condom fell from it.
Although, he has taken me home, have met most of his family members and he has been in constant contact with mine, i still feel insecure. When i complained about all his acts, he cooked up stories and ended up telling me that he loves me and that if he doesn't, he wouldn't have done all he has been doing; that he won't even get so serious and that he knows what he wants, which is me.
Stella, i am scared. Bvs please advise me, he has been acting serious but all these conducts point to something else. What do i do? Thanks.
*You are probably with someone who is a professional flirt and knows how to use words.....what do you want us to tell you?you are already seeing signs and you are asking questions..I cannot tell you to stay or leave him..Check yourself and know what you want and if you can deal after Marriage cos people like this DO NOT CHANGE,they get better with their craft.
*You are probably with someone who is a professional flirt and knows how to use words.....what do you want us to tell you?you are already seeing signs and you are asking questions..I cannot tell you to stay or leave him..Check yourself and know what you want and if you can deal after Marriage cos people like this DO NOT CHANGE,they get better with their craft.
Poster 1: just open up and tell your hubby.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: u've met a confirm playboy. Goodluck
Poster 2 go and read On becoming...
DeleteLemme chip in here,in the early stages of my marriage my husband could flirt for Africa,he goes to club and sometimes doesn't return home but I can beat my chest to say he was/is faithful.what matters most in relationships is trust if u trust him you'd overlook all this things.i later concluded he does this for fun as per young guy wey him be naw.so poster two it all amounts to the love and trust between both of you*thinkingaloud*what do I know sef different stroke for different folks
DeletePs:he has stopped it anyway after all my threats and nagging
Jasmine d special advicer . I raise nyash for u
DeleteLol
DeleteAnd u didn't go for flushing after the rape or even take a pill.
DeleteNawa oh, u caused it all.
Im seriously wondering if one man can rape a woman successfully without any one pf them landing in d hospital.
DeletePoster2. That man is a Maje.
DeletePoster 1...was it really a rape? A business partner? In the office? What kind of unfortunate conditions were you talking about thatyou didn't bother telling us? I don't understand this your chronicle o cos a guy has tried raping me and it didn't work out... That's by the way though
DeleteSilence when raped is worse than the rape itself... You Must speak out... To whoever but spill
If you had gone to a hospital they would've done pregnancy test and give you postinor 2 if you weren't pregnant and HIV test too... I just tire for you
That was how my sis would've lost her long awaited pregnancy cos of rape if she didn't go to the hospital
If you can get a DNA test done on your child that's a good place to start assuming you want to spill to your hubby but Hmmmm...
Poster 2
Hahahaha all I saw was RELATIONSHIP ETHICS
My dear can you deal with a cheat in marriage?
Advice yourself according to your answer
#peaceonearth
Poster 2- as for me, If I ever get raped and find out I'm pregnant, I'm so flushing that child. I will go straight to the doctor and have an abortion. Who wan carry bastard pikin dey waka? How I go born for person wey I no love? Any child not conceived in love can't stay in my womb for 9 months. Madam you should have flushed that baby. Abeg I will commit homicide on that note. One stinky Asian for that matter? And you no fit tell your husband make them arrest the he-goat? You're keeping secret? Pray your husband doesn't have a reason to match his blood with the child's in future. That way he would accuse you of infidelity and not listen to any rape story. When you're raped you speak up!!! At least to your family so they can fight for you. When will we women learn? Speak up and damn the consequences.
DeleteExcept it wasn't really rape. Or there's more to S the story.
Poster 2- as for me, If I ever get raped and find out I'm pregnant, I'm so flushing that child. I will go straight to the doctor and have an abortion. Who wan carry bastard pikin dey waka? How I go born for person wey I no love? Any child not conceived in love can't stay in my womb for 9 months. Madam you should have flushed that baby. Abeg I will commit homicide on that note. One stinky Asian for that matter? And you no fit tell your husband make them arrest the he-goat? You're keeping secret? Pray your husband doesn't have a reason to match his blood with the child's in future. That way he would accuse you of infidelity and not listen to any rape story. When you're raped you speak up!!! At least to your family so they can fight for you. When will we women learn? Speak up and damn the consequences.
DeleteExcept it wasn't really rape. Or there's more to S the story.
Stella your reply to poster one broke my heart. We as women should learn to take it easy with victims of rape. Only she who wears the shoes knows how it feels. She said she was raped, so I will take her word for it. Society's attitude to victims of rape, both male and female, makes it difficult for them to report cases, victims are always blamed. If she lied it is between her and God. So my advice for poster one is try to do a DNA test secretly to know if your husband is the father. If he is, no need to confess. If he isn't you need to pray hard and see your pastor or a good and wise elderly relative respected by your husband to break the news to him. Be prepared on what you will do next if he doesn't accept your explanation. He could ask you to leave. I believe though there is nothing God cannot do.
Delete2. Follow Stella's advice. Remember as you make your bed, so you will lie on it.
Poster no 1, you work for those Chinese guys in China town, Stella I've seen those desperate girl with their half cast babies there, business partner my foot!!! And my dear you weren't raped it just didn't work out the way you planned now plan B is failing too! Good for U, KONTINU!!!!!
DeleteYou don't have to call her wicked cos she didn't tell her hubbyou na..haba
ReplyDeletePoster i suggest you do a secret DNA test on your child and hubby. That way you'll be sure who the baby belongs to... if it's your hubby's child, lucky you! If it's not.. keep your mouth shut! Or you can tell him it was a rape case and you didn't tell him cos you were ashamed of the whole act and bcos you weren't sure if he'll believe you or not
Poster 1 is already in a big pot of soup
DeleteTelling her hubby it was a rape case wouldn't solve the issue here
Poster A y did you hide such an incident from your husband?anyways I think most mixed races (black and Asian ) babies hardly show on their skin except their hair.especially if the person that raped you is Indian or from sri Lanka or something cos many of them are dark skinned.I get you were scared of your husband's reactions but if he loves you he would have understood you were raped but now by not telling him,I he finds out the child might not be his there will be issues.he will say you weren't raped
ReplyDeletePoster 1 why don't you run a DNA test on the baby since you are not sure who the father is? Didn't you get the Asian arrested after the rape ish?
ReplyDeletePoster, you were not raped else you would have taken pills or reported it!
DeleteCheating gone wrong!
Better fess up.
Lemme just respond to ur chronicle based on what u decided to make us believe, if u were trully raped or not is not the issue at hand, that's b/w u & ur bizz partner...... Procrastination wldnt take away ur fears or give u great ideas, it'd even make time pass & ur worst fears will be more deadly, you need to start acting & acting fast, if u cnt afford DNA, thr are other tests that cld be conducted to determine the biological father although DNA is the koko, that shld be ur 1st step, IF ur baby belongs to the Asian, that's wen ur nightmare will occur during the day.... Cus u can NEVER predict how a man will handle such, no matter his nature, he might be a gentle n 4gvn spirit man, but such issue will bring out the beast in him, just play out the worst case scenario so u wldnt be shocked.
DeletePoster2: He's a flirt and womanizer, his intentions might be genuine, but it dsnt change his lifestyle.... He might love u to bits, but his lifestyle remains, its either u accept him with all the bells and whistles or.... You know how u came in, go out same way.
@1, u are a very wicked woman, why did u not take prevention pills after the rape, I put it to u dat u willingly fucked ur colleague, he did not rape u, ur cup will soon be full nonsense.
ReplyDelete@2, why are u complaining, u better start dating others guys before it's too late, ur boy friend is a play boy, and am sure u are nacking him raw with his numerous girl friends, babe shine ur eyes.
Shut up please
DeleteWow you people are so callous. It's easy to imagine how brave you'd be in a situation you have never experienced. Rape is confusing and people like you make coming out so much harder for a woman. You that doesn't even know who she is, is already coming up with all sorts of stories to shame her.
DeleteYou have no idea what this person is going through so if you have no constructive comments or support to offer move on!
I tire.
@Poster 1,I strongly believe that u willingly and shamelessly gave ur Toto to the Asian man to gbensh. Why didn't you report him?Why did you keep quiet?
ReplyDeleteJames, be nice
DeleteJames is right on this one.
DeleteMonkey face biko rest. How can a woman claim she was raped n didnt tell no soul? Went home, bath, ate, slept with her hubby, notured her preg n all without blinking. How? D only reason she didn't tell her husband is prob cos she was where she shouldn't b.
DeleteSo much ignorance on this thread. I hope none of you ever experience trauma in your lives.
DeleteStella, for the chance that the woman may have been raped, you are very wrong in your response. Rape is a serious issue and there is no textbook guideline on how to deal with that level of violation of your body. The best way to deal with rape is to get rapists to stop raping and not blame the victim. You were not there, you do not know and you should never blame the victim. Whatsoever outcome she gets from not disclosing the rape early enough doesn't take away the fact that she should not have been raped. Please apologize to this woman and continue to use your publicity for good especially as regarding women's rights.
ReplyDeleteThank you.
I totally agree with you. It is because of fear of comments and responses like that, that made her keep the rape incident to herself. They blame the victim not the rapist in rape cases. She may or may not be telling the truth but the fact that there is even a possibility of her being raped, it should be taken seriously and not dismiss her like a liar.
Delete*STIs
DeleteI agree wit Stella, was she ignorant to know d right step to take after such occurrence? She keep quite through out her pregnancy n now she want pple to pity her.
DeleteI give it to her dat she's wicked, knowing fully well she's married.
@Tee_y
@Poster 1, you said you was rape, HOW? And you did not report it or even take care of yourself till it turns to pregnancy, and you've already given birth, so what should we do? I just know you can't tell your hubby
ReplyDelete@Poster 2, that guy is not serious and he will never be, don't be deceived by the fact that he has introduced you to his family, his family have no choice, they will continue to embrace any lady he shows them. Drop him like bad habit asap
*Larry was here*
I have been raped before at gun point and I neva reported it.. Nobody in my family knows No one knws and m taking it to my grave.... D shame, d trauma, d pain and guilt... Yes I said guilt.. Cos u keep telling urself u shud have opted to die dan carry such shame and pain.. . If one isn't strong, u wud commit suicide. It's not easy reporting such. It's soo painful and shameful. Writing this brings back those horrible memories.. . It is very possible she was raped nd she couldn't face her hubby with it. D only mistake she made, was not flushing her system. As for me, I did dat and even did several HIV tests. Don't go judging her yet. She might b saying d truth nd if she is, God help her in ds dilema
DeleteI have been raped too at gun point, I experienced all you mentioned including the guilt but what helped me get through were the people around me, I mean my family including my husband. Of course I took pregnancy prevention pills and antiretroviral drugs. One of my cousins adviced me to keep it from my husband but I told him and it was the best decision. I don't blame the lady though, rape is a difficult thing to handle and the trauma afterwards is worse than the act itself.
DeleteSorry to hear about this.
DeleteHave been raped 3times 1 by a family friend when am 12+yrs he threaten to kill me it I smell out a word to anybody, which eventually result to pregnancy I told him he ran back to my family telling them he want to marry me my dad was furious with me dt he send Me away to my rapists to stay in his house & bore my son @ exactly 3days to my thirteenth birthday others are history cos I spent 10yrs of my life with my family friend rapists that took away my virginity as a wife had total of 3kids b4 I left him uptill today I hate my dad with passion cos he refuse to protect me when he should rather he sent me away to my rapists as a wife., was raped on gun point in warri by an arm robber thief & being disposed of all my valuable @ a bush close to opete community around warri area cos I came visiting don't knw my way around was driven to a bush, robbed & raped by my okada man thank God for good Samaritan couple that saved me that faithful day,was raped by my friend zone friend, most rape victims are scared of the shame & bad name it incure so Stella pls don't blame that woman she is fighting so hard to forget the past just that most times the consequences come hunting as if u ask ur self to be raped.
DeletePoster two
ReplyDeleteDon't deceive yourself into thinking you can ever change that guy, the truth is the only person that can change him is himself! Till then.. he's going to continue lying and cheating on you.
I suggest you take a walk and look for other eggs to put in that basket of yours!
Poster that guy didn't rape you, u probably want to have oyinbo pikin. Congrats ur prayers was answered
DeleteJacinta you have no right to say what you just did. Pray you never get raped.
DeleteThis poster one is a mumu!,,.
ReplyDeleteWho keep a pregnancy that was gotten from a rape incidence?...
Why didn't you take postinor two or see your doctor?...
You deserve what you are going through mehn...
Ewu!!...
Poster 2,
What is your problem?...
I don't see any issue here!...
See,men don't put their eggs in one basket like some foolish women do!...
So why the hell are you dating only him?...
For the fact that He has taken you home does not mean marriage!...
He has not married you so stop choking and monitoring him!,..
Keep other men as well and shine your eyes!,,.
Linda, be nice jor
DeleteWhat if she took the drugs n it failed?
Linda, be nice jor
DeleteWhat if she took the drugs n it failed?
Poster 1: your own haff finish be say it haff finish.
DeleteQueen and Boss no even get advice for you
Chai poster 1. Sorry ooo. If you want to be sure, do DNA test. Am sure they do it in Nigeria. The Asian na chinko or na who... You made a mistake oo. You would have gone to the police station and made a complaint, you leave the matter. I am sure the chinko settle you that is why you no tell anyone. Chai.
ReplyDeletePoster 2... keep asking GCE questions. Una no dey hear say the world go soon end, na prick and vagina una still dey talk. Leave that stupid guy and face front.
@Poster two a flirt will always be a flirt unless you can tolerate it. Speaking from experience
ReplyDeletePoster 2 meeting a guys family,talking to them,he talking to yours,does not in any way mean he wants to marry you.So don't even think that gives you an edge over other girls.don't put all your eggs in one basket.find another guy to keep you just (dsnt mean you should sleep with him ) and then you won't have so much time to worry about what this other guy is doing.And if you guys break up you can move on easily
ReplyDeleteLadies always think when a guy introduces them to family, it means I go marry you...Naa ,is more than that honey.
DeleteYour guy is a flirt big time, please take a peaceful walk.
Don't mind this chick I will call poster 2. Haven't you heard that you should act like a lady and think like a man? Mtcheew
DeleteThese 2 posters are not serious. Una need Jesus.
ReplyDeleteMadam maka why? @1
Hmmmm
ReplyDeleteP1 this your story is one kind. you never said anything and u didnt take pills. U gt preg and i expect u to be scared sef but u kept the baby and still said nothing
Let me read comments..
ReplyDeletePoster 2 stop snooping and if you don't trust him you probably shouldn't be proceeding to marry him because trust is very important in a relationship.
ReplyDeleteIf you know you cannot deal with his behaviour then quit now before its too late. A man who clubs will definitely mingle with men, he won't dance by himself na and why aren't you clubbing with him?
Thank God he is protecting himself but you should be scared he is sleeping with random women. End it now if you can't deal. He says it's you he wants, so why aren't you enough for him? Think about it.
Poster 1 and I was thinking you were a single girl with no foresight. A man rapes you: 1. You let silent about it
2. You got pregnant, what happened to morning after pill? How could you let that happen to you.
3. You passed off the baby to your husband, do you think you've been fair? A simple DNA test albeit expensive should clear your doubt. You could have taken care of this like an adult. Yes you couldn't prevent the rape but the baby? Wow
Did you even run tests after to be sure you didn't catch any disease? You obviously do not value your health or that of your husband.
So what happens if your child doesn't belong to your husband and he find's out eventually? How do you explain it was rape and not planned? I'm just shocked by your attitude to something as severe as this. People keep quiet about rape that's why men like that keep doing it.
You were not raped. You can lie ehnnnnn. You are just disappointed your child came out with the regular pako look.
ReplyDeleteYou were raped yet you didn't take morning after pills or even go to the hospital for check up. You're just disappointed baby didn't turn out to be bi racial.
"Who owns my baby indeed " na my papa own am 😒😒😒
Have you been raped before? Assumption can be the biggest of all fuck ups. That she did not react well to the situation does not mean she wasn't raped.
DeletePoster 1: you are the one who raped the Asian man. Stop deceiving yourself because you enjoyed it all. Your ex boss raped you and you kept quiet? Who are you deceiving, your husband or we? You failed because no sane person will believe that nonsense you wrote up there 👆. I bu onye ikwa iko(adulterer)
ReplyDeleteCarry your mumu commot here. Joor.
Poster 2; if you want to move, move but if you want to stay I will give you mat to sleep on the floor.
Your hubby might not even ask the questions u are scared of, it was wrong of u to keep a pregnancy from such, u should have gone to see a doctor. To help kill the effect of such Asian chinchuwa. Of your child grows with Chinese accent magically. Na you know oh. At this point it's kinda late to tell him. Live with your cynical act. I wasn't there so I can't say if you consented to the act or it was rape. You know the truth. Live with the consequences and ask God to forgive you.
ReplyDeleteLmao@ Chinese accent. You're funny
DeleteExactly she should keep her mouth shut.
DeleteWhat of men whose wives were raped in their presence, eg case of armed robbers, and afterwards they cannot bear to sleep with their wives. Some end up leaving their wives. You here don't believe the woman was raped, how do you expect her husband to react when he was not there? It is only an understanding man who truly loves his wife that can understand. And those are few and far between in this country.
DeleteOriegwu!*in Queens voice*
ReplyDeleteI am a fruitful vine, I am a joyful mother of covenant kids
poster 1
ReplyDeleteimmediately you were raped, you for tell ya husband and go hospital to flush it out. pls dont come here and cry foul
Poster 1 - na wa 4 u. You were raped and you kept quiet, at ur age you couldnt even take prevention drugs knowing you are married. What were you thinking? Carry your cross. Ignorance is not bliss.
DeletePoster 2,You must be another Toke.You find it difficult to let go even when you know that the future doesn't look good. Hang in there , useless ur youthful life ,later come and write a shameless book about how the man is d devil himself.
ReplyDeleteKikikikikikikiki
DeleteAs I was reading the story, it hit me that poster 1 wasn't raped .
ReplyDeleteEvidence
1 . If indeed you had been raped , assuming you ddnt wana tell anyone, not even ur hubby for fear of condemnation ,wouldn't you have used morning after pills ?
2. You ddnt talk about the rape incidence , you just glossed over it - like it had no consequence. Like you were talking about the weather
My 2 Cents
You were f*king you boss while married , it was consensual sex , you probably gained a lot of favors this period , and became careless . When u realized u were pregnant , you didnt know who it belonged to - if it was ur hubby's you ddnt wana kill his first seed , so you convinced urself it couldn't be for the Chinese and hoped for the best
Conclusion.
I think you are being paranoid. If the baby was Chinese the complexion ought to give u away . Their gene is really strong , ur baby's eyes as well should be an indication. Infact the moment that baby popped out of you , you suppose know say yawa don gas
So your conscience is dealing with you . For peace of mind (which you don't deserve ) go do DNA test on ur baby with specimen from ur hubby.
Whatever the result , use ur head carry am o
Exactly wot i had in mind,obviously an affair.Madam you took huge risks.biko bear your cross.
DeletePoster 2
DeleteSay you meet him mama no mean say d bobo go marry you o . Don't you realize the significance ? It relaxes you, makes u think that uve finally found the bone of ur bone ...meanwhile bobo is messing around with other girls , who might have also met his mother.
My advice to you is to sit up and use ur tongue to count ur teeth . What you don't wana eat don't taste it ooo ... now u can see that he's a huge flirt and irresponsible too , if you shook head and bobo begins to fuck the maid , his secretary , and ashawo don't come here to say "there were no signs and you had no idea" because the thunder that would fire you .........
Poster 1.go for a DNA test before telling your husband about the rape. .if the baby is his,then no need to tell him but if the baby is not his then you can open up..poster 2.Stop being desperate and do not put all your eggs in one basket.
ReplyDeleteLinda queen and boss please we need ur input for the 1st poster. Did I mention I love u to the moon..
ReplyDeleteOrishirishi
ReplyDeleteIf you don't want to become another t___ you better run away right Now, love is no longer blind..as for the first chronicle I'm with Stella 100%..
ReplyDeletePoster 1, I'm trying so hard to believe you were raped! How did you managed to carry the pregnancy without guilt that your husband will surely finds out some day?
ReplyDeleteIf truly you were raped, why didn't you tell your husband, or someone closed to you? Why didn't you went to the doctor for checkups, tests etc...
You did something with all pleasure, you are now coming to faceless blog to seek permission to continue in your shenanigans. I know people will advise you not to tell your husband, but don't forget that nothing under the sun is hidden forever.
And if your husband finds out, your safety might not be guaranteed because we do not know how he will react to training a child that isn't his.
My only advice for you is to find a way to do a DNA test, if it happens that your husband is not your baby's daddy; invite your family and his closest and report yourself to them.
Some married women of nowadays are something else.
Poster 2, your boyfriend is a cheat and you know it. If you love yourself, you will walk out of that relationship and not kill yourself with BP.
Romas chop kiss!
DeleteP2, asuming sombori told u sumtin seemillar to diss, whot wool be ur say on it? Dun endop wit a fork-boy. Its beta u dunno than no n steal wolk into it.
ReplyDeleteP1, maybee derris sumtin u ain't tailing us. Datis by the were sha, I head deriss a kind of taste the city pipul ron in order to no the bylogical peraint of a shild. I tink they call it *scrashes head*
Erm
Dee.End.Air taste.
Afta the taste, u can stat tinking of whot nex to do. But I dun fill u are a truthfool sombori.
You are such a clown Villager..... You always, always, always, crack me up, Hahahahahaha!!
DeletePoster2,the question I have for you is what is "have met most of his family..... "?? Looool, no vex sha, I have no words for either of you!!!
Enough of this childishness. Villager, your comments on this blog give migraine. And it's painful to read. We hv noticed you, please stop this odd spellings!
DeleteAnon 16:47 but he's not forcing you to read them nah Haba!
DeleteMe I enjoy the struggle of putting the words together o. Free him jor.
Anon 16:47, me I just jump and pass the villager. No sense worrying my head trying to piece together intentional bad English. Mtcheew. Those of you that enjoy the rubbish kwantinu. Me I prefer pidgin, it is sweet and makes sense and I admire good English.
DeletePoster 1,u made a terrible mistake for not speaking out from day 1 u were raped.. So right now,don't even have an advice to tell u,rather I will wait and read other pples comment.
ReplyDeletePoster 2,just like stella said,what advice again do u need from us? When everything is very clear to u.. So choose wisely
Poster 1: Na wa oh..No advice
ReplyDeletePoster 2: by their fruits u shall know them, by now u should have read previous chronicles and learn from them. No advice for you..U should know what you want..a word is enuff for the wise
Poster 1: when you are busy collecting all the collectibles your conscience was not judging you because you think you gene is strong abi?
ReplyDeleteYour baby now resemble your ex boss and the joyful collection turn rape abi?
Wait for the BV that said she gave birth to boy that is now a graduate with another man and her husband did not know till date.
Stella your advice to the 1st chronicle is judgemental.how easy is it for a married woman to tell her Nigerian husband that she was raped by a business partner?abeg cool down dey pass judgment.poster my advice to u is to get a DNA test done on your baby to know if your husband is the father.the result will determine next course of action
ReplyDeleteAbi. Talking like she's not nigerian. Like she doesn't know most naija guys will divorce their wife. Maybe not the day she tells them but gradually kick her out later
DeleteNarrative 1.....Don't tell your husband anything....Some secrets are taken to the grave mbok...
ReplyDeleteNarrative 2......sit there and be asking jamb question.....You have entered one chance with your eyes opened.
@Galore
She shouldn't tell abi??? OK ooooo
DeleteTo all men: Never you call any child yours until you've had a DNA. Umu nwanyi di egwu. I can bet my last card this chic wasn't raped. Maybe she was constantly kissing and fondling with the guy until he decided to take it a notch higher. Or maybe they were outrightly fucking. The thing is that women hardly give the full gist. They always configure it in a way to curry sympathy. I've learned something on this blog- don't ever trust a woman- wife or not.
ReplyDeleteWaiting to read comments
ReplyDeletePoster 1: do something before something do you, unless you want to be an unfortunate fellow.
ReplyDeletePoster 1. You covering up this whole thing is eating you up already. Such load omo it's heavy o. Tell or not it's your decision just be ready for whatever comes after if you decide to.
ReplyDeletePoster 2.. As long as there's social media guys will continue to say hi to beautiful women and start chats. All those claiming my boo is a saint I pity you cos even the godly ones do dirty chats too.. If he chose you and acts it then build your relationship jare.. Just don't let him disrespect you too much with his philandering ways. If e pass be careful then it's time for break to reset his brain.
Jesu kristi,,, come nd see chronicles oo! (sounding drums) ..
ReplyDeleteThese stories gave mi some good goosebumps
poster 1 ,pikin never reach to do dna?? If e nomatch wit ur hussy den u no d aanswer
Poster 2, ur relationship is a chronicle waiting to happen,, ive bin in ur shoes, saw things, was evn getting used to d soon-to-be wife 'position' but it still ends at wat u really want.
Poster 1: let's wait and pray for Queen and Boss to side, if not Mrs rape your case go critical from her words
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ReplyDeleteAt poster1. Y do I feel that it wasn't rape?
ReplyDeleteNarative one: please tell your husband as soon as possible,
ReplyDeletePoster two: it's difficult to aspect you are one of his flings.he is not serious with any of you,same sweet words he will be feeding your rest mates with.
She should tell abi?? OK ooooo
DeletePoster 1: I put it to you that you weren't raped! If you were truly raped,why didn't you take contraceptive, or go for an abortion? Why didn't you tell your husband? Your story has so many question marks. Because you have so much to loose by keeping that pregnancy. Mind you, your baby may not have bi-racial features because your gene is stronger.
ReplyDeletePoster two: You really should take a walk. Don't have heart attack over a man. Let him go. You deserve better.
Poster 1: if you open up nw,just be ready to take anything you see aiit. Like SDk said,are you sure you ddnt gbensh your boss with your koro koro eyes cos if it was rape, you would have opened up earlier ofcourse. Hmmmm good luck in your dealing with it sha.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: You are dating a complete radical..gosh! Well,if there are things you like about him..good sides I mean and feel you can cope with. You overlook his bad then and go with the notion that all men 'cheat', just that you happened to see some flaws of the one you are dating already. So follow your mind.
Open up now as in tell her husband she was raped? Who will believe her?Who keeps such a secret? If the alleged boss wasn't Asian would she be writing this chronicle? She would have given the man another man's child without any remorse.
DeleteI mean she would have opened up earlier as in after the rape as claimed. Ofcourse, opening up now will cause disaster naa, thats why I am wishing her luck..
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DeleteP1.. You were not RAPED! Go and sit down ⬇ biko.
ReplyDeletePoster1 you were raped but with your consent. Yes you read me right...that's y you are guilt.
DeletePoster 2, Hope you didn't join them to insult Toke Makinwa cos you are a Toke in making.
Poster 1..The longer the secret the more painful it will be when you finally decide to let it out.. The best time is Now. Just do it and free yourself. You will be fine.
ReplyDeletePoster 2.. I want to read comments.
First poster, pls ignore Stella's harsh words.ctheres no such thing as the right thing to do when you are raped. Your world was turned upside down and you made the decision you thought was right or best for you. Before you bring your husband into this, I suggest you speak with a DNA testing facility and figure the quietest way to determine if your husband is not the father. They may be able to use something you can gain access to without actually bringing him in for a test. His hair for example. I wish you luck
ReplyDeleteDoes anyone know a credible hospital here in Lagos where they offer DNA services?
DeleteFirst poster...u get mind oh..huh! As a married woman u were raped ND u kept it to urself..clap 👏 for urself madam.
ReplyDeleteMrz gbagaun
Hmm don't know if I should believe your story but just know that the truth will come out some day, the sooner the better. Tell your husband the truth now and who knows, he may not react as bad as you think.
DeletePoster 2, you are being carried away by a fuck boy with sweet words, you don't need our advice coz we all know that you will marry him.
Poster 2..... Do not play a second fiddle, do not allow yourself get treated anyhow...
ReplyDeletePoster1......your matter pass me oo, I'll read comments on this...
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My dear u just made a very big mistake, u shouldn't have hidden it from your husband, now I don't think he will believe the Asian man raped u
ReplyDeleteMy dear u just made a very big mistake, u shouldn't have hidden it from your husband, now I don't think he will believe the Asian man raped u
ReplyDeleteMadam go and read Toke Makinwa's book @poster2.
ReplyDeleteChronicle number 2) I know what I want, I know what I want na maje take trap toke for good 12 years! Shine ur eyes....
ReplyDelete😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
DeleteLmao.. Toke as suffered 😀
DeletePoster 1: Worrying won't do you any good. You made the first mistake when you kept quiet and now you just have one choice. go and conduct a paternity test, take your husband's sample (hair or ask the doctors) and test to confirm or disqualify you fears. For the sake of the part of the world we come from, I pray the baby is your hubby's.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: If you think he is cheating, he probably is, If he is saying he loves you and blah blah, he probably thinks he is doing you a favour. If you think marriage will change him, guess what? Yh right.... you are damn wrong. Pick your struggle
Chronicle 1 ,better die with the secret! PLAN aheado , save incase of any yawa. love your child don't blame yourself about it .
ReplyDeleteI love your response to both Chronicles today.
ReplyDeletePoster 1 that man did not rape you. You struggled small but you guys gbenshed and gbenshed well.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 please write-in when you have serious issues.
poster 1, WHAT WERE YOU THINKING!!!!, like aunty Stella said its either u nodded to the sex n the result was a child ( which u fully knew wld turn out the way it did ) and if u insisted u were raped THEN THAT'S WICKEDNESS ON YOUR PART FOR NOT TELLING UR HUSBAND, in fact u are the origin of ur problem and either way wont benefit you on the long run. cos 1st uv betrayed ur husband by keeping a child he knows nothing about , and if u bring up the case of u being raped he would not believe you! cos u never tabled it to him.
ReplyDeletebut why do people like to put themselves in fixed situations ..............
poster 1, WHAT WERE YOU THINKING!!!!, like aunty Stella said its either u nodded to the sex n the result was a child ( which u fully knew wld turn out the way it did ) and if u insisted u were raped THEN THAT'S WICKEDNESS ON YOUR PART FOR NOT TELLING UR HUSBAND, in fact u are the origin of ur problem and either way wont benefit you on the long run. cos 1st uv betrayed ur husband by keeping a child he knows nothing about , and if u bring up the case of u being raped he would not believe you! cos u never tabled it to him.
ReplyDeletebut why do people like to put themselves in fixed situations ..............
So it's not that because she had an affair and a child she is wicked abi it's because she was rated she is wicked. Nigeria us such a backward country.
DeleteYou all should take stellas advice
ReplyDeleteIst Poster: Sorry, but I dont really believe you were raped. Seems it was a relationship gone wrong. Asian for your own country raped you, haba. You no carry your African body give am one blow. You are having second thoughts cos it seems the deed will blow up in your face which will happen shortly. Your gene might be stronger than the asian gene but it will not stop the baby from developing the features in due time. The eyes for example will be a giveaway. Why didnt you take a birth control pill after having sex with him? Abeg na you sabi. Just get ready.
ReplyDelete2nd Poster: I dont even know what to say but just thank God that nwa guy is even thinking of protection whilst with those other women. At least let's start from there. But do not be in that relationship out of desperation cos he is not gonna stop even if he marries you.
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ReplyDeleteStella's reply to chronicle 1 is LA hot!
ReplyDeletePoster 1, you should have told your sweetheart and maybe who knows you wont be in this situation. Poster 2, are u still in such relationship asking us for advise NNE is to early now and the signs are there so please nkwa gbawa ozo
ReplyDelete@Poster one,what a chronicle!
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ReplyDeleteWOMEN OF NOWADAYS USE RAPE TO COVER UP ADULTERY!!..HABA!!
ReplyDeleteU WERE RAPED AND GOT PREGNANT AND YOU DIDNT EVEN FEAR.DIDNT SAY ANYTHING AND NOW FOUR YEARS LATER U R BEGINING TO USE RAPE THINKING IT WILL SAVE YOU...NONSENSE
Let me come and be going Biko....
ReplyDeletePoster 2: Read On becoming by Toke. You would understand your situation better.
ReplyDeleteMadam Stella, You victim shame/Blame a lot. Not everyone is strong enough to recount abuse to others. Fear, shame and pain sometimes makes them keep the incident to themselves. please be careful what words you use when addressing a "victim" of sexual abuse
ReplyDeleteI strongly agree with busybee's comment, stella you need to apologise to poster 1, you never can tell what she might be going thru, and most times i love it when your advice is objective and not in this jugmental manner. pls leave the jugment sit for the Bvs whey get the coat and wigs.
ReplyDeleteposter 1, you know your hubby better than we do, pray and let God lead you in the right direction, the bible said he has the heart of the kings in his hands and He can direct it as He will,you've gone wrong yes, but He is the God of a second chance.
poster 2, the best way to change anybody is by accepting them, so if you cant accept him, then leave him.
Poster 1, summon courage and tell ur husband, I no is not easy but u just ve to tell him.
ReplyDeleteTell wentin. She better shut her mouth.
DeletePoster 1,you must a stone hearted woman to keep such a secret from ur hubby.
ReplyDeleteSo this is now u would have quietly gave ur hubby HIV if the Asian man is HIV+
B4 reading stella's reply 4 the first poster, I knee something was fishy. She slept with her oyibo oga and just discovered that the baby is a halfcaste so she wants to lie say na rape. If it was rape, she for tell her hubby😞😞
ReplyDeletePoster 1,just open up to ur husband about what happened.
ReplyDeletePoster1: if you were raped by a foreigner, why didn't you tell your hubby so you both can deal with him by the laws of this country and stop him from doing so to other???????
ReplyDeletePoster2: you better leave that womanizer with sweet mouth. Before you develop BP after marriage. You are marrying him. Definitely not his family. Even though you will u will respect them
Stella... I have so much love and respect for you but I'm so disappointed in what you've just said to poster one.
ReplyDeleteA man raped her and you're telling her that it's her fault simply because she didn't confide in her husband?! Do you think it's that easy for victims of abuse to speak out? Even to their own husbands?! Just because you're confident to say your mind in any situation doesn't mean everyone else has the ability to do that! On top of that.. you don't know what the poster's relationship with her husband or family is like....
As a woman I'm deeply disappointed in your questioning the authenticity of her claims... how can you even accuse her of lying?! It's people like you that make it so hard for victims of sexual abuse to speak out! Stop this behaviour! You have a responsibility to uphold to your readers... not hurl insults because you don't agree with how they handled a situation.
You may hate me for this comment but it's only right I stand on the side of truth!
Dear poster, please go to your husband and have a heart to hear with him. Be honest... THIS IS NOT YOUR FAULT OK??! You are not to be blamed! I will put you in my prayers. Remain blessed
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DeleteI have a very simple question for you. I need the answer madam. After she was raped and she was scared to tell her husband which I seriously concur to that. What happened to contraceptive? Why did she not go to the husband to do a total clean up and even and hiv test. What if this Asian man had hiv? Would she have transfered it to her husband? Why are we so one sided na aba. Madam I even support her not telling her husband in the first place cos she could lose her marriage sef. But what happened to this other options I just highlighted. Or maybe there is no hospital in her state. I support Stella 100 percent. Love from texas
DeleteMadam.... it's easy to be logical when you're the one that's face with this predicament. Not everyone can think straight in the face of adversity! Not everything has logical explication. For Goodness sake.... Oprah was nine she was raped by her nineteen year old cousin who was baby sitting her. This wouldn't be the only time she was sexually abused she would then be sexually abused by her cousin, a family friend,her mother's boyfriend, and her uncle during her stay in Milwaukee. Toward all these incidents, she never told a soul because the predators swore her to silence.!
DeleteLet's stop being so ignorant in such sensitive issues! Later you will say she wanted it coz the man was a foreigner!
Some secrets are better dying with. The mistake was too fatal. After rape take a pill immediately or go to the hospital some bvs have been saying this for a while here(ringing the bell loud sef in the comment section). But my people no dey hear word. Very important because of HIV and pregnancy. Goodluck to you.
ReplyDeleteWow.... a woman gets raped... cries out for help and advice and she gets accused of lying by her fellow women....
ReplyDeleteI am shocked! Women will forever remain the reason for each other's downfall!!
How is someone supposed to speak up when this is the sort of response people give them when they finally do have the courage to talk?!
Not everyone is good at articulating their story - which I suspect is the case for poster one... but to accuse her of lying about being raped?! Who is the wicked one here!?!
Listen to yourself. Infact go back and read what she wrote. She was allegedly raped, a married woman and even if she didnt want to telll anyone, at least she would have gone to a pharmacy and protect herself. Now she didnt do that because maybe at the time it happened, she had sex with her husband, banking on the fact that it might be for her husband. She wasnt sure. Unprotected sex by the two men, the best thing was to flush it out.
DeleteNow if I may ask, if she was raped by a black boss, do you think you will hear this gist? Do you think even her husband will buy that story? Its because of the gene that will prevail over time, thats why she is worried.
If that baby turns out to be the asian's I put it to you that her marriage is finished. Nobody is being wicked. Even in the hospital, if they establish rape, they will give you birth control pills and hiv preventive kiniko to stay safe.
I read what she wrote exactly the way you read it... the difference is that I have my opinion and you have yours, not that I misunderstood in anyway that requires me to re-read the chronicle.
DeleteIt's easy to be logical when you're not the one that's going through the trauma of being violated by someone you trusted. You have no idea what was going on in the poster's head during the entire thing... what would people say?! That she consented to the sex coz the man was a foreigner right? Please let's not just say things because it's what the majority is saying.
Until you yourself go through this situation.... you simply can not dictate how someone should have handled it. This topic is way too sensitive to be handled in such a crass manner.... calling a woman who says she was raped wicked for how she chose to handle it is wicked Hun.
You don't have to agree with me. :)
I'm not judging her but my anger is that she risked the life of her husband and hers as well....what if that Asian man was HIV+ or had other deadly sexually transmitted diseases...A secondary sch student knws all this what then happened to a married woman..or are they now smarter...21st century where we now have smart phones and St*p*d pple
Delete@poster 1, I don't believe u were raped becos if u're d first thing dat will come to ur mind is how to get to hospital to check ur self if u've been infected OR get a pill immediately to flush anything dat might be deposited in you.
ReplyDeleteBut u didn't do these things n u're fully aware dat u're married.
Can we call dis ignorance or wat?
Madam park well n face d consequences of ur action/hoeing. E be like say u gbadun d Asian man sef. Mtchewwwwww
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Maybe Nigerian girls truly deserve the morally flawed men all over the county, because the comments on this thread are appalling.
ReplyDeleteNever you judge poster one unless u have been raped. U don't know how it feels like to be raped, is like a scare that can never be erased.
ReplyDelete@Anon 17:49, I'm so sorry about that, take #E-hugs
ReplyDelete*Larry was here*
Poster 1:Being raped is never your fault, sorry for what happened. But you should really tell your husband; he deserves to know. If possible, also report the Asian, he may be victimizing other women.
ReplyDeleteAs someone said even if poster one was raped, she was where she shouldn't be, that is why she kept it mute. Moreover, no meaningful advice can be give here unless she describes the situation and place surrounding the rape. If she had no hidden agenda with the Asian, I don't see any reason why she won't confide in any one. Lets assume her husband is evil, her siblings and mum nko?
ReplyDelete1st first of all ask God for mercies and forgiveness. You really hurt your husband. Better confessing than the day truth unveils by itself. The longer the more dangerous it becomes. Confess and ask for forgiveness
ReplyDeleteWe all have made mistakes in the past and remained silent out of fear, stigma etc. That should be a matures talk. If it means involving pastor and parents to inyervne plss do. Speak to your mother for motherly advice
2nd post NNE run now and be safe. So many diseases flying round don't end up in miseries be cause you want to be married. Nne broken marriage is far better than unfaithful marriage. You deserve a far better man bikoooo
Madam. Stop lying u shameless adulterer. U cheated on ur dh ,u lied u were raped so bvs will not judge you.pls get out
ReplyDeleteMadam Stella,ur response 2 d rape victim was very insensitive,she was raped n watever she did or didn't do after wards doesn't change wat has happened... I was raped in sch by a guy whom I cald frnd,we visit each other n he knew my bf,so I didn't suspect any thing wen I went 2 visit him dat day.he raped me while I was on my menses,he saw my pad n stil went ahead,i tried fighting bt he threatened 2 kill me there n den,showed me weapons n he had his way. I cried out my soul,told 2 close frnds n even opened up 2 my bf abt d whole tin bt guess wat? Dat was a very big mistake cos he kept asking y I didn't shout or fight even after I told him abt d weapons,we later broke up cos he said I was irritating him n dat everytime he sees me,he remembers d ugly incident. I was emotionally down,felt shattered n almost lost my mind, not bcos of d ugly incident bt bcos my bf whom I so much trusted den,didn't believe me n even blamed me 4 visiting d guy n he insisted it wasn't rape. D ugly incident was more traumatising cos of d rejection 4rm my bf bt tnk God 4 my frnds dat helped me thru dos dark moments. Jst imagine if I wanted 2 report 2 d authority den,pple like u n my bf den wil point accusing fingers @ me n say it wasn't a rape cos I was in his house n I prolly didn't fight enuf. Pls b more sensitive wiv ur comments cos pple like me look out 4 it,u inspire me a lot,i barely drop comments here bt i'm alwz here 2 read bt dis jst touched me n I think dat woman deserves an apology.
ReplyDeleteIt is not rape. She is a married hoe.
ReplyDeletePoster 1 : it's so easy for people who commit adultery to never get caught because they conceal it perfectly even while doing it in obscured environments. Meanwhile anyone can just wake up like you did after an adultery careless miscalculated move and call it rape. Your bubble has been busted. I guess the only reason you didn't tell your husband about it is because you probably established a very solid relationship with your boss which your husband prolly knew about that any rape case from your boss would have been dismissed by your hubby. Moral of the story. I don't think you were raped, they probably was a Lil dragging (which is normal for married women to do) but you had consensual sex with him which you term rape today because of the baby ish. You don't want us to judge you and most of us won't. Do a Dna test. If it's your hubby's baby, fine. If it's not communication same to the rapist father. The worst that can happen is a divorce. But you will still have your life and your baby. So chill out.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: I have no word for you. # phenomenonal Woman said so#
#1: Honey, the reason your rape story is hard to believe is, your actions after the alleged rape is incongruous with those of a typical rape victim. The average woman who suffers something as traumatic as rape, will not even allow her hubby have sex with her. I find it curious that you could have sex with your hubby so soon after the alleged rape, to the point that you aren't sure of the paternity of your baby. Going by your calculations, you had sex with your hubby the same month you were allegedly raped.
ReplyDeleteDuring my active years of practice, I saw so many ladies wave the rape claim like a flag. They so abused it that I nearly became desensitised. You see cases where ladies file complaints about rape just to get back at their exes. Some use rape to blackmail men or to cover up consensual sex they later regret engaging in.
You stated that you don't want to give your hubby a child that isn't his. If you are serious about this, the only option is to fess up and come clean. Get a paternity test done to confirm. I believe there are some blood tests that can confirm or at least rule out the possibility that the baby is your hubby's. It's not as concrete as DNA testing, but it's manageable if you can't afford a DNA test.
You can't rely on the features of a baby to determine ethnicity. Some babies start developing certain ethnic features as they get older. Nature has a rich sense of humour sometimes. I'm bi-racial but my hubby is a dark skinned Nigerian. When we had our 1st angel, he was so light skinned that he could pass for a Caucasian. As he got older, he started getting darker, more like his father's dark chocolate complexion. Right now, the only Caucasian features he has are his hazel eyes and curly hair. My little princess on the other hand, came out dark skinned but as she got older, the changes were remarkable! Right now her skin is even lighter than mine and her facial features more prominent. Can you imagine that?
My darling, don't console yourself with how your baby looks at 3 months. You may just wake up one morning to see an Asian toddler staring back at you, smiling from ear to ear. If you allow it get to that stage, it's game over! There isn't a tale in this world you can tell to defend yourself, trust me. Plus your hubby may never forgive you for deceiving him to love the child as his own. He may chase you and your son out of your home. Don't just consider yourself, consider the effects it will have on your son. If you are scared of confessing, get your pastor or your spiritual leader to be present during the confession so he can act as a buffer. What's done is done and cannot be undone. Tell your hubby now because it will be catastrophic if he finds out later through another source. I pray God grants you the grace to do the right thing.
#e-bearhugs.
Poster 1, go and do a DNA. Get in touch with me, lets see how we can help/
ReplyDeleteThat is if he has not gone to do the DNA himself and all he is planning is how to kill you and the baby.
ReplyDeleteposter 2 u don't need a pastor or Alfa to tell u d interpretation of ur dream
ReplyDeleteu know d meaning urself.
Poster one,how cn u be raped by an Asian?those small weak set of people, DTS a lie nor,it WS consensual
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