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Hello Stella,


Please post my story, I really could use an advice right now. Bvs, I will go straight to the point because it's kinda long but I'll try my best to summarise.


Four years ago, I met a friend, let's call him Vincent. He was going through a tough time because a girl he had met four weeks ago got pregnant for him after deceiving him she was on pills. He still try to get her to take the plan B after but she flat out refused. So he was kind of upset she intentionally got pregnant to tie him down. He was emotionally stress because he wasn't ready for a baby financially. He was scared and I had never seen a guy freak out like that about a baby. I kind of encouraged him the best way that I can. 

He wanted to leave the girl because she try to manipulate her. He said he would take responsibility for the baby alone. I had to step out of the situation because I felt he was falling for me and I for him. I didn't want to get in between them if they still had a chance. We lost contact and he found me again seven months later on social media. He had moved away from the city we all were living to another city. Let's call it Chicago. He told me he and the girl tried to make it work but they broke up. He found out she was sleeping with a married man and he can't forgive that. We started talking again on phone, texting and skyping. He asked me out and I refused, was scared of all the drama and I don't know how I feel about a man who has a baby and a baby mama.




Not until this time last year that I decided to give us a chance. That was three years after we met. At that time, I was going through a tough time and a lot of stress, I was depressed. And I told him that time what I was going through and he promised to help me out of it all if I just gave him a chance. And I did. He was soooooo good to me. Helped me out of my financial problem with a lot of money I can't even mention here. He was there for me. I came out of depression. There were days I won't make it through, if not for him. I was happy and he played a huge part in my happiness. I begin to think he was my God sent. Not to sugar coat anything but he was the best thing that ever happened to me. 

And this is where the problem started. He wanted to do an investment. He had done it before and failed and lost a lot of money. I really don't know much about the investment but from what he told me and two options he gave. I chose options two because it takes longer but has lower risk. We both agreed. Only about two weeks later he told me he's broke because he had gone ahead with the investment and went with option one. I told him I thought we decided on option 2 and he didn't even let me know he was changing his mind. He said option 2 will take too long. Still, I supported him. And two weeks later, investment failed. He lost all of his money. He was very upset with himself. It was a lot of money. I tried to encourage him.

 All hope is not lost and blah blah blah. But he was still psychologically stressed about it which I very much understood. And then one day he sent me a message that we might not get to talk a lot for seven days because he's going through a financial breakthrough fasting and prayer with his mom. I understood. Seven days passed and we still weren't talking much. He seemed distracted, like he was with me and not with me. I tried to talk to him. He said he's psychologically stressed and just need a break from all his routine. He wants to take a vacation from work and travel and he wants a break from us. I said OK that I understand. And then I called him back and told him we are not taking a break from us. He pulled me out of a psychologically stress before and I can do the same for him if he let me. He agreed. We talked and agreed that taking the vacation was good for him. And then he travelled to Asia for one week.



When he came back, he came to my house. Everything was fine. Curiosity just pushed me to check his phone while he was sleeping. And then I got the greatest shock of my life. I rad a message between him and his mom. He told his mom he just met this Asian girl online and she's this and that and that. The conversation with his mom was dated around the time of his supposed fasting and the break he wanted from us and all the distractions that I thought it was because of the failed investment. And he travelled to Asia to supposedly take a vacation. I woke him up from his sleep, but I could really could not say much of anything because I was just crying. I was hurt. He begged me, swore he didn't see the girl when he travelled. 

He said he was distracted a bit with her but she was just a distraction. I told him you don't tell your mom about a distraction. He begged me, cried and swore he's not that kind of man. I believe him. I was still hurting but I forgive him. Even after that, I still feel like something is missing like we lost some kind of connection somehow. Few days later, he texted me that he thinks he needs to come clean about how he got distracted. He said he met the girl on Facebook and they were talking as just friends. The girl happened to mention that she doesn't want kids ever in her life. And that was something he had been considering after all the emotional stress of his first child.



The hurt I was feeling doubled. First, I want kids but most of all, I feel he's only saying that to get rid of me. Whichever one it is, it's bad. I was hurting, almost to the point that I thought if I didn't do anything about it I could hurt myself. I wanted to use him to take my hurt away. So I told him I heard him. No kids. He said he would get a vasectomy. He went back to being good like he was from the beginning while I quietly withdraw myself from him. Two weeks when I thought I was emotionally stable enough, I told him how I really felt. He said it's okay and it means we are breaking up. We stopped talking. Three days later, he called me back and told me he would consider having a kid, that he loved me and doesn't want to live without me. We started seeing each other again.



Last week, he cancelled thanksgiving on me to go be with his son. I understood. Only after that, he told me spending time with his son who is now four years old, has made him realised he doesn't want to go through the diaper stage any time soon. He wants to have a kid in the next ten years. Oh and I would be close to menopause in the next ten years.


I was confused. Something hadn't felt right between us for a while now. And the baby thing is just ridiculous. I just thought he's trying to push me away or something. And if he really doesn't want a kid for the next ten years, it's not good for me too. So I told him, it's okay. I release him. He can leave me now. He said thank you and that he will never forget me. I told it's best if he forget me cos we really over this time. I blocked him on all my contacts already. I'm at peace with it. But when I think of how he's poured out himself for me all this while, and all the good he has done, I feel like maybe I owe it to him to try and get through to him. But I don't want to be another Toke, trying for the next ten years.

 We've had the baby talk a lot, and it seems unyielding. I'm 27. All my friends are married with two kids. I'm desperate but not desperate enough to want to keep him by force. And I'm emotionally drained too, I'd like to be single for a while and focus my energy on other things. But I don't know if I should really let him go or try to get through to him or something. He's given too much for me that I don't think it should end like this.


A lot happened in between that I can't type. But that's the summary.


Thank you Stella and Bvs

*You cant hold unto something that's not there Sweety.

He's gone already so release him and pray a good man finds you.If you are feeling guilty that he was there for you,think about this..you can only be there for someone who allows you be there for them.

Besides,he is probably in love with the Asian girl

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